May 26, 2025 • 24 mins
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of abuse, trauma, and survival. Listener discretion is advised.
In this powerful episode, The Rescue – I’m Never Going Back, we dive into a deeply personal and emotional journey of escape, survival, and transformation. You can heal after Trauma, there appears to be a misconception that if you experience some type of Traumatic event your life is ruined. Help is available and I share available options. A message for you, you are not alone and you can heal and life filled with joy.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Before we begin today's episode, I want to take a
moment to acknowledge the reality that many are silently living with.
Are you aware that every year, more than one in
three women experience sexual violence in their lifetime, and many
never speak up for years, In sometimes decades, domestic violence
(00:24):
affects one and four women, and far too often children
are the silent witnesses to the pain that leaves invisible scars.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I know the story intimately.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
I was a child who endured both molestation and the
trauma of watching a mother survive domestic violence, and even
facing homelessness. But I'm still here, stronger, healed, and transformed.
Are you aware that May is Mental Health Awareness Month
(01:01):
and it's the perfect time to remind ourselves healing is
possible and that you're not alone. If you are someone
you know needs support, don't be afraid reach out. There's
the National Domestic Violence Hotline number and it is one
(01:22):
eight zero zero seven nine nine seven two three three.
Again that's one eight hundred seven nine nine. Safe Rain
is another important number that you can hold on to
or reach out to. It is a rape, Abuse and
(01:42):
Incest National network and their toll free number is one
eight hundred sixty five six hope again, that number is
one eight hundred sixty five six four six seven three.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
This episode, you, guys, is a.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Personal one, and I invite you to listen with an
open heart.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Let's begin.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Authentic Talks is all about authentic conversations. This show is
all about growth, love, respect, success, mind, body and spirit.
If you're looking to grow and become your authentic self,
then this is the podcast for you. And I am
your host, Chante. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Hi guys, welcome back to Authentic Talks. Two point oh.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
My name is Chante generally, and I am your host.
Regardless of if you're a returning listener or you're here
for the very first time tuning in, I do want
to welcome you. I do want to extend that open
invitation to all of you tuning in to hit that
subscribe button. That way, you won't miss an episode. Once
(02:51):
I upload a show, and if you enjoy the episode,
head on over to Apple Podcasts or Podchaser and leave
the show or re I do want to let you
know that you do have that open invitation to come
back again and again as you're listening to this episode
if you find that it might be helpful for a
(03:11):
family member or a friend or someone you know.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Please share the episode.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
It may help them in so many powerful ways. All right,
you guys, let's go ahead and dive on in.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
With today's episode.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
You guys, I was sitting on my couch with my
son and we were trying to find something to watch
on Netflix. We wanted to watch a movie, not a series.
As he was going through on under my Netflix account, we.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Noticed that that's all that was popping up.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
With series and no movies, and so he said, Mom,
I'm going to switch over to dad's account. That way
we're gonna find the action movie. I picked up my
phone while he was switching over to my husband's account,
and I opened up YouTube. When I opened up YouTube,
I seen Phil Thomas my response and it was a song,
(04:05):
and I clicked it to see what it was because
I had never heard the song on YouTube. But I
had heard the song before, but I had never watched
a video. So I clicked play, and then the song
began to play, and as the lyrics were playing, I heard,
you have rescued my life and I'm never going back.
(04:30):
As it was playing, emotions began to rise up, you guys,
I felt so full, and I was trying to control
my emotions because I didn't want to start crying. And
my son start looking at me, like what is going on?
I asked him put this on the TV, so we
listened to it on TV.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
As it was.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Playing, I just was like, oh my goodness, like I
felt full, and then I couldn't control it, you guys,
I started weeping. I was crying and emotions was rising
up and it just hit me to the core. And
it wasn't sorrow, but it was a mix of joy, gratitude,
(05:10):
and release. I wasn't crying because I was broken. I
was crying because I was no longer broken. I want
to talk to you today about the power of song.
