June 2, 2025 • 41 mins
In this episode of Motivation Zone, I discuss the importance of assessing personalities, as it enables us to understand how to treat one another better. By recognizing different personality types, we can move forward with purpose, knowing where to invest our time effectively. Additionally, while gaining insight into others' personalities, it's crucial to strive to understand your own. Reflecting on how you think, how you act, and understanding your purpose will help you engage with others with the best intentions. Let's talk about it!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Motivation Zone.
It is your host here, Monica Maa is super excited
to be with you guys, and we are diving into
a very hot topic of assessing personalities. And I title
it I Hate People. Now, personally, I don't necessarily hate people.
(00:21):
But the reason why I wanted to give this title
is number one, it's very catchy. Then number two is
really how I felt as I was thinking about assessing
personalities and the reason why sometimes people feel like they
don't get along with others. Now, could it be that
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we're gonna rest on you know, it's just simply we're
going off of how we've been treated, or could it
be really that there are people This is very basic, right,
there are people that we just don't get along with
due to personality traits. And I think that's that's very important. Now,
mind you, this goes both ways, right, So you personally
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listening in and myself, we have certain ways about us
and certain things that we lean on or that's our
goal to responses or whatever that may not work so
well for certain people. And then also on the flip
side of that is when we actually find our tribe
when we're being ourselves. So throughout this podcast, I'm going
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to encourage you guys to be yourself. But also, as always,
when you listen to my podcast, you will hear me
saying to you guys to always find that room for growth.
We should always be learning and we can adapt, we
can do things differently. Just because we've been doing this
our whole lives, just because we've been thinking about it
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this way the whole time, does not mean we have
to stay there, right. So I want to dive into
this assessing personalities.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I want to go into.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Politics because politics has been one of the hottest debates
I would say even before twenty twenty four, but twenty
twenty four was rough, and I can honestly say as
much as the liberals or should I say the radical left,
because not all liberals agree with the radical left. I mean,
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it's crazy how we're having to divide within already, the divisions,
you know what I'm saying. Basically, you have your liberals
who don't agree with the radical left, who are also
considered liberals, and then you have your conservatives who do
not necessarily agree with certain other conservatives, and so we're
having to divide things it's so interesting. It's really becoming
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one of those you know, eight piece pis. I guess
you can say the best way I can think about it.
But politics is a hot topic and there's a lot
going on here, and it's one of the biggest things
that I've been wanting that has made me realize that
people are not paying attention to who's talking. And this
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is going to be a whole different podcast that I
may do somewhere down the line. But who's talking to you?
Meaning what do they actually believe? Also who's making the rules?
Also going back to what do they believe, what do
they teach, what are they standing on, what do they
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stand for, what do they agree with? And then also
with those things, then you have to ask yourself, with
the agreements, with what they're standing on, with what they
stand for, what they're putting out here, where does it
end right? What is the results of being this way?
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So I was looking at Trump versus Zelenski. So this
is Trump, who's the president of the United States, Lensky who.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Is the leader over Ukraine.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
And forgiving you guys of my ignorance because I'm not
sure what they cause. Alynsky over there, I know it's
not president. I don't know, but I just say leader
over Ukraine.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Right.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So Zelensky comes to the United States. He's been here
a few times since this war with Russia popped off,
and Trump, of course is now the seating president. He
takes over from the Biden administration. The Biden administration has
been very giving to Zelenski. I'm talking about billions of
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dollars towards this war, whether it be monetary value or
whether it be the value of weapons, which I have
always thought was not a good idea because I don't
believe any country should be supplying another country more weapons
and not really knowing what the uses of that weapon
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is going to be in the long term. And since
Ukraine is not a part of NATO, I definitely would
not give them that much in weapons personally if I
was in leadership. But you know, this is just me
sitting here behind my mic and talking to you guys
about it. So obviously I'm not the one making the decisions,
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but that's just the way my mind works. So Zelensky
comes and he's trying to now continue this giving of weapons, money,
whatever the case may be, towards a war that Trump
wants to stop. And of course, prior to him visiting
here in the United States, they had a back and
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forth on social media and it was, you know, kind
of intense. So he comes and it gets very heated
in the White House. And this was a few months ago,
early twenty twenty five, right, So as he's sitting there,
he's kind of going off on Trump and then JD.
Vance is on the sideline saying, look, being very disrespectful
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while you're here. And the reason why I'm bringing this
up is because of America's response to the situation.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Now here's how I see it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
You guys, I am an American, So if anyone steps
into America, they're stepping into my home. Wherever I go,
America is still my home. I'm able to freely go
in America as I so choose. Now, if I go
to another country, I would have to be mindful of
their border laws, I would have to be mindful of
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their rules. I would have to be mindful of my
comings and goings. They may need more, you know, ID
for me to travel, whatever the case may be. But
here in America, this is my home. So America's response,
and I would say, the liberal response or the left
as we have been so divided, right was yeah, get
them Zelenski. You know, he said what needed to be said.
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Da da da, And I'm sitting up here going who's talking?
So right now? Currently personality assessments, we have people who
I call habitual boundary steppers, or if you want to
say it a little bit deeper than that, habitual boundary
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over steppers, right. And these are people who don't mind
going into somebody's house, going straight to the refrigerator, going
and getting whatever they need without having to be invited
to do that. You get what I'm saying, Like for
me personally, if I go into someone home, I wait
until they let me know what it is I can
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do in their home instead of just freely roaming all
over the place. But then you have some people who
couldn't care less about asking or waiting on some permissions
when they're in other people's territories, in other people's homes,
So they'll go over there and become straight what disrespectful
And a lot of those people tend to not get
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invited to as many things after that, whether they're told
they're disrespectful or not. Trust me, They've been removed off
of some lists Okay, So with that being said, I'm
thinking I'm watching all of this going on.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
This is one of the biggest examples for me, and
I'm like.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I have to record this podcast because this is crazy.
So a lot of Americans are in agreement with someone
from another country coming over to the home of the
president and being disrespectful to him in his own house. Now,
mind you, I really couldn't care less what we're disagreeing on.
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I would not step in someone's house, someone else's home
to be disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Now, If we are in a basic conversation and things
get heated a little bit because maybe we're debating or
we have some differences of opinions or whatever the case
may be, you can't always avoid that. But to go
with the intention to be disrespectful, it's crazy work, right,
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And in my opinion, no one should be champiing, championing,
championing Oh my gosh, I can't even say, you guys
get what I'm saying. No one should be encouraging anyone
any other leaders from any other country to go and
be disrespectful to your president, no matter what your agreements
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or disagreements are. Periods and That's just how I feel
about it. So I'm sitting here watching this stuff going
on the internet. I'm watching all of these comments, I'm
reading things under different videos and posts about it, and
I'm just in awe. I'm like, these are American people
literally sitting here saying I'm happy he did this. That
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is crazy. And so with that being said, you guys,
I'm looking at who's talking. I wonder what their lives
are like behind the scenes. What are some of these
people personal lives when they really do believe you can
go in somebody else's house and be disrespectful regardless of
what you agree upon or don't. Right, that's really my mentality.
