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All right, let's go, let'sgo put you have one stop. Second,
come on, it's pool day.A right, it's time to go.
All right, god, it ispool day. Do you need to
be there to watch the pool beopening cycle path? I love to do
that. Hi, Hi, everybodyopening it up yourself? No? No,
no, I have a guy comes, so what do you have to
be there for? Um? Becausehe opens it and then he doesn't do
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the chemicals. I do, soI kind of have to get a sample
of it, then go to thepool store buy all the chemicals, put
them in the sooner. I dothat the sooner my pool. Who heats
up? And then it's good tostore cupcake. Charlie's just followed me.
Okay anyway, Yeah, hi everybody. It is the billion Lisa After Show
podcast, last one of the week, And yeah, I was supposed to
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be tomorrow from my pool, andI just want to say this, what
do you want to say? Iknow that if you don't have a pool,
you don't give a shit that whenI say I got my pool.
If you do have a pool,you understand sathing with the peloton girl,
Yeah, I just got a pelotonon September before September. I knew very
little about Peloton. Not only thatI didn't care one bit, but now
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that I do, I get it. But the only the Peloton girl,
Ema Love Well, she's coming inMonday. She's a good local connection.
Yeah, so that's a big reason. It isn't because of my love for
her, you know what I meanas an instructor on Peloton partly is,
but she's from Martha's vineon She's throwingthe first pitch to the Red Sox game.
So I thought it was a goodidea. Um, but I'd never
pull up until two years ago.So it's an exciting day. So I
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don't know. I just want tosay that. Okay, I know a
lot of some people don't have apool, and they're like, good for
you, justin and your fucking pool. Good for you. Um So if
you're thinking that, I'm sorry.You can come over and swim in my
pool, okay, anytime you want. Just don't pee in it. I
p in pools all the time.Wait, what doesn't you pee in the
pool? Yeah you're not. Nope, you're not coming to my house.
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Gilly and Lisa in the morning.Behind the scenes look into Boston's favorite morning
show, that's a little too muchinformation. The after show podcast, we
had a whole discussion on this lastyear, and I my words were misconstrued.
The question was have you ever paidin your pool? And the answer
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is yes, I have. Idon't on the regular, but there have
been situations when when I did,but I go behind the garage. It's
like a good New Hampshire boy,that's what you are. Funny story when
I when I bought the house andthe first year we opened the pool,
we had some pool company, differentcompany than it's just a guy that does
it now, but we hired apool company. So this guy rolls up,
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he opens the pool, you know, and he kind of looks like
a hillbilly. You know. Ionly live in Salem, so it's not
like I'm way up in New Hampshire, so yo opening the pool and I'm
I'm I'm in my backyard behind mygarage, working on the lawn, and
he yells over to me, Hey, uh, I'm just gonna go to
the bathroom. I said, okay, and I turn around and there he
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is peeing behind my garage, rightin front of me, dick out and
everything. Okay, how was it? I'm fine, I don't. I
mean, take a good look.No, that's cure. Yeah, but
it was just crazy. He sawnothing wrong with it. You know,
he was peeing in the woods orbehind the garage like everybody in New Hampshire
is supposed to, I guess.So anyway, Yeah, it's pool day,
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so I'm excited about that. I'mleaving now. Oh yeah, so
I'm leaving now. I have togo to get my wife's Mother's Day gift.
What are you gonna get it?It's just gonna be a gift card
to the to the med SPA.Okay, so she can get whatever she
wants. That's good. Um.And then you know there'll be that and
then me. Because I'm a gift, you're gonna make her not a mother.
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Uh So, anyway, what doyou do for Mother's Day? Nothing?
