EP421: How to Get an EDGE Up On Your Parenting With The Tool of the Enneagram

Parenting is one of the most humbling, triggering, and rewarding experiences we’ll ever face—and it’s also where our own wiring, patterns, and blind spots show up the most. In this episode, I dive deep into how the Enneagram can transform not just your parenting, but your entire family dynamic. Whether you’re a parent, want to be one, or influence young lives in any way, this conversation will hit home. It’s not about being a perfect parent—it’s about being an honest, integrated one who empowers their children to be exactly who they were designed to be.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why parenting from your own wiring (instead of theirs) can feel like love to you but land as pressure, control, or disconnection to your kids.
• How the Enneagram provides a map to move from good intentions to impact that actually lands.
• My personal journey of breaking generational patterns, learning my kids’ Enneagram types, and transforming our family dynamic.
• The importance of understanding how your kids receive you—and how to take radical responsibility for your “come from.”
• Why it’s never too late to repair, redeem, and rewrite your parenting story.

Key Takeaways:

1. Parenting Through Their Lens: Your kids don’t need you to mold them into mini versions of you—they need you to meet them where they are. The Enneagram helps you understand their unique wiring, motivations, and fears so you can lead, guide, and nurture them in a way that truly resonates.
2. Your Superpower vs. Your Kryptonite: Every Enneagram type has a superpower, but it only works when it comes from love, compassion, and grace—not fear, insecurity, or ego. For me, my intensity as an Enneagram 8 is both my greatest strength and my biggest challenge.
3. The Power of Humility: The most powerful shift in my parenting came when I stopped pretending I had it all figured out and started showing my kids my humanity. Vulnerability builds trust, credibility, and connection.
4. It’s Never Too Late: Whether your kids are toddlers, teens, or adults, repair and redemption are always possible. The Enneagram gives you the tools to start those conversations and rebuild trust.
5. Parenting is a Mirror: Your kids are here to teach you as much as you’re here to guide them. The ones who trigger you the most often hold the biggest lessons.

I share how I first encountered the Enneagram in rehab 13 years ago and how it became the tool that saved my family. I was parenting from my own lens—strong, tactical, and focused—but my kids, an Enneagram 2 empath and an Enneagram 7 dreamer, needed something completely different. Learning their wiring and adjusting my approach changed the culture in our home overnight. Today, my relationship with my kids is my greatest achievement, and it’s built on the foundation of seeing, hearing, and valuing them for who they truly are.What to Expect Moving Forward:

• How to use the Enneagram to understand your kids’ operating systems and speak their language.
• Why understanding your own wiring is the first step to becoming a more present, empowered parent.
• Practical tools for integrating the Enneagram into your parenting to create a legacy of connection, trust, and growth.

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Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence, humility, and a willingness to grow. The Enneagram is the ultimate power tool for shifting your family dynamic, breaking generational patterns, and creating a legacy of love and understanding.Connect with Me:

• Instagram: @tracy_omalley