September 5, 2024 • 48 mins
Becca and Tanya are back to share their sagely advice for Scrubbers! Find out what to do if you find out friends are hanging out… without you! How to do you tell your partner you *just* want to make out, and we finally get taken through an average day in the life of Becca.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Grub a dub dumb the very oily today.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You don't look oily in real life, so I think something.
Maybe your light's given too much.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Yeah, it's giving, it's giving too much of what it
needs to be given.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Too much reflection.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Yeah, yeah, very oily.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
No, you're not looking oily.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Thanks. But you know what the difference between a grape
and a raisin is, Well, they say water, but in
this case, I'm gonna go oil. My skin is oily.
Bring it on, baby.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Wow, that was impactable. It wasn't right, It wasn't a
right scientific factor, but it makes it.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It makes a powerful punch.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Mm hmmm. A grape and literally the.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Only difference between a juicy, luscious grape and a raisin
is water. Water.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Yeah, hydration. That's why our skin can even look like
a raisin or hydrated and plump exactly and juicy exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, if you're in southe of California, make sure
you're hydrating because it is hot.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So my biggest sick in the news when I'm watching
the news and They're like, make sure you're drinking your water,
and I'm like, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
I can't help it though, Like both Haley and I
do this to each other. We're like one of us
won't be feeling well. It's like, have you drink water,
and we both do it to each other.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Different. That's different. Hot outside and the news man saying,
please bring your water jug.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
If I'm not feeling well, there's probably another reason other
than I haven't had enough water.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
You know. My new thing that's gonna that I'm gonna
make this this winter.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Look.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
So I'm gonna take garlic clothes and I'm gonna put
them in a mason jar and I'm gonna fill it
up with honey. And a pair only has a lot
of medicinal benefits if you're feeling sick.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
To like she's an episode of the Tanya Show.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
She's in her witch cauldron era.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
That's right, That's how my friend gives me. Yeah, you
like take like a spoonful of it if you're feeling sick,
or you can like put it you you just use
it as a honey. But it has it's been like
soaking in the garlic. Since I'm going to do it now.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Tanya said to me earlier. She says, you know, Robbie's
done a lot of stuff for me that you know,
he didn't really want to do necessarily. And I'm like
everything he does, the family meetings, the journals, the taping
your mouth shut that there's a hundred things.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I had to remind her of this, so I you know,
I'm glad we're bringing this up because he likes those
things I was referencing, like a concert here or there
that he doesn't necessarily want to go to, but he
knows I want to that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I'm taping his mouth stud He is happy as a
clam taping.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
He never would have done that if not for you.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Thank God for me, because he never eyes. I don't
force him. I don't say here's my mouth tape, take.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Yours in some of these things.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I don't think so I think that he does. He
would have never done it without you, But I think
after doing it, he does enjoy it. Yeah, but I
do think he, Uh, Tanya, finds himself for you and
then he like likes it.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
He's thanking God every day on his knees.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
He walks in the house and you're and you know,
there's got it like I don't know, your fridge is empty,
there's piles of stuff everywhere, and he's just like, oh boy,
what is it this week? What are we getting into now?
I bet there's got to be a moment of him
be like, okay, I gotta gear up for this.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Man like making that stuff for forty eight hours. He
is me in male form.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I have has made me. I do feel there's been
a switch.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yeah, he's me in a man's body.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
No all the way.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, not all emotionally, not all the way now, I
would say one hundred percent, but he's like eighty percent there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, y'all are a great match. Yeah. I was laughing
today because so Haley and I now that we're living together,
it's like okay, like who's doing what you know, and
the chores whatnot. And I was thinking about how she
goes it's okay, like today when she was like, it's okay,
it's okay, don't worry, We're gonna get into a routine,
and I was like, yeah, it's hard because not I
feel like typically there's a person in a relationship that's
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like the clean, organized person and like that's like their thing.
But neither of us are that.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Way, so it's like, oh, it's chaos, but we have
to be really intentional about it otherwise because like, and
I'm actually grateful because I think if there was one
person who was like more that way, there would be resentment.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
You know, we're both just like, oh, you're messy.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Yeah, whatever will you do that?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
It's like just out in the open. But I feel
like Alison, well, I feel like you're clean, but I
noticed Allison was very.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Allison's much cleaner. Yeah, yeah, and thank god for that.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I'm sorry, but I did. I wanted to make sure
you're alive.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Yeah, yeah, you have to vacate the room feels bad.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Mark was having a coffee Deack.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
And he's still not back yet.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, he's not back. He took his water though.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
I think you guys should just divving up the chores.
I'm in charge of this, you're in charge of that, right.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So So what happened was we were leaving for something
over the weekend and I was like, oh my gosh,
hold I have to feed Phoebe because I'm always the
one that feeds Phoebe. And she goes babe, and I'm like,
did you think of Phoebe. Would Phoebe have eaten if
I didn't feed Phoebe? And she's like, okay, So from
now on, I'll do Phoebe's food in the morning. But
(05:48):
this morning it's such a habit for me that I
made Phoebe's food and then she made it again. She
was about to leave and she goes, wait, I gotta
feed Phoebe, and I go I already fed Phoebe and
she's like, that's my chour. It's gonna take some adjustment,
but I'm glad. Everyone's eager, you know, everyone's eager to participate.
