February 3, 2022 • 12 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 42 year old married woman but I’m separated from my husband. I’ve been married 4 years and I was in a long-distance marriage because my husband works almost 3 hours away. He was offered a job that he couldn’t refuse, so I told him to take it. With him being out of town during the week, I got a home security system installed, with 4 cameras........................................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
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submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
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this one right here, right now. And you just never
know because it could be your letter today. Buckle up
(00:23):
and hold on tight. We got it for you here
it is Strawberry Letter. Subject caught on camera. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a forty two year old married woman, but I've
separated from my husband. I've been married four years and
I was in a long distance marriage because my husband
works almost three hours away. He was offered a job
(00:43):
that he couldn't refuse, so I told him to take it.
With him being out of town during the week. I
got a home security system installed with four cameras. I
put one camera in the basement and one in the
main living area, one at the back door and one
at the front door. I put the alarm app on
my phone so I could watch the cameras while I
(01:05):
was at work. On a Tuesday about a month ago,
I was at work and I got an alert that
the alarm was going off, then it was reset. It
sent chills up my spine because I was the only
one in town and the only person that could have
reset my alarm. I looked at the cameras and I
saw my husband in our abasement and a woman was
(01:28):
with him. The woman sat down as my husband went upstairs.
He came back minutes later with his garment bag. Then
he kissed the woman and they walked out the basement door.
I called him, and he lied and said he was
at work and about to go to lunch and he
would call me back. I told him to quit lying
(01:49):
because I know he's in town and he had a
woman in our house. I asked him why he didn't
tell me he was in town, and why he would
bring a woman into my house. He hung up on me.
That night, he called and said he had a business
event to attend, so he needed his tucks, and he
used the basement door out of respect for me so
(02:10):
the woman wouldn't be all over our home. He said
he was going to take some time away from me
to work on himself. It has been almost a month
since he's reached out to me, so I filed for
a legal separation. Still no word from him. Is my
marriage over? Yes? I'm sorry, but it is. It's over.
(02:34):
I mean he was caught red handed on tape. Period.
Everything you saw in that camera was true and real,
no matter what lies. He thought of later and told
you he had a dinner to go to so he
needed a text. He had a business event to attend,
so he needed a tuck, and he didn't want the
(02:55):
woman all over your house. Lies, lies, lies, lies, lies.
Evidence clearly in his behavior that you saw on tape
not what he says, So don't let him play you.
Do not be fooled. He came back to town, he
didn't tell you, brought another woman to your house, kissed
her in your house, and then they left out together.
You're his wife. He completely disrespected you. He betrayed your trust.
(03:18):
I mean, I'm sorry you had to see this and
that you had to go through this. He's wrong. You
did a good thing by filing for a separation. I say,
just go on and finish up the deal. File for
a divorce. He was hardly ever there anyway, and he's
not coming back. You haven't heard from him for a month,
so I say good out now, Steve, I really don't
understand this letter. I'm sorry, I don't called on cameras
(03:42):
to what we're talking about. Yeah, what what's the letter for?
It starts off with obvia stuff in it to me,
Stephen Sherley, I'm a forty two year all married woman,
but I'm separated from my husband now. Curiously, in this letter,
she never said she was separated from her husband. But
(04:03):
I'm separated from my husband. We all know what that means.
And then she says, I've been married four years. It
was and I was in I was, so this separation
is what they've decided. I was in a long distance
marriage because my husband works almost three hours away and
(04:24):
he was offered a job he couldn't refuse, so I
told him to take it. Now with him being out
of town, doing the weakest woman to put a camera
system in the house in the basement, the front door,
the back, doing all this hill and now while he
was at work on Tuesday, about a month ago, she
ain't got an alert on the lawn was going off.
Then it was reset, as she said, sent chills up
(04:47):
her spine. Because I was the only one in town
and the only person that could have reset my alarm,
where you're not the only person that could reset the
alarm because it got reset. I looked at the cameras
and I saw my husband in our basement and a
woman was with him. The woman sat down as my
husband went upstairs. He came back minutes later with this
(05:08):
garment bag. Then he kissed a woman and they walked
out the basement door. I called him, and he lied
and said he was at work and about to go
to lunch and he would call me back. That was
the lie he told. That was the only lie he
told in this letter ship, because I'm going to surprise you.
I'm going to surprise you, shill. I told him to
(05:30):
quit lying because I know he was in town. He
had a woman in our house, and I asked him
why he didn't tell me he was in town and
why he would bring a woman into the house. He
hung up on me. That night, he called me and
said he had a business event to attend, so he
needed his tucks, and he used the basement door out
of respect for me, so the woman wouldn't be all
over the house. He said he was gonna take some
time away for me to work on himself. It's been
(05:52):
almost a month since he reached out to me, So
I filed for divorce. Still no word of him, and
as my marriage over, she filed for legation. Yeah, she
filed for legal separations. That's why she's shirley. You were
saying that he lied about coming home with the tucks
and all like this, like him, Well, he was on camera.
