August 8, 2025 • 18 mins
Discover how to improve communication and overcome miscommunication in relationships with advice from The Angry Dad. Learn about the importance of listening and understanding, and how to navigate conflicts for a healthier partnership. This episode is sponsored by Everyday Fit Life – use code 'angry Dad' for 20% off.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There could be a lot of miscommunication in your relationship
and you just don't know it because you're not looking
at it.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Love a dying die, all right, this is the angry Dad.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Thank you guys for tuning in. I appreciate it. Before
we get in today's podcast, I thank my podcast sponsors,
every Day Fit Life. Look, if you're looking for a
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to control, a way to change, a way to grow.
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have a certain weight, have a certain look, and you
(00:44):
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have a strong program and a lean program. If you
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get in, shaped, tone, tighten up, you can do that
with the Lean Body program. And guess what if you
(01:06):
need thirty days of help, sixty days of help, ninety
days of help, it's there for you. It's structured as
a step by step program that can help you achieve
the goals that you want to achieve that is everyday
fit life. Use my code angry Dad at check out
and get twenty percent off. All the link is in
the information below, so check it out. I appreciate it
(01:27):
as getting today's show. You know, just watch a couple
of videos and stuff, you know, just relationship stuff. And
you know, I've been married three times, and you know
I've made many mistakes my first couple of marriages. Guess what,
I wasn't perfect. Nobody's perfect, but also too, we grow,
we learn, we change. I grew up old school. I
grew up in a way where I thought I needed
(01:48):
to act a certain way, be a certain way, and
just control the situation the best way I knew how.
You know what I'm saying, rough patches, fucking fights, arguments,
all that kind of stuff. The one thing that I
that I learned over the time is I just need
to be present. I need to listen. I need to
hear the other side. Because a lot of times I
(02:09):
was talking to them, I wasn't listening to them. I
just had an answer to the response. You know, a
lot of us, that's what we do. We get defensive.
We hear something that we don't like, and then we
respond without thinking. We respond in a way that is negative,
We refond, we respond in a way that's venomous, we
(02:30):
respond in a way that it's to be combative. You know.
The one thing I've learned in relationship is there's a
lot of give and take. You know what I'm saying.
It's never balanced, it's never even, but there's a lot
of give and take. There's a lot of things that
you have to learn to do in these situations, you
know what I'm saying. If it's a big fight, a
little fight, small things, little things, or it's just a
build up of tension. Because I've definitely had those builds
(02:53):
up of tension where i can just feel the animosity
in the house, i can feel the negativity, i can
feel this vibe that is like making me feel unease,
so I know it's making them feel unease. And when
you have two people who are at a red line,
a fucking they're they're completely fucking stressed out there, they
are at that peak of like this is it. And
(03:14):
I've definitely had those feelings because I've had that anxiety,
I've had that stress. I've had those times where I'm
like this is too much. I can't handle it. I'm upset,
and then we just lash out. But here's the thing.
One thing I've learned is to step back, try to
remind myself to shut up, to hear what the actual
problem is. What the actual problem is is just communication.
(03:38):
You know what I'm saying, Because we take things to heart,
you know, the person that we love, the person that
we're with. You know it's supposed to be. Oh, it's
just as lovey dovey fucking like. You know, we're all
in or all out. But that's not the situation. What
love is. Love is a choice. I choose to love
this person. I choose to be with this person. I
(03:58):
choose every day to spend my life in happiness with them.
And with that choice comes the good and the bad.
But I've learned to balance them because guess what, not
everybody's gonna have a great day. Not everyone's gonna be
in a good mood twenty four to seven. But the
thing is, why aer than that bad mood? Why are
they having these issues? Why are they having this conversation?
(04:20):
Why do they feel this certain way? Am I doing
too much? Am I doing too little? But the thing
is is by having a straightforward conversation of like how
I'm feeling, what I'm thinking, and also too, what I'm
hearing from you is this when it can be completely
something else, because I don't know how many conversations that
I've had with my wife about that, because she's talking
(04:40):
about one thing and I'm thinking about another thing, and
that can all be squared up by actually having a
conversation you don't say. Sometimes conversations will get loud, sometimes
the conversations will get fast. But the thing is is
remember make a mental note like, oh, I'm getting to
be too much. I need to bring it fucking down.
