WHEN WORDS HURT: What God Wants Me to Know/ Episode 93

We are all human and we make mistakes. We hurt people and people hurt us. I recently was hurt by another's words, and I want to share what God is saying to me. What He wants me to know when words hurt.

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Episode Transcript

(00:03):
Hi friends, I'm Laura, andwelcome to my podcast, Her Journey Towards
Change. This is a faith basedlife coaching podcast for women who, like
me, are on a journey tolive the best life possible. And then
something happens, something unforeseen, andeverything changes. Life feels foreign and you
feel stuck and it's difficult to moveforward and reaching out can be hard.

(00:29):
Right. Believe me, I knowif this is you, this podcast is
for you. I don't claim tohave all the answers, but I know
who does. God wants more forus, for you and for me.
You are created to live your bestlife, So I hope you will go
on this journey with me to amore positive perspective and take those hard steps

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together through Her Journey Towards Change.Together, let's break through the barriers which
are holding us back from achieving whatGod has called us to be. So
let's go, and I hope youwill go on this journey with me.

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Hello everyone, and welcome back tothe podcast. I am Laura, your
host, and you are listening toHer Journey Towards Change life coaching podcast,
and here you will find encouragement tolive life throughout the week, Throughout the
days, throughout the years, throughoutthe months, just life in general,

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tips and tricks and encouraging words tohelp motivate you and myself to just move
forward in a positive direction in away that God wants us to. So
today is June thirtieth, and itis the last day of June, and
tomorrow's July first, and as thestart of a brand new month. And

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I love July for so many differentreasons. Fourth of July is a great
holiday, and I hope all ofyou have a great one. But today
I want to talk about something thatI think we all go through it.
We've all done it, We've allhad it done to us because we are
humans. Just face the fact that'swho we are. We're human, and

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we're imperfect humans. We have flaws. So today's episode is number ninety three.
I don't even I don't even havea title for it. But if
I could give it a title,it would be something like when words hurt,
what can you do? I meansomething like that. I have no

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idea, but I recently had wordshurt me and I will admit I'm a
sensitive person, which means I takethings personally. I cry. Yeah,
Yeah, I'm a crier, butthat's okay. All of us are different,

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and maybe you're not a type thetype of person to cry. Maybe
you'll hold things in and dwell onit internally. For me, I cry,
and I'm a talker, and Ireally see emotions, and it's okay
to have all those emotions as longas you are not doing anything wrong when

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it's happening. So I want totalk a little bit about when words hurt
me, what I'm learning to do, and maybe it'll be helpful for you
as well. You know, II when the words hurt me. I

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sat there with the feeling of thesting of someone else's hurtful words or actions,
and I couldn't help but let thepain seep into my heart. It's
a familiar ache that you know.It makes me question my worth and brings
tears to my eyes sometimes, Andin these moments, I find comfort in
turning to my faith and seeking guidancefrom God. He's really the only one

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that can get me through it.He usually is the only one that can
get me through it. So whenthis happens, I pause, I take
a deep breath, and I tryto still the mixed emotions that are going
in inside of me. You know, it's all internal, my head,
my body, you name it,it's there. And I remind myself that

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God's love is unwavering, even inthe face of hurtful words. And in
these moments of reflection, I tryto understand what God wants me to know.
What does God want me to knowwhen this is happening? And this
is what this is what I'm startingto learn as of recently. God wants

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me to know that I am notdefined by the hurtful words or actions of
others. I'm not defined by it. My worth and value comes from within
from the unique spirit that lives inme. I am loved just as I

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am with all my strengths and allmy imperfections. God wants me to know
that forgiveness is a powerful tool.Holding on to anger and resentment only weighs
me down and it keeps me fromgrowing. It hinders my growth. So
by choosing to forgive, I freemyself from the burdens of negativity and I

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open my heart to healing. Godwants me to know that empathy is key.
Maybe maybe the person who hurt meand the person the people in the
past that have hurt me, Maybethey're going through a struggle of their own.
Maybe they have their own pain.Maybe their actions were reflection of their

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own and inner turmoil. I don'tknow, But rather than retaliating, I'm
learning that I can choose compassion andI can seek understanding. I think God
wants me to know that I amnever alone. I am never alone in
times of hurt. It's easy tofeel isolated and alone and misunderstood, but

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God is always there offering comfort,giving me strength, and giving me the
guidance that I need. So throughprayer and connection with my faith community,
my church, family, and friends, I can find support and enouragement.
God wants me to know that growthand transformation often comes from the most challenging

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experiences. And boy are they challengingsometimes. I mean, you know,
sometimes I wonder, Okay, canI go through anything worse than this?
And sure enough, yes, thereis always something worse that you can go
through. But it is through thesestruggles that I discover my own resilience and

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my ability to arise above the painand become stronger than before. Every single
time, so far, I amstronger than I was before, and God
believes in me and my ability.I think to overcome. So I reflect
on these truths and the weight ofthe hurt. They start to lift,

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and a tiny spark of hope appears, and I'm reminded that I am loved
and that my worth is not It'snot defined by the hurtful words or actions
of someone else. It's not.In this moment, I choose to embrace
God's wisdom, and I find thestrength to move forward through his love,

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through his forgiveness, through empathy,and through faith. So for me to
let go of the hurt and findinner peace, I have to recognize the
importance of taking proactive steps. Sohere are a few things that have been
helpful recently for me. I amstarting to acknowledge and I'm starting to learn

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how to process the pain. Ithink it's important, very important, to
allow myself to acknowledge and honor thepain that I'm feeling, rather than holding
it in and keeping it buried ordenying it. I give myself permission to
feel and express my emotions. Andagain I say, I'm a crier.

