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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, And you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
H it could be yours, even it could leads doing.
It's time for the Strawberry Litter. My good friend, Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior's subject scratchy and stubby,
but I love him. Just Stephen Shirley. I'm forty two
years old and I've rekindled an old flame with a
man from my past. I ran into him at the
grocery store and he was wearing a skull cap and
hoodie because it was a cold and rainy day. I
was so excited to see him that I didn't focus
(00:49):
in on his ungroomed facial hair. He asked me to
meet him at a juice bar so we would catch up.
We could catch up, and that's when I realized how
much he has changed over the years. He showed up
with the same skull cap on, and I asked to
see his hair. It was a big bush of naps
and he hadn't combed in a while. He told me
he washes it daily and lets it do whatever it
(01:11):
wants to do. After that, he is very handsome, but
he needs a haircut, and he needs to shave the
patches of hair on his face. I cannot even call
it a beard. It's cratchy and stubbly, and if he
kisses me, it's painful. So I'm sure you're going to
wonder why I continue to go out with this man
that doesn't groom himself. It's been almost a year since
(01:32):
we've reconnected, and it was a long winter last year.
I was tired of being alone and cooking for just me,
so I started seeing him regularly to pass the time.
And I'm fallen, and I've fallen back in love with him,
despite the prickly, itchy sex. I asked him if he'd
consider cutting down his back hair, his leg hair, and
(01:55):
his underarm hair a little bit, and he said it's
not the manly thing to do. He sees how his
body hair leaves find scratches all over my body, but
he still won't groom himself. He is a clean man,
and he smells wonderful. But I'm sick of the scratchy,
stubbly sex. Since he won't compromise, Is it a sign
(02:18):
that he doesn't care about me? Is this just a.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Fling to him?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Well, I just say, forget about what it is to him,
because this is about you. You're dating and sleeping with
a man whose body hair leaves scratches all over you.
Why I mean this has to be painful, it has
to be uncomfortable for you. Does he care about you?
You asked, Well, he must not care about your feelings
(02:44):
or he would shave quickly. Itchy stubbly sex is not
good sex that period. You don't have to do this.
You don't have to be with him. Have you thought
of stopping the intimacy until he shades and grooms himself.
Otherwise you're just taking what whatever he gives you and
not getting what you want. You want a clean, well shaven,
(03:04):
well groomed man, and that's not too much to ask.
You say, he won't compromise, and yet you're compromising way
too much. And what does he mean it's not manly?
It's very manly to shave and groom yourself very much so.
And most clean men do you know. They may not
do it all the time every day, but they certainly
groom themselves and shave. You're only staying with him because
(03:28):
you don't want to be alone, and I'm sorry, that's
just not a good enough reason. You can do better, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Well, Well, so this is the first letter in all
the years of doing the Strawberry Letter. Uh huh, Well,
a woman is Dayton a superhero? A superhero You're Dayton
Wolverine really fascinating to me, and you're saying all the
(04:04):
right things and wrong things at the same time, and
that I don't understand. So let this be a lesson
to all women who are compromising. But you have to
understand what a compromise is. A compromise means you give
a little, they give a little. You all meet in
(04:27):
the middle, and that is the comp pro mind. That's
how it's done. You give, he give. You're doing all
the giving, and the given he doing is only enough
to benefitdeo. You rekindle a relationship with a guy used
(04:48):
to day. You're forty two, you saying the letters. You've
been a long winner. You're tired of cooking for yourself
and tied of being alone. That ain't no reason to
just take anybody in anything. Come on now, tired of
being I get it, but come on, you gotta think
(05:10):
more of yourself. Matter at the grocery store, held a
skull cap in the hoodie because it was cold and raining.
Excited to seem you didn't focus on his ungroomed facial hair.
You ain't see that. If I'm were you and I'm
forty two and I run up in the woman I
ain't seen in a while, I promise you I would
(05:31):
notice her facial hair. I'll give you my damn word
on me. Ain't don't wear the hell David, I'm gonna
not notice this. He asked me to meet him at
a juice bar so we could catch up, And then
that's when you realize how much he's changed over you.