(05:01):
And when I bring it down, the conversation changes. All Right,
I'm not talking to respond, I'm listening to respond, to
make sure that I have all aspects of what the
fuck is going on so I can fix the situation,
so I can at least do my part to be
in this relationship, because that's what it is. You're in
(05:25):
a relationship with someone and you're trying to live your
best life. But how can you live your best life
if you're at each other's throats, if you don't get
her side and she doesn't get your side, how do
you meet in the fucking middle, you know, and like
I said, this is just general information that I've learned.
This is what I've gone through through my experiences. And
because I've gone through these with my experiences, I've learned
(05:47):
how I want to be happy, and how I want
to live my life, how I want my wife to
look at me and how I look at her, and
how I want this unity and how do you keep
that unity? How do you keep that happening? How do
you stay within this pocket of what you want? And
you do it by communicating, by understanding, and also too
(06:11):
by actually listening. Let someone say what they need to
get off your chest and understand, do not take it
to heart because at this moment, at this time, that's
just how they feel. That's what they think. And because
they think that, and you feel that a lot of
times they don't think we're listening or paying attention. But
(06:32):
then you asked the question, Okay, what is making this happen?
What am I doing that's aggravating the situation? But well,
you're not acknowledging this, You're you're not taking out the
trash when I tell you you're not what's called Well,
you let them know. I'm like, look, I'm sorry, I
didn't take out the trash and I didn't do what
you write and do. But unfortunately I'm doing this and
(06:52):
I will get to to you, I promise. You. See
what I'm saying. It's not a you didn't take out
the fucking trash and you're not listening to me because
you're not obeying me. And then this it was like, look,
everybody has a certain amount of time during the day
and you got to let them know, like I'm sorry,
I apologize. Guess what I did. Hear you, but I
didn't communicate to you like, hey, I will do it,
(07:15):
but please give me this time because I need to
finish this. You see how I answered that, like yeah,
I'll get to it, please, but understand that I got
to do this first before I can do that. Or
if I'm in the middle of a project that I
can't walk away from, I will let them know like hey,
as soon as I finish this, I'm doing this, and
then that's how my day works out. You see what
(07:36):
I'm saying, Like, like I said, I'm just giving a
small a small answer to these situations because guess what
by communicating what I'm feeling, what I'm thinking and what's
going on with me, they understand. You know, one of
the biggest things that people have a hard time with
is communicating scheduling. We all live two lives. They work,
we work, or they're at home doing their projects. We're
(07:58):
at home doing our projects, and usually there's no communication
between there, like I'm just kind of doing this and
then you're just kind of doing that, and that's it.
But the thing is is if you tell people time schedules, like, look,
the majority of the day, I'm going to be doing this,
I'm going to be working on this, and I have
time here if you want to, you know, sit down
and eat dinner, want to go to the store or
(08:19):
any of those things. You know what I'm saying. It's
laying out these clear indications of your life with them
so they understand that you do have the time. But
this is when you have the time. You know, Like
I said, I enjoy my time with my wife. You
know what I'm saying. When she leaves, I do what
(08:39):
my schedule is. But when she does come home, I
shut a lot of things down because I'd like to
spend time. I like to be available to her. That's
just what it is. And if I can't be available
to her. I will let her know that this is
my schedule, this is what I'm doing. You know what
I'm saying. This is what's going on. You know what
I'm saying. And it doesn't need to be this long
drawn out where we got our planners out, we're doing
(09:01):
the schedule. It's like, no, we're having coffee. This is
my day and I lay out my day. She'll be like, oh,
you got a full day, and I'm like, she's got
a full day, or like, hey, I'm going to kind
of be just in the whim if you get done
early or you know what I'm saying, you have time
available and it opens up. That's just what it is,
you know what I'm saying. It's this clear line of communication.
(09:23):
I bring these things up because you know, I see
people have a lot of issues with understanding of like
just talking, just speaking. Some people are shy, some people
are quiet, some people don't like to share their lives.
But the thing is is when you're in a relationship
and when you're with somebody that you care for, you
let them know that you have time for them, that
you're listening to them, that you respect them, that you're
(09:45):
here for them and also to a constant reminder of
you love them. You know what I'm saying, Some people's
love shows differently. You know I'm saying, I'm very verbal.
