How Do You Raise Your Kids?

How Do You Raise Your Kids?

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's topic time called eight hundred and five eight five,
one oh five. Want to join it to the discussion
with the Breakfast Club, talk about it every show me
the guy. We are the Breakfast Club. We got our
guest Hope, Miss pat joining us this morning, and we're
talking about raising the keys and that this comes from

(00:22):
Tyler Perry now and say, listen, what are you doing.
We don't behave this way, you don't do this, this
is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're
not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they
say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, Yes, Papa,
yes papa. But as he's crying and I'm down on
this level, I'm trying to hold my tears. So I
get out and I leave out of the room. Galia says,

(00:43):
you okay, because nobody talked to me as a five
year old like that. Nobody had a conversation with me,
nobody talked to me like a person. So here I
am having an opportunity to heal my little boy self
by talking to my son like a first beautiful. So
we're asking eight hundred five eight five, one oh five
when we're talking about raising your kids, how do you

(01:04):
raise your kids? We start with you, miss Pat, Miss Pat?
Do you you all pop your kids? Did you? I
raised my kids according to how they dare to pay
ch'all support? What that mean? He don't pay you? Get
up a cup. I don't whip them anymore. My husband
do a lot of talking because you know, we out
of that area era of beating all kids, because that
that comes from our ancestors and stuff. So I do

(01:26):
a lot of time. I do a lot of cussler
mouth and then every nine ding them wrong word slip
out of my mouth, and my daughter upstairs who never
come out of the the room and come out and say
that you can't say that. So but yeah, I think
in my family, I think we do good cop bad cops.
Like I'm using the bad cop. I'm like, you'm gonna
I'm gonna cut you out, I'm gonna yell at you.
And then my wife is the one that talks to them,
and then we all come in the room. And then
Daddy used the apologize for cursing. Now apologize for cursing.

(01:48):
You gotta apologize here, kids when you do something wrong.
When you rob me, apologized. I say the B word
by the state. You know, I get a little bit shit. Yeah, yeah,
I ain't never cursing my kids. I say you god damn.
I thinks of my family, my house, cursing. Bro. We
there certain words we don't use in the house. Like
we don't use fat in our house. We don't use
god damn in our house. You don't even fat because
ain't nobody fat. But I just don't use the word

(02:11):
fats for me word. We just don't use the word
house not a mean word. Don't you want a fast steak?
Don't you want your wife and have a fat ass?
How's fat? I mean word? I'm sat here, you're gonna
tell me I'm mean It depends how. It depends on
what's saying. Like you say, man, shut your fat ass up.
Well that's sweet, y'all. Don't even fat in your house either,
Uh depends when we're talking about the defenders. Whenn't the

(02:32):
fat become a mean word because you don't want to
be like that fat ass kid or a fat kid
or a fat I wouldn't say that when I was
me and my husband almost got a divorce one time.
A little you can go ahead and lead, You're gonna
take your fat ass kid with you because I don't
get enough food stamp forward. So I already got my
own kids, Nate Thailer, so you take it. The most
defensive thing about that is that you're saying that did
his kids like they're not yours basketball, not doing a divoice.

(02:54):
They hed kid I have for him. I had already
had to buy a dude that one hit non nothing.
But I do feel Tyler par d Man because I
always feel bad after I yelled at my kids, Like
I literally went to bad last night and woke up
this morning feeling like a bad parent because I feel
like I can be a short tempered with a couple
of my kids too. You know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, four,
I got fourteen year old to seven year old, to
four year old and one year old and the four

(03:15):
year old and the one year old. Fine is that
the fourteen is a teenager, so that would be difficult,
and then the seven year olds. He wanted them just
independent seven year old, you know what I'm saying. So
raising the kids is difficult, especially when they're not listening
and they talk to me in ways I would never
think to talk to my parents or my grandparents aren't
to nobody. And I threatened my seven year old that
after you wouldn't have made it in the nineties, you
wouldn't have it when she's back, No, damn nineties, you

