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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
All right, ladies and jentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry
Letter with my good friend Shirlie Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior's subject tomorrow isn't promised?
Do it today? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married to a
man that won't have sex with me. He rations it
out to me based on how I treat him. He's
eight years older than me, and when we got married,
I was twenty two years old, so I looked to
him for guidance and financial support. I started an online
(00:45):
boutique after my twenty fifth birthday, and my husband started
to resent me. After I started making a lot of
sales and a lot of money. He told me I
couldn't consider my business as being successful until I paid
him back the money he loaned me to start my business.
He was serious, so I went and withdrew a lump
sum and handed it to him. Since then, excuse me,
(01:08):
it's been one thing after the other. Now, he says,
I am too career oriented to be a wife and
take care of him. I'm twenty seven now and I
want to enjoy my earnings and take.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
A few trips to see the world.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
He goes on extravagant business trips and he doesn't invite me.
He tells me, I need to focus on my business.
So while he was on a business trip two months ago,
I decided to live my life and go out with
my girls. I ended up having a one night stand,
and after a few days, I decided to go back
for seconds. I also ran into an old flame and
(01:43):
we have sex almost daily. Life is too short to
be stressed, so I decided to live.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
In the moment.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Now I'm a lot more relaxed when my husband lectures
me or minimizes the success of my business. Recently, I
decided to open a small boutique in a marketplace. My
husband hit the roof and shouted out two million reasons
why it wouldn't work.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
The other two men in my life.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Support me and are helping me set up the boutique.
I just have to make sure they're not there at
the same time. Tomorrow isn't promise, So should I divorce
my husband so I can live my life to the fullest. Well,
it sounds like you're already living your life to the fullest.
That's exactly what you're doing. I mean, you're living your
life on your terms now. Is it morally right? Of
(02:28):
course not, because you are a married woman and you're
cheating on your husband with two men. But your husband,
you know, hasn't been supportive and you don't get any
love or sex from him. He's withholding sex based on
the way you treat him. You say, But what have
you done to mistreat him before the two men came
in your life? You opened a successful business. Is that
(02:50):
mistreating your husband? Isn't that what you're supposed to do
in life. You're a young woman with a career and
he should be there to encourage you and to lift
you up. You paid him back his seed money and
he's still mad. He should be happy, he should be
proud of his wife. He's none of those things. And
you already have one foot out the door. This marriage
isn't working for either of you. Neither one Steve, your
(03:14):
husband is a hater.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yeah, it's just gonna get out. You know these letters
right here, y'all, I don't really play around too much.
Your husband is a hater. This is what happens to haters.
Strange things happen.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
The letter.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Do me for it, Loop, I ain't gonna lie to you.
I wasn't expecting you to say that because the title
is Tomorrow's in promise. Do it today. You open a
letter with I'm married to a man that won't have
sex with me. Well that's problem. He rations it out
(03:57):
to me based on I treat him.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
I'll be damn you can do that. What men have
that type of pull?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What this has got up? Be some new fangle stuff
right here? He eight years older than me. We got
married when I was twenty two. What's going on here?
This is something? I don't know what generation this is,
y'all in right now, like XYZ, I don't know what
(04:32):
it is. I don't know what your new millennials. I
don't know what this is. If you uh dcrown, I
don't know. They have so many different names and pronouns
for stuff now, I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I don't know what to call you.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Young and dumb. Maybe it's the yd yd young and dumb.
I don't know what generation this is.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I just don't.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Some of these letters like really opened my eyes because
I didn't know you could.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
You could do this, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And and then you started, on your twenty fifth birthday
year open up a boutique online boutique, and you started
making a lot of sales and a lot of money.
And then your husband told you you can't consider your
business successful until you pay me back the money I
loaned you to start your business. He was serious. You
went that day, you ain't saved up. You went and
withdrew a lump sum and handed it to him. Since then,
(05:24):
there's been one thing after not See that messed him
up because obviously he don't know how much money you're
making on the online business. You can't call yourself success
as you give me the money I paid you back.