(05:53):
He showed up with the same skull cap on. I
asked to see his hair. It was a big bush
of naps that he ain't combed in a while. He
told me he washed it daily and let it do
whatever you want to do. Next line, he is very handsome.
What what should I just read the same super you said?
(06:21):
He had a big bush and naps that he ain't
combed in a while. He ain't combed his hand. What
he told you, he washed it daily and he let
it do whatever you want to do after that. Now,
is he wearing a halftl or the halfstyle? Win?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Hang on, we'll find out. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's strawberry letter subject stubbly and scratchy, but I love him.
We'll get back into that right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're listening hard morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is scratchy and stubby, but I.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Lady ran up into an old flame one day, had
a hoodie on her skull cap. She was so excited
to see if she didn't notice the ungroomed facial hair,
I said earlier, and I will repeat. If I'm forty
two and I run up in a woman and I
ain't seen a while, and I see her at the
grocery store, I can assure you I will notice and
(07:22):
pay attention to her ungroom facial hair. I'm gonna know this.
I'm gonna know this right here. You're a woman and
you got some damn facial hair. I'm fin to know that.
I'm fin to know that. I'm gonna have to take note.
I don't know what didn't happen, but then and then
(07:42):
he asked me to meet him at the juice bar
so we can catch up. At that point, if I
see a woman and I'm forty two and she got
facial hair, I ain't seen it in a while. She's
down at the juice bar by her, damn, we ain't
got to go down here and catch up on nothing.
I done caught up. I seen what I Oh. I
ain't gonna hurt your feelings and say no, I ain't
(08:03):
gonna meet you, but I ain't coming to the juice box.
You ain't seen then the while, you ain't got my note.
It's called ghosting, all right. So she get down there,
she ain't seen the why I got the same scull
cap on you asked to see his half Here was
a big bush and naps, and he ain't calmed it
in a while. He told me washington every day and
let it do what it do. After that next line,
(08:23):
he is very handsome. I damn you that line. I'm
not to see what she I told you she making
a lot of statements. I don't understand. Ran up into
a guy you ain't seen a while. You didn't notice
his umngroom, facial hand. I run up into a woman
I ain't seen in a while. I'm gonna notice any
(08:44):
facial hair. I don't give a damn what if there's one.
It's this one curl coming off your chin. I'm gonna
pick up on that. I'm gonna notice that, and I'm
gonna make mental note of that. Now you the dated
this man that don't calm watch, don't comb his hair,
don't let it do nothing. It's looking nappy to you,
(09:04):
it look uncainer. And then right after that, you say,
and he's very hampsy. How you know he might be?
But how do you know? But he needs a haircut,
and he needs to shave the patches of hair on
his face. I can't even call it a beer to
(09:26):
scratch you and stubbly. If he kisses me, it's pain.
So I'm sure you're going to wonder why I continue
to go out with this man that doesn't groom himself.
Everybody wondered that. Everybody listening to the Strawberry let up.
What are you doing? You're going out with the man
that doesn't groom himself. What now it goes crazy. It's
(09:48):
been a year since we reconnected, and it was a
long winter last year. I was tired of being alone
and cooking just for me, so I took Wolverine in.
He was out in the cold, living in a cave,
and I decided, come on, Wolverine, you ain't got to
live in the cave no more. Come on over here
and stay with me. So I started seeing him regularly
(10:09):
to pass the time, and I falling back in love
with him. Yes, I'm in love with a superhan. I'm
in love with him despite the prickly, itchy set. Most
animals have harry prickly wild set. I saw a video
two koala bears having set. They were tearing his skin
(10:30):
off each other back. I guess, you know, for if
I'm a wild ass animal, and that's what it is,
that's what it is. I've seen a line climb up
on the line this hand set and biting on the
back of her neck. I've seen that on pev Folks.
