January 9, 2018 • 9 mins
First, let me say that I love the advice that you and Steve give to those with dilemmas. I've tried to ask for advice from others. But those shy and backed away but I'm at the point where I need answers. I'm not sure where to begin. But here I go. I'm head over heels for this guy and has straight affection problems. He says that he loves me once in a while but it's like pulling teeth from his mouth.
Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.com
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Buckle up here it is Strawberry, the subject and desperate
need of love. First, let me say that I love
the advice that you and Steve give to those with dilemmas.
I've tried to ask for advice from others but got
a little shine backed away. But I'm at the point
(00:20):
where I need answers. I'm not sure where to begin,
but here I go. I'm head over heels for this
guy that has straight affection problems. He says that he
loves me once in a while, but it's like pulling
teeth from his mouth. He basically says that when we're
going through crazy situations like near death experiences. When I
(00:41):
bring it up, he says, you should know how I feel.
I'm with you, right, garbage like that. Surely I'm the
type of woman where I'm not only where I not
only need to hear it, I need to feel it
and see it. I guess you can say I'm an
addict for love and all my relationships past and present,
it's like I need that fixed of showers and showers
(01:01):
of love. I try being with other guys and they've
wined and dined me, but it's like my guy haunts
my mind. I honestly do think that he loves me
because I sense it when we are together. Oh yeah,
we've been together for about three years, but he still
has in popped that big question, will you marry me?
I guess what I'm asking is what should I do?
Should I stay with him? And if so, should I
(01:24):
settle with what love he has to offer me because
of how much I love him and can envision myself
with anyone else. Your advice, whether it is harsh or not,
is greatly needed. Thanks a bunch desperately in need of love. Um,
dear desperately in need of love. I just feel like
you need some empowerment and and you know in this situation, First,
(01:45):
why sister gott to be desperate. Let's just take desperation
out of the equation. You got a man, You're crazy
about him. You're upset that he doesn't say loves you enough. Now,
I know, as a woman, we do like to hear
it when our man says he loves us. We like
it and makes us feel a certain way. Can't deny that,
But does it make you desperate? And doesn't make you
an addict for love just because you want to hear that? No,
(02:07):
it doesn't. It just makes you a woman who's who's
really into the act of love. You know, you like
being in love, but it just doesn't sound like your
man is into it. You don't need showers and showers
of love. You just want that because at this stage,
right here, in this relationship with him, you need that
to validate, uh you who you are. When when he
(02:30):
you know, when he shows you that he loves you,
like that gives you stuff, then you feel like he
really loves you. Um. You just gotta believe in yourself
and have confidence in your confidence in yourself or you're
never gonna be happy. No matter who it's with, You're
gonna always have that desperate feeling if you don't get
what's right, you know, get you right first. It's okay
to love someone, but you gotta ask yourself. Are they
(02:52):
worthy of your love? Can they return it? How does
he treats you? You've been with him three years. You
ought to know something by now as a subject of marriage,
even come up. It's okay to love him, gotta love yourself.
I can't say that enough. Um, what he's doing right now,
he's gonna do for the rest of the relationship. He
is not gonna change, so it's up to you if
you want to stay with him. Definitely don't settle though,
(03:15):
you know, definitely don't settle Steve. All right, come on, Steve,
let's get to your part to response to today's Strawberry letter,
come subject in desperate need of love. First, let me
say that I love to advise you with Steve give
to those with dilemmas. I've tried to ask advice from others.
We got a little shine backed away, but I'm at
(03:36):
the point where I need answers and I'm not sure
where to begin, but here I go. I'm head over
heels for this guy that has straight affection problems. He
said he loves me once in a while, but it's
like pulling teeth from his mouth. He basically says, it's
when you were going through crazy situations like near death experiences.
When I bring it up, he says, you should know
how I feel. I'm with you, right, garbage like that.
