June 18, 2025 • 19 mins
On today’s episode of The Ashley Berges Show, I invite you to shift your focus from society’s distractions to real sources of peace, joy, and freedom. Are you overwhelmed by the news, social media, and life's personal pressures? Join me as I explore how our so-called small things may hold the deepest value, and how to reconnect with them. We’ll also take a closer look at the people and situations that bring unnecessary drama into your life. Once you start experiencing drama-free days and nights, you’ll realize just how good life can truly feel. Listen now for simple tools to practice gratitude, gain clarity, and create a more grounded, joyful, and drama-free life. It’s time to stop chasing what doesn’t matter and start embracing what truly does.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
You're in a good place now.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
You are listening to Perspectives with Ashley Burgess.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hi, I'm Ashley Burgess and you're listening to my podcast
formerly known as the Ligature Life Perspectives Podcast. Today, I
want to ponder and think about what we consider our
small things, what really matters in our life, and giving
you some tools and some techniques for having gratitude but
also seeing a deeper value, having more freedom, experiencing more happiness,
(00:33):
more joy less drama every single day of your life.
I mean, I know that you're bombarded by things. I
know that you're being bombarded by the TV, by the news,
by the media, by social media, by friends, by family,
by drama. Everything under the sun is trying to take
you off your connection with the things that actually can
(00:54):
make you at peace, can make you feel free, can
make you feel free, but also have freedom in your life.
And so I want to talk about the things that
we can be grateful for. And for many people you
might say, hey, this is what I deem is a
very small thing. But I've found that the world is
kind of well topsy turby. What's up is down, what's
(01:16):
down is up, what's small is big, what's big.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
As small, and it's very interesting.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And so we're gonna discuss that today, and I'm gonna
help you to see some things in your life that
are gonna add some joy, some peace of mind, and
some gratitude, because that's what we need to be able
to get through this stuff, to get through this life,
and to see this silver lining because it can be overwhelming.
Let's talk about some of the small things that are
(01:42):
actually really big things in our day to day life,
because you know how they say they always kind of,
you know, minimize the important things and maximize the things
that aren't important. You know, it's all about it's this
material society. You're supposed to have this and that at
a big house, at a great car, multiple cars and
planes and trains and everything else, supposed to all this stuff,
jewelry's diamonds, multiple closets with so many clothes in it.
(02:05):
I mean, you know that's what it's all about, right,
It's all about getting things, buying things, having things, hoarding things.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
But that's not what's important.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
And so let's talk today about what really is and
how do we begin to get more perspective on our life.
How do we begin to find happier, joyful more. I
don't know, just things that actually resonate at our highest frequency.
How do we do that? And so, you know, the
small things are actually everything, because the small things are
(02:35):
not really small, right, They're actually quite large and they
mean quite a bit. And the other day I kind
of realize, you know, after you know, you go through
a lot of these things in life, and you realize
that most of the stuff that's talked about is bs.
You realize that most of the news is BS. Most
of the stuff on social media's BS. You know, what
they tell us is true is probably not very true.
(02:56):
And we go along and we kind of you know,
you have one you know, awakening and another disillusionment, you know,
and you get this, you know, you're like, wow, okay,
here I am disillusioned again based on some false reality.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
So one of the things that I want you to
think about.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I was walking down the street the other day and
I was coming back from the grocery store, and you know,
I was just looking.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
It was like it was amazing. It was like this great,
great weather day.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And I'm one of those kind of people. I never
really paid attention to the weather. I wasn't like, oh,
I got what a great day or whatever. But it's like,
when there are great days, do something about it. When
there is a great day and you walk outside and
the weather is so nice and the air is so clean,
and the sun is shining like it should be shining,
(03:40):
like a real sun should be shining, it's time to
really enjoy that, relish in it, see it for what
it is, see it in that moment for what it
really is, and enjoy it and be in the moment.
And that's what's so important, is being in the moment
and seeing it for what it is, seeing it and
participating is so important. It's really amazing when you actually participate.