He never denied that after he found out he was
(06:15):
on camera. But the reason he came in the house
could have very well been true to get the tuxed though. No,
that's really going because all they did was kissing, go
out the dope. It could have been a tuxedo. It
could have been a business meeting. He told her the truth.
The problem is the truth wasn't enough. Yeah, the fact
(06:38):
the even tell her he was in town. Oh I
got more. Okay, all right, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
subject of today's strawberry letter caught on camera. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:59):
The jet is caught on camera. Caught on camera, says
it all this woman put all these cameras in her house.
Heard her husband are currently separated. She gets an alert
on her phone that says the candle alarm has been reset. Well,
she's thinking her husband out of town, but he's in town.
(07:19):
She looked on the cameras. He in the basement with
a woman. She calls him, He kisses her and walks
out with a garden back. He calls her and asked
where he had He say he at work, fit to
go to lunch. He lied, he lied, So she called
(07:40):
him up and said, no, you wouldn't. I saw you
in the house with this woman and you kissed her. Click,
he hung up. He hung up because he was off balanced,
because he needed to regroup. So he's busted. Yes, So
now he calls back that night and said, all right,
here the deal. I was in town. I had a
(08:01):
business meeting to go to, so I needed to come
home and get my tuxedo, and out of respect for you,
I don't want this woman all over the house, so
I came through the basement. Though that's the truth, because
he wasn't denying that there wasn't a woman at the house.
He wasn't denying he didn't pick something up. He only
(08:21):
left with a garment bag that was probably the tuxedo,
and it was probably a business meeting. He did not
lie to her. The problem is the truth. You should
believe the truth. You saw it. Shirley's right. This marriage
is over. Is my marriage over? And you haven't heard
(08:44):
from him in a month, but I bet she has.
Oh yeah, hell yeah, he's wrong. Dad wrong is not
her fault in any way. But now that you know
the truth, what you're gonna do, it's time to move on.
(09:07):
Is my marriage over? Yes, it's over. So let me
show you something. This has nothing to do with the
letter Shirley on calling anybody. Ask me a question, and
I'm gonna show you how to lie. The sheer lying capability.
Watch watch the quickness and creativity. Okay, Shirley, you and
(09:31):
I are in a relationship. Ask me anything, and I'm
not gonna tell you the truth. I don't care how
simple or anything it is. Go ahead on your head?
Your hair? Is that? No, that's a patch right there.
I had that put on. I was trying on a
half piece and I left some glue on it. And
that's the glue from that hals from glue. Quick where
(09:55):
it come so natural to you? Next question, we're in
a relationship. Yeah, did you Did you drive your car
to work today? No? I drove it, parted away and
then I dropped it off at the Jiffy Lub and
(10:15):
now and then I took I took a ubone in
the work and I just go back around there. And
are you are you planning on working out today? I'd
love to work out with it. Oh no, I ain't
gonna be able to work out today because I tweaked
my back because when I was leaving the Jiffy Jiffy Lube,
I slipped in some old tied in. That's what happening.
(10:44):
That's you know. And you will lie when the truth
will do? What? What? What? What? What? Why not? But
why can't you just tell the truth because you had
to practice this in case you really need it. We
can handle the truth. Oh no, you can't the way
we handle Oh no, you can't. You can handle our
(11:04):
reaction to your truth. You're a lie? Couldn't read? Can
I ask that? What is Yeah? Who is that on
the camera with you? Who is that on? Who is
that on the camera with me? Yeah, I'm talking to you.
Who is that on? The camera with you? Baby? What
(11:25):
camera the camera that I'm looking at? Who is that
on the camera with you? Right there? Wait a minute?
Oh wait, wait, wait, who do you think I am? Shelly?
(11:47):
Any more questions? We're in a committed relationship. You can
ask me anything. What is the point of lying? Though?
I don't get why is it so important? But but wait,
but wait a minute, let me ask you something. Why
I got to lie? Ask yourself that I am why?
I know why you like to distract? Why I got
(12:09):
to lie though reaction? Let's see right there, see how
you are? Okay, you see how you try to flip it.
Don't try to if you're going to accuse me of
doing I am and I am and I'm not doing it,
and you're gonna accuse me anyway? You got as where
in the back of your head? All right, listen, post
(12:33):
your I'm gonna say, hey, I'm gonna spend some time
with myself and you need the divorce hyper Post your
comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey, f them
on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand, coming up at forty six minutes after the hour,
Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this, you're listening to
(12:54):
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need
advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now. And you just never
know because it could be your letter today. Buckle up
(00:23):
and hold on tight. We got it for you here
it is Strawberry Letter. Subject caught on camera. Dear Stephen Shirley.
