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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, or more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve RBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours. Never know, You never know. Buckle
(00:23):
up and hold on tight. We got it before you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects. I'm
about to catch another flight. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
thirty years old and in a long distance relationship with
a doctor. I work as a retail merchandiser, and I
do a lot of traveling for work. On top of
all of the traveling for my job, I try to
(00:45):
see my man at least twice a month. When we met,
he was finishing up his residency and he took a
job in a rural area, so he'd got most of
his school loans forgiven. It's been a struggle to maintain
the relationship because he's not making a lot of money
right now. I'm the supportive girlfriend that flies in and out,
and I try to be understanding when he's too tired
(01:05):
from working to hang out with me. I put forth
a lot of effort to keep things going strong, but
I don't see any effort from him. He has asked
me several times to live with him in that little
small town, but it would be impossible for me to
work because I have to drive almost an hour back
and forth to the airport in another city. I'm in
(01:25):
love with him, but I'm starting to wonder if he
loves me. I've met his coworkers that are mostly females
and all beautiful women. He calls me insecure if I
ask him anything about his coworkers. When I visit him,
we order food or I cook. I've never been out
or invited to anything he has for work. He recently
(01:46):
had an awards ceremony and I told him I'd love
to go, but he said he didn't think he'd be
able to go because of his work schedule. Then at
the last minute, he went, it's all suspect to me.
The spare time, he can't come see me, but he
can fly to Denver to hang out with his brother.
I'm about to catch another flight and pop up on him.
(02:08):
Should I demand some answers or should I give it
a little more time. Does it sound like he's stringing
me along, Well, you already know. I mean, you're doing
everything in this relationship while he just sits back and
reaps all the benefits. I mean, people make time for
what they want to make time for it, for things
that are important to them. He did just that when
(02:30):
he went to the award show at the last minute
without you. That should tell you all you need to know.
You are not a priority in his life. He's not
doing anything extra for you. Okay, Yes he's working hard,
Yes he's becoming a doctor and all of that. He
has his residency, but they do have some time off.
Sometimes he's not making it any better, calling you insecure,
(02:52):
none of that when you ask about his co workers,
and don't allow him to do that to you. You
can ask questions. You're in a relationship, or so you
think in your head. But he does it to throw
you off so you'll leave him alone. He also knows
that it would be too much on you to move
in with him, all the driving and everything you say
you have to do. That's why I said at the beginning.
(03:13):
You already know I mean, look at the facts you said.
He won't come and see you, but he will fly
to Denver to see his brother. He doesn't take you out.
You know, you guys are always at home, you're cooking
or you order out. Clearly he's hiding something or he
wants to hide you, because whether you know you're about
(03:33):
to catch a flight or not, he's still not going
to change and put you first in your life, in
his life, and that's what you want. Steve. I'm confused,
I really am. I don't understand. I mean, this letter
is pretty complete and thorough. So I'm about to catch
(03:57):
another flight, so you just gonna throw another take it
out the window. Let me tell you what's wrong here.
You're thirty years old, you're the longest relationship with a doctor.
You got a good job on top of all the
traveling with your job. You try to see your man
at least twice a month. Here's the key to this
whole letter. I try to see my man at least
(04:20):
twice a month. Let me ask you a question, when
do he try to see you? See? I hear you talking.
I try to see my man at least twice a month.
When does he try to see you. That's the problem
with this letter. When we met, he was finishing up
(04:41):
his residency, took a job in a rural area so
he could get his school loans. Forgive it. It's been
a struggle to maintain a relationship because he's not making
a lot of money right now. No, that's not the least.
You don't need a lot of money to maintain a relationship.
There are a lot of people who don't make a
(05:02):
lot of money that maintain wonderful relationship. My mom and
daddy did. It's people to date that don't make a
lot of money. You ain't got to be a doctor
or high execs at a retail agency to maintain a relationship.