(04:05):
Like right now, as I'm recording this podcast, I'm looking
out my window and I have this squirrel that has
has lived on the property for a very long time,
and she's staring at me. She's sitting on the fence
line looking right into right into my office and it's
adorable and she's just.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Looking right at me.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
And it's a very amazing experience to take the moment
to recognize and realize that this is really happening, and
it takes time to really start focusing on the things
that actually matter you have to change your focus, basically
reframe the focus of what you're focusing on. And you know,
(04:47):
like I stopped it's about the flowers the other day,
and you know, the roses were blooming across the street,
and I stopped at multiple rose bushes and I and
I smelled them and they were so amazing. And I
remember I still that for about five minutes, and I
was grateful for that five minutes. I was like, Wow,
that's that's a really amazing experience I just had. And
(05:09):
as I'm walking back down the street, it's like, you know,
I realize what it's like to you know, walking down
the street. I also began to recognize something very interesting,
and I asked you to begin to do some of
these exercises and I was like, you know what I'm
I mean, I feel good, I'm not in pain, I'm
not struggling, I can walk, i can get somewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You know, I'm healthy.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
And being able to resonate in that frequency of health
and be gracious and have gratitude for it in the moment,
it's very practical and a very It changes your sense
of self and the fact that you're not just racing
through life.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
You're actually giving attention two things in your.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Life, and you're you're grateful for those things. You're not
just writing it off like, oh, well, that's just the
way it's supposed to be, because a lot of times
we don't participate in life. We don't participate, and it's
not until later on down the road when people are going, God,
I wish I would have smell those roses again, you know,
Or I wish I would have been aware of my health,
(06:22):
you know, back then when I was. I wish I
would have just been, you know, aware and thankful. And
I think the gratitude goes a long way for the
longevity of things as well, Like the more grateful we
are of things and honestly grateful, the more we get
of those things, right, or the more.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
That it's consistently with you.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
And I think it's important to understand that because I
think many of us get wrapped up in these challenging relationships,
these toxic dynamics we're so drawn into trying to figure out,
you know, cluster b dynamic. Oh my god, Am I
dealing on borderline? Am I dealing with narcissism? I deal
with histrionic? Am I dealing with a combination of everything.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
What am I dealing with?
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Oh my god, I'm trying to figure this person out,
and I'm losing my identity and I'm getting more and
more code of pinnate and oh my god. But what
if even if you're going through this, even if you're
going through a really challenging relationship right now, you're going
through a breakup or a divorce, this is even more
of a need and a want to do these types
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of things so you can begin to see a different
side of your life. You can begin to see value
in your life even when something is not It's not
about money, it's not about paper, It's about right now
and being focused on what's happening. I think it's amazing
when you have gratitude for the moments of clarity, when
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you have full clarity and you're feeling really good about
that clarity. It is amazing to have gratitude in that
moment of clarity. I found that I have more and
more clarity that way, the more gratitude I have around
the clarity, the more days of clarity I get. And
there's some days, and you and I both though, there's
(08:10):
some days where you know it's just been so stressful
or so much going on. You know where that stress
or anxiety is getting to you, or a series of
events you know, some of you maybe you know you
realize that when you go out too much, or you
party too much, you drink too much, you wake up
the next day, oh, feeling horrible, absolutely horrible, and maybe
(08:31):
you have brain fog all day or what have you.
You know, and you can't seem to you know, focus.
It's like when you have those moments of real, true clarity,
It's it's a God's gift, right, It's like, wow, Okay,
I'm clear, and I can see things in a much
much more complete way, much more full way of seeing things.
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I also believe that you need to cherish and you
want to be in order to cherish these things, you
got to be able to see that it's happening.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
And reckon the value the.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Moments where you actually feel really good, those moments in
time where you actually feel really good. You feel good,
you feel lighter, you feel healthy, you feel strong, you know,
you feel balanced, and that to me is very valuable.
And if you can kind of hone into that, that
is a very valuable time to hone into and be
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thankful for those times and those moments of feeling good.