You know, sometimes music can help us to find words
our hearts can't even begin to say. As those lyrics
(05:31):
were playing, you have rescued my life and I am
never going back. I was just like, oh my goodness,
this is amazing, Like.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I felt so good, you guys.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It resonated with me so much, you know, and we
all realized that in our life, there's so many different seasons,
you know, we have You can categorize it as the
first quarter, second quarter, third, fourth, or you can categorize
it as you know, my preteen years, my teen years,
(06:06):
my young adult years, goes on and on, and so
you can have even more categories. I was viewing mine
from the sense of like a child, right that was
the first phase, and I've thought about my life of
how I had been through being molested and how I
was rescued out of that situation. But then another situation
(06:29):
came about, which was where we experienced my mother being
beat and having to watch her boyfriend beat her and
we weren't sure if he was gonna kill her one day,
and then just being able to see that like wow,
we were rescued out of that situation. But then another
situation presented itself, which was us becoming homeless for a while,
(06:51):
and then that situation was resolved, and then another situation
presented itself, which was, now, well, here I am with
a young adult, wishing things like I had my own apartment,
wishing that I had my own car, you know, and
being a young mother. And then once I accomplished those things,
(07:13):
then another a situation presented itself, and then each thing
that presented itself, there was a rescue, you guys, The
rescue is the moment you realize you're never going back,
And for me, the rescue was when we knew we
were never going back to her boyfriend. And sometimes they
(07:37):
say everything happens for a reason. I want to go
back to this one particular.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Day in my life as a child.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
I recall the moment that it was something horrible that happened,
and it was news of my aunt being hit by
our motorcycle and unlived on impact of that motorcycle hitting her.
That was a horrible day my family, my cousins, they
(08:06):
lost a loved one and it was.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
One of those situations.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Where my mother had to come back for us because
there was funeral arrangements that needed to be made. We
were so happy to see her and that was a
rescue for us where we were taken out of that
situation and we were able to leave with her. When
she left, again, a horrible situation happened, but yet there
(08:37):
was some good that came out of that situation, which
was we were no longer going to be molested anymore,
and that's when that stopped. It was not my aunt's fault.
What happened was my mother had left so that she
could try to make a better life for us and
had left us with family. Then when we were in
(08:57):
another state, she went to help a family member out,
which was her father, to take care of him because
he was sick. So we left one state, moved to
the other state, and while we were there, we ended
up meeting another situation. And in this situation, it was
where she was experiencing domestic violence by a boyfriend that
(09:20):
she had. It took us going through a flood for
us to get away from him. Before the flood came,
like the waters were rising, everyone had to be evacuated.
We had to be evacuated and put in a motel.
At that time, it was me, my sister, and my
two female cousins and my mother. And for some reason,
(09:41):
he was not allowed to come into that motel with
us because there was only like two beds and like
a pullout couch. We were really cramped in that place.
And that was the beginning of the rescue. Because once
we got out of that situation where the waters started
moving back and they were going down, they were rescinding, receding,
(10:02):
we ended up getting a vouchure. We received a vulture
from FEMA. They assisted us with clothing, with furniture, and
we had way more after FEMA than what we had
prior to Fema. We were actually living a much better
life and we were away from him, and then that
became another rescue. The moment that I understood that we
(10:26):
were never going back to him, that was the rescue.