That's all I needed.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That's the best thing.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Mark's returned.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I try to be so mindful and demure and just
step out for a moment.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yea hacking and like it looks like.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
A little tickle.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Well, we couldn't start Dear Bonnie without because we're just
killing the chores, the chores, my chores with my girlfriend
living together. Yeah, it's not great, but I did want.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
The way we feed Sonny is like whoever, whoever during
the week when I obviously leave in the morning, so
Robbie does it when I'm not there, and then it's
just whoever wakes up first and goes downstairs feed Sonny.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Well, Phoebe's not an instant, like she doesn't.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Don't they take her time in the morning. Sonny is
like chomping at the bitch.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Just let her like kind of when she walks over
to that area, I'm like, okay, I'll feed her. So
I never have like a specific time, so that's why
I've always just it. But now she Hailey's like, that's
my chore now. So I was like, okay, good luck Phoebe.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Hope you eat eat.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
So yeah, but today's episode is a dear bizybanya and uh,
we're so excited because we got some got some some
good stuff in here.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Some good stuff, good good stuff.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I'm good advice emails people seeking advice.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
So mark without further redation, Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
This is from an anonymous mom to be help. I'm
looking for ideas to make my husband's fortieth birthday special.
At home. We're expecting our first baby two weeks before
his birthday, so I'm not thinking I'll be in any
condition to go out. We'll have a surprise birthday dinner
with the family before the baby comes, but I want
to make sure he feels super special on the actual day.
He's a low key guy and he mostly geeks out
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on movies and actors, astronomy and really good coffee. When
I started thinking about what to do for him, I
thought about, how this is right up Tanya's Ali. I'd
love a man's perspective of Mark and Easton too. Thank
you so much for making me, helping me make this
super special for him.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
You know what's so interesting. I was just talking to
a friend of mine. Her daughter was born, like I think,
maybe a few days before her birthday, and she's like,
my birthday is no longer existent. It's like all about
the kid, you know. And I was like, that's so.
I guess you don't really care when you're a parent.
It's just like whatever, everything is about the kid. But
I was like, oh, Like I like made a mental note.
(08:29):
I was like, I don't want you know, like, I
want your birthday to still be your birthday. So I
feel like you should make him feel special. The fact
that you said that he's a low key guy, I
feel like he'll like this idea because I've done I
feel like I've done this for Becca, I've done it
for Robbie, and it's always a hit. Where you get
the forty balloons and you write down something that you like,
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one thing you love about that person on each balloon,
and you put him in a room so they like
look really cool and cute and they're like sentimental, so
it makes them feel good.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
That would make him feel special, no question.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's all.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Oh I have an idea. She said, he loves astronomy.
That's stars, right, Yes, yeah, okay, I was thinking, what
if you got those glow in the dark stars and
you put them all over the ceiling and then you
did a movie night where you watch one of his
favorite movies and had like popcorn and cant like made
it like the stars. Yeah, under the stage.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Each star you could write down your favorite thing about him.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Put their glow in the dark.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Oh, it's just Nick straight out, I love you, you know,
just spitballing here. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Well that could be the morning, like yeah, he comes
down and then.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
No, no, no, no, okay. The balloons have the glow up
stars on them with the writings on them, so he
reads them all in the morning and then she takes
all the stars, she puts them on the ceiling for
a movie night that night, or they just.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Hang in the air and they glow in the dark
on the blue.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
See, these are.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
All great ideas. I think they will all make him
feel very special and very very very thoughtful, very thought through.
I was just gonna say, I'm just I'm a simple guy,
and I don't need much. And a lot of times
my wife thinks, oh, he doesn't need any more Brewers
and Packers stuff because he has a million things. That's
all I need, that's all I want, that's all I
care about. I can't get too much of that stuff
(10:26):
because that's what I'm obsessed with. So just whatever his
obsessions are, you might think, oh, he doesn't need another
astronomy thing, get it. He'll love it absolutely. Yes, whatever
he's obsessed with, lean into it.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Woh.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
I like, that's that's good to know.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
I went to Mark's fiftieth birthday party, and I've never
felt less stress about buying a gift.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
For someone so simple.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I was like, this is easy, man.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
He got me baseball cards, like a book of cards.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
I got you the program for the Brewers game that
was the day you were born.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
I think I was not exactly it is nice that's
not exactly why. No, it was like it was like
a it was a bunch of It was a little
book on the players from the seventy one Brewers team. Yes, yes, yes,
that was very nice.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
They would have given it out on the game the
day he was born. Oh, it's the game that they
celebrated Mark's birth.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Wow, that's so thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
It was very thoughtful.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Yes, it was very thought Yeah, that's a great idea
if you want to get him.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, maybe you can find the DVD of the movie
that he were What if you bought him a store, Yes,
you can do that.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
You can't do that.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Forty so it's easy.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
It's throwing away your money. Like I don't I think
he has an astronomer would know that you don't actually
name you're not actually naming your.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
You get the coordinates and everything.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You can name the drop in the ocean, you can
name a grain saying on the beach. It's the same thing.