You know, it's interesting too. It's like just being able
to be cognitive of having a day, a moment, it
could be even an hour where it's drama free. You
have no drama, there's no drama on the plate. You're
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feeling good. Life is good, things are good, and it's
just like drama free and that is a spectacular place
to be at.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Do you begin to resonate with that?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
And I think the more you are aware of that
drama free moments, the more that you are thankful for
those drama free moments, the moments where you recognize the
fact they're in a drama free moment, The more drama
free moments you get. I think many of us are
on this pathway of you know, in relationships and in
(10:28):
you know, lifestyles that are very drama filled. And I
think that's because it brings us some entertainment. It makes
things interesting, I guess. But but I'm asking you a question,
does it really bring that to you or is it
more of bringing you down? Is it more of creating
problems in your life where you don't see the value
(10:49):
within your life, You don't see the value in the
small things because you're so overwhelmed all the time by
the drama, inundated in the drama, that it's really hard
to be able to, you know, get out of that
drama circle, get out of this type of patterns that
we brought to ourselves, and have that time where there
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is no drama. Nobody's creating drama, you're not creating drama.
Nobody's bringing drama to you. And I think maybe focusing
and seeing for a moment, who brings a lot of
drama to your life? Who are the people in your
life that bring a lot of drama to you? What
type of drama is it, and how do you feel
about the drama? How do you feel about the drama
and really think about it, because we have to be
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aware of what's happening in our lives, the people that
we're surrounding ourselves with and what they're bringing into our lives.
And it's not like you can just get rid of
everybody in your life, but there is an ability.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
To limit the amount of time that you're spending.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
With certain people that are bringing stress or unhappiness into
your life. And you know, those drama free days are
so credible, Those drama free nights are so incredible, and
many of you aren't grateful for it. There are many
people out there that are living in challenging relationships where
(12:10):
every single night is drama and chaos and arguments and fights.
And you know, some of you may say, Oh, my
relationship's boring or what have you. But I mean, I think,
you know, trying to see the value of not fighting,
trying to see the value of someone that's not trying
to bring up drama or to make you feel bad
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or to you know, shame you, or to push your buttons,
and you know, I think those are interesting things to
be grateful for. I think one big one, too, is
when someone actually follows through with what they say they're
going to do. I mean, nowadays, in the world that
we live in, it's hard to have somebody follow through
with what they say they're going to do. They might
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say they're going to do something they don't, And I've
realized that if somebody does follow through though, it's so
powerful and it's so awesome and to be grateful for that,
because the more that we're grateful for that, and the
more we hang out and spend time with and interact
with and work with people that do follow through, the
better our lives become. And the more grateful we are
for the people that do follow through, the more follow
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through we actually get.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Again.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
It's an interesting situation. It's it's very like circular. It's
like the more you you are aware of it, the
more you get it, the more you see it and
you're grateful for it, the more it comes to you,
the more that you're aware of the power of this,
the better your life is, you know. I think also too,
we sometimes take for granted our pets, you know, our
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dogs and cats, like the interesting times and experiences that
we have with them, the moments we have that we
can cherish with them, the times that we spend with them,
the times that you know, maybe we're holding them or
you know, petting them or having a nice walk or
laying in bed with them and having that you know, experience.
And you know, the other day I was I was
(14:02):
laying in bed, I got I got buddy. He likes
to sleep in his own bed at night, and which
is great, and I think that's really helpful. And so
early in the morning, I get them and I bring
him into the bed and I just you know, I
put him under the covers, put his little head on
the pillow, and I just kind of watch them while
he sleeps a little bit. And it's something that's really
important to me because I don't know, you know, I'm
grateful for the times that I have. I'm grateful for
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the times that I have, you know, like experiences, not
trying to rush through things, giving things time, giving things
their time, giving things you know, you know, and putting
an effort and being supportive and small things like farmers'
markets and things like that that are interesting and fun
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that you can go to that you don't go to
every day, that you don't experience every day, you know,
receiving a sweet message from her friend, you know, and
there's it's interesting. I recently had a birthday and I
got so many great messages from folks. It was so amazing.
And I'm still responding. I'm trying to independently respond back
to every single person, you know, separately, and it's it
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takes a lot of time and effort. I think I
got to fifty today or sixty. I'm gonna do more
tomorrow and keep going, and you know, it might be
toward the end of the month when I finally get
them all taken care of. But at least I'm going
to do that. And it's important to mean at first
you're like, oh my god, there's so much to take
care of, but it's like, but it's nice, and I'm
grateful to have the option of doing that, of even
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having to think about, oh my gosh, I have to
respond back to these people, or I have to do this,
or I have to do that. But it's like, you know, yeah,
it's not about have to It's about, Wow, this is
cool that I have people.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
That care about me, that you know, reach out.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
And I want you to start thinking about the things
that you can be grateful for and the things that
you can slow down a little bit and just recognize
and realize and see it and be in that moment,
because these are the things that will make life better.
