July 5, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.27
Show Theme: Being Fierce In Life
Show Title: Learn How Being Fierce In Life Can Get You Closer To Living Full Out
The Living Full Out Show with Nancy Solari reminds you that confidence always begins with realizing your worth. Perhaps you have to face opposition to reach your next goal, and you're feeling intimidated. Maybe you've acted very passive in situations that required assertion, and you're wondering if you'll ever build the strength you need to advance in life. Join Nancy as she teaches you how to have enough courage to take the first step, and eventually, win the race.
Our first caller, Amanda, wants to know whether to trust that the right person will come to her naturally, or if she should start putting herself out there in the relationship world. Nancy tells Amanda that it is best to have faith and act upon this desire for a partner, suggesting apps that encourage physical meetups. Tune in to learn how you can stay in control of your life in the face of uncertainty.
Our inspirational guest, Mtisunge Lucy Ngwira, is living proof that perseverance, even when given the most insurmountable of odds, is attainable with a faithful attitude. After her mother left her father because of his alcoholism, the rest of the family fled to the US in the middle of the night. When Mstisunge was 10, her dad got sick and passed away due to liver issues. Only months later, her mom contracted pneumonia during her nursing job, soon dying afterwards due to HIV complications. Tune in to hear how Mtisunge found out she was born with the same illness that took one of her parent’s lives.
Perhaps you're finding it hard to remain confident in your abilities. Maybe you’re losing the attitude you need to strive for the best in your endeavors. Try to remember that reaching your full potential starts with believing you can always improve. By realizing that happiness starts with self-acceptance, more so than external factors, you can find true satisfaction within your life and live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
Show Theme: Being Fierce In Life
Show Title: Learn How Being Fierce In Life Can Get You Closer To Living Full Out
The Living Full Out Show with Nancy Solari reminds you that confidence always begins with realizing your worth. Perhaps you have to face opposition to reach your next goal, and you're feeling intimidated. Maybe you've acted very passive in situations that required assertion, and you're wondering if you'll ever build the strength you need to advance in life. Join Nancy as she teaches you how to have enough courage to take the first step, and eventually, win the race.
Our first caller, Amanda, wants to know whether to trust that the right person will come to her naturally, or if she should start putting herself out there in the relationship world. Nancy tells Amanda that it is best to have faith and act upon this desire for a partner, suggesting apps that encourage physical meetups. Tune in to learn how you can stay in control of your life in the face of uncertainty.
Our inspirational guest, Mtisunge Lucy Ngwira, is living proof that perseverance, even when given the most insurmountable of odds, is attainable with a faithful attitude. After her mother left her father because of his alcoholism, the rest of the family fled to the US in the middle of the night. When Mstisunge was 10, her dad got sick and passed away due to liver issues. Only months later, her mom contracted pneumonia during her nursing job, soon dying afterwards due to HIV complications. Tune in to hear how Mtisunge found out she was born with the same illness that took one of her parent’s lives.
Perhaps you're finding it hard to remain confident in your abilities. Maybe you’re losing the attitude you need to strive for the best in your endeavors. Try to remember that reaching your full potential starts with believing you can always improve. By realizing that happiness starts with self-acceptance, more so than external factors, you can find true satisfaction within your life and live full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
To the Living Full Out Show. My name is Nancy Selari,
and today we're talking about being fierce in life and
I love it.
Speaker 4 (00:27):
Yum yum yum.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Let's gobble up all that life has to offer. But
to do that, sometimes we have to get a little
bit methodical. Sometimes we have to be a little bit
more care free. It really depends on which spectrum you're on.
But when you have focus, when you have intention, you
can be just super fierce and go after life in
a big way. In fact, our inspirational guests coming up
(00:52):
tsunge Neguerra went through just so many different twist and turns.
She went through being HIV and aids positive to finding
our way through an abusive relationship, to coming out the
other end with her own clothing line that's full of
purpose and intention. So how did she do all that?
So stay with us or retelling her story and learning
(01:14):
from her. Also, we want to make sure that if
you ever need inspiration on the go, make sure you
go to the app store and download the Living Full
Out Show app. It's free and you can listen to
these shows anytime you want. Now I'm getting work from
our producer that we do have a listener on the line.
Let's go check in with them. Hello, and welcome to
The Living Full Out Show. Hello, Hi, how can I
(01:37):
help you today?
Speaker 5 (01:38):
I have a question about some relationship advice. I have
always believed that if the right person is meant for me,
he will find his way into my life. However, lately
I have wondered if I may be losing time. Should
I keep trusting that things will happen naturally or is
it important that I start putting myself out there in
the relationship world.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Mm? Such a good question. Well, I would love to think,
and women and men everywhere, everybody who's looking for love
would love to think that they're going to find us.
And it is possible. It is possible that love will
find us, but that's relatively. It has to be equal
(02:21):
to are you in places they can find you? So
if you are a homebody and you like to stay
home and you know, watch TV or just you know,
really love that being being safe and incomfortable at home,
which is great. Then it's highly unlikely that unless it's
like the cable guy or you know, or somebody that
(02:43):
happens to be coming over to do a repair, you know,
it might not be possible. But if you are out
and about, if you are putting yourself in social circles,
then you might not have to go to dating apps
and dating websites. You know, it is possible to meet
somebody organically. How physically socially are you out there?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Well, I'm a student at university and I'm usually like
I go to class and then weekends I go out.
I think I guess like twice a month I go
out to in night life, So I think I'm pretty
out there.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
So you're out there in class and you're out there
maybe bars, clubs, and you know, different venues at night.
The one thing you've got to ask yourself and maybe
study this over the next month, is when you're in
those places, are those your people? Is that where you
think you're going to find your partner? And I say
(03:53):
that because you know, I mean I've taken classes before,
and I would definitely observe the room and say I
could one hundred percent date no one here. Feel pretty
good about that, Right, But I've also had classes where
there's been that person that I had a crush on. Right,
it just kind of depends. It just kind of depends
(04:14):
on what lights you up. Okay, So like, if what
lights you up is someone similar to you common interest,
then that's a great thing. Then you're more likely to
find them in the social circles that you're in. But
if your heart's desire and you are more kind of
curious and intrigued by someone different than you, then you
(04:38):
might have to put yourself in those different circles. And
sometimes those different circles can be achieved by taking a
class that's outside of the academic box. So maybe take
a class on golfing, maybe take a class on scuba diving. Right,
kind of meet somebody that's different than you. It's a
(04:59):
new you hobby that you're you're acquiring and maybe meeting
someone who's you know, adventurous. The other thing is there's
a site that I've used several times before I talk
about it. It's called meetup dot com.
Speaker 6 (05:12):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 5 (05:14):
No? I have not.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Okay, So meetup is in most places and you can
just put in your zip code and pick whatever ranged
five miles, ten miles, whatever that looks like. And the
beauty is there's online and in person events, and I
mean it's everything from crafting. If you're looking to meet
a new galpal, it's everything from happy hours. I do karaoke.
(05:39):
There's a volleyball and hiking and every activity under the sun, tennis,
you name it, so you can you can meet people
in a socially active way. And so sometimes meeting people
organically like that would be a good way to go.
Now the caveat and the thing I do like about
dating sites is if you are someone that's busy, you
(06:03):
know your this is not necessarily your case, but you know,
if you find that you're you're you're genuinely busy, but
you're not meeting people that are in that group that
you want to meet, then that's where a dating app
or a website can be great. It's an extension of
where you can't physically be. So what do you think
(06:27):
is the best fit for you.