My mom doesn't want to hang outwith me. She wants to get
my dad. We did, Yeah, I took her to lunch on Tuesday,
and then last week I paid forher hair, so she's taken care
of. But she said, Idon't want to do anything because my brother
offered to do something and he waslike, she goes, no, I'll
see you on Saturday. So there'sgonna go for to day and do that
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thing. So yeah, I havea busy weekend, though, I feel
like because you're coming on habor Hill, I am so Friday we have the
thing, and then shot the morningwe have your thing. So I feel
like, right there, I'm supposedto go on a date on Friday,
but I don't think it's happening.Well, oh, so wait, you're
coming a memoir. What do youmean you're coming to the book club.
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I am coming of book book club, but I wasn't gonna go to dinner
with you guys after because I hada date. But I don't think I
have a date anymore. So you'recoming to dinner now? No, No,
I'm not coming to dinner now becausethat's a drive the makeup artist for
Elda Hildebrand back to her card.Oh you're really working this book club.
I'm trying to help, but I'mgonna go to dinner, but I'm kind
of set about because we're good freedinner from Billy. Yeah, can we
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actually? Can we talk about it? Why he's only going for cocktail hour
and then he's leaving. Okay,then fine, I'm glad I'm not going.
Yeah, can I ask you aquestion? Though? Actually about another
another date dilemma I have. Wow, I have a date. I have
so much date dilemma. So thisboy man asked me out to dinner and
drinks last week, but I wasin Florida. Is it a boy or
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man? I mean's thirty four,so he's a man, right, Okay.
So he asked me to go outfor Friday, but I was going
to Florida, so I said Ican't. So he's like, oh,
okay, well, like we canfigure out I when I get back.
So he was like, hey,I'm free Monday Friday in the weekend like
coming up, and I said,okay, I can do. Just to
send this. He goes, okay, let's do next Friday. So I
had to go to Lisa's thing andthen I'll go out with him after,
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right. So we were talking himmore last week and then I went away.
I didn't really talked him a littlebit, but maybe like here and
there. So just yesterday just toconfirm, because obviously I would just make
other plans for Friday. I textedhim at like two o'clock yesterday afternoon.
It's now ten o'clock tonight, soit's almost twenty four hours. I said,
hey, hope you in a week. Just wanted to confirm for song
for Friday, just so I canyou know how to plan my night?
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Has an answered me? No response, like he asked me on a day
like you know what I mean,like, what could I possibly done?
Well? I talked, you knowwhat, that's sign of what's to come,
right if you if you pursue it, that's a sign of what's to
come. What do you oh yousay, because yeah, you gotta look
at that's a that's a warning sign. You know. They're all duds,
bro, doesn't matter what I do. I mean, you're not the only
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one the many people. And thenI get a little self conscious that like
they might tune in to the showand they heard something because it was like
normally if you have no communication withsomebody, like oh, I couldn't have
done anything wrong. But in myeyes, I'm like, oh my god,
they fucking wasn't to the show andthey heard Billy allude to the fact
that I was fucking somebody in Florida, and they're like, I don't want
to talk to you anymore. Imean, that's a real possibility because I
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told you this morning. A friendsof ours is a server at a restaurant
and she was serving a table thisweek, and while she was putting the
drinks down or whatever she was doing, they were talking about our show,
right, And so then she saidto them, you know, oh,
I know you're talking about BILLI andLisa. Yeah, I know, justin
that's a friend of mine. Itmakes me but like, I'm also not
gonna talk. I'm also not gonnalike talk with you guys about the stuff,
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you know what I mean. Thatwouldn't make sense either, especially too,
because that was the thing I justtold Billy off air, and he
happened to mention it. I'm notmad at him, but it wasn't like
I was broadcast sing it myself.Billy made a joke about it. Yeah,
this is a dud, this one. But also I've never even met
you, so you could get madif I was seen hang out with other
guys. You just move on,Okay, you just move on from that.
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This is like we're taking nothing.I do know, whether I give
it up, whether I don't giveit up, whether I go on a
date, whether I don't go ona date. Like, no matter what,
you can't find a guy why don'tyou have that? Um I got
a message or she messaged me andsaying she helped me. Well she did.
I did take her advice. Idid change my pictures up on Tinder.
