The Language of Desire: Reading Between the Lines | S7E79

 What story are we telliing each other, even we we arenot using words? How do we ensure we are both reading and writing the same story?

Kafi talks about how our shared expereinces, body language or emotional energy tells a story in our relationships. She also gives tips on how to stay clear of miscommunication.

The Language of Desire, is our multi-part series that focuses on how we communicate our emotional and physical needs by using unspoken cues and the power of subtle expressions to strengthen our relationship. #languageofdesire

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
What's the story we're telling each other without really saying
the words. We'll talk more about it right after this.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Let's talk about loving them the way of God in
life experience to be show love God Transform.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
Hello, Welcome back to another episode of the note Fruit
podcast where your spirits will transform but my face won't.
Because many people say I wear my thoughts on my face.
I'm an open book, I guess in some ways, So
reading between the lines and trying to figure out what
my thoughts might be, you don't have to think too

(00:56):
much because I'm kind of showing it. But if you
know me really well, you might understand that the things
that I'm sure one in my face may not really
be true to what I'm really thinking. So some people
may say that I look upset or sad, and I

(01:18):
might not be. I might be very happy and blissful,
but I'm just not walking around with a you know,
smiley smile all the way all the day long. But
so what story are we telling? Even when we're not
using our words and we're not saying anything, my face
shows a lot of things. Sometimes it is our body

(01:42):
language and how we connect one with another from just
the spatial the space that we had between one another,
like all right, we walking closely next to someone when
it comes to our spouse, our loved ones, what's the
connection or we stand offish, I mean, what energy does

(02:03):
that present to that person? How are they reading that?
What are they reading between the lines of our body language?
And sometimes it's off, but sometimes it's right on point.
So we need to understand that a little bit better
on what we're giving out to the world and how
are people receiving it even though we're not saying anything,

(02:27):
And that can be difficult. I know it has been
for me to kind of check myself as Maurice is
always saying, look at the man in the mirror. So
I don't walk around with the mirror. But if I did,
I'm sure I would probably again look at my facial
expressions and be like, girl, get it together, because it's
not coming off appealing, it's not coming off welcoming, or

(02:52):
maybe I'm being too pleasant or Joe, if you will,
and I don't mean to, and I don't want to.
So we have to be cautious on not only our
facial expressions and our body language, but also, as I
was saying, sometimes just that distance between one another. So

(03:15):
when you walk in the room, or when I walk
in the room with my spouse, like how close am
I getting to him? If we sit down on the sofa,
amne on one side and he's on the other even
though we're sitting down to look at the same TV show?
Or do we cuddle up together? Is it cuddle time
with your cuddle buddy? And all those things mean something

(03:39):
special to some people and other people it's like, no,
it doesn't mean anything at all. But when we look
deeper into it, there are people who take that as
a sign and a signal about your love and your relationship.
Some people take what you give off as a and

(04:00):
signal for what's going to happen later on that evening.
So we just have to be cautious, and I ask
you all to be cautious of just reading between the
lines and checking yourself on what message you're putting out
to the world. But likewise, also for those who are
readers yours you know, dearest gentle reader, for those who

(04:24):
know about that, to our dearest gentle readers, you know,
how what are you reading? You know, how are you
reading the room? What do you see? Are you putting
more into it? Than what's really there, And then I
guess with that, should you use words to clarify what

(04:48):
you think you're reading when someone is, you know, providing
non verbal communication. I think sometimes we do need to ask, like, hey,
what's going on? Like I see that you seem tense,
or hey, like you know you're just overly happy today?
What's going on?

Speaker 2 (05:08):
You know?

Speaker 1 (05:09):
You know, because then you can join in with that
if need be. If it is a low moment, you
can meet that person right where they are, and if
they're having a happy, joyful moment, perhaps you can pick
it up and meet them at that place as well.
So I think when it comes to our relationships, whether

(05:30):
it's with your spouse, a sibling, a child, a parent,
we read between the lines often and it's important that
we know what we're reading and be able to assess
it properly, because you don't want to read something and

(05:52):
have I guess poor reading comprehension. So know what you're reading,
what level it is. Because someone's expression may mean one
thing at one period of the day or one time
of the month, if you will, and it may mean

(06:12):
something else at another moment, and it could be the
same body language, It could be the same expression, the
same energy, but sometimes it's how you receive it or
what else is going on at that particular time that
can impact it all. So we need to understand also

(06:39):
what can we do in this to ensure ourselves as
well as the other people in the relationship that we're
both understanding this story that we're writing, that we're reading
between the lines both of us are properly. And I
think that comes back to it has to do more

(07:01):
than reading, like you have to talk about the story together,
ask questions, play things out. This is what I see?
You know, am I seeing these things correctly? I think
those are key elements that could help in just moving

(07:25):
things forward in that in that way of understanding what
the story is and what is being told. We don't
want to get things totally misconstrued, and you know, you're
reading into things so far and it's not even there.

(07:45):
You know, like we can take our imagination and go
so far off left, go so deep right, and it's
not even anywhere near the truth of the story. So
I think even when you are receiving or even giving
off nonverbal communication, that is key that you check in

(08:09):
every now and then, whether it's a weekly check in
with your spouse, your significant other, anyone you're in a relationship,
just kind of checking like, hey, you know last week,
you you know, you seemed like you were feeling this
kind of a way. Was our reading that right? And
did I provide for you what was needed? And that's

(08:30):
that's true communication. That's verbal communication that you're providing to
get clarity on some nonverbal things. So at the end
of the day, whatever is going on nonverbally, whatever is
going on and you think you're reading it correctly between
the lines, you might need to go back and read

(08:51):
it again and then sit down in a study group
and you know, find out whether or not well you're
reading comprehension was true or not true. So I hope
you all enjoyed my little spiel. I hope it's helpful
to some of you out there, and don't read between
the lines, send us some communication, let me know what
you think your thoughts are. I would love to hear

(09:14):
from you. Until next time, God bless you all.

Speaker 2 (09:18):
Thanks for tuning in to another episode of a No
Fruit podcast where we bring you fruitful conversations, ripen.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
Wisdom and love that's deeply rooted. If you enjoyed this episode,
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it with someone.

Speaker 2 (09:30):
Who could use a little inspiration in their death. Until
next time, stay rooted in love and remember every seed
you plant today shapes the fruit of tomorrow.