And you don't need money to maintain one. Eat. You
do need money to date, surprise each other and stuff
(05:24):
like that, but you don't need one to maintain You
don't need a lot of money to maintain it. I'm
the supportive girlfriend. It flies in and out, and I
try to be understanding when he's too tired from work
to hang out with me. Now, that's gonna be a
question a little bit later on. Is he too tired
to hang out with you? Or is that what he's
(05:48):
telling you in this small town. I put forth a
lot of effort to keep things going strong, but I
don't see any effort from him. The reason you don't
see none, it's because it ain't none. It ain't nothing
for you to see. See. You wrote this letter so
thorough that you don't even have an out for yourself.
He has asked me several times to live with him
(06:10):
in that little small town, but it would be impossible
for me to work because I have to drive almost
an hour back and forth to the airport to another city.
And Shirley pointed this out. He know that he know
you can't. That's why he dangled a bit. I want
you to live with me. I'm in love with him,
(06:30):
but I'm starting to wonder if he loves me. That's
caused your intuition. Hang on, Steve, he got the wonderful
man love. I'm gonna tell you that right now. All right,
hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter.
Subject I'm about to catch another flight. We'll get back
(06:51):
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter in the subject
is I'm about to catch another flight apple bottom, megg
you want a bide? Yeah, I'm sorry. I don't know
what they care for anyway. It started this young girl
(07:11):
that wrote this letter. She's got a great job, travels
as a distributed for some retail company. Thirty years old.
She's dating this man who's a doctor. Doesn't sounds good,
Donny when he when y'all met, they was finishing up
his residence. He took a job in a rule area
so he could get a school loan. Forgive it. It's
a small town and he's not making a lot of
(07:35):
money right now. She says, it's been a struggle to
maintain the relationship because he's not making a lot of
money right now. It ain't hard. People have relationships all
the time that don't have a lot of money. See
you said, he's not making a lot of money right now.
You don't need a lot of money to maintain relationship.
You don't because he's not making a lot of money. Now.
(07:57):
I'm the supportive girlfriend. It flies in and out. I
try to be understanding when he's too tired from work
to hang out with me. He's too tired from work
to hang out with you in a small town that's
gonna come back to hunt you in this ladder. And
I'll tell you why. I put forth a lot of
effort to keep things going, but I don't see any
(08:17):
effort from him. Ladies, if you don't see an effort,
because there's ain't. Listen to me. If you can't see
an effort, it's because there's nothing for you to see.
You all are really great perceptive people, so if you
don't see something, it's because it ain't there. He has
asked me several times to live with him in that
little small town, but it would be impossible for me
(08:38):
to get to work because I have to drive an
hour back and forth to the airport in another city.
And like Shirley pointed out, and I'm telling you, he
know that, he know you can't do that. That's why
he asked you. That's dangling the carriage. I'm in love
with him, but I'm starting to wonder if he loves me. Well,
you've been you're starting to wonder that for a reason.
It's cause intuition you should pay attention to. I have
(09:01):
met most of his co workers that are mostly female
and all beautiful women. He calls me and secure. If
I ask him anything about his co workers, that's a
deflection device. Oh so you are secure. He don't answer
the question about the women. He just tell you you
are secure because he can't answer these questions because the
(09:22):
questions you ask it, they got answers to him. See,
it ain't no, that ain't nothing. It ain't nothing. That
ain't nothing. He ain't nothing. No, no, no, he got
answers to these questions. That's why he has to deflect
when I visit him. We are the food or I cook.
I've never been out or invited to anything he has
(09:42):
for work. Because it's a small town. They can't see you, girl,
word gonna get back. He recently had an award ceremony.
I told him I'd love to go, but he said
he didn't think he'd be able to go because of
his work schedule. Lady in a SMA all town, How
the hell they gonna arrange an awards ceremony and the
(10:04):
people that the award ain't allowed to come? What small
lass town would do that? Girl? Please? He didn't think
he didn't been go because of his worst charcule. Then
at the last minute he went. He was going the
whole time. It's just some woman or women co workers
(10:28):
was gonna be there to sit at the table he
had and applaud for him and then congratulate him after
the awards show. That's why he told you he wasn't going.
