Is Kristy Snatched?

Snatch has a lot of different uses, we don't actually talk about that on the podcast but think about that as you listen to this brand-new episode. Topics we cover include the feeling you have when you might be losing it. Kristy is also on record for saying something that made Steve LOL at the WORST time ever, and why Kristy had to go to the hospital. This and much more in a brand new delicious episode of it goes both ways the podcast.

Episode Transcript

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Welcome. It goes both ways withChristie and Steve. All I want to

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say in advance is you're welcome forthe mind of journey that I'm about to
take you on in this episode.Wow, a mind f journey? Now?
Is this a like extraterrestrial mind fjourney? Is this like a bad
trip? Is it like you couldsay extra terrestrial? Indie aspect of my

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body was snatched? Body snatch?Is that a thing the kids say,
like, Oh, your stomach isso snatched? But that's not what I
mean. Okay, I should sterilizeanyone that lives in the South. Anyone

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that lives in the South. Youwant to have sterilized? What would you
get on your sweater? I don'tknow where? Is it on the pocket?
On the pocket? What does itlook like? Schmig? Oh my
god, it was the reflection ofyour cell phone? Oh yeah, I
thought it was blue. Your visionhas really it's become quite a concern.
Okay, this isn't part of theshelf. Yes it is, because we

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should talk about your vision. Isthat you I almost said to you at
one point maybe you should get yourreaders because you were trying to read something
on your phone and you couldn't decideif it said sixty or seventy? No,
I said, is there a sixor five? Okay, doesn't matter
the same thing. So fifty orsixty? Okay, sure, fifty or
sixty. You couldn't tell the differenceof the number. How bad is your

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vision now? It's it's probably alarminglyterrible, like I probably shouldn't be driving
without something. Your vision so popularon my face? Is it? Let
me tell you? Is your visionso bad that I look good naked?
So you're saying I still have achance, Dude, you've had a chance.
You have a chance. Daily I'mout of my vision being good and

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as bad as I think, Well, America's under attack? Did you know
that? Did I say that?Did I start the show saying that?
Because I thought, I don't know? As someone in radio Let's grow up,
it always said like the eighty twentyrole is what we would call it,
and I think it's true for mostparts of life. Is that um
um that you give eighty percent ofthe information and you leave that one little

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bit for them to stick around toafter commercials? Okay, it's like after
you eat like a seated bagel andyou just can't quite get that last set
out of your sure like that youcan't find well, it is like that
because you can't find it. That'sthe eighty percent. And then you pop
it out just finally around and itfinally is dislodged, and that's the twenty

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percent. That's the payoff. Americais under attack because Ed Shearon is on
trial for stealing, and I can'tbelieve he's on trial for stealing. Thinking
out Loud, they're saying, isa rip off of the Marvin Gay Let's
Get It On, which one isthinking out Loud. We fah the rye

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well we uh the the well weah that song, but I guess it's
in the same key. Shockingly terribleat that well because I don't remember all
the words, because baby yah ohstill not better lift me into your loving
arms? Wow? Hey, canI call you back in like a half

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an hour or so or an hour? Well, Ed Shearon he would perform
that song sometimes in concerts because it'sthe same key play Let's Get It On,
And the estate of Marvin Gay saysthat the original song thinking Loud stole
from Marvin Gay's like the melody yourLoving Arms, Let's get it on It's

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just like Vanilla Ice and Queen No, I disagree with that. Okay,
that's totally different, and you knowit. And you're trying to trigger me
because that one, yes, thatmost ice ice baby of ice ice baby

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is under pressure, right, buthe was trying to he was he stood
hard in his conviction that there wasa different bump bump, yeah, which
like, don't you remember the viewPlacid, Kurtloader. I'm at the point
now where there's like four things Iremember from MTV. Okay, I remember
that Puck sticking his finger into thepeanut butter and putting it back, Okay,

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okay, because Pedro had HIV andcouldn't be near germs because he had
a weekend ammuse system. I didn'tthink that was why. I just that
was why. Oh I thought itwas because I know that was that was
why it was disgusting. Was thatwas Pedro's peanut butter and Puck stuck his
fingers in it, contaminating it becausePedro didn't have an immune system, okay,