You went here. He went, Oh, hell, this is how
the conversation went. Pay you back here. See he thought
that was gonna throw you into something. He thought you
gonna have to save up all this heit ain't no problem.
(05:46):
Let me go get it. Let me go get this
little punk ass money you had in me here. Then
he went all, hell, now you to mess him up? Now,
he says, you too career oriented to be a wife,
damn man, and take care of him. What is I'm
gonna take care of your phone? Passing our sex like this,
like you know, like we got visitations, like we conjugal
(06:09):
visits at Pelican Base some damn well, what are you
talking about? All right, I'm twenty seven. I want to
enjoy my earners and take a few trips to see
the world. He go on extraffickant BIS and trip. He
don't invite you, okay, and then he tells me I
need to focus on your BIS.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
All right, okay, homie.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So while he was on a bus a trip two
most ago, you went to live your life and went
out with your girls. You had a one night stand. God, no,
hang on living your life to the futt.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Oh yeah, stop it right there.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject
tomorrow isn't promised.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Do it today. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
the subject tomorrow isn't promised?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Do it to?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yeah, and tomorrow ain't promises. She getting it all in today.
She married the man won't have sex with her eight
years older, and you know she opened up a business
where she was twenty five, you know, and you're twenty two.
You look to him for guidance and financial support. Got
yourself together, open up online business on your twenty fifth birthday.
(07:23):
Then your husband started resenting you. You started making a
lot of money, and I was talking about how good
the business was. Your husband said, you can't call yourself
a success until you pay your pay that money back
I gave you to start it. She said, okay. She
didn't save up. She went to the bank, got one
lump sum and said him. He went, oh hell, because
now he ain't know how much money you was making.
(07:44):
You had all that money saved. And then after that
it's one thing after another because your husband is a hater.
Now your two career oriented to be a wife and
take care of him. That's what he say you twenty seven. Now,
oh oh, and you want to enjoy your earnings, take
a few trips see the world. He go on business trips.
(08:05):
He don't invite me, okay, and probably why he got
the ration. Not this sick because he can't give it
to you. And all these business trips. I'm just saying,
I want to enjoy my earnings. He tells me, I
need to focus on my business. That's why you can't
go on the business trip. Okay, you're focusing on it.
(08:27):
So while he was on a bus trip two months ago,
I decided to live my life to go out with
my girls. I ended up having a one night stand,
and after a few days, I decided to go back
for seconds.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Right now.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I also ran into an old flame and we have
sex almost daily.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Damp.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah, so much for rational daily life is too short
to be stressed. God, let me tell us, I said, so,
I decided to live in the moment. Now I'm a
lot more relaxed when my husband lectures me or minimizing
the successful. You know you're sitting up in here. You
(09:08):
have treated me right, you sitt up in her your
own little business. All you all you want to do
all the time is shut up there and talk about
your on line bout tie on the one. Won't she
all these dressing and stuff I'm trying to give you,
No intention to pay for me. You know all you
want to talk about how many orders you got, how
much how much stuff you sold online? All this here
he I ain't even is out here going all these
business trips I ain't taking. You know what I ain't taking.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
We need to focus on.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
That little lad business you got and the little lad
business it's weird now yeah, yeah, little lads business and
turn into two of fast. So now you don't give
it damn what he said. Okay, when you get through,
I got to stop to mat you through, you through
because it takes him a lot longer. So go ahead, here,
(09:55):
you through. That's what you normally through with your little
every now and then. And I ask go, I got
I got somebody daily daily, mister airy nine D, and
I don' found here day.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
M hmm.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
You know I'm I'm gonna leave mister airy nine d
in and go down here and see mister all the time. Yeah,
That's what I'm gonna do. So don't give a damn
what she says. Uh. Recently, I decided to open a
small boutique in the marketplace. My husband hit the roof
and shouted out two million reasons why it won't work.