It's just a certificate. It's just taking your money because.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
He's an astronomer. She said, he loves a.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Strong Yeah, oh my gosh, if I have a star
in this sky that was named after me that I'm
not even astronomer.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
What about get him a snapshot of what the stars
looked like the night.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
He was bad or the day they all met.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yes, and we're really pushing the astronomy. And and like
the fact that he likes good coffee.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Get him a good cup of coffee.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh, my gosh, makes some homemade milk or or almond milk.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Whatever.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
His milk.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
She's gonna be way too pregnant.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Milk real soon.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Different he can't have that.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Can Actually is that breast milk like very healing?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Yeah, it's like it's like that's why they encourage you
to if you are stuff. Oh, I don't know, I
think it is.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I think that's like a lot of healing property.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I thought about Robbie wrapping his burn and his own
skin way too many times. It's the podcast. I gotta
be honest.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
I had Blissfulee gotten that.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Thinking about a NonStop he had.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Okay, so he burned. He was making me soup and
he went to go pour it into the bowl and
he went all over his hands. So he got a
second degree burned on.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
His finger, like hot fingers. Se I was.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Like, but it was a huge blister that like appeared
on his finger like so like on top right, like
a big giant one. So he uh, he got it drained,
the blister drained, and then you leave the skin. You
don't like peel the skin off. You see that skin
as its own band aid. That's what he did. It's
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not as gross.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, I thought you were. Actually he caught his skin
and then wrapped it around there. I loved it.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
He loved his skin on, and then it was starting
to peel up, and then he had to kind of
peel it back down.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And I don't need more details.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Skin. Skin makes the best band aid for your skin.
So if you're ever out there and you're wondering what's
the best band they.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Take off that skin. It's just super red and raw.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Correct, so you can get a band aid, like you're saying,
right right, yeah, fair enough is the best band aid.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Shall we move on to another one?
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Options? Yeah, maybe wake him up with his favorite couple
of jobby well that or his favorite and then his
favorite couple.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Something sexual is never not going to be.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Two weeks before giving birth. I just can't imagine. Her
gag reflex is off the charts.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Your gag reflex is that bad and that pregnant.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I imagine everything is gaggy when you're that pregnant.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Shall have had the kid for two weeks.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Thoughts before, two weeks before, we're.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Expecting two weeks before his birthday. Kid in one hand.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
This. We're gonna have to ask for some help for
some of these ideas we've given. Yeah, we need a
friend or a parent to come over. Yeah, there are
some good, good options in there. And congratulations, we're so
happy for you.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
We didn't take a break after. I'm not going to
have you do me like you did on Monday.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
So let's take a break scrubbing.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
Sorry, wrong button, Sorry, all.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Right, we're back. Break one, done, done, Moving on to
anonymous number two.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Here we go, Everyone's and no, I'm you know I
put these on there because everyone's anonymous nowadays.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Not true.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
We're going to get to Aaron at the end.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Hi, Becca and Tanya parenthetically and Marcaniston. That's us, easty
were the parentheticals?
Speaker 4 (15:45):
All right, we made it.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I've been a scrubber since day one. Thanks for bringing
sunshine to so many people's days and for showing up
every week to provide us with episodes. My husband and
I have these friends we'll call them Derek and Meredith.
A few years ago, they came to our friends giving
and hit it off with another couple we invited. A
week later, I saw on Instagram that they hung out
with that other couple without us, And then over the
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next few months, Derek and Mereth seemed to steal every
friend we introduced them to and excluded us from events.
This pattern happened with three other couples we knew, and
it really started to upset us. A few months ago,
I talked to Meredith about it, and she apologized said
it wasn't their intention to hurt us. Despite this, the
pattern continues with excuses like it was a dog's birthday
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party and you don't have a dog, or oh, I
thought you were out of town. Eventually, I decided to
pull myself out of these uncomfortable situations. Meredith noticed the
distance and said, what's wrong. I shared my feelings and
she ended up crying. I told her I'd be happy
to stay friends, but I no longer feel comfortable being
part of the larger friend group. My question is, am
I weird to feel this way? I'm not sure how
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to move forward with his friendship. But it also puts
me in a weird spot with the other couples. Since
now it comes off as I'm causing drama, how would
you move forward with it? Any advice would be so appreciated.
Thank you all.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
So she's basically just saying she's fine to stay friends
with Meredith, but that doesn't need to be friends with
all the other people as a group.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah, I'm confused on the question.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
She doesn't want to feel she said, The question.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Is am I weird to feel this way? The question is, no,
You're not weird because you feel that type of way,
so your feelings are always valid. However, I'm not really
sure how to get you out of this curm fluckle
because quite the curf fluckle, because at the end of
the day, you were just a kerfuffle.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
It's a curve fuckle.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
It's her. Is that the word is kerfluffle?
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Her?
Speaker 1 (17:39):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Isn't it kerfluffle?
Speaker 3 (17:42):
K is a very.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
It's it's an interesting one. And I think that at
the end of the day, you have to take people
as they are. And I feel like Derek and Meredith
this might just be maybe they wanted to hang out
with couples, you know. Two on two they like doing
the double day thing. They don't want to do bigger things.
