Why Christian Singleness Shouldn't Be Feared

Welcome to another Truth Diaries Podcast episode where we delve into the topic of Christian singleness! In this series, we will be exploring the unique challenges and joys that come with embracing a season of singleness from a Christian perspective. Join us as we navigate through discussions on faith, purpose, relationships, and personal growth. Whether you are single by choice or circumstance, this is a safe space to find encouragement, community, and biblical insights on how to flourish in this season of life.

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Episode Transcript

(00:00):
Uh, it's fine because I actually, oh, you didn't really give us
an answer here. I don't knowI said that. I don't know.
I knew I would tell you.We're going to be discussing singleness as Christians,

(00:35):
so I ain't trying to put thegirls business out there like that.
But we're both single women, asingle Christian women, so we do feel
like this topic in particular is veryimportant for all single Christians out there because
not only that it's hard to finda mate, you know, as is,

(00:55):
but it's also hard harder, Ibelieve, to find one as a
Christian. Have you have you beenrunning into that issue? Yeah, I
definitely don't agree. I also atopic that you don't really not many churches
though, because I think you know, you always talk about the marriages,
there's all. There's so many deserments on marriages, but not too many

(01:15):
on singleness. So I definitely thinkit's a good topic to discuss. Absolutely,
So Valencia, you know, Igotta be all up and you've been
this girl? What have you been? What have been your struggles so far
as a single Christian? Probably thethe most what is probably h loneliness,
I guess feeling lonely that not havingthat, you know, that connection with

(01:40):
someone else, because you know it'sdifferent with Christian have friendship, family,
but you know that with that significantothers, I guess that would be one
of them. And then when youdo try to h you know, look
for versus I think as Christians it'sdefinitely harder because we can't compromise, you
know, just because maybe people saythat you should be married, and you

(02:05):
know, you always see the howmarriage is the way to go, so
you kind of almost want to,you know, just go with anyone that
maybe they don't have all what you'relooking for, but they have a little
bit so maybe you know, justso you know you'll be married or be
what someone. So, yeah,I agree with that. I think for

(02:30):
me, I definitely share that lonelinesspart. You know, who don't want
a companion to share your life withthat just you know, even before we
became Christians. I mean, that'sthat's been the goal. I would say.
But you know what though, Ireally feel like not just an American
society, but like you said,society in general, they do highly emphasize,
like especially for the woman, Ibelieve if you're not married, you

(02:52):
have failed especially if you don't haveany children, that you have failed.
And I think me personally, II used to feel really really bad about
it, not having a husband ora child. But as I'm getting older,
I'm getting more settled and knowing thatlean what, I don't even know
if I really want one at thispoint in time, You know what I

(03:13):
mean, Because it's been so longsince I've been single. I'm kind of
happy I can get up and goanywhere, But you still have that yearning
because I think, I don't know, it just might be how God built
us. You know, we aredesigned to bear children or you know,
be mothers or something like that.But I know they ain't got nothing to
do with it. Does And whatdo you think like because you know,

(03:36):
if you look at the scriptures you'vecalled us talk about what they talk about
that some people are called for marriageand some for singleness. Do you think
as singles it should be embraced ordo you think that maybe it is like
it could possibly be. You knowyou're calling to be Mary. How do
you kind of so I know you? I believe it's First Corinthians chapter seven.

(04:04):
I believe where Paul outlines a marriageand he talks about how he was
he chose to be single, right, I think in terms of biblical marriage,
I don't think it's what our societyhas amped up it, you know,
amped it up to be where youknow, you gotta date around,
you gotta do all this stuff.The body really doesn't talk about that they
met people or they were arranged tomeet somebody, they came together. It

(04:28):
wasn't too much like dating and allthis other stuff. So it's more like
a I hate to say, likemore of a contract, so to speak.
So but when you're in a covenantor a contract with somebody, which
I understand Paul's point, you're you'rebound to them, you know, like
a husband is to a wife,like a servants to their master, more
or less on that one. Butthere's a especially for us women, there
is a we call it like ayielding, a submission that needs to take

(04:53):
place. So where Paul talks aboutin chapters in chapter seven of Corinthians that
the woman they they're they're giving alltheir energy to their husband and to their
household to raise them. So it'sbetter to be single, which quite frankly
I agree, But he also talksabout basically if you have these desires,

(05:15):
right, you can't control yourself.Yeah you better go ahead, and yeah,
go get married. So I doagree with Paul's you know, outline
of marriage and singleness. It's hardthough, because you know we have urges
as well. But again to yourpoint, we can't just pick anybody,

(05:35):
because I mean, we could pickanybody, but is it gonna be you
know, god fearing you know Idid. That's true to it because like
you even see it, and peoplewho are married, not all of them
are happy. Some of them havethe same kind of struggles we have.
Yeah, they feel lonely or theythey're struggling with you know, I don't
know whatever. That the same stuffthat we are. And I think that's

(05:59):
probably worse to be Mary with someoneand then you still feel lone with in
that marriage or you know, butnow you're you kind of you're there.
You can't just uh, you can'tjust divorced them, because that's not what
I thought it was. So Idefinitely that's why we shouldn't compromise, because
you know, we have to havethat person that is on one on a

(06:24):
cord with us, you know,somebody who is following the Lord and surveying
and stuff. Like that, becauseI mean, it could definitely lead to
us be a little and a feelinglike you are. You're still single absolutely,
And you know what though, AndI really feel like, even if
let's just say we go out andchoose just any Joe Schmel, don't even
give a dawn if saved or not. I believe God in some way will

(06:46):
still bless us, well not blessus, but like be therefore us obviously
and help us. However, However, knowing better, why would we go
out and go purposely get somebody that'snot on a chord but that's not aligned
with our beliefs and stuff like that. And I do want to share a
story with a certain guy that Iwas seeing. I don't know why.

