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May 18, 2011 • 15 mins

We've all seen those news stories where a woman goes nine months without realizing she's pregnant. It happens more often than you might think - but how? Join Molly and Cristen as they investigate how pregnancies can be overlooked.

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Brought to you by the reinvented two thousand twelve Camray.
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From House to works dot Com. Hello and welcome to
the podcast. This is Molly and I'm Kristen. Kristen, you

(00:21):
could be pregnant and not even know it. Tell me that. God,
I think this is I don't want to say, a
woman's greatest fear, but you see it scary. You see
news stories pop up every now and then, and we
had an entire show about this phenomenon on TLC called
I didn't know I was pregnant. But every now and

(00:42):
then you see the story about the woman who goes
to the hospital with indigestion and leaves with the baby.
And she had gone for the previous nine months without
knowing no idea that she was having a baby. And
I'll admit that, Like, you know, people have written and
asked us about this phenomenon, like could this really happen?
And you know, I was doing a little bit of

(01:04):
research and according to the BBC, um not knowing that
you're pregnant until the baby is in your arms is
more common than having triplets. What It's three times more common,
And there was an interview with them the producer of
this TLC show, and she says, every time one episode airs,
they get just tons of letters about people that's happened to.

(01:27):
So part of my selfish reason for wanting to talk
about this, besides just creeping everyone else with the thought
that they might be pregnant, is I want to see
how many of our listeners this might have happened to.
Because if that's true, if it's three times more common
than triplets, and if every mention of it brings up
people saying this happened to me, surely there are people
out there who either had surprised babies, or they were

(01:48):
a surprise baby, or it happened to their best friend babies,
like I want to know, and we're going to try
to investigate the reasons why it seems crazy, because it
does seem like pregnancy can take over your whole body.
How you can go through those nine months without having
a clue that you got a little person growing in you.
And it is for all of these reasons that I

(02:10):
would like to subtitle this episode and this article ten
reasons you might not know you're pregnant. Ten ways to
scare every sexually active, not baby wanting person that you know. Yeah,
if you didn't already have enough fear about an unwanted pregnancy,
here we go. One one you didn't even know about.
How about body weight because you would assume that if

(02:31):
you got a bun cooking in the oven, you're gonna
you're gonna gain some weight. But not every woman gains
weight in the same way. So yeah, some people they
put it all on in the tummy and it's like, oh,
baby on board. And some people just carry all that
weight in their hands. It's disgusting. But also also, let's say,

(02:52):
um that you don't think you're pregnant, and you start
a diet unknowingly, or you start going the gym a lot,
and you're like, oh man, we're got it so hard,
and no matter how much I do it, I just
keep gaining weight. And you could be kind of like
an equilibrium. So um, yeah, I mean it just every
woman gains weight differently. That's sort of how everything is
gonna work. You've got ten reasons why this might happen,

(03:15):
but a lot of it happens to be just that
pregnancy is not a one size fits all or deal.
For instance, hallmark symptoms such as morning sickness might not happen,
might not often to you. Yeah, you might not have
all the mood swings, you might not have the food cravings,
and some of those symptoms can be attributed to other things.

(03:36):
I mean, if you don't think that you're pregnant, then
you might just think that you know, you're stressed, or
you're having indigestion or whatever. I mean, it's very easy
to attribute some of these. I mean, I don't know.
I've never been pregnant, so I don't know if it
is easy to attribute. But you know, this article that
we're citing by Maryan English that's on our site talks
about how once you have the mindset that you're not pregnant,
it's easy to excuse things that are happening in your body.

(03:58):
And I think that's true whether you're pregnant or not. Know,
we've talked about plenty of diseases where you can just
write off the symptoms as a bad day and then
lo and behold, it's something else. And it just so
happens that this is one of the biggest ones that
people don't understand how it could happen. Now. I think
this next one is perhaps the most frightening. And I
just keep saying frightening guys, not because I hate babies,

(04:18):
but just in terms of got ready to have one? Yeah, like,
oh wow, that's oh that's the baby of arms, and
I gotta take care of it. I don't know what
to do. How do you how do you change a diaper? Um? Periods? Yeah, okay,
that's you know you're pregnant. Oh your period stuffs tell
tale sign? Right? Not necessarily, women Pregnant women can continue
to experience period like bleeding or there are some women

(04:42):
who all their lives have had a regular cycles to
the point where they might have been told, if you
want to have a baby, you're going to have to
go on fertility drugs because you're just you don't ovulate
at a regular on a regular basis. So these women
almost think that they can't get pregnant and then lo
and behold. You know, they think that it's not unusual
to go nine months without a period. Well, be whole.