As that song continued to play, you guys, I just
was It was like a movie playing in front of
my eyes, just flashing.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Really quick over the years of.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
How many situations that we have had in our life,
that I had had in my life that I needed
to be rescued and was waiting to be rescued, and
I knew that I needed.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
To take some form of.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Action in older years, but as a child and a
young teen, a lot of times I was under the
care of someone else. And so when the rescue came,
it was like that moment for me. And so when
I hear those lyrics, they just resonate with me, and
I just was filled with such gratitude and joy because
(11:15):
you know, I survived. I am a survivor, and I
healed and it wasn't an easy journey.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
It was not easy at all.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But the fact that I am here now able.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
To tell my story and.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
To tell you with such a full heart and to
let you know that sometimes there would be so many moments,
so many different situations, but then we have to understand
and realize that sometimes the change is already in motion,
it's already happening. And for us, it was the news
(11:49):
of a flood was coming. I had no idea that
in that moment, when those waters were rising, that that
was going to be the change that we needed, that
that thing that happened in our life, you know, which
is the flood and us getting ready to lose the
very small amount of things that we had, that.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
When material possessions.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Was going to actually turn out to be the end
of one particular struggle. Now, once I became a young adult,
you guys, I remember sitting on the curb one day
and I was watching people get out of their cars
who look like they had great jobs, and they looked
like they were just so responsible, and they were going
(12:32):
inside of their apartments, and I just remember smelling the
food that they were cooking, and just having a dream
of one day having my own apartment. And I was
visualizing and just imagining myself cooking and sitting down and
eating a great meal and I also pictured myself driving
(12:52):
in a car and just not having to ride the bus,
and not having to have struggle with like day to
day mil you know, and being able to open up
a refrigerator and to have like things that I really
wanted to eat, and just to have options of food
that I could actually cook. Those tiers were tears of
(13:14):
gratitude that those seasons in my life are over, that
I'm past that, and that there was transformation and healing,
you guys, that had to take place. This also included forgiveness.
It was a huge part of that. When we've experienced situations,
sometimes it feels like there's no rescue, there's no help,
(13:37):
there's no place to turn. And I just want to
let you know that you too can have that rescue moment.
It doesn't mean that you have to forget what you've
been through. What it really means is that it no
longer that situation or that thing no longer controls you.
(13:58):
That's your rescue moment, the moment you realize that. The
other day, I was on Facebook and I had shared
a post about that case with Cassie and uh with
Sean Cones, and I was talking about how we shouldn't
be so quick to be judgmental and to say that
(14:18):
she's trying to get a money grab. I was simply
wanting to share that we want to understand how difficult
it is for someone to speak up when they've gone
through sexual abuse or physical abuse of any sort. It's
hard to talk about those things, and when a woman
speaks up, we have to allow her to share her truth,
(14:40):
and we don't want to bash and make it hard
for the next woman, the next little girl, the next
little boy to stand up and speak their truth. I
was not.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Surprised to hear that others.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Had experienced that from family members, some form of sexual abuse,
and that some are still struggling and that it's like
torn their life apart. I want to speak to you.
I want to speak to the person, the woman, the
little girl, the little boy who's gone through trauma that's
now a grown man or a grown woman, or maybe
(15:17):
you're in your teen years, regardless of your age, if
you've experienced trauma like molestation and you have hidden scars
to anyone who's past they want to escape from, I
really really want to talk to you. I want to
let you know that these things do not have to
(15:39):
take control over your life where it's controlling you. At
one point, I was afraid to talk about this on
my podcast because I had heard people saying things like
people who who worm mounlested as children are sick and
they end up being the same way, And I was like,
that is not true. And because of that judgment until
(16:00):
mindset are the comments that I would hear or people make,
or that I would read. It had put me in
a position where I was like, I don't even want
to talk about that because I don't want people to
think I'm like that. But at this point, you can't
even shut me up. I don't care what people think
or what they say. I'm telling you that healing is possible.
(16:22):
There's all sorts of ways that you can do this.
There's counseling that you could go through, there's therapy that
you can go through. The one thing that you should
never ever do, though, is not speak on it. That's
taking away your sense of peace, it's taking away your healing.
(16:43):
And for those who think that people who have gone
through trauma that they're sick and that they never can heal,
I'm here to let you know that it's absolutely untrue.
People can heal, people can be set free, and people
can end up helping other people people through their journey
of healing and transformation. It is so important for you
(17:06):
to understand that you don't have to stay in that
place that broke you. The rescue may not come with
flashing lights. It may not come in the form that
you think.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
That it should, where you're gonna.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Feel good about yourself or your situation every single day.