I'm a forty two year old married woman, but I've
separated from my husband. I've been married four years and
I was in a long distance marriage because my husband
works almost three hours away. He was offered a job
(00:43):
that he couldn't refuse, so I told him to take it.
With him being out of town during the week. I
got a home security system installed with four cameras. I
put one camera in the basement and one in the
main living area, one at the back door and one
at the front door. I put the alarm app on
my phone so I could watch the cameras while I
(01:05):
was at work. On a Tuesday about a month ago,
I was at work and I got an alert that
the alarm was going off, then it was reset. It
sent chills up my spine because I was the only
one in town and the only person that could have
reset my alarm. I looked at the cameras and I
saw my husband in our abasement and a woman was
(01:28):
with him. The woman sat down as my husband went upstairs.
He came back minutes later with his garment bag. Then
he kissed the woman and they walked out the basement door.
I called him, and he lied and said he was
at work and about to go to lunch and he
would call me back. I told him to quit lying
(01:49):
because I know he's in town and he had a
woman in our house. I asked him why he didn't
tell me he was in town, and why he would
bring a woman into my house. He hung up on me.
That night, he called and said he had a business
event to attend, so he needed his tucks, and he
used the basement door out of respect for me so
(02:10):
the woman wouldn't be all over our home. He said
he was going to take some time away from me
to work on himself. It has been almost a month
since he's reached out to me, so I filed for
a legal separation. Still no word from him. Is my
marriage over? Yes? I'm sorry, but it is. It's over.
(02:34):
I mean he was caught red handed on tape. Period.
Everything you saw in that camera was true and real,
no matter what lies. He thought of later and told
you he had a dinner to go to so he
needed a text. He had a business event to attend,
so he needed a tuck, and he didn't want the
(02:55):
woman all over your house. Lies, lies, lies, lies, lies.
Evidence clearly in his behavior that you saw on tape
not what he says, So don't let him play you.
Do not be fooled. He came back to town, he
didn't tell you, brought another woman to your house, kissed
her in your house, and then they left out together.
You're his wife. He completely disrespected you. He betrayed your trust.
(03:18):
I mean, I'm sorry you had to see this and
that you had to go through this. He's wrong. You
did a good thing by filing for a separation. I say,
just go on and finish up the deal. File for
a divorce. He was hardly ever there anyway, and he's
not coming back. You haven't heard from him for a month,
so I say good out now, Steve, I really don't
understand this letter. I'm sorry, I don't called on cameras
(03:42):
to what we're talking about. Yeah, what what's the letter for?
It starts off with obvia stuff in it to me,
Stephen Sherley, I'm a forty two year all married woman,
but I'm separated from my husband now. Curiously, in this letter,
she never said she was separated from her husband. But
(04:03):
I'm separated from my husband. We all know what that means.
And then she says, I've been married four years. It
was and I was in I was, so this separation
is what they've decided. I was in a long distance
marriage because my husband works almost three hours away and
(04:24):
he was offered a job he couldn't refuse, so I
told him to take it. Now with him being out
of town, doing the weakest woman to put a camera
system in the house in the basement, the front door,
the back, doing all this hill and now while he
was at work on Tuesday, about a month ago, she
ain't got an alert on the lawn was going off.
Then it was reset, as she said, sent chills up
(04:47):
her spine. Because I was the only one in town
and the only person that could have reset my alarm,
where you're not the only person that could reset the
alarm because it got reset. I looked at the cameras
and I saw my husband in our basement and a
woman was with him. The woman sat down as my
husband went upstairs. He came back minutes later with this
(05:08):
garment bag. Then he kissed a woman and they walked
out the basement door. I called him, and he lied
and said he was at work and about to go
to lunch and he would call me back. That was
the lie he told. That was the only lie he
told in this letter ship, because I'm going to surprise you.
I'm going to surprise you, shill. I told him to
(05:30):
quit lying because I know he was in town. He
had a woman in our house, and I asked him
why he didn't tell me he was in town and
why he would bring a woman into the house. He
hung up on me. That night, he called me and
said he had a business event to attend, so he
needed his tucks, and he used the basement door out
of respect for me, so the woman wouldn't be all
over the house. He said he was gonna take some
time away for me to work on himself. It's been
(05:52):
almost a month since he reached out to me, So
I filed for divorce. Still no word of him, and
as my marriage over, she filed for legation. Yeah, she
filed for legal separations. That's why she's shirley. You were
saying that he lied about coming home with the tucks
and all like this, like him, Well, he was on camera.