I didn't want in the gym.I did want to meet the Celtics
game. I kind of like more, you know, atmosphere, there you
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go. But still I'm over bro, I'm gonna be single forever. And
I was gonna go and have sexand Florida once a month holiday or whatever
I do. I don't even know. Okay, Well, I'm nosive me
because you are married with children,you don't have to do. I'm lucky.
I'm lucky. And when you weredating, Tinder was not even a
thing. No, I've never evenI never even went on dates. I
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don't even know what it is.Yeah, you met a girl, you
you hooked up, and that wasit. But then how did you get
a girlfriend? Just through parties thingslike that? You know, I don't
think i've never before before my wife. I think I ever won on a
date. Never. But you guysstarted dating? Did you start by dating?
We would know we would dating.No, she wouldn't let me have
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sex with her, which which reallymade me happy. You know. It
took about three weeks or a month. Yeah. I remember the first time
we did though. It was itwas the year the Red Sox won the
World Series seven. Right, thatwas one of the years they were one
of seven, right yeah? Ohfour oh seven? Yep, yeah,
yeah, yeah, it was thatbecause we watched the World Series and then
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I think on one of the lastgames they played, she gave me some
play and yeah, you've been eitherfor sixteen years. Memorable. Oh seven,
that's sixteen years ago. Yep.Wow. And I still remember Bobby's
surprise saying to me he saw meA texted me and said, hey,
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guess who I found on my space? Jen Gillis. I go, no,
way, I haven't thought about thatname in years. Yeah, you
know, because I know you' AndI said wow, and I and I
and I you know, I neverthought that I had a shot with her.
So she's still hot of course.But then I said to it,
oh yeah, I said how shelooked? He said, oh, she
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looks good. Um and then andthen and I said to him, and
I was being one hundred per centshere, so I go, what's up?
You're gonna like you're gonna move in, you know or whatever, and
he's like, oh, nah,I don't think so. And then uh,
he friended her or whatever it ison my space. Yeah, and
then she must have saw me becauseremember top friends, Yeah yeah, top
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eight, top eight. Yeah,so I was I think it was his
one of his top friends. Sothen she saw me, and then I
got a message from her, Ohmy god, you live in the next
SENDI over the me which is weird. Was she clean at the time,
Yeah, she had just was justgetting clean and you weren't clean? I
was, yeah, no, Iwas like partly clean. I was like
I'd use a little bit and Iwouldn't use for a little bit. I
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just didn't want to go back tothe street. But did she bring that
up to you when you first startedtalking? What but she was clean?
Yeah? Yeah, yeah, soso she was clean and then uh,
she said, if you want tomeet with me, you have to come
to a meeting. So I wentto the meeting and then pretended that I
was just clean, but I reallywasn't. Oh to like, I love
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that she did that though, youhave to be clean to be with me,
yes, because she was very,very into her recovery. Did she
you know how you read and yourelapse like once you got you said you
got clean, I think first,yeah, like for the first real time
for like a year, and thenyou relapse. Yeah. Did she relapse?
Yeah? Oh yeah, oh shedid. Yeah. When you were
together, yes, yeah, it'sa mess. But we never used together
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when we were younger. We did, but that was different, different that
we didn't use together now. Sobut then we yeah, we we we
got together and both got got cleaning, which is actually what you're not supposed
to do at all, which iscrazy. So that was a big issue.
We're we're kind of um, nota fluke. It's very rare anomally,
it's very rare, and it's it'shighly discouraged, discouraged that you get
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together so early. The difference,which I explained to people, is we
knew each other growing up, andthere was something there. It wasn't we
just like we just met each otherwhen we just got clean, So it
was a little bit different, butstill at risk the emotions of warmone oh
yeah yeah, And now here weare sixteen years later. She won't even
fucking kiss me because of the thingon my lip. I was kissing her
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last night and then she's like,I can't do it anymore because it's like
it's scabby almost Yeah, yeah whatever, Yeah. Yeah. Do you guys
still make out? Yeah, wewill make it out last night, but
no sex. Well some asking doyou ever make out without the intention of
having sex? No, she would, but I can't. I can't do
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that. Yeah, I'm saying Iwant my husband and just want to make
out with me and not want tohave sex. Yeah, there's gotta be
There's gonna be some kind of actthere. Yeah. No, Yeah,
what's wrong just making out? Ilove making out to get to sex.