You know, watching the news twenty four to seven, you know,
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waiting for the latest tweet, you know, it's probably not
going to make you feel great. Watching everybody on social
media probably the same thing isn't going to make you
feel great. Watching TV and watching you know, reality shows
or watching TV shows probably not going to make you
feel great because remember, all this stuff is like programming
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it's all programming to make you feel a certain way.
You know, the news is great for stressing you out
and creating fear. That's how they make money. That's how
they they make money. You know, they don't make money
by sharing with you the things that are actually good
and the things that are helpful. They make money by
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scaring you, putting you in a fear factor.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Social media it's all about comparison. It's all about comparing
your lives to other people and seeing what they do
or not do. You you know, watching TV these shows,
some of them are uplifting, most of them aren't, you know,
most of them are very negative in nature, and they're
not giving you the support you need to grow and
to thrive in your life. So these are the things
that I just want you to think about. And I
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know that you know, most of the content that I
talk about as relationships, and if you are in a
challenging relationship, this, this particular podcast should be something that
you kind of hold, you know, sacred, because I want
you to start thinking about what really is working, because
just because you have a challenging relationship doesn't mean that
your whole life is falling apart. It just means that
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your relationship is challenging and we might have to focus
on some other stuff and I want, you know, to
be there and to support that with you and support
you in that movement because it is so important and
it is so valuable to.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
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Speaker 1 (17:57):
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Speaker 2 (18:08):
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that is Ashley Burgess. So I hope this show has
helped you the concept that the small things aren't small,
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and the great things that are that seem to be
small are actually the biggest things there are in order
to ground us and help us to see the value
in our life and have gratitude as well. And share
if you can with your family and friends this show
and in the meantime, I'll be back next week with
a new podcast. And I appreciate you tuning in and
you've been listening to the Ashley Purchase podcast. I want
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you to have a great day and don't forget to
live your true life.
You're in a good place now.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
You are listening to Perspectives with Ashley Burgess.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Hi, I'm Ashley Burgess and you're listening to my podcast
formerly known as the Ligature Life Perspectives Podcast. Today, I
want to ponder and think about what we consider our
small things, what really matters in our life, and giving
you some tools and some techniques for having gratitude but
also seeing a deeper value, having more freedom, experiencing more happiness,
(00:33):
more joy less drama every single day of your life.
I mean, I know that you're bombarded by things. I
know that you're being bombarded by the TV, by the news,
by the media, by social media, by friends, by family,
by drama. Everything under the sun is trying to take
you off your connection with the things that actually can
(00:54):
make you at peace, can make you feel free, can
make you feel free, but also have freedom in your life.
And so I want to talk about the things that
we can be grateful for. And for many people you
might say, hey, this is what I deem is a
very small thing. But I've found that the world is
kind of well topsy turby. What's up is down, what's
(01:16):
down is up, what's small is big, what's big.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
As small, and it's very interesting.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
And so we're gonna discuss that today, and I'm gonna
help you to see some things in your life that
are gonna add some joy, some peace of mind, and
some gratitude, because that's what we need to be able
to get through this stuff, to get through this life,
and to see this silver lining because it can be overwhelming.
Let's talk about some of the small things that are
(01:42):
actually really big things in our day to day life,
because you know how they say they always kind of,
you know, minimize the important things and maximize the things
that aren't important. You know, it's all about it's this
material society. You're supposed to have this and that at
a big house, at a great car, multiple cars and
planes and trains and everything else, supposed to all this stuff,
jewelry's diamonds, multiple closets with so many clothes in it.
(02:05):
I mean, you know that's what it's all about, right,
It's all about getting things, buying things, having things, hoarding things.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
But that's not what's important.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
And so let's talk today about what really is and
how do we begin to get more perspective on our life.
How do we begin to find happier, joyful more. I
don't know, just things that actually resonate at our highest frequency.
How do we do that? And so, you know, the
small things are actually everything, because the small things are
(02:35):
not really small, right, They're actually quite large and they
mean quite a bit. And the other day I kind
of realize, you know, after you know, you go through
a lot of these things in life, and you realize
that most of the stuff that's talked about is bs.
