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November 2, 2025 18 mins
This message challenges the idea that gratitude is only for good times and instead calls us to practice thankfulness even when life gets tough. Based on 1 Thessalonians 5:16–18, it clearly distinguishes between being thankful for all circumstances and being thankful in them. The message reminds us that although we can't always control what happens, we can choose our outlook. Gratitude becomes an act of trust, not just a feeling, and a decision that opens the door to peace and reshapes our pain. Whether life is smooth or messy, the sermon encourages us to thank God not out of convenience but out of faith, because even in chaos, God remains good and active.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
How many of you are good at being thankful when
life's going good?

Speaker 2 (00:12):
When you wake up on time, like the end of
daylight saving times, that was pretty easy for us this morning.

Speaker 1 (00:22):
Wasn't it. Or you get up and.

Speaker 2 (00:26):
The hair is cooperating, it's going to be a good
hair day, and right from the beginning.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
You say, God is so good. But how are you.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
About when life's not going your way? Perhaps you have
an important engagement and you enter the car and it
won't start.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
Well.

Speaker 2 (00:58):
A couple of weeks ago, I got to call like
it from CA. It's like mister Rogers neighborhood around. He says, Lonnie,
my car won't start. I said, let's see what's up.
And I went over and said, oh, I think you
need a new battery. Gave him, We brought the jumpers over,
jumped his car, he got it started, went to the place,
got a new battery. And then in the midst of that,

(01:20):
Robert Willer, our sound.

Speaker 1 (01:21):
Guy, calls.

Speaker 2 (01:22):
He says, coast, I got a problem with my car.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
I need some jumpers. Not a good day. He gave
the jumpers to Robert and.

Speaker 2 (01:34):
Friday Halloween, Robert and Costia came up to the parsonas
and we had Stu and watch young Frankenstein, and I
got my jumpers back.

Speaker 1 (01:45):
We're a full service church.

Speaker 2 (01:47):
If your car runs out, those jumpers have had a
lot of life. But in the car doesn't start, you
might be saying, Lord, and now even this.

Speaker 1 (02:01):
For sure gratitude.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
It's really easy when things line up, but it's harder.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
When things fall apart.

Speaker 2 (02:21):
And in the midst of that here is what is
really wild. And it's how the Bible looks upon that
kind of dynamic. The Bible doesn't say be thankful when
everything is perfect. We find the spin of it in

(02:43):
the scriptures in Thessalonians, where it says rejoice, always, pray continually,
and give thanks in.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
All circumstances. Those are three powerful attributes for living.

Speaker 2 (03:07):
Rejoice, always pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances.
And then the Bible goes right on to say that
for this is God's will.

Speaker 1 (03:28):
For you in Christ Jesus.

Speaker 2 (03:34):
I think it's intriguing that that verse doesn't say give
thanks for.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
All things. There's a big difference of giving thanks for
all things.

Speaker 2 (03:50):
It says give thanks in all circumstances.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
In in.

Speaker 2 (04:04):
It made me think of the instrumental jazz version of
the The Ramsey Lewis Trio.

Speaker 1 (04:11):
Remember from nineteen sixty five I'm Aging.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
Myself where they talked about I'm in the in crowd.

Speaker 1 (04:19):
Oh, I love it. I'm in with the in crowd.
I go where the in crowd goes. I'm in with
the in crowd, and I know what the in crowd knows,
what they know.

Speaker 2 (04:36):
We don't have to be thankful for sickness, or to
be thankful for breakup or for anxiety. We're not to
be thankful for pain. If we were thankful for that stuff,
we would be weird.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
But we can be thankful in it.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
Because even when life feels out of control, God is
still working something.

Speaker 1 (05:15):
Good out of it from within.

Speaker 2 (05:19):
It's kind of like baking a cake if you will, uh,
you know, you can eat a teaspoon of flour by
itself and ugh, or.

Speaker 1 (05:32):
You can eat a raw egg. No way, I'll take
a pass on that.

