November 1, 2025 • 52 mins
Episode: 2025.11.36
The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to take hold of challenges and transform them into opportunities. Maybe you avoid obstacles. Perhaps you need motivation to conquer tough situations. Join Nancy as she discusses taking charge.
Our first listener Bob wrote in asking for advice having recently lost his spouse. Losing anyone is tough, but a lifetime partner can be the hardest of them all. Bob seeks answers on how to cope with such a hardship. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses how to heal this pain.
Our second listener Sally wrote in questioning what to do regarding an unbearable work situation. There’s untrue gossip going around that is negatively affecting her life. Sally has been breaking out, unable to sleep, and more. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses what to do to defeat this obstacle.
Our inspirational guest Shariann Tom is a five-time cancer survivor. The struggle of being hit by this challenge so many times was undoubtedly difficult. From intense treatment to feeling isolated, she endured. Tune in to hear how Shariann was able to take power and transform her life to be successful and support others.
Perhaps you want to prevail over a struggle. Try to lean on a support system that aligns with the challenge you are facing. When you harness adversity, you can feel free and powerful. Then, you’ll be living full out.
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The Living Full Out show with Nancy Solari encourages you to take hold of challenges and transform them into opportunities. Maybe you avoid obstacles. Perhaps you need motivation to conquer tough situations. Join Nancy as she discusses taking charge.
Our first listener Bob wrote in asking for advice having recently lost his spouse. Losing anyone is tough, but a lifetime partner can be the hardest of them all. Bob seeks answers on how to cope with such a hardship. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses how to heal this pain.
Our second listener Sally wrote in questioning what to do regarding an unbearable work situation. There’s untrue gossip going around that is negatively affecting her life. Sally has been breaking out, unable to sleep, and more. Tune in to hear as Nancy discusses what to do to defeat this obstacle.
Our inspirational guest Shariann Tom is a five-time cancer survivor. The struggle of being hit by this challenge so many times was undoubtedly difficult. From intense treatment to feeling isolated, she endured. Tune in to hear how Shariann was able to take power and transform her life to be successful and support others.
Perhaps you want to prevail over a struggle. Try to lean on a support system that aligns with the challenge you are facing. When you harness adversity, you can feel free and powerful. Then, you’ll be living full out.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/living-full-out-show--1474350/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're listening the Living Full Out with Nancy Solari. As
a professional motivational speaker, Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My
name is Nancy Solari, and today we're going to be
talking about harnessing adversity. And we all have that, right
we all have those times that we get that crossroad
moment and we've got to make a decision and not
always is it pretty, And then other times we get
a scoop of tragedy and heartbreak. And I say all
(00:42):
that quickly because the beauty of life is that once
you can get around those adversities, once you can kind
of take the power back and move forward, you really can.
There actually is goodness around the corner. It's just getting
through those moments. And our inspirational guests coming up in
our next segment, Sherry and Tom really had to channel
(01:03):
that ability to power through when she had cancer five times.
I mean, an amazing story that I can't wait to
share with you and just how she has such a
beautiful outlook on life now and how cancer changed her.
And I also want to make sure that beyond today's show,
that you're welcome to go to the app store and
download the Living Full Out Show app because we want
(01:26):
to be there to support you when you need us,
and that just might be in the middle of the
night when you can't sleep, that might be when you
need to get juiced up at the gym and have
that time on the treadmill go faster. Well, I don't
know about you, but listening to inspirational stories, whether it's
this show or others, to me, that's important. It's good
to know that others have gone beyond tragedy, beyond disappointment
(01:52):
and have got to the other side. And the secret
to it all is how did they do that? So
that's what we try to show here now. Throughout time,
you know, we've taken different listener calls and you've heard
that we felt today we would do something a little
bit different and kind of give a little bit more
attention to all those that write in. So I'm going
(02:14):
to share with you about a couple of folks here.
So the first one is Bob so the thing that's
interesting here about his scenario. I won't read the whole letter,
but one of the things that he is going through
is the loss of his spouse. And well, I personally
can never imagine what it's like to lose someone I've
spent twenty years of my life with, who've had children
(02:37):
with and all of that. I can't imagine that pain
that loss. I can also appreciate, though, Loss is loss,
and for some they're losing children, children they've had and
those that they can never have if they're infertile. Some
people it's the loss of a pet, and again maybe
that is their fur baby and they only live so long.
(03:00):
So one of the things that I want to share,
you know, and let Bob know is to hang in there.
I think it's really important that he surround himself with
others that are walking that same path. Support groups are great.
I don't know, depending on anyone's circumstances, the support group
ability may be different, whether it's you know, through social
(03:22):
media or in person. But Bob, the widowed group is
a special one and it's one where if you can,
I would see in your local area, if you can
build that camaraderie with others. Even just doing things together
a hike and being able to talk about your spouses
or talk about how you're kind of filling that time
(03:42):
and so forth, I think could be really healing. You know,
I've learned over time in interviewing a lot of guests
who have lost their families and spouses, is it's not
about replacing them. It's always about talking about them and
celebrating them and living your best life in all honor
of them. But at the same time, they would want
(04:04):
you to be happy. So, Bob, one of the things
that you want to think about is what is that
for you? And perhaps you know over time you may
have had conversations with your spouse about what if something
happened to either of you, would either of you feel
good about the other, you know, moving on to a
(04:24):
new relationship or or did you make a pack that
you know together forever and ever? And that's it. But
either way, you know, the thing is is I would
just really take today to think about your partner and
just really hold their memory near and dear, and know
that we will continue to bring guests to the show
(04:47):
that you know we feel will inspire you to see
how how they have been able to cope and get
past their grieving time. I also want to share with
you another email here we have Sally. So, Sally is
going through feeling picked on at work, and that can
be really a stuck moment because we are in twisty
(05:11):
times right now, in this world where paychecks are needed.
You know, bills just keep coming in, and so if
you do your job and you do it well and
you show up on time, it should be a safe
harbor where you can do what you need to do
and do it well and earn what you need to earn,
and let that be that. In her situation, though, it
(05:34):
is almost becoming unbearable, she's finding herself breaking out. She's
not sleeping, she's watching the clock every minute of the day.
She feels as though she has to go eat in
her car. It's very difficult for her to get any support.
And really she is unfortunately kind of due to gossip
(05:58):
that isn't true. And I want to thank you Sally
so much for reaching out to us about your story,
because what I think is so important is the fact
that her entire working life right now is uprooted due
to rumors that aren't true. And what I take away
from Sally's story here that she's sharing with us is
(06:19):
a couple of things. I think we can all learn
from her situation that the stories we tell others, the
spin we put on them, is really important. It's one
that we really have to almost close our mouths. Sometimes
better to say nothing than to say anything at all.
That mantra and I just wonder sometimes if when there's
(06:44):
gossip surrounding, if half of those people Sally don't even
feel that way. I think maybe they just kind of
went along with the pack, and sometimes it's hard to
go against the grain and stick up for another person
like yourself. What I would do, if I will you, though,
is I would make sure to go to your supervisor manager.