Speaker 5 (06:31):
I've always wanted to meet somebody organically because I have
tried dating apps, have gone on.
Speaker 7 (06:38):
To dates, and they have not.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Been the best. So I kind of have lost hope
with stating apps and I haven't tried it in like
a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Well good of you to try, then that's just not
your method, that's not your way. So I think I
think stay true to the organic. There's just something natural
about that, not for and the element of surprise, right,
because when you're scrolling through profiles, right, everything's revealed, right,
(07:08):
But when you meet somebody organically, there's an element of
I don't know who you are, well, I don't know
what we could be. And most of all, I watch
a lot of Hallmark. I love love songs. I am
such a goober. I love to be in love, Okay,
So I believe that the most important thing is to
(07:29):
hold on to that hope. But remember, and this is
a really important thought, there is somebody out there that's
looking for you, and you're looking for them.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
So it's just.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Important that you do everything that you can to be
accessible for them to find you. And that could be
going places organically, or that could be going on a
dating app or a website. As long as you make
yourself available and accessible, then that person can find you.
But if you're on the phone, your head's in a textbook,
(08:06):
you're on the computer, you're always going out with your friends,
then that makes it harder for that person to kind
of find you and let alone, you know, break the
barrier of because girls together, gals and guys together. When
you guys all go out, that can be intimidating. So
you might even try to just take yourself out to
(08:27):
lunch by yourself, go to dinner by yourself. There's an
empty chair ready and available for someone to have a seat,
because sometimes it is hard to meet people when you're
with a lot of people. Just because you know, there's
the philosophy of love the one you're with right, you're
loving and enjoying time with your friends. It doesn't mean
(08:50):
that you're going to meet that person. Do you see that?
Speaker 8 (08:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And then also what I would do too is I
would surround yourself with positivity and affirmations. You know, I
will find love, I'm worthy of love. I'm gonna or
even I'm gonna meet that person tonight or this is
the year, or I will have a i will have
(09:20):
a date on New Year's Eve. Right, you know what
we speak in life. Translate it. It goes from like
our voice, it goes to our heart, it goes to
our head, it goes out into the universe. So that
belief meter inside you, like when we started the call,
you're not sure anymore. You got to keep that belief
(09:42):
meter turned up on high so that you believe that
person can come your way. And if you do that,
you're gonna find them. Can you try that?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yes? Actually, today I'm gonna be going out.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
A bunch of friends to a bar. Maybe I meet
my match tonight.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Who knows, Tonight could be the night. And then the
next time we have a show, you'll be calling me.
Speaker 9 (10:11):
Back with updates.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Right because I love a good love story. I'll be
hanging on your every word and so absolutely tonight could
be the night. So have fun, lift full out. Okay,
thank you for calling in and for everybody today we
are talking about being fierce in life, and fierce can
even be being available having that belief meter turned up,
(10:36):
you know, knowing that good things are around the corner,
and always remember you are a diamond in this world.
You just have to let time and pressure and everything
unfold as it should be. But when you do that,
and you have patience, doors will open, that love will
find you, and then it'll all be worth it.
Speaker 9 (10:56):
We'll be back.
Speaker 10 (11:01):
Life looks a little different during these times. We're doing
our best to keep our minds and bodies strong, and
getting a flu shot helps us stay healthy so we
don't miss out on what matters, like having game night
at home. Yeah, can't do that, we'll sick with the flu.
(11:24):
Now imagine family movie night that your daughter can't live without. Well,
that's ruined. And don't forget your uncle's socially distanced cookouts. See,
that's why it's important to be at our strongest. Every year,
(11:46):
millions of people in the US get the flu, especially now.
No one has time to miss out on moments that matter.
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Speaker 11 (12:00):
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Speaker 7 (12:03):
Stop that dog does not want to be pettitive.
Speaker 11 (12:07):
Just a little heads up before something bad happens.
Speaker 7 (12:10):
Move your coffee cup away from your computer.
Speaker 12 (12:13):
Oh no, no, no.
Speaker 11 (12:14):
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Speaker 7 (12:16):
Stop you're texting your boss by mistakes.
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Speaker 9 (13:05):
And now a speech.
Speaker 14 (13:07):
I just want to say that friendship is about heart,
heart and brain.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
Who's with me?
Speaker 13 (13:13):
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brain is saying when it's time to go home, Somebody
call me a ride.
Speaker 6 (13:20):
Love that guy, me too.
Speaker 13 (13:21):
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Speaker 11 (13:25):
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(14:27):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Silari. As
a life coach. Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You can ask Nancy for
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(15:22):
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Welcome back.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about being fierce in life, and
we have brought you an inspirational guest to Suney Nimera,
who is going to share with us about how she
got through some really hard times with her her family
but also her health and was able to find her
way even to be such an entrepreneur to start her
(15:57):
own clothing line? How do you go from A to
Z and ma all that happen. So I'd like to welcome.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Her to the show.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Oh hi, hi.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Boy, aren't you just a poof of energy? I love
it so good to hear your voice. I want to
kind of share with our audience a bit about your
early years growing up, because wow, you went through a
lot between five to ten to gosh fourteen, but those
were some really, really critical years. And the first place
(16:29):
I'd like to start is so your father, like so many,
I mean, alcoholism is just tough, right, and it does
change somebody's ability to their behaviors or their ability to
love or even know when they're being you know, not good,
(16:50):
when they're being abusive.
Speaker 17 (16:52):
And can you.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Share with us a little bit of you know, pre five,
what that was like, but also what you remember about
your mom, you know, choosing to leave.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
So before I was five years old, I do remember
moving from Malawi, which is where I'm from. I'm from Malawi, Africa.
Then we moved to the UK and we moved there
because my mom had gotten a nursing job and I
remember my dad, the chaos in the household. He did
deal with alcoholism, and I do remember leaving in the
(17:33):
middle of the night in the UK to move to
the United States of America.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
And your mom, your mom was there to protect you.
She was a really good mom, and she knew that
for all of you to thrive, she needed to leave
and got another nursing job in Las Vegas and ended
up moving. And it was you know, there were years
in there where you know, she was working hard, you
(18:04):
all were, you know, trying to get you know, acclimated,
and you know, those are again very you know, sensitive years.
But your mom ended up getting sick and your dad
got sick, I mean both of them when you were ten.
What happened then.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
But when I was ten, my mom fell very ill,
and it was actually a couple months after my dad
had started dealing with problems with his liver due to
the alcoholism. And at this time we were separated from
my dad, so we my dad was living in Malawi
(18:43):
and we were living in the States, and my dad
had been diagnosed with him liver disease, and he eventually
passed away from this in December of two thousand and seven,
and then three months later, my mom, she was a
nurse in a hospital and she had fallen very ill
(19:06):
while she was working. And a couple of weeks later
she was hospitalized and found out that she had pneumonia,
and about a month later she had passed away from
complications from HIV. She had an opportunistic infection of pneumonia.
(19:30):
And it was really hard on our family. They only
passed away three months apart, and I was in the
fifth grade.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
I'm so sorry. I mean, that is a huge amount
of loss that, you know, a ten year old can't
even understand the why you know? I mean, what is
you know? What is HIV? What is alcoholism? And mean
at ten you knew what they were, but you know
only as much as your ten year old person could
could know, right, you didn't know the depths of it.