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because of HIV, And that waswhy it was a thing on the
show. You remember a lot morethan I knew about that part because it
was nine I just remember it inmy life. If if anyone did that,
I would be disgusted. And I'mnot a and I'm someone that's a
disgusting person. Yeah. Fat,Now you had a thing I made,
um, Like I've been using likethis griddle, this black griddle that we
have in our house called a lodgeAnd the best way to clean a lodgepan

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is to boil water. You've taughtme, ye, And then you can
like scrape it out and pour iton clean it out. And I cleaned
it out like ninety percent. ButI'm about to put potatoes back in that
pan, and there was still likea lot of a lot of debris on
the wall. There's a lot ofdebris. Um. But I said,
that's why you shit all the time. It's true. She did say that

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clean things properly, and you alsodon't cook your food to the correct temperature.
Okay, but back to stealing music, okay, ed shearon that case
case closed. He did not stealthat song. Oh is the child done?
No, it's not done. Youcan't say case close. But for
me, public opinion, I'm publicopinion. You're the only one the matters.
You're Christie Hi Hi Hi Public opinion. It's me. So this is

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a scattered show. I know weweren't on last week, to be totally
blunt, we just weren't feeling it. I've been riding the dark passenger train
for a while. Okay, what'sthe dark passenger train? That sounds?
Where is that train? I don'twant to go on. So I know
that I've spoken several times about thefact that I'm like in definitely perimenopause,

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probably leaning towards full blown menopause likeany second now. The week that I
had last week because of it,the dark passenger absolutely took over my brain
and my soul. And I think, I mean, I'm being silly goose
about it right now, but ifyou were a fly on the wall in
this house last week, like itwas worrisome, like the intrusive thoughts in

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the depression and all of the shitthat people just don't talk about, Like
when you hear menopause, you thinkof hot flashes or you think of those
kind of symptoms where people don't talkabout absolute dark, dark, dark thoughts

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that happen. Well, I knowI saw Drew barrymore she's starting to have
menopause because her boob's got hot andshe had Jennifer Anderson and way to absolutely
trample over. No. But that'swhy, as I say, is that
she had her first hot flash onair. Yeah, she had her first
hot flash on air. And Iwas saying, is that that seems like

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this stuff that most people talk aboutbecause it's funny, right, Well,
it's not funny if you're going throughit, But right does it make you
feel like you're going crazy? Absolutely? I mean because I've I've gone through
depression more than once in my life, so I kind of know what that
feels like. This is so muchdarker and so much heavier in like I

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think with therapy and with all thisother shit like changing my eating. I'm
trying to stay on top of itas much as I can, but man
alive the intrusive thoughts that were takingover my body. Like I said some
fucked up shit to you because Ineeded to just get the poison out of

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my head. And I felt likeif I did that, if I just
vented to you, then it wouldjust leave my body because I could not
take it. Okay, that's probablya good thing to do. I don't
know, man, But I alsoknew that if I told our therapist.
Half of the fucking shit, I'dprobably be not sitting not sitting at home

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right now. She'd probably have tomake a phone call. Yeah. Which
again, that right there, thatis you being dark. But that's the
stuff that I laugh at. Yeah, it's fine to laugh at it now.
You kind of laughed at it inthe moment, which maybe the timing
wasn't. Like, wait until Iget on the other side of it,
and then we can laugh together.But when I'm in the belly of the

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beast, maybe don't laugh at it. I just remember what you said,
and I can beep it out.I don't remember exactly what you said,
Yeah, I said it. Yeah, So it's gonna be hard for me

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not to it's gonna be hard forme not to laugh when you say that,
even at your darkest, because that'smine. I just wish that more
people would would normalize it, morepeople would talk about it, because I'm
sure that I'm not the first one. I'm not the only one. I
mean, there's got to be supportgroups, right, I'm sure for the
dark Passenger, there's a support troupe, there's a support group. I'm sure

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that there's a travel lodge for thedark passenger. I feel I feel like
we all know that it's happening,and then it happens. I think it's
like out it's been more normalized thanmaybe it was in the past. But
I also feel like that's the problem, is that I can be the most
aware spouse ever and I don't wantto speak for you, but if you're

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going through a momentum, it doesn'tmatter, like what I say, I'm
not going to be doing the rightthing. Well, right, you just
have to listen, right, likeif I say, I just need you
to but even a sounding board.But even if I listen, when do
you get to the point as aspouse? Okay, that's just her having

