EP. #6: Resetting after Traveling

In this episode, we share the best ways we can rebalance and get back into life after vacation.



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Episode Transcript

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This week, a hot new bombshellenters the villa. I'm Shanya. I'm
a content creator and a manic moneyspender. I'm Valerie. I'm a serial
entrepreneur and recovering perfectionists. We're hereto bring you life in wellness tips,
tricks and hacks from experts and ourpersonal experiences. This is the Hawk Girls

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Cry Podcast. Thank you guys,thanks for listening. As always, we're
going to start off with our gratefuls. Val what are you grateful for?

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I am grateful for this new studionight and just to all the support that
we've had and being able to dosomething that we love together love. I
am grateful for the summer because Iyeah, I like the season. Even

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though it's hottest shit in Texas,It's summer. You know, it's summer,
So I'm grateful for that. Speakingof summer, today's episode is all
about how we recover from a vacation, which is such an interesting topic for
us because I feel like we functionvery differently on vacation and how we recover

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from vacation and all of that.So I feel like it's interesting to get
both of our perspectives. Yeah,like our pre entron post vacation is like,
yeah, two different ways of functioningin life, Yes, one hundred
percent, one hundred percent. SoI guess I'll start off with my first
little tip. My first thing thatfor me when I get home from a

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vacation is I like to have atleast a day where I don't have to
do anything. It just kind ofto put my mindset back that I'm at
home now, we're about to startup again, we're about to get it
together. So kind of like avacation from my vacation, just like a
day where I can or day ortwo that I can decompress and just take

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things really slow and get back toit. And I know that's also because
I have no kids and not atraditional job and all of that, so
that obviously plays a part. Butif you can schedule into your vacation another
vacation to get everything in order,for me, that really helps. Yeah,

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I agree, And I think myfirst hip would be getting back into
routine the next day. For me, I don't think I ever come home
and have a whole day empty daythe next day, because I'm usually like,
what's the longest I can stay onvacation and then come back and get
straight back into it. And soI think typically it's like I land at

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like six pm and then the nextmorning it's like back to work. So
for me, it's helps to almostget straight back into routine the next day
because it's like just kind of reallythrowing you in at the deep end,
rip the bandit off, yeah,and then it's like you'll have probably one
painful day, especially if there waslike a time difference or whatever, but
then the next day you're just kindof back at it and so doing that,

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but it also takes preparation to dothat, Like you can't just come
back and like I feel like youhave to have prepped before the trip in
order to come back and just diveright in. Yeah, to get back
immediately into the flow of things.I feel like my ADHD brain, my
head is just so scrambled that Ikind of just need to come back and

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process for a second. But I'malso a procrastinator because of my ADHD,
so that might just be going handin hand with that. My next little
tip I think would be on thatreset day for me, I like to
grocery shop, meal prep apartment,reset, wash my bedding, do all

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of that stuff so that it kindof gets me prep to kind of just
jump back into things, just doall the little things that I need to
do. But also I cannot functionwith my apartment being any type of dirty.
And I also usually wait last minuteto pack, so I know,
like things are just kind of goingto be in a disarray when I come
home. As much as I wantto be the type of person to pack

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early and clean my entire apartment beforeI leave, it's usually clean to a
level, but I always need todo at least a couple of things to
just kind of get it fresh again, to restart on my routine and everything.
Yeah, my next tip would besimilar because I want I like to
come home immediately empty my suitcase intothe washer. Doesn't matter if it's clean

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or not. I just feel like, oh yeah, everything goes back in
Okay. Yeah, even though likeI will separate it dirty and clean in
my suitcase, it will all goin the water. Wow. Okay.
I think it's because it just doesn'tI like home, like it'll smell like
wherever you stay it or like vacation, and like that's weird to me,
and like I don't know, soI always just like everything goes back in