(03:58):
Surely I'm the type of woman who I not only
need to hear it, I need to feel it and
see it. I guess you can say. And I'm I'm
an addict for love and all of my relationships past
and presidents like I need that fix of showers and
showers of love. I've tried being with other guys and
they have wined and dined me, but it's like, but
(04:19):
it's like, my guy haunts my mind. I honestly do
think that he loves me because I sense it when
we are together. Oh yeah, we've been together for about
three years, but he still hasn't popped that big question,
will you married me? I guess what I'm asking, It's
what should I do? Should I stay with him? And
then so should I settle with what love he has
to offer me because of how much I love him
(04:40):
and can't envision myself with anyone else. Your advice, whether
it's harsh or not, it's greatly needy. Thanks again, desperately
in need of love. Well in there. Your advice, whether
it is harsh or not, it's greatly needed. I specialized
(05:01):
in the harshness of advice. I figured harsh is the
best way to go sometimes because at this point, for
you to write a nationally syndicated show something is really
the hell wrong. Come on, you tried asking your other friends,
then you get shot well basically because you know they
ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. I
(05:23):
ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. But
your letter says that at the beginning, and at the end,
and all through the middle, desperate, desperate need of love,
desperately in need of love, and greatly need it. You know, lady,
your real problem ain't your man. Your real problem is you,
(05:44):
because you're desperate and you have an addiction. Because you
say it in your letter, I guess you can say
I'm an addict for love. Anytime you're an attic for anything.
It's an over abuse of one thing. You know. They
say if you drink too much water, it could kill you.
They say that, I never knew that. But if too
(06:06):
much of anything. You drink too much liquor, you smoke
too many cigarettes, you take too many drugs, You stay
up too long, you sleep too long, You eat too
much pork, you eat too much sugar. You don't all
of this. Anything in excessive bad for you when you
excessively in need of love. I don't know what happened
(06:28):
in your childhood. I don't know who didn't tell it
to you enough. Now you want it all from everybody
else you meet. But let me tell you what's gonna
happen with your little needy self. First of all, when
you write me a letter, don't all through your letter,
you needy. My guy has straight affection problems. He said,
he loves me once in a while, but it's like
pulling teeth from his mouth. Okay, but don't he tell
(06:50):
you that. He basically says that when we're going through
crazy situations like near death experiences, they have been happening
in y'all three years near death experiences. Who's y'all keep
having operations? Y'all gotta go down there and see about
each other, what what happened. But at least in the
moment of crisis, the man is there for you. What
(07:14):
do you want? I can't count for you the women
I have heard talk to in my lifetime who have
let a good man get away because their qualifications and
expectations of a man was ridiculous. Ladies, you can't keep
want the man to love you the same way you
love him. That ain't how we love. Now. This man
coming in here near death experiences and he's steal with you.
(07:37):
When it all break down and go bad, he there
by your side, and you know he loved you because
you say you sense it. But see then when he
when you want him to say it all the time,
he said you should know how I feel, right, and
then you say gobage like that. Well, now I guess
what when he do show you affection, you shinne that.
So now you want your man to keep shying you
(07:57):
with it, but every time you get it from him
in an ain't enough, which leads us not to continue
to give more. Now you've had all these other guys
that have been wind and dying you would shower at
you with the expressive gifts and all like this, but
and you got to have that. Then you try to
throw me off and say, Shirley, I'm the type of
woman right there trying to get somebody to go along
(08:18):
with you. But you're messed up, called Steve, go answer
the letter too. Now you've been dating a man for
three years and you wonder why he popped a big question.
He'd go, don't know, man, wanna sign up for a
life with a needy ass woman. Men want to be
(08:38):
need at, but we don't want to sign up for
no needy ass woman. I got to sit up under you,
I got to be with you. I got to tell
you how beautiful you. I got to shower you with
these flowers give. If you ain't getting that, then your
ass ain't happy. Who you know, Finn sign up with that?
The man you got ain't sign enough for that, and
the other ones you had in your past ain't signed
(09:00):
there forward, And you feel to be lonely the rest
of your life because your ass is needy. Stop expecting
everybody to make you happy and make yourself happy. Can't
nobody make you happy but you? And obviously, lady, you
ain't happy now you want everybody to come along and
make you happy. Your needy, lonely ass fen to be
(09:22):
needy and lonely for a long ass time. Ain't nobody
been to marry your needy? As you're listening to the
Steve Hardy Morning Show
Buckle up here it is Strawberry, the subject and desperate
need of love. First, let me say that I love
the advice that you and Steve give to those with dilemmas.