(03:38):
know what I mean. I have a ten year old
like that. Yeah, yeah, she'd be talking man crapping. I'm like,
she's like, you guys are my parents? You know? Couple
of niece ran off and left. She smoked craig and
I'm gonna show her birth certificates. So bad. And the
kid when the kids smartest different like I told I
told my seven year old, like, you ain't going next
door to the neighborhouse at the same age, in the

(04:00):
same grade and their friend. Right, I'm like, that's that's
cut out. You're not going there next week. I don't care.
I'm see her in class anyway. God damn, I ain't
got no respond to what you say. You ain't going
to school exactly. You know what I'm I'm gonna put
your eyes out so you can't see it. But but
I feel them though, and you know, and that's why
I do like having conversations with my children for the
exact same reading Tyler Perry said, because you know, when

(04:22):
they get grown, they're gonna remember that, because we all
remember being young and getting yelled at and getting told
different things by your parents. I'm sure. I'm sure this stuff.
I'm unpacking the therapy now that my daddy said. My
mom was ugly. Oh the talent man, My mom usa,
get your gland. And my sister was a like cuter
yeah and nada, And I look at us now, I
was like, yeah, yo, cute daughter, smoke Craig, but yo,

(04:44):
little uglyone else succeeded, and you dad. My daddy told
me one time, let's kill them me get the insurance money.
He told Mama, just killing me, get the insurance money.
Damn anyway, you were that bad? Yeah, well you know,
damn it, man, y'all need therapy. My parents weren't that bad.
My parents huxtables who have been messed with y'all because
killing me get the white light skinny white man, I'm

(05:05):
light skinning, I'm black? Why what am I say? I'm black? Hello?
Have you ever had a hickey on your neck? That
probably would kill you? There? Yo? What's up? What's your name? Brochu?
Chu up? Chuck from Connecticut talking about raising our kids. Man,
how you raise your kids? Bro? I'm a big yellow staying.
I was just meet my wife, two daughters, and yeah,

(05:28):
sometimes I'm still bad right after that good, I know. Man,
it's so hard man, especially when you got girls and
old boys. I got good. That's what make you feel
even worse when you got girls and you got a
yellow at them all. Lord, But it's the two. It's
the two. It's the two youngest ones, right. They play
together old day long, and then they fight like a

(05:49):
married couple. And that's what I'd be screaming at them,
and they'd be mad at each other. And then at
night they got they got to sleep in the same bed.
They gotta keep the same room. So it'd be pissing
me off. Like y'all gonna be friends later on anyway,
so stop it. But they just shout the Jackson and
book when I'm sure they're in the call listening. Hello,
who's this, hey, breed. We're talking about discipline and raising children.
What's your approach? How are you giving it? So? First

(06:09):
of all, going and everyone, So I with my discipline
as a child. My mother never thanked me, can never
beat me or anything. But I do notice that with
my child. He's a little bit more hardheaded than I was,
so I do have to discipline a little bit more
with him than my mom did with me. But what
I've noticed is when I have conversations with people who

(06:31):
works think that as a child has really disciplined, they're
very disciplined as adults. And I noticed I do like
a little bit of discipline, and I feel like it's
because I wasn't heavily disciplined when I grew Interesting, that's
an interesting take. Yeah, what do you mean when you
say you like discipline? So aside from my ad it's

(06:51):
just kind of like, if I don't want to do something,
I'm not going to do it. And when it comes
to school work, I have to like really force myself
to do the things I'm justosing to do. When it
comes to work, I really have to purst myself to
do the thing, but I'm supposed to do it, and
I just feel like a setting as well, I do
what I want to do that. But that's the scariest
thing though, because a lot of things you probably got
disciplined for when you didn't get discipline when you was young,

(07:13):
but if you did, it would probably have to do
with the fact you had ADHD. And that's what I
worry about. You don't know what type of issues your
child might be dealing with that having showcased a self
yet you know what I mean that you might be punished,
You know I exactly. And I just found out my
dog got ADHD and he won't go sleep at night.
Your dog, your dog, Okay, how you know your dog