Yes, you don't want to justmake out with your wife? No,
so you would just like cuddling?You only cuddle for sex? Yeah?
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Oh my god, I could evermarry you. I hate you. It's
a running joke with her where shesays you, I don't know how to
cuddle. Yeah, I don't knowhow to just you after sex cuddle yeah
oh yeah, yeah yeah, butnot just cuddle and then go to sleep.
I don't know what that is.We are the people that do that?
Nobody? Okay, No, literallyI want my husband. She wants
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to cuddle me without intention of sexand make out with me about the intention
of sex. Okay, well maybe, I mean you'll find that guy on
your journey. I can't find onetoo that wants to do anything with me
exactly. We gotta go. It'spool day, dude, Okay, sorry,
God, have a great weekend.I have to say Happy Mother's Day
to all the moms, to mywife, to my mom, to my
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mother in law, to my grandmother, to Lisa Donovan, everybody, dog,
moms, Michelle, Ashley Feldman,whatever, Happy Mother's Oh yeah,
she's a real mom. Oh mygod, she has like a I was
so used to always wishing, Iwas so used to always saying Happy Mother's
Day, every Mother's Day, whenshe just said a dog. Yeah,
well she has a child, ahuman. Um, So have a great
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weekend. I'm not I'm a momto nothing, nothing, No, yeah,
these men literally. Yeah. Myspeech is on Saturday. I hope
I do well. I'm excited foryou. I'm very proud of you,
and I can't wait to be thereto support you. Yeah, Whinnie will
be there, so I might cry. Oh maybe, and I cry.
No, she's not that emotional.No, she's a hard man. Yeah,
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she's a hard fish. So she'sso much she's not a crier so
much that when she does cry upyes, yeah shocked. Oh not that
I fucked up so that it's reallyreally Did she cry when like the kids
are born? Nope, no,got a hard you cry when the kids
are boy, I weeped like alittle fucking bitch. And she was like,
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what are you doing? When haveyou seen her cry your wedding day?
No? I don't think she criedon my wedding. Did you cry
in your wedding day? I weepedlike a bitch. I'm trying to think
of when she cried. Um,oh well, yeah, like someone died
in her life. That was closewhere her dad died. But I wasn't
around for that. But she hadsomeone else, like a mentor, like
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a recovery mentor. Woman died.Yeah, so that I saw her cry
for that, But it so notfor your wedding, not for your kids,
not for nothing. Yeah. No, it's a hard shout. That's
why when you meet her people think, oh, oh my god, it
took me like five years. Ithink she actually would have a conversation with
me, which I like that becauseshe's not flirty. No, that's like
naturally now that we're cool. LikeI can. I can chat with her
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and like not think that she hatesme. Yeah, she ain't flirting with
no one. Yeah, and Ilove it every second of it. Yeah.
Anyway, Uh yeah, that's goingout. We'll have the recap on
Monday, but I do have anappointment Monday, so it's gonna be quick
for what I have to get afall up from my teeth. Okay,
By the way, I was sohonored that you mentioned me in your your
spot. You were saying that weall noticed how much your more confidence you
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have in your smile. Oh yeah, Like then we can name drop tomorrow
morning. Eight ten another shot atthe Taylor Residency, and then eight twenty
the Legend J don't call it acomeback. I've been there. I'm watching
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Yeah, Where Take Your Mother
All right, let's go, let'sgo put you have one stop. Second,
come on, it's pool day.A right, it's time to go.