Then at the last minute he changed his mind. What
happened to the work schedule? I thought he thought he
couldn't go. It's all suspect to me in his bad time.
(10:54):
He can't come see me, but he can fly to
Dinver to hang out with his brother. A man do
what he want to do. He want to go see
his brother. He ain't spending no money to go see
you because you're coming twice a month, and that's all
he needs twice a month, and all them other days
in between. One of them beautiful women co working is
tightening the money. I'm about to catch another flight and
(11:19):
pop up on him. For what you finish getting surprise
in your life? See, you're fit to find out the
answer to the questions that he won't have because he
gonna have. Should I demand some answers or just give
it a little more time? Well, let me ask you.
When you say give it a little more time, you
want to give it a little more time for what
(11:42):
Because all you're gonna get in some more time with
yourself to more. You're gonna get some more months of
flying in twice a month to keep your relationship working.
And he ain't doing nothing to make it work. You
and this by yourself. But you fine, so be coming
through twice a month on right. All I gotta do
is work my schedule around the time he comes, because
(12:03):
I'm gonna tell this girl that I'm going to Denver
to see my brother this weekend, because they know that's
what I do. And then when you come, I ain't
taking you out no where. We're gonna order in and cook.
See that way they don't. Don't nobody see me out
with you and go back to her and tell her
that I was out with you this weekend. We're clearly
I'm supposed to be in devil with my brother. You
(12:25):
see what I'm saying. That's why y'all staying in order
all the time and cook because he ain't supposed to
be in time. He supposed to be in devil with
his brother. And then when he tells you that he
going to Denver to see his brother, that ain't way,
ain't going, or he could go to Denver for somebody
else on that plane to them. Oh, Steve Hud, how
(12:50):
do I know this so elegantly? Why we're out of time? Now?
Please on to Dave Letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey
at them and check out the now Coming up next
(13:11):
it is Junior and Sports Talk wild over wid I'm
sitting here, wait on you. You're listening to Dave Harvey
Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, or more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve RBFM dot com
and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your
letter live on the air, just like we're going to
read this one right here, right now, and you never know,
it could be yours. Never know, You never know. Buckle
(00:23):
up and hold on tight. We got it before you.
Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subjects. I'm
about to catch another flight. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
thirty years old and in a long distance relationship with
a doctor. I work as a retail merchandiser, and I
do a lot of traveling for work. On top of
all of the traveling for my job, I try to
(00:45):
see my man at least twice a month. When we met,
he was finishing up his residency and he took a
job in a rural area, so he'd got most of
his school loans forgiven. It's been a struggle to maintain
the relationship because he's not making a lot of money
right now. I'm the supportive girlfriend that flies in and out,
and I try to be understanding when he's too tired
(01:05):
from working to hang out with me. I put forth
a lot of effort to keep things going strong, but
I don't see any effort from him. He has asked
me several times to live with him in that little
small town, but it would be impossible for me to
work because I have to drive almost an hour back
and forth to the airport in another city. I'm in
(01:25):
love with him, but I'm starting to wonder if he
loves me. I've met his coworkers that are mostly females
and all beautiful women. He calls me insecure if I
ask him anything about his coworkers. When I visit him,
we order food or I cook. I've never been out
or invited to anything he has for work. He recently
(01:46):
had an awards ceremony and I told him I'd love
to go, but he said he didn't think he'd be
able to go because of his work schedule. Then at
the last minute, he went, it's all suspect to me.
The spare time, he can't come see me, but he
can fly to Denver to hang out with his brother.
I'm about to catch another flight and pop up on him.
(02:08):
Should I demand some answers or should I give it
a little more time. Does it sound like he's stringing
me along, Well, you already know. I mean, you're doing
everything in this relationship while he just sits back and
reaps all the benefits. I mean, people make time for
what they want to make time for it, for things
that are important to them. He did just that when
(02:30):
he went to the award show at the last minute
without you. That should tell you all you need to know.
You are not a priority in his life. He's not
doing anything extra for you. Okay, Yes he's working hard,
Yes he's becoming a doctor and all of that. He
has his residency, but they do have some time off.