You realize that most of the news is BS. Most
of the stuff on social media's BS. You know, what
they tell us is true is probably not very true.
(02:56):
And we go along and we kind of you know,
you have one you know, awakening and another disillusionment, you know,
and you get this, you know, you're like, wow, okay,
here I am disillusioned again based on some false reality.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
So one of the things that I want you to
think about.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I was walking down the street the other day and
I was coming back from the grocery store, and you know,
I was just looking.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
It was like it was amazing. It was like this great,
great weather day.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
And I'm one of those kind of people. I never
really paid attention to the weather. I wasn't like, oh,
I got what a great day or whatever. But it's like,
when there are great days, do something about it. When
there is a great day and you walk outside and
the weather is so nice and the air is so clean,
and the sun is shining like it should be shining,
(03:40):
like a real sun should be shining, it's time to
really enjoy that, relish in it, see it for what
it is, see it in that moment for what it
really is, and enjoy it and be in the moment.
And that's what's so important, is being in the moment
and seeing it for what it is, seeing it and
participating is so important. It's really amazing when you actually participate.
(04:05):
Like right now, as I'm recording this podcast, I'm looking
out my window and I have this squirrel that has
has lived on the property for a very long time,
and she's staring at me. She's sitting on the fence
line looking right into right into my office and it's
adorable and she's just.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Looking right at me.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
And it's a very amazing experience to take the moment
to recognize and realize that this is really happening, and
it takes time to really start focusing on the things
that actually matter you have to change your focus, basically
reframe the focus of what you're focusing on. And you know,
(04:47):
like I stopped it's about the flowers the other day,
and you know, the roses were blooming across the street,
and I stopped at multiple rose bushes and I and
I smelled them and they were so amazing. And I
remember I still that for about five minutes, and I
was grateful for that five minutes. I was like, Wow,
that's that's a really amazing experience I just had. And
(05:09):
as I'm walking back down the street, it's like, you know,
I realize what it's like to you know, walking down
the street. I also began to recognize something very interesting,
and I asked you to begin to do some of
these exercises and I was like, you know what I'm
I mean, I feel good, I'm not in pain, I'm
not struggling, I can walk, i can get somewhere.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
You know, I'm healthy.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
And being able to resonate in that frequency of health
and be gracious and have gratitude for it in the moment,
it's very practical and a very It changes your sense
of self and the fact that you're not just racing
through life.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
You're actually giving attention two things in your.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
Life, and you're you're grateful for those things. You're not
just writing it off like, oh, well, that's just the
way it's supposed to be, because a lot of times
we don't participate in life. We don't participate, and it's
not until later on down the road when people are going, God,
I wish I would have smell those roses again, you know,
Or I wish I would have been aware of my health,
(06:22):
you know, back then when I was. I wish I
would have just been, you know, aware and thankful. And
I think the gratitude goes a long way for the
longevity of things as well, Like the more grateful we
are of things and honestly grateful, the more we get
of those things, right, or the more.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
That it's consistently with you.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
And I think it's important to understand that because I
think many of us get wrapped up in these challenging relationships,
these toxic dynamics we're so drawn into trying to figure out,
you know, cluster b dynamic. Oh my god, Am I
dealing on borderline? Am I dealing with narcissism? I deal
with histrionic? Am I dealing with a combination of everything.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
What am I dealing with?
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Oh my god, I'm trying to figure this person out,
and I'm losing my identity and I'm getting more and
more code of pinnate and oh my god. But what
if even if you're going through this, even if you're
going through a really challenging relationship right now, you're going
through a breakup or a divorce, this is even more
of a need and a want to do these types
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of things so you can begin to see a different
side of your life. You can begin to see value
in your life even when something is not It's not
about money, it's not about paper, It's about right now
and being focused on what's happening. I think it's amazing
when you have gratitude for the moments of clarity, when
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you have full clarity and you're feeling really good about
that clarity. It is amazing to have gratitude in that
moment of clarity. I found that I have more and
more clarity that way, the more gratitude I have around
the clarity, the more days of clarity I get. And
there's some days, and you and I both though, there's
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some days where you know it's just been so stressful
or so much going on. You know where that stress
or anxiety is getting to you, or a series of
events you know, some of you maybe you know you
realize that when you go out too much, or you
party too much, you drink too much, you wake up
the next day, oh, feeling horrible, absolutely horrible, and maybe
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you have brain fog all day or what have you.
