April 9, 2023 • 9 mins
"Be Better Bit-By-Bit" is a unique self-transformation platform.
In this episode, Nishith speaks about the difference between 'To Ignore' and 'Be Ignorant' He links the choice of "to ignore" to our better relationships and as a secret sauce to managing them.
"Be Better Bit-By-Bit" platform's members call themselves "Improvers," and the endeavor is to help each other and grow as a community and, in due course, progress in our personal lives too. Whatever your goals are, this platform and the activities will ensure a sustained and compassionate change in your beliefs and attitude. That will help you grow big in life and achieve whatever you wish for.
Join us and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube. If you wish to become an Improver, you can drop me a message, and I will send you the group invite link.
Intro and background credits:
Cherry Monday by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cherry-monday
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Wish Background by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4633-wish-background
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/be-better-bit-by-bit--4216679/support.
Thanks for listening!
If this episode helped you, I'd love to stay connected.
About me: I'm a CA ranker (AIR 48), ultra-marathon runner, and author with 20 years of work experience. I believe in getting better bit by bit—through daily journaling, honest reflection, and small actions.
Here's how we can work together:
📱 Download UPLY - Our app for daily growth and mindfulness
📚 Read my books & journals - Available on Amazon (search my name - Nishith Goyal)
🌐 Visit bebetterbitbybit.com - Free resources, blog posts, and more
🎯 Join my workshops - I teach journaling, mental wellness, and the GATE concept
One bit at a time, we all get better.
See you in the next episode!
In this episode, Nishith speaks about the difference between 'To Ignore' and 'Be Ignorant' He links the choice of "to ignore" to our better relationships and as a secret sauce to managing them.
"Be Better Bit-By-Bit" platform's members call themselves "Improvers," and the endeavor is to help each other and grow as a community and, in due course, progress in our personal lives too. Whatever your goals are, this platform and the activities will ensure a sustained and compassionate change in your beliefs and attitude. That will help you grow big in life and achieve whatever you wish for.
Join us and follow us on Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, and YouTube. If you wish to become an Improver, you can drop me a message, and I will send you the group invite link.
Intro and background credits:
Cherry Monday by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3495-cherry-monday
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Wish Background by Kevin MacLeod
Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/4633-wish-background
License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/be-better-bit-by-bit--4216679/support.
Thanks for listening!
If this episode helped you, I'd love to stay connected.
About me: I'm a CA ranker (AIR 48), ultra-marathon runner, and author with 20 years of work experience. I believe in getting better bit by bit—through daily journaling, honest reflection, and small actions.
Here's how we can work together:
📱 Download UPLY - Our app for daily growth and mindfulness
📚 Read my books & journals - Available on Amazon (search my name - Nishith Goyal)
🌐 Visit bebetterbitbybit.com - Free resources, blog posts, and more
🎯 Join my workshops - I teach journaling, mental wellness, and the GATE concept
One bit at a time, we all get better.
See you in the next episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hi improvers, Welcome to the Be Better Bait by Bait podcast.
I'm your host, Mischit Goyel and the creator of this
unique self development platform called be Better Bait by Bit.
Welcome to the episode fifty one and a new perspective. Today,
I'm going to talk about how knowing the difference between
(00:27):
to ignore and be ignorant can change your life. A
monkey was carrying two handful of Peas one little pe
dropped out, he tried to pick it up and split twenty.
He tried to pick up the twenty and split them all.
(00:48):
Then he lost his temper, scattered the piece in all
the directions, and ran away. This is by Leo Tolstoy,
to ignore or ignorance? What will you choose? To ignore?