(07:09):
I just had a flash forward oflike married life with this dude. But
I'm like, this ain't gonna work. This is not gonna work, because
when all the lust fades out,when all all this other stuff fades out,
you haven't You're talking about children,you're talking about how you're gonna run
your your household, and I'm like, we're not aligned at all, And
like, to your point, I'mgonna feel lonely stuck, which is the

(07:31):
worst feeling in the world to feel, especially if you do have a can
with exactly like you. You youstuck. That's just what it is,
and just like, no, thisis not gonna work. And I just
feel that when single Christians, especiallywomen, where I feel like the pressure
is more on them to to findsomebody, it's it's best to wait on
God. And and and to yourquestion earlier, I don't know if it's

(07:54):
God's will for everyone to get married, but it is God's will for everyone
to go and multiply. And I'mnot saying go out there and have a
child, I we a lot ornothing like that, but I feel like
I'm mandated. I don't. Imean, maybe it is, maybe it's
God will for everybody to be hookedup, but I feel like the greatest
manager is between his son and usquite frankly, so I mean I like

(08:15):
to personally focus on that and notfocus on what I don't have, because
then I'll just grow miserable. AndI think that's too because it focuses so
much on marriage and you see thateverywhere you know in society that you start
to think, maybe something's wrong withme. And did you hear people say
like, well, you know thisuh this pray pray got to bring that

(08:35):
person to you or something. Soit makes it even more like, you
know, I'm supposed to be buried. So that's why, you know,
I got to ask the question isas everyone called to our baby, you
know, some people are are calledto this being, do you feel that
all people are called or I don'tknow. I don't I don't know,
I don't think so, I mean, I don't think. Uh, you

(08:56):
know, Paul would be be sayingthat when she said, is you know
kind of better to be single becauseyou could focus all your time and you
know, on the on the kingdomand serving God and stuff. So I
do definitely see the benefits of thatbecause you know, once you're married,
you know, you have a spousethat you have maybe you have kids.

(09:16):
Yeah, you could definitely still focuson God. You should, but it's
gonna be a little bit harder becauseyou have, you know, other responsibilities.
Yeah. Well, I mean,look at our situation, though we're
not married, we have the responsibilityof our aging parents coming into play.
They're hitting another plateau in their life. We're hitting another one, you know,
as a circle. Life continues.Me with the tribe at my house.

(09:37):
You know what I mean. It'salready hard, right, It's already
difficult, and Lord knows, evenwith the other responsibilities you know, outside
of that, we're in school,work demands, like it is hard,
right, So if it happens,it happens. If it doesn't, it
doesn't. It needs to be saidthat those who are now single and don't

(09:58):
have any children really should, really, I think kind of just chill a
little bit, because what we don'tneed is more children in the society because
because I don't know, the societyis going down in a handbasket quite frankly,
you know what I mean. ButI feel like it's already harder for
the truth of God's word to reallypermonate each society, each household, each

(10:22):
country, and it's hard. SoI know, when I have children,
I'm not to teach them the biblicalprinciples and what it means to live in
this sinful world. But I don'twant that responsibility right now, you know
what I mean. I want toteach others right now in my singleness to
your point of like what Paul saidtoo. So I don't know, I
just really feel like a disclaimer needsto be said. You know, if

(10:43):
you are having children and a husband, you gotta gotta be Christ centered.
It gotta be CHRISTI if you're asgotta be Christ centered. Right. Yeah,
I definitely beat that. You shouldn'tjust have, like I said,
get buried or hackers just because that'swhere you feel the norm is, you
know, especially if you're not youknow, you're not ready for right because

(11:07):
like you said, you gotta definitelymake sure that if eid it's a Christ
at are household, that that's youknow, what you're displaying, you know,
for your kids, So you're figuringabout right rather they you know,
because even if you teach them,of course your kids they're their own person
to go there. But you stillshould have that foundation, I believe.
Yep, yep. Have you everprayed for a husband? You ever ask

(11:28):
God for a husband or significant other? Whatever? Yeah? I definitely well
back to you. Have you evergot bad that that a guide or kind
of questioned why He hasn't brought yousomeone? I don't think I've ever got
mad though, No, No,I never got mad because one thing that

(11:50):
God always seems to want to showKia is that you're not ready and a
lot of part of my not readinessis a lot of my past, you
know what I mean, Not thatit's something so detrimental has happened, It's
just that, you know, askids, you know, if we have
one thing that happens, so thatcan shift our entire mindset, even into
adulthood. So I realize that I'mnot trusting at all. I've gotten better,

(12:11):
but I'm not trusting. I havecommitment issues, believe it or not.
I just like to be free andfly. So so I can't get
mad because even though when I havethose feelings of loneliness, God showing me
that you gotta not that you gotto be whole when you meet your person,
but you got to be healed.That makes sense because I don't want

(12:35):
to put no. I definitely don'ttry to put my baggage on anybody else
ever, so I'd rather be healed, even just for myself. I ain't
got to find nobody. I wantto be healed for Jesus. So like
the loneliness as bored because not somuch you want to date, but because
of the urges or if you feelingthat's definitely no. I mean, like,

(12:58):
yeah, I do desire to havesomeone walk beside me. So it's
like, what you get that.It's like, that's why he's been war
because what you get that? Whatelse is there? You got to have
something exactly like it gotta be somethingelse. Yeah, it gotta be something
else. You never find yourself gettingmad God at certain point that he hasn't
brought your mate yet. Not mad, definitely. Maybe question I probably could

(13:24):
say like, never felt like it'ssomething wrong with me or anything. But
maybe that's not Like, God,is this what you want for me?
Maybe am I supposed to be saying. I'm kind of like something like that?
Yeah, what about you? Hasit? Have you ever thought like
maybe something wrong with me? It'soh, I know something wrong with me?
But how do you think that's gotit? You know what I mean?

(13:46):
No? But you know what though, No, I never I never
really thought that. No, No, because I'm always into a fault,
always conscientious of my shortcomings, whichis bad, by the way. Be
aware but not too aware. Okay, yeah, pretty much. Again,
the focus for me is probably moreon having children. But as we're doing

(14:11):
this ministry, I'm realizing that Idon't need to have kids. I want
them, I think God, youknow, and it might not come how
I want it might come that webe able to impact many many children,
you know what I mean, aroundthe world, which is a fantastic thing.
I won't die happy, you betterbelieve it, with a child without
child, with a husband without one. But I think this ministry praise God

(14:35):
has given me a higher purpose thanwhat society has given me, you know
what I mean, get married andall that stuff. So do you feel
the same way or you feel kindof different. I actually greet you on
the kids. I think I wantthat or have wanted that a lot more
than the you know, the spouseas a kid, because I love kids.
But I do know that because witha lot of responsibility. So although