(07:05):
I don't see a mention of that here. That would
be the number one. If that is a safe thing
to do, then perhaps they can move you to a
different department, Perhaps they can elevate you in your role,
so maybe you're not having to report to any of
the others that are difficult to work with. If, for example,
(07:25):
going to your boss is not safe, maybe they are
part of all the rumors. Maybe they're part of that
toxic environment that I really want to empower you to
get through this adversity, this adversity of pain and frustration
and feeling bullied and gossipy and fine yourself to a
(07:49):
better place. You know, we should never feel like we
are stuck in any one job, in any one relationship.
You know, life is meant to be lived, it's not
mean to be tortured. Right. So the thing is, Sally,
is what you might want to do is take your
talents elsewhere.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I realize that you need your job. You have to
pay the bills. I get that. But at the same time,
you could be subtly looking for another opportunity. Maybe from
the time you've taken this job, you've even grown in
ways that you'd be more desirable to another company than
(08:28):
stuck in the role that you are. And so I
really encourage you to look at all those different options.
You know, one of the things that we take very
seriously at Living Full Out is all of your emails,
all of your calls. When you all call into the show,
we want to make sure that you have a moment
where you have a sounding board, a safe place to
(08:48):
bring your thoughts, your concerns, and it's about talking it
out now. For all of you that have friends and
family you can lean on. That is a good thing.
And for the rest of you, where you're not sure
who to turn to, you can always turn to Nancy.
Our team will always be there for you. Just send
us those letters to connect at livingfullout dot com. And
(09:10):
in the spirit of coaching, we like to go by example.
So for all of you again that are going through
these moments of adversity and you're needing solutions and support.
If you have gotten around the bend, you have gone
through the fire, you've crawled through the trenches, and you've
gotten to the other side, this is your opportunity to
(09:33):
pay it forward. This is your opportunity to say, you
know what, I'm ready to share my story. I'm ready
to share what I've learned and help another person that
is truly in the spirit of what it means to
live full out. So equally for you, we'd love for
you to reach out to us at connect at livingfullout
dot com. Let us know what you went through, how
(09:56):
you got through it, what you learned, and of course
you're con tech information and we would enjoy speaking with
you further and possibly having you on as an inspirational guest.
Now I do want to make sure though, that you
do stay with us, because Sherry and Tom is going
to be coming on shortly as our inspirational guest for
(10:17):
today and sharing about how she went through cancer five
different times. So again, adversity could be cancer, it could
be a disability that you're struggling with. It could be
feeling abused, it could be feeling trapped in a job.
All of that is something that we have to kind
of nurture and get through together. But we can. And
(10:39):
when you do, what are you doing your living life
full out? We'll be right back after this break. Stay
with us.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
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(11:24):
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(11:46):
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living full Out with Nancy Silary As
a life coach. Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You could ask Nancy for
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(15:22):
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
Stilari in this little living, full out show, and today
we're talking about harnessing adversity and doing what it takes
to get past painful times, scary times and uncertain times,
and who do you lean on and how do you
tap into any positivity to manage to get through that well.
(15:55):
Schreyen Tom is our inspirational guest today and I I
don't want to give it all away, but I'll tell
you anyone that's gone through as many bouts with cancer
as she has is someone I want to hear from
in terms of getting through reversity. So welcome chery Anne.
Speaker 13 (16:11):
Hello Nancy, thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Absolutely happy to have you, and I want to kind
of give our You know, when I think about your story, Schrianne,
it's it's it's like there's always this high and slow,
this ying and this saying. It's it's wild how how
many wins you've had in life and how many tragedies
you've had in life. It's it's I don't know that
(16:34):
they balance each other. But it's wild. I know that
early on you you you know, you grew up in
a loving family, but where you were positioned with your
siblings was was unique. You had three siblings older than you,
but they were four years above you, each of them.
And then you had another sibling below you, but that
sibling was seven years below you, and you were just
(16:55):
kind of in the middle, kind of feeling like an
only child and needing to be that chameleon and that
people pleaser and trying to not feel alone. But then
you got so lucky because those of us who are
still looking for our mister or missus, right, you got
so lucky to meet Jerry at seventeen can't believe that.
(17:18):
And obviously have had an amazing romance and chapter together
over your life. But it's moments where you have such
love and such isolation that I think is really tested
when you consider what happened to you at thirty eight,
(17:41):
and I'd like for you to share with our audience
just kind of here. You were successful in your career,
you had Jerry by your side, you had a boy
and a girl. I mean, you were living the American
dream until everything started to kind of fall apart. Can
you share with us what happened?
Speaker 13 (18:03):
Yeah, it really did feel like I was I was
doing living in that Norman Rockwell life that I thought
I was supposed to be living. And yet every not
every day, but I would go to work and I
kept saying, so, this is it right, I've got this
great job. And yet there was this this not hitting
(18:24):
my stomach, but more like this niggling feeling of am
I Am I doing this the way I want to
do it? And there was this voice in my head
that actually said, this is just to stop on the way,
Sherry Ane, this is just to stop on the way.
And that was fine, kind of confusing, but then it
(18:45):
was like on the step, the stop on the way
to wear and that's that really was something that was
underneath all of that.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And and then you were and you were kind of
a I'm not saying perfectionists, but you were quite the
go getter. I mean you really took stress to the
tenth power.
Speaker 13 (19:10):
Oh boys, like you're already digging inside of me, Nancy,
I did. I mean it was really stressful raising this family,
having a more than full time job, you know, just
managing the whole household. And I kept saying to myself, Okay,
this is just a stop along the way to somewhere,
and the more stress that I can handle now, right,
(19:33):
that just is almost like training me. It's building those
muscles so that when there's more I can handle it.
I'm like, where I am now, It's like, what was
I thinking? But I remember myself saying that to myself.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
It's like, wow, So how did so so as you
were going through this and you were having that kind
of battle within your mind, you started noticing that your
hair was falling out, Like we're not talking like one
or two pieces. What did that look like?
Speaker 13 (20:09):
Yeah, that was really a scary time because I thought, oh,
I'm at the top of my game, everything's going well,
and then all of a sudden, my hair was just
falling out in clumps, and I'm like, what is this?
And of course they went to doctor's appointments and they're like, oh,
this must be stress, and I'm like, okay, of course,
(20:30):
I'm a mom of two, got this household, that got
this job. And so one of the doctors said, I
think that you have alopecia, and so they sent me
to a specialist and it was very true, and I
basically lost about seventy five percent of my hair and
being a young mom and go get her, as you
(20:54):
just said, to have something that I identified with my
apperience was so important and it was like, oh my god,
I'm what's happening to me? And I felt like that
was the beginning of this implosion that was happening inside.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Now I would have I would have been like, okay, implosion,
She's lost seventy fibers in our hair, Like like that
alone is scary. But then the day came when you
found and felt on your own, your own self, check
a bump on your on your neck. What did that
feel like?
Speaker 14 (21:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 13 (21:34):
So initially, I mean I was getting treated for the
hair loss, so that was taken care of and we
were doing just the regular family thing. So we were
on a trip, a campaign trip, and this is when
I was I was really starting to feel the lump
and it was it felt like it was growing, and
(21:55):
it was you know, you can get those chills down
your spine. It's like, oh, something's not going rub. There's
something going on here inside of me. And I remember
turning to my husband and saying, I think it's growing
leg I mean, just fear across his face, and he said,
what do you want to do? Do you want to
turn around? Do you want to fear a doctor?