(05:02):
There's a baby waiting at the end of it. And
you know, this is also a good time to point out,
as we have in hopefully all of our podcasts to
deal with sex and contraceptives. There really isn't an absolutely
oneent lock type guaranteed that you sperm and ovum do
not meet and that and for instance, getting pregnant on

(05:27):
your period, it can happen. It can happen. So all
those things that people think, oh, you know, some people
just have a baby and they're nursing, and they think
that that can't get them pregnant. I think we talked
about that and pregnant part it can happen. But let's
say you think, oh, yeah, I've been using condoms and
I'm on the pill, yeah, and I have an i
U D. You think you're covered so many baboos and
hopefully you're not doing all of that same time. I

(05:47):
don't know that I D and birth control pills are
they're probably not going together. But you know, let's say
you are, you know, probably prepared, you are you covered
all your basis, you're above easy, but it can still happen,
still happen. So yeah, you you think that you're covered,
and then one behold it doesn't. And you know, but
people still say that those symptoms start popping up. But

(06:08):
it's just every single symptom can be kind of written off.
If you're not gaining weight in a certain way. Or
if you just think that you know, um, you know,
food craving, it's just a food crap time. Or if
you if you throw up, it could just be pretty poisoning,
like it's hangover. That's a whole different podcast. But here, okay, Molly,

(06:30):
but you got you got this little, this little thing
of a jig growing inside of you. What about kicks?
You know you wouldn't you feel something squirming around at
some point? But again, if you've already told yourself this
isn't a possibility, you'll just think it's something else. And
sometimes the baby can position itself inconvenient little bugger that
it is snaky babies. Babies are so sneaky it can

(06:54):
position itself so that you don't feel it as much.
I mean, some baby most babies do kick so that um,
you know, you feel it. It's in the front of
your tummy. But depending on where the placenta is, depending
on how little boogers positioned himself, you can you cannot
see it. Hey, And here's a fun fact. Even if
a man has undergone a vasectomy, you can still get

(07:18):
pregnant because it might not be entirely successful. I'm actually
known of couples who have had post passect me. I
think it was postpassectony reversal. But nevertheless, with a lot
of there was work down there and a baby still came. Yes,
but that's it. But you know, the thing is, if
you do think that you are covered, I do think

(07:38):
that your brain can block out the possibility of the
fact that that's a baby. You know, I can see.
I can maybe can't see how you could get to
nine months that way, but I definitely see how you
can get pretty far along if you've told yourself this
is not a baby because you know, my partner had
to a sect me or I'm on birth control. I
can see I can get pretty far along thinking it's
not a baby. Well, especially if you are a a

(08:00):
woman in say my position, I can only speak for myself,
not really interested in having a baby right now and
a surprise oops. You know. I think that's why it's
important to really pay attention to your body and take
care of your body because maybe you don't wanna, um,
you know, have a veta's hang out there for nine months. Well,
let's say you know, a woman has a scare and

(08:21):
she's like, oh, there could be a baby, let's take
a pregnancy test. She might get a false pregnancy test
and that can influence her thinking for the next you know,
four or five months. Pregnancy tests measure the amount of
a hormone called human choreonic ganatotrope in in your yurine,
and when the hCG level spike, it indicates that you're

(08:46):
probably prego, but not every woman. Again, experience is pregnancy
the same way, so those hormones don't show up at
the same time and all women. So you could take
a pregnancy test and get the negative and go on thinking, hey,
I'm safe, and that's how you start to write off
I think some of those symptoms of the pregnancy test
said no. Then you can start to excuse things like, um,

(09:07):
you know morning sickness is food poisoning, tender breasts as
p m s. Yeah, I mean, you know, women's bodies
are so crazy. How many times have we said that
that it could be anything? So, what, though, is the
takeaway from all of this, because right now I feel
like we are kind of having some fun at our
sexually active listeners expense freaking them out. Well, I think

(09:32):
that you know, because women's bodies are so crazy. That's why.
You know, we talked about this before about how you know,
sometimes we'll hear things like in a regular cycle is normal,
or um, feeling awful around the time of your period
is normal, or just feeling awful in general, it's hormones,
you know. I mean people are easy. I think they're
quipped to write off women's health problems, and women are