That ain't what I want. Bob Alba was doing it
some women though he was fighting with me while he
was having such as just being have a little line
(10:51):
as moments and stuff like that. It's just I'm just
not in all that like that. I'm just going to
he Hey, this is my turn with this letter. I'm
just telling you and just you. You you said I'm
in love with him despite quickly, Itchy says, no, nobody
won't that but you. I asked him if he considered
listening to this cutting down his back hair, leg hair
(11:15):
and underarm hair. What so it just ain't on his face.
You done went out with Sashquatch or whatever his name is, Bigfoot.
You done met Bigfoot and just and it's just and
under and hair a little bit. And he said, it's
(11:36):
not the manly thing to do, or damn doog it
is grooming and taking care of yourself. Is cutting your hair?
All this is manly? I don't is he familiar with this?
Does the thing that thownness called the black Man's country Club,
It's called the Bober Shop. You spent a lot of
time down there because we have to groom ourself and
(11:59):
then we have to women. Wish you anyway, he sees
how his body had leaves, fine scratches all over my
body and he still won't groom you, but you still
letting him climb on it. Girl by he's a clean
man and he smells wonderful. What but I'm sick of
the scratch he's stubbly sex since he won't compromise this
(12:21):
in a side that he don't care about me. Absolutely,
give a damn what you're thinking this who I am,
just what I am, Just what I'm giving you taking
a lead. Stop having sex with him till he groomed himself. Now,
if he decides he's rather stay ungroomed and have sex
with you, he rather be scratchy, equally itchy and prickly
than to have sex with you or to be with
you. You can find this out right away. Stop having sex
(12:43):
with him until he grooms himself. If he won't groom himself,
then y'all finish having sex.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve HARBFM
on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Say Sounded
So good. You can download it today. Coming up at
forty six minutes after the hour, we'll hear from Junior
in sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Right after this.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
You're Listening Dave Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now, And you never know,
it could be yours.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
H it could be yours, even it could leads doing.
It's time for the Strawberry Litter. My good friend, Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior's subject scratchy and stubby,
but I love him. Just Stephen Shirley. I'm forty two
years old and I've rekindled an old flame with a
man from my past. I ran into him at the
grocery store and he was wearing a skull cap and
hoodie because it was a cold and rainy day. I
was so excited to see him that I didn't focus
(00:49):
in on his ungroomed facial hair. He asked me to
meet him at a juice bar so we would catch up.
We could catch up, and that's when I realized how
much he has changed over the years. He showed up
with the same skull cap on, and I asked to
see his hair. It was a big bush of naps
and he hadn't combed in a while. He told me
he washes it daily and lets it do whatever it
(01:11):
wants to do. After that, he is very handsome, but
he needs a haircut, and he needs to shave the
patches of hair on his face. I cannot even call
it a beard. It's cratchy and stubbly, and if he
kisses me, it's painful. So I'm sure you're going to
wonder why I continue to go out with this man
that doesn't groom himself. It's been almost a year since
(01:32):
we've reconnected, and it was a long winter last year.
I was tired of being alone and cooking for just me,
so I started seeing him regularly to pass the time.
And I'm fallen, and I've fallen back in love with him,
despite the prickly, itchy sex. I asked him if he'd
consider cutting down his back hair, his leg hair, and
(01:55):
his underarm hair a little bit, and he said it's
not the manly thing to do. He sees how his
body hair leaves find scratches all over my body, but
he still won't groom himself. He is a clean man,
and he smells wonderful. But I'm sick of the scratchy,
stubbly sex. Since he won't compromise, Is it a sign
(02:18):
that he doesn't care about me? Is this just a.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
Fling to him?
Speaker 1 (02:22):
Well, I just say, forget about what it is to him,
because this is about you. You're dating and sleeping with
a man whose body hair leaves scratches all over you.
Why I mean this has to be painful, it has
to be uncomfortable for you. Does he care about you?