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a moment or is it time tomake a phone call? That's my question,
Like how do you know where theline is? I don't want to
well, because I like, Iwant to sort this out in my moment
of clarity and not wait until we'relike in the mix of it again and
maybe I'm not so clear like forreal, Well, I would say,
like my first thing is if Idon't know of you using any like a

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type of pharmaceutical intervention, Okay,that's where I go, And I say
that she's raw dog in it.Okay, she's raw dog in life.
And that's good for her for doingthat. And it's not because you're against
normalize it for you. Yeah,to understand what to do in those moments.
That's what we talked about, likewith our like a therapist when you

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were upset because I laughed at it, continue to vent and it felt like
it was a just event on me, like you internalized it instead of just
letting me be your sounding board.It didn't feel like it was just like
you yelling out into like the multiverse. It felt like it was you coming
at me because I felt like whenI have darkness, yes I will lash

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out on you. But if Itell you I have darkness inside of me,
I'm not doing good right now.I usually don't point out things that
I don't like about you, andthat's what I felt like that you did
do. So that's why I didn't. I hear that. That's how it
felt for you, and that sucksthat it felt that way. I did

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not, But you understand why Ilaughed though, right, So what do
you think? We haven't really therapizedthis at all. We don't know the
answer. Okay, you have ameltdown or you're feeling overwhelmed, what should
your partner do? Dart off askingthe question. That's how I parent,
that's how I therapize. To quoteyou as you ask a question, what

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do you need right now? Like? What can I do for you right
now? Maybe it's a hug,Maybe it's just like I'm sorry, something
to validate that person's feel in thatmoment. The only starting point that I
can think of that I would wantor need all of the therapies. Sometimes,
I was having some shit with Oliviain the car this morning, and

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I'm she's triggering me because she's sayingsome real bitchy stuff and she's I don't
know, she's like, that's whyno one likes she like, just some
real, real bitchy stuff. AndI'm feeling myself get triggered. And that's
what I'm learning to work through andto regulate my own big feelings in order

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to help her through hers. AndI'm like, Okay, in this particular
moment, you need to deep breathe, and you need to phrase it this
way and this way and this wayto her, and oh my god,
it's exhausting, Like when do weget to the point where you're you're done
growing, you're done healing. Youjust have to like throw up your hands

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and say, I'm going to behot mess express for the rest of whatever
my are. I'm done like tohave to stop and think so hard about
every encounter to know if you're sayingit the right way or if you're responding
the way that the person needs youto. It's like, no, man,
Like she was acting like a bitchand I'm like, stop being a
bitch. But holy fuck, isit exhausting being mature. I just want

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to be a brat. Isn't beingtherapized and being you have to come up
with a new word because that's irritated, You're already therapeutic. Nope. Isn't
it being like honest and being clearwith what your needs are in that moment?
It's you're a lot right now,and it makes me feel like you're
being a bitch, Like that's howyou should respond, That's not how you
should respond, but that that's mebeing awest. It's like, right now,

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you're being quite mean. Right now, you're being a twat. Yeah
that's what you want to say,Well, you can say that to me,
Like if we're in an argument evenif you called me a twat,
I think you have to pick andchoose on the topic. Why do you
have to pick and choose? We'vebeen really hardcore hitting the Lasso effect.

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Yeah, and watch like just bingingthe funk out of Ted Lasso, and
this is why it's happening. Iwant to live there just for the simple
fact of their verbiage, Like theycan just say in England, you're saying
anywhere over in the UK, okay, where they can just go around and
say, oh fuck, don't bea twat. Yeah, and no one

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looks at you strangely, at leaston you know, on the TV show
in the way I will say,if you know enough about Ted Lasso,
then words like the pitch is whatthey call the soccer field I like a
lot better the kitman, which islike for manager manager quitment manager. Yeah,
the kitman. I'm like, thoseare better names. Yeah, twat
calling it like I wouldn't you loveto be able to say that like whenever

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and have it not be like thislike taboo like naughty thing to say like
maybe we should go live there fora little bit. I think that would
be fun for that, but it'skind of like, I don't know,
can you say pussy in England?Because in America is slowly become we do
it like a stop to dream.It is like I wouldn't be I wouldn't
be surprised if there's somewhere or saysit. Can you know Johnson was being

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a pussy? Wow, I don'tknow for there. Yeah, but yeah,
I see what's just saying. Imean, And I would say,
what would you rather say more ofpussy your twat in your day to day
vernacular? Okay, I would Iwould prefer twat really Yeah, see twat
is a harder work. But that'scan we stop this? My mom has