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Now?
Speaker 13 (22:18):
See a doctor now? And it was the weekend, so
that really wasn't going to happen, and I was like, no, no, no, no.
I could see the terror in his face, and I
just tried to downplay it because here we are trying
to have this really special camping trip and I'm just
feeling like something's really wrong going on inside of me.
(22:39):
Just his terror was showing up inside me.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
And sometimes that is the most scary time when there's
no answers right, because it's one thing when you're diagnosis something.
It's one thing when you're told something. But I imagine flashes
of every possible scenario was starting to enter your mind.
Speaker 13 (23:02):
Yes, and I tell from a bunky family, so I
have seen my brothers and sisters have these growths, and
I thought, okay, it's just my turn. Except that feeling
was still there, and so we went to the doctors
and first they thought, oh, you know, maybe this is
just lymph notes from something going on with my breath,
(23:22):
and so a series of checks and tests and then
it showed up as lymphoma and I just remember thinking,
what what's lymphoma?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
As Will and Sharyann and Shariann. There may be people
in our audience going what is lymphala? So stay with
us because I want you to educate us on that
when we come back, because that's what this is all about. Okay,
you're inspirational, but you're teaching us at the same time.
So everybody, stay with us because we've got a lot
(23:56):
more of Schreyanne's story when we've come back.
Speaker 15 (24:03):
Today, in school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I
learned that no one likes me. In English, I learned
that I'm disgusting, and in physics I learned that I'm
a loser.
Speaker 10 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 16 (24:26):
Today in school, I learned that I have no friends.
In English, I learned that I make people sick, and
at lunch I learned that I sit on my own
because I smell. In chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 15 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid.
Speaker 17 (24:42):
And in math I learned that I'm trash.
Speaker 15 (24:46):
The only thing I didn't learn in school today, The
only thing I didn't learn today.
Speaker 5 (24:49):
The only thing I didn't learn is why no one.
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Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full
Out Show, and today we're talking about harnessing adversity and
we have brought you an inspirational guest today that is
really such a great example of what it does mean
to live full out. So i'd like to welcome back
Sherry and Tom.
Speaker 13 (28:38):
Thank you, Nancy and Chary.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
And you were just at the end of the last
segment starting to share with us when you were told
the type of cancer you have, and I think it's
important that if you could just share this real quick,
what it was and how it showed up in your body.
Speaker 13 (28:56):
Right, So, I was diagnosed with lin sooma. I knew
what a length node was, but I didn't know what
lymphoma was. And so it's basically a blood cancer. And
we all know that when we get sick, some of
our lynth notes will swell and it's doing its cleansing thing. Well,
my lemb notes weren't doing what they were supposed to do,
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and my immune system is really attached to my lymb notes.
So I had blood cancer and so it wasn't something
that they could remove. You can't take well, you can't
take your blood out, but that's not how they treat
this particular cancer. And so I just knew that this
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is not something that was going to be done right
away like go in have surgery and it's gone. This
was going to be a process, you.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Know, and it was. It was a huge process and
one that came with chemo radiation. I mean everything in
between and throughout your treatments, there was a time when
you found yourself where you were isolated. You were you know,
(30:09):
people had to wear masks and gowns just to you know,
keep you protected and healthy. But it really anchored for
you a similar isolation that you felt when you were
a child, feeling like you were alone. How are the
two similar.
Speaker 13 (30:27):
Well, that's the thing about cancer is that it's only
happening to you. And just like when I was this
child in the middle but far from my siblings, I
realized and like I just wanted to be long. I
wanted to play with my older siblings and my younger
(30:47):
sibling was two YenS for me to really interact with.
So it was like I'm all by myself and I
really felt that going through cancer because nobody was in
my body experiencing what I was.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
And you know that's sad because I'm sure so many
who go through this appreciate the support, but it is
a solo journey. And there was a time your cancer.
Your cancer came back multiple times, but in between one
of your cancers, your mom was insistent about you going
(31:22):
to Hawaii. Doctors were like no, no, no, You're like yes, yes, yes.
But when you got to Hawaii, what you really felt
for the first time was love, was support. Ironically, it
was not the family you were born into. It was
the family that you built with Jerry. It was all
(31:44):
of it. And so that trip to Hawaii. How important
was that in shaping your mindset to fight cancer.
Speaker 13 (31:57):
That's a really good question. So it because cancer feels
like such a solo journey, even though there's millions of
people going through at the same time. My journey is
going to be different from anybody else. And just as
you said, when I was able to lean into this
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family that I built with my children and my husband
and my friends, and I happen to have cousins and
friends that live in Hawaii that just circled around me,
And the greatest gift that they gave me then was
to treat me like I was just normal sharing at
(32:40):
not this injured poppy or this person going through this
dire diagnosis. It was Hey, let's have those deep conversations
that all feed your soul. And also let's just go play.
Let's last, let's dance, let's live now. That was very important.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
I mean that we all should be living now. I
mean it's sad that sometimes it takes cancer to wake
us up, and sometimes it takes a trip to Hawaii
to wake us up. But you did fight through the
blood cancers, and you had multiple rounds of this cancer
kept coming back. But your fifth cancer was different. What
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type of cancer was that? And that got treated a
much different way, right.
Speaker 13 (33:30):
So, as I said, I had zimphoma, and so it
was four times for individual experiences with cancer. And then
the fifth time was a gastril intestinal strummal tumor, which
is called often called a GIST. It's a stomach cancer.
But they found it in my rectum. So that was
really unusual to them, and they're like, oh, we're not
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really sure why you had this. It's not a secondary
of cancer. But what was fascinating, I know that's the
right word. What I was delighted about again these words
now I can look back and use these words, But
promising was that it was a solid and it is
a cancer of the internal mining of my in my rectum,
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and so they were able to remove it with surgery,
which against delight because if I cut it out, please
cut it out. However, I had to go on to
oral chemotherapy after that, and that's really wreck havoc with
my system.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
And do you fear that cancer will keep coming back?
I mean, I don't know. Again, you're kind of in
a club of few. Only so many people have had
multiple cancers, let alone five, let alone two different kinds.
And I mean, do you live your life in fear
that it could come back? Or do you feel like
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you've told cancer I got the lessons, I'm good.
Speaker 13 (35:02):
Well, there's always something. So traditionally it's called the fear
of recurrence of cancer, exactly what you're talking about. In
the work that I do, recall it the shadow of cancer.
And there's for me, that shadow is always hovering. Sometimes
it's closed, like when I have a headache that lasts
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too long, or I'm about to go into my annual check.
And then other times that it's far receded into the walls.
Even I mean it's not close, but it's never goes
it's never gone, it never goes away. It's always kind
of just there in the ether.
Speaker 14 (35:42):
Hm.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
And so how do you live full out? Now? Differently,
now that you've concerted cancer, you've conquered it, how do
you how does living full out look like for you?
Because you're looking at it with a different lens life
and the rest of us.
Speaker 13 (36:04):
So what I mean, what I've learned really the size cancers.