You asked, Well, he must not care about your feelings
(02:44):
or he would shave quickly. Itchy stubbly sex is not
good sex that period. You don't have to do this.
You don't have to be with him. Have you thought
of stopping the intimacy until he shades and grooms himself.
Otherwise you're just taking what whatever he gives you and
not getting what you want. You want a clean, well shaven,
(03:04):
well groomed man, and that's not too much to ask.
You say, he won't compromise, and yet you're compromising way
too much. And what does he mean it's not manly?
It's very manly to shave and groom yourself very much so.
And most clean men do you know. They may not
do it all the time every day, but they certainly
groom themselves and shave. You're only staying with him because
(03:28):
you don't want to be alone, and I'm sorry, that's
just not a good enough reason. You can do better, Steve.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Well, Well, so this is the first letter in all
the years of doing the Strawberry Letter. Uh huh, Well,
a woman is Dayton a superhero? A superhero You're Dayton
Wolverine really fascinating to me, and you're saying all the
(04:04):
right things and wrong things at the same time, and
that I don't understand. So let this be a lesson
to all women who are compromising. But you have to
understand what a compromise is. A compromise means you give
a little, they give a little. You all meet in
(04:27):
the middle, and that is the comp pro mind. That's
how it's done. You give, he give. You're doing all
the giving, and the given he doing is only enough
to benefitdeo. You rekindle a relationship with a guy used
(04:48):
to day. You're forty two, you saying the letters. You've
been a long winner. You're tired of cooking for yourself
and tied of being alone. That ain't no reason to
just take anybody in anything. Come on now, tired of
being I get it, but come on, you gotta think
(05:10):
more of yourself. Matter at the grocery store, held a
skull cap in the hoodie because it was cold and raining.
Excited to seem you didn't focus on his ungroomed facial hair.
You ain't see that. If I'm were you and I'm
forty two and I run up in the woman I
ain't seen in a while, I promise you I would
(05:31):
notice her facial hair. I'll give you my damn word
on me. Ain't don't wear the hell David, I'm gonna
not notice this. He asked me to meet him at
a juice bar so we could catch up, And then
that's when you realize how much he's changed over you.
(05:53):
He showed up with the same skull cap on. I
asked to see his hair. It was a big bush
of naps that he ain't combed in a while. He
told me he washed it daily and let it do
whatever you want to do. Next line, he is very handsome.
What what should I just read the same super you said?
(06:21):
He had a big bush and naps that he ain't
combed in a while. He ain't combed his hand. What
he told you, he washed it daily and he let
it do whatever you want to do after that. Now,
is he wearing a halftl or the halfstyle? Win?
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Hang on, we'll find out. We'll have part two of
your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.
Today's strawberry letter subject stubbly and scratchy, but I love him.
We'll get back into that right after this.
Speaker 2 (06:51):
You're listening hard morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.
The subject is scratchy and stubby, but I.
Speaker 2 (07:01):
Lady ran up into an old flame one day, had
a hoodie on her skull cap. She was so excited
to see if she didn't notice the ungroomed facial hair,
I said earlier, and I will repeat. If I'm forty
two and I run up in a woman and I
ain't seen a while, and I see her at the
grocery store, I can assure you I will notice and
(07:22):
pay attention to her ungroom facial hair. I'm gonna know this.
I'm gonna know this right here. You're a woman and
you got some damn facial hair. I'm fin to know that.
I'm fin to know that. I'm gonna have to take note.
I don't know what didn't happen, but then and then
(07:42):
he asked me to meet him at the juice bar
so we can catch up. At that point, if I
see a woman and I'm forty two and she got
facial hair, I ain't seen it in a while. She's
down at the juice bar by her, damn, we ain't
got to go down here and catch up on nothing.
I done caught up. I seen what I Oh. I
ain't gonna hurt your feelings and say no, I ain't
(08:03):
gonna meet you, but I ain't coming to the juice box.
You ain't seen then the while, you ain't got my note.