(14:58):
I want to they can say babiesfor every which is love when you're when
they're young, got you gotta raisethem up. So yeah, but yeah,
that's definitely something that you know,even looking at my depews yourself like,
oh see a little uh, evenon Facebook, you know, so

(15:22):
that's that's definitely would be more thanalthough I do you know, of course,
of course, of course, Imean I feel like it's been so
long now, I mean, likewhat it is, it is almost half
a century. Yeah, I meanI know Okay, So, because I

(15:43):
feel like there's a lot of questionssurrounding singleness that people have. We got
a little jar here. We don'tknow, well, we do know what's
in this jar, but we don'tknow what order we're gonna pick them in
and everything else. So we wannalet's get in this jar and start answering
some of these questions on single andyou get to go first. Since my
hand's on the jar, I'll picka question for you. I hope it's

(16:07):
a hard one. I don't pickno long one, Valencia, I hope,
So I hope there's a long,real question. Oh man, Okay.
The question is should a boyfriend leadhis girlfriend? Should a dating relationship
reflect the complimentary structure of marriage toany degree? I think the dating relationship,

(16:32):
I think it is important at leastfor me to see a glimpse of
what it would be like being marriedor being in a relationship, long term
relationship with this guy. But forme that's important. But the whole leading
maid now, no, no,But I do want to see that you
can lead, right, but notjust leading me, you know what I

(16:52):
mean? Other things, the otherthings that men do, Christian men can
do to I think to reflect leadershipand stuff like that. So yeah,
knowing, yes, yes, allright, and I said, I'm me
putting that back in that door unlessyou want to answer short behind question,
good, how can I get mychurch to understand singles Oakliff Bible Fellowship.

(17:18):
Well, the if we're going withthat, they already have a good program
for that. They have the uhsingles where they do zoom. They have
groups, which I think is reallygood because I think you don't see that
a lot of churches where they discussour singleness is always the marriage series and
stuff. So I think it's goodthat they do have a ministry that's just

(17:41):
for singles. We are able toget together and hang out and stuff.
So the good things I don't haveto head that because it's aready there.
I know that's right. Well,let me ask you a question. Do
you feel like it's important for churchesto institute like a singles group of sorts
or program whatever? And yeah,I think so because I even in churches

(18:02):
before I've sat there, and youknow they do the Marror series, it's
like, well this really doesn't conserveit. Yeah, and they kind of
don't include the singles. I thinkthey definitely should have one because now everybody
is married, you know, andthere are some things that singles go through
that that'd be nice to hear thebiblical you know response to what are so

(18:25):
at oak Cliffe Bible Fellowship. Haveyou found out to be beneficial or not
so much? Or whether it likewhat you wanted it to be or yeah,
I think it's good. I meanmaybe they could of course anything they
can approve on some stuff. Ithink it's good that you can speak to
other singles and kind of discuss thingsto see that some are going through maybe

(18:45):
the same things that you are,and maybe have some some tips or whatever.
So I definitely good what they're tryingto do. You know, I
would say this is I'd like tosee more open discussion and stuff like that
because there's a lot of topics likethis. No, we we got a
lot of things that we want totalk about. I just I wish not
so much just them, but alot of other you know, groups would

(19:06):
just integrate that if they don't already. Yeah, yeah, their breakout sessions,
Yeah, they always have their guideor questions, which I get it.
They want to follow what the sermonwas that week and what the speaker
talk. But it'd be good tohave like a little bit you know,
well, free discussion. Yeah ahead, fairly talk or answer your questions.
Yeah, yeah, that would benice. Yeah, because I think I
would definitely participate in that a wholelot more if they had that, even

(19:30):
just listening in, because that's somethingget a different perspective, that's all even
Really, I think groups are aboutgetting you know, getting tools and stuff.
So I mean again, no shadeon it. Great, great singles,
and probably need to get back inthere. Don't be getting no long
ones. I thought you picking upthe thick behind paper. Oh my god,

(19:52):
yeah it's a long two if Icould open it, okay, oh
yes, okay, But how doyou deal with being alone having to do
everything yourself from house and car andrepair, to pay bills, et cetera.
Well, I I'm okay again becauseI've gotten completely used to it.

(20:17):
But I think that's gonna be anissue though, you know, if God
does permit me to find someone,because it's been so long that now I
have to share the responsibility. Youalready know me. It's hard already.
Yes, it's really hard already,and that's you know, for different reasons.
But because you know, you've beendoing something so long and then getting

(20:37):
somebody else in the mix, it'sgonna be difficult. I'm gone, I'm
gonna be really difficult for me.It's gonna be hard. So you know
what's why I'm not one to follow. But contrary to probably popular belief,
if you can show me somehow inthe dating that you can truly that you're

(20:59):
dependable, I'll be happy to giveit up. Happy, But it's gonna
be hard. I know that fora fact. It's gonna be hard for
me. He gonna be in forit is gonna be a rap short one.
Uh uh. I don't know whatthat question was. Oh, I

(21:26):
struggle with my identity in Christ andas a single what should I do?
Definitely for struggle with trying daddy,I definitely think you probably should get in
your word and kind of try toget that under you know, under control
before you worry about the whole,the whole singlest part. And I think

(21:48):
once that stuff, you definitely needto ask God, you know, pray
and see if he can help youwith you know, struggling with the singlest
part, because it definitely is astruggle. You know, as we been
talking about So, yeah, Idefinitely think you need to maybe if you
have Christian friends out there that giveyou some advice or church family, you

(22:10):
know, something like that, andyou gotta get some help there too.
Yeah, you gotta build a communityof support network, you know. I
like with something you said to aboutgetting in God's words first. You know,
if you struggling with your identity,I wouldn't even recommend you looking out
with nobody because you're gonna have thingspulling at you, pulling at you.
And if you don't know who youare in Christ as a center, you're

(22:32):
gonna have the world telling you whoyou are in Christ, and that's you're
gonna tell You're gonna have the churchtelling you who you are in Christ.
And no one can tell you whoyou are in Christ but Ehesians, but
the Bible, but God. Iremember when you asked me that question,
like who are you? At firstI was a little taken a car,
like what are you talking about?You know? And I didn't really get

