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December 23, 2021 17 mins

Spoiler: it's you. We take a survey on what we're thankful for in 2021, with a bonus extra thoughtful discussion on candle scents. 

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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to Steph.
I never told your production of I Heart Radio. It
is time for another half hour, the second to last
one of the year. I'm pretty sure we're closing in

(00:26):
on the end of the year, so we want to
take a survey of some things were thankful for it.
But first, as I always drink responsibly if you choose
to do so, Samantha, what are you sitting on? Um?
I feel like this is my staple. I always seem
to have it in the house. But I'm drinking my
vino Verde from Trader Joe's, my five dollar bottle of wine.
It doesn't make me super sleepy, and it's crisp and

(00:48):
lovely and very green. Appily, that's my two go keeping
house stock if because I will say I do love
red wine. That's probably my faith faith, but it makes
me a little more st be sometimes. So it doesn't
feel as appropriate for our happy hour because it would
be a sleepy hour. I kind of like the idea
of a sleepy hour that feels right. Half the time.

(01:11):
We're very tired a lot everyone. That's true, it isn't
actually it's appropriate for today because we've been recording in
a long time today because we're trying to wrap everything
up for the end of the year, so bear with us.
It is December. Um, I feel like I have to

(01:32):
put a time stamp on everything because who knows what
could happen within the next hour. I'm drinking a Gin
and tonic, which is also my staple, just simple and
although now I wish I had opened I do have
a bottle of sparkling wine, but it's too late. It's
too late, um, And I love a good I love
a good gin and tonic. So we did want to

(01:52):
go over some things as we're closing out the year
that we're thankful for. Thankful can be a very loaded term,
but adding that aside for now, yeah, just as we
were closing out the year. Um, one of the things
I will I was curious about because the pandemic is awful.
I think we can all agree it has been awful.
But is there anything during this year, during this pandemic

(02:17):
that you've been thankful for, either something that helps you
get through it, or like I know a lot of
people were thankful just to have kind of a pretty
steady excuse to stay in anything like that. Oh, absolutely,
I mean, as the introvert, it is not the helpiest
for me to be in all the time. And since

(02:38):
going out recently, you and I went to a outside
event with this really small amount compared to what we
typically do of I heart podcasters and I will end
the year celebration. I was super awkward, like painfully awkward.
Like my quick exit goodbye, you know, the one way

(03:00):
you don't talk tell anybody and you just try to
slip out did not go successfully because of my awkwardness.
My first attempt went down the wrong way, so that
means I had to come back. The second attempt, I
had to come back because I left my jacket. And
then I at my third, like final attempt, I was
standing ready to leave getting my valet, found out I
did the valet wrong. Having to make excuses and run

(03:21):
away from everyone. So hasn't been the healthiest of things,
maybe when it comes to learning social skills or relearning
social skills. But I've been grateful to be able to
just kind of like nah, I'm good and for what
it is. I have been very grateful about being able
to work from home and having a job because as
we talked about my job with the Department General Justice

(03:45):
ended right before the pandemic started, and that would have
been such a disaster and it would have been such
I was very the timing it was perfect. At the
end of the job happened, um, but I could not
imagine trying to do that job. But this job was
very accommodating to that. So both of those things being
able to be in this atmosphere knowing that we can

(04:07):
do it has been quite delightful in its own realm.
I guess, yes, oh agree, It's definitely a privilege, but
I'm very, very grateful for it, and I I think
what my answers no surprise fan fiction, of course, star

(04:27):
Wars always, but also friends. Friends like you, Samantha, We've
been there and we've been able to to support each
other and hang out and have our ups and downs
together and then just be like so comfortable in each
other's presences. That were just like due to the other day.
I didn't mean to, but completely had no mindset to it,

(04:51):
and I was like, oh my bad. This was a friend.
This was a friend of it, not a work of it,
no sexual harraspect. It was. We're so we're so like
comfortable with each other that we do hang out often
outside of work, and then I was talking to you,
trying to show you something forgetting I was like, oh, well, damn, okay,
my bad. I'm really comfortable with you and that I

(05:15):
appreciate it as well. Yeah. I was just like, okay,
so I appreciate that level of friendship that we've been
able to have and maintained during all of this. Okay. Also,
I wanted to ask, like podcasts specific anything you're thankful for.
Obviously they're working from home. Um, I don't know if
there's any topic that resonated with you or just listeners