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Believe me, I'm a crier.I can cry the silent tears, I
can cry the loud, moaning,groaning tears of crying because I feel the
pain, So I just want youto know that it is okay to feel
that. Rather than holding it in, just feel it. I think this

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can be done through like things.For me, I like to write,
so I journal, I talk toa good friend, and I talk to
my therapist. Yes, I havea therapist. She's been there for me
through thick and thin, and Itruly appreciate everything that she's done for me.

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And I pray. I definitely prayto God, and I also engage
in activities that provide emotional release,such as exercising, taking walks. Let
me tell you, when I'm angry, I can start off at such a
fast pace. I can get somewherefast, but by the time I'm done

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with that walk, I'm slowed downand my pace is slower because I'm healing
inside through that walk. So Ijust wanted to share those few things with
you. I also sit sometimes,I just like to sit in the quiet
and listen to nature. God cantalk to me in so many different ways,

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but nature is definitely one of thoseways that he speaks to me.
And another way that I am learningto do this is practicing self care and
self compassion, which I think healingit requires. There's nurturing and self care,

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and I think we have to facethe pain head on and start processing
these things. And you know,I'm not good at self care. I'm
good at nurturing others when they needit, but when it comes to myself,
I'm not good at it. SoI'm learning to do that, taking
care of my own needs and treatingmyself with compassion and creating an environment for

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healing so that I can let goof the hurt and not hold on to
it. So I think by takingsome of these steps, I actively participate
my own healing process and gradually releasingthe burden of hurt and embracing you a
renewed sense of peace and resilience.And I think you can do this as

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well. Last, but not least, I pray. That is one of
my frequent ways that I do thisoften. I pray when I drive,
I pray when I'm folding clothes.I pray when I'm taking care of my
dog. I pray when I'm washingdishes. I mean, you know,

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you don't have to have your eyesclosed when you pray. People, you
can pray any way you want.God's going to hear you. He's going
to hear your heart. So Ipray. I pray for the other person,
I pray for myself, and Ipray for anyone else in between that's
or anyone behind or moving forward thatmay be affected or hurt by this circumstance.

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I always pray, and I readmy Bible, and I always have
verses that I research and look upthat are very comforting, And of course
I will have one for you today. The one that speaks to me of
value and worth for everyone is inPsalm one nine fourteen, and it says,

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I pray raise you because I amfearfully and wonderfully made. Your works
are wonderful. I know that fullwell, And you know this first reminds
me in us that we are fearfullyand wonderfully made by God. It clearly
affirms our uniqueness and affirms that weare special. We are special people to

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Him. It serves us as abeautiful reminder that our value is not determined
by the opinions or actions of anyoneelse, and it is inherent in our
very We are created by the lovinghand of our God. So I just

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wanted to share some of these thingswith you today. If and you know
this doesn't just go for someone thathas hurt us with words. This can
go for others who we have hurtwith our words. Like I said,
I'm not perfect, never will be. The only way I'm going to be

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perfect is through the grace of God, and He is the one that makes
me perfect and being flawed as Iam. Yes, I hurt other people.
My words hurt, my actions hurt, and I try so hard to
be very careful, but still Ido hurt others. So all of these

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things that I just said that Itry to do when someone hurts me,
this goes for those that I hurtas well. I hope that and pray
that as time goes on, Ihurt less people and I hurt. I
hope that less people hurt me becausewe're living in a world today that it's

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a me and mine when it needsto be a wee in us and we
need to be united, which justall there is to it. We need
to be united, and as manythings that we can be united in,
we're all going to be. Youhave differences, and that's okay. God
made us uniquely different and we don'thave to agree on everything, and we
don't have to fit someone's mold tomeet their expectations, and we don't have

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to have high expectations of others tofit our needs. We just need to
be understanding and kind and try tofigure out what it is that we can
do to be a loving person.So that's all I wanted to share in
my heart today. I hope thatit was helpful for you. I know

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it was for me. God putsthese things on my heart because things happen
to me, and when things happento me, I just have that I
have that desire to share it withothers because if it's happening to me,
I know it's going to happen toyou if it has them already, Because
we're human where people, we makemistakes. That's that's that's just the way

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it is. But we can makethe best of every situation, can't we.
So I hope you take these wordsand they have been helpful for you,
and I hope you come back nextweek. I don't know what I'm
going to be talking about, soyou are more than welcome to send me
suggestions on which you would like tohear on this podcast. I'm open to

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anything, So just share with mewhat you'd love to hear. You can
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would love that. I would lovea review here there. I never asked
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words are helping you, and feelfree to share it with others. And
until next time, Love you guys,