You know, and you can't seem to you know, focus.
It's like when you have those moments of real, true clarity,
It's it's a God's gift, right, It's like, wow, Okay,
I'm clear, and I can see things in a much
much more complete way, much more full way of seeing things.
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I also believe that you need to cherish and you
want to be in order to cherish these things, you
got to be able to see that it's happening.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
And reckon the value the.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Moments where you actually feel really good, those moments in
time where you actually feel really good. You feel good,
you feel lighter, you feel healthy, you feel strong, you know,
you feel balanced, and that to me is very valuable.
And if you can kind of hone into that, that
is a very valuable time to hone into and be
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thankful for those times and those moments of feeling good.
You know, it's interesting too. It's like just being able
to be cognitive of having a day, a moment, it
could be even an hour where it's drama free. You
have no drama, there's no drama on the plate. You're
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feeling good. Life is good, things are good, and it's
just like drama free and that is a spectacular place
to be at.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
Do you begin to resonate with that?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
And I think the more you are aware of that
drama free moments, the more that you are thankful for
those drama free moments, the moments where you recognize the
fact they're in a drama free moment, The more drama
free moments you get. I think many of us are
on this pathway of you know, in relationships and in
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you know, lifestyles that are very drama filled. And I
think that's because it brings us some entertainment. It makes
things interesting, I guess. But but I'm asking you a question,
does it really bring that to you or is it
more of bringing you down? Is it more of creating
problems in your life where you don't see the value
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within your life, You don't see the value in the
small things because you're so overwhelmed all the time by
the drama, inundated in the drama, that it's really hard
to be able to, you know, get out of that
drama circle, get out of this type of patterns that
we brought to ourselves, and have that time where there
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is no drama. Nobody's creating drama, you're not creating drama.
Nobody's bringing drama to you. And I think maybe focusing
and seeing for a moment, who brings a lot of
drama to your life? Who are the people in your
life that bring a lot of drama to you? What
type of drama is it, and how do you feel
about the drama? How do you feel about the drama
and really think about it, because we have to be
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aware of what's happening in our lives, the people that
we're surrounding ourselves with and what they're bringing into our lives.
And it's not like you can just get rid of
everybody in your life, but there is an ability.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
To limit the amount of time that you're spending.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
With certain people that are bringing stress or unhappiness into
your life. And you know, those drama free days are
so credible, Those drama free nights are so incredible, and
many of you aren't grateful for it. There are many
people out there that are living in challenging relationships where
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every single night is drama and chaos and arguments and fights.
And you know, some of you may say, Oh, my
relationship's boring or what have you. But I mean, I think,
you know, trying to see the value of not fighting,
trying to see the value of someone that's not trying
to bring up drama or to make you feel bad
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or to you know, shame you, or to push your buttons,
and you know, I think those are interesting things to
be grateful for. I think one big one, too, is
when someone actually follows through with what they say they're
going to do. I mean, nowadays, in the world that
we live in, it's hard to have somebody follow through
with what they say they're going to do. They might
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say they're going to do something they don't, And I've
realized that if somebody does follow through though, it's so
powerful and it's so awesome and to be grateful for that,
because the more that we're grateful for that, and the
more we hang out and spend time with and interact
with and work with people that do follow through, the
better our lives become. And the more grateful we are
for the people that do follow through, the more follow
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through we actually get.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Again.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
It's an interesting situation. It's it's very like circular. It's
like the more you you are aware of it, the
more you get it, the more you see it and
you're grateful for it, the more it comes to you,
the more that you're aware of the power of this,
the better your life is, you know. I think also too,
we sometimes take for granted our pets, you know, our
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dogs and cats, like the interesting times and experiences that
we have with them, the moments we have that we
can cherish with them, the times that we spend with them,
the times that you know, maybe we're holding them or
you know, petting them or having a nice walk or
laying in bed with them and having that you know, experience.