(22:59):
what you what you were talking aboutuntil you know, I did read.
I think I forgot what what waswatching? They kind of had that say
question. I'm like, okay,but yeah I was because you're as quick
to say, well, you know, say I work here, I'll do
this. But who you are?You know, who are what you do,
not that role you play? Whoare you? Yeah? And you

(23:22):
know honestly, And I feel likewe're going off the book. That's a
question that we all probably still askourselves continuously because we are still learning about
who we are in even though theBible outlines, you know, the I
believe the foundation about everything. Ithink that knowing our position where we are
fighting from like a position of victory, We're not fighting from a position of

(23:45):
a failure. Go to overcome allthis stuff. Yeah, we're overcomers through
Christ. We overcame, but let'scontinue from here. Like I got do
all that work. You already don'tgo on the cross, you know what
I mean. And I'm saying thatbecause it helped me with my album with
Lusting and Masturbation. So I feltlike when God revealed that to me,
like you feel like you're trapped,You feel like you're you're stuck in this

(24:11):
and you're free those who are inChrist. He's a free So I'm like,
wait a minute, I'm not trappedby this. I can't overcome,
you know, and then I swearlike the verson started connecting. So knowing
who you are in Christ is foundational, whether you're in a relationship or not.
So I'm glad, but I actuallywanted to ask you something something you
said about the whole you know,struggling uh with the lesson and match pasion.

(24:36):
If you notice, like there's somany Christians that struggled in that area,
Like I've seen so many like YouTuberstalk about it and stuff. Yeah,
and you know, I guess that'swhy I'm wondering, like, and
they end up getting married. SoI'm like, should if you are struggling
in that area, is that maybea sign that maybe single this isn't for

(24:57):
you or that you should get Ijust that's my question. I wonder because
I was reading something when someone saidthat actually I told them because they were
struggling with single is that, well, you know, singles isn't for you
because you're struggling in that area,or just someone else was saying that,
you know, that's not true.That's something are called And I think that's

(25:18):
ridiculous to be honest, because youlike putting people in categories. Yeah,
you're not. You can't. Youcan't yeah, but you can't put people
where God didn't put them. That'snot your job, you know what I
mean, Even though I know whatPaul says, we talked about that,
but that he didn't say putting peoplein the category when he said that,
You know what I mean, Itreally is up to the person and they
know they cannot control themselves and youknow whatever, get into it. But

(25:42):
then again, that was a wholedifferent time too, and they had different
arrangements over in the least. Right, we live in America, you know
what I mean, probably most ofour viewers or whatever or live in countries
that don't do arranged marriage and stufflike that, So I think it's different.
But I don't know about or you'renot because you lust than the stuff
that singleness is not that I mean, it's your act upon God again said

(26:04):
he won't give us more than whatwe can bear. So you can't bear
it. You gotta figure out whyyou can't, right, you know what
I mean? I think that's thewhole thing. And before you're in a
relationship, you know, figure outwhy it's like this, because I think
a lot of times the sexual promiscurity, the lusting and stuff is sinan you
know from the devil. Well,the excessiveness of it, you know,

(26:27):
and I don't think too that maybethat's it's mighty mask as something else like
it might not be back. Soyou get in this relationship or you get
married because of these urges and thenyou have that to you. But you
figure out, I'm still dealing withthese problems exactly. That wasn't really for
you, That's what it was.And the perfect example is Kurt Frankly.

(26:47):
He shared his testimony about being addictedto pornography, and he brought that into
the marriage, you know what Imean. I don't know how long into
the marriage, but I know it'sbeen a long time now since he said
he'd been free but got impact ofhis marriage. You brought your baggage in
there because which it is what itis, but because that's what wasn't whatever
the reason was, you had towork through that. So that's a that's

(27:10):
a good point. Yes, Tom, God, it is so good.
I don't know if you can answerthis one. Where could I find a
divorce care of chrief share Christian Minglelet me stop? I don't know.
I don't know, since we ain'tdivorced, right we can't really recognend I

(27:36):
divorced my relationship with the devil.How about that? Of course? For
you? How could I grow deeperin my walk with God? I'm gonna
have to piggyback on with Belisia andsaid, you got get in the Bible,
Like the best way to grow deeperin God is by studying the Word
of God and praying. I know, I know that's like the basic template

(27:57):
for everything, but it is true. The more you get in the God's
Word, the more you're gonna knowabout God, and the more you know
about God, the more you're gonnalove him. The more you love him
and know Him, the more you'regonna reflect that in your actions. So
you want to go deeper, youwant to get go higher, you want
to go wider with the Lord.That's the way to go. There's nothing

(28:18):
else. You can't shortcut the noshortcut. There really is no template other
than doing the two things and undoubtedlyand do it with an open heart,
do an open mind. A lotof times, I know we tend to
read the Bible and through the lensof what we're going through. No,
you gotta read it as it iswhat it says. You know, you
gotta remove all biases. And that'sreally truly how you're gonna, you know,

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really get closer to the Lord.It's about the Lord. It's not
about us. Yeah, thats helike me. Let's get it. Oh,
I like this? What type thisis a good one? How?
What types of friends should I lookfor? Well, you definitely should get

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to like minded friends. So youwant some Christian friends, and I know
for people some people are lonely thatmaybe they don't have any They might be
the only Christian or family. Somaybe finding a church home could be one.
And there's like groups and stuff probablythat you can you know, look

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for to find some you know,some Christian friends on there. But I
definitely think it should be you know, like man like minded friends and give
you the you know, sound advice. I agree. What kind of characteristics
of a friend do you feel likea Christian should go for? Definitely ones
that are gonna hold you accountable,because you have somebody friends that are gonna
give you what you want to hearyou don't, you don't follow, You

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don't need that he needs tell youknow that's that's not right. You know
you need to get in your wordor you know that's not how you should
act. So ones that are goingto encourage you to get closer guy,
ones that love God more do theylove you? Amen? So I definitely
want those those type of friends,you know. And there's been times between

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us we know God is at thecenter of our lives, the center of
this friendship. There's never been atime in our conversations that we just concluded
on the negative. Never, sowe one or both, we're gonna get
back to the Lord. And that'seven would I be if I, you
know, VET to you or youknow they You're still going to have to
gonna You're gonna tell me rather no, you know, because I remember you

(30:29):
used to say you want the Christianfred you you said, do you want
the counsel Yeah, the counselors friend. So you're gonna give you the uh,
you know, the right answer oreven have to let me vet.
But you're gonna tell me when maybeyou need to do this or maybe that
that was a right or you know, vice versa. Yes, yes,