I want to be very verbal. That's something that I've
wanted to change in my life because I never shit
enough and because I've always bothered it in. That's just
how I felt everybody was. But that's not the truth.
(10:06):
People like to hear it. It likes to be in reforce.
But here's the thing. I do like saying it. I
do like feeling it, and I do like showing it,
So I do it. You know what I'm saying. That's
just what it is. Like I said, these are simple
things that you can make slight adjustments to in your
life that can make life a lot easier, a lot better,
a lot more, you know, synergistically, fucking, coherent, fucking put together, smoother,
(10:34):
fucking There's so many things that we can make small
adjustments in our lives that we don't because we just think.
And nobody can read your mind, nobody can understand what
you're going through, nobody can hear your thoughts, and because
of that, it fucks up a lot of relationships. But
(10:54):
just by opening your mouth, opening up your ears and
actually listening, not responding, actually listening, and then hearing what
they have to say, what is going on and the
actual problem. You know what I'm saying, Because nobody is perfect.
There could be a lot of miscommunication in your relationship
(11:15):
and you just don't know it because you're not looking
at it, you're not seeing it, you're not listening to it,
and you don't care about it. You know what I'm saying,
because a lot of us just care about our side.
What are we doing, what is going on with us?
You know, everything that I do is so important, But
in a relationship, in a marriage, guess what, Both sides
(11:35):
are important. Both sides are something that you have to
pay attention to. I pay attention to it all the
time because I know exactly what I want in my
life and what I have right now in my life.
And like I said, I'm not sitting here trying to
brag and like my life is fucking perfect. Fuck. No,
we still have arguments, we still have loud conversations, we
(11:56):
still have back and forth, But at the same time,
I try to stay with it, and these bounds of
my circle that I've created, I have systems. I have
set things that I remind myself of because like, I'll
start getting irritated, I start reaching my limit of like
how I feel, what I think. I'm starting to get frustrated.
It builds up, and then I even tell her, hey,
(12:17):
I'm out of ten, give me a moment. I need
to calm down. Whether I need to apologize or not,
I will, but it's because I recognize that I'm building
this up and I'm letting them know, like, hey, this
is my threshold. Give me a moment. Same thing with her.
She's reached your threshold, Give me a moment, and I
(12:39):
respect that boundary. We take a break, and then we
can come back and realize how stupid we both were
about whatever the fuck it is we were saying because
we just couldn't get it out. I speak like this.
I talk like this because this is how important it
is to me. You know what I'm saying. These are
things that I had to learn in my life to
make my life what I want it to be. You know, no,
(13:02):
everything requires work, everything requires patience. Everything you want to
achieve in your life requires you to recognize what the
fuck is going on. You know it took me a
long time to learn this shit. Just please understand that
my first marriages, my relationships, all those things, I did
everything wrong. But I had to grow. I had to learn.
(13:23):
I had to get out this old mindset of like
I'm stoic, I'm fucking this badass, fucking dude. I don't
communicate my fucking feelings. I don't communicate my emotions. I'm
just this fucking person take it or fucking leave it,
And it fucked up everything in my life. But now,
guess what, I'm still this badass, fucking person in the
real fucking world. But in my house with my wife,
(13:47):
all right, even with my kids, I've changed my attitude
of like this is how I am. I'm a father,
I'm a husband, I'm a fucking dad, I'm a fucking
pet dad. I'm this person who communicates my feelings and
my emotions so then I can regulate them. I can
stay within this circle of fucking peace and I can
(14:11):
be stress free when I'm at home. You know what
I'm saying. How many people fucking come home and don't
want to come home because there's gonna be an argument,
There's going to be a fight, there is going to
be some kind of animosity when they walk through that door.
And I've definitely had those times where I'm just sitting
in my fucking car, fuck this shit. I want to
fucking just drive away and not deal with this. But
(14:32):
I'm a fucking good man, so I take care of
my fucking family and I do this fucking shit for him.
When you can get yourself out of that situation by
actually fucking communicating, talking, working out your fucking feelings, working
out your emotions, understanding what you need to fucking do
to be better, to have better, and to fucking live
(14:54):
this life. Like I said, I've I've been there, I've
fucking done that. I fucking lost everything, gained everything, and
I had to go through all this fucking bullshit in
my life just to get to where I'm at now.