And you know, the other day I was I was
(14:02):
laying in bed, I got I got buddy. He likes
to sleep in his own bed at night, and which
is great, and I think that's really helpful. And so
early in the morning, I get them and I bring
him into the bed and I just you know, I
put him under the covers, put his little head on
the pillow, and I just kind of watch them while
he sleeps a little bit. And it's something that's really
important to me because I don't know, you know, I'm
grateful for the times that I have. I'm grateful for
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the times that I have, you know, like experiences, not
trying to rush through things, giving things time, giving things
their time, giving things you know, you know, and putting
an effort and being supportive and small things like farmers'
markets and things like that that are interesting and fun
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that you can go to that you don't go to
every day, that you don't experience every day, you know,
receiving a sweet message from her friend, you know, and
there's it's interesting. I recently had a birthday and I
got so many great messages from folks. It was so amazing.
And I'm still responding. I'm trying to independently respond back
to every single person, you know, separately, and it's it
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takes a lot of time and effort. I think I
got to fifty today or sixty. I'm gonna do more
tomorrow and keep going, and you know, it might be
toward the end of the month when I finally get
them all taken care of. But at least I'm going
to do that. And it's important to mean at first
you're like, oh my god, there's so much to take
care of, but it's like, but it's nice, and I'm
grateful to have the option of doing that, of even
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having to think about, oh my gosh, I have to
respond back to these people, or I have to do this,
or I have to do that. But it's like, you know, yeah,
it's not about have to It's about, Wow, this is
cool that I have people.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
That care about me, that you know, reach out.
Speaker 1 (15:48):
And I want you to start thinking about the things
that you can be grateful for and the things that
you can slow down a little bit and just recognize
and realize and see it and be in that moment,
because these are the things that will make life better.
You know, watching the news twenty four to seven, you know,
(16:11):
waiting for the latest tweet, you know, it's probably not
going to make you feel great. Watching everybody on social
media probably the same thing isn't going to make you
feel great. Watching TV and watching you know, reality shows
or watching TV shows probably not going to make you
feel great because remember, all this stuff is like programming
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it's all programming to make you feel a certain way.
You know, the news is great for stressing you out
and creating fear. That's how they make money. That's how
they they make money. You know, they don't make money
by sharing with you the things that are actually good
and the things that are helpful. They make money by
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scaring you, putting you in a fear factor.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
You know.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Social media it's all about comparison. It's all about comparing
your lives to other people and seeing what they do
or not do. You you know, watching TV these shows,
some of them are uplifting, most of them aren't, you know,
most of them are very negative in nature, and they're
not giving you the support you need to grow and
to thrive in your life. So these are the things
that I just want you to think about. And I
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know that you know, most of the content that I
talk about as relationships, and if you are in a
challenging relationship, this, this particular podcast should be something that
you kind of hold, you know, sacred, because I want
you to start thinking about what really is working, because
just because you have a challenging relationship doesn't mean that
your whole life is falling apart. It just means that
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your relationship is challenging and we might have to focus
on some other stuff and I want, you know, to
be there and to support that with you and support
you in that movement because it is so important and
it is so valuable to.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Be able to see this.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
And if you haven't already, check out my YouTube channel,
go to YouTube put in Life Coach Ashley Burgess or
just Ashley Burgess and if you can subscribe, we have
close to two hundred thousand subscribers.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
We're getting there and we're almost there.
Speaker 1 (18:10):
We're almost crossing that hump of two hundred and could
really use the support. If there's other content that you
would like me to address and things that you would
like me to talk about in this show and in
this podcast or in videos or other content, please let
me know. I always like to hear feedback and I
appreciate you know, thoughts and ideas and opinions, and I'd
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love to hear some of your thoughts, your ideas and
your opinions, and so check that out. Also, if you're
on social media, you know I'm on Facebook, you can
follow me there on Facebook and you know, comment on
some of this stuff there. I'll definitely follow you back
on Instagram the same follow me. I'll follow you all
that is Ashley Burgess. So I hope this show has
helped you the concept that the small things aren't small,
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and the great things that are that seem to be
small are actually the biggest things there are in order
to ground us and help us to see the value
in our life and have gratitude as well. And share
if you can with your family and friends this show
and in the meantime, I'll be back next week with
a new podcast. And I appreciate you tuning in and
you've been listening to the Ashley Purchase podcast. I want
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you to have a great day and don't forget to
live your true life.
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