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you hit around on here when yousay account building, I was like,
yes, low, yes, howdo you deal with loneliness? Crying my
pillow at night? No, it'sall right, well before, I would
go to the safe place, thelusting and masturbation, so I don't feel
lonely, go to La La land. I don't know. I probably just

(31:14):
watch TV a romantic movie my escapism, which is not the healthiest thing in
the world because you can't go toLa La land. But but I do
not. I don't really deal withit. I just kind of it's just
how do you deal with it?I don't either. If I be an
artist's actually been dealing with it alot more lately, it comes like in
out of blow, yeah, andjust fulfill it. So I definitely try

(31:37):
to I'll do ministry, our research, I'll get on by VR, so
I'll do something like I said,to kind of escape the feeling too,
because it's only gonna lead to,you know, sit in or something.
So I definitely try to hide itor not think about it. Yeah.
Yeah, but I could get backI could bask it, I can get
back into because yeah, put itaside and so it comes back right to

(32:02):
the next wave. But you knowwhat, though, what I'm hearing though
is very problematic because me and youboth are not dealing with it the way
we need to be dealing with it. Which is in what we suggest for
other people to get involved or youknow, trying to include other people in
the struggle. Even just talking aboutit really helps. It is far better

(32:22):
than watching a romantic movie. We'refermily you know, putting you into this
fantasy world or going to virtual reality, you know what I mean. So
I I I really see that aswe're talking, that is a a a
big issue, not only for us, but god knows how many other people.
And I think we should probly dosomething about it, be honest,

(32:43):
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the waves pass through until the nextwave comes through. That's kind of why
we got the YouTube the community,which we want to make that as a
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so much for your support as awoman. Is it okay to let a
man know you like him? Uh, you're welcome. I would say,
I'll see reason. That's all yougot to say. I thought you gave

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me the easy ones. I dothat. I don't know how that could
be a negative. I don't thinkit is. Yeah, I got a
problem is a man? I likeit? Man? I like you?
So, I mean that probably ifyou don't like you back, I guess
yeah, the next one, butthat's a long anyway. Oh yeah,

(36:15):
that's just ridiculous. This is aconspiracy. Okay, your question is is
a two parter? Should I datea godly girl or boy I did not
fight attractive? If so, forhow long until it becomes unwise or even
hurtful? Oh my gosh, I'mguessing that he's like, yeah, that's

(36:40):
because they're Yeah, and we've talkedabout this ourselves. As long as the
guy or girl holds to biblical principles, it's up to you. It's up
to you what your stomach can holdas you look at him. I don't
know what to say to that,Like I know, I don't because I

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know for me, it's gonna takean act of God for me to date
a guy that is not so muchless attractive, but I don't find attractive
at all. I don't think youshould close yourself off, you know what
I mean, just because the guyor girl is less attractive, but they're
I don't like. I could seeyou said that yourself off, but but

(37:22):
for you to continue, there hasto be something that you find all right,
like but they might be compromising,you know what I mean? Because
I feel like and and this isthe cavea if you can't, if you're
not gonna get over their outside appearance, that really does speak to how shallow
you are one and especially if youleact their personality or if you don't and
don't waste people's time, let aloneyours and and move on where Bob of

(37:45):
y'all can be happy in different youknow, areas of your life. But
I mean to sit there in stomachyou know someone because you just got to
have a godly man or woman.That's ridiculous. Yeah, I don't.
Yeah, I definitely what said Iwould agree with you because yeah, if
you feel like you're not, you'renot gonna be able to do this.
You keep going on these days andstuff because because like you said, you

(38:07):
feel you have to have so they'regodly, so I'm going to continue it.
Yeah, but then you ended upyou know, I can't do it,
So then you waste that person's timeand it can be hurtful at that
point. Yes, they could havefound some who truly likes like that outside
of it and like my thing isand when I say, and I feel
like this is you too. WhenI say we're open to dating guys that

(38:30):
are just less appealing to us physicallythat might just be initially, and we
go along and we don't. Weain't feeling it. They're done. It's
done, and that's fine. Iwould expect the same thing from him because
at the end of the day,we can't sit there pretend to becover a
Christians. Now we don't look atthe outside sure enough there, okay.
And if you ain't feeling it aftera while, like if you the personality

(38:52):
really shouldn't help. I think thelook helping it is what it is.
And that's like the same thing ifyou find them attractive just just because you
shouldn't dis base it on the looks, you know, because you might find
that they're tracked, but they don'thave those, you know, the qualities
actually looking for. So I definitelythink that it should be based on more
than just the appearance. Yeah,absolutely, absolutely, I don't. I

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mean, of course, looks isgoing to going to catch your eyeers,
you know, but once you startdating on you should be able to find
word. Absolutely, And then weboth shared stories how we really didn't like
the outside of Pears of God,you know, at the point in time,
but the personality was great. Nowthey weren't Christian obviously, but just
still so personality does come into play, their values come into play, like

(39:38):
all of that. And as aChristian, I would say if they were
Christian now that yeah, I woulddefinitely absolutely because because of that personality m
hm. Absolutely kind of going backto like our dating history and experience with
with other guys, don't compromise justbecause a profile says Christian. Yeah,

(40:00):
you know what I mean. Andeven if they don't smoke or drink or
even have kids, oh, theychecking boxes if they are not devoting daily
time to spending with the Lord andembodying those Christian values. No, you're
not gonna do That's that you arecompromising. And I just feel like when
when you go to date a manor woman, a Christian woman, you

(40:22):
gotta really look out for that stuff, because it's not enough to just say
I don't have a Christian and Igo to church every week. That's not
enough. I don't I don't careabout the church. I don't care about
that how you living your life?And I have plenty of experiences on there
where it does because Christians are enough. Like you said, you gotta look
there and say, what are youright? Because if someone that's truly serving
and loves guys like they said,they're gonna have something on their inventions,

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Yeah, you're right, God,you know that they're part of the life.
And even then once you get totalking to that person, you'll know
everything you know because you know,I've talked to some where they have that
on there and then they're not they'renot really about that. So you definitely
have to have to make sure.Yeah, because there's some predators out there.
I feel like too that just targetChristian women or like good girls with

