Busting At The Seams

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
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on tight. We got it for you here. It is
Strawberry Letter, subject busting at the Themes. Dear Stephen Shirley,
I'm a forty two year old married woman with a
blended family with five children total. My brother in law
lives with us and we have two dogs. My brother
in law picked up a straight cat that lives outside
because one of the children is allergic to it. We

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have a four bedroom house and we're doing okay financially,
but we are living paycheck to paycheck. It would be
great if my brother in law could pitch in and
help out, but he has some kind of mental issues
that keep him from holding down a job. I would
love to know what's wrong with him since he's living
with us, but my husband says it's a long standing
illness that no one has ever asked him about. Well,

(01:11):
that's just fine and dandy. Let's just hope he keeps
it under control while he's sleeping on our couch. I've
got my hands full with the children, so I don't
need another one to look after. Just when I was
thinking I needed some help to get my business going
on the side, my youngest brother told me he was
moving closer to me. He said that he found an
apartment on a website where three children, three people were

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looking for one more roommate. I suggested he move in
with us so he can help me start my nail business.
He also works full time and that income would help
us out because Los Angeles is expensive. When I told
my husband that my brother would be moving in, he
shot the idea down before I could finish. I was
so mad I could scream. He said that our house

(01:56):
is already busting at the scenes. I told him his Craig,
a freeloading brother, can lead, And now he's not speaking
to me. How dare he choose his brother over mind?
If we're stacking up people in the house, how does
he choose who gets to stay? Well, he did it
this time, but really he doesn't get to choose because

(02:18):
the house belongs to the both of you. It's our house, okay,
yours and his. I agree. It's a lot of people, animals,
all that in the house, and the only ones that
really should have a free ride are the children are
your children. That's it. Period. You don't even know how
to help your brother in law because they won't tell
you what's wrong. I mean, this whole situation I think

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is wrong because you have not been allowed to have
a say about what's going down in your own home.
The time is now, though, for you to say something,
I mean a family meeting. Something needs to be called.
You need to let your husband know that your brother
is just as welcome there as his brother is. At
least your brother can help out with some of the

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bills and stuff, since you guys said you're living paycheck
to paycheck and your brother is going to help you
with your business A plus so far, it's a win
when if your brother moves in. But having said all
of that, I don't think this is an issue worth
losing your marriage over, or a big enough problem to
get into a major fight about. I mean it's big though,

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Don't get me wrong, it's already gotten pretty ugly with
your man not speaking to you now, which is crazy,
but he should have given you the respect and consideration
as a woman of the house. He definitely should have
discussed his brother moving in with you first, and you,
on the other hand, could have just moved in your
brother too, since this is what we're doing. But you

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did it the right way and checked with him your
husband beforehand. He shot it down and the house is crowded,
so I just say your brother should go ahead with
his original plan move in with those roommates, and you
and your husband need to talk, let him know how
he made you feel, and he needs to stop that. Steve, Well,
thank you, Shelly, appreciate all that wholesome are answers you

(04:03):
was giving an advice. I ain't got none of that.
Let's just gonna get to this letter. This Steven Sherley.
I'm a forty two year old married woman with a
blended family with five children total. My brother in law
lives with us and we have two dogs. My brother
in law picked up a straight catain lives outside him
because one of the children is allergic to it, and

(04:26):
we have a faux bed room house. Okay, now, let's
do some math. We got five damn kids, we got
two dogs. That's seven. You and your husband that's nine,
Your brother in law ten, and that damn caddy even
bought to the house is ten. That's ten miles a
wee fee all this in the faux bed room. I'm

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just gonna tell you, FLA's too many damn people to him.
It's too many damn people and him. And let's start
with what's too many. First of all, his damn brother
in law could pitch in and help, but he got
some kind of mental issues. Now, we got to be

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careful here because mental illness is a big thing now,
but it's a whole other thing that that's on your job.
You got to be careful on your job. I ain't
got to be crazy. I ain't got to be careful
when you're trying to move crazy as people in my house. See,
because I don't have HR my house. HR is not

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at my house. HR is on your job, and you
have to handle mental illus issues very seriously on your job.
We ain't at the job. We at my house and
we don't have hrt my house. So now why is
his nutty ass state? Let's just really talk about that,
because we're talking about nut ass person right here, because
you shouldn't have been saying he living with us, and

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and and and and and and and and and and
and he got some type of mental issue that where
he can't hold a job. See hr him down there
so he can't hold a job, so h I won't
let him down there but here in the house. And
I love to know what's wrong with him since he
lived with him. But my husband said, it's a long
standing illness that no one has ever asked him about. Well,

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let's talk about this. I could help you better if
I knew what the symptoms was. What is his nutted
ass doing? Is he waving that flies in the air
that ain't down? That's what I need to know that.
I need to know. What is he doing? Do he
be talking and bite his tongue all the time? Do
he be sitting up there and all of a sudden

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he just pee on his self? I need to know
the symptoms. What is his long standing illness that nobody
talks about. Hold on, Steve, we'll have first two of
yours coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's Strawberry letter, subject busting out the seams. We'll be
back right after this you're listening show. See, there's just

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too many people in this house. I'm just gonna be
which Shelley gave you a lot of solid advice about
your brother and everything. I ain't even got to that.
But let's just go quickly. What we do know. It's
um five kids at the house. You got five blended fami.
You got five kids. You got you and your husband.
That's two. You got two dogs, that's seven, that's nine.