I've tried to ask for advice from others but got
a little shine backed away. But I'm at the point
(00:20):
where I need answers. I'm not sure where to begin,
but here I go. I'm head over heels for this
guy that has straight affection problems. He says that he
loves me once in a while, but it's like pulling
teeth from his mouth. He basically says that when we're
going through crazy situations like near death experiences. When I
(00:41):
bring it up, he says, you should know how I feel.
I'm with you, right, garbage like that. Surely I'm the
type of woman where I'm not only where I not
only need to hear it, I need to feel it
and see it. I guess you can say I'm an
addict for love and all my relationships past and present,
it's like I need that fixed of showers and showers
(01:01):
of love. I try being with other guys and they've
wined and dined me, but it's like my guy haunts
my mind. I honestly do think that he loves me
because I sense it when we are together. Oh yeah,
we've been together for about three years, but he still
has in popped that big question, will you marry me?
I guess what I'm asking is what should I do?
Should I stay with him? And if so, should I
(01:24):
settle with what love he has to offer me because
of how much I love him and can envision myself
with anyone else. Your advice, whether it is harsh or not,
is greatly needed. Thanks a bunch desperately in need of love. Um,
dear desperately in need of love. I just feel like
you need some empowerment and and you know in this situation, First,
(01:45):
why sister gott to be desperate. Let's just take desperation
out of the equation. You got a man, You're crazy
about him. You're upset that he doesn't say loves you enough. Now,
I know, as a woman, we do like to hear
it when our man says he loves us. We like
it and makes us feel a certain way. Can't deny that,
But does it make you desperate? And doesn't make you
an addict for love just because you want to hear that? No,
(02:07):
it doesn't. It just makes you a woman who's who's
really into the act of love. You know, you like
being in love, but it just doesn't sound like your
man is into it. You don't need showers and showers
of love. You just want that because at this stage,
right here, in this relationship with him, you need that
to validate, uh you who you are. When when he
(02:30):
you know, when he shows you that he loves you,
like that gives you stuff, then you feel like he
really loves you. Um. You just gotta believe in yourself
and have confidence in your confidence in yourself or you're
never gonna be happy. No matter who it's with, You're
gonna always have that desperate feeling if you don't get
what's right, you know, get you right first. It's okay
to love someone, but you gotta ask yourself. Are they
(02:52):
worthy of your love? Can they return it? How does
he treats you? You've been with him three years. You
ought to know something by now as a subject of marriage,
even come up. It's okay to love him, gotta love yourself.
I can't say that enough. Um, what he's doing right now,
he's gonna do for the rest of the relationship. He
is not gonna change, so it's up to you if
you want to stay with him. Definitely don't settle though,
(03:15):
you know, definitely don't settle Steve. All right, come on, Steve,
let's get to your part to response to today's Strawberry letter,
come subject in desperate need of love. First, let me
say that I love to advise you with Steve give
to those with dilemmas. I've tried to ask advice from others.
We got a little shine backed away, but I'm at
(03:36):
the point where I need answers and I'm not sure
where to begin, but here I go. I'm head over
heels for this guy that has straight affection problems. He
said he loves me once in a while, but it's
like pulling teeth from his mouth. He basically says, it's
when you were going through crazy situations like near death experiences.
When I bring it up, he says, you should know
how I feel. I'm with you, right, garbage like that.