(09:55):
less likely to take time out of their day to
go to the doctor and to figure out what's going on.
And you know, they just want to fight through this
bad of food poisoning and get on with it. And
so I think that the lesson here is to you know,
take some time for yourself because you can't get stress.
As another reason that was mentioned this article, Um, if
you're busy at work or busy with your family, you

(10:16):
don't have time for yourself to be like what's going on.
So it's more I think about taking some time out.
Not to see that the women who eventually delivered a
baby without knowing it didn't take the time out for themselves.
But you know, going to the doctor regularly, checking in
on your sexual health, just you know, with yourself, like
what's going on here. And I'm not saying also that
the women who all of a sudden have the surprise

(10:39):
baby that that's a bad thing. I'm for some people
it might. I'm making comedic light of it. In my situation.
If you know, all of a sudden, my water broke
here in the studio, it would it would be uh,
it would ring your day a little bit. It would
be quite a shocker. You didn't wear the right pants
for that. UM don't know. My Jiggins could be able to.
And you know, the the article with um with the

(11:00):
TLC producer did say that you know, once the woman
had the baby, she was happy. You know, it's just
you like to think that's the case. You do have
nine months to prepare if you if you know it's coming.
Sort of the difference. But um, yeah, we just kind
of wanted to say how common it was people and
what this is also from listener requests. They've asked us
to do things like this before, just because it is

(11:20):
sort of it is one of those pregnancy myth type
of things, similar to can you get pregnant on your period?
But just think about how often you know, it doesn't
have to be a pregnancy related symptom. But you know,
if you are a woman, think of how men do
this too. Think of how often you write off a
symptom is something else. And you know, one of the
big pushes in the health field right now is for

(11:41):
people not to write off migraines, are sun and headaches
as just a headache, because it could be a sign
of a stroke. And so I think in this um,
you know web md culture, you can find a disease
that you want to have versus one that you don't
want to have. So let's say you do google frequent vomiting.
You can convince yourself that it's food pisening versus pregnancy.

(12:01):
So it's sometimes we do mind over matter where our
bodies are concerned, and you should take time out and
not do that for a few times whenever you can.
So there you go, fun facts about your crazy roller
coaster body. And as I said, a selfish reason behind
this is I want those crazy Oh my gosh, I

(12:22):
went the hospital, came back with the baby story. So
if you have them, let us know. I wonder how
many times we said crazy in this episode. It was
a lot. Yeah, I hope you all made a drinking
game out of that unless you're pregnant. All right. So
I've got an email here from Amanda, and this is
an old one, but I just decided to read it anyway.

(12:42):
This is in relation to our podcast on kissing, and
she writes, while listening to the episode on the History
of Kissing, I was interested to find out the correlation
between hand dominance and which way you tilt your head.
My fiance and I are both right handed, but always
tilt our heads to the left. While discussing this, we
realized that we were both left eye dominant. I don't

(13:04):
know how you discover that, but okay, despite being right handed.
I suppose then that maybe head tilt is not linked
to hand dominance, but I dominance. Just some food for thought,
So thank you, Amanda. Welly, would you have an email
you'd like to share? I have one hair from Sarah
and it's about nuns. Sarah writes, I went to a
Catholic all girls high school run by the Congregation of

(13:26):
Divine Providence. Believe it or not, we didn't have that
many nuns as the actual teachers in the school. They
mostly held faculty and support positions, so I only had
two nuns as teachers. The one that stands out though,
and one of my favorite teachers to date, with sister
Jane Ann Slater. She was a very hip sister who
told us about her days making beer in college and
happened to have a pH d in chemistry. She taught
my older sister and I was the first to recognized

(13:48):
me as Sarah, not my sister's sister, which of course
is the vane of younger siblings everywhere. I'll never forget
the day she was waving her hands in the air
talking about protons and electrons and how Adams worked. She
stopped in lecture, opped her hands her sides and said,
isn't got great? He created all of this. She was
such a dedicated teacher that she would stay as like
at seven pm to help you work out homework, provide

(14:08):
extra lessons, and go over miss test problems so you've
aced it next time. She has since left the high
school and serves as the head of the Order headquartered
at Our Lady of the Lake University here in San Antonio.
She was a wonderful educator and a real testament the
good these ladies to communities nation and worldwide. There we
go to another tip up the habit to nuns. Well,
if you've got any stories to share with us, and

(14:30):
remember we were asking for people who had the surprise
baby attack. Um what if? That's what it's called? From
here on, an attack of joy? Uh mom. How Stuffwork
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