All right, god, it ispool day. Do you need to
be there to watch the pool beopening cycle path? I love to do
that. Hi, Hi, everybodyopening it up yourself? No? No,
no, I have a guy comes, so what do you have to
be there for? Um? Becausehe opens it and then he doesn't do
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the chemicals. I do, soI kind of have to get a sample
of it, then go to thepool store buy all the chemicals, put
them in the sooner. I dothat the sooner my pool. Who heats
up? And then it's good tostore cupcake. Charlie's just followed me.
Okay anyway, Yeah, hi everybody. It is the billion Lisa After Show
podcast, last one of the week, And yeah, I was supposed to
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be tomorrow from my pool, andI just want to say this, what
do you want to say? Iknow that if you don't have a pool,
you don't give a shit that whenI say I got my pool.
If you do have a pool,you understand sathing with the peloton girl,
Yeah, I just got a pelotonon September before September. I knew very
little about Peloton. Not only thatI didn't care one bit, but now
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that I do, I get it. But the only the Peloton girl,
Ema Love Well, she's coming inMonday. She's a good local connection.
Yeah, so that's a big reason. It isn't because of my love for
her, you know what I meanas an instructor on Peloton partly is,
but she's from Martha's vineon She's throwingthe first pitch to the Red Sox game.
So I thought it was a goodidea. Um, but I'd never
pull up until two years ago.So it's an exciting day. So I
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don't know. I just want tosay that. Okay, I know a
lot of some people don't have apool, and they're like, good for
you, justin and your fucking pool. Good for you. Um So if
you're thinking that, I'm sorry.You can come over and swim in my
pool, okay, anytime you want. Just don't pee in it. I
p in pools all the time.Wait, what doesn't you pee in the
pool? Yeah you're not. Nope, you're not coming to my house.
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Gilly and Lisa in the morning.Behind the scenes look into Boston's favorite morning
show, that's a little too muchinformation. The after show podcast, we
had a whole discussion on this lastyear, and I my words were misconstrued.
The question was have you ever paidin your pool? And the answer
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is yes, I have. Idon't on the regular, but there have
been situations when when I did,but I go behind the garage. It's
like a good New Hampshire boy,that's what you are. Funny story when
I when I bought the house andthe first year we opened the pool,
we had some pool company, differentcompany than it's just a guy that does
it now, but we hired apool company. So this guy rolls up,
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he opens the pool, you know, and he kind of looks like
a hillbilly. You know. Ionly live in Salem, so it's not
like I'm way up in New Hampshire, so yo opening the pool and I'm
I'm I'm in my backyard behind mygarage, working on the lawn, and
he yells over to me, Hey, uh, I'm just gonna go to
the bathroom. I said, okay, and I turn around and there he
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is peeing behind my garage, rightin front of me, dick out and
everything. Okay, how was it? I'm fine, I don't. I
mean, take a good look.No, that's cure. Yeah, but
it was just crazy. He sawnothing wrong with it. You know,
he was peeing in the woods orbehind the garage like everybody in New Hampshire
is supposed to, I guess.So anyway, Yeah, it's pool day,
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so I'm excited about that. I'mleaving now. Oh yeah, so
I'm leaving now. I have togo to get my wife's Mother's Day gift.
What are you gonna get it?It's just gonna be a gift card
to the to the med SPA.Okay, so she can get whatever she
wants. That's good. Um.And then you know there'll be that and
then me. Because I'm a gift, you're gonna make her not a mother.
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Uh So, anyway, what doyou do for Mother's Day? Nothing?
My mom doesn't want to hang outwith me. She wants to get
my dad. We did, Yeah, I took her to lunch on Tuesday,
and then last week I paid forher hair, so she's taken care
of. But she said, Idon't want to do anything because my brother
offered to do something and he waslike, she goes, no, I'll
see you on Saturday. So there'sgonna go for to day and do that
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thing. So yeah, I havea busy weekend, though, I feel
like because you're coming on habor Hill, I am so Friday we have the
thing, and then shot the morningwe have your thing. So I feel
like, right there, I'm supposedto go on a date on Friday,
but I don't think it's happening.Well, oh, so wait, you're
coming a memoir. What do youmean you're coming to the book club.
