September 3, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 33-year-old woman and I recently started dating a 25-year-old man. The age difference really didn’t bother me at first but I am starting to notice that he seems to be a little bit inexperienced when it comes to sex. The first time we got together there was a lot of kissing involved so I didn’t quite notice how much noise he makes in bed. I did notice that he was talking really dirty and maybe he thinks that all women are into that or he hasn’t been with that many women..............
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Strawberry Letter with my good French Shirleys Strawberry. Thank you, junior.
Subject He's louder than I am, Dear Stephen Shirley. I
am a thirty three year old woman, and I recently
started dating a twenty five year old man. The age
difference really didn't bother me at first, but I am
starting to notice that he seems to be a little
(01:04):
bit inexperienced When it comes to sex. The first time
we got together, there was a lot of kissing involved,
so I didn't quite notice how much noise he makes
in bed. I did notice that he was talking really dirty,
and maybe he thinks that all women are into that,
or he hasn't been with that many women. Now that
we've done it a few times, it's starting to get
(01:26):
a little awkward and embarrassing. The other night, we tried
doing it in a few different positions, and he got
louder each time. He was moaning and cursing. Then he
started to scream my name, and I thought the neighbors
were going to think something was wrong. I should probably
take it as a compliment, but this is too over
(01:47):
the top to me, and I think he might be
faking or exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed
to do. He got very embarrassed when I called him
out on it and said it's completely natural. I told
him I don't like to be rude or obnoxious to
my neighbors, so he needs to work on being less noisy.
I know this is a strange request because usually it's
(02:08):
the woman the women that are the most vocal during intimacy,
but this guy cannot keep it down. I have tried
to play music or I'll leave the TV on to
drown out all of his screams and curse words, but
nothing works. He's a great guy and this is something
we can work on. I need some advice. Wow, you
(02:29):
just got to say something. I mean, you gotta let
him know how you feel. You said you've talked to
him before and he said it was natural. But I
think it's a little more serious than maybe you know
you guys think it is, or especially him. You want
the sex to be good, but you don't want it
to be annoying and embarrassing like you said, and awkward.
(02:52):
You don't want it to be too too loud. I
guess because of your neighbors. He's just in there, just
cussing and just hollering. Huh. Anyway, your neighbors don't need
to know all your business. They don't need to know
what you're doing. They don't need to hear all of
at all the time. I think the problem with letting
him know you know what you want is that you
(03:14):
know you gotta be careful. You can do it, but
just don't crush the man. Don't crush you just you know,
say you're telling him again because you know you really
wanted to work out. Like you say, this is something
you guys can work on. But just be mindful of
his very fragile ego. You know men have fragile egos.
He's only twenty five, you have eight years on him,
(03:35):
so um, let him know how you feel nicely. Hopefully
he'll get the message and shut up with all that hollering.
Steve Na Shelley, that ain't it nice? Try to give
a nice answer. Wholesome family entertainment. I got it for you, though,
no spread it. Three year old woman just started dating
(03:59):
at it? Five year old man eight years Yeah, Now
already a man is not fully matured at twenty five.
A woman is around thirty three. Women mature faster than men.
So your eight years difference in dog years is about
(04:22):
twenty years years. These are humans. You way past this
board right here. You thirty three, twenty five. You putting
something on him. He ain't all hey, and it is
starting to show and he can't healthy. You say the
(04:43):
age didn't didn't bother you, but now you didn't notice it.
You know, be a little bit experienced when it come
to say, man, you know, he just don't know what
you know? Now? Is he in experience or you some
mal question? Again? Is he in experienced? Or are you
(05:07):
something else? Are you a low end? Behold all hell? Now,
she don't sound reserved to me because first got together
a lot of kissing, so I ain't quite noticed how
much noise he was making it bad. I did notice
that he was talking really dirty, and maybe he thinks
that's what all women into. That he ain't been with
that many women. Now I don't know what he was saying.
(05:29):
We'll get to that in a minute. Oh lord, But
now that we didn't done it a few times, we
just started get a little awkward embarrassed. Another night, we
tried doing it in a few positions, and he got
louder each time. He was morning, Oh oh, we're switching
(05:50):
positions out, another trick, tricking me again? Oh now you
want to put your knee on the night stand while
I got my leg on the hater He na, crazy, man,
(06:15):
I'm gonna do it now, he was moaning and cousin.
Then he started to screaming, my name, achare dolie hockeys?
Do it all? Listen to me? Do me the fucus
(06:36):
my ain't got true. Ye all right, Look, we'll let
part two of seeing the response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour today subject he's allowed, and
then I am. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to Steven Show. Come on, Steve, let's recap
(06:58):
today's strawberry letter. I think Key's louder than I am. Wow,
ye old grown third, This grown woman right here met
the little boy. Well ain't grown man, but he twenty five.