Speaker 2 (05:37):
But when you you know, when you mix those ingredients
together and give it some heat, give it some heat,
suddenly something delicious can come out of it. And I
think that's in a way what God wants to do
in our lives, to take the bitter, confusing parts and

(06:07):
mix something good in it, even when the oven.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Is hot and uncomfortable. So gratitude, Christian gratitude.

Speaker 2 (06:24):
Is essentially how we trust that the baker knows what
the baker is doing. We're part of this thing that
God is doing. So first and foremost, gratitude is a
choice before it is a feeling.

Speaker 1 (06:43):
It is a decision.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
And let's be honest, now, all of us, we we
all wait to feel thankful.

Speaker 1 (06:51):
We want to feel that way.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
We might say, well, I will be thankful and grateful
once when things calm down rough time. Now once when
the stress goes away, and when the stress is away,
then I think that is the context in which I.

Speaker 1 (07:07):
May be able to be grateful.

Speaker 2 (07:08):
But gratitude it doesn't start with feelings, Paul teaches us.
It begins with a decision. And it is a decision
that then would therefore open the door to peace. And
it might sound something like this, It might sound like this,
like God, I don't understand this.

Speaker 1 (07:31):
I don't really understand all that you are doing, God,
but I choose to trust you anyway, and that choice.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
Opens a door of possibilities and of blessing. For sure,
we can't always choose our circumstances, but you can't.

Speaker 1 (08:04):
Choose your perspective on it.

Speaker 2 (08:07):
You can't always choose what's happening to you, but you
can choose to thank God in it. And I think
this is the bottom line, and that is what gratitude does.
Gratitude changes how you will see pain. And we don't

(08:32):
like to be in pain, but the reality is there
will be those times of pain, and how we see
it can make all the difference. So when life hurts,
gratitude it's not going to erase the pain. I'm sorry
it's not, but it does shrink its power on you.

(09:02):
Gratitude doesn't deny reality, it reframes it. It reframes it
in another perspective. So instead of saying.

Speaker 1 (09:12):
Ah, I lost my job or my car won't.

Speaker 2 (09:16):
Start, it becomes God, thank you for providing for me before.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
And I believe God that you.

Speaker 2 (09:34):
Can do it again, and I'm going to hold onto
that even in the midst of the pain.

Speaker 1 (09:40):
For you see, gratitude, it totally shifts the focus from
what's missing to what is still here.

Speaker 2 (09:54):
That's the focus of what is with us yesterday, today
and forever. The scriptures talking about the Christ. So gratitude
shifts that focus to what's still here. So go back
to thinking of your life like a car. If you're
driving along and you stare in the rear view mirror

(10:14):
all the time, that's the only place you're looking, you know,
you will crash. If that's all you can look at,
the good old days, what used to be, you will crash.

Speaker 1 (10:25):
Churches crash that just look in the rear view mirror.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
But if you glance back occasionally, just enough to remember
where God brought you from, that'll give you courage.

Speaker 1 (10:43):
To drive forward. And gratitude does that.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
It reminds us that God was faithful back there, and
God is going to be faithful and what is up ahead?

Speaker 1 (11:02):
And I think the same is true also for the
local church.

Speaker 2 (11:06):
We're grateful for what has been and why we as
we look at the future and the setting in which
ministry has done now, like my churches have never had
to do ministry in the kind of context that we
are doing ministry today, and it requires a totally new perspective.
It requires not using the old tools, but reclaiming that

(11:27):
maintaining the gospel, but the tools to move forward. A
few years ago, a woman was in the hospital. She's
no longer with us. She was a member of this church.
Many of you know this woman, one of our saints.

(11:48):
In fact, I was thinking of her as we're singing
for all the saints. She lived that kind of life.
She was battling cancer. It was real, painful, scary stuff.