And because I'm here now, if I can fucking just
help you understand just a little fucking thing that can
(15:16):
change your fucking life, then I've done my fucking job,
because that's the whole fucking point. Like I said, I've
gotten myself to a point in my life where I'm happy,
and that happiness is everything that I've ever wanted. I've
always wanted to have peace, not knowing what peace was.
You know what I'm saying. I always thought I'm just
happy in my house and things are going along. It's like, no,
(15:38):
what peace is is me and my wife are getting along,
me and the kids are getting along. There's no stress,
and there's no drama amongst us. Of course there's gonna
be financial stuff. Of course there's gonna be fucking day
to day stuff, but guess what, that's trivial. I want
to be able to come home feel nothing but love,
and that's that's my peace. You know what I'm saying.
(15:59):
My wife can hold me, telling me everything's gonna be okay,
and that's all I've ever wanted, because we are a team.
We're married, we're fucking working together for a bigger fucking goal,
and we're not fighting against each other. You know what
I'm saying. That's that's what My level of happiness and
everything that I've ever wanted to achieve in my life
is that. And it all started with a choice. I
(16:21):
choose to make this work. I choose to put in
the work. I choose to love her, love my kids,
and love my life. And every time I think shit's
falling apart, I remember I choose this life, and because
I choose this life, I have the ability to fucking
understand what it takes to maintain it, to keep it,
(16:45):
and to keep myself where I want to be. You
need a goal in your life, and it could be anything,
all right. I could be getting in shape, going to school,
fucking getting your shit together, all right. It could be
looking for your piece in your family. But because you
have that goal, you have the ability to look at
what you need to do to get it, and you
(17:07):
put in the work. You put in the fucking time,
You put in the fucking leg work to fucking achieve this.
And that's all I've ever wanted. And I'm there. And
because I'm there, I fucking seen the blueprint. I've seen
the fucking path. Everybody's past different, but at the same
fucking time, if you have a starting point, you know
where to fucking go and you can fucking get there.
(17:28):
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There could be a lot of miscommunication in your relationship
and you just don't know it because you're not looking
at it.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Love a dying die, all right, this is the angry Dad.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Thank you guys for tuning in. I appreciate it. Before
we get in today's podcast, I thank my podcast sponsors,
every Day Fit Life. Look, if you're looking for a
system that can help you set a path, a way
to control, a way to change, a way to grow.
You know what I'm saying because everybody here wants to
have a certain weight, have a certain look, and you
(00:44):
can do this with every Day Fit Life because we
have a strong program and a lean program. If you
want to put on muscle, you follow the program. It'll
tell you what to eat, Wendy, and it even comes
with a training program with it, so you're getting that
for free. And then if you want to lose, lean out,
get in, shaped, tone, tighten up, you can do that
with the Lean Body program. And guess what if you
(01:06):
need thirty days of help, sixty days of help, ninety
days of help, it's there for you. It's structured as
a step by step program that can help you achieve
the goals that you want to achieve that is everyday
fit life. Use my code angry Dad at check out
and get twenty percent off. All the link is in
the information below, so check it out. I appreciate it
(01:27):
as getting today's show. You know, just watch a couple
of videos and stuff, you know, just relationship stuff. And
you know, I've been married three times, and you know
I've made many mistakes my first couple of marriages. Guess what,
I wasn't perfect. Nobody's perfect, but also too, we grow,
we learn, we change. I grew up old school. I
grew up in a way where I thought I needed
(01:48):
to act a certain way, be a certain way, and
just control the situation the best way I knew how.
You know what I'm saying, rough patches, fucking fights, arguments,
all that kind of stuff. The one thing that I
that I learned over the time is I just need
to be present. I need to listen. I need to
hear the other side. Because a lot of times I
(02:09):
was talking to them, I wasn't listening to them. I
just had an answer to the response. You know, a
lot of us, that's what we do. We get defensive.
We hear something that we don't like, and then we
respond without thinking. We respond in a way that is negative,
We refond, we respond in a way that's venomous, we
(02:30):
respond in a way that it's to be combative. You know.
The one thing I've learned in relationship is there's a
lot of give and take. You know what I'm saying.