Sometimes he's not making it any better, calling you insecure,
(02:52):
none of that when you ask about his co workers,
and don't allow him to do that to you. You
can ask questions. You're in a relationship, or so you
think in your head. But he does it to throw
you off so you'll leave him alone. He also knows
that it would be too much on you to move
in with him, all the driving and everything you say
you have to do. That's why I said at the beginning.
(03:13):
You already know I mean, look at the facts you said.
He won't come and see you, but he will fly
to Denver to see his brother. He doesn't take you out.
You know, you guys are always at home, you're cooking
or you order out. Clearly he's hiding something or he
wants to hide you, because whether you know you're about
(03:33):
to catch a flight or not, he's still not going
to change and put you first in your life, in
his life, and that's what you want. Steve. I'm confused,
I really am. I don't understand. I mean, this letter
is pretty complete and thorough. So I'm about to catch
(03:57):
another flight, so you just gonna throw another take it
out the window. Let me tell you what's wrong here.
You're thirty years old, you're the longest relationship with a doctor.
You got a good job on top of all the
traveling with your job. You try to see your man
at least twice a month. Here's the key to this
whole letter. I try to see my man at least
(04:20):
twice a month. Let me ask you a question, when
do he try to see you? See? I hear you talking.
I try to see my man at least twice a month.
When does he try to see you. That's the problem
with this letter. When we met, he was finishing up
(04:41):
his residency, took a job in a rural area so
he could get his school loans. Forgive it. It's been
a struggle to maintain a relationship because he's not making
a lot of money right now. No, that's not the least.
You don't need a lot of money to maintain a relationship.
There are a lot of people who don't make a
(05:02):
lot of money that maintain wonderful relationship. My mom and
daddy did. It's people to date that don't make a
lot of money. You ain't got to be a doctor
or high execs at a retail agency to maintain a relationship.
And you don't need money to maintain one. Eat. You
do need money to date, surprise each other and stuff
(05:24):
like that, but you don't need one to maintain You
don't need a lot of money to maintain it. I'm
the supportive girlfriend. It flies in and out, and I
try to be understanding when he's too tired from work
to hang out with me. Now, that's gonna be a
question a little bit later on. Is he too tired
to hang out with you? Or is that what he's
(05:48):
telling you in this small town. I put forth a
lot of effort to keep things going strong, but I
don't see any effort from him. The reason you don't
see none, it's because it ain't none. It ain't nothing
for you to see. See. You wrote this letter so
thorough that you don't even have an out for yourself.
He has asked me several times to live with him
(06:10):
in that little small town, but it would be impossible
for me to work because I have to drive almost
an hour back and forth to the airport to another city.
And Shirley pointed this out. He know that he know
you can't. That's why he dangled a bit. I want
you to live with me. I'm in love with him,
(06:30):
but I'm starting to wonder if he loves me. That's
caused your intuition. Hang on, Steve, he got the wonderful
man love. I'm gonna tell you that right now. All right,
hang on, we'll have part two of your response coming
up at twenty three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter.
Subject I'm about to catch another flight. We'll get back
(06:51):
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve,
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter in the subject
is I'm about to catch another flight apple bottom, megg
you want a bide? Yeah, I'm sorry. I don't know
what they care for anyway. It started this young girl
(07:11):
that wrote this letter. She's got a great job, travels
as a distributed for some retail company. Thirty years old.
She's dating this man who's a doctor. Doesn't sounds good,
Donny when he when y'all met, they was finishing up
his residence. He took a job in a rule area
so he could get a school loan. Forgive it. It's
a small town and he's not making a lot of
(07:35):
money right now. She says, it's been a struggle to
maintain the relationship because he's not making a lot of
money right now. It ain't hard. People have relationships all
the time that don't have a lot of money. See
you said, he's not making a lot of money right now.
You don't need a lot of money to maintain relationship.
You don't because he's not making a lot of money. Now.