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I am coming of book book club, but I wasn't gonna go to dinner
with you guys after because I hada date. But I don't think I
have a date anymore. So you'recoming to dinner now? No, No,
I'm not coming to dinner now becausethat's a drive the makeup artist for
Elda Hildebrand back to her card.Oh you're really working this book club.
I'm trying to help, but I'mgonna go to dinner, but I'm kind
of set about because we're good freedinner from Billy. Yeah, can we
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actually? Can we talk about it? Why he's only going for cocktail hour
and then he's leaving. Okay,then fine, I'm glad I'm not going.
Yeah, can I ask you aquestion? Though? Actually about another
another date dilemma I have. Wow, I have a date. I have
so much date dilemma. So thisboy man asked me out to dinner and
drinks last week, but I wasin Florida. Is it a boy or
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man? I mean's thirty four,so he's a man, right, Okay.
So he asked me to go outfor Friday, but I was going
to Florida, so I said Ican't. So he's like, oh,
okay, well, like we canfigure out I when I get back.
So he was like, hey,I'm free Monday Friday in the weekend like
coming up, and I said,okay, I can do. Just to
send this. He goes, okay, let's do next Friday. So I
had to go to Lisa's thing andthen I'll go out with him after,
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right. So we were talking himmore last week and then I went away.
I didn't really talked him a littlebit, but maybe like here and
there. So just yesterday just toconfirm, because obviously I would just make
other plans for Friday. I textedhim at like two o'clock yesterday afternoon.
It's now ten o'clock tonight, soit's almost twenty four hours. I said,
hey, hope you in a week. Just wanted to confirm for song
for Friday, just so I canyou know how to plan my night?
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Has an answered me? No response, like he asked me on a day
like you know what I mean,like, what could I possibly done?
Well? I talked, you knowwhat, that's sign of what's to come,
right if you if you pursue it, that's a sign of what's to
come. What do you oh yousay, because yeah, you gotta look
at that's a that's a warning sign. You know. They're all duds,
bro, doesn't matter what I do. I mean, you're not the only
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one the many people. And thenI get a little self conscious that like
they might tune in to the showand they heard something because it was like
normally if you have no communication withsomebody, like oh, I couldn't have
done anything wrong. But in myeyes, I'm like, oh my god,
they fucking wasn't to the show andthey heard Billy allude to the fact
that I was fucking somebody in Florida, and they're like, I don't want
to talk to you anymore. Imean, that's a real possibility because I
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told you this morning. A friendsof ours is a server at a restaurant
and she was serving a table thisweek, and while she was putting the
drinks down or whatever she was doing, they were talking about our show,
right, And so then she saidto them, you know, oh,
I know you're talking about BILLI andLisa. Yeah, I know, justin
that's a friend of mine. Itmakes me but like, I'm also not
gonna talk. I'm also not gonnalike talk with you guys about the stuff,
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you know what I mean. Thatwouldn't make sense either, especially too,
because that was the thing I justtold Billy off air, and he
happened to mention it. I'm notmad at him, but it wasn't like
I was broadcast sing it myself.Billy made a joke about it. Yeah,
this is a dud, this one. But also I've never even met
you, so you could get madif I was seen hang out with other
guys. You just move on,Okay, you just move on from that.
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This is like we're taking nothing.I do know, whether I give
it up, whether I don't giveit up, whether I go on a
date, whether I don't go ona date. Like, no matter what,
you can't find a guy why don'tyou have that? Um I got
a message or she messaged me andsaying she helped me. Well she did.
I did take her advice. Idid change my pictures up on Tinder.
