June 20, 2025 • 19 mins
In this heartfelt episode of 'The Angry Dad,' the host shares a powerful and personal message about self-worth, validation, and overcoming life's challenges. He delves into the importance of understanding one's value, addressing emotions and anxieties, and breaking free from societal expectations. Learn how to embrace your worth, push through setbacks, and communicate effectively with loved ones. Tune in to discover how to build better habits and achieve your fitness goals with Everyday Fit Life. You deserve happiness, success, and everything you wish for in life. Watch now and start your journey to a better you!
00:00 Introduction and Sponsor Message
01:15 The Struggle for Self-Worth
03:04 Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy
04:28 The Importance of Self-Validation
05:37 Teaching and Guiding the Next Generation
08:44 Personal Reflections and Growth
18:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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00:00 Introduction and Sponsor Message
01:15 The Struggle for Self-Worth
03:04 Overcoming Feelings of Inadequacy
04:28 The Importance of Self-Validation
05:37 Teaching and Guiding the Next Generation
08:44 Personal Reflections and Growth
18:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And understanding that that was just a moment in my life,
a little blip, a little bump in the road. Never die, Die,
Die Die die. All right, this is the Angry Dad.
(00:24):
Thank you guys for tuning in. I appreciate it. And
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Day Fit Life a way to dial in your nutrition. Literally,
it just teach you to the habits and gives you
the guidelines of how to eat, when to eat. And
you know, it doesn't really tell you what to eat,
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(00:45):
know what I'm saying, because this is all typically built
around the food that you want to eat, the food
that you find delicious. And you just got to follow
the plane. You follow the portions, you follow the timing,
you follow the instructions, and guess what you will lose weight,
feel great. And if you need thirty days of help,
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today show, you know, one of the things that you know,
it's one of those hard lessons that I had to
go through, you know what I'm saying, and what I
mean go through. You know, they're things that you know,
men aren't taught, you know, and what's taught is not
(01:32):
self worth, but understanding that you deserve. You know what
I'm saying. We're not put on a pedestal, but we're
shown that we have to prove what we're worth. We
have to prove. We have to show to the world,
we have to show to our loved ones, we have
to show to everybody that we are we are worthy
(01:53):
of approval, we're worthy of happiness, that we are worthy
of whatever we get. But the thing is is you
don't have to show approval. You don't have to have approval.
You don't have to you know, like you know, get
this validation from the world. That's what it's coming down to.
It's the validation. You don't have to validate yourself to
(02:13):
this world or to anybody in that fucking matter of fact,
all right, because a lot of us, because of that validation,
we don't feel like we're good enough, we don't feel
like we can have enough. We don't feel like we're
deserving of what we have because we're not working hard enough,
We're not trying hard enough, we're not doing enough. But
(02:33):
when the truth of the matter is we are enough.
We've always been enough being a good person, you know
what I'm saying, Knowing what your values are, knowing where
you stand in the world, you know you don't have
to have this validation from the world. You don't have
to have this approval from the world. You don't have
to seek it. Look, we do seek it because we
(02:55):
don't know any fucking better. I've had to go through
this my whole life because I've never felt worthy of
anything that I've ever had, you know what I'm saying.
Through all the trials and tribulations of divorce, going through
custody with my kids, trying to figure out my life,
I just always felt like I didn't deserve anything. I'm
a piece of shit because my family fell apart. I'm
(03:16):
a piece of shit because you know, I can't do
anything right. I'm a piece of shit because I don't understand.
You know what I'm saying. I don't feel worthy of
having anything because I don't have anything. My life's falling apart,
things are falling apart, things aren't going right. And understanding
that that was just a moment in my life, a
little blip, a little bump in the road. You know.
(03:41):
I had to go through that because I didn't feel
like I deserve what I have or that I do,
I don't deserve to have anything. More of the fucking
of the fact right there is I feel I don't
deserve to have anything because I fail as a man.
I'm failing as a man, my life is falling apart,
or I'm not worth anything. But that's not the fucking truth.