He never denied that after he found out he was
(06:15):
on camera. But the reason he came in the house
could have very well been true to get the tuxed though. No,
that's really going because all they did was kissing, go
out the dope. It could have been a tuxedo. It
could have been a business meeting. He told her the truth.
The problem is the truth wasn't enough. Yeah, the fact
(06:38):
the even tell her he was in town. Oh I
got more. Okay, all right, we'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour,
subject of today's strawberry letter caught on camera. We'll get
back into it right after this. You're listening Harvey Morning Show.
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
(06:59):
The jet is caught on camera. Caught on camera, says
it all this woman put all these cameras in her house.
Heard her husband are currently separated. She gets an alert
on her phone that says the candle alarm has been reset. Well,
she's thinking her husband out of town, but he's in town.
(07:19):
She looked on the cameras. He in the basement with
a woman. She calls him, He kisses her and walks
out with a garden back. He calls her and asked
where he had He say he at work, fit to
go to lunch. He lied, he lied, So she called
(07:40):
him up and said, no, you wouldn't. I saw you
in the house with this woman and you kissed her. Click,
he hung up. He hung up because he was off balanced,
because he needed to regroup. So he's busted. Yes, So
now he calls back that night and said, all right,
here the deal. I was in town. I had a
(08:01):
business meeting to go to, so I needed to come
home and get my tuxedo, and out of respect for you,
I don't want this woman all over the house, so
I came through the basement. Though that's the truth, because
he wasn't denying that there wasn't a woman at the house.
He wasn't denying he didn't pick something up. He only
(08:21):
left with a garment bag that was probably the tuxedo,
and it was probably a business meeting. He did not
lie to her. The problem is the truth. You should
believe the truth. You saw it. Shirley's right. This marriage
is over. Is my marriage over? And you haven't heard
(08:44):
from him in a month, but I bet she has.
Oh yeah, hell yeah, he's wrong. Dad wrong is not
her fault in any way. But now that you know
the truth, what you're gonna do, it's time to move on.
(09:07):
Is my marriage over? Yes, it's over. So let me
show you something. This has nothing to do with the
letter Shirley on calling anybody. Ask me a question, and
I'm gonna show you how to lie. The sheer lying capability.
Watch watch the quickness and creativity. Okay, Shirley, you and
(09:31):
I are in a relationship. Ask me anything, and I'm
not gonna tell you the truth. I don't care how
simple or anything it is. Go ahead on your head?
Your hair? Is that? No, that's a patch right there.
I had that put on. I was trying on a
half piece and I left some glue on it. And
that's the glue from that hals from glue. Quick where
(09:55):
it come so natural to you? Next question, we're in
a relationship. Yeah, did you Did you drive your car
to work today? No? I drove it, parted away and
then I dropped it off at the Jiffy Lub and
(10:15):
now and then I took I took a ubone in
the work and I just go back around there. And
are you are you planning on working out today? I'd
love to work out with it. Oh no, I ain't
gonna be able to work out today because I tweaked
my back because when I was leaving the Jiffy Jiffy Lube,
I slipped in some old tied in. That's what happening.
(10:44):
That's you know. And you will lie when the truth
will do? What? What? What? What? What? Why not? But
why can't you just tell the truth because you had
to practice this in case you really need it. We
can handle the truth. Oh no, you can't the way
we handle Oh no, you can't. You can handle our
(11:04):
reaction to your truth. You're a lie? Couldn't read? Can
I ask that? What is Yeah? Who is that on
the camera with you? Who is that on? Who is
that on the camera with me? Yeah, I'm talking to you.
Who is that on? The camera with you? Baby? What
(11:25):
camera the camera that I'm looking at? Who is that
on the camera with you? Right there? Wait a minute?
Oh wait, wait, wait, who do you think I am? Shelly?
(11:47):
Any more questions? We're in a committed relationship. You can
ask me anything. What is the point of lying? Though?
I don't get why is it so important? But but wait,
but wait a minute, let me ask you something. Why
I got to lie? Ask yourself that I am why?
I know why you like to distract? Why I got
(12:09):
to lie though reaction? Let's see right there, see how
you are? Okay, you see how you try to flip it.
Don't try to if you're going to accuse me of
doing I am and I am and I'm not doing it,
and you're gonna accuse me anyway? You got as where
in the back of your head? All right, listen, post
(12:33):
your I'm gonna say, hey, I'm gonna spend some time
with myself and you need the divorce hyper Post your
comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey, f them
on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast
on demand, coming up at forty six minutes after the hour,
Sports Talk with Junior. Right after this, you're listening to
(12:54):
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