It's called ghosting, all right. So she get down there,
she ain't seen the why I got the same scull
cap on you asked to see his half Here was
a big bush and naps, and he ain't calmed it
in a while. He told me washington every day and
let it do what it do. After that next line,
(08:23):
he is very handsome. I damn you that line. I'm
not to see what she I told you she making
a lot of statements. I don't understand. Ran up into
a guy you ain't seen a while. You didn't notice
his umngroom, facial hand. I run up into a woman
I ain't seen in a while. I'm gonna notice any
(08:44):
facial hair. I don't give a damn what if there's one.
It's this one curl coming off your chin. I'm gonna
pick up on that. I'm gonna notice that, and I'm
gonna make mental note of that. Now you the dated
this man that don't calm watch, don't comb his hair,
don't let it do nothing. It's looking nappy to you,
(09:04):
it look uncainer. And then right after that, you say,
and he's very hampsy. How you know he might be?
But how do you know? But he needs a haircut,
and he needs to shave the patches of hair on
his face. I can't even call it a beer to
(09:26):
scratch you and stubbly. If he kisses me, it's pain.
So I'm sure you're going to wonder why I continue
to go out with this man that doesn't groom himself.
Everybody wondered that. Everybody listening to the Strawberry let up.
What are you doing? You're going out with the man
that doesn't groom himself. What now it goes crazy. It's
(09:48):
been a year since we reconnected, and it was a
long winter last year. I was tired of being alone
and cooking just for me, so I took Wolverine in.
He was out in the cold, living in a cave,
and I decided, come on, Wolverine, you ain't got to
live in the cave no more. Come on over here
and stay with me. So I started seeing him regularly
(10:09):
to pass the time, and I falling back in love
with him. Yes, I'm in love with a superhan. I'm
in love with him despite the prickly, itchy set. Most
animals have harry prickly wild set. I saw a video
two koala bears having set. They were tearing his skin
(10:30):
off each other back. I guess, you know, for if
I'm a wild ass animal, and that's what it is,
that's what it is. I've seen a line climb up
on the line this hand set and biting on the
back of her neck. I've seen that on pev Folks.
That ain't what I want. Bob Alba was doing it
some women though he was fighting with me while he
was having such as just being have a little line
(10:51):
as moments and stuff like that. It's just I'm just
not in all that like that. I'm just going to
he Hey, this is my turn with this letter. I'm
just telling you and just you. You you said I'm
in love with him despite quickly, Itchy says, no, nobody
won't that but you. I asked him if he considered
listening to this cutting down his back hair, leg hair
(11:15):
and underarm hair. What so it just ain't on his face.
You done went out with Sashquatch or whatever his name is, Bigfoot.
You done met Bigfoot and just and it's just and
under and hair a little bit. And he said, it's
(11:36):
not the manly thing to do, or damn doog it
is grooming and taking care of yourself. Is cutting your hair?
All this is manly? I don't is he familiar with this?
Does the thing that thownness called the black Man's country Club,
It's called the Bober Shop. You spent a lot of
time down there because we have to groom ourself and
(11:59):
then we have to women. Wish you anyway, he sees
how his body had leaves, fine scratches all over my
body and he still won't groom you, but you still
letting him climb on it. Girl by he's a clean
man and he smells wonderful. What but I'm sick of
the scratch he's stubbly sex since he won't compromise this
(12:21):
in a side that he don't care about me. Absolutely,
give a damn what you're thinking this who I am,
just what I am, Just what I'm giving you taking
a lead. Stop having sex with him till he groomed himself. Now,
if he decides he's rather stay ungroomed and have sex
with you, he rather be scratchy, equally itchy and prickly
than to have sex with you or to be with
you. You can find this out right away. Stop having sex
(12:43):
with him until he grooms himself. If he won't groom himself,
then y'all finish having sex.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve HARBFM
on Instagram and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Say Sounded
So good. You can download it today. Coming up at
forty six minutes after the hour, we'll hear from Junior
in sports Talk.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Right after this.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
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