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We have to change these things, and we need to
see this for what it really is. And the reason
why assessing personality is important is because we tend to
look at social media. We tend to look at the
actual media, right, what do they call it the We
have the New Age media, then we have the whatever
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they call the you know, like CNN, Fox News, all
of these other channels. We are looking at this stuff
and we're listening to different anchors and commentators give their
opinions on things without asking who they are as people,
because you really need to watch who you're following. You
really need to pay attention to who you're listening to.
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And as one of the sayings go that I grew
up hearing all the time is consider the source. That's
what we need to start doing. But I'm realizing now
that we're just tying everyone into the same category, and
we're passing off every voice as replable, We're passing off
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every voice as worth listening to. We're passing off every
voice as.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Accurate and truthful.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
And even that is crazy to me, because I could
just think about people that I know who lie all
the time, and so usually when I know this about someone,
I don't give them too much room to say too
much to me because I'm like, what's coming out of
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your mouth is not honest or truthful. And then also,
another person that I've come across, or should I say
another personality I've come across a lot, is the person
who's constantly changing their mind.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
I feel like.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
And I'm just I'm gonna take my time with this,
you guys, because I really want to break this down
so I don't have a problem with anyone changing their mind,
because I feel like we all have the right to
do so. But what's dangerous is when you're talking to
people who change your mind so frequently that you're in
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conversations with them. And I know some of you guys
are listening, and probably I know somebody like this.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
It's true, you have conversations with them.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And you're either in agreement with what they're saying, or
you're piggybacking off of what they're saying. Maybe even you
throw out a disagreement or an argument based on what
they're saying. You know, something that differs from what they're
they're telling you. And so then what you do is
you say, Okay, yeah, I hear you, I understand, let
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me back you up on this, let me back you
up on that, only to find out later that the
person didn't really mean any of it. Now it's something
completely different. And so then you step into that and
you're sitting there looking crazy because you're like, wait a minute, now,
you told me it was x y Z, that you
wanted x y Z, that you wanted to do this
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and that, and then you follow up because you care,
only for that person to turn it around at like
they never said it, at like it was never a
thing they never stood on that. It is so awkward,
you guys, that is I don't know what to call
that personality.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I don't know what to call it, but.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Yeah, I've come across that a lot. And so when
someone who is changing their mind quite frequent is talking
to me personally, I don't.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Lean on anything that they say.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I stop giving commentary on what they're saying, and I
try my hardest to find my way out of the conversation.
Because also people of that nature can get you emotionally
invested in what they have going on, only for them
to backtrack everything they've said, everything they've talked to you
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about later on down the line, and now your emotions
are all up in arms and you're trying to figure
out how you can help them and all these things.
I have stopped doing that with those type of people
for real. If they say something to me, I pass
it off as maybe they mean it, maybe they don't.
Who cares And it sounds bad, But that's really how
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you have to do it. For me personally, I'm just
gonna talk about my personality a little bit as I
parallel these things. I am a straight shooter. I say
what I mean, I mean what I say, and it
takes me time. I didn't realize I used to think
I talked a lot.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
I really did. I used to think I talked too much.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
But then lately, as I start evaluating all the things
I have never said or the things I've taken my
time to consider before I say it, I am really
one of those people that when I finally vocalize something,
I stand ten toes down on it. It's not too
much of me changing my mind. As a matter of fact,
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I don't recall in my life too often having said
something that I'm like, oh my gosh, I just want
to take that back.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
And lately I've.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Been praying very hard you guys on helping me to
monitor more and more my responses to things, because I
want to get even tighter on that, to the point
where you're really walking a path of no regrets, right.
But for me, I'm not someone who will say something
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to you. I don't come with all of my emotions
and things like that, and then later on down the
line it's something completely different, unless there's a lesson that
I've gained, or there's an apology that maybe I need
to make because I misunderstood something and I spoke up
too soon or whatever the case may be, and then
I have to say, oh, you know what, I thought
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it was this thing, but it's another right. So communication
is going to be my next topic on this when
it comes down to personality, just segueing into that. But
I can tell you, guys, when it comes down to
constantly changing your mind, I'm going to encourage you on
this podcast. This is motivation zone, after all, to get
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solid in where you stand on things. I have really
been in a place in my life as someone who's
always learning something new that I want to be solid.
I'm talking about true roots solid. Do you guys notice
that when they want to cut down a tree, they
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pretty much cut it down at the trunk. But getting
those roots up, who it's gonna be a beast unless
there is a storm with winds strong enough and force
strong enough to rip them roots out. Them roots are
solid and that's really where I want to be. So
let me jump into two people who aren't solid. I
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have to use these people as an example. I think
it is funny.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
At first, I felt so sorry for this couple. I
really did. I was like, man, the way they're being
treated is rough.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I wouldn't want to be in their shoes. I hope
everything works out for them. And then as time has
gone on and I've seen their movements, I'm like, we
need to do a personality assessment on these.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Two people, because why.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Are you moving in this manner? You've made one decision
and you're not sticking to it and standing on it.
And those two people they are Prince Harry and Megan Markle. Now, Meghan,
as I've heard, does not like to go by her
Markel last name, and she wants to go by.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Her royal name.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
But what's tripping me up about these two people that
I've observed and I saw Prince Harry, I really followed
a lot of the commentary when he first decided that
he wanted to leave the UK and that he wanted
to save his family from the behaviors of the royals
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and also from the behavior of the press that he
said was pretty much stalking his wife and not treating
her well. So he decided that he wanted to take
it family up and leave and come over to the US. Now,
within that, Harry wanted to keep certain privileges, including his security.
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In my opinion, especially after his book came out definitely
pretty much dragging the Royal family. And I'm not saying
that they weren't undeserving of the dragging, but.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
What I'm saying is that.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
He pretty much put this book out and it put
them in a bad light pretty much, and so with that,
you would think, Okay, there's going to be a response
from them now. When he first decided to leave the
royal family, his grandmother, the Queen, who was still alive
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at the time, decided that she was going to strip
them of their titles. And then there were some, I
guess you can say, discussions of whether or not the
kids were gonna keep their royal titles.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And in my.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
Opinion, the way Prince Harry and Megan Markle left this
Royal family and the things that they were accusing the
family of, in my opinion, if it were me, but
it is not making that clear. But if it was me,
I would have left them and I would have wanted
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nothing from them. I find it strange that Prince Harry
is trying to hold onto the security that's supplied by
his family and Meghan Markle is trying to hold on
to the name that is supplied by her family or
Prince Harry's family, and in my opinion, then these two
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have become.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Sort of.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Entitled if that makes sense, and entitled people. This is
just me giving you guys some examples, okay, because these
are stories that have come across my radar, and I'm
sitting up here like this is not making no sense.