I didn't want in the gym.I did want to meet the Celtics
game. I kind of like more, you know, atmosphere, there you
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go. But still I'm over bro, I'm gonna be single forever. And
I was gonna go and have sexand Florida once a month holiday or whatever
I do. I don't even know. Okay, Well, I'm nosive me
because you are married with children,you don't have to do. I'm lucky.
I'm lucky. And when you weredating, Tinder was not even a
thing. No, I've never evenI never even went on dates. I
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don't even know what it is.Yeah, you met a girl, you
you hooked up, and that wasit. But then how did you get
a girlfriend? Just through parties thingslike that? You know, I don't
think i've never before before my wife. I think I ever won on a
date. Never. But you guysstarted dating? Did you start by dating?
We would know we would dating.No, she wouldn't let me have
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sex with her, which which reallymade me happy. You know. It
took about three weeks or a month. Yeah. I remember the first time
we did though. It was itwas the year the Red Sox won the
World Series seven. Right, thatwas one of the years they were one
of seven, right yeah? Ohfour oh seven? Yep, yeah,
yeah, yeah, it was thatbecause we watched the World Series and then
(08:41):
I think on one of the lastgames they played, she gave me some
play and yeah, you've been eitherfor sixteen years. Memorable. Oh seven,
that's sixteen years ago. Yep.Wow. And I still remember Bobby's
surprise saying to me he saw meA texted me and said, hey,
(09:03):
guess who I found on my space? Jen Gillis. I go, no,
way, I haven't thought about thatname in years. Yeah, you
know, because I know you' AndI said wow, and I and I
and I you know, I neverthought that I had a shot with her.
So she's still hot of course.But then I said to it,
oh yeah, I said how shelooked? He said, oh, she
(09:24):
looks good. Um and then andthen and I said to him, and
I was being one hundred per centshere, so I go, what's up?
You're gonna like you're gonna move in, you know or whatever, and
he's like, oh, nah,I don't think so. And then uh,
he friended her or whatever it ison my space. Yeah, and
then she must have saw me becauseremember top friends, Yeah yeah, top
(09:45):
eight, top eight. Yeah,so I was I think it was his
one of his top friends. Sothen she saw me, and then I
got a message from her, Ohmy god, you live in the next
SENDI over the me which is weird. Was she clean at the time,
Yeah, she had just was justgetting clean and you weren't clean? I
was, yeah, no, Iwas like partly clean. I was like
I'd use a little bit and Iwouldn't use for a little bit. I
(10:07):
just didn't want to go back tothe street. But did she bring that
up to you when you first startedtalking? What but she was clean?
Yeah? Yeah, yeah, soso she was clean and then uh,
she said, if you want tomeet with me, you have to come
to a meeting. So I wentto the meeting and then pretended that I
was just clean, but I reallywasn't. Oh to like, I love
(10:28):
that she did that though, youhave to be clean to be with me,
yes, because she was very,very into her recovery. Did she
you know how you read and yourelapse like once you got you said you
got clean, I think first,yeah, like for the first real time
for like a year, and thenyou relapse. Yeah. Did she relapse?
Yeah? Oh yeah, oh shedid. Yeah. When you were
together, yes, yeah, it'sa mess. But we never used together
(10:56):
when we were younger. We did, but that was different, different that
we didn't use together now. Sobut then we yeah, we we we
got together and both got got cleaning, which is actually what you're not supposed
to do at all, which iscrazy. So that was a big issue.
We're we're kind of um, nota fluke. It's very rare anomally,
it's very rare, and it's it'shighly discouraged, discouraged that you get
(11:20):
together so early. The difference,which I explained to people, is we
knew each other growing up, andthere was something there. It wasn't we
just like we just met each otherwhen we just got clean, So it
was a little bit different, butstill at risk the emotions of warmone oh
yeah yeah, And now here weare sixteen years later. She won't even
fucking kiss me because of the thingon my lip. I was kissing her
(11:46):
last night and then she's like,I can't do it anymore because it's like
it's scabby almost Yeah, yeah whatever, Yeah. Yeah. Do you guys
still make out? Yeah, wewill make it out last night, but
no sex. Well some asking doyou ever make out without the intention of
having sex? No, she would, but I can't. I can't do
(12:07):
that. Yeah, I'm saying Iwant my husband and just want to make
out with me and not want tohave sex. Yeah, there's gotta be
There's gonna be some kind of actthere. Yeah. No, Yeah,
what's wrong just making out? Ilove making out to get to sex.