It's never balanced, it's never even, but there's a lot
of give and take. There's a lot of things that
you have to learn to do in these situations, you
know what I'm saying. If it's a big fight, a
little fight, small things, little things, or it's just a
build up of tension. Because I've definitely had those builds
(02:53):
up of tension where i can just feel the animosity
in the house, i can feel the negativity, i can
feel this vibe that is like making me feel unease,
so I know it's making them feel unease. And when
you have two people who are at a red line,
a fucking they're they're completely fucking stressed out there, they
are at that peak of like this is it. And
(03:14):
I've definitely had those feelings because I've had that anxiety,
I've had that stress. I've had those times where I'm
like this is too much. I can't handle it. I'm upset,
and then we just lash out. But here's the thing.
One thing I've learned is to step back, try to
remind myself to shut up, to hear what the actual
problem is. What the actual problem is is just communication.
(03:38):
You know what I'm saying, Because we take things to heart,
you know, the person that we love, the person that
we're with. You know it's supposed to be. Oh, it's
just as lovey dovey fucking like. You know, we're all
in or all out. But that's not the situation. What
love is. Love is a choice. I choose to love
this person. I choose to be with this person. I
(03:58):
choose every day to spend my life in happiness with them.
And with that choice comes the good and the bad.
But I've learned to balance them because guess what, not
everybody's gonna have a great day. Not everyone's gonna be
in a good mood twenty four to seven. But the
thing is, why aer than that bad mood? Why are
they having these issues? Why are they having this conversation?
(04:20):
Why do they feel this certain way? Am I doing
too much? Am I doing too little? But the thing
is is by having a straightforward conversation of like how
I'm feeling, what I'm thinking, and also too, what I'm
hearing from you is this when it can be completely
something else, because I don't know how many conversations that
I've had with my wife about that, because she's talking
(04:40):
about one thing and I'm thinking about another thing, and
that can all be squared up by actually having a
conversation you don't say. Sometimes conversations will get loud, sometimes
the conversations will get fast. But the thing is is
remember make a mental note like, oh, I'm getting to
be too much. I need to bring it fucking down.
(05:01):
And when I bring it down, the conversation changes. All Right,
I'm not talking to respond, I'm listening to respond, to
make sure that I have all aspects of what the
fuck is going on so I can fix the situation,
so I can at least do my part to be
in this relationship, because that's what it is. You're in
(05:25):
a relationship with someone and you're trying to live your
best life. But how can you live your best life
if you're at each other's throats, if you don't get
her side and she doesn't get your side, how do
you meet in the fucking middle, you know, and like
I said, this is just general information that I've learned.
This is what I've gone through through my experiences. And
because I've gone through these with my experiences, I've learned
(05:47):
how I want to be happy, and how I want
to live my life, how I want my wife to
look at me and how I look at her, and
how I want this unity and how do you keep
that unity? How do you keep that happening? How do
you stay within this pocket of what you want? And
you do it by communicating, by understanding, and also too
(06:11):
by actually listening. Let someone say what they need to
get off your chest and understand, do not take it
to heart because at this moment, at this time, that's
just how they feel. That's what they think. And because
they think that, and you feel that a lot of
times they don't think we're listening or paying attention. But
(06:32):
then you asked the question, Okay, what is making this happen?
What am I doing that's aggravating the situation? But well,
you're not acknowledging this, You're you're not taking out the
trash when I tell you you're not what's called Well,
you let them know. I'm like, look, I'm sorry, I
didn't take out the trash and I didn't do what
you write and do. But unfortunately I'm doing this and
(06:52):
I will get to to you, I promise. You. See
what I'm saying. It's not a you didn't take out
the fucking trash and you're not listening to me because
you're not obeying me. And then this it was like, look,
everybody has a certain amount of time during the day
and you got to let them know, like I'm sorry,
I apologize. Guess what I did. Hear you, but I
didn't communicate to you like, hey, I will do it,
(07:15):
but please give me this time because I need to
finish this. You see how I answered that, like yeah,
I'll get to it, please, but understand that I got
to do this first before I can do that. Or
if I'm in the middle of a project that I
can't walk away from, I will let them know like hey,
as soon as I finish this, I'm doing this, and
then that's how my day works out. You see what
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I'm saying, Like, like I said, I'm just giving a
small a small answer to these situations because guess what
by communicating what I'm feeling, what I'm thinking and what's
going on with me, they understand. You know, one of
the biggest things that people have a hard time with
is communicating scheduling. We all live two lives. They work,
we work, or they're at home doing their projects. We're
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at home doing our projects, and usually there's no communication
between there, like I'm just kind of doing this and
then you're just kind of doing that, and that's it.
