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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
It could be your, so buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it fort you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Subject how do I keep her out of my clothes?
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty eight year old married
man and I'm a personal trainer on the side. I
met my wife at the gym and we've been together
for three years total and we got married last December.
She is the most beautiful woman I've ever known, and
I fell in love with her immediately.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
In the beginning.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
We spend all of our time in the gym together
or at my house. We went on a couple of
trips to see her parents and mine, and that's when
I noticed that she's got some trust issues.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
She opened up and.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Told me that her ex had a woman in her bed,
and she found out when she got in the bed
and there was a big spot on the sheets. She
said it messed her up for life, and she asked
me to be patient with her. I've tried to be,
but it seems like she's never satisfied with my answers.
I always try to answer her calls by the second ring,
(01:20):
and I try to respond to all of her texes
within five minutes.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Nothing I do is enough, and lately she.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Has been questioning me and checking up behind me when
I get home. She started going through my dirty clothes
last month, and she thinks I don't know when I
go to wash clothes. My briefs are turned inside out,
and so are my gym clothes. I assumed she was
checking for stains and smells, and I confronted her about it.
She tried to turn it around on me by saying
(01:49):
I wouldn't be questioning her if I wouldn't be questioning
her if I didn't have something to hide. She started
taking my suits to the dry cleaners for me, and
I hope she's not pulling over on the side of
the rod to smell my clothes. She rode to church
with me Sunday and said my car had a strange smell.
I wish she would let me know what she's thinking
instead of sniffing around. How do I get her to
(02:11):
believe that I'm not going to hurt her? That is
that possible? Well, it's not impossible, but it's a lot
of pressure to put on a person. And like your wife,
everyone has baggage because they've had a life before you,
before their partner. It's just that some are able to
leave the past in the past and some are not.
(02:32):
Your wife has not been able to do that, and
she's really getting a little crazy with this stuff. Her
slimy ex husband had someone in their bed, didn't have
sense enough to wash and change the sheets and all
of that, and I'm sure that had to be devastating
for her. And after that, how can you possibly live
up to her expectations?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
And that's the problem, isn't it.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
The relationship is at a place where everything you do
is suspicious to her everything. Pretty soon you won't be
able to go anywhere or do anything without her being
suspicious of you. And that's pretty much what it is
right now. Her insecurities, her paranoia is going to ruin
this marriage. They're going to ruin this marriage if she
doesn't get help. She has to learn how to get
(03:17):
past what happened to her in the past and move on.
I recommend therapy for your wife immediately.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
She's got to get some therapy. She needs some help, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
This is sad because this woman right here is doing
the most. I guess I could talk to this lady,
but I think I should do this and talk to
all women, ladies.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
All men don't do wrong. All men are not in
this world to do you wrong.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
True that there are some people here who are put
in your life to treat you right. There is one
person made specifically for you. That is God has created
to be your soulmate. You can find him if you
(04:10):
get out of the way. Now, how do you stay
in the way by making all these choices on your own?
You don't never confide in God. You don't ask God
to point him out show you. You just pick what
you won't, pick what you're like, and here you go.
I can't tell you how many women have let good
(04:30):
men go because they had a bad experience with a
bad one. I can't tell you how many women have
ran a man away because they won't accept this man's
goodness and graces. Because no matter what he do she
comparing him to somebody else. This woman in the letter
(04:51):
is no different this man that wrote this letter. So
it's getting to him. He's married, Uh, and he's a
person on the side. I don't know if that means
he has another job and he personal trains or I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Know what that means. But he a personal tray.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
I met my wife at the gym, and we've been
together for three years total. We got married last de simmer. Now,
let me tell you something. If you're a personal trainer
and you meet a woman.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
At the gym, this chick fine, yeah, yeah, she find
know this right here he at the gym. He and
the body shaping bis. He'dne met this girl at the gym,
had married her.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
This girl find.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
It next line. She is the most beautiful woman I've
ever known. And I fell in love with her immediately
at the Jim. He didn't fall in love in the
parking lot. No, he came to work one day. She
was in there with them pats on them biker shorts.