Speaker 15 (20:00):
Now.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Interestingly enough, your older siblings kind of took on the
parent rules. You know, your older brother, your sister, and
the three of you kind of banded together to try
to grow up together. And you eventually got sick as well.
What age were you and what were some of the
(20:21):
symptoms that you were starting to feel?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
So when I was about thirteen, I remember it was
about the end of eighth grade. So I remember throughout
my childhood I was pretty like able bodied, able to
do everything that my peers were able to do. Until
one day I got a cold and I couldn't. I
just didn't recover. And when that happened, it was very confusing,
(20:48):
very disorienting. I felt like I had a cold, but
it was constant, it wouldn't go away, and there was
a lot of migraines, verged go, fatigue, everything like that.
And I still feel these symptoms to this day. So
to this day, I walk with a cane wheel and
use a wheelchair. And when I was thirteen, it was
(21:13):
just it was very heartbreaking for me to find that out,
especially to know that my mother had passed away for
the same illness that I had. It was definitely jarring
to deal with.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
Did they so you ultimately had HIV and AIDS. I
mean it had progressed and it left you in a
disabled state in what way?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
So, like I was mentioning before, I the same symptoms
that I had when I was thirteen, they still persist
to this day, like they've they've changed over the years,
you know, gotten better, gotten worse, everything like that. It's
been a flux, but they the symptoms still remain. I
deal with chronic pain, chronic fatigue, chronic vertigo and other
(22:06):
symptoms as well sometimes, but those three are the main
symptoms that I deal with, and they render me to
be having to use a cane and a power scooter
or wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Did they ever share with you or did you ever
find out how you got HIV AIDS, like because.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
You were only thirteen, Yes, I was born with it.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
M And how and then how long were you in
the HIV I'm sorry, the AIDS phase before you kind
of were able to get to the HIV phase.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Only the recovery was not too long to get undetectable,
So becoming undetectable was maybe about like six months to
a year. It was back in the days of like
medicines like a Tripla or a Clara, and those medicines
were for adults, so they were very hard on my
(23:04):
juvenile body. M.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
You know, it's it's I'm so grateful that you're on
the show today because you know, we see, we hear
about this. You know, we've heard it in movies and
there's been you know a lot of great advancements, you know,
over the years, but you were so young to get
this news, and so I want you to stay with
us because as we journey along with her story, there's
(23:30):
just a lot more that comes about. I mean, I
can say this in my own way, having my own disability.
It can be heartbreaking, it can be depressing, and one
really has to look deep within to find their way out.
So stay with us. We're going to be talking more
about her story, but mainly how did she take these
moments in life and become fierce and live full out.
Speaker 5 (24:03):
Today?
Speaker 18 (24:04):
In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in Physics, I learned that I'm a loser.
Speaker 19 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim, I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 20 (24:26):
Today in school, I learned that I have no friends.
In English, I learned that I make people sick, and
at lunch I learned that I sit on my own
because I smell. In chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 19 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid, and in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 18 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, The
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 11 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
Speaker 17 (24:52):
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Thank you again for joining us today. I'm Nancy Solari,
and this is the Living Full Out Show, and today
we're talking about being fearless in life and Tasinge Naguera
is such a great example of what it means to
live full out. So I'd like to welcome her back
to the show. Oo hi, thank you again for just
your honesty and courage in the last segment. You know
(28:46):
you were sharing with us how at age thirteen, you know,
you found out you had HIV and AIDS and and
we're you know, in time you know able to become undetectable,
but you know it obviously caused your body a lot
of harm. It caused you to become disabled. And as
(29:07):
you were navigating you know, the years, you know, as
you kind of went along, I know there was just
a lot again between you and your siblings, and eventually
you got to a place where it was just breaking you.
It was just becoming overwhelmingly too much. Can you share
(29:27):
with us why, what was that pressure and what it
caused you to do?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Well? I remember when I was about twenty one years old.
By that time, after my parents had passed away, I
had been living with my siblings for most of that time,
about a decade, and I remember there was a lot
of chaos in the household, abuse as well, and it
(29:59):
brought me to a point where I started feeling like
I couldn't I couldn't take it anymore. It was too much.
And of course, you know, I was suicidal and everything
like that. But the thing that was a big turning
point in my life was that I had the stress
had become so much that my mind couldn't take it,
(30:23):
and I started developing a psychotic episode. I ended up
having erratic behavior, delusions, blacking out. It was a horrible time.
And that was in twenty eighteen.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
And I don't even know how you got through that
because I'm legally blind, and granted, being blind does not
a walk in the park. But I really give it
to anyone who's you know, dealing with you know, mental health,
you know, concerns and episodes, because it's so scary. It's
kind of like you're I imagine you felt some time
(30:58):
that you were having like an out of body experienperience
with it.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Yeah, it was. It was disorienting, to say the least.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Is that harder going through moments of the psychotic episodes?
I don't know if there's even a comparison. Is that harder,
or is dealing with the different treatments and cocktails you
had to take for the HIV and AIDS? Was that harder?
Which one's harder, because I mean they're both, they're both
(31:30):
you know, taxing mentally.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I that's definitely a hard one to say. I'd say
that they they could be hard in different ways. The
HIV is hard in the sense that it's the physical,
everyday struggle, and there's also like the mental struggle of
having to take the medication and the psychosis. The psychosis
(31:59):
was hard in the sense that it felt like it
had been the sum of everything that I had gone through,
my parents, passing abuse and dealing with a disability so young,
and almost having had passed away from it myself, and
it just felt so horrible that I don't think that
(32:24):
I could cope with it. My body couldn't cope with it,
my mind couldn't cope with it, and it was it
was like an overload. Basically.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
You know, I give a lot of credit to you
because you are sharing your story and it would be
so easy not to, but you know, you're teaching us
how you got through these hard times in your life.
But I imagine, you know, being twenty something, right, everybody
wants to kind of let life start and that includes
(32:53):
you know, working, that includes relationships. How hard was it
opening up trying to have a relationship, you know, having HIV?
Speaker 2 (33:04):
It was definitely hard. I do remember my first boyfriend
I started dating in my like later years, like in
my twenties, So I remember my first boyfriend actually broke
up with me because of the HIV.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
And and again, we don't need we don't need them anyway, Right,
there's somebody better. Right, there's somebody better.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
We'll just say that.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
But is there a certain level of care that you
need to do today to take care of yourself both
from the HIV standpoint so again it never goes back
into you know, full blown aids And is there a
certain level of mental care that you have to do
again so you don't push yourself to those limits. What
(33:50):
do you do for your self care?
Speaker 2 (33:53):
My self care, I would say I do a different
multitude of things. But for my HIV I would say,
you know, definitely taking my medication, definitely, staying undetectable is paramount,
and then keeping myself safe doing things like you know,
using my mobility AIDS. I do have a caretaker, so
(34:16):
I have them come in like every now and then
to help me with certain things like cleaning, and just
like accepting that, like sometimes I do need help and
that it is okay to need help as well as,
you know, just trying to modify things if I'm having
trouble doing something, because you know, I do want to
(34:38):
keep my independence. I am independent even with my disabilities,
and I want to keep it that way. So trying
to keep a healthy level of like challenging myself but
not pushing myself is another way that I keep self
care for HIV and then for mental health. I would
say that my business, my clothing business, twenty two Clothing,
(35:00):
is definitely something that helps me stay centered, something that
helps me manage my depression and keeps me because I
have days of depression, you know, because grief is something
that we deal with for our whole lives, and when
you've dealt with something like losing your parents, it sticks
(35:23):
with you for your whole life. So I find that
when I'm working on my business twenty two Clothing, that
I have a lot less grief. It's a lot easier
for me to manage things and go forward in life.