(07:57):
I'm the supportive girlfriend. It flies in and out. I
try to be understanding when he's too tired from work
to hang out with me. He's too tired from work
to hang out with you in a small town that's
gonna come back to hunt you in this ladder. And
I'll tell you why. I put forth a lot of
effort to keep things going, but I don't see any
(08:17):
effort from him. Ladies, if you don't see an effort,
because there's ain't. Listen to me. If you can't see
an effort, it's because there's nothing for you to see.
You all are really great perceptive people, so if you
don't see something, it's because it ain't there. He has
asked me several times to live with him in that
little small town, but it would be impossible for me
(08:38):
to get to work because I have to drive an
hour back and forth to the airport in another city.
And like Shirley pointed out, and I'm telling you, he
know that, he know you can't do that. That's why
he asked you. That's dangling the carriage. I'm in love
with him, but I'm starting to wonder if he loves me. Well,
you've been you're starting to wonder that for a reason.
It's cause intuition you should pay attention to. I have
(09:01):
met most of his co workers that are mostly female
and all beautiful women. He calls me and secure. If
I ask him anything about his co workers, that's a
deflection device. Oh so you are secure. He don't answer
the question about the women. He just tell you you
are secure because he can't answer these questions because the
(09:22):
questions you ask it, they got answers to him. See,
it ain't no, that ain't nothing. It ain't nothing. That
ain't nothing. He ain't nothing. No, no, no, he got
answers to these questions. That's why he has to deflect
when I visit him. We are the food or I cook.
I've never been out or invited to anything he has
(09:42):
for work. Because it's a small town. They can't see you, girl,
word gonna get back. He recently had an award ceremony.
I told him I'd love to go, but he said
he didn't think he'd be able to go because of
his work schedule. Lady in a SMA all town, How
the hell they gonna arrange an awards ceremony and the
(10:04):
people that the award ain't allowed to come? What small
lass town would do that? Girl? Please? He didn't think
he didn't been go because of his worst charcule. Then
at the last minute he went. He was going the
whole time. It's just some woman or women co workers
(10:28):
was gonna be there to sit at the table he
had and applaud for him and then congratulate him after
the awards show. That's why he told you he wasn't going.
Then at the last minute he changed his mind. What
happened to the work schedule? I thought he thought he
couldn't go. It's all suspect to me in his bad time.
(10:54):
He can't come see me, but he can fly to
Dinver to hang out with his brother. A man do
what he want to do. He want to go see
his brother. He ain't spending no money to go see
you because you're coming twice a month, and that's all
he needs twice a month, and all them other days
in between. One of them beautiful women co working is
tightening the money. I'm about to catch another flight and
(11:19):
pop up on him. For what you finish getting surprise
in your life? See, you're fit to find out the
answer to the questions that he won't have because he
gonna have. Should I demand some answers or just give
it a little more time? Well, let me ask you.
When you say give it a little more time, you
want to give it a little more time for what
(11:42):
Because all you're gonna get in some more time with
yourself to more. You're gonna get some more months of
flying in twice a month to keep your relationship working.
And he ain't doing nothing to make it work. You
and this by yourself. But you fine, so be coming
through twice a month on right. All I gotta do
is work my schedule around the time he comes, because
(12:03):
I'm gonna tell this girl that I'm going to Denver
to see my brother this weekend, because they know that's
what I do. And then when you come, I ain't
taking you out no where. We're gonna order in and cook.
See that way they don't. Don't nobody see me out
with you and go back to her and tell her
that I was out with you this weekend. We're clearly
I'm supposed to be in devil with my brother. You
(12:25):
see what I'm saying. That's why y'all staying in order
all the time and cook because he ain't supposed to
be in time. He supposed to be in devil with
his brother. And then when he tells you that he
going to Denver to see his brother, that ain't way,
ain't going, or he could go to Denver for somebody
else on that plane to them. Oh, Steve Hud, how
(12:50):
do I know this so elegantly? Why we're out of time? Now?
Please on to Dave Letter on Instagram at Steve Harvey
at them and check out the now Coming up next
(13:11):
it is Junior and Sports Talk wild over wid I'm
sitting here, wait on you. You're listening to Dave Harvey
Morning Show
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