(18:09):
Maybe they don't obviously they're not seeing that it's like
hurting your feelings. I just think you have to take
people as they are. I feel like it's going to
help you feel more settled in yourself and it's going
to help you feel more settled in this situation because
I think at the end of the day, like we
all try to control other people circumstances, situations, outcomes, and
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you just can't. You just can't.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I also think sometimes especially when you're in a group
setting and you're married and there's like couples, people will
connect and have interest outside of what you connected with
them on, you know what I'm saying. So like, right,
they came to your friends giving and there was another
couple there that maybe they were like, oh my gosh,
like we are literally the same people and we have
the same interests and we should do something together. And
(18:53):
then it happens, and it like sucks because it sucks
to see people that you introduced hanging out without you
as the connector. But I also think it's okay for
people to want to do that, and I think you're
valid to like want to exclude yourself, and I don't
think you're having drama. I think you can just be like, yeah,
I just I do better one on one.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
And I don't like the big way I'm making It's
making me feel.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
The big group settings are just like not my thing.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
But I also think too when you said, like the
excuses it's a dog party and you don't have a dog,
like I would. I would never think to invite a
friend that didn't have a dog to my dog's party, right, So,
like I understand the Meredith and Derek's I know, I know,
but that was the one she chose, which to me
seems valid, like I just would never, like I just
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would never think to do that, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
But I think Meredith might be totally aloof because it
seems she noticed when you were more distant, like she
picked up on it. She would she didn't ignore your
distance and asked you about it and then listen to
you and she cried. So I mean, to me, I
feel like Meredith isn't like a villain or trying to
be malicious. I think it's just maybe just being a
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little like aloof about your feelings, right, And I think
that if you feel better not being a part of
the group settings or putting yourself in that situation. Again,
that's totally valid and you're fine. You're not dramatic for that. Yo.
Y'all have like a couple of friends, right like people
that have have you introduced, people that have hung out
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without you or had that experience.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I know, I was trying to put myself in this
situation and I can't.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
I've had like solo friends that I've that have met
through me and then they hang out together, and I
think that's neat. I think that's kind of Yeah. I
always like, oh, I'm the reason that those two are
together right now.
Speaker 4 (20:41):
And Spider Man teaming up.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Yeah exactly, it's like Wolverine and Deadpool.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
Yes exactly. It's like, yeah, it's fun. I like that
soot Yeah, so impressed. I feel like I've been this
person before, like where like I've met someone through a
different friend that we end up hanging out with those
friends a lot and not the person and introduced us,
and uh, sometimes I feel bad, but also uh like like,
for example, we had some friends named Trish and Dylan.
(21:08):
They introduced me to David. David rides bikes. He got
me and riding bikes. I ride back to him all
the time. We don't hang out with the other people
as much because they were my neighbors. Now they moved away.
No one's there. I don't know, like it's not weird.
No one's ever like said anything. I don't know. It's
just how it's just how things go sometimes. I guess.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
It's not really good advice. But but if.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
You feel like you're being excluded and that sucks, yeah, no.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Feelings are valid.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
What were you going to say speaking of Sunny's birthday
parties November?
Speaker 2 (21:36):
No, thank you.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
It's a long time from now.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
It's a Sunday.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
I mean just coming up, all right, next one. I
don't know if we answered that one or not, but
here we go from anonymous. I've been with my boyfriend
a little over four years. Wait, where are the softball one? Okay,
spoiler alert. We live together and have a dog together.
Every summer, he plays in a softball league to four
nights a week. These evenings include one to two games
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and then hanging out for hours after the game is
drinking beers with friends. About a month ago, everyone went
to the bar after one of the games, but I
didn't know about that until about a week later when
one of the wives told me they all went to
the bar.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
So I was frustrated and said, I didn't know this
information and my boyfriend didn't tell me. I made it
clear that I want to know this information at the moment,
even if I already went to bed. Last night, same
thing happened. He went to the game, went to the bar,
didn't tell me until eleven PM when I asked him
where he could possibly be. It's not being at the
bar that bothers me. It's the not telling me what's
going on when he's out and about. He came home
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drunk and said that he gets nervous telling me things
because he knows I'm going to be mad regardless of
if he tells me or if he doesn't tells me.
Tell me. I tried to make it clear that I
wouldn't be mad if he just told me, but I
don't think he gets it. How do I set a
clear boundary and stick to it. I don't want to
be a naggy girlfriend, but I won't continue a relationship
like this.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I this is so. This is a very difference to suation.
But Haley and I had this time in our relationship
where she would not tell me things that she didn't
find important out of fear that maybe I would have
a reaction to it, And so we would go in
the circle because I'd be like, why didn't you just
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tell me? Because now I'm more upset that you didn't
just tell me and I wouldn't have been upset, and
She's like, but I was scared that you would be upset.
So we had to like set this boundary of being safe,
a safe space for both of us because she had
to make me feel safe by being upfront and honest
with me and letting me know certain things, especially if
it was like a sensitive time, and then I had
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to give her the benefit of the doubt of not
being upset if she told me. So I think it's
setting the boundary of like, hey, I will work on
I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend, but that
is a boundary that's important to me. If you're gonna
go out and drink, I would just as your girlfriend
and someone who wants to know that you're safe, so
that I know what you're are where you are. I
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don't care if you go without me. I don't care
what you're doing. I just want to know. And I
think that's out of respect and being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
It is the approach to it because I will say, like,
I feel like, maybe, Anonymous, you aren't really telling us
how exactly you are reacting to the situation. And I
give you full credit to do so because I do
the same thing. I can sometimes my sentiment is is good,
and like my feelings and everything that I'm saying is valid.
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My approach to it is can come off very naggy
or like annoying or it's it's always in the approach.