And twenty two is the US two brand, and that's
why the two and twenty two. Clothing is spelled po and
(35:44):
if anyone does want to visit my brand, it's available
at radio dot two dot vu slash us two brand.
Speaker 11 (35:53):
You know what, I love it.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
And you know the thing is, you're I know, growing up,
your sister was in the fashion, your brother had some
you know, business insights, and it was really in high school.
But amongst all that chaos and abuse and just times
you were dealing with your own health issues that you
kind of birthed the clothing line, but then you had
(36:15):
to put it aside, and then you kind of picked
it up again in your twenties and was it And
where I'm going with that is because I know when
you got out of the hospital and you went to
various group homes and recently got your own apartment. So
congratulations there, But how important or how hard was it
(36:39):
to birth that entrepreneurial dream a months being displaced?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
So I remember starting twenty two when I was about
sixteen years old, and yes, you're right, I did take
inspiration from my siblings. Even though times were hard, there's
you know, definitely still there and I would say that
trying to birth it. Within that time, I was in
(37:09):
online school and I really needed something. I really needed
something to go forward with. And at the time, I
was inspired by one of my siblings because of their entrepreneurship,
and just my sister because of her fashion, and I
was like, I want to do a fashion business. I
was I would love that. How cool would that be?
(37:29):
And of course, when I was sixteen, you know, I
was a kid. I was just doing it, you know,
and I happened to make some sales and even told
in my class and classes sometimes. But when I was
an adult and I restarted, so the time that I
put it put it away twenty two clothing away was
when I was going through the psychosis and trying to
(37:53):
become independent. So when I picked it back up in
my twenties, it became the diverse clothing brand that it
is today, became the US two brand, and it represents
all marginalized communities. It represents disabled people at its forefront.
It's what I would say, is pretty much like a
(38:15):
revolutionary punk brand, and it really is about closing the
divide between disabled people and able bodied people.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
You know, I think bridging that gap is so important.
It's so important, and you know, we're talking today about
being fierce in life, And I know that's a word
that you're fond of. Why would you say that you
are fierce?
Speaker 2 (38:44):
I would say that I am fierce because what I've
been through was definitely not a block in the park.
And it's even today, even today, I still have my
bad days. It's still it still takes strength to be me.
And the things that I went through when I was younger,
(39:05):
it took so much strength, it took so much energy,
and I just I have compassion for younger me because
I think about that, and I think about how worthless
she felt and how she had to learn how to
feel worse within herself.
Speaker 3 (39:26):
You know, the thing is, you're only still in your
twenties and you sound like you're sixty. You got a
lot of wisdom, You got a lot a lot of wisdom,
And again I can understand that sometimes it is sad.
It's so sad, like losing your parents. But I'm pretty
(39:46):
sure they would both be in such awe of who
you are and what you're doing today, because again, it'd
be so easy not to talk about these topics, and
it'd be easy to do your clothing brand and you know, internally,
work inside and behind the scenes. But I'm personally so
proud of you, and you are fierce. I want to
(40:08):
rub some elbows with you and become even more fierce myself. Okay,
so thank you, thank you, thank you for being on
today's show and being that voice for everybody going through
HIV and AIDS and losing their parents and wanting to
be entrepreneurial and you know, finding themselves with psychosis. I mean,
you really have spoken well on behalf of all of them.
(40:31):
So thank you so much, and for everybody listening today,
just like her, if you have a story, reach out
to us at connect atlivingfullout dot com. Let us know
what you went through, how you got through it, what
you learned, because truly, when we band together, we're so
much stronger, we're fierce. Together, we'll be back.
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When it comes to being fierce in life, you want
to take all that drive, that passion for what it
is that you're trying to achieve, and really channel it
in a direction that is purposeful. Now, I realize some
days are long.
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Sometimes you want to wave the.
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White flag and say I give up. But if you
give up, think of all the people that lose out
on all the greatness that's within you and what it
is that you're trying to do, remember to always step forward,
put a smile on that face, and go for it.
You are fierce.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
Thank you again for joining us today on Nancy That's
the Living Full Out Show. And we've been talking about
being fierce in life, and truly I love the topic
because truly I'm jumping into life every day in the morning.
I can't wait to wake up and see what's ahead
of me, even the things that go sideways. Now, I
realize that may sound strange, but I look at life
(46:18):
as an adventure and an opportunity to every day up
my game, and that is what being fierce is about. Now,
I want you to think about what type of athlete
are you. You might say to yourself, Nancy, I am
not a runner, I don't do weights, I'm not an athlete,
and that is okay, that's not what I mean.
Speaker 15 (46:36):
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Speaker 3 (46:37):
I want you to think about in the lane where
you are an expert, where you have your best talents.
Maybe you're a tech athlete. You are someone that's constantly
on the buzz of what's happening. You've got all the
gidgets and gadgets, and everybody comes to you because well
you have all the answers. You just naturally know it.
You are a tech athlete. Or maybe you're someone who,
(47:00):
like myself it just really loves business development and you
know you look at things and you strategize spreadsheets, and
you're a writer and you're you're constantly looking for new
marketing endeavors. Well that is an athlete within you as well.
But whatever it is, even a cook, whether you're a
parent athlete, you want to think about how you can
(47:21):
from today onward again up your game. Now that might
take getting a bit more educated. Now we live in
this world where you can serve up any podcast, any
show that you want, including ours, you know, through your
favorite platform. But truly going to a search field, typing
in what it is that you want to get better out.
(47:44):
If you want to get better at having marketing subject
lines that pop, you can do that. If you want
to get better at learning how to fast or lose weight.
You can do that. If you just want to learn
how to boost your confidence. I promise you you type
in confident into that search field and many, many shows
will come up. The reason why I say this is
(48:06):
one of the little tips I have for you that
keeps me fierce in life is I created Nancy University.
It's kind of this way for me to take the
time that I'm waiting, maybe in a doctor's office, or
you know, I'm on the road, I'm in transition, and
that is the time that I plug in and learn
something new and again. So oftentimes you can start a
(48:27):
show and posit and come back right. And there's something
to be said for constantly learning, constantly growing, and finding
ways to push the envelope just a little bit more. Now,
another tip I want to give you is an accountability partner.
What is that you might say, Well, you want to
find that person that is like minded, you know, a
(48:49):
similar athlete to you, and together you want to challenge
each other, set goals and actually keep each other accountable. See,
part of being fierce is how having a way to
keep yourself going. I'm not saying that you have to
do the reward system. Although I personally like that it
keeps me going if I work really, really hard, I
(49:09):
get that massage at the end of the week or
at the end of the month, and oh I love those.
And maybe for you it's buying yourself something special, or
the reward could just be knowing that you are doing purpose,
that you are living a life full of intention. Now
you might say, well, Nancy, all that sounds great, but
(49:30):
I just don't have the drive. Well, I want you
to think about taking more time to sleep, taking more
time to meditate, you know, turning off the TV, putting
the phone down. Because a lot of times, although the
Nancy University keeps me stimulated and the accountability partner keeps
me on track, sometimes the best growth moments, the times
(49:54):
when you're silently fierce, is when you're by yourself, you know,
letting your thoughts go to your wildest dreams, thinking about
you know where maybe in your life you know you
did things wrong or what you wish you could do over.