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Okay. Yeah, but I makea point when when I'm packing from vacation,
like to pack it dirty and cleanfor absolutely no reason, like I
don't want the dirty clothes to touchthe clean clothes, but then they all
get throughund the washer, but thenthey all touch in the washing. Yeah,
but definitely that. And then alsojust like tidying up the house where
so you can wake up to aclean because like I typically have to wake

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up and go straight back into work, and so I like to be able
to wake up like the dishes havebeen done, everything's tidy. Fortunately,
my husband does make a point todo a really good clean whenever I do
come back from traveling. That's likehis go to time to like just get
things clean, because otherwise I typicallyjust clean the house like daily tasks.
But when I come back from vacation, he's typically done like a really nice

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deep clean, which is nice.That is super nice. Major points,
aid a major points. Yeah,we'll give him those. Yeah. I
would say My next thing would beself care. So planes can really drought
your skin and just you're usually kindof off of your wellness see self carry

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routines. So I'll do like aface mask and take a bath or something
like that, just kind of gettingback into like my wellness sea stuff so
that I can continue it once I'mhome. Yeah, I definitely come home
and have like an everything shower likeI do an like a scrub. I
would definitely wash my hair and likeI also let my hair get ready to

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be washed because I feel like thelast couple of days of vacation it's like,
okay, we're dirty anyways, andthen you have like the plane air.
Yeah, the plane air is notgood air. Yeah. And I
think just out of after COVID too, Like I was traveling for work a
lot during lockdown, and so Ithink I just like really paranoid and I
was like, Okay, immediately showereverything off. Second, Yeah, they
are poor as to be like theworld's most journey please. Yeah. No,

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don't love it. So I definitelyhave to cleanse from that. Yeah.
I feel that a nice like everythingshowers prime. I hope that.
I feel like that helps with thereset too, Like you can get into
your own bed like nice and freshand clean. Yeah. Do you like
how you feel post vacation. Doyou come back feeling like excited and like

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ready for your routine and all ofthat, or do you think it's kind
of hard to get back into it. I think I've gotten better about it.
I think for a long time runningthe businesses, I didn't vacation well.
I spent the majority of the vacationanxious or halfway like connected to work
and like checking in and just mentallyworking. So I never really got like

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the full rest that I needed.So I would come back like ready to
work to like basically calm the anxiety, but I wouldn't have felt rested.
Like now that I've been in businesslonger and I have a bigger team and
I'm able to check out a lotmore, I am able to like fully
check out so much better and thencome back and actually feel good coming back.

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So I feel like that last tripthat we had when we went to
Miami, like that was probably thebest like vacation mentally I've had in a
while, Like took the full weekoff fully checked out. Actually I don't
think I even mentioned work. Therewas like a couple of things that came
up here and there that like didn'tcause it like spiraling downfall, But then
I was able to come back andget back to work feeling like I had

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taken a vacation. Yeah, Ican see that, because just vacationing with
you from the start of our friendshipto now I was not fun. It
was so fun. First of all, I'm here for any of that conversation,
whether it be work related or not. I want to hear about it
all. But it was just crazyto kind of see you only work like

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thirty minutes a day, which forme is still like that's my max.
I work on vacation just literally thebare minimum. But my job relies on
me, not a bunch of peoplelike yours does. So yeah, I
was like, okay, growth,we love to see it. Yeah,
And I think which would be mynext tip is just the prep for the

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vacation makes a really big difference tothe comeback, because I think when I
used to take a vacation, itwas when I had already got to a
point where I was like, we'relosing our mind. We need a vacation.
And because it would be so urgent, I wouldn't have had time to
not only prep my workload, butalso mentally prepare to take a step away
from work, So then I wouldbe like rushing to get things done so

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that I could take a much neededvacation, but then I'd end up on
vacation, tying up loose ends,feeling stressed, feeling needed, and then
I would come back and not feelrested. But now I make a point
to know, like, Okay,I'm probably going to be due for you
know, a couple days off comingup soon. I'm going to block it
off my calendar now so then inthe weeks coming, I can actually get