But to me, entitled people, regardless of their behavior, regardless
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of their decision making, they always want something from you,
no matter what. And to me, that is not a
good place to be in. And the reason why I
feel like they're in the place of entitlement is because
they think and Prince Harry thinks that he can write
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the things about his family that may have been true. Okay,
don't get me wrong, because I'm not defending them at all,
But he can write the things that he's written about them,
paint them in the light that he has go up
and be at odds with his brother and say that
he no longer wants to live there as a UK
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citizen and come over here to the US, and he
is still leaning on them for things even after all
that's been said and done. And to me, when you're
not entitled and you want to move independent, you cut
all ties that's just my opinion of it. I feel
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like if this was being done in a healthier way
and it wasn't done by entitled people, I feel like
Prince Harry and Megan Markle would have moved on and
they get talked about so much. At first, I thought
this is messy. They need to lead these people alone.
But now I understand why the media goes so hard
at them individually and as a couple, because they're constantly
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doing things to get the attention of the very people
they said they wanted to leave, and the very people
that they wrote off as toxic, and the very people
that they wrote off as not being good to be around. Obviously,
right now, I know you guys are gonna probably be saying,
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but Prince Harry has a history, and he does that
history is also very important and it should not be
ignored because he felt that his wife was being treated
very much so similarly to the way his mother was treated.
And to me, I think the royal family, all of them,
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need to be evaluated. To be honest with you, like,
who are you guys?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
What do you.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Really believe and stand on? We don't really know, you know,
When it comes down to celebrities and the royals, and
you know, people that are in the public eye constantly,
we don't really know what they stand on all the
time because they may not want to present that why,
because it makes.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Them look bad.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
They aren't able to keep the following that they once had,
They're scared of losing supporters. It's a lot that goes
to that. So I don't know if we get the
full picture, in the full truth, I don't know. But
what I do know is, say, for instance, the King,
Prince Harry's father is in the home there I guess
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you could say the palace or whatever they want to
call it, with his mistress whom he was with while
he was married to Prince Harry's mother, Princess Diana, and
they're still together.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Such an odd.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Thing, you know, And if you're someone who has any standards,
you would probably have a problem with that. I know
I would, especially if my mother died over a lot
of those things that were happening in her life and
she struggled with a lot of things because of the
way the royals were treating her.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
That would be a hard appeal to swallow.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So Prince Harry has always been one in my opinion
just as someone who's outside looking.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
I'm talking about way on the outside. Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
I can see that he's acted out over the years,
kind of done his own thing. So I was not
shocked when he said that he didn't want to remain
in the UK and he was gonna take his family
somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
I was not shocked.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
But what I do believe is even though a lot
of these things may be true about his family that
he's sharing, I believe he's doing it and going about
it the wrong way by trying to still hang on
to so much from them, but also talking about them
in not so good of a way and then think
that's gonna work out for them. And that is something
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that I feel like they need to really get it
together and their mind needs to change on that. And
Megan Markle is doing her best to have her own
little show. She has people cooking with her and all
of these things, and she has a show on Netflix.
And I don't know what Prince Harry is doing to
have not looked at it up, but I feel like
this couple has enough behind them that they can move
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on from this family, be independent and if it be
that relationships are mended you know, somewhere up the line,
up the road.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Then great.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
But to me, in my opinion, they're not on the
road to recovery with the rate that they're going in
demanding so much and saying so much at the same time.
So entitled people personality wise. I don't know if that's
just a choice or if people are just in their
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minds thinking this is the only way that I can
get what I need.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
So I just prefer to be this way.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I prefer not to let you know, anything go that
I feel I desire or want, regardless of the way
I treat people, regardless of my relationships. I don't know
if that's a thing. I don't know, but entitlement is
a very hard personality to deal with, especially when the
person is once again my.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Favorite word, habitual about it to.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
The point where they can say what they want to
your face, say all kinds.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Of things to you, and then.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Turn right back around and demand something from you that
is good and demand you to continue to give pieces
of yourself that is not in healthy dynamic to be in.
I feel like, in my personal opinion, that we need
to be around people who are considerate as much as
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they want to be considered.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (27:47):
And that goes to something I want to end on
because I don't want this to be too long.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
I want to make a part two for you, guys.
I want to end on this.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Treat people how you want to be treated, regardless of
our different personalities. I feel like if we can meet
on that common road, that common ground, and stand there
and say I see you, and if I were you,
this is how I want you to respond to me,
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This is what I would want to hear from you,
this is how I would want to be treated. I
feel we need to go that route. And when we
do that, it helps us to break some of these
habits that may be personality, or it may be upbringing,
or it may be experienced. And sometimes when we get
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treated a certain way, myself included, because God knows I'm
preaching to myself, we tend to think everybody around us
is going to continue to treat us like that, and
that is not always the case. But when we think
that we act a certain way, we do things a
certain way, and we make it a habit and we
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keep going with it until maybe we learn maybe we don't,
but so much in that process when we keep going
we hinder things, we destroy things, we ruin things, you
know what I mean. So hopefully we can take a
position of treating others how we want to be treated,
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and that can help minimize some of these blows based
on our personalities. And that's me included.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I have some.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Ways about me that while I don't think it's, you know,
so much as overly over the top toxic, I do
believe it can be a hindrance to me sometimes. And
because of that, I'm learning to dial back on some
things and say, Okay, I don't have to vocalize this
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as much as I used to, or I don't have
to respond in this world as sharply as I usually do,
because now I'm understanding, Okay, let me use a softer,
more professional tone with people, let me get an understanding
of where they're coming from. And if it be that
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we just can't work together perfect, but at least in
my response, I feel healthy about it, and I've tried.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
To work it out like a mature adult, you know
what I mean. This is my mindset.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
And so on part two of this, I am gonna
be breaking down the movie Divergent, because I feel like
that movie in a Nutshell breaks down personalities and different
types of people perfectly, and although it is a movie
is based on a book series, it is very accurate
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in my opinion. And in Divergent, let me just give
you guys a breakdown of this and then we'll come
back for part two. But in the movie Divergent, people
are separated into I want to say, it's five factions,
and the factions are, for example, we have abnegation, which
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are the selflessness. Those are the people who are very
selfless in their behavior and that's them the majority of
the time. Then you have amity, which is peace. Those
are the people who you know, regardless of what's going on,
they keep things very peaceful. They're very calm and very
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graceful in the way that they deal with people. Then
you have candor. These are the honest people, the very outspoken.