Although it may not seem exciting to go back in
the past and dwell on it, if we look at
the past, then we can leap into the future with
(50:16):
a bit more clarity. A bit more certainty and kind
of almost a do over in a different way. And
also when we think about being fierce today, I want
you to really put those ducky ducks in a row.
What do I mean by that? Consider the time, the people,
the money it might take for you to live this
(50:38):
fearless you know, fierce life that you want. And I
say time, people, money, because when we're realistic with time,
you know, then we can have that ambition, we can
have that desire, but also it's going to be tempered
with a realistic expectation of how we can go about it,
how we can achieve it. Also, yes, we may have
(51:00):
all the passion in the drive like I do, but
I'll promise you at living full out, this black girl
she doesn't see everything right. So many people are my eyes,
they're my ears, they are the arms of living full out.
And so you can't be fierce always by yourself. It
takes a team, It takes that tribe. Also, you want
to think about the money, because again passion, having heart,
(51:24):
having a vision, that is a large part of it.
But you also want to make sure that you've got
the budget, the dollars to really give that dream all
of its boost and all of its energy to make
it come true. Now again, thank you so much for
listening to today's show. The entire Living full Out family
stands beside you as you go out there and do
great things. We got Brent and Dirk, and Julie and
(51:47):
Eric and so many people that just want to make
sure that you take action today. Take all these tips
that you've learned and run with them, because when you
do that, you're able to truly get out there and
make the magic happen. Also, make sure you go to
Livingfoullout dot com. All of our episodes will be waiting.
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Just pick the one that resonates most with what you're
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome.
Speaker 3 (00:20):
To the Living Full Out Show. My name is Nancy Selari,
and today we're talking about being fierce in life and
I love it.
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Yum yum yum.
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Let's gobble up all that life has to offer. But
to do that, sometimes we have to get a little
bit methodical. Sometimes we have to be a little bit
more care free. It really depends on which spectrum you're on.
But when you have focus, when you have intention, you
can be just super fierce and go after life in
a big way. In fact, our inspirational guests coming up
(00:52):
tsunge Neguerra went through just so many different twist and turns.
She went through being HIV and aids positive to finding
our way through an abusive relationship, to coming out the
other end with her own clothing line that's full of
purpose and intention. So how did she do all that?
So stay with us or retelling her story and learning
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Let's go check in with them. Hello, and welcome to
The Living Full Out Show. Hello, Hi, how can I
(01:37):
help you today?
Speaker 5 (01:38):
I have a question about some relationship advice. I have
always believed that if the right person is meant for me,
he will find his way into my life. However, lately
I have wondered if I may be losing time. Should
I keep trusting that things will happen naturally or is
it important that I start putting myself out there in
the relationship world.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Mm? Such a good question. Well, I would love to think,
and women and men everywhere, everybody who's looking for love
would love to think that they're going to find us.
And it is possible. It is possible that love will
find us, but that's relatively. It has to be equal
(02:21):
to are you in places they can find you? So
if you are a homebody and you like to stay
home and you know, watch TV or just you know,
really love that being being safe and incomfortable at home,
which is great. Then it's highly unlikely that unless it's
like the cable guy or you know, or somebody that
(02:43):
happens to be coming over to do a repair, you know,
it might not be possible. But if you are out
and about, if you are putting yourself in social circles,
then you might not have to go to dating apps
and dating websites. You know, it is possible to meet
somebody organically. How physically socially are you out there?
Speaker 5 (03:09):
Well, I'm a student at university and I'm usually like
I go to class and then weekends I go out.
I think I guess like twice a month I go
out to in night life, So I think I'm pretty
out there.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
So you're out there in class and you're out there
maybe bars, clubs, and you know, different venues at night.
The one thing you've got to ask yourself and maybe
study this over the next month, is when you're in
those places, are those your people? Is that where you
think you're going to find your partner? And I say
(03:53):
that because you know, I mean I've taken classes before,
and I would definitely observe the room and say I
could one hundred percent date no one here. Feel pretty
good about that, Right, But I've also had classes where
there's been that person that I had a crush on. Right,
it just kind of depends. It just kind of depends
(04:14):
on what lights you up. Okay, So like, if what
lights you up is someone similar to you common interest,
then that's a great thing. Then you're more likely to
find them in the social circles that you're in. But
if your heart's desire and you are more kind of
curious and intrigued by someone different than you, then you
(04:38):
might have to put yourself in those different circles. And
sometimes those different circles can be achieved by taking a
class that's outside of the academic box. So maybe take
a class on golfing, maybe take a class on scuba diving. Right,
kind of meet somebody that's different than you. It's a
(04:59):
new you hobby that you're you're acquiring and maybe meeting
someone who's you know, adventurous. The other thing is there's
a site that I've used several times before I talk
about it. It's called meetup dot com.
Speaker 6 (05:12):
Have you heard of that?
Speaker 5 (05:14):
No? I have not.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Okay, So meetup is in most places and you can
just put in your zip code and pick whatever ranged
five miles, ten miles, whatever that looks like. And the
beauty is there's online and in person events, and I
mean it's everything from crafting. If you're looking to meet
a new galpal, it's everything from happy hours. I do karaoke.
(05:39):
There's a volleyball and hiking and every activity under the sun, tennis,
you name it, so you can you can meet people
in a socially active way. And so sometimes meeting people
organically like that would be a good way to go.
Now the caveat and the thing I do like about
dating sites is if you are someone that's busy, you
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know your this is not necessarily your case, but you know,
if you find that you're you're you're genuinely busy, but
you're not meeting people that are in that group that
you want to meet, then that's where a dating app
or a website can be great. It's an extension of
where you can't physically be. So what do you think
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is the best fit for you.
Speaker 5 (06:31):
I've always wanted to meet somebody organically because I have
tried dating apps, have gone on.
Speaker 7 (06:38):
To dates, and they have not.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Been the best. So I kind of have lost hope
with stating apps and I haven't tried it in like
a couple of months.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Well good of you to try, then that's just not
your method, that's not your way. So I think I
think stay true to the organic. There's just something natural
about that, not for and the element of surprise, right,
because when you're scrolling through profiles, right, everything's revealed, right,
(07:08):
But when you meet somebody organically, there's an element of
I don't know who you are, well, I don't know
what we could be. And most of all, I watch
a lot of Hallmark. I love love songs. I am
such a goober. I love to be in love, Okay,
So I believe that the most important thing is to
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hold on to that hope. But remember, and this is
a really important thought, there is somebody out there that's
looking for you, and you're looking for them.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
So it's just.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
Important that you do everything that you can to be
accessible for them to find you. And that could be
going places organically, or that could be going on a
dating app or a website. As long as you make
yourself available and accessible, then that person can find you.
But if you're on the phone, your head's in a textbook,
(08:06):
you're on the computer, you're always going out with your friends,
then that makes it harder for that person to kind
of find you and let alone, you know, break the
barrier of because girls together, gals and guys together. When
you guys all go out, that can be intimidating. So
you might even try to just take yourself out to
(08:27):
lunch by yourself, go to dinner by yourself. There's an
empty chair ready and available for someone to have a seat,
because sometimes it is hard to meet people when you're
with a lot of people. Just because you know, there's
the philosophy of love the one you're with right, you're
loving and enjoying time with your friends. It doesn't mean
(08:50):
that you're going to meet that person. Do you see that?