(04:05):
That's what the world wants you to believe. That's what
the society wants you to believe. That that's something that
that we fucking dig a hole and we bury ourselves
because that's what we're meant to feel. But understanding that,
I learned the thought process, I've gone through the bullshit,
I've gone through all the fucking crap that the world
can throw at you, so I can try to spit
(04:26):
this fucking message out if I can get it out correct.
But what it is is you are worth it. Everything
you have is worth it, everything you want is worth it.
You have a value in this fucking world and you're
just going through it. We all learn our lessons at
different paces. We all learn these things in a way
that that is the hard way, all right, because I've
(04:48):
had to learn everything the hard way, And I try
my hardest to talk to those who around me, counsel, guide,
mentor those who will listen to me to let them
understand that, guess what you do deserve. You do deserve
the validation, you do deserve all this. It doesn't mean
we'll get it, but we deserve it. And the reason
we deserve it is because we're always trying to be better.
(05:10):
We're always trying to get shit done, We're always trying
to improve, we're always trying to grow, we're always trying
to add to our world. And because we go through
all these struggles, you know, we might have these moments
in times where we feel invaluable, not invaluable, devalued. And
the reason we feel like this is because shit's falling apart,
(05:30):
nothing's going right, and that we're meant to fail. The
systems set up for us to fail. You know. I
try to teach my kids and I try to say
these things like, no, you have value, You've messed up.
But guess what. You dust yourself off, pick yourself up again,
and do it again, because I still love you. No
matter what you go through, no matter what's happening in
your life, no matter what is transpiring, whatever is happening
(05:57):
at this moment in time, how you feel, don't worry
about that because I'm still here, I still love, I
still care. You have this spot in my heart and
in my mind of this because I love you unconditionally.
And we're not as men, we're not trained, we're not
(06:18):
taught that that's something that happens, that's something that exists.
You know, people might say it, people might do these acts,
but we're taught to ignore it. We're taught to not
give a fuck about that because we can only have
what's on our plate. What can we bring to the table.
You know what I'm saying. All these things that come
at a man, you know, and it's not explained to anybody,
(06:41):
It's not explained to us at any point in time
in our lives. It's just one of those things that
you know, you just need to know, you just have
to have the confidence you just fucking you know it's there.
But the thing is is now, it's all about having
that conversation. It's all about communicating. It's all about making
sure that we understand that we are cared for, that
(07:01):
we are loved, and whether or not anybody says it,
whether or not anybody does anything about it, whether or
not you feel it from anybody, you need to understand
that you have a value, that you were important, that
you do deserve, all right, you deserve everything that you've
ever wanted in your life, but you have to work
for it. But at the same time, when shit falls apart,
(07:23):
when nothing's going right, it's okay, It's okay, We're still
worth it. I still have these panic attacks when something happens,
whether it's fucking in the family financially or fucking you know,
life changing events. You know what I'm saying. I've had
multiple heart attacks, and I have this feeling of like, oh,
I have not done enough, I'm not giving enough, I'm
(07:45):
not trying enough, and it makes me feel devalued. But
I'm doing it to myself subconsciously. I literally am having
these emotions, I'm having these feelings, I'm having these reasons
running through my fucking head for no goddamn fucking reason.
And it's because we're putting to or putting ourselves in
that panic because we forget who we are, we forget
(08:07):
what we are, we forget the value that we bring.
And that value is our fucking worth or worth ethic,
it's our strength, it's our knowledge, it's all these things.
But that lizard side of the brain reverts back to
whatever fucking bullshit and bad habits that you picked up
when you were younger. You know what I'm saying. You
revert back when you have these fucking moments and times
(08:29):
where it's like I don't know what to do. Shit's
fucking hectic, it's out of fucking control and you can't
control it. So you revert back to that primitive mindset
of like, oh man, I'm not doing well. I'm not this,
I'm not that. You know, I had a hole in
my soul for a long time because I didn't feel
(08:50):
like I deserved my family. I feel like I fucked up.