You know, we're just gonna.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Keep it a buck with you, so you have them.
And then you have dauntless. These are the brave people.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
The ones who you know they don't mind a good challenge,
they're not afraid of too much. You have them, and
then you have the areadytes, which is the intelligent person.
And then you have the people who test. So there
are tests that are done for you to figure out
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which one you are. And in those tests, what they
do is they connect people, you know, to their brains.
There's some type of thing they connect to their minds,
and what they do is they run these scenarios kind
of like dreams, and they see how people will respond
to each scenario. Based on the way that you respond,
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they decide which faction you are a part of, whether
you're a part of the selfless group, peace, the honest,
the brave, or the intelligence. Right, So there were a
group of people when they would have their tests, they
wouldn't fall in any of these categories, so they would
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be considered what you call the faction lists, which means
they're none of these. That really makes me think, what
are they really, you know, what do they believe in?
Really it's very interesting, but I think it's very rare
to find someone who doesn't fall at least into any
of these categories.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Maybe they should have created a rebel category. I don't know, but.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
I found that interesting as I was watching a movie,
and this is a series two, so I've watched all
three of them.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
But we'll talk about it in.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Part two and then the title of the movie is
based on the people that the movie is centered around
and that they think is a threat to all of
the factions, and that is the Divergent. Now, the divergence
personality type falls into every single group. So you have
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the factionless that don't fall into any of these categories.
Then the divergent actually falls into all of them, which
means the divergent has the ability to be selfless, peace, honest, brave,
and intelligent. So when they run their tests for a divergent,
the way the divergent passes the test and handles all
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of those different scenarios that's pushed through their brains in
a dream like state. What they do is they're running
these tests and figuring out how to respond, and each
response is different, and each response is falling into one
of those five categories. And the reason why the divergence
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are basically a thread to the other factions is because
they have the ability because of the way they categorize,
they can think independent from all of these other groups.
If you're in the abnegation group, which is the selfless group,
you tend to only stay in that category of selfless.
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You don't really know too much else and with all
of these groups, they have decided to live within their
own factions and they work and do charity and different
things based on their faction personality. So, for example, the
Dauntless are out pretty much securing the city and making
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sure that things don't go you know, wrong. They're jumping
on and off trains and buildings and all types of
crazy things.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
But what I found interesting about.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
This film is in the beginning, as the youth, the
next generation who are getting ready to age out of
their homes, as they are going forward to take their
tests to the side which faction they're a part of,
it is stated.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
That they have the choice regardless.
Speaker 1 (35:52):
Of what faction they were born in. So say, for example,
with Candor the Honest, though those adults had children, and
their children are immediately initiated into the Candor group. Now
what happens is though that next generation or those children,
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as they get older and they're ready to leave home,
now they're gonna be tested to decide whether they're gonna
stay in the Candor group, whether they test for another faction,
which means that child, which is now a young adult,
could have been born in the Candor, which is the
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Honest group. But they could actually test as Dauntless the
Brave group, if that makes sense. So the way that
they answer those scenarios depends on what faction they're gonna
be a part of. But they can also regardless of
whether they were already born in that faction or whether
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they tested for another faction, they still have the choice
to choose what faction they want to be a part of. So,
for example, if they were born Candor, they have to
be raised in Candor until they take their tests. Say,
for instance, they pass the test as Dauntless the Brave,
but then they decide they want to be Amity Peace.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
You know what I mean. It's very interesting. I love
this movie.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
I recommend you guys watch it seriously because to me,
it paints such a nice picture of society.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
And at first when I was watching the.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
Film, before going through the other two movies of the series,
I really thought, this would.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
Be cool if maybe we.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Had tests to decide who we are in a sense
or kind of help guide you. Because the test is
not really telling you anything. It's not telling you who
to be, But what it's doing is asking you who
you are, and based on the way you answer those scenarios,
it's pretty much like an assessment test. Then it points
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you in the right direction. But what I loved about
it is they didn't force those who pass the test
a certain way in a certain personality type to go
and be with that personality type. I thought that was
one of the things they got right when it came
down to the scenario of just this movie world, if
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that makes sense. But when it comes down to it,
the divergent, to me is the very important personality to
my point, and we'll talk more.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
About this in part too.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
The divergent is someone who is able to pivot and
kind of throw their personality a little bit. It reminds
me of maybe being a chameleon right where you're able
to change and you see these little animals and frogs
and all these different little things. Lizards is another one
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that comes to my mind. And they can change colors
based on what they're sitting on. Not in a way
to be fake, because that's the thing I always say,
we have to watch. Not in a way to be fake,
and so you just become everything around everyone, No, but
being able to understand which part of you is needed
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at which time, If that makes sense, or if I
can say it. In another way, it would be read
the room, and whatever you read from the room, you're
deciding what you can contribute to the room. So, for
an example, very basic example, is if there's a person
who feels the need to always be loud, They're just
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a loud person. I've been loud my whole life. I'm
not gonna change it now. But when you enter a library,
you use your inside voice.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Just just a basic example that I can gravitate to
real quick, you know. And so with that being said,
I personally am encouraging people that, regardless of our personalities,
regardless of you know, how we feel, we should act
to be aware. And that's going to be a huge
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discussion in my part two of this how aware are
we or do we just get up and go, go.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Go, and we're not checking in.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
We're not checking in to the people around us, We're
not checking in to the things that's going on.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Day by day.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
We're just existing, you know, We're just there and we
don't really need to do any adjusting, adapting, any changing,
any you know, thinking of anything. Take me as I am.
That is necessary in some areas, but all I would
beg to differ right, So that's just something I want
you guys to think about. I'm happy that I can
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come and just share my thoughts with this. I will
be breaking that down soon in another podcast in the meantime.
In between time, guys, if you have a comment and
you would like to share your thoughts on this podcast episode,
please do by all means, hit the link in any
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leave me a comment and I'll be happy to check
out your thoughts. Remember to keep your comments classy and professional,
because that's.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
All we do over here. And until next time you guys,
we will chat soon
Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Motivation Zone.
It is your host here, Monica Maa is super excited
to be with you guys, and we are diving into
a very hot topic of assessing personalities. And I title
it I Hate People. Now, personally, I don't necessarily hate people.