So and like I've learned this through my therapist because
she's like, the the sentiment and the things and your
ideas and what you want is very totally normal. It's
the way that you approach it that makes people that
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makes him feel like attacked. And so I would kind
of like, look at how you you are communicating these
things to him, because again, what you're saying is totally
valid and totally he should be respecting you. And if
all you want is to keep you in the loop,
like it's very easy to do. But there's he had
He's saying there's a reason why he's not doing that,
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So I would kind of maybe try and approach it
in a different in a different way, say it in
a different manner.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
You're so right. If it's coming across a tackie, he's
never gonna feel safe to tell you.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
He's probably right. And why aren't you going to the
softball games? Because I think it's the same group of
people at the games. Are then moving to the bar?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Right, And if she don't want to go to a
week I don't want to go either. I like buy
have fun, but I would like to know when you're
coming home or like, you know, just kind of update
me and then I'll text you, hey, I'm going to sleep.
And then by that came good.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Night, Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
Samuel kissy emoji, and we're all good funny.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I would give anything to be in bed with you,
caressing your face as you drift into a dreamland. This
is what Tanya would want to hear. I would give
anything to be there, but instead I'm at this gross
dingy bar.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
This morning, he said, you're the air and my lugs
because he saw this like TikTok, and it was like,
what what I want? What my partner says to me,
and it's like, hey, babe, I'm gonna get my old
change be back in thirty or whatever. This is what
she wants me to say. Hey, babe, I really hate
to leave you, and I don't want to leave. You know.
(26:27):
If somebody could change my ol for me like I
would want, I would welcome it. But I have to go.
And since I have to go, I'm gonna be thinking
about you every minute of every second that I'm gone.
I cannot wait to come back and see you again.
I was like, yeah, there we.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Go, Yeah, yeah, step it.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
Up, which is actually so dark because he's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Yeah, no, I think that's just I was laughing. Hey,
I was laughing because I was like, this is so sick.
That's that is like.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
How And then and then just to top it off,
to to put some salt in the wound that night,
I'm going to sleep, right. It was like I was
in bed and she was facetiming Haley in the kitchen
and I hear Haley say like, Babe, you're my best
friend and I'm and I miss you so much, I know,
and I'm like, this is what I was for.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
I was trying. There's this trend on TikTok whets like
I'm going to say everything twice, like you repeat everything
twice that you say and see if your friend or
partner notices. So we were in bed and I was
doing it and you can just see my face, and
so I'm like starting, I'm like saying things twice and
she goes into this rant. She was like, Babe, I'm
just beaming with love for you. I love you so much.
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You're my favorite person. It's the cutest thing ever. Because
I got her like I'm trying to do this brank
and I'm like dying a lot. She's not catching on
to everything I'm saying. And I was like, Tanya would
love this. This is literally the dream. I love it too.
It's shocking. I love it.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Yeah, it's just so, it's so it only from Haley
because when I'm texting you.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Yeah, it does have its limits. Yeah, well then.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Shall we do erin?
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Not yet?
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Oh yeah, we need one more. We need one more
before aaron.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Another break to Oh my god, here we go. That's
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a cute. Anonymous Dear Banya high scrubbing in gang. First
of all, love all of you. Just came back from
a trip and bingaged the podcast on my thirteen hour flight,
and it made the flight easier to get through. Wow,
there's a lot of scrubbing in right there. Really simple
ask of a question for advice, How do I have
just a great makeout session? I sometimes just want a healthy,
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long make out session with my boyfriend, But five minutes in,
he always wants to do more, he says, as you
take that as a compliment that I turn him on.
But for me, I'm good with just the kissing sometimes.
Thanks for keeping me company on my plane ride.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
You know, one man's pie is another man's pleasure. Because
it's like someone out there might be saying, how can
I get my guy to boink me more? You know?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Yeah, so it's so interesting, it's so interesting. Life is
so interesting, right.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
But what's what's your advice? Just to her?
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Why?
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I mean, to me, the more the merrier, So I'd
be like, welcome.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
You're like the escalation.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, like I'm I'm I am her boyfriend in this
Yeah you are, yeah, taking any time any place. But yeah,
I don't know. I don't know how to answer that.
Speaker 7 (29:53):
Well.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I feel like maybe the guys can answer, because I
feel like I think that they're well. I was gonna
say different for guys, because like you know, if they
get turned on there, like.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Right, their wand wands can't.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Just collapse their mental wand.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Magic wand Oh can't just collapse.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
I mean it can it will.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Isn't that painful?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
No, that's not it. That's a myth.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
Oh my god, I thought it was painful.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
No, it comes, it goes by the way. By the
way it comes, It goes randomly. It comes, it goes
for no particular reasons, such a fascinating thing with the
wand in the morning. It doesn't mean we were dreaming
about sex.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
That's that's what you Okay, Yeah, it does. I mean
something was going on that head.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
It means absolutely nothing.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
It's a it's a it's function that involves blood flow.
That's what.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
It's a circuity.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I thought that it hurt if you if the magic
wand it's like, let's say the umbrella opened. I always
thought if it didn't, if the umbrella didn't.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Uh, I don't think you're gonna get it.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
If the umbrella didn't shelter you from the rain and
you just put it back down. That I thought it
was hurt.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
You know that the blue balls thing is a myth
that guys have used to guilt you with having sex
with them.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's so gross.
Speaker 4 (31:11):
Yeah, there was a post in the Facebook group about
blue balls and it made me so mad.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Because he was comparing to period.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Yeah, not only is it not comparable, that doesn't hurt,
there's no pain whatsoever.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
And they're so nice, girls are like, well you know
his feeling. Can we not for a day?