I feel like I've had all these emotions and these
feelings and I can never convey them. I can never
explain it to them. I can never like blurt it
the fuck out. But now I just blatantly fucking talk
about it, because guess what. I've had these emotions, I've
had these feelings, and it's understanding that you expect so
(09:11):
much from yourself, and I've always expected expected so much
from myself. I hold myself in such a regard where
like anything less than perfection is not worth it, it's
not worth anything. So if I fall under this expectation
of myself, I don't have any value. But that's not
(09:33):
the truth. That's not what we're supposed to think. We
should understand that, hey, we fuck up, we fail, and
shit doesn't go right, but we're still this, We're still value,
We're still a person, We're still we have emotions and
we have feelings. But it's okay to feel this fucking panic.
It's okay to feel this fucking fear. It's okay to
have this emotion and understand that that's anxiety. That's something
(09:55):
that makes shakes up your fucking world. But by acknowledging it,
by n standing, by speaking on it, that we can
get past it. We don't have to dwell in those
feelings or dwell in those emotions, because you know, I
have those moments in times where I have I'm replaying
past events in my fucking head. For no goddamn fucking reason,
and all of a sudden, this random emotion, this is
(10:16):
a random feeling, and this horrible wave of fucking like
despair falls on me because I was imperfect at that
moment in time, but it just happens. And because that happens,
it's like I'm reliving it. And because I'm reliving it,
I have to remind myself like, no, I am better now,
I am much better now. I'm in a better state mind.
(10:38):
I'm in a better fucking position. I've gone through this
and learned from it and then have added it to
my experience of life. And because I've added it to
my experience of life, because I've changed, because I've grown,
because I've done all these things. You know what I'm saying.
I don't need to live these emotions, but these still
do pop up every so often. But the thing is
is don't let it get you down, don't let it
(11:00):
hurt you, don't let it ruin your fucking day. You
know what I'm saying, Even when shit's going wrong, even
when shit's fucking happening, Understand your value. Understand you deserve
to fucking be value. Understand that you need to understand
you know, like I said, sometimes I just fucking ramble on,
but at the same time, I just trying to get
the point across. As you deserve. You deserve happiness, you
(11:23):
deserve success, you deserve everything you want in your life.
You know, it takes you to get there. It takes
you to put in the work, It takes you to
fucking push forward. You know, we have these emotions, we
have these feelings, we have these thoughts. But because we
have these emotions, we have these feelings that we have
these thoughts, we have to work through them. We have
to understand them, we have to get a grasp on them,
(11:44):
so then we can use them as a fucking tool
in our fucking life. You know, it's okay to feel sad,
It's okay to feel bad, It's okay to have these
emotions and be overwhelmed. It's you just have to acknowledge it.
And by acknowledging it, and by accepting it and by
working through it, you develop into a much better calmer person.
(12:06):
You know what I'm saying. You have to practice these things.
We have to go through these things, we have to
work through these things so then we can use these
things in our everyday fucking lives. And as you start
doing these things, showing these things, working through these things,
understand that, you know, if you got kids they're watching you,
let them know that it's okay, Let them know that
(12:27):
it's all right. Let them know that you love them unconditionally,
no matter what the fuck's going on. You know, these
are the things that you got to tell your family.
These are the things that you got to help pass along.
These are the things you got to teach your fucking kids.
So then they have a much greater value in their
life because they've learned from the experiences, They've learned from
all the shit, they've gone through, all these things, and
(12:50):
it just passes it on. Like I said, I grew
up without a dad. I didn't have anyone to teach
me any of these things that I've gone through. You know,
I had my mom. She worked really hard, she did
the best she could. But I was an out of control,
fucking kit. You know what I'm saying, How how do
you manage that? You know, someone who's not gonna listen,
someone's gonna do whatever they want to do, somebody who's
just fucking just out there. It's hard to fucking take
(13:13):
care of that, you know what I'm saying, And she
did a tremendous fucking job raising me. All right. I
still had to learn a lot of this the hard
fucking way. But you know, when you when you got
a thick fucking skull and no understanding, you know, no
one to rain you back, no one to really fucking
like put you in your fucking place. It, you know
that that's the kind of shit you have to go
through as a fucking kid, you know. And with all
(13:35):
my kids, like I said, I sit through I sit
with them, I work with them, I fucking talk with them.