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But the reason why I wanted to give this title
is number one, it's very catchy. Then number two is
really how I felt as I was thinking about assessing
personalities and the reason why sometimes people feel like they
don't get along with others. Now, could it be that
(00:43):
we're gonna rest on you know, it's just simply we're
going off of how we've been treated, or could it
be really that there are people This is very basic, right,
there are people that we just don't get along with
due to personality traits. And I think that's that's very important. Now,
mind you, this goes both ways, right, So you personally
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listening in and myself, we have certain ways about us
and certain things that we lean on or that's our
goal to responses or whatever that may not work so
well for certain people. And then also on the flip
side of that is when we actually find our tribe
when we're being ourselves. So throughout this podcast, I'm going
(01:29):
to encourage you guys to be yourself. But also, as always,
when you listen to my podcast, you will hear me
saying to you guys to always find that room for growth.
We should always be learning and we can adapt, we
can do things differently. Just because we've been doing this
our whole lives, just because we've been thinking about it
(01:49):
this way the whole time, does not mean we have
to stay there, right. So I want to dive into
this assessing personalities.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I want to go into.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Politics because politics has been one of the hottest debates
I would say even before twenty twenty four, but twenty
twenty four was rough, and I can honestly say as
much as the liberals or should I say the radical left,
because not all liberals agree with the radical left. I mean,
(02:21):
it's crazy how we're having to divide within already, the divisions,
you know what I'm saying. Basically, you have your liberals
who don't agree with the radical left, who are also
considered liberals, and then you have your conservatives who do
not necessarily agree with certain other conservatives, and so we're
having to divide things it's so interesting. It's really becoming
(02:44):
one of those you know, eight piece pis. I guess
you can say the best way I can think about it.
But politics is a hot topic and there's a lot
going on here, and it's one of the biggest things
that I've been wanting that has made me realize that
people are not paying attention to who's talking. And this
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is going to be a whole different podcast that I
may do somewhere down the line. But who's talking to you?
Meaning what do they actually believe? Also who's making the rules?
Also going back to what do they believe, what do
they teach, what are they standing on, what do they
(03:29):
stand for, what do they agree with? And then also
with those things, then you have to ask yourself, with
the agreements, with what they're standing on, with what they
stand for, what they're putting out here, where does it
end right? What is the results of being this way?
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So I was looking at Trump versus Zelenski. So this
is Trump, who's the president of the United States, Lensky who.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Is the leader over Ukraine.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
And forgiving you guys of my ignorance because I'm not
sure what they cause. Alynsky over there, I know it's
not president. I don't know, but I just say leader
over Ukraine.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Right.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So Zelensky comes to the United States. He's been here
a few times since this war with Russia popped off,
and Trump, of course is now the seating president. He
takes over from the Biden administration. The Biden administration has
been very giving to Zelenski. I'm talking about billions of
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dollars towards this war, whether it be monetary value or
whether it be the value of weapons, which I have
always thought was not a good idea because I don't
believe any country should be supplying another country more weapons
and not really knowing what the uses of that weapon
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is going to be in the long term. And since
Ukraine is not a part of NATO, I definitely would
not give them that much in weapons personally if I
was in leadership. But you know, this is just me
sitting here behind my mic and talking to you guys
about it. So obviously I'm not the one making the decisions,
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but that's just the way my mind works. So Zelensky
comes and he's trying to now continue this giving of weapons, money,
whatever the case may be, towards a war that Trump
wants to stop. And of course, prior to him visiting
here in the United States, they had a back and
(05:39):
forth on social media and it was, you know, kind
of intense. So he comes and it gets very heated
in the White House. And this was a few months ago,
early twenty twenty five, right, So as he's sitting there,
he's kind of going off on Trump and then JD.
Vance is on the sideline saying, look, being very disrespectful
(06:01):
while you're here. And the reason why I'm bringing this
up is because of America's response to the situation.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Now here's how I see it.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
You guys, I am an American, So if anyone steps
into America, they're stepping into my home. Wherever I go,
America is still my home. I'm able to freely go
in America as I so choose. Now, if I go
to another country, I would have to be mindful of
their border laws, I would have to be mindful of
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their rules. I would have to be mindful of my
comings and goings. They may need more, you know, ID
for me to travel, whatever the case may be. But
here in America, this is my home. So America's response,
and I would say, the liberal response or the left
as we have been so divided, right was yeah, get
them Zelenski. You know, he said what needed to be said.
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Da da da, And I'm sitting up here going who's talking?
So right now? Currently personality assessments, we have people who
I call habitual boundary steppers, or if you want to
say it a little bit deeper than that, habitual boundary
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over steppers, right. And these are people who don't mind
going into somebody's house, going straight to the refrigerator, going
and getting whatever they need without having to be invited
to do that. You get what I'm saying, Like for
me personally, if I go into someone home, I wait
until they let me know what it is I can
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do in their home instead of just freely roaming all
over the place. But then you have some people who
couldn't care less about asking or waiting on some permissions
when they're in other people's territories, in other people's homes,
So they'll go over there and become straight what disrespectful
And a lot of those people tend to not get
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invited to as many things after that, whether they're told
they're disrespectful or not. Trust me, They've been removed off
of some lists Okay, So with that being said, I'm
thinking I'm watching all of this going on.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
This is one of the biggest examples for me, and
I'm like.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I have to record this podcast because this is crazy.
So a lot of Americans are in agreement with someone
from another country coming over to the home of the
president and being disrespectful to him in his own house. Now,
mind you, I really couldn't care less what we're disagreeing on.
(08:44):
I would not step in someone's house, someone else's home
to be disrespectful.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Now, If we are in a basic conversation and things
get heated a little bit because maybe we're debating or
we have some differences of opinions or whatever the case
may be, you can't always avoid that. But to go
with the intention to be disrespectful, it's crazy work, right,
(09:15):
And in my opinion, no one should be champiing, championing,
championing Oh my gosh, I can't even say, you guys
get what I'm saying. No one should be encouraging anyone
any other leaders from any other country to go and
be disrespectful to your president, no matter what your agreements
(09:36):
or disagreements are. Periods and That's just how I feel
about it. So I'm sitting here watching this stuff going
on the internet. I'm watching all of these comments, I'm
reading things under different videos and posts about it, and
I'm just in awe. I'm like, these are American people
literally sitting here saying I'm happy he did this. That
(09:59):
is crazy. And so with that being said, you guys,
I'm looking at who's talking. I wonder what their lives
are like behind the scenes. What are some of these
people personal lives when they really do believe you can
go in somebody else's house and be disrespectful regardless of
what you agree upon or don't. Right, that's really my mentality.
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We have to change these things, and we need to
see this for what it really is. And the reason
why assessing personality is important is because we tend to
look at social media. We tend to look at the
actual media, right, what do they call it the We
have the New Age media, then we have the whatever
(10:42):
they call the you know, like CNN, Fox News, all
of these other channels. We are looking at this stuff
and we're listening to different anchors and commentators give their
opinions on things without asking who they are as people,
because you really need to watch who you're following. You
really need to pay attention to who you're listening to.
