Rich Queer Aunties

Episode: Money Loves Circles - Working with Friends ft. Lola

In this groundbreaking first guest episode, Christabel sits down with Oakland-based stylist Lola to challenge one of capitalism's biggest lies: "Don't mix business with friendship."

In This Episode:

• Why wealthy people always do business with family and friends
• The capitalistic conditioning that keeps marginalized communities poor
• How to navigate conflict in business ...

In this deeply vulnerable Part 1 episode, Christabel and Kachi peel back the layers of their origin stories to understand how they learned to navigate conflict, safety, and love.

Coming from two distinct backgrounds, both shaped by the violence of the Biafran genocide survivors and the silence of a strict religious household, we explore the survival strategies that saved us as children but challenged us as adults.

In this episode, ...

Christabel and Kachi are back. Two queer Igbo aunties, newly engaged, talking honestly about what it means to choose a lesbian life in the shadow of homophobic parents, church aunties, and colonial expectations.

In this episode they unpack what engagement and turning forty have stirred up. Christabel shares what it is to propose after two divorces and a Jehovah’s Witness childhood. Kachi talks about returning to the community they ...

We keep saying we have mother wounds, but what if the real injury is deeper than our mothers? In this episode, we ask the question no one wants to touch: Who are our mothers, really? Not the role they performed. Not the fears they passed down. But the person underneath all that patriarchal survival.

Christabel and Kachi crack open a deeply personal conversation about rage, abandonment, girlhood, queerness, and what it means to love...

Love & Rage — What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing?

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How do we honor our rage without becoming who harmed us? In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we talk about love and rage, what we inherited, what we’re choosing instead, and how we’re learning to hold both without abandoning ourselves.

We speak as African daughters, as queer ...

In this raw and reflective episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel and Kachi use the hit show Severance as a powerful metaphor for the emotional fragmentation many of us endure, especially queer, Black, immigrant, and formerly religious folks.

Through deeply personal storytelling, they explore themes of reintegration, rage, community, grief, and the courage it takes to reclaim your full self in a world that rewards compartmentali...

In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation. We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another.

Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution, and deepening relational skills, no...

Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys.

In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language?

We explore:

✨ How indigenous wisdom offers pathways to h...

Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom

In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom. 

They explore questions like: 

• Are the tools we’re using to heal truly liberating us? 

• What happens when th...

In this heartfelt end-of-year episode, Christabel and Kachi sit down to reflect on 2024, its challenges, triumphs, and transformative lessons. From navigating healing journeys and embracing authenticity to setting bold intentions for the year ahead, this conversation dives deep into vulnerability, creativity, and the power of showing up fully in our lives.

Join us as we share personal stories, honor growth, and explore what it mean...

In this deeply personal episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we confront a difficult and often unspoken question: What do you choose when both anti-Blackness and homophobia are constant realities? As queer African women navigating these harsh truths, we share our stories of living between worlds - Christabel a nurse, and writer who immigrated to the U.S. from Ghana, and Kachi, a healer and Nigerian artist. As two queer women, we’re in Gh...

Show Notes:In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we bring it all together - how our personal journeys of healing and self-discovery are deeply connected to yours. After sharing our own vulnerable stories in the last two episodes, today we reflect on what it all means for you, our dear queer babies, and why your healing matters.Christabel and Kachi discuss the importance of storytelling in the healing process and how being open abo...

In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel's partner, Kachi, returns to the podcast to interview Christabel. They delve into Christabel's journey of healing through therapy, navigating complex PTSD, and embracing her authentic self.Christabel shares personal stories about her struggles with anger and emotional outbursts, her challenging experiences growing up in an abusive household, and her journey to self-worth and accepta...

In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel welcomes a special guest, their partner  Kachi, who shares their personal journey of self-discovery and healing. Kachi, an Igbo-American Nigerian artist and recovering engineer, delves into their transition from conforming to societal expectations to embracing their full, authentic self.They discuss the influence of culture, family, and identity on their path, including the pivotal ...

Welcome back to RichQueerAunties, I'm Christabel, your host - nurse leader, writer, and African auntie. Today's episode explores boundaries within the unique context of diasporic origins.Boundaries are often discussed but not in ways that fit our lived experiences. For many of us from the global South or with parents from there, boundaries are intricate. We grew up valuing community and family over individualism.So how do we begin ...

Is a Lack of Authenticity Keeping You Stuck?Raise your hand if you're tired of feeling disconnected despite your success.You might think the problem is just about needing a break or figuring out your personal style or whatever else that has you feeling disconnected. But what if it's deeper?You've been told that these parts of your life are separate—your style, your career moves, how you should handle relationships. They sell you on...

Hello, wonderful listeners!I’m excited to announce that the Rich Queer Aunties podcast is back! After a year-long hiatus, I’m returning with fresh insights and a renewed focus on empowering Black queer women to embrace their most authentic selves.In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey and the challenges I’ve faced, including my high ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score and how it’s shaped my path. We’ll dive into th...

This episode is sponsored by Rich Queer Aunties. Visit Rich Queer Aunties for all your fly RQA merch.In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties podcast, host Christabel invites guest Dan to share their journey from being raised as Jehovah's Witnesses and their spiritual journey afterwards.Dan, a multi-dimensional being who is an organizer, spiritualist, sorcerer, and abstract visual artist. Dan also uses sound and music as tools for hea...