I communicate these things, and I want to make sure
that they have full control, full understanding of emotions and
thoughts and feelings, because guess what, it's a life lesson.
It's a it's a tool that they can put into
their fucking toolbox of life and be much better. You
(13:55):
know what I'm saying there, All my kids are so
much more adjusted as a human being than I was
when I was their age, you know what I'm saying,
because like I said, I was fucking wild. It is
what it fucking is. But that's the fucking truth, you know.
It's these things that pop up in my head, and
I just want to get them fucking out, because, like
I said, I have these emotions, I have these feelings,
and sometimes I just acknowledge them, work through them, and
(14:18):
move it the fuck on. But a lot of times,
a lot of us don't know how to deal with that.
We don't know how to feel about that, because, like
I said, even with a lot of my times, I
get very upset. And when I get very upset, I
get very fucking loud, and I get very confrontational. Then
I'm on edge. I'm ready to fucking any bit of
friction is ready to set me to fuck off. But
(14:38):
then now, like I said, I recognize it, I see it.
I talk about it. Like even I have words with
my wife, I'm like, hey, I'm a little overwhelmed. Give
me a fucking moment. I guess what, I bring myself
down to the right fucking level, explain to her what
I was feeling, explained to what was going on, and
she's like, okay, I'm saying, whether we have a a
(15:00):
full blown conversation about that or not, you know, it
just depends on the situation. But like I said, we
have those moments in times. You know what I'm saying.
It's having these emotions, these feelings, these thoughts and just
processing and understanding, you know. Like like I said, sometimes
I have this fucking anxiety where I'm like, am I
doing enough? Am I? Do I have a value? You
know what I'm saying? Am I deserving of my fucking life?
(15:23):
You know? Because, like I said, my life is in
a completely different position than it had ever been in
any other situation. My life is not what I thought
it was gonna turn out to be. But guess what
I'm fucking here. I'm enjoying it. I love it. I
wouldn't trade it for anything fucking else. And because of that,
I want to make sure that people let them know that.
You know, when shit goes wrong, it does get better,
(15:46):
but you got to put in the work. You gotta
put in the fucking time, and you gotta want it.
You gotta want it bad enough that you'll do anything
for it, you know what I'm saying. And having these
tools of understanding of what's happening internally can help you
so fucking much. It can push you to that next
fucking level of success, It can push you to that
next level of happiness, It can push you to where
(16:09):
you need to be in life because guess what, you're
emotionally and physically dealing with it, and that's something that
we have to do. Like I said, there's there's a
lot of young kids out there that don't know how
to do this. The the you know, hopefully they hear
this fucking podcast and understand that they're not a alone
with their feelings, their emotions, their angry, their happiness, their sadness,
because like I said, we've I've been there and I'll
(16:30):
continue to be there because I want to keep keep
pushing forward. Like I said, this ship is fucking crazy.
You know what I'm saying, as kids, as men, as children,
we're not taught how to deal with these things. You
know what I'm saying. We're taught math, we're taught science,
we're taught history, we're taught all these things. But guess
what we're not taught or ever spoke upon. At least
(16:52):
in my fucking lifetime. I've never spoken about my emotions
and my feelings really with anybody. You know what I'm saying.
I did. I did have you know, not a psychiatrist,
but like a therapist. You know what I'm saying that
I spoke to and they kind of explained a little
bit of this to me, and you know, and through
a lot of reading, through a lot of self reflection,
through a lot of like trying to figure out what
(17:13):
my fucking problem was. You know, it's like, oh, okay,
this is a whole new skill, you know what I'm saying.
How to becolm, how to fucking react, how to how
to use your emotions, how how to ignore your emotions,
how to fucking embrace your emotions. Because this isn't this
isn't a life lesson learned. It's just something you go through.
(17:35):
But the thing is is the faster you recognize it,
the faster you understand it, the fucking god damn it,
the faster your life's gonna get better. It is just
one of those fucking things. You know. It might be
a little woo woo for some of these people. But
the thing is is, like I said, this is real
deal shit that I've gone through. There's real deal emotions
that I fucking worked with and work through and fucking
(17:57):
these feelings and thoughts of fucking value, devalue, fucking anger, happiness.