Is a choice, and when we exercise this choice, we
often lead to making better connections and better decisions. Ignorance, though,
(01:14):
is a bliss, but ignorance resulting from a lack of
effort is a big flaw, and this flaw leads to
poor decision making and actions. Now, as per this website
called Socratic dot Orgy, while both ignore and ignorant have
similar etymologies, their meaning has diverged throughout their development. While
(01:36):
ignore refers to not paying attention to something, ignorance refers
to a lack of knowledge of something. When exercised at
the right time, the choice of to ignore will help
you control the situation and take the right steps. Now,
let me speak about relationships and the power of to ignore. Now,
(02:02):
relationships surround us all we be it with our parents,
living partners, of his, colleagues, skides, friends, be it societies
or ourselves. We also enter into relationship with strangers by
just being near to them. The passenger sitting next to
you on the bus or the flight. The person ahead
(02:22):
and behind you in the queue, a group of friends
of family staying in the at distant room of the
hotel where you two are vacationing with your family. The
guide on your tracking expedition, the driver, a pilot, a
conductor and attendant, a server, the person at the reception.
We are in a relationship with all of these people.
(02:45):
These relationships need to be managed. Relationships are not meant
to run on autopilot. Every relationship needs an investment of time, effort, love, compassion,
and understanding. Relationships do not always yield the right momentum.
Sometimes when the ride is rough, and correct solutions are
(03:07):
not in sight. One of the key ingredients to having
a smooth ride is to ignore. To make that choice, friends,
to ignore is a secret ingredient. Managing relationships is a
tough ask. We expect so much from the other person.
(03:27):
We believe we know the other person by making assumptions
and applying our judgmental head. Every day I recall a
tough ten to twelve months in my relationship. The complications
of managing a married life while staying far from each
other are always challenging. The expectation from each other increases.
(03:51):
Multifold love, faith, passion, compassion, understanding, empathy, trust all together
also sometimes can't help why because we both are different.
We both are unique, We both have different emotions, expectations,
and ideas. We both have different styles of living the
(04:12):
only life we have, and we both have egos, and
such differences make managing relationships even tougher. In hindsight, I
feel we are we were fortunate that the tough period
did not last long, and during this phase, it was
not the usual components of a successful relationship that worked. Instead,
(04:35):
In hindsight, I believe it was the power of to
ignore and the choice of choosing to ignore that helped
both of us. Ignore the expectations. Ignore if the other
person makes a mistake, Ignore if the person forgets something important.
Ignore the shortcomings, ignore the wrong, ignore the flaw, and
(05:00):
make a choice to ignore the differences. In his popular
book The forty eight Laws of Power, Robert Green puts
it so so aptly. By acknowledging a petty problem, you
give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay
an enemy, the stronger you make him, and a small
(05:21):
mistake is often made worse and more visible when you
try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone.
If there is something you want but cannot have, show
contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more
superior you seem. Friends, Now, how is this too? Ignore
is available in our daily lives foromo, the fear of
(05:45):
missing out. It pushes us to know more, be aware
of everything happening around us. Listen what, readnews constantly being
over Twitter, feed, etc. Smart and successful people don't claim
to be aware of everything, but they are not ignorant.
When you choose to ignore fomo, you choose to free
up time and energy. When you choose to ignore dead time,
(06:10):
you choose to invest in a lifetime. When you choose
to ignore other's opinion, you choose to be free. When
you choose to ignore comparisons and judgments, you choose to
create a better world. Remove ignorance from your life. If
to ignore is a choice, you also need to make
(06:30):
a choice of removing ignorance from your life. But unfortunately,
ignorance is unavoidable. But that doesn't mean that we can't
help ourselves out of it. Consider the falling ignorance, ignorance
of self, ignorance of open mind, ignorance of growth mindset,
(06:52):
ignorance of our mind's power, ignorance of knowledge. Of These
ignorances are not a conscious choice. They are a result
of our busy lives, lives full of constant thrill of
keeping ourselves engaged and occupied. Resolving these ignorances is against
(07:15):
the flow We all are running in our default settings,
and to challenge these default settings to counter ignorance is difficult,
but it is achievable. To ignore is a choice. Likewise,
resolving ignorance is also a choice. Ignore but don't be ignored.