Speaker 1 (31:37):
You'd be crying like a baby in pain.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Yeah, Like it makes me so sorry. That sets me up.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I just feel like there should be like, I guess
what what wohen it hurts your feelings that that? Like
if Alice was like I just want to make out
nothing more, what could she say that didn't make you
feel rejected? I guess.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
I'm trying to think because I don't know. I do
TM I here, but uh, there was a period in
my life where I was like this dude, you know,
like it started making out and it's like, oh yeah,
you there's a goal here, right, But then something just
clicked and I like prefer making out to the other
stuff often like it's it's it's to me. They're very
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different experiences and I don't know, I don't know how
to make that like I don't know how to say
that too, you know, like like because.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (32:32):
If someone said to me, like I just want to
make out like I I like to think that I
would interpret it as like, oh, well, we just want
to You just want to enjoy this longer, you know,
like you just want to have that type of connection
on a different level. But like I think if I
was a younger man of bick, oh man, it's just
like me, you know, That's what I would think.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Yeah, I don't think I feel rejected because the fact
that she wants to make out with me is a
compliment in itself, Like I would feel wanted by that,
so I feel rejected. I think my best advice for
her in this situation with this guy who clearly wants
descilate things is to find situations where you don't have
a choice, Like perhaps the first day of your period,
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and you have a rule that nothing happens on the
first day of your period, Maybe that's the day to
make out.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
One day a month, I mean, better than zero.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Days having a conversation of like I love yeah, pretty
part of this relationship sometimes, Like I know, I take
it as a compliment that you always want to move
forward after we make out. But sometimes for me, I
just want it to be a makeout and then cuddle
or you know, and not be it. And it doesn't
mean that I don't want you. It's just it's just
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what I need. And I would hope.
Speaker 1 (33:41):
That's very valid. I think like a lot of times
too in relationships, somebody wants to have sex more than
the other person and you just meet in the middle.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
That's what I'm saying. I think it's just like how again,
it's the approach of like not making him feel because
he's going to be sensitive about it, and let him
know that you feel so wanted and it's flattering to
you that he wants it to go beyond. But sometimes
you just want a good old fashioned makeout and nothing more.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
It'll say great, I agree, that sounds great, and then
when it happens he's going to change his mind.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Well we can cross that bridge.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Well remember our talk.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
I mean, yeah, guys need to be trained.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Yeah that's true, But you would hope that he would
get to a point where he would, you know, get
to a point where it's like he could feel comfortable,
they could feel comfortable being like, how are you feeling like?
Is this just a makeout night? Maybe there's a code wordies,
you know.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Like a safe word.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
All right, let's get to Aaron. These are good questions.
I'm not try to answer these questions, but they're very good. Okay,
maybe go work it out together. Hi, Banya and friends.
Random fun question idea for the pod and she does
all four of us, but we'll do them one at
a time. Becca markne easton, what's the most Tanya thing
You've done lately?
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Oh, the most Tanya thing I've done lately is Haley
and I have been getting up and going on walks
together in the morning as like our quality time to
start the day, and it feels very Tanya.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
M most Tanya thing I've done lately is I she
a pudding wo because she eats it regularly and I'm
always curious what it tastes like. So I got some
over the weekend and it was delicious, and all I
thought about all lading was Tanya's onto something here.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Thank you. I wish you would feel that way about everything.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Okay, you'll get.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
There, we'll see Yes, thumbs up.
Speaker 4 (35:37):
My mine's also food related. We made a hard pivot
to see it.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
Chips nice nice, nice, nice nice.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
Wow, I do eat chips on the regular. That is
something I do.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Thank you, Tanya Easton Mark. What's the most Becka thing
you've done lately?
Speaker 1 (35:54):
I binged five episodes of a show in one day.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
That feels more like you at this point. No, yeah,
I don't really binge a lot of.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
TV shows more so than me.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
I don't think you watched Survive like you'd binge a lot.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Don't binge I watched one episode a day. There's a difference,
do you think I.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
Definitely think you watched way more TV than I do.
I don't really binge a lot of shows, but I
guess I did in my past.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
I think that's our image of you, whether you're sitting
on the couch a lot of TV time.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
That's so interesting. Yeah, No, I don't do a lot
of TV time.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
So what do you do? Because we've established this week.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
You don't so interesting?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Because after hours, like way up to bedtime.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I was literally thinking about that after the last episode,
I was like, what do I do all day?
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Because last I saw you were binging just Josie Doanes
in the sixth j Jones six, So I'm not that
far off.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
No, but that's it's very rare, like I very rarely
find a show that I love that much to binge,
but I did. I was obsessed with Daisy Jones.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
So I'm just saying my my Becca thing is not
off kilter. No, walk us through a day non podcast day.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Oh god, I mean the podcast is like my busiest day.
I wake up, now we go on to walk together.
That's around eight eight thirty. I make breakfast, the healthy
oatmeal waffles, put those in, do the dishes. Then I'll
get ready for the day, make my bed, do my
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hair and makeup, pick out an outfit, and then typically
I have stuff to film for like word, like Instagram
stuff like stuff I have to film and I can
take that actually can take a long time if I'm
doing like reels and stuff, that can really take a
long time because I have to edit and everything. I
edit all my own stuff. So I do have some
stuff to do during the day if I'm busy.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
Even shooting those bad Boys.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
Yeah, it's a lot and one woman show. Yeah, I
literally don't know. I don't do things like I'm not
like I like to a shop. I go like, I
literally don't know what I do think about it?