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And as one of the sayings go that I grew
up hearing all the time is consider the source. That's
what we need to start doing. But I'm realizing now
that we're just tying everyone into the same category, and
we're passing off every voice as replable, We're passing off
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every voice as worth listening to. We're passing off every
voice as.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
Accurate and truthful.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
And even that is crazy to me, because I could
just think about people that I know who lie all
the time, and so usually when I know this about someone,
I don't give them too much room to say too
much to me because I'm like, what's coming out of
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your mouth is not honest or truthful. And then also,
another person that I've come across, or should I say
another personality I've come across a lot, is the person
who's constantly changing their mind.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
I feel like.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
And I'm just I'm gonna take my time with this,
you guys, because I really want to break this down
so I don't have a problem with anyone changing their mind,
because I feel like we all have the right to
do so. But what's dangerous is when you're talking to
people who change your mind so frequently that you're in
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conversations with them. And I know some of you guys
are listening, and probably I know somebody like this.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
It's true, you have conversations with them.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And you're either in agreement with what they're saying, or
you're piggybacking off of what they're saying. Maybe even you
throw out a disagreement or an argument based on what
they're saying. You know, something that differs from what they're
they're telling you. And so then what you do is
you say, Okay, yeah, I hear you, I understand, let
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me back you up on this, let me back you
up on that, only to find out later that the
person didn't really mean any of it. Now it's something
completely different. And so then you step into that and
you're sitting there looking crazy because you're like, wait a minute, now,
you told me it was x y Z, that you
wanted x y Z, that you wanted to do this
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and that, and then you follow up because you care,
only for that person to turn it around at like
they never said it, at like it was never a
thing they never stood on that. It is so awkward,
you guys, that is I don't know what to call
that personality.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I don't know what to call it, but.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
Yeah, I've come across that a lot. And so when
someone who is changing their mind quite frequent is talking
to me personally, I don't.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Lean on anything that they say.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
I stop giving commentary on what they're saying, and I
try my hardest to find my way out of the conversation.
Because also people of that nature can get you emotionally
invested in what they have going on, only for them
to backtrack everything they've said, everything they've talked to you
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about later on down the line, and now your emotions
are all up in arms and you're trying to figure
out how you can help them and all these things.
I have stopped doing that with those type of people
for real. If they say something to me, I pass
it off as maybe they mean it, maybe they don't.
Who cares And it sounds bad, But that's really how
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you have to do it. For me personally, I'm just
gonna talk about my personality a little bit as I
parallel these things. I am a straight shooter. I say
what I mean, I mean what I say, and it
takes me time. I didn't realize I used to think
I talked a lot.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
I really did. I used to think I talked too much.
Speaker 1 (15:05):
But then lately, as I start evaluating all the things
I have never said or the things I've taken my
time to consider before I say it, I am really
one of those people that when I finally vocalize something,
I stand ten toes down on it. It's not too
much of me changing my mind. As a matter of fact,
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I don't recall in my life too often having said
something that I'm like, oh my gosh, I just want
to take that back.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
And lately I've.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Been praying very hard you guys on helping me to
monitor more and more my responses to things, because I
want to get even tighter on that, to the point
where you're really walking a path of no regrets, right.
But for me, I'm not someone who will say something
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to you. I don't come with all of my emotions
and things like that, and then later on down the
line it's something completely different, unless there's a lesson that
I've gained, or there's an apology that maybe I need
to make because I misunderstood something and I spoke up
too soon or whatever the case may be, and then
I have to say, oh, you know what, I thought
(16:23):
it was this thing, but it's another right. So communication
is going to be my next topic on this when
it comes down to personality, just segueing into that. But
I can tell you, guys, when it comes down to
constantly changing your mind, I'm going to encourage you on
this podcast. This is motivation zone, after all, to get
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solid in where you stand on things. I have really
been in a place in my life as someone who's
always learning something new that I want to be solid.
I'm talking about true roots solid. Do you guys notice
that when they want to cut down a tree, they
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pretty much cut it down at the trunk. But getting
those roots up, who it's gonna be a beast unless
there is a storm with winds strong enough and force
strong enough to rip them roots out. Them roots are
solid and that's really where I want to be. So
let me jump into two people who aren't solid. I
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have to use these people as an example. I think
it is funny.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
At first, I felt so sorry for this couple. I
really did. I was like, man, the way they're being
treated is rough.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
I wouldn't want to be in their shoes. I hope
everything works out for them. And then as time has
gone on and I've seen their movements, I'm like, we
need to do a personality assessment on these.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Two people, because why.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
Are you moving in this manner? You've made one decision
and you're not sticking to it and standing on it.
And those two people they are Prince Harry and Megan Markle. Now, Meghan,
as I've heard, does not like to go by her
Markel last name, and she wants to go by.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Her royal name.
Speaker 1 (18:24):
But what's tripping me up about these two people that
I've observed and I saw Prince Harry, I really followed
a lot of the commentary when he first decided that
he wanted to leave the UK and that he wanted
to save his family from the behaviors of the royals
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and also from the behavior of the press that he
said was pretty much stalking his wife and not treating
her well. So he decided that he wanted to take
it family up and leave and come over to the US. Now,
within that, Harry wanted to keep certain privileges, including his security.
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In my opinion, especially after his book came out definitely
pretty much dragging the Royal family. And I'm not saying
that they weren't undeserving of the dragging, but.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
What I'm saying is that.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
He pretty much put this book out and it put
them in a bad light pretty much, and so with that,
you would think, Okay, there's going to be a response
from them now. When he first decided to leave the
royal family, his grandmother, the Queen, who was still alive
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at the time, decided that she was going to strip
them of their titles. And then there were some, I
guess you can say, discussions of whether or not the
kids were gonna keep their royal titles.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
And in my.
Speaker 1 (20:07):
Opinion, the way Prince Harry and Megan Markle left this
Royal family and the things that they were accusing the
family of, in my opinion, if it were me, but
it is not making that clear. But if it was me,
I would have left them and I would have wanted
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nothing from them. I find it strange that Prince Harry
is trying to hold onto the security that's supplied by
his family and Meghan Markle is trying to hold on
to the name that is supplied by her family or
Prince Harry's family, and in my opinion, then these two
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have become.
Speaker 2 (20:55):
Sort of.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Entitled if that makes sense, and entitled people. This is
just me giving you guys some examples, okay, because these
are stories that have come across my radar, and I'm
sitting up here like this is not making no sense.