(41:08):
good girls so to speak. Andnow you know you can't really recognize a
true Christian. So it's just likegoing to churches enough or you know,
I believe you know, you hearit out a lot a lot of people
believe there's left in the league,but they're not serving him. Yep,
yep. I can't tell you howmany times I talk to a guy.
I'm like, first thing I startout with, I'm a Christian devoted to

(41:32):
the Lord. I put all this, what's up? I'm a Christian too,
So because we're gonna hear that,all right, so I'm gonna asking
you all these questions that I feellike it's gonna make me more comfortable in
that ease to continue to talk toyou. Now you talked out they don't
go no, well because they're notthey're not reading the Bible. They go

(41:52):
to church every Eastern every Christmas,you know what I mean, and it's
not there for me. That's actuallyone person actually told me you're not find
that. You know. I've heardthat, So it's like, so what
it's It always makes it like soif you're really following God and you're doing
what's supposed to and trying to bechrist like, that's considerable, you know,

(42:15):
not popular not yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you're looking
for a needle on a hate stack, and guess what it is, what
it is? If I will findit, I'll find it. It a't
for me to find it, butI'm not. We're not top of minding.
Yeah, it's not gonna work withme even if like, okay,
that somewhat, but they don't youknow, they drink, but okay,
I can, I can know.But then if you're out and you're doing

(42:37):
a sudden throw up your drinking andstuff, you don't like it now And
and to your point, I imploreeveryone to actually consider what mary life would
look like. It doesn't mean thatyou're thirsty, you know what I mean.
It doesn't mean that you're ready toget married, hitched and stuff.
It just means think about everybody youdate or it might be a potential,
think about how life is gonna lookwith what you know right now and oftentime,

(43:00):
they're not gonna cut the mustard.And like you said, drink that
some people might think, well thedrink is not that bad. But let's
say you're out and you're celebrating oryou're doing stuffing with them, you're gonna
be excluded if your your spouse orsomeone drinks because they're gonna be out here
drinking, feel like, yeah,I don't drink, so I'm not Yeah
you know, yeah, yeah,yeah, you're not included and more more

(43:22):
to the loneliness. But it alsogoes back to that question. One person
asked too about the identity. Youknow what I mean, and you gotta
know who you are, but youalso know what the Bible says about certain
matters too, that we can makea whole podcast about the drinking. Yeah,
okay, that's y. Yeah,we don't believe that true Christians should
be drinking, but we don't believein that, So finding you know,

(43:44):
significant others a drink or smoke,there's gonna be a no go. Oftentimes,
there's a reason behind everything that wedo as humans, So you gotta
again ask why are you? Whydo you feel the need to drink?
And O relaxing me? Well,so can meditating on the Lord work praying
and also doesn't so why drinking isa thing? Anyway? Sorry for my

(44:04):
ram What are some books or resourcesto help me grow as a single adult?
Another some on where I be researchersand stuff. There's some that they
recommend on Amazon like Tony. Ithink Tony Evans has some, I believe,
but I don't really know. Idon't have too many books on singles
side. Maybe the Lessing of Masturbation. Yes, I think that's a good

(44:30):
resource. You can find that virtuallyon YouTube and testimony us. I think
that's a really good resource if youstruggle with that. That is, which
to policy point, probably a lotof people do. But no books and
stuff. I don't know. Yeah, I know that. Oh see,
yeah, they had some that theyrecommended. And it also they have like

(44:52):
some devotionals on Bible. I forgotwhich one that is that Bible they use
that you could go through, butyeah, doesn't really doesn't really help me
neither. But I say it wouldn'thelp so absolutely so, I mean O
CBF Google YouTube. You know,maybe we'll put out a blog, you

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know what I mean, maybe youknow, getting some nice little tips.
Yeah, I don't sorry, Ohthat's a really short one. Where are
all the beds? That's a goodquestion. You know you gotta hang your
phone with No, ain't know whereI'm looking out, but let's let's fix

(45:35):
that. Where all the Christian bidat? I really don't know that one
and it's not even you know whatyou're talking going back to the attractive Now
you know what makes me, uhmakes like Jarnathan Evans And we'll say because
about Lesson after him by the way, but what's attracted to him is he's
in his word, how about knowledgeablehe is on the Bible and stuff.
How he takes care of his hiskids and stuff. And you know that's

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that's fine, what you know?Yeah, yeah, yeah, and it
goes it goes back to that.It makes it more attractive even you know,
the outside of parents. That makesthose qualities it has. Yeah.
And then going back to the questionyou asked me unfortunately about like the dating
process and stuff like that. I'msure his wife probably seen in that dating

(46:20):
process those characteristics to know that shewants to appropriate with the man, you
know what I mean, Like he'sgoing to be a good father, he
loves kids or something. I don'tknow. May I'm wrong, but you
do display those things within you cannotbe hidden. Right. So then my
question next with yours, Uh,it's mine because I actually were on you
didn't really give us an answer here. I don't know I said that,

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I don't know if I knew,I would tell you. I would say
church, but a lot of themare taken. I mean singles groups.
I'm sure Christian single probably a goodplace to start, say church, but
that I all be Christians hello orMary? So so we're asking the Lord

(47:05):
and and yeah, get you aFacebook group. That's funny. Facebook groups
that actually are you know, supposedto be faith based and all that stuff.
I don't that. Where can Ifind a good church? Find a
good church? Well, we're stilllooking and don't, but we do the
online o CBF, so they're they'repretty good. Yeah, So I definitely

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like if you can't, if youdon't have one like us that that gives
you what you need in your communityor in your state, I definitely would
see if there's online streams that havea church that Yeah, I agree.
And we actually went to o CBFbefore we decided to do it online,

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so we definitely had that feel.I mean, if you can afford to
fly out where you got to flyout to, that's fine, but you
can obtain that same in person experienceonline, truly you can. It's like
every Sunday like with there Seriously,what hope does God offer? Lonely singles.