Speaker 1 (38:14):
So like let's even say that that the shooting the
videos and editing them takes you four hours after breakfast.
That's like that takes you like one pm. What do
I do?
Speaker 2 (38:24):
I don't I do? Like lately, I've been trying to
go in like a like an afternoon walk again.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Okay, that's it now it's too hot now, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Just this past week down? And then Haley gets home
like five or six, and then we have dinner and
stuff together. So like there's a chunk of time where
I don't really know.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Right, there's like a two or three window.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
But it changes every day, Like I'm not doing the
same thing every day, Like I'm not in like a routine,
so it does like change up. But yeah, I was
thinking after the last episode of like what do I
spend my time doing for so many hours of the day.
You know?
Speaker 1 (38:57):
What's interesting what I found with myself is like the
days where I have a crazy jam pack schedule, I
will be more efficient and get more done when I
have so much going on in my day than I do.
Like on Labor Day, I was like this is my
day to this is my g get done day, Like
this was the day that we just We're gonna sit
and just get stuff done. And I had a list
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of like twenty things, and I'd say I got to
like seven of them, okay, and I had the whole day,
Like what did I do with this day? I only
did seven of my twenty things?
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Yeah, but I think it was because I had no
structure to.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
My day, right, it makes sense.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, So I can see where because I was like
it came six pm, and I was like, we gotta
watch our show and go to bed.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Yeah what show?
Speaker 3 (39:43):
Americans?
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yeah yeah, I'll I'll be more aware of what I'm
doing on those days so I can report back way tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
This will be a fun game tomorrow. Why don't you
make all tomorrow of.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
A busy day? Tomorrow a busy day. Well, okay, so
I didn't talk about this, but I did something to
my back where like it hurts so bad to turn
my neck, like I have to turn like my body
like this or like setting pain. But I Haley goes
to acupuncture all the time, and she's like, will you
please go see my acupuncture? So I went this morning,
and she's like, come tomorrow and then Friday. So tomorrow
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I have acupuncture, I have the dentist, which is my nightmare,
and then Laura comes into town.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Okay, so tomorrow is a bad, bad example.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
Tomorrow is gonna be busy. Yeah, actually the rest of
the week because Laura's in town. So I'm gonna be
hostess with the mistess.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
Okay, so maybe next week we revisit this.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
Yeah, well I have my answer. I'm the most Becca
thing I've inmationally. A Saturday night, I had a burger
and fries.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
It was an impossible burger, but still it felt very decadent.
Speaker 4 (40:42):
And where was it from?
Speaker 3 (40:45):
That's uh, we're up in OHI all right, Yeah it
was really good.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Yeah, very and I Becca with the impossible burger burger
fries is as good as it's gonna get.
Speaker 3 (40:54):
I think. So I slept with a woman. Does that count?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Okay, great, there we go, there we go.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Wow, that's the most thing.
Speaker 4 (41:07):
I'm sorry to make this about fast food again, but uh,
when I got home from d C, I landed late
at night and I was sexting Alison. I'm like, which
did you eat? Like, I'm good and I'm like, all right,
I'm starving. I went through the Taco Bell drive through.
I got a crunch trap with three cheese and stead
nota cha cheese, and I got cheeseygordy to crunch and
I got a large pepsi down. It was so good.
(41:31):
But I never I don't go to Taco Bell almost
ever anymore because Elison has never been to Taco Bell.
Allison has never had it, So it's not part of
our routine.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Is that like a thing that she's anti?
Speaker 4 (41:42):
She just it's just never come up. It's never come
across her desk.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
I don't know how how do I make it come
across us.
Speaker 4 (41:48):
She would do it for you if you wanted to
go talk about with her, she would do that. Yeah,
but uh, I crave it a lot, and I feel
like I have like a mistress, like when Alison's like
out of town or something like myll.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Is damn good, so good. So it is really good.
Speaker 4 (42:02):
Of all the major chains, I think they're the most
consistently good.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Especially when it just hits hits no matter what, sober, drunk, high, whatever.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Yeah, it hits. Yeah, alright, that's very.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Beck, Tanya, Beca and Mark what's the most Eastern thing
you've done lately. I haven't been a Chooesta factory in
a while, So I.
Speaker 1 (42:23):
Have two things. One of them's food related. I ordered
these like very decadent donuts that had all these different
designs on them. Yeah, and I ate one felt very Eastern.
And my crocs, the crocs that I wear often, they
that feels like Eastern to me.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Yeah, I would say. I was gonna say my buying
crocs for my ziplining excursion was a very east like.
I thought about Eastern the whole time, and I was like,
for some reason, they don't. I never am like, wow,
those are so ugly when I see Eastern war them.
But when I put them.
Speaker 6 (42:59):
On, I was like, I've never felt worse about myself.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
I know.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
It's a weird thing because you feel so bad about
yourself and yet so comfortable at the same time. So
really is like this thing that tugs it.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
It's like that there's something about Easton in them that
doesn't like I'm not like even Hailey was like.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
The gibbets, you need gibbets.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Yeah, gibbet don't know. Hailey was like, I thought I
was gonna feel like people make them look so cool,
and they looked so ugly on me. But I did
get them.
Speaker 4 (43:31):
I'm sure you're comfortable.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
I did not, but they were so comfortable. So there
was I ate something too that I thought, Oh, I
did the trend where you line I don't know if
you would actually do this, but I feel like you'd
be interested in trying it, where you line the cup
with marshmallow fluff and then you you don't drink, Do
you drink? You drink?