But to me, entitled people, regardless of their behavior, regardless
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of their decision making, they always want something from you,
no matter what. And to me, that is not a
good place to be in. And the reason why I
feel like they're in the place of entitlement is because
they think and Prince Harry thinks that he can write
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the things about his family that may have been true. Okay,
don't get me wrong, because I'm not defending them at all,
But he can write the things that he's written about them,
paint them in the light that he has go up
and be at odds with his brother and say that
he no longer wants to live there as a UK
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citizen and come over here to the US, and he
is still leaning on them for things even after all
that's been said and done. And to me, when you're
not entitled and you want to move independent, you cut
all ties that's just my opinion of it. I feel
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like if this was being done in a healthier way
and it wasn't done by entitled people, I feel like
Prince Harry and Megan Markle would have moved on and
they get talked about so much. At first, I thought
this is messy. They need to lead these people alone.
But now I understand why the media goes so hard
at them individually and as a couple, because they're constantly
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doing things to get the attention of the very people
they said they wanted to leave, and the very people
that they wrote off as toxic, and the very people
that they wrote off as not being good to be around. Obviously,
right now, I know you guys are gonna probably be saying,
(23:10):
but Prince Harry has a history, and he does that
history is also very important and it should not be
ignored because he felt that his wife was being treated
very much so similarly to the way his mother was treated.
And to me, I think the royal family, all of them,
(23:30):
need to be evaluated. To be honest with you, like,
who are you guys?
Speaker 2 (23:34):
What do you.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
Really believe and stand on? We don't really know, you know,
When it comes down to celebrities and the royals, and
you know, people that are in the public eye constantly,
we don't really know what they stand on all the
time because they may not want to present that why,
because it makes.
Speaker 2 (23:52):
Them look bad.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
They aren't able to keep the following that they once had,
They're scared of losing supporters. It's a lot that goes
to that. So I don't know if we get the
full picture, in the full truth, I don't know. But
what I do know is, say, for instance, the King,
Prince Harry's father is in the home there I guess
(24:15):
you could say the palace or whatever they want to
call it, with his mistress whom he was with while
he was married to Prince Harry's mother, Princess Diana, and
they're still together.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
Such an odd.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Thing, you know, And if you're someone who has any standards,
you would probably have a problem with that. I know
I would, especially if my mother died over a lot
of those things that were happening in her life and
she struggled with a lot of things because of the
way the royals were treating her.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
That would be a hard appeal to swallow.
Speaker 1 (24:55):
So Prince Harry has always been one in my opinion
just as someone who's outside looking.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
I'm talking about way on the outside. Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
I can see that he's acted out over the years,
kind of done his own thing. So I was not
shocked when he said that he didn't want to remain
in the UK and he was gonna take his family
somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (25:17):
I was not shocked.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
But what I do believe is even though a lot
of these things may be true about his family that
he's sharing, I believe he's doing it and going about
it the wrong way by trying to still hang on
to so much from them, but also talking about them
in not so good of a way and then think
that's gonna work out for them. And that is something
(25:42):
that I feel like they need to really get it
together and their mind needs to change on that. And
Megan Markle is doing her best to have her own
little show. She has people cooking with her and all
of these things, and she has a show on Netflix.
And I don't know what Prince Harry is doing to
have not looked at it up, but I feel like
this couple has enough behind them that they can move
(26:05):
on from this family, be independent and if it be
that relationships are mended you know, somewhere up the line,
up the road.
Speaker 2 (26:17):
Then great.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
But to me, in my opinion, they're not on the
road to recovery with the rate that they're going in
demanding so much and saying so much at the same time.
So entitled people personality wise. I don't know if that's
just a choice or if people are just in their
(26:40):
minds thinking this is the only way that I can
get what I need.
Speaker 2 (26:45):
So I just prefer to be this way.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I prefer not to let you know, anything go that
I feel I desire or want, regardless of the way
I treat people, regardless of my relationships. I don't know
if that's a thing. I don't know, but entitlement is
a very hard personality to deal with, especially when the
person is once again my.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Favorite word, habitual about it to.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
The point where they can say what they want to
your face, say all kinds.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
Of things to you, and then.
Speaker 1 (27:19):
Turn right back around and demand something from you that
is good and demand you to continue to give pieces
of yourself that is not in healthy dynamic to be in.
I feel like, in my personal opinion, that we need
to be around people who are considerate as much as
(27:43):
they want to be considered.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (27:47):
And that goes to something I want to end on
because I don't want this to be too long.
Speaker 2 (27:50):
I want to make a part two for you, guys.
I want to end on this.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
Treat people how you want to be treated, regardless of
our different personalities. I feel like if we can meet
on that common road, that common ground, and stand there
and say I see you, and if I were you,
this is how I want you to respond to me,
(28:17):
This is what I would want to hear from you,
this is how I would want to be treated. I
feel we need to go that route. And when we
do that, it helps us to break some of these
habits that may be personality, or it may be upbringing,
or it may be experienced. And sometimes when we get
(28:38):
treated a certain way, myself included, because God knows I'm
preaching to myself, we tend to think everybody around us
is going to continue to treat us like that, and
that is not always the case. But when we think
that we act a certain way, we do things a
certain way, and we make it a habit and we
(28:58):
keep going with it until maybe we learn maybe we don't,
but so much in that process when we keep going
we hinder things, we destroy things, we ruin things, you
know what I mean. So hopefully we can take a
position of treating others how we want to be treated,
(29:21):
and that can help minimize some of these blows based
on our personalities. And that's me included.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I have some.
Speaker 1 (29:30):
Ways about me that while I don't think it's, you know,
so much as overly over the top toxic, I do
believe it can be a hindrance to me sometimes. And
because of that, I'm learning to dial back on some
things and say, Okay, I don't have to vocalize this
(29:54):
as much as I used to, or I don't have
to respond in this world as sharply as I usually do,
because now I'm understanding, Okay, let me use a softer,
more professional tone with people, let me get an understanding
of where they're coming from. And if it be that
(30:14):
we just can't work together perfect, but at least in
my response, I feel healthy about it, and I've tried.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
To work it out like a mature adult, you know
what I mean. This is my mindset.
Speaker 1 (30:28):
And so on part two of this, I am gonna
be breaking down the movie Divergent, because I feel like
that movie in a Nutshell breaks down personalities and different
types of people perfectly, and although it is a movie
is based on a book series, it is very accurate
(30:52):
in my opinion. And in Divergent, let me just give
you guys a breakdown of this and then we'll come
back for part two. But in the movie Divergent, people
are separated into I want to say, it's five factions,
and the factions are, for example, we have abnegation, which
(31:15):
are the selflessness. Those are the people who are very
selfless in their behavior and that's them the majority of
the time. Then you have amity, which is peace. Those
are the people who you know, regardless of what's going on,
they keep things very peaceful. They're very calm and very
(31:35):
graceful in the way that they deal with people. Then
you have candor. These are the honest people, the very outspoken.