She didn't that putting something on it he never had before.
She ain't noticed how much noise he made his bed.
(07:19):
Ain't talking me or dirty too? It too? I think, Yeah,
but I don't want to do that because y'all gonna
But then he started to screaming my name. I'm a
repeat putting name for you, just the way he said it.
Oh my shall he just holloed. You thought the neighbors
(07:45):
was gonna think something's wrong. I should probably take it
as a compliment, but this is too over the top
for me, and I think we might be faking it.
Faking it, how you faking holly hold and cussing. I
think he's exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed
(08:05):
to do. He got very in burst what I call
him out on it and staid it's completely natural. I
told him I don't like to be rude obnoxious to
my neighbors, so we need to work on being less noisy.
I know this is a strange question because usually it's
the woman that's the most vocal doing intimacy, but this
guy can't keep it down. I'm trying to play music,
I lead a TV on the drawing out all the
(08:25):
screams and cuts word, but ain't nothing work. He's a
great guy, and this is something we can work on.
I need some advice. Well, me and Shirley gonna reenact
something on radio. You know it's gonna be read radio
version of So Shirley, what I want you to do.
It's just not this is what we're doing. This is
(08:48):
actually happening in real time. They're in bed and all
she's trying to do is have a normal conversation with him.
But he ain't trying to have It's just a normal conversation, okay,
like your I mean, you know, just regular conversation about
how the day winning, anything like that. He turning it
(09:10):
all around. Okay, yeah, high honey, Hi, hell whoa girl?
Highway better than low? Come on over here, high for you?
I know getting here? Well, i'm him. We both handsled everything.
I got handsome, I got a hand and song for you.
(09:35):
Come on over here, got about to get gnashed, honey.
How was your day? Did you have a good day?
How to hear you think my day was? I was
thinking about tonight the whole damn day and touching and
snatching and biting and chewing, rastling and flipping and snipping
and skidding baby long. Really that's all lights, all everything.
(09:56):
I got everything over here. Well, you're hungry, honey. I
was gonna yeah, yeah, like a snap. You fitning it
like a pepper road at pizza with it your meat
or the girl. I was gonna just take care you up.
I'm steaking potatoes in a veggie that you are. You
look like a steak air potato. Yeah, you look like
(10:18):
a hungry man TV dinner. Come on me and cut
that TV off. So come back to fact, cut that
TV off. So the neighbor game hit me. He did
a hungry man dinner. But I didn't know what you wanted, mate,
But did you just say but that's exactly what I'm
looking for some mod But what did you want for
a dessert? Honey? With this, I got all the dessert
(10:39):
I need. I want so putting back. I want so
putting back that what I want? Did you want drink first?
Or did you first? Nobody want nothing to drank? Girl,
I finna drink your bad water? What I fitna drank? Well, well,
(11:00):
I am kind of tired. I did need like a
foot rub or something, but I got tired to rub
your foot. Yeah, let's put your foot in my mouth.
I want I want to do good. Put your whole
foot down in my nash, in myth while I'm cussing.
I want your foot in my mouth while I'm cussing
on it, cussing on your toes. Well, honey, after dinner,
(11:23):
did you want to watch a movie or something? Yeah,
y'all want to watch a movie, pawto a matter of fact,
let's make it our damn self nasty movie. We don't
call it two nasty people making a movie after dinner.
That's a lost. Everybody gonna want it. I got a
old sun. We have to meet me seeing on the
(11:46):
shower curtain. Well, you know this weekend is labor day,
so um label you try to have a baby. All
are we gonna be doing it that? All? We're gonna
have a baby Friday. You were trying to get some
of this hill. I wanted to know if you wanted
to have people over or did you want to go
(12:07):
to people Argent, Harry, everybody can come over your shifted
nat Neil Gardine Neil everybody. Yeah, we could, you know,
like to put some barbecue on the grill or something.
Put some meat on the grill, real real, yo, that's
what I've been trying to ral. Put a grill mark
(12:30):
on it right now, look like a scratchlor went across
that spack spack. That's the problem. She's happy you got
out of you old boy man. Everything you say to
a twenty for his hormones is raging and there's nothing
you could do about it. I want to applaud myself
(12:51):
for it. Give it an edited, nasty version with no
cussing and very radio playable. They'll be running that back
on the car to contract. Thank you so much, post
your comments. Thank you Steve on Today's Strawberry Letter and
Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up in
(13:12):
forty six minutes after you know what time it is,
our girl from The Talk, Cheryl Underwood, would be here.