You know, am I deserving of a great fucking life? Yes,
I fucking am Are you deserving of a great life? Yes,
you fucking are. You deserve it. You deserve happiness because
a lot of us fucking feel despair until we fucking
have that epiphany one day. And I hope that epiphany
(18:18):
happens sooner than fucking later, so gets to fuck what
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(19:05):
always living, always always living
And understanding that that was just a moment in my life,
a little blip, a little bump in the road. Never die, Die,
Die Die die. All right, this is the Angry Dad.
(00:24):
Thank you guys for tuning in. I appreciate it. And
before I get in today's podcast that I think every
Day Fit Life a way to dial in your nutrition. Literally,
it just teach you to the habits and gives you
the guidelines of how to eat, when to eat. And
you know, it doesn't really tell you what to eat,
but it tells you the portions that you need. You
(00:45):
know what I'm saying, because this is all typically built
around the food that you want to eat, the food
that you find delicious. And you just got to follow
the plane. You follow the portions, you follow the timing,
you follow the instructions, and guess what you will lose weight,
feel great. And if you need thirty days of help,
sixty days of help, ninety days of help to help
solidify those habits to get to your fitness goals, well,
guess what you can do that every Day fit Life.
(01:07):
Use the link in my notes you get twenty percent off.
Get hooked up at every Day fit Life. Let's get
today show, you know, one of the things that you know,
it's one of those hard lessons that I had to
go through, you know what I'm saying, and what I
mean go through. You know, they're things that you know,
men aren't taught, you know, and what's taught is not
(01:32):
self worth, but understanding that you deserve. You know what
I'm saying. We're not put on a pedestal, but we're
shown that we have to prove what we're worth. We
have to prove. We have to show to the world,
we have to show to our loved ones, we have
to show to everybody that we are we are worthy
(01:53):
of approval, we're worthy of happiness, that we are worthy
of whatever we get. But the thing is is you
don't have to show approval. You don't have to have approval.
You don't have to you know, like you know, get
this validation from the world. That's what it's coming down to.
It's the validation. You don't have to validate yourself to
(02:13):
this world or to anybody in that fucking matter of fact,
all right, because a lot of us, because of that validation,
we don't feel like we're good enough, we don't feel
like we can have enough. We don't feel like we're
deserving of what we have because we're not working hard enough,
We're not trying hard enough, we're not doing enough. But
(02:33):
when the truth of the matter is we are enough.
We've always been enough being a good person, you know
what I'm saying, Knowing what your values are, knowing where
you stand in the world, you know you don't have
to have this validation from the world. You don't have
to have this approval from the world. You don't have
to seek it. Look, we do seek it because we
(02:55):
don't know any fucking better. I've had to go through
this my whole life because I've never felt worthy of
anything that I've ever had, you know what I'm saying.
Through all the trials and tribulations of divorce, going through
custody with my kids, trying to figure out my life,
I just always felt like I didn't deserve anything. I'm
a piece of shit because my family fell apart. I'm
(03:16):
a piece of shit because you know, I can't do
anything right. I'm a piece of shit because I don't understand.
You know what I'm saying. I don't feel worthy of
having anything because I don't have anything. My life's falling apart,
things are falling apart, things aren't going right. And understanding
that that was just a moment in my life, a
little blip, a little bump in the road. You know.
(03:41):
I had to go through that because I didn't feel
like I deserve what I have or that I do,
I don't deserve to have anything. More of the fucking
of the fact right there is I feel I don't
deserve to have anything because I fail as a man.
I'm failing as a man, my life is falling apart,
or I'm not worth anything. But that's not the fucking truth.
(04:05):
That's what the world wants you to believe. That's what
the society wants you to believe. That that's something that
that we fucking dig a hole and we bury ourselves
because that's what we're meant to feel. But understanding that,
I learned the thought process, I've gone through the bullshit,
I've gone through all the fucking crap that the world
can throw at you, so I can try to spit
(04:26):
this fucking message out if I can get it out correct.