(10:30):
He's such a hater. But the other two men in
my life support me, and I helped me set up
the boutique. Wow, I just gotta make sure they ain't
not there at the same time. The little girl, you
playing too rough? Now one, I'm gonna try to surprise
you and come down there and everybody gonna be surprised. Now,
(10:53):
you need you need to reduce this. I'm just telling you,
Uncle Steve, telling you you need to reduce this. You
gonna do what you do. I understand, you know you're
gonna do what you do. You know, just but you
just need one. It's two men. This ain't gonna work
for you, say y'all. Ain't y'all ain't y'all ain't built
(11:13):
for this. Women now, women ain't built for this. Men
really ain't supposed to do it. But yeah, let's not
go there.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
That's a whole for another day. You work out letter.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's gotten better. Tomorrow is in promise. So should I
divorce my husband so I could live my life to
the floor. Well, you've already divorced him. Mentally, you're not there.
You don't care. He can't hurt you no more. He's
cheating on you too. He just didn't write in he's
(11:53):
cheating on YouTube, he just didn't write in them extravagant
business trips and rast six and he thirty so twenty fifth.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
So how old is he? Not he's thirty thirty five? Yeah, no,
she's twenty seven. He thirty five, he's thirty five. He
thirty five?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Now yeah he's busy thirty five.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
W thirty five doing it? Thirty five?
Speaker 2 (12:30):
You should have seen it when I was thirty five.
Wasn't no phone cameras, wasn't no.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Cyberspace?
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Say lord, that's the only good thing about being a
segregation base, segregator.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Com pre civil rights.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What's your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harby
FM on Instagram, on Facebook and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcasts iHeartRadio app bre It never sounded so good.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
You can unload that today.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
Junior and Sports Talk.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
Right after this, you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to STEVEVARVFM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter
live on the air, just like we're going to read
this one right here, right now.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
All right, ladies and jentlemen, it's time for the Strawberry
Letter with my good friend Shirlie Strawberry.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Thank you, my good friend. Junior's subject tomorrow isn't promised?
Do it today? Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married to a
man that won't have sex with me. He rations it
out to me based on how I treat him. He's
eight years older than me, and when we got married,
I was twenty two years old, so I looked to
him for guidance and financial support. I started an online
(00:45):
boutique after my twenty fifth birthday, and my husband started
to resent me. After I started making a lot of
sales and a lot of money. He told me I
couldn't consider my business as being successful until I paid
him back the money he loaned me to start my business.
He was serious, so I went and withdrew a lump
sum and handed it to him. Since then, excuse me,
(01:08):
it's been one thing after the other. Now, he says,
I am too career oriented to be a wife and
take care of him. I'm twenty seven now and I
want to enjoy my earnings and take.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
A few trips to see the world.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
He goes on extravagant business trips and he doesn't invite me.
He tells me, I need to focus on my business.
So while he was on a business trip two months ago,
I decided to live my life and go out with
my girls. I ended up having a one night stand,
and after a few days, I decided to go back
for seconds. I also ran into an old flame and
(01:43):
we have sex almost daily. Life is too short to
be stressed, so I decided to live.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
In the moment.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Now I'm a lot more relaxed when my husband lectures
me or minimizes the success of my business. Recently, I
decided to open a small boutique in a marketplace. My
husband hit the roof and shouted out two million reasons
why it wouldn't work.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
The other two men in my life.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Support me and are helping me set up the boutique.
I just have to make sure they're not there at
the same time. Tomorrow isn't promise, So should I divorce
my husband so I can live my life to the fullest. Well,
it sounds like you're already living your life to the fullest.
That's exactly what you're doing. I mean, you're living your
life on your terms now. Is it morally right? Of
(02:28):
course not, because you are a married woman and you're
cheating on your husband with two men. But your husband,
you know, hasn't been supportive and you don't get any
love or sex from him. He's withholding sex based on
the way you treat him. You say, But what have
you done to mistreat him before the two men came
in your life? You opened a successful business. Is that
(02:50):
mistreating your husband? Isn't that what you're supposed to do
in life. You're a young woman with a career and
he should be there to encourage you and to lift
you up. You paid him back his seed money and
he's still mad. He should be happy, he should be
proud of his wife. He's none of those things. And
you already have one foot out the door. This marriage
isn't working for either of you. Neither one Steve, your
(03:14):
husband is a hater.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
Yeah, it's just gonna get out. You know these letters
right here, y'all, I don't really play around too much.