(05:38):
anything like that. I have really appreciated the responses to
our podcast, so I know, especially when you and I
are talking very vulnerably letting people know what we're thinking,
people have reached out to us and and been very
appreciatives sharing their own stories. And that's just that's such
a privilege to be able to share something with you

(05:59):
and then coming back and feeling the trust from y'all
to tell us your story as well. Um, because this
is our job. But don't don't get me wrong, we
don't have to, but you know, this is our job
and for you to share with us and feeling connected
with us. That is such a privilege, and I will
say some of that. One of the ones was a
parentification episode. I was really proud of what we did

(06:20):
with that because it is so unheard of or not
talked about out loud, even though everybody kind of knows
what it is. And then having so many of you
writing in talking about your own experience as trying to
move past it or trying to figure out how to
navigate that trauma as parents yourself like things like that,
It's so amazing and just I cannot tell you what

(06:42):
happens when I read this. It really gets to my
heart and just feeling so connected, so much like community
in a way that I never expected. I guess. Don't
get me wrong, I want to be accepted, but this
is this whole new level of just being loved as
a community and hoping that we were returning that same
love when we were sharing with you these things and

(07:04):
letting you know we really like I feel like whatever
I respond back is not enough to tell you how
much it means to us when you tell us or
share with us something so personal. And I think I
felt the same way again, like when they would express
to you just me reading it, about feeling so connected
to you about certain things. I've had listeners right to

(07:27):
us about my adoption experiences and their adoption experiences. Um.
And then also like having a couple of people connect
with me on the not wanting babies or to giving
us really good advice on life stances like that. Like
stuff like that has been part of my favorite thing
of being on this podcast. Oh absolutely, Yeah. There are

(07:49):
episodes that are so vulnerable and scary for us to do.
And for instance, one that I think of, UM was
when a Monday many I did about not being Pretty
Enough was about sexual assault and it was really hard
and I remember when it happened because it was like
Labor Day weekend and I just couldn't get it off
my mind. And and so many of you wrote in

(08:10):
and you were so kind and so open with your
your own experiences, and it's very very rewarding and just
it helps. It does help, like you know, feel not alone,
but also kind of healing of hearing from other people
and hearing like okay, that resonated. I've also really enjoyed
getting to do fiction. I'm so excited about that. And

(08:35):
it's just honestly it's always always a learning experience. I've
learned so much through this podcast and I continue to
and I learned so much through you listeners. I learned
from you, Samantha. So that's amazing and I'm just so
thankful for it. It's exciting. And also, Christina are amazing
Sea for producer. UM started this year and just took

(08:59):
off with fit and handled like all of you were like, well,
we do you know, five episodes to be plus classic
and we kind of do this way, in this way,
in this way, and she's just a champ and so amazing.
I mean, and yes to that note, our team, we
were very sad when Eve's left us, but we know
that she is doing what she needs to do and

(09:21):
doing amazing things. And she's also still around. Don't get
it wrong, but she was just our executive producer for
a while and then she left and now we have
Maya and so having this dynamic team that I feel
like are all on the same page, I love it,
like having that workspace because again, I am very isolated
with just y'all. This has been a privilege to be

(09:42):
in this group. Yes, totally totally agree, Um, And also
don't worry even it's still coming on for female. First,
we love her too much and she cannot go away.
Every can never let her go. Um. So here's my

(10:10):
closing question for you, Samantha. And this is brought on
by a discussion we had with a friend of mine
about what these fictional candles you're supposed to be. What
a character smells like? Oh yeah, if you were a candle,
what do you think he'd smell like? So it has
to be a little bit, a little bit spicy, because
apparently my dry wit is intimidating. Is that what I've

(10:34):
been told by a couple actually recently, of fellow podcasters,
uh to, one of which was with stuff they don't
want you to know. He told me. I was like, okay, yeah,
I know. There's another one. I can't remember which one,
but essentially I was like, yeah, I don't know how to.
I can't tell if you're mad at me or you're

(10:54):
being funny. So I feel like if we could get
some kind of chili pepper type of smell. But also
because I am genuinely like, I am caring enough and
I try to, you know, make you feel comfortable. I
am very intense though I know this as well. That
would probably be something like a vanilla, which is warm

(11:18):
but very like you need to wake up, or maybe
a mint. I can't remember how which is better, like
something I don't want to be eucalyptus because that's too much,
but maybe I am is that bad? But I feel
like I would be definitely a spicy If there was
a spicy version of like a spicy cinnamon bourbon ish,

(11:38):
that would be me. I like that, Okay. I think
mine is very based on kind of the products I
use and smells I like. But mine I feel like
a like a lavender, cinnamon mm hmm, flower kind of thing.