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You brought the topic up in thebeginning. I like that question for
me. I mean, you knowthat God is with you throughout it your
loneliness or whatever, and you knowhe's going to like you were saying,
I give you too much that youknow you get there, So He's gonna

(48:34):
be with you throughout. And Ithink that if if you are a call
to be married, that he's gonnayou know, I definitely do believe he'll
bring that person to you when whenyou're ready. So I definitely just want
to work on your relationship with himand get that right. We're on track,
and you know, use that tiethat you have to if they have

(48:55):
skin card like we're doing it.You know, do the work through his
work and missions ministry, whatever you'regoing and just pray and you know,
stay in your word until if it'smeant for you, until you know he
brings it, brings that person toyou or it not. You know,
yep, I think you know inthe Bible it says that in heaven people

(49:19):
are not gonna be married or giveninto marriage. So let go some of
that pressure, you know what Imean that's stopping you from experiencing the hope
that God does give us, asyou mentioned, because after this world,
none of that's gonna matter. Noneof what we're talking about is really gonna
matter. As far as getting hitchand children and stuff. What's gonna matter

(49:40):
the impact we leave here on theserf as a married person or single person.
So really just focus on it,whether you are single or not,
advancing God's kingdom truly, that's whatit's all about. That's what's gonna count
in heaven. So yeah, takethe pressure off yourself and focus on that.
When you focus on the heavily things, that's right. How would I

(50:01):
know if I need some counseling?I guess, well, you said something.
How do I know if I needsome counseling? And I feel like
when you are lusting beyond which youcan control, I think you definitely when
you feel out of control, youdon't feel like you not that you're gonna

(50:21):
be in control. But if youfeel like you just need help, you
need guidance, you need assistant,you need somebody to talk to, that's
a perfect time to seek counseling onany level. Okay, And we're all
gonna go through these moments in lifethat we're gonna need somebody to talk to,
whether you go formal counseling or not. So that's when a good time,
when you need to talk to somebodyabout whatever you're struggling with. I

(50:44):
think that's a good time. Ordo you think if if you're a Christian
that you should look seek a Christiancounselor gonna be any counselor I mean as
regards a singleness or or any okay, a singleness. Yes, yes,
I think if we're talking about anyother like other stuff, maybe like with

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anxiety depression, I think it's upto them. We personally, I always
want a Christian perspective on everything becausethat's just who I wrote with you know
what I mean. Do you thinkthat it's important to have a Christian perspective
in counseling. Yeah, it definitelyis. With like you said, the
signal is too, because you don'twant worldly advice for that. Yeah.

(51:27):
Yeah, as a Christian, you'relooking for something a little bit different than
what the world is looking for.They might recommend somebody or whatever there's not
aligned with with you know, withthe Bible, so you would have definitely
Christian. Yeah, especially with thewhole lusting and masturbation. I cannot tell
you how many times I've heard that'snormal, that's normal, We've normalized it.

(51:47):
But it's not for us the wayGod wrote. Because what lusting and
masturbation is doing is robbing you,I believe of intimacy or or or is
giving you this false reality. Isit's stealing from you, you know what
I mean. So that's the worldtell you is normally that ain't helping us
because that's what we're gonna do andcare We're gonna keep on doing it.

(52:10):
Like Alibar was saying, like basicallyputs this high expectation on how when you
get yeah, on your spouse andstuff. So yep, it definitely can
affect effected. Yep. Yeah,that might have been what Kirk was going
through. I don't know, youknow what I mean, the little bit,
especially with the pornography. I mean, that's that's How does the gospel

(52:30):
help those who are dating who havebeen victims of past sexual abuse? Why
you gotta give you we just talkedabout We're gonna both answer this. It
tells you that you know you're nolonger a slave to your past things that

(52:51):
happened in the past, that you'reyou know, your friend Christ so and
God can help you through you know, all of those if you you know,
pray and you ask him, youknow, ask him to there's still
hope after going through you know,those past struggles and stuff. Just look
at uh, what's that singer andTasha Patre. Yeah, she went through

(53:14):
all of that abusive stuff and youknow, look at her now. You
know, so God definitely can couldhelp you through all of that and and
restoring and you know, get thathope back. Yeah, I agree with
that, and you know, honestly, and I believe sexual assault, sexual
abuse. I'm sorry, God,I think there's rules to this thing,

(53:35):
essay, d It is very veryprevalent. I think we still waiting for
more people to you know, comeforth with that. So unfortunately enough,
I think there's a lot more victimsthat we don't even know about yet.
But like you said, there's hopefor those who are in Christ Jesus.
That you are not slaves or victimsto your your past experiences, and like

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you said, that you can andhave overcome in Christ Jesus. The the
big thing is that you have tobelieve it. That's really it, and
that's the whole basis of being aChristian, having faith in God, believing
what he said. I'm always goingback to Hebrews, Honey, Hebrews eleven
six. Okay, for those whocome to God must first believe that he

(54:20):
is and that He is a warderof those diligence, and you seek him.
You gotta believe that he is.He is You're victor. He is
your your your promise keeper. Heis all that you need, is your
counsel He he is. You know, if you don't believe that, then
I mean, unfortunately, even asa Christian, you can still be bound
to your past. So let thegospel. R read the gospel, look

(54:44):
at the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John Unders and understand
it. And and really just asthe Lord to open up your heart if
you do feel stuck and like you'rea prison of your past because you can't
overcome by the power of His words. And you know, definitely that's something
too that you can seek. Likeyou said, counseling for Christian counselor.

(55:05):
And you as well, I agree. Can you really be friends with the
opposite sex? Ye? I don'tsee why not. I really don't see
why not. You if you canhandle it by all means, you can.
Definitely it can it can work.But I do think like's if you're
if you are a single person andyou know a guy or a girl on

(55:28):
whatever the opposite sex is and theyare married, keep that in mind.
You know, you need to expectboundaries and stuff like that, and you
know it's a little different ballgame.Is there too fast and Christian dating?
Yes, uh, they're finally asI'm sure your experience okay, yeah,

(55:50):
yeah, like the pet names andstuff that's like, open it up,
how beautiful? Or how does Imean you don't even know me like that?
Or you know, or like aftera couple of sentences saying oh you
so we are we together? Nowleave my girlfriend? No? No,
or you know they want the zoomcalls and we're not doing all that.