But the thing is is if you tell people time schedules, like, look,
the majority of the day, I'm going to be doing this,
I'm going to be working on this, and I have
time here if you want to, you know, sit down
and eat dinner, want to go to the store or
(08:19):
any of those things. You know what I'm saying. It's
laying out these clear indications of your life with them
so they understand that you do have the time. But
this is when you have the time. You know, Like
I said, I enjoy my time with my wife. You
know what I'm saying. When she leaves, I do what
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my schedule is. But when she does come home, I
shut a lot of things down because I'd like to
spend time. I like to be available to her. That's
just what it is. And if I can't be available
to her. I will let her know that this is
my schedule, this is what I'm doing. You know what
I'm saying. This is what's going on. You know what
I'm saying. And it doesn't need to be this long
drawn out where we got our planners out, we're doing
(09:01):
the schedule. It's like, no, we're having coffee. This is
my day and I lay out my day. She'll be like, oh,
you got a full day, and I'm like, she's got
a full day, or like, hey, I'm going to kind
of be just in the whim if you get done
early or you know what I'm saying, you have time
available and it opens up. That's just what it is,
you know what I'm saying. It's this clear line of communication.
(09:23):
I bring these things up because you know, I see
people have a lot of issues with understanding of like
just talking, just speaking. Some people are shy, some people
are quiet, some people don't like to share their lives.
But the thing is is when you're in a relationship
and when you're with somebody that you care for, you
let them know that you have time for them, that
you're listening to them, that you respect them, that you're
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here for them and also to a constant reminder of
you love them. You know what I'm saying, Some people's
love shows differently. You know I'm saying, I'm very verbal.
I want to be very verbal. That's something that I've
wanted to change in my life because I never shit
enough and because I've always bothered it in. That's just
how I felt everybody was. But that's not the truth.
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People like to hear it. It likes to be in reforce.
But here's the thing. I do like saying it. I
do like feeling it, and I do like showing it,
So I do it. You know what I'm saying. That's
just what it is. Like I said, these are simple
things that you can make slight adjustments to in your
life that can make life a lot easier, a lot better,
a lot more, you know, synergistically, fucking, coherent, fucking put together, smoother,
(10:34):
fucking There's so many things that we can make small
adjustments in our lives that we don't because we just think.
And nobody can read your mind, nobody can understand what
you're going through, nobody can hear your thoughts, and because
of that, it fucks up a lot of relationships. But
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just by opening your mouth, opening up your ears and
actually listening, not responding, actually listening, and then hearing what
they have to say, what is going on and the
actual problem. You know what I'm saying, Because nobody is perfect.
There could be a lot of miscommunication in your relationship
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and you just don't know it because you're not looking
at it, you're not seeing it, you're not listening to it,
and you don't care about it. You know what I'm saying,
because a lot of us just care about our side.
What are we doing, what is going on with us?
You know, everything that I do is so important, But
in a relationship, in a marriage, guess what, Both sides
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are important. Both sides are something that you have to
pay attention to. I pay attention to it all the
time because I know exactly what I want in my
life and what I have right now in my life.
And like I said, I'm not sitting here trying to
brag and like my life is fucking perfect. Fuck. No,
we still have arguments, we still have loud conversations, we
(11:56):
still have back and forth, But at the same time,
I try to stay with it, and these bounds of
my circle that I've created, I have systems. I have
set things that I remind myself of because like, I'll
start getting irritated, I start reaching my limit of like
how I feel, what I think. I'm starting to get frustrated.
It builds up, and then I even tell her, hey,
(12:17):
I'm out of ten, give me a moment. I need
to calm down. Whether I need to apologize or not,
I will, but it's because I recognize that I'm building
this up and I'm letting them know, like, hey, this
is my threshold. Give me a moment. Same thing with her.