Robert Green summarizes this by painting a beautiful picture. He
(07:38):
calls it the tiny wounds. It is small, but painful
and irritating. You try all sorts of medicaments. You complain,
You scratch and pick at the scab. Doctors only make
it worse, transforming the tiny wound into a grave matter.
If only you had left the wound alone, letting time
heal it and freeing yourself of worry. Friends, to challenge
(08:03):
ignorance means to challenge all your existing assumptions at once.
All of our relationships need this constant doze off to
ignore medicine, be it at home with your spouse, parents, siblings,
at the workplace, with colleagues, friends, reporting managers, partners, or
with complete strangers. When we learn to ignore, we allow
(08:25):
the relationships to yield good and accrue the right results.
Choose to ignore things that lead to confusion and consumption
of your positive energy. But while you choose to ignore,
always remind yourself not to fall prey to ignorance. Relationships
(08:45):
need a delicate balance between to ignore and avoiding ignorance.
If you can work it out well, your relationships will
grow healthy and yield the best outcomes. Thanks for joining friends,
Now join me in the next episode be Better bit
by bait Waever will continue to explore more such interesting
perspectives and the Bait by Bit philosophy to life. My
(09:09):
two books, Be Better Bit by Bit and My Daily
Five Minute Gratitude Journal, are available on a Mazon and
various other online and offline stores, so grab your copies
and leave me your feedback. Also, two other books are
coming soon, so hold on tight because your journal writing
journey is going to change untill next time. Bye bye,
(09:30):
Let's be Better Bait by Bit
Hi improvers, Welcome to the Be Better Bait by Bait podcast.
I'm your host, Mischit Goyel and the creator of this
unique self development platform called be Better Bait by Bit.
Welcome to the episode fifty one and a new perspective. Today,
I'm going to talk about how knowing the difference between
(00:27):
to ignore and be ignorant can change your life. A
monkey was carrying two handful of Peas one little pe
dropped out, he tried to pick it up and split twenty.
He tried to pick up the twenty and split them all.
(00:48):
Then he lost his temper, scattered the piece in all
the directions, and ran away. This is by Leo Tolstoy,
to ignore or ignorance? What will you choose? To ignore?
Is a choice, and when we exercise this choice, we
often lead to making better connections and better decisions. Ignorance, though,
(01:14):
is a bliss, but ignorance resulting from a lack of
effort is a big flaw, and this flaw leads to
poor decision making and actions. Now, as per this website
called Socratic dot Orgy, while both ignore and ignorant have
similar etymologies, their meaning has diverged throughout their development. While
(01:36):
ignore refers to not paying attention to something, ignorance refers
to a lack of knowledge of something. When exercised at
the right time, the choice of to ignore will help
you control the situation and take the right steps. Now,
let me speak about relationships and the power of to ignore. Now,
(02:02):
relationships surround us all we be it with our parents,
living partners, of his, colleagues, skides, friends, be it societies
or ourselves. We also enter into relationship with strangers by
just being near to them. The passenger sitting next to
you on the bus or the flight. The person ahead
(02:22):
and behind you in the queue, a group of friends
of family staying in the at distant room of the
hotel where you two are vacationing with your family. The
guide on your tracking expedition, the driver, a pilot, a
conductor and attendant, a server, the person at the reception.
We are in a relationship with all of these people.
(02:45):
These relationships need to be managed. Relationships are not meant
to run on autopilot. Every relationship needs an investment of time, effort, love, compassion,
and understanding. Relationships do not always yield the right momentum.
Sometimes when the ride is rough, and correct solutions are
(03:07):
not in sight. One of the key ingredients to having
a smooth ride is to ignore. To make that choice, friends,
to ignore is a secret ingredient. Managing relationships is a
tough ask. We expect so much from the other person.
(03:27):
We believe we know the other person by making assumptions
and applying our judgmental head. Every day I recall a
tough ten to twelve months in my relationship. The complications
of managing a married life while staying far from each
other are always challenging. The expectation from each other increases.