Your husband is a hater. This is what happens to haters.
Strange things happen.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
The letter.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Do me for it, Loop, I ain't gonna lie to you.
I wasn't expecting you to say that because the title
is Tomorrow's in promise. Do it today. You open a
letter with I'm married to a man that won't have
sex with me. Well that's problem. He rations it out
(03:57):
to me based on I treat him.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
I'll be damn you can do that. What men have
that type of pull?
Speaker 2 (04:11):
What this has got up? Be some new fangle stuff
right here? He eight years older than me. We got
married when I was twenty two. What's going on here?
This is something? I don't know what generation this is,
y'all in right now, like XYZ, I don't know what
(04:32):
it is. I don't know what your new millennials. I
don't know what this is. If you uh dcrown, I
don't know. They have so many different names and pronouns
for stuff now, I don't.
Speaker 3 (04:42):
I don't know what to call you.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
Young and dumb. Maybe it's the yd yd young and dumb.
I don't know what generation this is.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
I just don't.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Some of these letters like really opened my eyes because
I didn't know you could.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
You could do this, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
And and then you started, on your twenty fifth birthday
year open up a boutique online boutique, and you started
making a lot of sales and a lot of money.
And then your husband told you you can't consider your
business successful until you pay me back the money I
loaned you to start your business. He was serious. You
went that day, you ain't saved up. You went and
withdrew a lump sum and handed it to him. Since then,
(05:24):
there's been one thing after not See that messed him
up because obviously he don't know how much money you're
making on the online business. You can't call yourself success
as you give me the money I paid you back.
You went here. He went, Oh, hell, this is how
the conversation went. Pay you back here. See he thought
that was gonna throw you into something. He thought you
gonna have to save up all this heit ain't no problem.
(05:46):
Let me go get it. Let me go get this
little punk ass money you had in me here. Then
he went all, hell, now you to mess him up? Now,
he says, you too career oriented to be a wife,
damn man, and take care of him. What is I'm
gonna take care of your phone? Passing our sex like this,
like you know, like we got visitations, like we conjugal
(06:09):
visits at Pelican Base some damn well, what are you
talking about? All right, I'm twenty seven. I want to
enjoy my earners and take a few trips to see
the world. He go on extraffickant BIS and trip. He
don't invite you, okay, and then he tells me I
need to focus on your BIS.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
All right, okay, homie.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
So while he was on a bus a trip two
most ago, you went to live your life and went
out with your girls. You had a one night stand. God, no,
hang on living your life to the futt.
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Oh yeah, stop it right there.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter, subject
tomorrow isn't promised.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Do it today. We'll get back into it right after this.
You're listening hard Morning show.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter,
the subject tomorrow isn't promised?
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Do it to?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yeah, and tomorrow ain't promises. She getting it all in today.
She married the man won't have sex with her eight
years older, and you know she opened up a business
where she was twenty five, you know, and you're twenty two.
You look to him for guidance and financial support. Got
yourself together, open up online business on your twenty fifth birthday.
(07:23):
Then your husband started resenting you. You started making a
lot of money, and I was talking about how good
the business was. Your husband said, you can't call yourself
a success until you pay your pay that money back
I gave you to start it. She said, okay. She
didn't save up. She went to the bank, got one
lump sum and said him. He went, oh hell, because
now he ain't know how much money you was making.
(07:44):
You had all that money saved. And then after that
it's one thing after another because your husband is a hater.
Now your two career oriented to be a wife and
take care of him. That's what he say you twenty seven. Now,
oh oh, and you want to enjoy your earnings, take
a few trips see the world. He go on business trips.
(08:05):
He don't invite me, okay, and probably why he got
the ration. Not this sick because he can't give it
to you. And all these business trips. I'm just saying,
I want to enjoy my earnings. He tells me, I
need to focus on my business. That's why you can't
go on the business trip. Okay, you're focusing on it.