That that that that that halted top. She was doing
(06:11):
dead lifts. Squatch sitting on that machine the women sit
on and they keep opening and closing. They leg that
machine that were right there. I don't know who you
are when you get on that one right there. Me
and me and me at hall for me and to
walk past that machine.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I'm just going to tell you, hang on, hang on.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Does it looked like you're waving at us? That's what
it looked like.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Coming up at twenty three minutes after uh, we'll recap
this letter. We'll hear Steve's response, and the subject of
today's letter is how do I keep her out of
my clothes? We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're listening Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is how do I keep her out of
my clothes?
Speaker 4 (07:01):
This man is dating this woman. He's married to her.
To be known each other three years. They got married.
Met at the gym, most beautiful woman he's ever met.
Noticed her immediately. She had all the tight gym office.
She was cut, she was fine. He wanted help right away.
They spent most of their time together, all the time
(07:22):
either at the gym or at his house. They went
on a couple of trips see her parents and mining.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
That's when he noticed that she got some trust issues.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Then the woman finally opened up about him and told
her that she had an X that had a woman
in her bed, and she found out when she got
into bed and there was a big spot on the sheets.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
God, not that spot though, don't nobody.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
You don't know what I was waiting for your You.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Don't even like that spot when it's yours? Okay, spot
and that's yours. Get the spot.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
God.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
See Now what her ex did? Was he ignorant? Because
what I'd have done is burned the entire comforter, set
bed sheets, pillows, possibly that damn mattress too.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I have gone that far.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Yeah, yeah, I'd have took a mattress off of bed
and set it outside up against the tree, like I
was gonna throw it away. Yeah, yeah, you can't have evidence.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Yeah. Anyway, she sat messed up for life.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
And she asked me to be patient with him, and
he said he tried to be, but now she ain't.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Never satisfied with none of his answers.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Try to answer the call on the second ring, try
to spun with all her text within five minutes, but
ain't nothing this man doing is enough. And she been
questioning me and checking up behind me. When I get home.
Then she started going through my dirty clothes last month.
She think, I don't notice when I go to wash
my clothes, my briefs are turned inside out and.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Sew on my gym clothes.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
I assumed she was checking for stains and smelled, so
I confronted her about it. She tried to turn on
me by saying I wouldn't be questioning her if I
didn't have something to hide.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Lady, you over this man.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
House, turning his drawers inside out. He's still washing his
own clothes. He come up you and say, somebody you said,
if you ain't had nothing to hide, you wouldn't be
questioning her. Lady you tripping. She tripping, and she gonna
mess this up. And she just started taking my suits
to the dry cleaners. I hope she's not pulling ok
on side of the road smell my clothes. She rode to
(09:43):
church with me Sunday and said my car had a
strange smell in it. Well, if you get in my car,
it ain't no telling what you're gonna swill tell I fish.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
This is not about you.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
I go fishing.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
I smoked cigars. It gonna be a strange smell and knockery,
So buckle up, get ready to hold on tight because strange,
strange smells just pulled up. I wish you would let
me know what she's thinking instead of sniffing around. How
do I get her believe that I'm not going to
hurt her? Is that possible? Well, all you can do
(10:20):
is with actions, man, but you need to have a
conversation with her. Say he listen to me. Stop stop
backtracking on me, because it don't feel good. It don't
feel good at all if a man don't like it
when he doing his very best, and that best ain't
(10:41):
good enough for you. So instead of you check it
on me, I wish you'd be appreciative of the way
I treat you. You don't say nothing when I answer
your calls on that second ring. You don't give me
no credit when I answer your text within five minutes. Yeah,
I don't get no nothing for just honoring you and
(11:03):
getting right back to you and showing you that I'm
concerned and I'm paying attention. But ah, no, all you
doing is flipping my drawers inside out, is flipping my
gym clothes, smelling my car, taking my suits to the cleaner.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
You ain't got no appreciation for me, and I'm getting
tired of it.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
So instead of you telling me how well I treat you,
you sitting up here here finding a way to make
it look like how I don't treat you, and you're
messing up and I don't like it, and it's just
not a good feeling.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
And I'm just gonna tell you that.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
So now you can keep on doubt me if you
want to, and you can keep on running up behind
me and checking on me, but I'm gonna get tired
of that one day. I'm gonna get tired of that
because I want a woman that appreciates me and with
the show appreciation for all the good things I've done
for you. Now that's it right there. I ain't cheating
on you. He cheated on you. You got into bed
(11:53):
with him. You picked his ass, right, But see the
difference is I picked Q. You picked him. I picked you.