Sometimes it comes like in a quiet moment. Sometimes it
comes through words in a song. Sometimes it comes when
you're sitting on a couch listening to a song that
changes things. It changes everything, and it makes you realize
(17:42):
that you are free, that you've been set free, and
that no one no longer has control over you. I
had gone through my journey of transformation and healing, and
I felt really like I was healed. But what I
didn't understand is there was times when I.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Would speak about this and it would come.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
From such an emotional place where tears would come up.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
And today when I heard those words, when I heard
those words you guys, something else kicked in. When I
heard you have rescued my life and I'm never going back,
I understood I was no longer crying.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Because I was broken.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
That's what I understood, you guys, and I understood that
I was crying because I was no longer broken, and
that song helped me to put that into context and
to put that into words that made sense.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Regardless of what your.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Situation may be, it doesn't have to be that it's
a sexual molestation situation. It does not have to be
that you're going through or have gone through witnessing someone
go through domestic abuse or violence of some sort like
I did as a child. It could be something that
you're dealing with now as an adult. I don't know
(19:16):
what it could be exactly for you, but I want
you to know that give yourself permission to speak your truth,
even if your voice shakes. Give yourself permission to express
what you've been through, whether it's through journaling, through prayer,
or really speaking with a trusted friend, a therapist. I
(19:38):
want you to know that your story matters. Speaking it
begins the process of reclaiming your power. And one of
the things that you'd never want to do is silence
your voice.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
That voice is.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Connected to our throat chakra, and you definitely want to
make sure that that throat chakra is open, and that
starts with speaking your truth. Speak your truth. The next
thing that you're going to have to do is create
a daily anchor. Now, this means that you're gonna need
to find one small thing each day that reminds you
(20:14):
that you.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Are not where you used to be.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
This could be a song, this could be a quote.
It could be a short walk, or even a mirror
filled with affirmations. The affirmations could be something like this,
I am healing, I am whole. I am not going back.
(20:40):
For those of you who have not begun that journey
and who feel like you're walking towards the rescue, I
want to remind you, don't rush the rescue, but keep
walking towards it. Freedom may not come all at once,
but every small step matters. It mattered for me, every
(21:05):
small step. And we're all different, but one thing we
all have in common is that we're all human. That
matters so much, you guys. One example that I can
share is therapy and counseling might work for someone, someone
else might find another avenue that will be helpful for them.
It's important for you to take those small steps that's
(21:28):
going to help you to get there. And I want
you to celebrate each sign of growth. Celebrate every single
sign of growth you have to do that. We call
that celebrating our wins. I want you to know that
it's super important for you to set those boundaries. You
can simply get used to saying no when you really
(21:49):
don't mean yes. You have to say no. That is
you setting your boundaries, and it's choosing yourself now. That
is the rescue unfolding. That is that rescue unfolding. Okay.
I want you to focus on your own rescue or
the one that you're walking towards.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
I want you to remind yourself that transformation is real,
healing is possible, and that the past does not get
to write the final chapter. Today, I'm not where I
used to be, and for that, I am thankful that
I'm never going back. I am so grateful that my
(22:32):
son and I were able to just kind of hang
out and do much of nothingness in that moment. And
it was divine that I picked up my phone and
when I opened up YouTube, that song was there. Phil Thomas,
thank you for creating such an amazing song. It's called
(22:55):
my response. Woo. What an amazing song and it's not
a new one. If you're listening to this and you're
in the middle of your own rescue, please know that
you're not alone. Your story is unfolding, and even if
it doesn't feel like it yet, healing is happening. One breath,
(23:20):
one choice, one day at a time. Don't be afraid
to let go of what no longer serves you, and.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Don't be afraid to step into.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
The freedom that is waiting for you on the other side.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
It feels so good.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Thank you for sharing this space with me today, and
if this episode spoke to your heart, share it with
someone who may need to hear it too. And as always,
keep doing your inner work, keep showing up for yourself.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
And keep it authentic.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other,
and remember you.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Are not your past.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
You are healing and you are.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Never going back.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Thank you all so much for tuning in I'm Chantei
with Authentic Talks.