(08:27):
So while he was on a bus trip two months ago,
I decided to live my life to go out with
my girls. I ended up having a one night stand,
and after a few days, I decided to go back
for seconds.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Right now.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
I also ran into an old flame and we have
sex almost daily.
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Damp.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yeah, so much for rational daily life is too short
to be stressed. God, let me tell us, I said, so,
I decided to live in the moment. Now I'm a
lot more relaxed when my husband lectures me or minimizing
the successful. You know you're sitting up in here. You
(09:08):
have treated me right, you sitt up in her your
own little business. All you all you want to do
all the time is shut up there and talk about
your on line bout tie on the one. Won't she
all these dressing and stuff I'm trying to give you,
No intention to pay for me. You know all you
want to talk about how many orders you got, how
much how much stuff you sold online? All this here
he I ain't even is out here going all these
business trips I ain't taking. You know what I ain't taking.
Speaker 3 (09:30):
We need to focus on.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
That little lad business you got and the little lad
business it's weird now yeah, yeah, little lads business and
turn into two of fast. So now you don't give
it damn what he said. Okay, when you get through,
I got to stop to mat you through, you through
because it takes him a lot longer. So go ahead, here,
(09:55):
you through. That's what you normally through with your little
every now and then. And I ask go, I got
I got somebody daily daily, mister airy nine D, and
I don' found here day.
Speaker 3 (10:08):
M hmm.
Speaker 2 (10:09):
You know I'm I'm gonna leave mister airy nine d
in and go down here and see mister all the time. Yeah,
That's what I'm gonna do. So don't give a damn
what she says. Uh. Recently, I decided to open a
small boutique in the marketplace. My husband hit the roof
and shouted out two million reasons why it won't work.
(10:30):
He's such a hater. But the other two men in
my life support me, and I helped me set up
the boutique. Wow, I just gotta make sure they ain't
not there at the same time. The little girl, you
playing too rough? Now one, I'm gonna try to surprise
you and come down there and everybody gonna be surprised. Now,
(10:53):
you need you need to reduce this. I'm just telling you,
Uncle Steve, telling you you need to reduce this. You
gonna do what you do. I understand, you know you're
gonna do what you do. You know, just but you
just need one. It's two men. This ain't gonna work
for you, say y'all. Ain't y'all ain't y'all ain't built
(11:13):
for this. Women now, women ain't built for this. Men
really ain't supposed to do it. But yeah, let's not
go there.
Speaker 3 (11:24):
That's a whole for another day. You work out letter.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's gotten better. Tomorrow is in promise. So should I
divorce my husband so I could live my life to
the floor. Well, you've already divorced him. Mentally, you're not there.
You don't care. He can't hurt you no more. He's
cheating on you too. He just didn't write in he's
(11:53):
cheating on YouTube, he just didn't write in them extravagant
business trips and rast six and he thirty so twenty fifth.
Speaker 3 (12:04):
So how old is he? Not he's thirty thirty five? Yeah, no,
she's twenty seven. He thirty five, he's thirty five. He
thirty five?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Now yeah he's busy thirty five.
Speaker 3 (12:17):
W thirty five doing it? Thirty five?
Speaker 2 (12:30):
You should have seen it when I was thirty five.
Wasn't no phone cameras, wasn't no.
Speaker 3 (12:39):
Cyberspace?
Speaker 2 (12:43):
Say lord, that's the only good thing about being a
segregation base, segregator.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Com pre civil rights.
Speaker 1 (12:55):
What's your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harby
FM on Instagram, on Facebook and check out the Strawberry
Letter podcasts iHeartRadio app bre It never sounded so good.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
You can unload that today.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Coming up at forty six minutes after the hour, it's
Junior and Sports Talk.
Speaker 3 (13:13):
Right after this, you're listening Harvey Morning Show.
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An unlicensed lizard psychologist travels the universe talking to strangers about absolutely nothing. TO CALL THE GECKO: follow me on https://www.twitch.tv/lyleforever to get a notification for when I am taking calls. I am usually live Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays but lately a lot of other times too. I am a gecko.