(11:59):
But if I like going by, like if I symbolically,
it would have to be more earthy. I feel like
I'm a I see Yeah, does I mean like being
mossy smell or piney smell or you can't fire. I
feel like a kind of a mossy like clean kind

(12:21):
of that clean water, clean air breeze thing. But there
would have to be not necessarily something spicy, but like
a spice, because there's also I don't know, this is
a deep question. Yeah you did well. I want to
turn this around and ask how you would describe me
and I want to describe you. Oh no, here we go.

(12:44):
I'm ready. You'll may tell you what I think you
would smell like. Yes, so in my mind for you,
I see, I'm very ready. Like lemon grass would be
a smell that I would come for you because you're
the life of the party. People want to be around
you whether you know it are not, and people are
attracted that and like, to me, lemon grass is fresh,
very vibrant, and it also yeah, it kind of like

(13:07):
surprises you, but you want to be around that more.
I love that. Lemon grass is probably one of my
favorite herbs and spices and incense to feel like lemon
grass would be a part of that. And again something
like a lemon because it wakes you up and people
around you liven up like it. Literally, our person who

(13:27):
takes care of the parties asked you about it. Because
you are the life of the party. People don't go
to things unless typically you are there. So I feel
like that would be or an orange blossom, something very
sitrusy that wakes you up in the mornings, um ready
to go, but it's still like very refreshing to be around.

(13:47):
So I would say maybe like a cinnamon orange blossom
or something in that realm would be your candle. Oh,
I love it so nice? Are know? Like, can we
make these candles? I was hoping someone would come and
listen to us and then create it for us. Yes,
oh I would love that too. I feel like you totally.

(14:11):
You would have a very like calming, comforting, welcoming smell,
but then there would be that like that back of
like spice or heat. So I'm trying to run through
the rollo decks of of things that might fit that
because I also like, I'm bad at describing taste. I

(14:32):
am bad at remember when things smell like, yes, I've
tried my best. I feel like maybe I'm thinking of
something kind of like there's a kind of like a
grapefruit cucumber, but then like a fresh I actually really
love the smell, but like the fresh kind of linen

(14:54):
are like just laundry that's just come out one of
my favorites. It's so good it. I feel like you
would have that. I would hug you like a bank
it out of the dryer. Good. Nice, this is gonna
really but I want to be a blanket. Yeah, yeah

(15:18):
like it and then a nice kind of yeah, a
nice spicy something on the back. But yeah, M like
a warm hug on a fall day. Maybe I'm a margarita,
but not like a spicy like a great fruit margharita,
but with a helopeno in it. Yeah, or I'll have
a row if we were a cocktail, Okay, We'll have
to do these questions later because I've have so many

(15:39):
other thoughts. If you were a cocktail, what would you mean?
And how I wanted to think about that too? Okay, Well, cheers,
cheers everyone, Yes, cheers to you. We want to know
if you were a candle or a cocktail, what would
you be? If you have other ideas about us? Let

(15:59):
us know, Yes, please let us know. And I seriously,
I'm like, can we make these candles? Oh? Now I
want to like, but I also want to describe Christina who.
I think she's like chocolate, like smells like she is surprising,
quiet and subtle, so like dark chocolate, but like she's
there and her very presence is very well known. I
love dot chocolate. It's one of my favorites. Oh that's

(16:22):
not offensive, but I'm like, I feel like that's her. Yeah,
maybe some coffee in there, and yes, we would love
to get these responses from you very important. You can
email us at stephiea mom Stuff I Hurt Me dot com.
You can find us on Instagram and Stuff I Never
Told You, or on Twitter at mom Stuff Podcast. Thanks
as always to your superproducer Christina Again, my chocolate the candle,

(16:45):
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