Before we begin today's episode, I want to take a
moment to acknowledge the reality that many are silently living with.
Are you aware that every year, more than one in
three women experience sexual violence in their lifetime, and many
never speak up for years, In sometimes decades, domestic violence
(00:24):
affects one and four women, and far too often children
are the silent witnesses to the pain that leaves invisible scars.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
I know the story intimately.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
I was a child who endured both molestation and the
trauma of watching a mother survive domestic violence, and even
facing homelessness. But I'm still here, stronger, healed, and transformed.
Are you aware that May is Mental Health Awareness Month
(01:01):
and it's the perfect time to remind ourselves healing is
possible and that you're not alone. If you are someone
you know needs support, don't be afraid reach out. There's
the National Domestic Violence Hotline number and it is one
(01:22):
eight zero zero seven nine nine seven two three three.
Again that's one eight hundred seven nine nine. Safe Rain
is another important number that you can hold on to
or reach out to. It is a rape, Abuse and
(01:42):
Incest National network and their toll free number is one
eight hundred sixty five six hope again, that number is
one eight hundred sixty five six four six seven three.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
This episode, you, guys, is a.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Personal one, and I invite you to listen with an
open heart.
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Let's begin.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
Authentic Talks is all about authentic conversations. This show is
all about growth, love, respect, success, mind, body and spirit.
If you're looking to grow and become your authentic self,
then this is the podcast for you. And I am
your host, Chante. Welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Hi guys, welcome back to Authentic Talks. Two point oh.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
My name is Chante generally, and I am your host.
Regardless of if you're a returning listener or you're here
for the very first time tuning in, I do want
to welcome you. I do want to extend that open
invitation to all of you tuning in to hit that
subscribe button. That way, you won't miss an episode. Once
(02:51):
I upload a show, and if you enjoy the episode,
head on over to Apple Podcasts or Podchaser and leave
the show or re I do want to let you
know that you do have that open invitation to come
back again and again as you're listening to this episode
if you find that it might be helpful for a
(03:11):
family member or a friend or someone you know.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Please share the episode.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
It may help them in so many powerful ways. All right,
you guys, let's go ahead and dive on in.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
With today's episode.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
You guys, I was sitting on my couch with my
son and we were trying to find something to watch
on Netflix. We wanted to watch a movie, not a series.
As he was going through on under my Netflix account, we.
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Noticed that that's all that was popping up.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
With series and no movies, and so he said, Mom,
I'm going to switch over to dad's account. That way
we're gonna find the action movie. I picked up my
phone while he was switching over to my husband's account,
and I opened up YouTube. When I opened up YouTube,
I seen Phil Thomas my response and it was a song,
(04:05):
and I clicked it to see what it was because
I had never heard the song on YouTube. But I
had heard the song before, but I had never watched
a video. So I clicked play, and then the song
began to play, and as the lyrics were playing, I heard,
you have rescued my life and I'm never going back.
(04:30):
As it was playing, emotions began to rise up, you guys,
I felt so full, and I was trying to control
my emotions because I didn't want to start crying. And
my son start looking at me, like what is going on?
I asked him put this on the TV, so we
listened to it on TV.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
As it was.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Playing, I just was like, oh my goodness, like I
felt full, and then I couldn't control it, you guys,
I started weeping. I was crying and emotions was rising
up and it just hit me to the core. And
it wasn't sorrow, but it was a mix of joy, gratitude,
(05:10):
and release. I wasn't crying because I was broken. I
was crying because I was no longer broken. I want
to talk to you today about the power of song.