I wanted you, he was your boyfriend. I asked you
to marry me. I'd already made a commitment. His ass
never was willing to make you. So now why I
(12:14):
got to be cheap? Keep on here, I'm going to
the jail, and this is what I'm wearing you can
smell it when I come back.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
I'm cue, I'll pass.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
I'll come in doing just strip ass, naked hand all
my clothes. Here you go, gonna start smelling. Yeah, I
am doing dead lift, said squash the day too.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Take a deep breath, ew leave your comments on Today's
Letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey FM, and check us
out on the Strawberry Letter podcast. It is on the
free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Coming
up next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Mmhm
It's time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you
need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, please
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com. We
could be reading your letter live on the air, just
like we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
You never know, it could be yours.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
It could be your, so buckle up and hold on tight.
We got it fort you. Here it is Strawberry Letter.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Thank you nephew.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Subject how do I keep her out of my clothes?
Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a thirty eight year old married
man and I'm a personal trainer on the side. I
met my wife at the gym and we've been together
for three years total and we got married last December.
She is the most beautiful woman I've ever known, and
I fell in love with her immediately.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
In the beginning.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
We spend all of our time in the gym together
or at my house. We went on a couple of
trips to see her parents and mine, and that's when
I noticed that she's got some trust issues.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
She opened up and.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Told me that her ex had a woman in her bed,
and she found out when she got in the bed
and there was a big spot on the sheets. She
said it messed her up for life, and she asked
me to be patient with her. I've tried to be,
but it seems like she's never satisfied with my answers.
I always try to answer her calls by the second ring,
(01:20):
and I try to respond to all of her texes
within five minutes.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
Nothing I do is enough, and lately she.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Has been questioning me and checking up behind me when
I get home. She started going through my dirty clothes
last month, and she thinks I don't know when I
go to wash clothes. My briefs are turned inside out,
and so are my gym clothes. I assumed she was
checking for stains and smells, and I confronted her about it.
She tried to turn it around on me by saying
(01:49):
I wouldn't be questioning her if I wouldn't be questioning
her if I didn't have something to hide. She started
taking my suits to the dry cleaners for me, and
I hope she's not pulling over on the side of
the rod to smell my clothes. She rode to church
with me Sunday and said my car had a strange smell.
I wish she would let me know what she's thinking
instead of sniffing around. How do I get her to
(02:11):
believe that I'm not going to hurt her? That is
that possible? Well, it's not impossible, but it's a lot
of pressure to put on a person. And like your wife,
everyone has baggage because they've had a life before you,
before their partner. It's just that some are able to
leave the past in the past and some are not.
(02:32):
Your wife has not been able to do that, and
she's really getting a little crazy with this stuff. Her
slimy ex husband had someone in their bed, didn't have
sense enough to wash and change the sheets and all
of that, and I'm sure that had to be devastating
for her. And after that, how can you possibly live
up to her expectations?