(03:51):
Multifold love, faith, passion, compassion, understanding, empathy, trust all together
also sometimes can't help why because we both are different.
We both are unique, We both have different emotions, expectations,
and ideas. We both have different styles of living the
(04:12):
only life we have, and we both have egos, and
such differences make managing relationships even tougher. In hindsight, I
feel we are we were fortunate that the tough period
did not last long, and during this phase, it was
not the usual components of a successful relationship that worked. Instead,
(04:35):
In hindsight, I believe it was the power of to
ignore and the choice of choosing to ignore that helped
both of us. Ignore the expectations. Ignore if the other
person makes a mistake, Ignore if the person forgets something important.
Ignore the shortcomings, ignore the wrong, ignore the flaw, and
(05:00):
make a choice to ignore the differences. In his popular
book The forty eight Laws of Power, Robert Green puts
it so so aptly. By acknowledging a petty problem, you
give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay
an enemy, the stronger you make him, and a small
(05:21):
mistake is often made worse and more visible when you
try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone.
If there is something you want but cannot have, show
contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more
superior you seem. Friends, Now, how is this too? Ignore
is available in our daily lives foromo, the fear of
(05:45):
missing out. It pushes us to know more, be aware
of everything happening around us. Listen what, readnews constantly being
over Twitter, feed, etc. Smart and successful people don't claim
to be aware of everything, but they are not ignorant.
When you choose to ignore fomo, you choose to free
up time and energy. When you choose to ignore dead time,
(06:10):
you choose to invest in a lifetime. When you choose
to ignore other's opinion, you choose to be free. When
you choose to ignore comparisons and judgments, you choose to
create a better world. Remove ignorance from your life. If
to ignore is a choice, you also need to make
(06:30):
a choice of removing ignorance from your life. But unfortunately,
ignorance is unavoidable. But that doesn't mean that we can't
help ourselves out of it. Consider the falling ignorance, ignorance
of self, ignorance of open mind, ignorance of growth mindset,
(06:52):
ignorance of our mind's power, ignorance of knowledge. Of These
ignorances are not a conscious choice. They are a result
of our busy lives, lives full of constant thrill of
keeping ourselves engaged and occupied. Resolving these ignorances is against
(07:15):
the flow We all are running in our default settings,
and to challenge these default settings to counter ignorance is difficult,
but it is achievable. To ignore is a choice. Likewise,
resolving ignorance is also a choice. Ignore but don't be ignored.
Robert Green summarizes this by painting a beautiful picture. He
(07:38):
calls it the tiny wounds. It is small, but painful
and irritating. You try all sorts of medicaments. You complain,
You scratch and pick at the scab. Doctors only make
it worse, transforming the tiny wound into a grave matter.
If only you had left the wound alone, letting time
heal it and freeing yourself of worry. Friends, to challenge
(08:03):
ignorance means to challenge all your existing assumptions at once.
All of our relationships need this constant doze off to
ignore medicine, be it at home with your spouse, parents, siblings,
at the workplace, with colleagues, friends, reporting managers, partners, or
with complete strangers. When we learn to ignore, we allow
(08:25):
the relationships to yield good and accrue the right results.
Choose to ignore things that lead to confusion and consumption
of your positive energy. But while you choose to ignore,
always remind yourself not to fall prey to ignorance. Relationships
(08:45):
need a delicate balance between to ignore and avoiding ignorance.
If you can work it out well, your relationships will
grow healthy and yield the best outcomes. Thanks for joining friends,
Now join me in the next episode be Better bit
by bait Waever will continue to explore more such interesting
perspectives and the Bait by Bit philosophy to life. My
(09:09):
two books, Be Better Bit by Bit and My Daily
Five Minute Gratitude Journal, are available on a Mazon and
various other online and offline stores, so grab your copies
and leave me your feedback. Also, two other books are
coming soon, so hold on tight because your journal writing
journey is going to change untill next time. Bye bye,
(09:30):
Let's be Better Bait by Bit
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