She's reached your threshold, Give me a moment, and I
(12:39):
respect that boundary. We take a break, and then we
can come back and realize how stupid we both were
about whatever the fuck it is we were saying because
we just couldn't get it out. I speak like this.
I talk like this because this is how important it
is to me. You know what I'm saying. These are
things that I had to learn in my life to
make my life what I want it to be. You know, no,
(13:02):
everything requires work, everything requires patience. Everything you want to
achieve in your life requires you to recognize what the
fuck is going on. You know it took me a
long time to learn this shit. Just please understand that
my first marriages, my relationships, all those things, I did
everything wrong. But I had to grow. I had to learn.
(13:23):
I had to get out this old mindset of like
I'm stoic, I'm fucking this badass, fucking dude. I don't
communicate my fucking feelings. I don't communicate my emotions. I'm
just this fucking person take it or fucking leave it,
And it fucked up everything in my life. But now,
guess what, I'm still this badass, fucking person in the
real fucking world. But in my house with my wife,
(13:47):
all right, even with my kids, I've changed my attitude
of like this is how I am. I'm a father,
I'm a husband, I'm a fucking dad, I'm a fucking
pet dad. I'm this person who communicates my feelings and
my emotions so then I can regulate them. I can
stay within this circle of fucking peace and I can
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be stress free when I'm at home. You know what
I'm saying. How many people fucking come home and don't
want to come home because there's gonna be an argument,
There's going to be a fight, there is going to
be some kind of animosity when they walk through that door.
And I've definitely had those times where I'm just sitting
in my fucking car, fuck this shit. I want to
fucking just drive away and not deal with this. But
(14:32):
I'm a fucking good man, so I take care of
my fucking family and I do this fucking shit for him.
When you can get yourself out of that situation by
actually fucking communicating, talking, working out your fucking feelings, working
out your emotions, understanding what you need to fucking do
to be better, to have better, and to fucking live
(14:54):
this life. Like I said, I've I've been there, I've
fucking done that. I fucking lost everything, gained everything, and
I had to go through all this fucking bullshit in
my life just to get to where I'm at now.
And because I'm here now, if I can fucking just
help you understand just a little fucking thing that can
(15:16):
change your fucking life, then I've done my fucking job,
because that's the whole fucking point. Like I said, I've
gotten myself to a point in my life where I'm happy,
and that happiness is everything that I've ever wanted. I've
always wanted to have peace, not knowing what peace was.
You know what I'm saying. I always thought I'm just
happy in my house and things are going along. It's like, no,
(15:38):
what peace is is me and my wife are getting along,
me and the kids are getting along. There's no stress,
and there's no drama amongst us. Of course there's gonna
be financial stuff. Of course there's gonna be fucking day
to day stuff, but guess what, that's trivial. I want
to be able to come home feel nothing but love,
and that's that's my peace. You know what I'm saying.
(15:59):
My wife can hold me, telling me everything's gonna be okay,
and that's all I've ever wanted, because we are a team.
We're married, we're fucking working together for a bigger fucking goal,
and we're not fighting against each other. You know what
I'm saying. That's that's what My level of happiness and
everything that I've ever wanted to achieve in my life
is that. And it all started with a choice. I
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choose to make this work. I choose to put in
the work. I choose to love her, love my kids,
and love my life. And every time I think shit's
falling apart, I remember I choose this life, and because
I choose this life, I have the ability to fucking
understand what it takes to maintain it, to keep it,
(16:45):
and to keep myself where I want to be. You
need a goal in your life, and it could be anything,
all right. I could be getting in shape, going to school,
fucking getting your shit together, all right. It could be
looking for your piece in your family. But because you
have that goal, you have the ability to look at
what you need to do to get it, and you
(17:07):
put in the work. You put in the fucking time,
You put in the fucking leg work to fucking achieve this.
And that's all I've ever wanted. And I'm there. And
because I'm there, I fucking seen the blueprint. I've seen
the fucking path. Everybody's past different, but at the same
fucking time, if you have a starting point, you know
where to fucking go and you can fucking get there.
(17:28):
I love my life and I want you to love
your life too. So guess the fuck what this nagger,
motherfucking dad. You want to watch my shit YouTube? You
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always living, always living, always living, always always living
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