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You got your brother in law ten. He nutted and
he didn't bought a damn straight cat home. He can't
take care of his own ass. Now he bringing other
animals in the house. That this lunatic. What we don't
even know what's wrong with him because he has your brother,
your husband say he got a long stand in the illness,
but don't nobody who it is. I can help you
if I knew the symptoms. Like example, I said, if

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he's like swatting that flies in the ad that ain't there.
I would need to know that. You know, do he
reach up under the sink and just stop eating a sponge?
Did he do that? As he's setting up again? The
wonder and he barking at dogs going by. Do he
do that? What level of nutting? Are we talking about it?

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And see I can talk about this even though you
said mental illness in your letter, that's mental illness down
at a job with HR when it's when it's not that.
Your job is not mental illness. It's his ass crazy.
It's something wrong with him. He looted, He ain't wrapped right.
He touched. He touched, and it's not by an angel.
He's touched. He's slipping off. You gotta everybody got touched,

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people in their family. Awesome call said, stay out in
the car all day, just come in that night, act
like he's driving. I had an uncle just set behind
the wheel of a car all day long and then
bringing another ass in there for dinner and then go
to sleep. I didn't have people that say it. Now

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you want to ask him what's wrong? But he got
a long stand in illness. Don't nobody know nothing about it.
There's too many people in the house. And then you
want to hope he keep it under control while he's
sleeping on yall couch. He on the couch because you
got five kids, you and your husband and him, and
you got faux bed room house. You say, y'all doing okay,
but y'all living check and check, and then you're so

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you don't need another one to look out. Just when
I was thinking I needed some help to get my
business going on the side, my younger brother told me
he was moving closer to me. He said he found
the department on the website where three people were looking
for one more roommate. I suggested he moved away with
us so he can step mep me help me start
my nail business. You can't start no nail business. You

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can't start no nail business. Why not in that little
crowded ass house. And then you need your brother to
come and to help you financially. Where he gonna stay,
your brother in law already on the couch, where as
you're fitting to put a manicure and pedocure. Staying there
in that crowded ass house. I'm gonna tell you right now,

(09:54):
you're gonna lose customer. Soonest, one of them damn dogs
jump in that pedocut water. Ain't nobody gonna I want
to put their feet in that in She wants you
to have had dogs playing in the water. People don't
want your little nail. You don't have room in your
house for no damn nails, salt. Why are you thinking
of opening a business when all you really got room

(10:14):
for and said, help the judicial system. You're gonna open
up your house as a jail cell and keep people
in there that's on the house arrests. You do stuff
like that because they used to cry in the ass conditions.
But you can't have people coming up where you're gonna
do the nails that out on the porch. She said
she was gonna open it up in the house where
she where she gonna She ain't got no money for

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and she can't go get no stoke. She just said
a brother was gonna come down that help her with
the nails and chip in with the rent. Now, then
you told that to your husband. Your husband don't want
your brother in that. He put his foot down now,
but his damn brother in they're laying on the couch,
ain't making a quarter because he can't work because he
got some mental issue. What is wrong with him? If

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the people let your job don't want him, why I
got to want it. I'm gonna tell you right now.
If somebody in the employment world don't won't you. I don't.
I'm not giving you the couch or nothing. Why y'all
watch TV at he in that laying on the damn couch,
the kids in there laying on Uncle Rogers with his
fat ass set up in here, and now he heat.

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Now you can't find one of the kids. You don't
know if his answers ain't one of these babies or what.
You don't know what his illness is now here in
that cooking, and you can't find the cat. You gotta
get his ass out of there because you don't know
what his illness is. Why is this dog limping like that? Well?
What is that here in that cooking? Can? You need
to find out what is wrong with his nutty ass

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before you start inviting. Now your brother, let me tell
you something. You ain't got nowhere for your brother to sleep.
The only thing I can do is how your brother.
I say, let your brother come on in that hell
damn what your husband mad about it? I say, let
your brother come on in there, and his ass sleep
on the couch with the brother in law. That way
he can watch his ass, because somebody gotta watched his
crazy ass anyway. And if your brother got good sits now,

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ain't nobody gonna be laying down, but you can sleep
sitting up. I said, I lived in cough through you.
You sleep sitting up because because when you tied, your
asses tied. But you hire your brother in law, you
hire your brother to watch your brother in law for
people start missing in that house because they still don't
know what's wrong with it. So what we've come to
conclusion in this house, it's two minute damn people in here,

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and the last thing you need to bring in here.
There's some damn customers trying to get their damn hands
and nails done because it ain't no where to sit.
They ass they can't sit on you can't put it kitchen.
Y'all gonna be doing nails all on the back porch,
sitting on steps, and don't nobody nobody's coming back over here.
You gotta do. You got to do hands for two

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dollars and feet for two dollars. That's the only way
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