But what it is is you are worth it. Everything
you have is worth it, everything you want is worth it.
You have a value in this fucking world and you're
just going through it. We all learn our lessons at
different paces. We all learn these things in a way
that that is the hard way, all right, because I've
(04:48):
had to learn everything the hard way, And I try
my hardest to talk to those who around me, counsel, guide,
mentor those who will listen to me to let them
understand that, guess what you do deserve. You do deserve
the validation, you do deserve all this. It doesn't mean
we'll get it, but we deserve it. And the reason
we deserve it is because we're always trying to be better.
(05:10):
We're always trying to get shit done, We're always trying
to improve, we're always trying to grow, we're always trying
to add to our world. And because we go through
all these struggles, you know, we might have these moments
in times where we feel invaluable, not invaluable, devalued. And
the reason we feel like this is because shit's falling apart,
(05:30):
nothing's going right, and that we're meant to fail. The
systems set up for us to fail. You know. I
try to teach my kids and I try to say
these things like, no, you have value, You've messed up.
But guess what. You dust yourself off, pick yourself up again,
and do it again, because I still love you. No
matter what you go through, no matter what's happening in
your life, no matter what is transpiring, whatever is happening
(05:57):
at this moment in time, how you feel, don't worry
about that because I'm still here, I still love, I
still care. You have this spot in my heart and
in my mind of this because I love you unconditionally.
And we're not as men, we're not trained, we're not
(06:18):
taught that that's something that happens, that's something that exists.
You know, people might say it, people might do these acts,
but we're taught to ignore it. We're taught to not
give a fuck about that because we can only have
what's on our plate. What can we bring to the table.
You know what I'm saying. All these things that come
at a man, you know, and it's not explained to anybody,
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It's not explained to us at any point in time
in our lives. It's just one of those things that
you know, you just need to know, you just have
to have the confidence you just fucking you know it's there.
But the thing is is now, it's all about having
that conversation. It's all about communicating. It's all about making
sure that we understand that we are cared for, that
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we are loved, and whether or not anybody says it,
whether or not anybody does anything about it, whether or
not you feel it from anybody, you need to understand
that you have a value, that you were important, that
you do deserve, all right, you deserve everything that you've
ever wanted in your life, but you have to work
for it. But at the same time, when shit falls apart,
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when nothing's going right, it's okay, It's okay, We're still
worth it. I still have these panic attacks when something happens,
whether it's fucking in the family financially or fucking you know,
life changing events. You know what I'm saying. I've had
multiple heart attacks, and I have this feeling of like, oh,
I have not done enough, I'm not giving enough, I'm
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not trying enough, and it makes me feel devalued. But
I'm doing it to myself subconsciously. I literally am having
these emotions, I'm having these feelings, I'm having these reasons
running through my fucking head for no goddamn fucking reason.
And it's because we're putting to or putting ourselves in
that panic because we forget who we are, we forget
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what we are, we forget the value that we bring.
And that value is our fucking worth or worth ethic,
it's our strength, it's our knowledge, it's all these things.
But that lizard side of the brain reverts back to
whatever fucking bullshit and bad habits that you picked up
when you were younger. You know what I'm saying. You
revert back when you have these fucking moments and times
(08:29):
where it's like I don't know what to do. Shit's
fucking hectic, it's out of fucking control and you can't
control it. So you revert back to that primitive mindset
of like, oh man, I'm not doing well. I'm not this,
I'm not that. You know, I had a hole in
my soul for a long time because I didn't feel
(08:50):
like I deserved my family. I feel like I fucked up.
I feel like I've had all these emotions and these
feelings and I can never convey them. I can never
explain it to them. I can never like blurt it
the fuck out. But now I just blatantly fucking talk
about it, because guess what. I've had these emotions, I've
had these feelings, and it's understanding that you expect so
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much from yourself, and I've always expected expected so much
from myself. I hold myself in such a regard where
like anything less than perfection is not worth it, it's
not worth anything. So if I fall under this expectation
of myself, I don't have any value. But that's not
(09:33):
the truth. That's not what we're supposed to think. We
should understand that, hey, we fuck up, we fail, and
shit doesn't go right, but we're still this, We're still value,
We're still a person, We're still we have emotions and
we have feelings. But it's okay to feel this fucking panic.