(07:33):
got ah he'd be up out. We can put him
to sleep. Don't say that. No, I mean, I'm talking
about what you don't do that. Don't do that. Don't
do that. Eight hundred five and five. We're talking about
how you discipline your kids. Oh my god, this is
the breakfast Club. Good morning, how do you dj Envy

(07:56):
Charlemagne the guy We all the breakfast club. Now if
you just join us, we're talking about disciplining our kids.
Just came from Tyler Perry and this is what he
said about his son. He was really rude to the nanny.
And it was in the room with bathroom argument and
Galida calls me and I go in and I said,
I'm saying I get down to his level. I'm talking
to him out and say, listen, what are you doing.
We don't behave this way. You don't do this, this

(08:16):
is this is unacceptable. You're not gonna disrespect her. You're
not gonna disrespect your mom. You're gonna do what they
say to do. And do you understand that he's just crying, yes, Papa, yes, papa.
But as he's crying and I'm down on his level,
I'm trying to hold my tears. So I get up
and I leave out of the room. Galida says, you okay,
because nobody talked to me as a five year old
like that. Nobody had a conversation with me. Nobody talked

(08:38):
to me like a person. So here I am having
an opportunity to heal my little boy self. Yeah. By
talking to my son like a person, I feel a man.
But you know another thing, I was scared of my dad.
Though my dad is six foot three, six foot four,
retired police officer, ex military, I was always scared of him.
So I never wanted to do nothing because I never
wanted to have a problem with it. Ain't none of

(08:59):
my daughters to me, and I don't want them to
be scared me because I don't want to raise out
of fear. But nobody I mean, I don't want to
raise out of love. That's something you learned in therapy too,
though you learned that. You know a lot of times
our parents raised us out of fear, and their fear
was especially with my dad, he didn't want me to
turn out the way. He didn't want me to make
make the same mistakes that he did. You know, you
know I made it still made him anyway, except for
like you know, using hard drugs, But he didn't want

(09:20):
me to make the same mistakes that he made. And
Mom was the same. My dad was a cop in
New York City at the time, and he worked in
the Bronx and on the train, so he's seen things
from a different place that I shot it from and
it was the crack error. So it was he wanted
me to stay away from that. So he was gonna
do whatever it takes to make sure I wasn't gonna
go down that left. He parented out of fear. Yeah,
I did too, especially because I had my first child
at fourteen, and I think I parented out of field

(09:41):
with my daughter. I was like, don't you ever touched
no boy? Don't you ever tide of no boy? Day horrid?
Or did she end up being gay and something somebody like, dude,
I preach my, that's why you said that out of them,
you scared the love for du No, that makes sense.
I did because it was all about because I was
saying such a bad lationship with her daddy and she

(10:01):
saw her daddy beat me. And I'm not saying that,
you know that's why, but I think that has a
lot to do with it. Beans, And she saw daddy
shoot me, and she's like, nah, I'm going on here
with the girls. We just scratch each other, even though
I do think that you know you are born you know, yeah,
my daughter was born gay or a gay hat on
and a jumpsuit. She hadn't want them little overall suits. Yeah.

(10:24):
She came out to wound with it on with a
painter's bridge sham. She was, what's that little paint of name?
Nia polion? What's a little pain which one? Cosso? Okay, hello,
who's this? Hi? Everybody? Hey? So I can't be honest
withcause this topic y'all not Yes for me, Yes, we

(10:46):
know your real name. We got called d but we
ain't gonna say it's the word unless you do something. Wow.
All right, brown, all right, we're gonna use to Misha
Brown all right. So to be totally honest, my mother
is a single mother with four k and he beats
up the break off of us. I have a son
right down, and I'm not gonna sit up here and
say I beat him oge I don't. But am I

(11:09):
gonna light his little old leg up? Yes? Am I
gonna light the topic that's foot up? Yes I am,
because you're not going to disrespect you today. So essentially,
I don't feel like disciplining your kids, Uh is a
bad thing. I was raising a discipline. I can say
that I'm a good person. Um, I have a lot

(11:29):
only all for myself. But I believe in discipline popping.
I do believe in that. What's your weapon of choice
when you discipline? Right now my hand, I have the
fighter weapons and this is gonna explore. It's going to
hurt you. Oh yeah, Mama back hands used to be
no joke. She sounded like a fly squad of Mama
the fad with the fly stuck. Only now we have