You know, we're just gonna.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
Keep it a buck with you, so you have them.
And then you have dauntless. These are the brave people.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
The ones who you know they don't mind a good challenge,
they're not afraid of too much. You have them, and
then you have the areadytes, which is the intelligent person.
And then you have the people who test. So there
are tests that are done for you to figure out
(32:13):
which one you are. And in those tests, what they
do is they connect people, you know, to their brains.
There's some type of thing they connect to their minds,
and what they do is they run these scenarios kind
of like dreams, and they see how people will respond
to each scenario. Based on the way that you respond,
(32:33):
they decide which faction you are a part of, whether
you're a part of the selfless group, peace, the honest,
the brave, or the intelligence. Right, So there were a
group of people when they would have their tests, they
wouldn't fall in any of these categories, so they would
(32:54):
be considered what you call the faction lists, which means
they're none of these. That really makes me think, what
are they really, you know, what do they believe in?
Really it's very interesting, but I think it's very rare
to find someone who doesn't fall at least into any
of these categories.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Maybe they should have created a rebel category. I don't know, but.
Speaker 1 (33:18):
I found that interesting as I was watching a movie,
and this is a series two, so I've watched all
three of them.
Speaker 2 (33:23):
But we'll talk about it in.
Speaker 1 (33:24):
Part two and then the title of the movie is
based on the people that the movie is centered around
and that they think is a threat to all of
the factions, and that is the Divergent. Now, the divergence
personality type falls into every single group. So you have
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the factionless that don't fall into any of these categories.
Then the divergent actually falls into all of them, which
means the divergent has the ability to be selfless, peace, honest, brave,
and intelligent. So when they run their tests for a divergent,
the way the divergent passes the test and handles all
(34:11):
of those different scenarios that's pushed through their brains in
a dream like state. What they do is they're running
these tests and figuring out how to respond, and each
response is different, and each response is falling into one
of those five categories. And the reason why the divergence
(34:34):
are basically a thread to the other factions is because
they have the ability because of the way they categorize,
they can think independent from all of these other groups.
If you're in the abnegation group, which is the selfless group,
you tend to only stay in that category of selfless.
(34:57):
You don't really know too much else and with all
of these groups, they have decided to live within their
own factions and they work and do charity and different
things based on their faction personality. So, for example, the
Dauntless are out pretty much securing the city and making
(35:20):
sure that things don't go you know, wrong. They're jumping
on and off trains and buildings and all types of
crazy things.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
But what I found interesting about.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
This film is in the beginning, as the youth, the
next generation who are getting ready to age out of
their homes, as they are going forward to take their
tests to the side which faction they're a part of,
it is stated.
Speaker 2 (35:47):
That they have the choice regardless.
Speaker 1 (35:52):
Of what faction they were born in. So say, for example,
with Candor the Honest, though those adults had children, and
their children are immediately initiated into the Candor group. Now
what happens is though that next generation or those children,
(36:13):
as they get older and they're ready to leave home,
now they're gonna be tested to decide whether they're gonna
stay in the Candor group, whether they test for another faction,
which means that child, which is now a young adult,
could have been born in the Candor, which is the
(36:34):
Honest group. But they could actually test as Dauntless the
Brave group, if that makes sense. So the way that
they answer those scenarios depends on what faction they're gonna
be a part of. But they can also regardless of
whether they were already born in that faction or whether
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they tested for another faction, they still have the choice
to choose what faction they want to be a part of. So,
for example, if they were born Candor, they have to
be raised in Candor until they take their tests. Say,
for instance, they pass the test as Dauntless the Brave,
but then they decide they want to be Amity Peace.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
You know what I mean. It's very interesting. I love
this movie.
Speaker 1 (37:22):
I recommend you guys watch it seriously because to me,
it paints such a nice picture of society.
Speaker 2 (37:29):
And at first when I was watching the.
Speaker 1 (37:30):
Film, before going through the other two movies of the series,
I really thought, this would.
Speaker 2 (37:37):
Be cool if maybe we.
Speaker 1 (37:40):
Had tests to decide who we are in a sense
or kind of help guide you. Because the test is
not really telling you anything. It's not telling you who
to be, But what it's doing is asking you who
you are, and based on the way you answer those scenarios,
it's pretty much like an assessment test. Then it points
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you in the right direction. But what I loved about
it is they didn't force those who pass the test
a certain way in a certain personality type to go
and be with that personality type. I thought that was
one of the things they got right when it came
down to the scenario of just this movie world, if
(38:21):
that makes sense. But when it comes down to it,
the divergent, to me is the very important personality to
my point, and we'll talk more.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
About this in part too.
Speaker 1 (38:35):
The divergent is someone who is able to pivot and
kind of throw their personality a little bit. It reminds
me of maybe being a chameleon right where you're able
to change and you see these little animals and frogs
and all these different little things. Lizards is another one
(38:56):
that comes to my mind. And they can change colors
based on what they're sitting on. Not in a way
to be fake, because that's the thing I always say,
we have to watch. Not in a way to be fake,
and so you just become everything around everyone, No, but
being able to understand which part of you is needed
(39:17):
at which time, If that makes sense, or if I
can say it. In another way, it would be read
the room, and whatever you read from the room, you're
deciding what you can contribute to the room. So, for
an example, very basic example, is if there's a person
who feels the need to always be loud, They're just
(39:41):
a loud person. I've been loud my whole life. I'm
not gonna change it now. But when you enter a library,
you use your inside voice.
Speaker 2 (39:53):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (39:55):
Just just a basic example that I can gravitate to
real quick, you know. And so with that being said,
I personally am encouraging people that, regardless of our personalities,
regardless of you know, how we feel, we should act
to be aware. And that's going to be a huge
(40:19):
discussion in my part two of this how aware are
we or do we just get up and go, go.
Speaker 2 (40:25):
Go, and we're not checking in.
Speaker 1 (40:27):
We're not checking in to the people around us, We're
not checking in to the things that's going on.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Day by day.
Speaker 1 (40:33):
We're just existing, you know, We're just there and we
don't really need to do any adjusting, adapting, any changing,
any you know, thinking of anything. Take me as I am.
That is necessary in some areas, but all I would
beg to differ right, So that's just something I want
you guys to think about. I'm happy that I can
(40:55):
come and just share my thoughts with this. I will
be breaking that down soon in another podcast in the meantime.
In between time, guys, if you have a comment and
you would like to share your thoughts on this podcast episode,
please do by all means, hit the link in any
other descriptions of the platform you're listening to this on,
(41:17):
leave me a comment and I'll be happy to check
out your thoughts. Remember to keep your comments classy and professional,
because that's.
Speaker 2 (41:24):
All we do over here. And until next time you guys,
we will chat soon
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