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ahead on my work. And thatway before the vacation, I can like
blows out my laptop know that everything'staken care of, everyone's ready for me
to go, and then I canfully check out of work knowing everything's taken
care of, and then I enjoyvacation more and I come back feeling more
rested. And then I do thesame thing with like my schedule for after
vacation. I just make sure,like in my prep that like I'm not

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coming back into chaos, like I'mcoming back into you know, a week
that I can manage. I onlyhave so many calls, Like I don't
want to come back into a completelyjampacked day because that'll also be really overwhelming.
Yeah, I can one see thatI wish I was a type of
person where I prepped a lot before, but I just am not, and

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just with my job as well,I think vacations are prime time for me
to get content and work and stufflike that, So I don't really even
like to operate where I have likea schedule of things already ready to go
out before if I'm going on vacation. So yeah, I think the most
prepping I can do personally is justlike getting everything in line in order as

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far as my home, like washingthe bed sheets and stuff like that,
which I normally don't do. Iusually wait until after, but I think
if I did before, I wouldprobably come back feeling a lot more like
relaxed and stuff like that. ButI also love coming home from a vacation.
I feel like it gives you sucha like different perspective on your home

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in your house. For me,at least, I just am like,
wow, I love this place somuch. But I'm also a really big
homebody. I was gonna say you'redefinitely a homebody though, because like even
when we were in Miami, liketowards the end of the vacation, I
could tell that you were just kindof like down and you were like just
ready to be back into your regularroutine and day to day. And but

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I think that's like a good tiptoo, is like having some sort of
constant through your vacation. And Ifeel like me and you were pretty good
about Like we've traveled a lot together, and like we make a point to
still eat like, you know,two or three meals at the airbnb that
are like healthier things that we wouldeat at home. We still make a
point to get an exercise in,whether it's going for a walk or going
to a class, So like westill have some sort of constant. It's

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not just like a totally like checkingout of our regular lives and checking back
in. Yeah. For me,I think I had never, like genuinely
never in my life taken that longof a vacation, you know. So
I don't think I have the mentalstamina to even relax for that long without
getting really anxious, you know.So, I think at a certain point

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it was just like very very anxiousbecause I felt like my life was just
falling apart, even though everything wasfine. Yeah, obviously, but whenever
you're used to working and being ona schedule in a routine for so long,
whenever you get to a point whereyou're not doing that, You're just
mind tells you that you're being alazy piece of show when everything is literally
fine. Well, I think that'swhy I like to work a lot of

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the times. When I do travel, it's like I still get to go
to a new place, I stillget to have my usual routine. I
don't have to have that anxiety oflife how it was work doing like I
get to check in, I'll dosignificantly less, yeah, but it's still
just enough to be like everything's fine, and now I get to enjoy my
day, you know, doing whateverin this new place. And sometimes I
just do that instead of like tryingto take off and get ahead. Like

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sometimes I do make a deal withmyself, like Okay, we're gonna go,
but you're gonna work for two hoursin the morning, and like that
works too. Yeah. I thinkit kind of makes you feel good and
just have a sense of normalcy becausesure, moving in a positive direction at
the same time simultaneously relaxing, enjoyinglife, seeing new things, having socialization

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and all of that. Definitely,Yes, My next tip is to just
decompress your mind, because I feellike vacation can be super stimulating and you're
coming off of a lot of highenergy and all of that. So I
think trying to stay off your phoneand just reading or journaling or even just
watching a show that's low energy andlow low vibes helps me a lot,

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because I find I'm like super stimulatedwhenever I come home from vacation, just
with anxiousness of getting back into routineand all of that. That's actually one
thing that my therapist mentioned to mewas that people with ADHD need a little
bit more time to process when theychange environments. Because that was something like

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me and my ADHD husband we're kindof struggling with and it was like she
was saying that me being super typeA, like I can go, go,
go the press of a button,but like y'all need a bit more
of a time to be like,Okay, let me just get settled here.
I think that makes a lot ofsense in the way that we return
back to normal life. Yeah,hundred percent. It's a lot for me

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to be in one environment and thencome back and have to totally separate lives
basically at each of them within twentyfour hours. Yeah, you need like
a transition period. And I'm likelet's hit the ground running. Yeah,
I can see how that would behelpful for you to get back into routine,
because like it's just basically ripping theband aid off. It's gonna suck.