(11:55):
Christina on Aline, Christina Gamrni. Hi, how are you now?
You're a school counselor? Correct? Yeah, talk to us about
traumatizing these kids out here. So earlier, I heard in
the conversation you guys say, oh, how traumatizing can yelling bee?
It can be very traumatizing. I can stay with a
child for their whole lot. And I also heard, I

(12:16):
think it was Charlomagne's say, there's no guide in raising
these kids. Charlomagne, there are arey literally hundreds of thousands
of books out there raising kids, parenting guys. There's a
great series called How to Talk to Your Kids so
that they will listen and they will talk, and they

(12:36):
have it for a little kids, elementary school age and
high school age, and they have an an audible and
it's translated in various languages, and it talks about how
to discipline your kids and um, non cooing. I agree
with you. I know there there's a lot of material
out there on body, but it don't matter when you're
in the midst of it. I guess everybody got a

(12:57):
planet get punched in the face. Yeah, that's true. And
you you have your own path to contend with and
your own methods of raising your children. But when you
do have some calm time in downtime, it wouldn't hurt
to the Google some new methods for next time to
keep things. They escalated, I agree with you and your

(13:18):
children how to talk to others in the world. I'm
gonna get that book and give it to my kids.
I don't want to read them. I was like, this
is right here. Well, I'm gonna need y'all to read
what I want to do with you now? You know what,
it's funny that you said that me and my wife
are writing a book or raising our kids. We have
six kids. We have a twenty one year old, a
nineteen nine and eight to six, and a one year old,
and we talk about everything that we go through, everything

(13:40):
from my daughter getting her first period, to us talking
about sex, to m popping out kids at times, to
having conversations to you know, I came from a household
of because I said, so that was my dad, because
I said that le is a terrible way of pairing.
But we don't do it like that. We explained to
the kids why, like if they want to go out,
and it's the reason why, I know, we explained to

(14:01):
them why so we talk about all that. And that's
what Tyler Perry is saying, Like you sit down and
have a conversation with your sid's that's what I tend
to do. You know what I mean? And and yes,
when I do have a short temper and I do yell,
I always feel bad about it afterwards, and then I
sit down and I always apologize to I always apologize
for yelling. That's another thing our parents never did for
us when we was young. They never apologized us. They

(14:21):
didn't know how. They didn't know how. But I break
that down to when when me and my kids, if
I do something wrong like yell or scream or whatever
it may be, we pull them in the room and
we talked to him, why you know why I did this,
Why I don't why I screamed, why I raised my voice,
Why I don't want them to do this? And it
works pretty good in my household. And they so quick
to go to the school and tell everything. So like
I had an incident in less than six months ago.

(14:42):
What a teacher called me and I said, oh, I'm
a head's upside the head. And so next thing I
know defects that my dough. I said, ma'am, these ain't
my kids. I said, I'm black. That's how I taught.
So later the teachers like we don't hit upside, hit
hit on the behind. I said, late, I'm gonna do
what I do, and you do what you do. Become
a lease up down. I don't think she's gonna send
defacts to my house. They tried to put them in

(15:03):
a counseling program. I said, man, I was talking jump.
I'm gonna be honest with you, miss pat. I think
that program did you? Yeah? I think I kind of
agree with call us. If you need us to bell
you out, you know we got you. You know, just
a game. I appreciate. I'm glad to know I got
rich friends. I just want to I just want to
paying out of love and not fear. Absolutely no ring
them every nine. Did I do that? All? I'm gonna

(15:24):
telling my kids, I love you Ashley and not kill
june Bug. And then the mother foe at the house
and I'm my oldest ben't gonna hug you. But therapy.
You know what I'm saying. Everybody going to therapy day?
You know what I mean? The resources that we didn't
have when we was younger. Why not, Yes, you did.
Your mamma was always on the phone telling her friend
your bees. That's like saying white people going to the
gym all the time. It's pat to throw that out.