(56:14):
I don't know you you're right,you're right getting peek into my house and
we're back. You ain't letting theminto your world. No phone ups because
there are I mean, there arepeople out there, even even people that
say they're Christian. There's something outthere that might be dealing with something.
Are sios out there? I don'tknow? Absolutely, So you gotta be
you know, you gotta be cautious. So yeah, that's definitely you have

(56:37):
to get to war conversations and stufflike that. Even then, you know
people could be hiding stuff, youknow. Yeah, no, there's a
reason why you know they're on theseSo I'm just saying, we're just saying
we just so you have to perceivea cross because you know, you hear
those stories about things that go wrongand you know, dating and stuff like

(56:59):
that, because you know, peoplemask who they really are. They certainly
do all. This is the lastquestion. Okay, I feel I'm going
to answer this too. Let meknow, how is Christian dating different than
worldly dating. There's definitely a bigdifference in Christian daty because I feel like

(57:21):
we have to be here to astandard. Basically, you know, worldly
dating, do you know, youfind someone that's attractive or whatever and you
can just go ahead and date us. They have to be actively serving,
you know, serving the Lord.They have to you know, have a
b own a Bible, hopefully actuallyactually read it, do more than go

(57:45):
to church. So there's a lotmore in it. If that's the case,
there, you know, it wouldn'tbe a lot of single you can
just go and date whatever we felt, Oh, you know that that person's
attractive. But I agree. Sothere's a lot with it in of course,
you know, waiting until you're married, there's a lot more into christian

(58:07):
Yeah, I agree with everything youjust said. Yeah, it's harder,
It's definitely harder. I think that'sa big, a big one. I
feel like it's harder because the poolis smaller. Yeah, I think what
did they say, like there's threewomen to like every man or something?
Maybe five. I don't know.I was just ready, So it's even

(58:28):
the shorter. It's smaller, youknow, when it comes to being a
Christian. But all that you said, I definitely, I definitely agree with
because we definitely go out here andget anything we want to get a plethora
of it. We wouldn't have anyproblem, no issues whatsoever. But it's
not gonna be fulfilling because we knowyou know better, you do better,
right, and you can't unknow something. So even with us, if we

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completely dismisses the Christian aspect of it, it's always gonna kind of run after
us because we know better. Soit's different. It's I mean, seriously,
from the time you look before thatyou look as different. You know,
we're praying about it. You know, it's everything. It's everything.
I mean, we'll be here fromjust there's a big difference, big difference,

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huge monkeys. But I haven't beensuccessful so far. I've met some
nice guys though they've been some niceChristian guy they just not my flavor,
you know. But it might bea little picky. It might be a
little picky, but it's it's it'sbeen a pretty eye opening journey, you

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know, actively looking for your yourpartner. So have the experience been for
you, this whole dating process sogreat that I stopped looking. Oh I'm
like whatever in months? Yeah,dang, feel a little discouraged or just
kind of know. It's like likewe were saying, if you we've been

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signaled this long, it's like whatever, it's not normal at this point.
I mean, I don't have tobe honest. I kind of my time
and focus now has definitely been onministry. I care more about that,
even though like the desires probably willbe there for a mate and for you
know, a kid, like wediscussed, but I just more now I'd

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rather go out and be successful becausebecause that's that's more of a permanent thing
that's more important. So yeah,and you know, when we look over
our lives and look, I keepsaying this five years ahead, but as
individuals we look completely to the endof our life. It ain't gonna be
the husband or the kids that we'regonna I mean, yeah, you hope

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for the best and all that stuff, you know, will leave the legacy,
but it's gonna be what I didon this earth. Did I wait,
how much time did I wasted?Did I make up that time?
Did God redeem the time? Youknow? All that stuff, it ain't
gonna be because I can imagine kidlike us getting to the spouse and the
kids, and I'm sure we werenalove that, you know, but we're
still gonna if we don't go outthere and evangelize or did that, I'm

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sure they're still gonna bena be happyas we, you know, because so
that has to be in there nomatter what, on the level, for
real, for real, I've alwayshoped to meet my significant other on the
missions field because now and for me, I just don't want just I don't
want I need somebody that's gonna beactive with me because I'm not gonna be

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here. These feet are not gonnajust be in one place. The gonna
be moving that. When was thatstory you have people watch? Or forgot
where they were they met on themissions or something or they did missions together.
Oh, I know what you're talkingabout. What was that? What
that kind of story they say thatfor christ or something like that? Was
that it? No, I don'tknow. I don't remember what it was,

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but I know it was a huzzleof wife. Yeah I don't.
Yeah, yes, I remember,I forgot what it was. Yeah,
yeah, I mean my my boo. Gotta have an evangelistic missionary heart to
be perfectly honest, otherwise I don'tquite see it working. I really don't.
Yeah, because I could see thattoo. Let's say you we are
fully in it and then you dome to what and and they don't have

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that hard they're gonna be what youyou. You gotta want you home,
you know, with the family again. So that's gonna be an issue.
Yeah, it could be, Yes, Yes, And I want my children
to be able to experience the Moneysnothing, experience something greater than themselves,
you know what I mean. It'snot about us. It's not all about

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us in our own personal lives.It's about something. It's about God's playing
quite frankly. So yeah, allright, what's your final thoughts Valuncea on
this Beautiful Singleness podcast episode of TheTruth Diaries. Just that you know,
there's definitely and encourage about there,not to get discouraged and hopefully people don't

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compromise because the emphasis is on,you know, be married and having the
kid. I mean, if that'swhat God has planned for you is it'll
come. I believe that, andHe'll bring in the right person will come.
So I definitely think you should definitelywait and just keep focusing on your
relationship with him. Make sure that'sa good standing so you are ready when

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that person comes. So I woulddefinitely focus on that. Amen. Amen,
I definitely have to again piggyback offof you and just echo the words
of Paul. You know in thatchapter seven I'm gonna paraphrase, if you're
married, great, give yourself holy, to your husband and to the Lord.
Take care of your household, raisethem up because there is testimony in

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that for sure, because they couldbe raising little missionaries little you know what
I'm saying. It doesn't But ifyou're single, you know, it's great
to desire to be married, butyou are married, you know, to
the Lord, and that should beprioritized in your singleness and in your actual
marriage. So I like, whateverstate you're in, be content and happy

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in that state. Ask the Lordto guide you and continue to trust him
in this whole process, because youknow, there's there's there's bigger things the
foot. There's bigger things of foot. And I personally pray for each person
who is experiencing the loneliness at timeslike we do, that God would just
wrap their arms around them and youknow, comfort them as they meet,

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comforting and speak to them His wordas they need it and encourage them to
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