Yes, you don't want to justmake out with your wife? No,
so you would just like cuddling?You only cuddle for sex? Yeah?
(12:28):
Oh my god, I could evermarry you. I hate you. It's
a running joke with her where shesays you, I don't know how to
cuddle. Yeah, I don't knowhow to just you after sex cuddle yeah
oh yeah, yeah yeah, butnot just cuddle and then go to sleep.
I don't know what that is.We are the people that do that?
Nobody? Okay, No, literallyI want my husband. She wants
(12:48):
to cuddle me without intention of sexand make out with me about the intention
of sex. Okay, well maybe, I mean you'll find that guy on
your journey. I can't find onetoo that wants to do anything with me
exactly. We gotta go. It'spool day, dude, Okay, sorry,
God, have a great weekend.I have to say Happy Mother's Day
to all the moms, to mywife, to my mom, to my
(13:09):
mother in law, to my grandmother, to Lisa Donovan, everybody, dog,
moms, Michelle, Ashley Feldman,whatever, Happy Mother's Oh yeah,
she's a real mom. Oh mygod, she has like a I was
so used to always wishing, Iwas so used to always saying Happy Mother's
Day, every Mother's Day, whenshe just said a dog. Yeah,
well she has a child, ahuman. Um, So have a great
(13:30):
weekend. I'm not I'm a momto nothing, nothing, No, yeah,
these men literally. Yeah. Myspeech is on Saturday. I hope
I do well. I'm excited foryou. I'm very proud of you,
and I can't wait to be thereto support you. Yeah, Whinnie will
be there, so I might cry. Oh maybe, and I cry.
No, she's not that emotional.No, she's a hard man. Yeah,
(13:54):
she's a hard fish. So she'sso much she's not a crier so
much that when she does cry upyes, yeah shocked. Oh not that
I fucked up so that it's reallyreally Did she cry when like the kids
are born? Nope, no,got a hard you cry when the kids
are boy, I weeped like alittle fucking bitch. And she was like,
(14:18):
what are you doing? When haveyou seen her cry your wedding day?
No? I don't think she criedon my wedding. Did you cry
in your wedding day? I weepedlike a bitch. I'm trying to think
of when she cried. Um,oh well, yeah, like someone died
in her life. That was closewhere her dad died. But I wasn't
around for that. But she hadsomeone else, like a mentor, like
(14:41):
a recovery mentor. Woman died.Yeah, so that I saw her cry
for that, But it so notfor your wedding, not for your kids,
not for nothing. Yeah. No, it's a hard shout. That's
why when you meet her people think, oh, oh my god, it
took me like five years. Ithink she actually would have a conversation with
me, which I like that becauseshe's not flirty. No, that's like
naturally now that we're cool. LikeI can. I can chat with her
(15:03):
and like not think that she hatesme. Yeah, she ain't flirting with
no one. Yeah, and Ilove it every second of it. Yeah.
Anyway, Uh yeah, that's goingout. We'll have the recap on
Monday, but I do have anappointment Monday, so it's gonna be quick
for what I have to get afall up from my teeth. Okay,
By the way, I was sohonored that you mentioned me in your your
spot. You were saying that weall noticed how much your more confidence you
(15:24):
have in your smile. Oh yeah, Like then we can name drop tomorrow
morning. Eight ten another shot atthe Taylor Residency, and then eight twenty
the Legend J don't call it acomeback. I've been there. I'm watching
(15:48):
Yeah, Where Take Your Mother
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