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gotta be just on the floor.So when we're recording this episode of the
podcast where it's a dude, we'reold. And how I know that we're
probably aging out of younger people listeningto this show is because we are so
excited about the Crow River, whichis the part the main river near Us
and Rogers overflowing so high that it'sgonna beat the nineteen ninety seven record of

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fourteen point seven feet because it'll getprobably get up to maybe fifteen feet,
which would then like above flood leveland it would over flow into the surrounding
community. They said, I hada burp, sorry, and actually like
mess with sewage systems and every timewe go, I'm not excited about this,
dude, I'm excited about what couldhappen every time we drive over.
What did we do last weekend?We want on a floodwatch, dude,

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which is the lamest watch. Itwas like a floodfinder. Of course,
we don't do crime watch. Ifthere's a body of water that's slowly rising
over time, we're gonna go seewhat kind of damage and what kind of
erosion is happening. Christy and Iliterally we're talking about the erosion at the
dog park. This is what's happenedto our life because the river's gone so
high. If you live in Minnesota, you know who's moving here. There

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are more apartments, houses, townhouses, condo's going up than anywhere else I've
ever seeing my entire life. Juststop and think about our neighborhood alone,
these gigantic multi unit apartment complexes.Who the fuck is moving here? Why
are you moving here? It's notglamorous. Our schools are are already overcrowded.

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That's why we care is because yetthe schools are way overcrowded, and
I know that they say, oh, because you know people are living longer
generations. Those apartments are for familiesbecause they think that all these young people
are coming here for some odd reason. Well they're where are they working?
Well? Anyway, why why areyou moving here? Like I'm trying to
move out? Why are you movinghere? I guess? There goes the

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explore Minnesota commercial, And I'm notsaying Minnesota. I'm saying here, where's
the town that we live in?Okay, Like why are you coming here?
There goes our endorsement with the cityof Rogers. I was going to
be on the town board. Butlike, okay, now full circle?
Is this menopause talking? Oh yeah, okay, I'm gonna stop you right

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there because I know that you're doinga bit right now. But you said,
what can a partner do? Like, for someone that's going through the
thing, maybe my number one isgoing to be don't weaponize them with it.
Now that they know that it's athing, you're not allowed to use
that against me? Like, oh, is that just your menopause? Are

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you saying that because it's your menopause? Like men would use women having PMS
and weaponize them with that forever andever. You're not allowed to do that.
Number one. I'm not going tosay the name of the place I
took the car in, but toa local like will do shit to your

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car? Oil change and whatever.The encounter that I had blew my mind
all the way back to nineteen fortytwo, when it was common to think
and say shit like what this personsaid to me out loud. My sweetheart
of a husband tends to forget toturn off the wipers, And of course

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we had gotten snow that day.I got into it hours later, there
was a decent amount of snow onthe windshield, but the wipers were still
on. It fucked up one ofthem. I decided to quick stop into
this place. Can you put thelug knot back on? So I can
keep on keeping on? They hadjust shut down for the day, they

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had closed. I'm telling him what'swrong with it, like, because it's
not the first time that you've donethis, And he said, oh yeah,
He goes, do you have ahusband or a boyfriend at home that
can do that for you? Isit cool? Is it cool to assume
even though I'm diagnosing it? AndI'm telling him what's wrong with it?
Is it twenty twenty three of JoeGarage Worker to then assume I couldn't take

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care of it by myself, thatI needed a man to help me.
Patriarchy? What kind of time tunnel? Did I just go backwards in?
Okay? But can I ask too? So now I can't control my uterus
and I also can't fix my windshieldwiper. Good idea. Two questions are
real quick, though, just won'tmake this clear. You went to this
place and you asked him to doit because I was trying to get to

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the store and I couldn't see iton my windshield. Two questions. Okay,
when you got home you told meabout this, right, and because
it happened while I was driving?Yeah, who tightened the nut and fixed
it? You did? But here'sthe thing. I gave you a choice.
I said, I can start dinnerand then go fix it, or

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while I'm starting dinner, you cango fix it. I said that I
would do it because I knew exactlywhat to do, but we had to
get two kids to two different placesin a short amount of time. Ergo,
not because I needed your penis todo the job for me. It
was called splitting up parental responsibilities.Yeah, but you understand like what my