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It's kind of like when you havea hangover and you don't want to
go to the gym and you don'twant to go to do this on and
you don't do all these things.You want to lay in bed and you
takeout, which is my approach.But I would feel better if I just
went to the gym sweat it out. The next day, I would feel
even better then, Yeah, baby, myself back into the routine, baby.
So I mean you're doing all goodthings that you need. I'm just

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and I'm not. I'm just like, back to the grind. Back to
the grind, baby, No daysoff. Hustle culture got me now.
But I think it's however you functionthat it's because if laying in bed or
just doing things really slowly and allthat, if that's going to make you
anxious, then why do it?Yeah, you know it's counterproductive then if

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you were to just and I feellike this is kind of the same thing
with our morning routines, Like mineis very slow. Let me like in
my mind right for the day andyours as kind of if you have something
that you know you need to do, there's no way you're going to be
yea yeah, yeah, yeah,you're on the ball. Yeah. And
I think I'm just such a doerthat, like even taking the vacation.
I definitely value vacations way more nowbecause I'm able to take them and check

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out. But in itself, likechecking out is still like a learned thing
for me because it's not often thatI fully just check out of work and
don't do anything. And so whenI come back, like that's coming back
to my normal behavior of like dodo do. But it's definitely interesting because
even my husband always says, likewhen we go on vacation, she's like,
I just want to do nothing,And I'm like, okay, but

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like what do you want to do? Val has our entire itinerary planned.
Literally we're tiving a spreadsheet. Butit's really nice. So because I can
do both, I can go onvacation and see where the one blows me.
Yeah, but it's nice whenever youhave all these things to look forward
to and you're like, oh,we're going to the school, place today.
And it's not like assignments, likethere's room for yeah, justify,

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but it's like it's just key activityso that we make the most of our
vacation time. Because my thing islike I don't want to go on vacation
and then four days and I'm like, oh, wish we had done this.
I wish we'd done that. Nowit's closed. So I like to
have that idea of like, ifwe want to do somebody today, here
are some options. But I'm alsodown to like not yeah, but it's
just like just to have an optionso we can use our vacation time efficiently.

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No vow literally comes in our roomwith pots and pants and she's banging
and she's like, we have ourreservation at this time. Everybody, get
the fuck up. No imagine,No, she doesn't. She's very chill
on vacations. Okay, she likeshe said she has the chill for me.
It's all there. But it's nicebecause like, Okay, what are
we going to do now? Andit's like, oh, well, we
have this reservation at this time.Let me pull up our spreadsheet. Literally,

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let me just adjust these glasses.Really fucking take a look at the
spreadshee. You know, it's it'sreally cool because it's just not how I
function at all. So it's it'snice when we hear that friend. What's
the meme where it's like there's theone friend that has the plan and the
other friend that just gets in thecar. It's like Shania just shows up
to the airport, she's got herstuff, and I'm like, let's go.
Here's our gate, here's our seatnumber, here's our uber Like,

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yeah, here's our Airbnb. Ilove not having to think. I love
not having to think. It's sonice that'll disolve the thinking in this relationship
for everyone. I think on behalfof everyone. Yeah, God bless,
God bless. But yeah, Ithink that's kind of all the tips I
have. It's a very short andsweet episode, but I think mainly,
prepare to go on vacation and then, you know, take your time to

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reset whatever that looks like for you. Yeah, exactly, However resetting looks
and feels best for you, planthat out and you're good to go,
babes, good to go. Enjoythe vacations. Yeah, girl, I'll
enjoy it.