Speaker 1 (12:07):
I'll never forget what she said to be she said,
Pastor Lonnie, I thank God every morning I can get
up and smile. I thought, if she can say that

(12:30):
in the middle of this, what excuse do I have?
What excuse do I have? Now? She wasn't thankful for cancer,
not at all.

Speaker 2 (12:44):
She was grateful in it because she learned something.

Speaker 1 (12:53):
That we all need to keep learning, and that.

Speaker 2 (12:57):
Is God loves us. God is good when life is
not good. There's no guarantee anywhere that life is going
to be good.

Speaker 1 (13:15):
But God is good even when life is not.

Speaker 2 (13:21):
So if we thank God only when it's easy, friends,
don't be confused. That's not faith. That's not faith at all.
It's convenience. So don't think of living the life of
following crisis. I want to choose the life of convenience.

(13:43):
And when it's convenience, I really have faith. No, no, no,
it's how we trust God in the rough stuff of life.

Speaker 1 (13:55):
But if you can think God and it's dark.

Speaker 2 (14:02):
When it's lonely, and you can thank God when it's confusing.

Speaker 1 (14:11):
That's essentially what worship is.

Speaker 2 (14:15):
That's what worship is all about, thanking God and all
that stuff of life and being thankful. So when we
gather together, it's not just to have a good show
when things go well, but to be thankful when life.

Speaker 1 (14:31):
Hurts.

Speaker 2 (14:33):
So gratitude is is really kind of that the storm,
that in the midst of the storm you still believe
that there's light behind the clouds. God is still there.
There's the clouds around me.

Speaker 1 (14:47):
But because of what I've experienced as I look back,
God I know is with us ahead.

Speaker 2 (14:54):
So here's a I guess not call it a challenge,
but an invitation for you to consider this week, as
we begin this month of looking at the dynamic of
gratitude and thankfulness, I would invite you, each day in

(15:15):
your journal, write down three things that you're thankful for.

Speaker 1 (15:25):
Be as creative as you have to be.

Speaker 2 (15:27):
Maybe the thing you can be thankful for is Lord,
I'm glad I made it through this day, and that's
about all you can say for that day, even if
it's small, just write it down, write that perspective, and
you'll start to notice something. Eventually, you'll notice that the
more you thank God, the more reasons you'll find to

(15:53):
thank God again. And here's the reason for that, for
that spiritual discipline to move forward in Christ. It is
because gratitude isn't about getting more stuff.

Speaker 1 (16:09):
Gratitude is about seeing more. It's what you see more.

Speaker 2 (16:20):
As many of you know this is we're beginning this
month our annual Stewardship campaign where we look at at
our giving time and talent and treasure, and from the
decisions we make it it has a big effect on
what we do in the coming year. It's always interesting

(16:42):
that when we enter our camp, you know, time like this,
and we consider what's God, what are we to do?
Because we know on on that Sunday after Thanksgiving, that
dedication Sunday, people wonder, well, I hope we get more.
You think we'll get more. It's about getting more and
more and more, No, it's not. My prayer is that
we see more of what God has done and we

(17:05):
are thrilled by that, we are blessed by that, and
because of that we become cheerful givers, not to get more,
but to see more, and in that seeing, to offer
praise and worship and thanksgiving to a holy God.

Speaker 1 (17:21):
When we do that, everything is taken care of.

Speaker 2 (17:26):
And when we see more of what God has already done,
you realize that God has been good all a law.

Speaker 1 (17:38):
Would you please stand for prayer? Let us pray. God.
We thank you.

Speaker 2 (17:49):
Not just for the good days, but for the hard ones.
Thank you for your work even when.

Speaker 1 (18:01):
We can't see it.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
Teach us to be grateful stewards in every season. Help
us to trust that you're baking something good.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
Even when the ingredients taste bitter.

Speaker 2 (18:22):
We love you, we thank you, and we choose to
worship you, not because life's easy, but because you're worthy.

Speaker 1 (18:40):
In Jesus' name. Amen,
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