You're listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Well, only sixty days left until November third. Go to
vote dot org and get registered. You can do it
right now. It only takes a couple of minutes. Plus
you can get all of your early voting information for
your state that is vote dot org. We are serious,
we are not playing. This is not a game. Okay,
vote dot org and it's time now as we switch
(00:22):
gears for today's Strawberry Letter. If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve harveysm
dot com and click submit to Strawberry Letter. We could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're gonna read this one right here, right now. Ladies
and gentlemen, it is that time. It's time for today's
(00:44):
Strawberry Letter with my good French Shirleys Strawberry. Thank you, junior.
Subject He's louder than I am, Dear Stephen Shirley. I
am a thirty three year old woman, and I recently
started dating a twenty five year old man. The age
difference really didn't bother me at first, but I am
starting to notice that he seems to be a little
(01:04):
bit inexperienced When it comes to sex. The first time
we got together, there was a lot of kissing involved,
so I didn't quite notice how much noise he makes
in bed. I did notice that he was talking really dirty,
and maybe he thinks that all women are into that,
or he hasn't been with that many women. Now that
we've done it a few times, it's starting to get
(01:26):
a little awkward and embarrassing. The other night, we tried
doing it in a few different positions, and he got
louder each time. He was moaning and cursing. Then he
started to scream my name, and I thought the neighbors
were going to think something was wrong. I should probably
take it as a compliment, but this is too over
(01:47):
the top to me, and I think he might be
faking or exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed
to do. He got very embarrassed when I called him
out on it and said it's completely natural. I told
him I don't like to be rude or obnoxious to
my neighbors, so he needs to work on being less noisy.
I know this is a strange request because usually it's
(02:08):
the woman the women that are the most vocal during intimacy,
but this guy cannot keep it down. I have tried
to play music or I'll leave the TV on to
drown out all of his screams and curse words, but
nothing works. He's a great guy and this is something
we can work on. I need some advice. Wow, you
(02:29):
just got to say something. I mean, you gotta let
him know how you feel. You said you've talked to
him before and he said it was natural. But I
think it's a little more serious than maybe you know
you guys think it is, or especially him. You want
the sex to be good, but you don't want it
to be annoying and embarrassing like you said, and awkward.
(02:52):
You don't want it to be too too loud. I
guess because of your neighbors. He's just in there, just
cussing and just hollering. Huh. Anyway, your neighbors don't need
to know all your business. They don't need to know
what you're doing. They don't need to hear all of
at all the time. I think the problem with letting
him know you know what you want is that you
(03:14):
know you gotta be careful. You can do it, but
just don't crush the man. Don't crush you just you know,
say you're telling him again because you know you really
wanted to work out. Like you say, this is something
you guys can work on. But just be mindful of
his very fragile ego. You know men have fragile egos.
He's only twenty five, you have eight years on him,
(03:35):
so um, let him know how you feel nicely. Hopefully
he'll get the message and shut up with all that hollering.
Steve Na Shelley, that ain't it nice? Try to give
a nice answer. Wholesome family entertainment. I got it for you, though,
no spread it. Three year old woman just started dating
(03:59):
at it? Five year old man eight years Yeah, Now
already a man is not fully matured at twenty five.
A woman is around thirty three. Women mature faster than men.
So your eight years difference in dog years is about
(04:22):
twenty years years. These are humans. You way past this
board right here. You thirty three, twenty five. You putting
something on him. He ain't all hey, and it is
starting to show and he can't healthy. You say the
(04:43):
age didn't didn't bother you, but now you didn't notice it.
You know, be a little bit experienced when it come
to say, man, you know, he just don't know what
you know? Now? Is he in experience or you some
mal question? Again? Is he in experienced? Or are you
(05:07):
something else? Are you a low end? Behold all hell? Now,
she don't sound reserved to me because first got together
a lot of kissing, so I ain't quite noticed how
much noise he was making it bad. I did notice
that he was talking really dirty, and maybe he thinks
that's what all women into. That he ain't been with
that many women. Now I don't know what he was saying.
(05:29):
We'll get to that in a minute. Oh lord, But
now that we didn't done it a few times, we
just started get a little awkward embarrassed. Another night, we
tried doing it in a few positions, and he got
louder each time. He was morning, Oh oh, we're switching
(05:50):
positions out, another trick, tricking me again? Oh now you
want to put your knee on the night stand while
I got my leg on the hater He na, crazy, man,
(06:15):
I'm gonna do it now, he was moaning and cousin.
Then he started to screaming, my name, achare dolie hockeys?
Do it all? Listen to me? Do me the fucus
(06:36):
my ain't got true. Ye all right, Look, we'll let
part two of seeing the response coming up in twenty
three minutes after the hour today subject he's allowed, and
then I am. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening to Steven Show. Come on, Steve, let's recap
(06:58):
today's strawberry letter. I think Key's louder than I am. Wow,
ye old grown third, This grown woman right here met
the little boy. Well ain't grown man, but he twenty five.