And I'm happy to say that I am ten years
out from that gist. So when I came to that realization,
it was like, oh my god, what have I been
doing for the last ten years? And I think what
you're saying about living my life for a while has
really played a huge part of that what I'm going
(36:27):
to call a success because I'm really focused on me
what I want a purposeful life. So I'm giving back
to the cancer world and the cancer community and what
I do every day, which feeds my soul. And so
(36:49):
to stay away from that shadow that likes to hover around,
I get to say I'm making a difference. I am
living today because I'm reminded with all of the people
who are around me that life is short and it's sleeping,
and so we get to take that extra laugh, that
(37:09):
extra piece of chocolate that I'll dance, he brush my teeth,
it's like where can I find the small joy because
I only have this moment and that that is really precious.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
You know.
Speaker 2 (37:26):
It's interesting in the different folks I've interviewed over the
years that have had cancer, especially, they all become like
chili cucumbers. It's almost like they have a new relationship
with stress, and so, what is your relationship with stress?
Speaker 11 (37:41):
Now?
Speaker 13 (37:43):
Oh it's again, that's really good insight. Drama used to
be a friend of mine, I guess my mom always
always said, there's such a drama queen. And now it's like,
I broke up with drama. I don't I don't want it.
It doesn't serve me. That's a big part. So when
(38:06):
you know, I remember in relationship building, my parents would
say pick your battles when you're you know, when you're
in a relationship, especially when with my children or my husband,
it's like what's important here? And I don't I don't
want the drama. I don't want that. Oh my goodness,
(38:27):
the explosive emotions and not knowing how to control myself.
I love this feeling like oh I'm just blowing through
the day like kind of like water down the stream.
It's like, I know, that there are bumps. I know
(38:48):
there are rocks to go around, but I get to
flow around them rather than hit them straight on.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
And I guess my last question because we have only
a few seconds here left. But for someone who is
going through cancer, it's come back, it's come back, and
they're not ten years out yet, what would you tell them?
Speaker 13 (39:16):
I would say, take a deep breath, maybe three, and
really answer yourself to what's the most important things in
your life, meaning your values. For me, they're family and freedom.
So eating into those the things that matter the most,
and you'll be happy that you're here today.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Well, I actually I don't have cancer and I still
want that. So that is good advice for everybody. What
you just said so really good. Thank you Sherianne for
being on today's show and sharing with us your journey.
And we're so glad that you're healthy and happy, and
thank you again for sharing your story and for everyone
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everyone else, we're going to be coming right back after
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When it comes to harnessing adversity, I want you to
put together the mental picture of what that looks like.
You take that challenge and I want you to literally
rob your arms around it, hover over it, squash it,
punch it, tickle it, whatever you need to do. The
thing is, we want to get over it. We want
to get to a better place where you are living
(45:23):
your life full out. That can be done. You do
have the power, You just need to take action.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary as
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy H.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
Larry.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
This is the Living Full Out Show and we've been
talking about harnessing adversity and that's going to look different
for everyone truly. But I want today for us to
really take a pause, take a time out, right because
we have to think about how we're going to harness
these adversities, how are we going to get support, what
does that even look like? And that's going to be
(46:20):
different for everyone. So, for example, if you are dealing
with let's say mental health, you're feeling sad, you're feeling depressed,
that is something really important. I want to make sure
that you reach out to someone, a hotline to us, friends, family,
But I really champion both therapy as well as support groups.
(46:44):
I think it's important to take what's in your mind
in your heart and flesh it out, purge it out.
And sometimes the best way to do that is to
speak it out loud. That is why affirmations are so
helpful when it comes to staying positive, because again, you're
speaking something, your head is feeling it, your heart is
(47:05):
taking it in your core is also centered with it.
But that goes the other way as well. If you're
having negative thoughts, to talk them out, that gets it out.
That means that you're heard, rather than having those thoughts
trapped in your body, trapped in your mind. Now, if
you're not somebody who's a communicative person, I mean that's
(47:26):
my go to. But try writing write something down, hand
that letter to someone. Make sure that you're not alone
with your thoughts is the main thing. So if you're
going to write something down, write it down. But I
still would encourage you to have someone else read it
to just make sure that you are in a safe place. Now,
(47:48):
let's just say that the adversity that you're dealing with
is one that is needing more of a tangible support.
For example, my being legally blind, there's things I can see.
If I open a soda and the cap falls on
the floor, it is a race between me and my
guy dog Frost as to who's going to get that cap,
(48:10):
because if I can't find it and he eats it,
Now I've got another problem. I've got another adversity that
I got to look at. And so you want to
think about, is it that you need a ride somewhere.
Is it that you can't see something, that you can't
hear something. Is it that you suffer from back pain
(48:30):
and you're having a hard time lifting a box. It
is really important that you ask for help. You know
a lot of times we go into superhero mode and
we think I can lift that box or I will
find that cap, right, But what if you hurt yourself further?
What if my guide dog eats the cap? Right? We
don't have to go to that place. We can pick
(48:53):
up the phone and holler to somebody else that you
that you need that support. And I want you to
think about that peron that you're about to call, because
one of the things that I find in life is
that people are longing to give. They want purpose in
their life. They want to know that they bring meaning
to someone else. So you've got this friend on the
(49:14):
other end, for all you know is saying, man, I
just I feel like I don't I feel like I'm
not making an impact. I feel like day in day
out I do nothing has any meaning. And then ring
ring here you are you're needing help. They're going to
say yes right away, and so it really helps both
of you Now, I want to make sure that you
know that we are here for you all the time.
(49:35):
You can reach out to us at connect at livingfullout
dot com and we're happy to write you back with
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also want you to be aware of on the livingfullout
dot com website, we have a boot camp. It's called
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(49:56):
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That course is one for you to go at your
own pace. But we've had a lot of raving reviews
of that and people who have just felt like, you
know what, I've grown a little taller, I've gotten a
little wiser due to that program. So it is absolutely
(50:16):
available to you now. We strive to bring inspirational guests
through this show that will keep you just focused, alert, safe,
you know, in that go go go mentality, but knowing
when you need that moment of rest. And that's why
our inspirational guests come on because they share with you
(50:37):
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(50:57):
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it isn't something that has to be done in a moment.
Sometimes the greatest things take time. With the lessons that
I've learned getting you know, around the band of losing
my eyesight or gosh, you know, miscarriages, whatever it is.
Those adversities made me a better person, and I know
(51:38):
that yours will as well. Sometimes you just got to
take that pause. You got to talk it out in
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listen to podcasts and radio shows that motivate you, and
as well as know that the Living Filout community we're
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along your journey you are taking because you're gonna do
(52:01):
what that's right, You're gonna live full out. Can't wait
to see you on the next show, See you soon.
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Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello, and welcome to the Living Full Out Show. My
name is Nancy Solari, and today we're going to be
talking about harnessing adversity. And we all have that, right
we all have those times that we get that crossroad
moment and we've got to make a decision and not
always is it pretty, And then other times we get
a scoop of tragedy and heartbreak. And I say all
(00:42):
that quickly because the beauty of life is that once
you can get around those adversities, once you can kind
of take the power back and move forward, you really can.