It's okay to feel this fucking fear. It's okay to
have this emotion and understand that that's anxiety. That's something
(09:55):
that makes shakes up your fucking world. But by acknowledging it,
by n standing, by speaking on it, that we can
get past it. We don't have to dwell in those
feelings or dwell in those emotions, because you know, I
have those moments in times where I have I'm replaying
past events in my fucking head. For no goddamn fucking reason,
and all of a sudden, this random emotion, this is
(10:16):
a random feeling, and this horrible wave of fucking like
despair falls on me because I was imperfect at that
moment in time, but it just happens. And because that happens,
it's like I'm reliving it. And because I'm reliving it,
I have to remind myself like, no, I am better now,
I am much better now. I'm in a better state mind.
(10:38):
I'm in a better fucking position. I've gone through this
and learned from it and then have added it to
my experience of life. And because I've added it to
my experience of life, because I've changed, because I've grown,
because I've done all these things. You know what I'm saying.
I don't need to live these emotions, but these still
do pop up every so often. But the thing is
is don't let it get you down, don't let it
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hurt you, don't let it ruin your fucking day. You
know what I'm saying, Even when shit's going wrong, even
when shit's fucking happening, Understand your value. Understand you deserve
to fucking be value. Understand that you need to understand
you know, like I said, sometimes I just fucking ramble on,
but at the same time, I just trying to get
the point across. As you deserve. You deserve happiness, you
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deserve success, you deserve everything you want in your life.
You know, it takes you to get there. It takes
you to put in the work, It takes you to
fucking push forward. You know, we have these emotions, we
have these feelings, we have these thoughts. But because we
have these emotions, we have these feelings that we have
these thoughts, we have to work through them. We have
to understand them, we have to get a grasp on them,
(11:44):
so then we can use them as a fucking tool
in our fucking life. You know, it's okay to feel sad,
It's okay to feel bad, It's okay to have these
emotions and be overwhelmed. It's you just have to acknowledge it.
And by acknowledging it, and by accepting it and by
working through it, you develop into a much better calmer person.
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You know what I'm saying. You have to practice these things.
We have to go through these things, we have to
work through these things so then we can use these
things in our everyday fucking lives. And as you start
doing these things, showing these things, working through these things,
understand that, you know, if you got kids they're watching you,
let them know that it's okay, Let them know that
(12:27):
it's all right. Let them know that you love them unconditionally,
no matter what the fuck's going on. You know, these
are the things that you got to tell your family.
These are the things that you got to help pass along.
These are the things you got to teach your fucking kids.
So then they have a much greater value in their
life because they've learned from the experiences, They've learned from
all the shit, they've gone through, all these things, and
(12:50):
it just passes it on. Like I said, I grew
up without a dad. I didn't have anyone to teach
me any of these things that I've gone through. You know,
I had my mom. She worked really hard, she did
the best she could. But I was an out of control,
fucking kit. You know what I'm saying, How how do
you manage that? You know, someone who's not gonna listen,
someone's gonna do whatever they want to do, somebody who's
just fucking just out there. It's hard to fucking take
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care of that, you know what I'm saying, And she
did a tremendous fucking job raising me. All right. I
still had to learn a lot of this the hard
fucking way. But you know, when you when you got
a thick fucking skull and no understanding, you know, no
one to rain you back, no one to really fucking
like put you in your fucking place. It, you know
that that's the kind of shit you have to go
through as a fucking kid, you know. And with all
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my kids, like I said, I sit through I sit
with them, I work with them, I fucking talk with them.
I communicate these things, and I want to make sure
that they have full control, full understanding of emotions and
thoughts and feelings, because guess what, it's a life lesson.
It's a it's a tool that they can put into
their fucking toolbox of life and be much better. You
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know what I'm saying there, All my kids are so
much more adjusted as a human being than I was
when I was their age, you know what I'm saying,
because like I said, I was fucking wild. It is
what it fucking is. But that's the fucking truth, you know.