(03:58):
Surely I'm the type of woman who I not only
need to hear it, I need to feel it and
see it. I guess you can say. And I'm I'm
an addict for love and all of my relationships past
and presidents like I need that fix of showers and
showers of love. I've tried being with other guys and
they have wined and dined me, but it's like, but
(04:19):
it's like, my guy haunts my mind. I honestly do
think that he loves me because I sense it when
we are together. Oh yeah, we've been together for about
three years, but he still hasn't popped that big question,
will you married me? I guess what I'm asking, It's
what should I do? Should I stay with him? And
then so should I settle with what love he has
to offer me because of how much I love him
(04:40):
and can't envision myself with anyone else. Your advice, whether
it's harsh or not, it's greatly needy. Thanks again, desperately
in need of love. Well in there. Your advice, whether
it is harsh or not, it's greatly needed. I specialized
(05:01):
in the harshness of advice. I figured harsh is the
best way to go sometimes because at this point, for
you to write a nationally syndicated show something is really
the hell wrong. Come on, you tried asking your other friends,
then you get shot well basically because you know they
ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. I
(05:23):
ain't gonna tell you what you want to heal. But
your letter says that at the beginning, and at the end,
and all through the middle, desperate, desperate need of love,
desperately in need of love, and greatly need it. You know, lady,
your real problem ain't your man. Your real problem is you,
(05:44):
because you're desperate and you have an addiction. Because you
say it in your letter, I guess you can say
I'm an addict for love. Anytime you're an attic for anything.
It's an over abuse of one thing. You know. They
say if you drink too much water, it could kill you.
They say that, I never knew that. But if too
(06:06):
much of anything. You drink too much liquor, you smoke
too many cigarettes, you take too many drugs, You stay
up too long, you sleep too long, You eat too
much pork, you eat too much sugar. You don't all
of this. Anything in excessive bad for you when you
excessively in need of love. I don't know what happened
(06:28):
in your childhood. I don't know who didn't tell it
to you enough. Now you want it all from everybody
else you meet. But let me tell you what's gonna
happen with your little needy self. First of all, when
you write me a letter, don't all through your letter,
you needy. My guy has straight affection problems. He said,
he loves me once in a while, but it's like
pulling teeth from his mouth. Okay, but don't he tell
(06:50):
you that. He basically says that when we're going through
crazy situations like near death experiences, they have been happening
in y'all three years near death experiences. Who's y'all keep
having operations? Y'all gotta go down there and see about
each other, what what happened. But at least in the
moment of crisis, the man is there for you. What
(07:14):
do you want? I can't count for you the women
I have heard talk to in my lifetime who have
let a good man get away because their qualifications and
expectations of a man was ridiculous. Ladies, you can't keep
want the man to love you the same way you
love him. That ain't how we love. Now. This man
coming in here near death experiences and he's steal with you.
(07:37):
When it all break down and go bad, he there
by your side, and you know he loved you because
you say you sense it. But see then when he
when you want him to say it all the time,
he said you should know how I feel, right, and
then you say gobage like that. Well, now I guess
what when he do show you affection, you shinne that.
So now you want your man to keep shying you
(07:57):
with it, but every time you get it from him
in an ain't enough, which leads us not to continue
to give more. Now you've had all these other guys
that have been wind and dying you would shower at
you with the expressive gifts and all like this, but
and you got to have that. Then you try to
throw me off and say, Shirley, I'm the type of
woman right there trying to get somebody to go along
(08:18):
with you. But you're messed up, called Steve, go answer
the letter too. Now you've been dating a man for
three years and you wonder why he popped a big question.
He'd go, don't know, man, wanna sign up for a
life with a needy ass woman. Men want to be
(08:38):
need at, but we don't want to sign up for
no needy ass woman. I got to sit up under you,
I got to be with you. I got to tell
you how beautiful you. I got to shower you with
these flowers give. If you ain't getting that, then your
ass ain't happy. Who you know, Finn sign up with that?
The man you got ain't sign enough for that, and
the other ones you had in your past ain't signed
(09:00):
there forward, And you feel to be lonely the rest
of your life because your ass is needy. Stop expecting
everybody to make you happy and make yourself happy. Can't
nobody make you happy but you? And obviously, lady, you
ain't happy now you want everybody to come along and
make you happy. Your needy, lonely ass fen to be
(09:22):
needy and lonely for a long ass time. Ain't nobody
been to marry your needy? As you're listening to the
Steve Hardy Morning Show
Popular Podcasts
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations.
The Nikki Glaser Podcast
Every week comedian and infamous roaster Nikki Glaser provides a fun, fast-paced, and brutally honest look into current pop-culture and her own personal life.
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.