You know, sometimes music can help us to find words
our hearts can't even begin to say. As those lyrics
(05:31):
were playing, you have rescued my life and I am
never going back. I was just like, oh my goodness,
this is amazing, Like.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
I felt so good, you guys.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
It resonated with me so much, you know, and we
all realized that in our life, there's so many different seasons,
you know, we have You can categorize it as the
first quarter, second quarter, third, fourth, or you can categorize
it as you know, my preteen years, my teen years,
(06:06):
my young adult years, goes on and on, and so
you can have even more categories. I was viewing mine
from the sense of like a child, right that was
the first phase, and I've thought about my life of
how I had been through being molested and how I
was rescued out of that situation. But then another situation
(06:29):
came about, which was where we experienced my mother being
beat and having to watch her boyfriend beat her and
we weren't sure if he was gonna kill her one day,
and then just being able to see that like wow,
we were rescued out of that situation. But then another
situation presented itself, which was us becoming homeless for a while,
(06:51):
and then that situation was resolved, and then another situation
presented itself, which was, now, well, here I am with
a young adult, wishing things like I had my own apartment,
wishing that I had my own car, you know, and
being a young mother. And then once I accomplished those things,
(07:13):
then another a situation presented itself, and then each thing
that presented itself, there was a rescue, you guys, The
rescue is the moment you realize you're never going back,
And for me, the rescue was when we knew we
were never going back to her boyfriend. And sometimes they
(07:37):
say everything happens for a reason. I want to go
back to this one particular.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Day in my life as a child.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
I recall the moment that it was something horrible that happened,
and it was news of my aunt being hit by
our motorcycle and unlived on impact of that motorcycle hitting her.
That was a horrible day my family, my cousins, they
(08:06):
lost a loved one and it was.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
One of those situations.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Where my mother had to come back for us because
there was funeral arrangements that needed to be made. We
were so happy to see her and that was a
rescue for us where we were taken out of that
situation and we were able to leave with her. When
she left, again, a horrible situation happened, but yet there
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was some good that came out of that situation, which
was we were no longer going to be molested anymore,
and that's when that stopped. It was not my aunt's fault.
What happened was my mother had left so that she
could try to make a better life for us and
had left us with family. Then when we were in
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another state, she went to help a family member out,
which was her father, to take care of him because
he was sick. So we left one state, moved to
the other state, and while we were there, we ended
up meeting another situation. And in this situation, it was
where she was experiencing domestic violence by a boyfriend that
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she had. It took us going through a flood for
us to get away from him. Before the flood came,
like the waters were rising, everyone had to be evacuated.
We had to be evacuated and put in a motel.
At that time, it was me, my sister, and my
two female cousins and my mother. And for some reason,
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he was not allowed to come into that motel with
us because there was only like two beds and like
a pullout couch. We were really cramped in that place.
And that was the beginning of the rescue. Because once
we got out of that situation where the waters started
moving back and they were going down, they were rescinding, receding,
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we ended up getting a vouchure. We received a vulture
from FEMA. They assisted us with clothing, with furniture, and
we had way more after FEMA than what we had
prior to Fema. We were actually living a much better
life and we were away from him, and then that
became another rescue. The moment that I understood that we
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were never going back to him, that was the rescue.
As that song continued to play, you guys, I just
was It was like a movie playing in front of
my eyes, just flashing.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Really quick over the years of.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
How many situations that we have had in our life,
that I had had in my life that I needed
to be rescued and was waiting to be rescued, and
I knew that I needed.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
To take some form of.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Action in older years, but as a child and a
young teen, a lot of times I was under the
care of someone else. And so when the rescue came,
it was like that moment for me. And so when
I hear those lyrics, they just resonate with me, and
I just was filled with such gratitude and joy because
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you know, I survived. I am a survivor, and I
healed and it wasn't an easy journey.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
It was not easy at all.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
But the fact that I am here now able.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
To tell my story and.