There actually is goodness around the corner. It's just getting
through those moments. And our inspirational guests coming up in
our next segment, Sherry and Tom really had to channel
(01:03):
that ability to power through when she had cancer five times.
I mean, an amazing story that I can't wait to
share with you and just how she has such a
beautiful outlook on life now and how cancer changed her.
And I also want to make sure that beyond today's show,
that you're welcome to go to the app store and
download the Living Full Out Show app because we want
(01:26):
to be there to support you when you need us,
and that just might be in the middle of the
night when you can't sleep, that might be when you
need to get juiced up at the gym and have
that time on the treadmill go faster. Well, I don't
know about you, but listening to inspirational stories, whether it's
this show or others, to me, that's important. It's good
to know that others have gone beyond tragedy, beyond disappointment
(01:52):
and have got to the other side. And the secret
to it all is how did they do that? So
that's what we try to show here now. Throughout time,
you know, we've taken different listener calls and you've heard
that we felt today we would do something a little
bit different and kind of give a little bit more
attention to all those that write in. So I'm going
(02:14):
to share with you about a couple of folks here.
So the first one is Bob so the thing that's
interesting here about his scenario. I won't read the whole letter,
but one of the things that he is going through
is the loss of his spouse. And well, I personally
can never imagine what it's like to lose someone I've
spent twenty years of my life with, who've had children
(02:37):
with and all of that. I can't imagine that pain
that loss. I can also appreciate, though, Loss is loss,
and for some they're losing children, children they've had and
those that they can never have if they're infertile. Some
people it's the loss of a pet, and again maybe
that is their fur baby and they only live so long.
(03:00):
So one of the things that I want to share,
you know, and let Bob know is to hang in there.
I think it's really important that he surround himself with
others that are walking that same path. Support groups are great.
I don't know, depending on anyone's circumstances, the support group
ability may be different, whether it's you know, through social
(03:22):
media or in person. But Bob, the widowed group is
a special one and it's one where if you can,
I would see in your local area, if you can
build that camaraderie with others. Even just doing things together
a hike and being able to talk about your spouses
or talk about how you're kind of filling that time
(03:42):
and so forth, I think could be really healing. You know,
I've learned over time in interviewing a lot of guests
who have lost their families and spouses, is it's not
about replacing them. It's always about talking about them and
celebrating them and living your best life in all honor
of them. But at the same time, they would want
(04:04):
you to be happy. So, Bob, one of the things
that you want to think about is what is that
for you? And perhaps you know over time you may
have had conversations with your spouse about what if something
happened to either of you, would either of you feel
good about the other, you know, moving on to a
(04:24):
new relationship or or did you make a pack that
you know together forever and ever? And that's it. But
either way, you know, the thing is is I would
just really take today to think about your partner and
just really hold their memory near and dear, and know
that we will continue to bring guests to the show
(04:47):
that you know we feel will inspire you to see
how how they have been able to cope and get
past their grieving time. I also want to share with
you another email here we have Sally. So, Sally is
going through feeling picked on at work, and that can
be really a stuck moment because we are in twisty
(05:11):
times right now, in this world where paychecks are needed.
You know, bills just keep coming in, and so if
you do your job and you do it well and
you show up on time, it should be a safe
harbor where you can do what you need to do
and do it well and earn what you need to earn,
and let that be that. In her situation, though, it
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is almost becoming unbearable, she's finding herself breaking out. She's
not sleeping, she's watching the clock every minute of the day.
She feels as though she has to go eat in
her car. It's very difficult for her to get any support.
And really she is unfortunately kind of due to gossip
(05:58):
that isn't true. And I want to thank you Sally
so much for reaching out to us about your story,
because what I think is so important is the fact
that her entire working life right now is uprooted due
to rumors that aren't true. And what I take away
from Sally's story here that she's sharing with us is
(06:19):
a couple of things. I think we can all learn
from her situation that the stories we tell others, the
spin we put on them, is really important. It's one
that we really have to almost close our mouths. Sometimes
better to say nothing than to say anything at all.
That mantra and I just wonder sometimes if when there's
(06:44):
gossip surrounding, if half of those people Sally don't even
feel that way. I think maybe they just kind of
went along with the pack, and sometimes it's hard to
go against the grain and stick up for another person
like yourself. What I would do, if I will you, though,
is I would make sure to go to your supervisor manager.
(07:05):
I don't see a mention of that here. That would
be the number one. If that is a safe thing
to do, then perhaps they can move you to a
different department, Perhaps they can elevate you in your role,
so maybe you're not having to report to any of
the others that are difficult to work with. If, for example,
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going to your boss is not safe, maybe they are
part of all the rumors. Maybe they're part of that
toxic environment that I really want to empower you to
get through this adversity, this adversity of pain and frustration
and feeling bullied and gossipy and fine yourself to a
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better place. You know, we should never feel like we
are stuck in any one job, in any one relationship.
You know, life is meant to be lived, it's not
mean to be tortured. Right. So the thing is, Sally,
is what you might want to do is take your
talents elsewhere.
Speaker 3 (08:07):
Now.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I realize that you need your job. You have to
pay the bills. I get that. But at the same time,
you could be subtly looking for another opportunity. Maybe from
the time you've taken this job, you've even grown in
ways that you'd be more desirable to another company than
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stuck in the role that you are. And so I
really encourage you to look at all those different options.
You know, one of the things that we take very
seriously at Living Full Out is all of your emails,
all of your calls. When you all call into the show,
we want to make sure that you have a moment
where you have a sounding board, a safe place to
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bring your thoughts, your concerns, and it's about talking it
out now. For all of you that have friends and
family you can lean on. That is a good thing.
And for the rest of you, where you're not sure
who to turn to, you can always turn to Nancy.
Our team will always be there for you. Just send
us those letters to connect at livingfullout dot com. And
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in the spirit of coaching, we like to go by example.
So for all of you again that are going through
these moments of adversity and you're needing solutions and support.
If you have gotten around the bend, you have gone
through the fire, you've crawled through the trenches, and you've
gotten to the other side, this is your opportunity to
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pay it forward. This is your opportunity to say, you
know what, I'm ready to share my story. I'm ready
to share what I've learned and help another person that
is truly in the spirit of what it means to
live full out. So equally for you, we'd love for
you to reach out to us at connect at livingfullout
dot com. Let us know what you went through, how
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you got through it, what you learned, and of course
you're con tech information and we would enjoy speaking with
you further and possibly having you on as an inspirational guest.
Now I do want to make sure though, that you
do stay with us, because Sherry and Tom is going
to be coming on shortly as our inspirational guest for
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today and sharing about how she went through cancer five
different times. So again, adversity could be cancer, it could
be a disability that you're struggling with. It could be
feeling abused, it could be feeling trapped in a job.
All of that is something that we have to kind
of nurture and get through together. But we can. And
(10:39):
when you do, what are you doing your living life
full out? We'll be right back after this break. Stay
with us.