Speaker 2 (02:53):
And that's the problem, isn't it.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
The relationship is at a place where everything you do
is suspicious to her everything. Pretty soon you won't be
able to go anywhere or do anything without her being
suspicious of you. And that's pretty much what it is
right now. Her insecurities, her paranoia is going to ruin
this marriage. They're going to ruin this marriage if she
doesn't get help. She has to learn how to get
(03:17):
past what happened to her in the past and move on.
I recommend therapy for your wife immediately.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
She's got to get some therapy. She needs some help, Steve.
Speaker 4 (03:26):
This is sad because this woman right here is doing
the most. I guess I could talk to this lady,
but I think I should do this and talk to
all women, ladies.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
All men don't do wrong. All men are not in
this world to do you wrong.
Speaker 4 (03:49):
True that there are some people here who are put
in your life to treat you right. There is one
person made specifically for you. That is God has created
to be your soulmate. You can find him if you
(04:10):
get out of the way. Now, how do you stay
in the way by making all these choices on your own?
You don't never confide in God. You don't ask God
to point him out show you. You just pick what
you won't, pick what you're like, and here you go.
I can't tell you how many women have let good
(04:30):
men go because they had a bad experience with a
bad one. I can't tell you how many women have
ran a man away because they won't accept this man's
goodness and graces. Because no matter what he do she
comparing him to somebody else. This woman in the letter
(04:51):
is no different this man that wrote this letter. So
it's getting to him. He's married, Uh, and he's a
person on the side. I don't know if that means
he has another job and he personal trains or I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:06):
Know what that means. But he a personal tray.
Speaker 4 (05:09):
I met my wife at the gym, and we've been
together for three years total. We got married last de simmer. Now,
let me tell you something. If you're a personal trainer
and you meet a woman.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
At the gym, this chick fine, yeah, yeah, she find
know this right here he at the gym. He and
the body shaping bis. He'dne met this girl at the gym,
had married her.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
This girl find.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
It next line. She is the most beautiful woman I've
ever known. And I fell in love with her immediately
at the Jim. He didn't fall in love in the
parking lot. No, he came to work one day. She
was in there with them pats on them biker shorts.
That that that that that halted top. She was doing
(06:11):
dead lifts. Squatch sitting on that machine the women sit
on and they keep opening and closing. They leg that
machine that were right there. I don't know who you
are when you get on that one right there. Me
and me and me at hall for me and to
walk past that machine.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
I'm just going to tell you, hang on, hang on.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
Does it looked like you're waving at us? That's what
it looked like.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Anyway.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Coming up at twenty three minutes after uh, we'll recap
this letter. We'll hear Steve's response, and the subject of
today's letter is how do I keep her out of
my clothes? We'll get back into it right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're listening Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is how do I keep her out of
my clothes?
Speaker 4 (07:01):
This man is dating this woman. He's married to her.
To be known each other three years. They got married.
Met at the gym, most beautiful woman he's ever met.
Noticed her immediately. She had all the tight gym office.
She was cut, she was fine. He wanted help right away.
They spent most of their time together, all the time
(07:22):
either at the gym or at his house. They went
on a couple of trips see her parents and mining.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
That's when he noticed that she got some trust issues.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Then the woman finally opened up about him and told
her that she had an X that had a woman
in her bed, and she found out when she got
into bed and there was a big spot on the sheets.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
God, not that spot though, don't nobody.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
You don't know what I was waiting for your You.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
Don't even like that spot when it's yours? Okay, spot
and that's yours. Get the spot.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
God.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
See Now what her ex did? Was he ignorant? Because
what I'd have done is burned the entire comforter, set
bed sheets, pillows, possibly that damn mattress too.
Speaker 3 (08:22):
I have gone that far.
Speaker 4 (08:26):
Yeah, yeah, I'd have took a mattress off of bed
and set it outside up against the tree, like I
was gonna throw it away. Yeah, yeah, you can't have evidence.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
Yeah. Anyway, she sat messed up for life.