She didn't that putting something on it he never had before.
She ain't noticed how much noise he made his bed.
(07:19):
Ain't talking me or dirty too? It too? I think, Yeah,
but I don't want to do that because y'all gonna
But then he started to screaming my name. I'm a
repeat putting name for you, just the way he said it.
Oh my shall he just holloed. You thought the neighbors
(07:45):
was gonna think something's wrong. I should probably take it
as a compliment, but this is too over the top
for me, and I think we might be faking it.
Faking it, how you faking holly hold and cussing. I
think he's exaggerating because he thinks that's what he's supposed
(08:05):
to do. He got very in burst what I call
him out on it and staid it's completely natural. I
told him I don't like to be rude obnoxious to
my neighbors, so we need to work on being less noisy.
I know this is a strange question because usually it's
the woman that's the most vocal doing intimacy, but this
guy can't keep it down. I'm trying to play music,
I lead a TV on the drawing out all the
(08:25):
screams and cuts word, but ain't nothing work. He's a
great guy, and this is something we can work on.
I need some advice. Well, me and Shirley gonna reenact
something on radio. You know it's gonna be read radio
version of So Shirley, what I want you to do.
It's just not this is what we're doing. This is
(08:48):
actually happening in real time. They're in bed and all
she's trying to do is have a normal conversation with him.
But he ain't trying to have It's just a normal conversation, okay,
like your I mean, you know, just regular conversation about
how the day winning, anything like that. He turning it
(09:10):
all around. Okay, yeah, high honey, Hi, hell whoa girl?
Highway better than low? Come on over here, high for you?
I know getting here? Well, i'm him. We both handsled everything.
I got handsome, I got a hand and song for you.
(09:35):
Come on over here, got about to get gnashed, honey.
How was your day? Did you have a good day?
How to hear you think my day was? I was
thinking about tonight the whole damn day and touching and
snatching and biting and chewing, rastling and flipping and snipping
and skidding baby long. Really that's all lights, all everything.
(09:56):
I got everything over here. Well, you're hungry, honey. I
was gonna yeah, yeah, like a snap. You fitning it
like a pepper road at pizza with it your meat
or the girl. I was gonna just take care you up.
I'm steaking potatoes in a veggie that you are. You
look like a steak air potato. Yeah, you look like
(10:18):
a hungry man TV dinner. Come on me and cut
that TV off. So come back to fact, cut that
TV off. So the neighbor game hit me. He did
a hungry man dinner. But I didn't know what you wanted, mate,
But did you just say but that's exactly what I'm
looking for some mod But what did you want for
a dessert? Honey? With this, I got all the dessert
(10:39):
I need. I want so putting back. I want so
putting back that what I want? Did you want drink first?
Or did you first? Nobody want nothing to drank? Girl,
I finna drink your bad water? What I fitna drank? Well, well,
(11:00):
I am kind of tired. I did need like a
foot rub or something, but I got tired to rub
your foot. Yeah, let's put your foot in my mouth.
I want I want to do good. Put your whole
foot down in my nash, in myth while I'm cussing.
I want your foot in my mouth while I'm cussing
on it, cussing on your toes. Well, honey, after dinner,
(11:23):
did you want to watch a movie or something? Yeah,
y'all want to watch a movie, pawto a matter of fact,
let's make it our damn self nasty movie. We don't
call it two nasty people making a movie after dinner.
That's a lost. Everybody gonna want it. I got a
old sun. We have to meet me seeing on the
(11:46):
shower curtain. Well, you know this weekend is labor day,
so um label you try to have a baby. All
are we gonna be doing it that? All? We're gonna
have a baby Friday. You were trying to get some
of this hill. I wanted to know if you wanted
to have people over or did you want to go
(12:07):
to people Argent, Harry, everybody can come over your shifted
nat Neil Gardine Neil everybody. Yeah, we could, you know,
like to put some barbecue on the grill or something.
Put some meat on the grill, real real, yo, that's
what I've been trying to ral. Put a grill mark
(12:30):
on it right now, look like a scratchlor went across
that spack spack. That's the problem. She's happy you got
out of you old boy man. Everything you say to
a twenty for his hormones is raging and there's nothing
you could do about it. I want to applaud myself
(12:51):
for it. Give it an edited, nasty version with no
cussing and very radio playable. They'll be running that back
on the car to contract. Thank you so much, post
your comments. Thank you Steve on Today's Strawberry Letter and
Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and check out
the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming up in
(13:12):
forty six minutes after you know what time it is,
our girl from The Talk, Cheryl Underwood, would be here.
You're listening to The Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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