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Speaker 1 (15:00):
You're listening to Living full Out with Nancy Silary As
a life coach. Nancy can teach you how to stay
strong under pressure and work through challenges you face. Being
legally blind, Nancy inspires others to be resilient and overcoming
obstacles and live full out. You could ask Nancy for
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Speaker 2 (15:33):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy
Stilari in this little living, full out show, and today
we're talking about harnessing adversity and doing what it takes
to get past painful times, scary times and uncertain times,
and who do you lean on and how do you
tap into any positivity to manage to get through that well.
(15:55):
Schreyen Tom is our inspirational guest today and I I
don't want to give it all away, but I'll tell
you anyone that's gone through as many bouts with cancer
as she has is someone I want to hear from
in terms of getting through reversity. So welcome chery Anne.
Speaker 13 (16:11):
Hello Nancy, thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
Absolutely happy to have you, and I want to kind
of give our You know, when I think about your story, Schrianne,
it's it's it's like there's always this high and slow,
this ying and this saying. It's it's wild how how
many wins you've had in life and how many tragedies
you've had in life. It's it's I don't know that
(16:34):
they balance each other. But it's wild. I know that
early on you you you know, you grew up in
a loving family, but where you were positioned with your
siblings was was unique. You had three siblings older than you,
but they were four years above you, each of them.
And then you had another sibling below you, but that
sibling was seven years below you, and you were just
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kind of in the middle, kind of feeling like an
only child and needing to be that chameleon and that
people pleaser and trying to not feel alone. But then
you got so lucky because those of us who are
still looking for our mister or missus, right, you got
so lucky to meet Jerry at seventeen can't believe that.
(17:18):
And obviously have had an amazing romance and chapter together
over your life. But it's moments where you have such
love and such isolation that I think is really tested
when you consider what happened to you at thirty eight,
(17:41):
and I'd like for you to share with our audience
just kind of here. You were successful in your career,
you had Jerry by your side, you had a boy
and a girl. I mean, you were living the American
dream until everything started to kind of fall apart. Can
you share with us what happened?
Speaker 13 (18:03):
Yeah, it really did feel like I was I was
doing living in that Norman Rockwell life that I thought
I was supposed to be living. And yet every not
every day, but I would go to work and I
kept saying, so, this is it right, I've got this
great job. And yet there was this this not hitting
(18:24):
my stomach, but more like this niggling feeling of am
I Am I doing this the way I want to
do it? And there was this voice in my head
that actually said, this is just to stop on the way,
Sherry Ane, this is just to stop on the way.
And that was fine, kind of confusing, but then it
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was like on the step, the stop on the way
to wear and that's that really was something that was
underneath all of that.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
And and then you were and you were kind of
a I'm not saying perfectionists, but you were quite the
go getter. I mean you really took stress to the
tenth power.
Speaker 13 (19:10):
Oh boys, like you're already digging inside of me, Nancy,
I did. I mean it was really stressful raising this family,
having a more than full time job, you know, just
managing the whole household. And I kept saying to myself, Okay,
this is just a stop along the way to somewhere,
and the more stress that I can handle now, right,
(19:33):
that just is almost like training me. It's building those
muscles so that when there's more I can handle it.
I'm like, where I am now, It's like, what was
I thinking? But I remember myself saying that to myself.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
It's like, wow, So how did so so as you
were going through this and you were having that kind
of battle within your mind, you started noticing that your
hair was falling out, Like we're not talking like one
or two pieces. What did that look like?
Speaker 13 (20:09):
Yeah, that was really a scary time because I thought, oh,
I'm at the top of my game, everything's going well,
and then all of a sudden, my hair was just
falling out in clumps, and I'm like, what is this?
And of course they went to doctor's appointments and they're like, oh,
this must be stress, and I'm like, okay, of course,
(20:30):
I'm a mom of two, got this household, that got
this job. And so one of the doctors said, I
think that you have alopecia, and so they sent me
to a specialist and it was very true, and I
basically lost about seventy five percent of my hair and
being a young mom and go get her, as you
(20:54):
just said, to have something that I identified with my
apperience was so important and it was like, oh my god,
I'm what's happening to me? And I felt like that
was the beginning of this implosion that was happening inside.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Now I would have I would have been like, okay, implosion,
She's lost seventy fibers in our hair, Like like that
alone is scary. But then the day came when you
found and felt on your own, your own self, check
a bump on your on your neck. What did that
feel like?
Speaker 14 (21:33):
Yeah?
Speaker 13 (21:34):
So initially, I mean I was getting treated for the
hair loss, so that was taken care of and we
were doing just the regular family thing. So we were
on a trip, a campaign trip, and this is when
I was I was really starting to feel the lump
and it was it felt like it was growing, and
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it was you know, you can get those chills down
your spine. It's like, oh, something's not going rub. There's
something going on here inside of me. And I remember
turning to my husband and saying, I think it's growing
leg I mean, just fear across his face, and he said,
what do you want to do? Do you want to
turn around? Do you want to fear a doctor?
Speaker 3 (22:16):
Now?
Speaker 13 (22:18):
See a doctor now? And it was the weekend, so
that really wasn't going to happen, and I was like, no, no, no, no.
I could see the terror in his face, and I
just tried to downplay it because here we are trying
to have this really special camping trip and I'm just
feeling like something's really wrong going on inside of me.
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Just his terror was showing up inside me.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
And sometimes that is the most scary time when there's
no answers right, because it's one thing when you're diagnosis something.
It's one thing when you're told something. But I imagine flashes
of every possible scenario was starting to enter your mind.
Speaker 13 (23:02):
Yes, and I tell from a bunky family, so I
have seen my brothers and sisters have these growths, and
I thought, okay, it's just my turn. Except that feeling
was still there, and so we went to the doctors
and first they thought, oh, you know, maybe this is
just lymph notes from something going on with my breath,
(23:22):
and so a series of checks and tests and then
it showed up as lymphoma and I just remember thinking,
what what's lymphoma?
Speaker 2 (23:36):
As Will and Sharyann and Shariann. There may be people
in our audience going what is lymphala? So stay with
us because I want you to educate us on that
when we come back, because that's what this is all about. Okay,
you're inspirational, but you're teaching us at the same time.
So everybody, stay with us because we've got a lot
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more of Schreyanne's story when we've come back.
Speaker 15 (24:03):
Today, in school, I learned a lot. In chemistry, I
learned that no one likes me. In English, I learned
that I'm disgusting, and in physics I learned that I'm
a loser.
Speaker 10 (24:16):
Today in school, I learned that I'm ugly and useless.
In jim I learned that I'm pathetic in a joke.
In History today, I learned that I'm trying.
Speaker 16 (24:26):
Today in school, I learned that I have no friends.
In English, I learned that I make people sick, and
at lunch I learned that I sit on my own
because I smell. In chemistry, I learned.
Speaker 15 (24:38):
That no one In Biology, I learned that I'm fat
and stupid.
Speaker 17 (24:42):
And in math I learned that I'm trash.
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The only thing I didn't learn in school today, The
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Speaker 1 (28:04):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary. With
Nancy's expertise, you'll learn how to embrace your potential and
strive for success. If you have a question or need
further support, send us an email at connect at Livingfollout
dot com. Now here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
Welcome back. I'm Nancy Solarian. This is the Living Full
Out Show, and today we're talking about harnessing adversity and
we have brought you an inspirational guest today that is
really such a great example of what it does mean
to live full out. So i'd like to welcome back
Sherry and Tom.