It's these things that pop up in my head, and
I just want to get them fucking out, because, like
I said, I have these emotions, I have these feelings,
and sometimes I just acknowledge them, work through them, and
(14:18):
move it the fuck on. But a lot of times,
a lot of us don't know how to deal with that.
We don't know how to feel about that, because, like
I said, even with a lot of my times, I
get very upset. And when I get very upset, I
get very fucking loud, and I get very confrontational. Then
I'm on edge. I'm ready to fucking any bit of
friction is ready to set me to fuck off. But
(14:38):
then now, like I said, I recognize it, I see it.
I talk about it. Like even I have words with
my wife, I'm like, hey, I'm a little overwhelmed. Give
me a fucking moment. I guess what, I bring myself
down to the right fucking level, explain to her what
I was feeling, explained to what was going on, and
she's like, okay, I'm saying, whether we have a a
(15:00):
full blown conversation about that or not, you know, it
just depends on the situation. But like I said, we
have those moments in times. You know what I'm saying.
It's having these emotions, these feelings, these thoughts and just
processing and understanding, you know. Like like I said, sometimes
I have this fucking anxiety where I'm like, am I
doing enough? Am I? Do I have a value? You
know what I'm saying? Am I deserving of my fucking life?
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You know? Because, like I said, my life is in
a completely different position than it had ever been in
any other situation. My life is not what I thought
it was gonna turn out to be. But guess what
I'm fucking here. I'm enjoying it. I love it. I
wouldn't trade it for anything fucking else. And because of that,
I want to make sure that people let them know that.
You know, when shit goes wrong, it does get better,
(15:46):
but you got to put in the work. You gotta
put in the fucking time, and you gotta want it.
You gotta want it bad enough that you'll do anything
for it, you know what I'm saying. And having these
tools of understanding of what's happening internally can help you
so fucking much. It can push you to that next
fucking level of success, It can push you to that
next level of happiness, It can push you to where
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you need to be in life because guess what, you're
emotionally and physically dealing with it, and that's something that
we have to do. Like I said, there's there's a
lot of young kids out there that don't know how
to do this. The the you know, hopefully they hear
this fucking podcast and understand that they're not a alone
with their feelings, their emotions, their angry, their happiness, their sadness,
because like I said, we've I've been there and I'll
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continue to be there because I want to keep keep
pushing forward. Like I said, this ship is fucking crazy.
You know what I'm saying, as kids, as men, as children,
we're not taught how to deal with these things. You
know what I'm saying. We're taught math, we're taught science,
we're taught history, we're taught all these things. But guess
what we're not taught or ever spoke upon. At least
(16:52):
in my fucking lifetime. I've never spoken about my emotions
and my feelings really with anybody. You know what I'm saying.
I did. I did have you know, not a psychiatrist,
but like a therapist. You know what I'm saying that
I spoke to and they kind of explained a little
bit of this to me, and you know, and through
a lot of reading, through a lot of self reflection,
through a lot of like trying to figure out what
(17:13):
my fucking problem was. You know, it's like, oh, okay,
this is a whole new skill, you know what I'm saying.
How to becolm, how to fucking react, how to how
to use your emotions, how how to ignore your emotions,
how to fucking embrace your emotions. Because this isn't this
isn't a life lesson learned. It's just something you go through.
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But the thing is is the faster you recognize it,
the faster you understand it, the fucking god damn it,
the faster your life's gonna get better. It is just
one of those fucking things. You know. It might be
a little woo woo for some of these people. But
the thing is is, like I said, this is real
deal shit that I've gone through. There's real deal emotions
that I fucking worked with and work through and fucking
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these feelings and thoughts of fucking value, devalue, fucking anger, happiness.
You know, am I deserving of a great fucking life? Yes,
I fucking am Are you deserving of a great life? Yes,
you fucking are. You deserve it. You deserve happiness because
a lot of us fucking feel despair until we fucking
have that epiphany one day. And I hope that epiphany
(18:18):
happens sooner than fucking later, so gets to fuck what
this is the angry motherfucking dad. Thank you guys for listening.
I appreciate it. If you want to watch this shit,
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