Episode 309 - Motivation U - The tennis story

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:11):
Hey guys, time and time again. It separate motivation you
motivation you Hi, how you doing? How you been? It
is me, it is I. Your beard and Marathon are
in this fick o. My gosh, his motivation you Hi.

Speaker 2 (00:21):
How you doing?

Speaker 1 (00:22):
How you been? I know, I know, I know.

Speaker 2 (00:24):
My release schedule has been really really wonky, if not
lacking altogether, these last few weeks have been absolutely just
tossed upside down. I've been in the upside down work,
work schedule has been out of this world. I've been
very very busy between work and productions and shows and
music I had to get to. It has been upside down,

(00:45):
just just ridiculous.

Speaker 1 (00:46):
And then my daughter, my daughter.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
The one thing I will now apologize for is my
daughter made all conference and I was very very proud
of her, and I knew as a father and the father,
I had to be there for every single match, every
single set.

Speaker 1 (00:59):
I want.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
Wanted to be there for her and her double's partner,
who is actually my bonus daughter. And if you are
a father or a mother, you know exactly what that is.
A bonus daughter, a bonus child, a bonus son. It's
those kids that your children befriend and they become so
close to the family. They're basically you basically adopt them
as your own and they do refer to you as

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mom or dad or whatever the case may be. And
that's how emotionally invested you get in those bonus children.
So my daughter's tennis partner, her doubles partner, is my
bonus daughter. So not only do I want to be
there for my daughter daughter, but I want to be
there for my bonus daughter. So we were We had
to go to a lot of different matches these last
couple of days, and it was just all over the place, schedules,

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very demanding between that and practices, and oh my gosh,
I could not find the time nor make the time
necessary to do this show. So I had to take
a little bit, a little bit of a hiatus. I
hope you all understand. But during during these matches, something
happened that I thought i'd share with you because it's

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really illuminating, it's very motivating. It really does cast a
different light on things, and I think you'll enjoy this story,
and I hope it really helps. My daughter plays doubles tennis,
like I explained, and the competition at all conference.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Is really really good. It's really really top notch.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
So they're playing against some of the best players in
the conference, and the competitiveness and the talent, man, it
was there.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
It was on full display.

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Unfortunately, during one of the matches she had, my daughter
and her partner went down zero six in the first set.
That's not good. They didn't score a point, they didn't
score a point. They got demolished, they got beat. They
got it handed to them, and that gravity of it
really hit them hard because they really weren't used to that.

(02:52):
They're used to getting beat. Beat is no big deal,
but when you get just smashed, man, that takes a
lot out of you. So I could see physically their body,
their body communication was really really down. Their heads are
hanging down, their shoulders are slumped. You could see the
look of disappointment and hurt and anger on their face.

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It's painted on full display. And what got me even
more was her coach wasn't saying anything. Her coach wasn't
trying to motivate, wasn't trying to inspire or even at
least give them a hint of what to.

Speaker 1 (03:26):
Do and how to handle the situation.

Speaker 2 (03:29):
And I watched the next set and before you knew it,
they were down zero four and one more point, they're out.
They were going to get eliminated. And again I could
see it fully on display on their faces and their
body language. They were beat. And what got me even
more was their coach wasn't doing anything about it. And
I had set on my hands the whole entire first set,

(03:49):
and I set on my hands the next set. Actually,
I've set in my hands for most of the year,
really not saying anything, letting her go. It's her senior year.
She has a coach for this, and I'm not going
to be that parent. And I realized my daughter and
her partner, my bonus daughter, we're gonna get knocked out
if they didn't turn this all around quite quickly. So
I walked up to the fence and I broke all

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the rules and I told my daughter, hey, hey, hey, focus, focus, focus, focus,
just get this point. Don't worry about the first set,
don't worry about the current score, just focus on getting
this point, just this point. She nodded her head. Okay, daddy,

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I got it. Message received good, and went back to
my chair and I watched my daughter and her bonus
daughter score the next point.

Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh, oh, we scored a point. Look at that.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
And the body language instantly changed. And I looked at
my daughter and I mouthed the words, next point. Just
get this next point. She nodded, She nodded, message received,
no problem, got it, got it, got it. Why don't
you know it? They scored the next point. I'm like, okay, Sunshine,
let's go. And I looked at him, like, what's the plan?

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And she looks at me and she says, next point,
and she motions her partner over and you can see
them talking a little bit and they both shake their heads.
They look at me and they both mouth the words
next point. I'm like, there you go. And they scored
the next point. They won the set. I'm like, oh,
look at that. And they came back over to the
fence line where I was standing and they're like, okay, coach.

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They're kind of giggling. You can see their emotions are
definitely now positive. Everything's kind of changed. They're like, what's
the plan, coach, And I'm like, don't worry about the sets,
don't worry about the sets are tied. Just get this
next point. That's how we're gonna approach everything. Just the
first step in front of you. That's all you can do.
Just focus on the next step, the next point, the

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next point. Don't look at the big picture, look at
the small picture. They went on to win that match
when they changed their perspective, when things got down, they
had to refocus and not look so much on what
was going wrong, not look so much on what had
gone wrong. But how do they get out of it?

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And not the long path that's going to take for
them to get out of it, but the first small
step and then the next small step. Where are you
in the progress of achieving your dream? Are things going bad?
Are you not making progress? Do you feel like you're
getting beat down? Does winning or achieving it seem so

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far off? Just look at the next small step you
have to make and win the next little moment, and
then pile those little moments onto each other. Don't be
so focused on the big arc, don't be so focused
on the big mountain you need to climb, Just the

(06:53):
next small step en route to achieving your dream. Guys,
I promise I will try to do better about this.
I'm gonna get back on a better, better release schedule
and get some more content for you.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
Guys. I hope you guys enjoyed this show. I hope
this little story helped out somebody. I hope this helped
out a little bit. And talk to y'all real soon.