Speaker 8 (08:55):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (08:57):
And then also what I would do too is I
would surround yourself with positivity and affirmations. You know, I
will find love, I'm worthy of love. I'm gonna or
even I'm gonna meet that person tonight or this is
the year, or I will have a i will have
(09:20):
a date on New Year's Eve. Right, you know what
we speak in life. Translate it. It goes from like
our voice, it goes to our heart, it goes to
our head, it goes out into the universe. So that
belief meter inside you, like when we started the call,
you're not sure anymore. You got to keep that belief
(09:42):
meter turned up on high so that you believe that
person can come your way. And if you do that,
you're gonna find them. Can you try that?
Speaker 2 (09:56):
Yes? Actually, today I'm gonna be going out.
Speaker 5 (10:01):
A bunch of friends to a bar. Maybe I meet
my match tonight.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
Who knows, Tonight could be the night. And then the
next time we have a show, you'll be calling me.
Speaker 9 (10:11):
Back with updates.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Right because I love a good love story. I'll be
hanging on your every word and so absolutely tonight could
be the night. So have fun, lift full out. Okay,
thank you for calling in and for everybody today we
are talking about being fierce in life, and fierce can
even be being available having that belief meter turned up,
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you know, knowing that good things are around the corner,
and always remember you are a diamond in this world.
You just have to let time and pressure and everything
unfold as it should be. But when you do that,
and you have patience, doors will open, that love will
find you, and then it'll all be worth it.
Speaker 9 (10:56):
We'll be back.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Silari. As
a life coach. Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You can ask Nancy for
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Just call in at eight hundred three three three zero
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Welcome back.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
I'm Nancy Silari and this is the Living Full Out Show,
and today we're talking about being fierce in life, and
we have brought you an inspirational guest to Suney Nimera,
who is going to share with us about how she
got through some really hard times with her her family
but also her health and was able to find her
way even to be such an entrepreneur to start her
(15:57):
own clothing line? How do you go from A to
Z and ma all that happen. So I'd like to welcome.
Speaker 6 (16:02):
Her to the show.
Speaker 2 (16:03):
Oh hi, hi.
Speaker 3 (16:05):
Boy, aren't you just a poof of energy? I love
it so good to hear your voice. I want to
kind of share with our audience a bit about your
early years growing up, because wow, you went through a
lot between five to ten to gosh fourteen, but those
were some really, really critical years. And the first place
(16:29):
I'd like to start is so your father, like so many,
I mean, alcoholism is just tough, right, and it does
change somebody's ability to their behaviors or their ability to
love or even know when they're being you know, not good,
(16:50):
when they're being abusive.
Speaker 17 (16:52):
And can you.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
Share with us a little bit of you know, pre five,
what that was like, but also what you remember about
your mom, you know, choosing to leave.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
So before I was five years old, I do remember
moving from Malawi, which is where I'm from. I'm from Malawi, Africa.
Then we moved to the UK and we moved there
because my mom had gotten a nursing job and I
remember my dad, the chaos in the household. He did
deal with alcoholism, and I do remember leaving in the
(17:33):
middle of the night in the UK to move to
the United States of America.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
And your mom, your mom was there to protect you.
She was a really good mom, and she knew that
for all of you to thrive, she needed to leave
and got another nursing job in Las Vegas and ended
up moving. And it was you know, there were years
in there where you know, she was working hard, you
(18:04):
all were, you know, trying to get you know, acclimated,
and you know, those are again very you know, sensitive years.
But your mom ended up getting sick and your dad
got sick, I mean both of them when you were ten.
What happened then.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
But when I was ten, my mom fell very ill,
and it was actually a couple months after my dad
had started dealing with problems with his liver due to
the alcoholism. And at this time we were separated from
my dad, so we my dad was living in Malawi
(18:43):
and we were living in the States, and my dad
had been diagnosed with him liver disease, and he eventually
passed away from this in December of two thousand and seven,
and then three months later, my mom, she was a
nurse in a hospital and she had fallen very ill
(19:06):
while she was working. And a couple of weeks later
she was hospitalized and found out that she had pneumonia,
and about a month later she had passed away from
complications from HIV. She had an opportunistic infection of pneumonia.
(19:30):
And it was really hard on our family. They only
passed away three months apart, and I was in the
fifth grade.
Speaker 3 (19:38):
I'm so sorry. I mean, that is a huge amount
of loss that, you know, a ten year old can't
even understand the why you know? I mean, what is
you know? What is HIV? What is alcoholism? And mean
at ten you knew what they were, but you know
only as much as your ten year old person could
could know, right, you didn't know the depths of it.
Speaker 15 (20:00):
Now.
Speaker 3 (20:00):
Interestingly enough, your older siblings kind of took on the
parent rules. You know, your older brother, your sister, and
the three of you kind of banded together to try
to grow up together. And you eventually got sick as well.
What age were you and what were some of the
(20:21):
symptoms that you were starting to feel?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
So when I was about thirteen, I remember it was
about the end of eighth grade. So I remember throughout
my childhood I was pretty like able bodied, able to
do everything that my peers were able to do. Until
one day I got a cold and I couldn't. I
just didn't recover. And when that happened, it was very confusing,
(20:48):
very disorienting. I felt like I had a cold, but
it was constant, it wouldn't go away, and there was
a lot of migraines, verged go, fatigue, everything like that.
And I still feel these symptoms to this day. So
to this day, I walk with a cane wheel and
use a wheelchair. And when I was thirteen, it was
(21:13):
just it was very heartbreaking for me to find that out,
especially to know that my mother had passed away for
the same illness that I had. It was definitely jarring
to deal with.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
Did they so you ultimately had HIV and AIDS. I
mean it had progressed and it left you in a
disabled state in what way?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
So, like I was mentioning before, I the same symptoms
that I had when I was thirteen, they still persist
to this day, like they've they've changed over the years,
you know, gotten better, gotten worse, everything like that. It's
been a flux, but they the symptoms still remain. I
deal with chronic pain, chronic fatigue, chronic vertigo and other
(22:06):
symptoms as well sometimes, but those three are the main
symptoms that I deal with, and they render me to
be having to use a cane and a power scooter
or wheelchair.
Speaker 3 (22:21):
Did they ever share with you or did you ever
find out how you got HIV AIDS, like because.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
You were only thirteen, Yes, I was born with it.
Speaker 3 (22:31):
M And how and then how long were you in
the HIV I'm sorry, the AIDS phase before you kind
of were able to get to the HIV phase.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Only the recovery was not too long to get undetectable,
So becoming undetectable was maybe about like six months to
a year. It was back in the days of like
medicines like a Tripla or a Clara, and those medicines
were for adults, so they were very hard on my
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juvenile body. M.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
You know, it's it's I'm so grateful that you're on
the show today because you know, we see, we hear
about this. You know, we've heard it in movies and
there's been you know a lot of great advancements, you know,
over the years, but you were so young to get
this news, and so I want you to stay with
us because as we journey along with her story, there's
(23:30):
just a lot more that comes about. I mean, I
can say this in my own way, having my own disability.
It can be heartbreaking, it can be depressing, and one
really has to look deep within to find their way out.