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point is though, Oh yeah,okay, but just know that I didn't
need you to do it. It'sjust it's okay, it's ironic, dude,
It's not ironic. It's hypocritical.And if you don't get it,
then it's all right. Don't worryabout it. I K, y K

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why. I don't know what thatmeans. I believe actually that was a
Japanese pop group that came over hereand opened I K I K yeah kay
why totally new song I just cameup with. And I'm keeping all of
this. And another reason that wedidn't do an episode of the podcast last
week is because Julia Roberts moving intoour house. Juliet does look like our

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daughter, but she's your daughter,yep. And when I say she's your
daughter, she's your daughter because sheloses shit all the time. An important
thing that she lost, or herballet turners that she needs for this particular
class, which puts Christie into amanic state because we don't know where they
are, so then Christie wants tolook everywhere and it drives her insane that

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I can't go to sleep knowing,and it's just it's it's the Cinderella It's
the Cinderella effect. It is exhausting. Take care of your shit, and
it wouldn't have to happen at allfor anybody. Okay, So she lost
one shoe, and so now I'mfrantically trying to find it because it'll be
the third pair since September that thiskid has lost, and it adds up,

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right, And it's also frustrating becauseI have to look for it because
no one else cares. So shedoesn't have the shoe at class that night,
so she thought that it would bea good idea to try her jazz
turns or her pirouets with just hertights. It's extra slippery to do it
that way, and you have notraction and no grip at all. So

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when I used to powder up myhands while I was playing ball, they
gotta chalk them up. Okay,I wouldn't use that comparison, but okay.
So you walk into the door frompicking her up, and she's hysterically
crying, and she's hobbling along becauseat the end of class, and I
will give her credit that she heldit in during class, right, So

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she gets in the house and Ihelp her to her seat and I'm like,
oh my god, what happened.And she's like an agony and she's
like, my foot, my foot. So, because she was doing a
turn, not wearing proper footwear,she fell. That was Wednesday. She
sucked it up, Thursday, wentto dance, went to school, all
the things. When Friday rolls around, she gets up and I look at

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her foot in the morning and itwas huge, like it was swollen,
it was purple, it was allthe things that it should not be.
And I'm like, oh, forfuck's sake, you broke something. I
thought that it was just a littlered, and I thought that you guys
were honestly being reactionary. Yeah,and I thought that you guys were to
go and it was going to bea waste of time. And I'm like,
hey, that would have been niceif that's what it was. But
no, we get there, theytake the extray. I already knew it

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was broken because of all the thingsthat it was doing. The doctor knew
that, or the whoever takes careof you first looked at it and was
like like everyone already knew. Andso then they did the X ray to
sound technical for two seconds. It'sher fifth metatarsal, which is like the
longbone that comes down on the topof your foot, right below your pinky,
and so when she fell, itjust like she crunched on the side

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of her foot. And they actuallycall it the dancers break because it's so
common and it happens so easily.A lot of times dancers don't even realize
that it happens, depending on theseverity of it. And because she broke
her foot, she's out of dancein a boot on crutches for four weeks,

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and it's competition season, and it'srecital season. It's all of these
massive important things that she's been workingall year for. And so we're in
that weird time I'm frame of healingin the injury and all of that,
where in two weeks she has acheck up, and then in three weeks,

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so just a week after that isher very last competition of the season,
and then two weeks after that isher recital for her school. So
I was sort of under the impressionthat she was gonna be okay, that

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some kind of like freak miracle wouldhappen, and so we go for the
two week check and all of asudden it like regenerated and it's like,
oh, yeah, you're fine,and then she could just like boom,
do her competition because of course she'supset. She's heartbroken to not be able
to do her very last one whenshe's worked on it so hard. But
I was talking to people that aremore knowledgeable than myself on it, so

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she said, don't plan on it, so like it's sort of like pick
one. So either you you hurrythrough the process and you'll let her dance
in a couple of weeks. Butthen just no, she's done, like
she will re injure it, itwill make it worse. So then she's
she's down and out all summer.Most likely she'll miss her recital in a

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month. She'll be out for alot of the summer session. And so
then all of her classmates, youknow, are are gonna be farther ahead
than her because they've been training allsummer for Point, and so then she
has to worry about being left behindagain, or you let her miss out
on her last competition and be sadand all of those things in order to

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most likely be able to be onPoint for her recital and to do summer
session. It's a lot. It'sa lot of pressure on me as a
dance mom, and I'm not herefor it because I'm deciding her feed because
of course she wants to do allof it. So what do you think?
Well, as of right now,she like she texted me upset from