(15:53):
That's not no, put my mask on and turned into
wrestling number two. Y'all remember wrestling number two? No, you
don't remember wrestling number one and two. I just figured
it was just big wrestless. No, who whoa the white
man with the mask on? I don't remember. You don't

(16:15):
remembers wrestlers right name? I remember Andre the Giant. No,
wrestling number one and two? D on the mask? Two
white men? I will yeah, they were good for the
ficking fault. When we come back, we got your room report.
We gotta talk about puff. He's trying to buy maybe
b et. We'll tell you about it when we come

(16:35):
back for Paul the breakfast Luve, good morning from my
hat name? Or you gossiping or you chatting? The rumor report?
I mean, I guess we're on the breakfast club. This
were the tea spills right right on the breakfast club.
All right, First, let me say so, pos say to
my brother why Cleff White. Cleff checked himself into a

(16:55):
hospital yesterday. He says he'll be back soon, So I'm
hoping everything is okay. We don't know the reason why
but he did say this, I never stood in the hospital.
He said, he never stays in the hospital overnight, and

(17:17):
he posted this on Instagram. He just said, sometimes we
forget that our body is our temple. Be back soon.
He'd been in the hospital overnight. He was born in
the hospital. He had to be there for leat two games.
Is a doult life. I'm just trying to correct them.
You know, why, Cliff, you've been in the hospital of
the folk. Your mama just didn't have you on the
corner baby, And he said, dult life. So hopefully everything

(17:38):
is good with why Cleff also h did he might
be your bass soon? Who? Boss? Your boss? I heard
the rumors are did he is exploring opportunity to purchase
a majority steak in b et think did he gonna
outbid Tyler Perry? Come on, Tylay Tyler Perry already plug? Well,
you know, um, what's your calling? Is in it too?

(18:00):
What's his name? Who the riches are the Tyler Tyler?
Are all three of them? Tyler Tyler, come home, mister pair,
I'm ready. But why wouldn't it do it where they
could possibly all own a percentage? Because they all bring
so much to the table. Right, Tyler break the table
with the stuff, and so this did he and sow
this viron right? All about it? What did it bring? Music?
I mean, the reality is what did that mean for Revolt?

(18:21):
It with did he own both? Because in my mind,
if you got money to buy BT, how about put
that money in the revolte, put those resources in the
revote and keep building a revote up. That would making
more sense. But what was the main problem with Revolt
That it just wasn't in enough households? Right? Revolting still around, right,
but it's not in enough households. And Tyler paragraph over that,
why are you gonna share all that land? You don't
need no help, Tyler, don't need no help. Don't need

(18:43):
no help me. Tyler called me? What did he say?
I'm now you better not say I'm no mdeal If
you do, I come on there and jumping that clean nothing, Okay,
Now I wouldn't mind seeing that. Now that's a battle.
What boy, you and my deal fighting? I whooped Tyler
pair Dad. That's a good matchup right there. I'd love

(19:05):
to see him a dam miss Pat go at it? Well,
he said did he said? He wants to turn b
ET back into a black owned brand, and he believes
it's better for business, for the culture, and for building
wealth in the black. What did that mean for Revote?
You sold us on this Revote thing? Did he like?
You know Revote has has? I think Revots built a
lot of cultural cachet, you know what I mean. People
know the brand Revote, But the thing that people always

(19:27):
saying about vote Revote ain't got no money. So if
you got money to buy DT, how come you just
don't put that money into Revolt. I just want to
know about Revote and fell asleep. He gave it to
your Miami you think, so, yeah, somebody got it. If
you ain't, if it ain't, if ain't nothing going on now, Yeah,
I mean, I just would like to hear him. I'd
like to hear more about the business if I was

(19:47):
That's how I would like to hear more from praying
Tyler get it. Don't get him, miss a pair. I'm
over here waiting on yet. I think Tyler gonna get Yeah,
I think so waiting on you like a black child
waiting on his daddy. Shut up, you're having flashbacks, I think. Yeah.
All right, well that is your rumor report, Now keep it.
Luck we got the people's choice mixed up next, and

(20:07):
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