Speaker 13 (28:38):
Thank you, Nancy and Chary.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
And you were just at the end of the last
segment starting to share with us when you were told
the type of cancer you have, and I think it's
important that if you could just share this real quick,
what it was and how it showed up in your body.
Speaker 13 (28:56):
Right, So, I was diagnosed with lin sooma. I knew
what a length node was, but I didn't know what
lymphoma was. And so it's basically a blood cancer. And
we all know that when we get sick, some of
our lynth notes will swell and it's doing its cleansing thing. Well,
my lemb notes weren't doing what they were supposed to do,
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and my immune system is really attached to my lymb notes.
So I had blood cancer and so it wasn't something
that they could remove. You can't take well, you can't
take your blood out, but that's not how they treat
this particular cancer. And so I just knew that this
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is not something that was going to be done right
away like go in have surgery and it's gone. This
was going to be a process, you.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
Know, and it was. It was a huge process and
one that came with chemo radiation. I mean everything in
between and throughout your treatments, there was a time when
you found yourself where you were isolated. You were you know,
(30:09):
people had to wear masks and gowns just to you know,
keep you protected and healthy. But it really anchored for
you a similar isolation that you felt when you were
a child, feeling like you were alone. How are the
two similar.
Speaker 13 (30:27):
Well, that's the thing about cancer is that it's only
happening to you. And just like when I was this
child in the middle but far from my siblings, I
realized and like I just wanted to be long. I
wanted to play with my older siblings and my younger
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sibling was two YenS for me to really interact with.
So it was like I'm all by myself and I
really felt that going through cancer because nobody was in
my body experiencing what I was.
Speaker 2 (31:01):
And you know that's sad because I'm sure so many
who go through this appreciate the support, but it is
a solo journey. And there was a time your cancer.
Your cancer came back multiple times, but in between one
of your cancers, your mom was insistent about you going
(31:22):
to Hawaii. Doctors were like no, no, no, You're like yes, yes, yes.
But when you got to Hawaii, what you really felt
for the first time was love, was support. Ironically, it
was not the family you were born into. It was
the family that you built with Jerry. It was all
(31:44):
of it. And so that trip to Hawaii. How important
was that in shaping your mindset to fight cancer.
Speaker 13 (31:57):
That's a really good question. So it because cancer feels
like such a solo journey, even though there's millions of
people going through at the same time. My journey is
going to be different from anybody else. And just as
you said, when I was able to lean into this
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family that I built with my children and my husband
and my friends, and I happen to have cousins and
friends that live in Hawaii that just circled around me,
And the greatest gift that they gave me then was
to treat me like I was just normal sharing at
(32:40):
not this injured poppy or this person going through this
dire diagnosis. It was Hey, let's have those deep conversations
that all feed your soul. And also let's just go play.
Let's last, let's dance, let's live now. That was very important.
Speaker 2 (33:00):
I mean that we all should be living now. I
mean it's sad that sometimes it takes cancer to wake
us up, and sometimes it takes a trip to Hawaii
to wake us up. But you did fight through the
blood cancers, and you had multiple rounds of this cancer
kept coming back. But your fifth cancer was different. What
(33:23):
type of cancer was that? And that got treated a
much different way, right.
Speaker 13 (33:30):
So, as I said, I had zimphoma, and so it
was four times for individual experiences with cancer. And then
the fifth time was a gastril intestinal strummal tumor, which
is called often called a GIST. It's a stomach cancer.
But they found it in my rectum. So that was
really unusual to them, and they're like, oh, we're not
(33:52):
really sure why you had this. It's not a secondary
of cancer. But what was fascinating, I know that's the
right word. What I was delighted about again these words
now I can look back and use these words, But
promising was that it was a solid and it is
a cancer of the internal mining of my in my rectum,
(34:18):
and so they were able to remove it with surgery,
which against delight because if I cut it out, please
cut it out. However, I had to go on to
oral chemotherapy after that, and that's really wreck havoc with
my system.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
And do you fear that cancer will keep coming back?
I mean, I don't know. Again, you're kind of in
a club of few. Only so many people have had
multiple cancers, let alone five, let alone two different kinds.
And I mean, do you live your life in fear
that it could come back? Or do you feel like
(34:55):
you've told cancer I got the lessons, I'm good.
Speaker 13 (35:02):
Well, there's always something. So traditionally it's called the fear
of recurrence of cancer, exactly what you're talking about. In
the work that I do, recall it the shadow of cancer.
And there's for me, that shadow is always hovering. Sometimes
it's closed, like when I have a headache that lasts
(35:22):
too long, or I'm about to go into my annual check.
And then other times that it's far receded into the walls.
Even I mean it's not close, but it's never goes
it's never gone, it never goes away. It's always kind
of just there in the ether.
Speaker 14 (35:42):
Hm.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
And so how do you live full out? Now? Differently,
now that you've concerted cancer, you've conquered it, how do
you how does living full out look like for you?
Because you're looking at it with a different lens life
and the rest of us.
Speaker 13 (36:04):
So what I mean, what I've learned really the size cancers.
And I'm happy to say that I am ten years
out from that gist. So when I came to that realization,
it was like, oh my god, what have I been
doing for the last ten years? And I think what
you're saying about living my life for a while has
really played a huge part of that what I'm going
(36:27):
to call a success because I'm really focused on me
what I want a purposeful life. So I'm giving back
to the cancer world and the cancer community and what
I do every day, which feeds my soul. And so
(36:49):
to stay away from that shadow that likes to hover around,
I get to say I'm making a difference. I am
living today because I'm reminded with all of the people
who are around me that life is short and it's sleeping,
and so we get to take that extra laugh, that
(37:09):
extra piece of chocolate that I'll dance, he brush my teeth,
it's like where can I find the small joy because
I only have this moment and that that is really precious.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
You know.
Speaker 2 (37:26):
It's interesting in the different folks I've interviewed over the
years that have had cancer, especially, they all become like
chili cucumbers. It's almost like they have a new relationship
with stress, and so, what is your relationship with stress?
Speaker 11 (37:41):
Now?
Speaker 13 (37:43):
Oh it's again, that's really good insight. Drama used to
be a friend of mine, I guess my mom always
always said, there's such a drama queen. And now it's like,
I broke up with drama. I don't I don't want it.
It doesn't serve me. That's a big part. So when
(38:06):
you know, I remember in relationship building, my parents would
say pick your battles when you're you know, when you're
in a relationship, especially when with my children or my husband,
it's like what's important here? And I don't I don't
want the drama. I don't want that. Oh my goodness,
(38:27):
the explosive emotions and not knowing how to control myself.
I love this feeling like oh I'm just blowing through
the day like kind of like water down the stream.
It's like, I know, that there are bumps. I know
(38:48):
there are rocks to go around, but I get to
flow around them rather than hit them straight on.
Speaker 2 (38:55):
And I guess my last question because we have only
a few seconds here left. But for someone who is
going through cancer, it's come back, it's come back, and
they're not ten years out yet, what would you tell them?