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dance last night because she's still goingto observe UM. She texted and said
that she's been replaced. So,like she's got three different competitive numbers that
she's in, and like one ofthem is like her standout favorite. It's
like a number from Hairspray and UM. And so she's officially been replaced with
like you know, Susie black Swan, And so she was really pissed off

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about that. Dude. I waslike, oh my god, it's like
a Tanya Harding situation here. WhenI picked her up last night, you
told me this whole thing ahead oftime, Like let's be really understanding,
like just tender. Yeah, likeif she was still upset, Yeah,
she basically was, a matter offact, she goes it sucks. I'm
like, I know, that doessuck. I'm sorry, right, And
then we moved on because I counseledher already. I was just giving you

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a heads up. Okay, look, she was saying to you what I
said to her. But do youthink that Okay, maybe dude, that
was like that was good. Thatwas good. I see how you did
there. But it's true I counseledher. I made it better. So
then you had I thought you didthere. You stuck that in and I
like that about you. It's okaythat I know what I'm doing every once

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in a while, let me havethat. Let me have that. Like
I I mess up enough, I'min the freaking toilet enough when I do
something right, let me have itfor a second. I'll totally let you
have it. You deserve it withyou if you have it, and good
job. Then. Since we've donean episode last she had another competition where

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her instructor approached me because she she'sgot a solo and it's very obvious because
of her lack of progress, thatshe hasn't been putting in a lot of
work at home. It's like shedoes whatever she does in the studio,
and I'm sure she works her buttoff and whatever, but all of the
extra side work she's not doing,and it's just it's been a constant struggle

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between her and I, and sothen just to like save my soul,
I stopped. And it's just likeit'll be what it'll be. It's a
natural consequence at that point, right, So she's not she wants the high
award, she's not going to getit if she doesn't like put in the
hustle. So anyway, the instructor, which I thought was very cool that

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she did this, she approached meand said, I've I've been teaching kids
for a handful of years now.She's like, I can't figure her out.
Like when it comes to like pushingher or encouraging her, She's like,
some kids need tough love in thatkind of drill sergeant approach and whatever

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some kids need like the coddling,the hand holding. She's like, I
absolutely cannot figure her out. AndI couldn't help but laugh. So I
said, good luck. If youfigure it out, let me know,
because I have no freaking idea.The thing that she said next, it
was very frustrating. It's still kindof triggering to me. But when she

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was just commenting on Olivia's personality andhow to get through to her and what
was going to work and what wasn'tgoing to work. She made the statement
that like, in her opinion thatOlivia was a people pleaser, and she
said an I quote, Olivia isa people pleaser, and a huge one

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at that. Oh, I agree. What you don't think that you didn't
agree with? Like are you doinga bet? No? Because you didn't
like I told you right after thishappened, because I was so annoyed about
it, and you agreed with me. Like look if you, oh God
triggered. If you look up thedefinition of what a people pleaser is,

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that's a trauma response. That's notthat it's not applicable at all. In
number one, the definition doesn't fitnumber two. She one thousand percent is
not a people pleaser. Sometimes itwould be nice if she was, because

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she is to a fault as she'sgetting older. I tell it how it
is so like this shitty attitude thatI've developed over my years of marinating in
life drama. She's just taking thaton fresh out of the gate as a
way to try to find who she'sgonna be in her age. I was

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a little wallflower country mouse. Iwouldn't say boo to anyone. I've seen
her get sassy with people. She'snot like one million and I'm not.
She doesn't. She doesn't just savethe sass for home. She throws it.
She throws the attitude around whenever shefeels compelled to do so, which,

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by definition, is the opposite ofa people pleaser. A people pleaser
would never buck the norm. Theywould never want to be seen as unkind.
So I'm like, what the fuckare you talking about? So I
didn't. I didn't like that shewas saying it so a matter of factly,
like she was a therapist. I'mlike, you're a twenty year old

(33:19):
dance instructor. You don't even havea frontal lobe yourself yet, Like,
don't diagnose my kid, not evenbe correct. Maybe that's why you don't
know which way to a how toteach her, or how to get through
to her, because you obviously aren'tpaying attention. And so I turned down
a really quick just then, AndI didn't mean to, but I was
triggered. Yeah, welcome to lifeat my house. A pause. Yeah,

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