Speaker 1 (11:28):
To tell you with such a full heart and to
let you know that sometimes there would be so many moments,
so many different situations, but then we have to understand
and realize that sometimes the change is already in motion,
it's already happening. And for us, it was the news
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of a flood was coming. I had no idea that
in that moment, when those waters were rising, that that
was going to be the change that we needed, that
that thing that happened in our life, you know, which
is the flood and us getting ready to lose the
very small amount of things that we had, that.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
When material possessions.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
Was going to actually turn out to be the end
of one particular struggle. Now, once I became a young adult,
you guys, I remember sitting on the curb one day
and I was watching people get out of their cars
who look like they had great jobs, and they looked
like they were just so responsible, and they were going
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inside of their apartments, and I just remember smelling the
food that they were cooking, and just having a dream
of one day having my own apartment. And I was
visualizing and just imagining myself cooking and sitting down and
eating a great meal and I also pictured myself driving
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in a car and just not having to ride the bus,
and not having to have struggle with like day to
day mil you know, and being able to open up
a refrigerator and to have like things that I really
wanted to eat, and just to have options of food
that I could actually cook. Those tiers were tears of
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gratitude that those seasons in my life are over, that
I'm past that, and that there was transformation and healing,
you guys, that had to take place. This also included forgiveness.
It was a huge part of that. When we've experienced situations,
sometimes it feels like there's no rescue, there's no help,
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there's no place to turn. And I just want to
let you know that you too can have that rescue moment.
It doesn't mean that you have to forget what you've
been through. What it really means is that it no
longer that situation or that thing no longer controls you.
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That's your rescue moment, the moment you realize that. The
other day, I was on Facebook and I had shared
a post about that case with Cassie and uh with
Sean Cones, and I was talking about how we shouldn't
be so quick to be judgmental and to say that
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she's trying to get a money grab. I was simply
wanting to share that we want to understand how difficult
it is for someone to speak up when they've gone
through sexual abuse or physical abuse of any sort. It's
hard to talk about those things, and when a woman
speaks up, we have to allow her to share her truth,
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and we don't want to bash and make it hard
for the next woman, the next little girl, the next
little boy to stand up and speak their truth. I
was not.
Speaker 2 (14:53):
Surprised to hear that others.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
Had experienced that from family members, some form of sexual abuse,
and that some are still struggling and that it's like
torn their life apart. I want to speak to you.
I want to speak to the person, the woman, the
little girl, the little boy who's gone through trauma that's
now a grown man or a grown woman, or maybe
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you're in your teen years, regardless of your age, if
you've experienced trauma like molestation and you have hidden scars
to anyone who's past they want to escape from, I
really really want to talk to you. I want to
let you know that these things do not have to
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take control over your life where it's controlling you. At
one point, I was afraid to talk about this on
my podcast because I had heard people saying things like
people who who worm mounlested as children are sick and
they end up being the same way, And I was like,
that is not true. And because of that judgment until
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mindset are the comments that I would hear or people make,
or that I would read. It had put me in
a position where I was like, I don't even want
to talk about that because I don't want people to
think I'm like that. But at this point, you can't
even shut me up. I don't care what people think
or what they say. I'm telling you that healing is possible.
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There's all sorts of ways that you can do this.
There's counseling that you could go through, there's therapy that
you can go through. The one thing that you should
never ever do, though, is not speak on it. That's
taking away your sense of peace, it's taking away your healing.
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And for those who think that people who have gone
through trauma that they're sick and that they never can heal,
I'm here to let you know that it's absolutely untrue.
People can heal, people can be set free, and people
can end up helping other people people through their journey
of healing and transformation. It is so important for you
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to understand that you don't have to stay in that
place that broke you. The rescue may not come with
flashing lights. It may not come in the form that
you think.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
That it should, where you're gonna.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
Feel good about yourself or your situation every single day.
Sometimes it comes like in a quiet moment. Sometimes it
comes through words in a song. Sometimes it comes when
you're sitting on a couch listening to a song that
changes things. It changes everything, and it makes you realize
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that you are free, that you've been set free, and
that no one no longer has control over you. I
had gone through my journey of transformation and healing, and
I felt really like I was healed. But what I
didn't understand is there was times when I.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Would speak about this and it would come.