Speaker 13 (39:16):
I would say, take a deep breath, maybe three, and
really answer yourself to what's the most important things in
your life, meaning your values. For me, they're family and freedom.
So eating into those the things that matter the most,
and you'll be happy that you're here today.
Speaker 2 (39:39):
Well, I actually I don't have cancer and I still
want that. So that is good advice for everybody. What
you just said so really good. Thank you Sherianne for
being on today's show and sharing with us your journey.
And we're so glad that you're healthy and happy, and
thank you again for sharing your story and for everyone
(40:02):
else listening, just like sary Anne, if you have an
inspirational story, it means so much to us to be
able to share them. Reach out to us at connect
at livingfullout dot com. Let us know what you went through,
how you got through it. Make sure to give us
your contact information. This community is meant to lift each
(40:23):
other up because nobody lives full out alone, right, We
kind of lock arms. We boost each other up when
we need to, and that's how we're able to stay motivated.
So again, Schrey Anne, thank you so much, and we'll
be thinking of you and cheering you on, and for
everyone else, we're going to be coming right back after
this break. Remember, it's all about harnessing those adversities, not
(40:46):
letting them take power over you, but pushing back so
you can live full out.
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On the label.
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That means both harmful ultraviolet A and B rays are block.
UVA rays age the skin, UVB rays burn and both
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use it wrong. Don't need sunscreen on a cloudy day.
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Wrong.
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Eighty percent of UV rays still get through the haze.
Only use sunscreen at the beach, Nope, anytime you're outside,
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that tree.
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Speaker 2 (45:02):
When it comes to harnessing adversity, I want you to
put together the mental picture of what that looks like.
You take that challenge and I want you to literally
rob your arms around it, hover over it, squash it,
punch it, tickle it, whatever you need to do. The
thing is, we want to get over it. We want
to get to a better place where you are living
(45:23):
your life full out. That can be done. You do
have the power, You just need to take action.
Speaker 1 (45:37):
You're listening to Living Full Out with Nancy Solary as
a professional motivational speaker. Nancy can assist you to blow
through your setbacks and start living full out. If you
have an inspirational story you want to share, email us
at connect at livingfollout dot com. Once again, here's Nancy.
Speaker 2 (45:57):
Thank you so much for joining us today. I'm Nancy H.
Speaker 3 (46:00):
Larry.
Speaker 2 (46:00):
This is the Living Full Out Show and we've been
talking about harnessing adversity and that's going to look different
for everyone truly. But I want today for us to
really take a pause, take a time out, right because
we have to think about how we're going to harness
these adversities, how are we going to get support, what
does that even look like? And that's going to be
(46:20):
different for everyone. So, for example, if you are dealing
with let's say mental health, you're feeling sad, you're feeling depressed,
that is something really important. I want to make sure
that you reach out to someone, a hotline to us, friends, family,
But I really champion both therapy as well as support groups.
(46:44):
I think it's important to take what's in your mind
in your heart and flesh it out, purge it out.
And sometimes the best way to do that is to
speak it out loud. That is why affirmations are so
helpful when it comes to staying positive, because again, you're
speaking something, your head is feeling it, your heart is
(47:05):
taking it in your core is also centered with it.
But that goes the other way as well. If you're
having negative thoughts, to talk them out, that gets it out.
That means that you're heard, rather than having those thoughts
trapped in your body, trapped in your mind. Now, if
you're not somebody who's a communicative person, I mean that's
(47:26):
my go to. But try writing write something down, hand
that letter to someone. Make sure that you're not alone
with your thoughts is the main thing. So if you're
going to write something down, write it down. But I
still would encourage you to have someone else read it
to just make sure that you are in a safe place. Now,
(47:48):
let's just say that the adversity that you're dealing with
is one that is needing more of a tangible support.
For example, my being legally blind, there's things I can see.
If I open a soda and the cap falls on
the floor, it is a race between me and my
guy dog Frost as to who's going to get that cap,
(48:10):
because if I can't find it and he eats it,
Now I've got another problem. I've got another adversity that
I got to look at. And so you want to
think about, is it that you need a ride somewhere.
Is it that you can't see something, that you can't
hear something. Is it that you suffer from back pain
(48:30):
and you're having a hard time lifting a box. It
is really important that you ask for help. You know
a lot of times we go into superhero mode and
we think I can lift that box or I will
find that cap, right, But what if you hurt yourself further?
What if my guide dog eats the cap? Right? We
don't have to go to that place. We can pick
(48:53):
up the phone and holler to somebody else that you
that you need that support. And I want you to
think about that peron that you're about to call, because
one of the things that I find in life is
that people are longing to give. They want purpose in
their life. They want to know that they bring meaning
to someone else. So you've got this friend on the
(49:14):
other end, for all you know is saying, man, I
just I feel like I don't I feel like I'm
not making an impact. I feel like day in day
out I do nothing has any meaning. And then ring
ring here you are you're needing help. They're going to
say yes right away, and so it really helps both
of you Now, I want to make sure that you
know that we are here for you all the time.
(49:35):
You can reach out to us at connect at livingfullout
dot com and we're happy to write you back with
coaching or get you the support that you need. I
also want you to be aware of on the livingfullout
dot com website, we have a boot camp. It's called
the Personal Development boot Camp, and that is ten different
areas of your life in which you can conquer, you
(49:56):
can work on, you can heal, and that is one.
That course is one for you to go at your
own pace. But we've had a lot of raving reviews
of that and people who have just felt like, you
know what, I've grown a little taller, I've gotten a
little wiser due to that program. So it is absolutely
(50:16):
available to you now. We strive to bring inspirational guests
through this show that will keep you just focused, alert, safe,
you know, in that go go go mentality, but knowing
when you need that moment of rest. And that's why
our inspirational guests come on because they share with you
(50:37):
their story, how they got through it and what they learned. Now,
if you haven't downloaded it already, I want you to
go to the app store look for the Living Full
Out Show app, and I want you to download that.
I even have it on my phone. It's kind of
like when I go to the app, but it's like
I'm hearing an old friend because there's so many good
(50:57):
stories and our shows in that app will air one
after the other, on and on and on. So if
you're working out at the gym or on a road trip,
we will be right there to keep you comfort every
step of the way. And as we journey out through
today's show, remember that when it comes to harnessing adversity,
(51:18):
it isn't something that has to be done in a moment.
Sometimes the greatest things take time. With the lessons that
I've learned getting you know, around the band of losing
my eyesight or gosh, you know, miscarriages, whatever it is.
Those adversities made me a better person, and I know
(51:38):
that yours will as well. Sometimes you just got to
take that pause. You got to talk it out in
therapy or support groups, write it out, you know, get
listen to podcasts and radio shows that motivate you, and
as well as know that the Living Filout community we're
here for you because we want to make sure that
along your journey you are taking because you're gonna do
(52:01):
what that's right, You're gonna live full out. Can't wait
to see you on the next show, See you soon.
Speaker 1 (52:27):
Thank you for listening to The Living Full Out Show
with Nancy Silari. To learn more about this program, visit
livingfollout dot com for the latest episodes. Connect with the
Living full Out community by following us on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,
and subscribing to our YouTube channel. Here's to you, Living
full Out.
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