So stay with us. We're going to be talking more
about her story, but mainly how did she take these
moments in life and become fierce and live full out.
Speaker 5 (24:03):
Today?
Speaker 18 (24:04):
In school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I learned
that no one likes me. In English, I learned that
I'm disgusting, and in Physics, I learned that I'm a loser.
Speaker 19 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim, I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 20 (24:26):
Today in school, I learned that I have no friends.
In English, I learned that I make people sick, and
at lunch I learned that I sit on my own
because I smell. In chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 19 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid, and in math, I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 18 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, The
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 11 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
strive for success. If you have a question or need
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Speaker 3 (28:22):
Thank you again for joining us today. I'm Nancy Solari,
and this is the Living Full Out Show, and today
we're talking about being fearless in life and Tasinge Naguera
is such a great example of what it means to
live full out. So I'd like to welcome her back
to the show. Oo hi, thank you again for just
your honesty and courage in the last segment. You know
(28:46):
you were sharing with us how at age thirteen, you know,
you found out you had HIV and AIDS and and
we're you know, in time you know able to become undetectable,
but you know it obviously caused your body a lot
of harm. It caused you to become disabled. And as
(29:07):
you were navigating you know, the years, you know, as
you kind of went along, I know there was just
a lot again between you and your siblings, and eventually
you got to a place where it was just breaking you.
It was just becoming overwhelmingly too much. Can you share
(29:27):
with us why, what was that pressure and what it
caused you to do?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
Well? I remember when I was about twenty one years old.
By that time, after my parents had passed away, I
had been living with my siblings for most of that time,
about a decade, and I remember there was a lot
of chaos in the household, abuse as well, and it
(29:59):
brought me to a point where I started feeling like
I couldn't I couldn't take it anymore. It was too much.
And of course, you know, I was suicidal and everything
like that. But the thing that was a big turning
point in my life was that I had the stress
had become so much that my mind couldn't take it,
(30:23):
and I started developing a psychotic episode. I ended up
having erratic behavior, delusions, blacking out. It was a horrible time.
And that was in twenty eighteen.
Speaker 3 (30:36):
And I don't even know how you got through that
because I'm legally blind, and granted, being blind does not
a walk in the park. But I really give it
to anyone who's you know, dealing with you know, mental health,
you know, concerns and episodes, because it's so scary. It's
kind of like you're I imagine you felt some time
(30:58):
that you were having like an out of body experienperience
with it.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Yeah, it was. It was disorienting, to say the least.
Speaker 3 (31:09):
Is that harder going through moments of the psychotic episodes?
I don't know if there's even a comparison. Is that harder,
or is dealing with the different treatments and cocktails you
had to take for the HIV and AIDS? Was that harder?
Which one's harder, because I mean they're both, they're both
(31:30):
you know, taxing mentally.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I that's definitely a hard one to say. I'd say
that they they could be hard in different ways. The
HIV is hard in the sense that it's the physical,
everyday struggle, and there's also like the mental struggle of
having to take the medication and the psychosis. The psychosis
(31:59):
was hard in the sense that it felt like it
had been the sum of everything that I had gone through,
my parents, passing abuse and dealing with a disability so young,
and almost having had passed away from it myself, and
it just felt so horrible that I don't think that
(32:24):
I could cope with it. My body couldn't cope with it,
my mind couldn't cope with it, and it was it
was like an overload. Basically.
Speaker 3 (32:32):
You know, I give a lot of credit to you
because you are sharing your story and it would be
so easy not to, but you know, you're teaching us
how you got through these hard times in your life.
But I imagine, you know, being twenty something, right, everybody
wants to kind of let life start and that includes
(32:53):
you know, working, that includes relationships. How hard was it
opening up trying to have a relationship, you know, having HIV?
Speaker 2 (33:04):
It was definitely hard. I do remember my first boyfriend
I started dating in my like later years, like in
my twenties, So I remember my first boyfriend actually broke
up with me because of the HIV.
Speaker 3 (33:18):
And and again, we don't need we don't need them anyway, Right,
there's somebody better. Right, there's somebody better.
Speaker 6 (33:26):
We'll just say that.
Speaker 3 (33:27):
But is there a certain level of care that you
need to do today to take care of yourself both
from the HIV standpoint so again it never goes back
into you know, full blown aids And is there a
certain level of mental care that you have to do
again so you don't push yourself to those limits. What
(33:50):
do you do for your self care?
Speaker 2 (33:53):
My self care, I would say I do a different
multitude of things. But for my HIV I would say,
you know, definitely taking my medication, definitely, staying undetectable is paramount,
and then keeping myself safe doing things like you know,
using my mobility AIDS. I do have a caretaker, so
(34:16):
I have them come in like every now and then
to help me with certain things like cleaning, and just
like accepting that, like sometimes I do need help and
that it is okay to need help as well as,
you know, just trying to modify things if I'm having
trouble doing something, because you know, I do want to
(34:38):
keep my independence. I am independent even with my disabilities,
and I want to keep it that way. So trying
to keep a healthy level of like challenging myself but
not pushing myself is another way that I keep self
care for HIV and then for mental health. I would
say that my business, my clothing business, twenty two Clothing,
(35:00):
is definitely something that helps me stay centered, something that
helps me manage my depression and keeps me because I
have days of depression, you know, because grief is something
that we deal with for our whole lives, and when
you've dealt with something like losing your parents, it sticks
(35:23):
with you for your whole life. So I find that
when I'm working on my business twenty two Clothing, that
I have a lot less grief. It's a lot easier
for me to manage things and go forward in life.
And twenty two is the US two brand, and that's
why the two and twenty two. Clothing is spelled po and
(35:44):
if anyone does want to visit my brand, it's available
at radio dot two dot vu slash us two brand.
Speaker 11 (35:53):
You know what, I love it.
Speaker 3 (35:54):
And you know the thing is, you're I know, growing up,
your sister was in the fashion, your brother had some
you know, business insights, and it was really in high school.
But amongst all that chaos and abuse and just times
you were dealing with your own health issues that you
kind of birthed the clothing line, but then you had
(36:15):
to put it aside, and then you kind of picked
it up again in your twenties and was it And
where I'm going with that is because I know when
you got out of the hospital and you went to
various group homes and recently got your own apartment. So
congratulations there, But how important or how hard was it
(36:39):
to birth that entrepreneurial dream a months being displaced?
Speaker 2 (36:46):
So I remember starting twenty two when I was about
sixteen years old, and yes, you're right, I did take
inspiration from my siblings. Even though times were hard, there's
you know, definitely still there and I would say that
trying to birth it. Within that time, I was in
(37:09):
online school and I really needed something. I really needed
something to go forward with. And at the time, I
was inspired by one of my siblings because of their entrepreneurship,
and just my sister because of her fashion, and I
was like, I want to do a fashion business. I
was I would love that. How cool would that be?
(37:29):
And of course, when I was sixteen, you know, I
was a kid. I was just doing it, you know,
and I happened to make some sales and even told
in my class and classes sometimes. But when I was
an adult and I restarted, so the time that I
put it put it away twenty two clothing away was
when I was going through the psychosis and trying to
(37:53):
become independent. So when I picked it back up in
my twenties, it became the diverse clothing brand that it
is today, became the US two brand, and it represents
all marginalized communities. It represents disabled people at its forefront.
It's what I would say, is pretty much like a
(38:15):
revolutionary punk brand, and it really is about closing the
divide between disabled people and able bodied people.