Speaker 4 (08:41):
And she asked me to be patient with him, and
he said he tried to be, but now she ain't.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
Never satisfied with none of his answers.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Try to answer the call on the second ring, try
to spun with all her text within five minutes, but
ain't nothing this man doing is enough. And she been
questioning me and checking up behind me. When I get home.
Then she started going through my dirty clothes last month.
She think, I don't notice when I go to wash
my clothes, my briefs are turned inside out and.
Speaker 3 (09:08):
Sew on my gym clothes.
Speaker 4 (09:10):
I assumed she was checking for stains and smelled, so
I confronted her about it. She tried to turn on
me by saying I wouldn't be questioning her if I
didn't have something to hide.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
Lady, you over this man.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
House, turning his drawers inside out. He's still washing his
own clothes. He come up you and say, somebody you said,
if you ain't had nothing to hide, you wouldn't be
questioning her. Lady you tripping. She tripping, and she gonna
mess this up. And she just started taking my suits
to the dry cleaners. I hope she's not pulling ok
on side of the road smell my clothes. She rode to
(09:43):
church with me Sunday and said my car had a
strange smell in it. Well, if you get in my car,
it ain't no telling what you're gonna swill tell I fish.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
This is not about you.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
I go fishing.
Speaker 4 (09:58):
I smoked cigars. It gonna be a strange smell and knockery,
So buckle up, get ready to hold on tight because strange,
strange smells just pulled up. I wish you would let
me know what she's thinking instead of sniffing around. How
do I get her believe that I'm not going to
hurt her? Is that possible? Well, all you can do
(10:20):
is with actions, man, but you need to have a
conversation with her. Say he listen to me. Stop stop
backtracking on me, because it don't feel good. It don't
feel good at all if a man don't like it
when he doing his very best, and that best ain't
(10:41):
good enough for you. So instead of you check it
on me, I wish you'd be appreciative of the way
I treat you. You don't say nothing when I answer
your calls on that second ring. You don't give me
no credit when I answer your text within five minutes. Yeah,
I don't get no nothing for just honoring you and
(11:03):
getting right back to you and showing you that I'm
concerned and I'm paying attention. But ah, no, all you
doing is flipping my drawers inside out, is flipping my
gym clothes, smelling my car, taking my suits to the cleaner.
Speaker 3 (11:15):
You ain't got no appreciation for me, and I'm getting
tired of it.
Speaker 4 (11:19):
So instead of you telling me how well I treat you,
you sitting up here here finding a way to make
it look like how I don't treat you, and you're
messing up and I don't like it, and it's just
not a good feeling.
Speaker 3 (11:31):
And I'm just gonna tell you that.
Speaker 4 (11:32):
So now you can keep on doubt me if you
want to, and you can keep on running up behind
me and checking on me, but I'm gonna get tired
of that one day. I'm gonna get tired of that
because I want a woman that appreciates me and with
the show appreciation for all the good things I've done
for you. Now that's it right there. I ain't cheating
on you. He cheated on you. You got into bed
(11:53):
with him. You picked his ass, right, But see the
difference is I picked Q. You picked him. I picked you.
I wanted you, he was your boyfriend. I asked you
to marry me. I'd already made a commitment. His ass
never was willing to make you. So now why I
(12:14):
got to be cheap? Keep on here, I'm going to
the jail, and this is what I'm wearing you can
smell it when I come back.
Speaker 1 (12:25):
I'm cue, I'll pass.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
I'll come in doing just strip ass, naked hand all
my clothes. Here you go, gonna start smelling. Yeah, I
am doing dead lift, said squash the day too.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Take a deep breath, ew leave your comments on Today's
Letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey FM, and check us
out on the Strawberry Letter podcast. It is on the
free iHeartRadio app where free never sounded so good. Coming
up next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this,
you're listening Hardy Morning Show.
Speaker 3 (13:04):
Mmhm
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