Speaker 1 (18:07):
From such an emotional place where tears would come up.
Speaker 4 (18:12):
And today when I heard those words, when I heard
those words you guys, something else kicked in. When I
heard you have rescued my life and I'm never going back,
I understood I was no longer crying.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
Because I was broken.
Speaker 1 (18:34):
That's what I understood, you guys, and I understood that
I was crying because I was no longer broken, and
that song helped me to put that into context and
to put that into words that made sense.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
Regardless of what your.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
Situation may be, it doesn't have to be that it's
a sexual molestation situation. It does not have to be
that you're going through or have gone through witnessing someone
go through domestic abuse or violence of some sort like
I did as a child. It could be something that
you're dealing with now as an adult. I don't know
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what it could be exactly for you, but I want
you to know that give yourself permission to speak your truth,
even if your voice shakes. Give yourself permission to express
what you've been through, whether it's through journaling, through prayer,
or really speaking with a trusted friend, a therapist. I
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want you to know that your story matters. Speaking it
begins the process of reclaiming your power. And one of
the things that you'd never want to do is silence
your voice.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
That voice is.
Speaker 1 (19:51):
Connected to our throat chakra, and you definitely want to
make sure that that throat chakra is open, and that
starts with speaking your truth. Speak your truth. The next
thing that you're going to have to do is create
a daily anchor. Now, this means that you're gonna need
to find one small thing each day that reminds you
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that you.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Are not where you used to be.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
This could be a song, this could be a quote.
It could be a short walk, or even a mirror
filled with affirmations. The affirmations could be something like this,
I am healing, I am whole. I am not going back.
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For those of you who have not begun that journey
and who feel like you're walking towards the rescue, I
want to remind you, don't rush the rescue, but keep
walking towards it. Freedom may not come all at once,
but every small step matters. It mattered for me, every
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small step. And we're all different, but one thing we
all have in common is that we're all human. That
matters so much, you guys. One example that I can
share is therapy and counseling might work for someone, someone
else might find another avenue that will be helpful for them.
It's important for you to take those small steps that's
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going to help you to get there. And I want
you to celebrate each sign of growth. Celebrate every single
sign of growth you have to do that. We call
that celebrating our wins. I want you to know that
it's super important for you to set those boundaries. You
can simply get used to saying no when you really
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don't mean yes. You have to say no. That is
you setting your boundaries, and it's choosing yourself now. That
is the rescue unfolding. That is that rescue unfolding. Okay.
I want you to focus on your own rescue or
the one that you're walking towards.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
I want you to remind yourself that transformation is real,
healing is possible, and that the past does not get
to write the final chapter. Today, I'm not where I
used to be, and for that, I am thankful that
I'm never going back. I am so grateful that my
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son and I were able to just kind of hang
out and do much of nothingness in that moment. And
it was divine that I picked up my phone and
when I opened up YouTube, that song was there. Phil Thomas,
thank you for creating such an amazing song. It's called
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my response. Woo. What an amazing song and it's not
a new one. If you're listening to this and you're
in the middle of your own rescue, please know that
you're not alone. Your story is unfolding, and even if
it doesn't feel like it yet, healing is happening. One breath,
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one choice, one day at a time. Don't be afraid
to let go of what no longer serves you, and.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Don't be afraid to step into.
Speaker 1 (23:31):
The freedom that is waiting for you on the other side.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
It feels so good.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Thank you for sharing this space with me today, and
if this episode spoke to your heart, share it with
someone who may need to hear it too. And as always,
keep doing your inner work, keep showing up for yourself.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
And keep it authentic.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Until next time, take care of yourselves and each other,
and remember you.
Speaker 2 (24:00):
Are not your past.
Speaker 1 (24:02):
You are healing and you are.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Never going back.
Speaker 1 (24:06):
Thank you all so much for tuning in I'm Chantei
with Authentic Talks.
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