Speaker 3 (38:28):
You know, I think bridging that gap is so important.
It's so important, and you know, we're talking today about
being fierce in life, And I know that's a word
that you're fond of. Why would you say that you
are fierce?
Speaker 2 (38:44):
I would say that I am fierce because what I've
been through was definitely not a block in the park.
And it's even today, even today, I still have my
bad days. It's still it still takes strength to be me.
And the things that I went through when I was younger,
(39:05):
it took so much strength, it took so much energy,
and I just I have compassion for younger me because
I think about that, and I think about how worthless
she felt and how she had to learn how to
feel worse within herself.
Speaker 3 (39:26):
You know, the thing is, you're only still in your
twenties and you sound like you're sixty. You got a
lot of wisdom, You got a lot a lot of wisdom,
And again I can understand that sometimes it is sad.
It's so sad, like losing your parents. But I'm pretty
(39:46):
sure they would both be in such awe of who
you are and what you're doing today, because again, it'd
be so easy not to talk about these topics, and
it'd be easy to do your clothing brand and you know, internally,
work inside and behind the scenes. But I'm personally so
proud of you, and you are fierce. I want to
(40:08):
rub some elbows with you and become even more fierce myself. Okay,
so thank you, thank you, thank you for being on
today's show and being that voice for everybody going through
HIV and AIDS and losing their parents and wanting to
be entrepreneurial and you know, finding themselves with psychosis. I mean,
you really have spoken well on behalf of all of them.
(40:31):
So thank you so much, and for everybody listening today,
just like her, if you have a story, reach out
to us at connect atlivingfullout dot com. Let us know
what you went through, how you got through it, what
you learned, because truly, when we band together, we're so
much stronger, we're fierce. Together, we'll be back.
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Speaker 11 (44:02):
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Speaker 3 (45:02):
When it comes to being fierce in life, you want
to take all that drive, that passion for what it
is that you're trying to achieve, and really channel it
in a direction that is purposeful. Now, I realize some
days are long.
Speaker 4 (45:15):
Sometimes you want to wave the.
Speaker 3 (45:16):
White flag and say I give up. But if you
give up, think of all the people that lose out
on all the greatness that's within you and what it
is that you're trying to do, remember to always step forward,
put a smile on that face, and go for it.
You are fierce.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
Thank you again for joining us today on Nancy That's
the Living Full Out Show. And we've been talking about
being fierce in life, and truly I love the topic
because truly I'm jumping into life every day in the morning.
I can't wait to wake up and see what's ahead
of me, even the things that go sideways. Now, I
realize that may sound strange, but I look at life
(46:18):
as an adventure and an opportunity to every day up
my game, and that is what being fierce is about. Now,
I want you to think about what type of athlete
are you. You might say to yourself, Nancy, I am
not a runner, I don't do weights, I'm not an athlete,
and that is okay, that's not what I mean.
Speaker 15 (46:36):
I mean.
Speaker 3 (46:37):
I want you to think about in the lane where
you are an expert, where you have your best talents.
Maybe you're a tech athlete. You are someone that's constantly
on the buzz of what's happening. You've got all the
gidgets and gadgets, and everybody comes to you because well
you have all the answers. You just naturally know it.
You are a tech athlete. Or maybe you're someone who,
(47:00):
like myself it just really loves business development and you
know you look at things and you strategize spreadsheets, and
you're a writer and you're you're constantly looking for new
marketing endeavors. Well that is an athlete within you as well.
But whatever it is, even a cook, whether you're a
parent athlete, you want to think about how you can
(47:21):
from today onward again up your game. Now that might
take getting a bit more educated. Now we live in
this world where you can serve up any podcast, any
show that you want, including ours, you know, through your
favorite platform. But truly going to a search field, typing
in what it is that you want to get better out.
(47:44):
If you want to get better at having marketing subject
lines that pop, you can do that. If you want
to get better at learning how to fast or lose weight.
You can do that. If you just want to learn
how to boost your confidence. I promise you you type
in confident into that search field and many, many shows
will come up. The reason why I say this is
(48:06):
one of the little tips I have for you that
keeps me fierce in life is I created Nancy University.
It's kind of this way for me to take the
time that I'm waiting, maybe in a doctor's office, or
you know, I'm on the road, I'm in transition, and
that is the time that I plug in and learn
something new and again. So oftentimes you can start a
(48:27):
show and posit and come back right. And there's something
to be said for constantly learning, constantly growing, and finding
ways to push the envelope just a little bit more. Now,
another tip I want to give you is an accountability partner.
What is that you might say, Well, you want to
find that person that is like minded, you know, a
(48:49):
similar athlete to you, and together you want to challenge
each other, set goals and actually keep each other accountable. See,
part of being fierce is how having a way to
keep yourself going. I'm not saying that you have to
do the reward system. Although I personally like that it
keeps me going if I work really, really hard, I
(49:09):
get that massage at the end of the week or
at the end of the month, and oh I love those.
And maybe for you it's buying yourself something special, or
the reward could just be knowing that you are doing purpose,
that you are living a life full of intention. Now
you might say, well, Nancy, all that sounds great, but
(49:30):
I just don't have the drive. Well, I want you
to think about taking more time to sleep, taking more
time to meditate, you know, turning off the TV, putting
the phone down. Because a lot of times, although the
Nancy University keeps me stimulated and the accountability partner keeps
me on track, sometimes the best growth moments, the times
(49:54):
when you're silently fierce, is when you're by yourself, you know,
letting your thoughts go to your wildest dreams, thinking about
you know where maybe in your life you know you
did things wrong or what you wish you could do over.
Although it may not seem exciting to go back in
the past and dwell on it, if we look at
the past, then we can leap into the future with
(50:16):
a bit more clarity. A bit more certainty and kind
of almost a do over in a different way. And
also when we think about being fierce today, I want
you to really put those ducky ducks in a row.
What do I mean by that? Consider the time, the people,
the money it might take for you to live this
(50:38):
fearless you know, fierce life that you want. And I
say time, people, money, because when we're realistic with time,
you know, then we can have that ambition, we can
have that desire, but also it's going to be tempered
with a realistic expectation of how we can go about it,
how we can achieve it. Also, yes, we may have
(51:00):
all the passion in the drive like I do, but
I'll promise you at living full out, this black girl
she doesn't see everything right. So many people are my eyes,
they're my ears, they are the arms of living full out.
And so you can't be fierce always by yourself. It
takes a team, It takes that tribe. Also, you want
to think about the money, because again passion, having heart,
(51:24):
having a vision, that is a large part of it.
But you also want to make sure that you've got
the budget, the dollars to really give that dream all
of its boost and all of its energy to make
it come true. Now again, thank you so much for
listening to today's show. The entire Living full Out family
stands beside you as you go out there and do
great things. We got Brent and Dirk, and Julie and
(51:47):
Eric and so many people that just want to make
sure that you take action today. Take all these tips
that you've learned and run with them, because when you
do that, you're able to truly get out there and
make the magic happen. Also, make sure you go to
Livingfoullout dot com. All of our episodes will be waiting.
Speaker 6 (52:05):
Right there for you.
Speaker 3 (52:06):
Just pick the one that resonates most with what you're
going through, and I promise we'll stand beside you every
step of the way as you live full out.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to the Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
Livingfullout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
and subscribing to our YouTube channel. Here's to you, Living
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