Speaker 4 (43:52):
I drink.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
So I tried the Doctor Shepper and pickles. That was
the most easting thing I've ever done. Yeah, is Doctor
Pepper died Doctor Prepper with pickle bits and juice in it.
And I don't really anything with doctor Pepper good enough.
I love Doctor Pepper.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
I can't tell you the last time I had it.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
I can't When in Palm Springs, my sonic dirty Doctor Pepper,
Dirty Doctor Pepper, which is coconut cream, lime and doctor Pepper. Wow,
she kept reaching for it and I was like, don't
drink all that please?
Speaker 3 (44:29):
Yeah, yeah, that's what they say.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
I don't have a good answer for this. I'm sorry.
I I My best answer is that I engineered my
own audio last week when Eastern was gone processing. Notice
this sound a little more low end.
Speaker 4 (44:47):
On the Listen to wind out Jane Kramer this week.
See how he did.
Speaker 3 (44:50):
You know what's funny?
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Though?
Speaker 4 (44:52):
What's it?
Speaker 3 (44:53):
One of our producers emailed like, this sounds different than usual.
I think we can do to fix them. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (45:01):
What you get.
Speaker 3 (45:02):
It sounds different because Eastern's going, but I don't know
what else to do. So I did it poorly, but
I did part of it.
Speaker 7 (45:08):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (45:09):
And finally telling you back in Easton, what's the most
mark thing you've done lately?
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Ah? I tried to. I have been trying to convince
Robbie that we should have dedicated days of the week
with our food.
Speaker 3 (45:24):
I think it makes life simpler.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
I think so too, That is what I'm trying to say.
I'm like, we'll go to the grocery store once a week.
We'll get us through, you know, Monday through Friday, and
then have a little fun on the weekends. Yes, but
every day has its meal.
Speaker 3 (45:37):
The other day you mentioned that with Ryan the other
day and Sis and he said, oh, I could never
do that. My life too hectic, And I was like, no,
that's the point makes it.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Yeah, you don't have to choose what do I feel like?
Speaker 3 (45:47):
You don't that's so much?
Speaker 1 (45:48):
And what do I have in the fridge? It's just there?
Speaker 3 (45:51):
So that's the that's good.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Yeah, I mean that.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
How do you beat that?
Speaker 4 (45:59):
I have any more time?
Speaker 1 (46:02):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (46:03):
The most? Oh okay, well well I'm going now, Yeah,
I have the floor. When we were we were in
Denver this weekend and we're driving around and I was like,
we got to go check out Course Field. We gotta go.
It was nighttime, there was a game going on actually
they were playing. It was a Friday night, and uh,
(46:23):
I was like, I'm not a big baseball guy, but
Mark is making me a baseball guy. And I'm like,
I just got to go see Course Field. So we
like went over there and checked it out. It's a
beautiful facility and it's a great we did.
Speaker 3 (46:34):
We were there for Ryan a few years ago. We
did the same thing for no reason. There was no game.
I think it wasn't even baseball season. We just went
up there and walked around that stadium because I love
baseball stadium. Thank you.
Speaker 4 (46:43):
They're playing the Orioles that night, and I.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Saw a lot of oils. I got there there, but
they got beat.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
Yeah, so anyway, I thought of you.
Speaker 3 (46:52):
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (46:54):
I went on a hike on a trail like your dogs. Yes, yeah, okay,
you know, I expected to be more.
Speaker 3 (47:01):
Insulted by these responses that you guys should be doing
boring things and drinking water and stupid.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
I drink water with one of my meals. I literally
never drink like I always have some sort of like
fizzy drink with my meals, like oh my gosh, And
I almost said I drink water.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Like fizzy drinks make me so unwell like physically yeah,
like not even like just soda like like sparkling water
your stomach acid. Yeah it does. I'm with you, Bubbly drinks,
no bueno for me, although give me an operol sprits and.
Speaker 2 (47:38):
Yeah, oh that was fun.
Speaker 3 (47:41):
That was a really fun one.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, that's fun.
Speaker 7 (47:43):
One erin not anonymous, and thank you all of the people,
even the anonymous, thank you for submitting your ask Banya questions.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
But we have to go.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
It is time. They time.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
However, if you have something that you need advice on
d m us on Instagram at scrubbing in, scrubbing in
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Good job, Becca, thank you so much. Just a reminder
we're here for you always. We are here, We're here,
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and uh that's all for now. So a week are.
Speaker 1 (48:24):
Here and we hear you, and we here are to go.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
Bye bye
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in.
Speaker 1 (00:12):
Grub a dub dumb the very oily today.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
You don't look oily in real life, so I think something.
Maybe your light's given too much.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Yeah, it's giving, it's giving too much of what it
needs to be given.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
Too much reflection.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
Yeah, yeah, very oily.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
No, you're not looking oily.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Thanks. But you know what the difference between a grape
and a raisin is, Well, they say water, but in
this case, I'm gonna go oil. My skin is oily.
Bring it on, baby.
Speaker 3 (00:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Wow, that was impactable. It wasn't right, It wasn't a
right scientific factor, but it makes it.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
It makes a powerful punch.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
Mm hmmm. A grape and literally the.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Only difference between a juicy, luscious grape and a raisin
is water. Water.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Yeah, hydration. That's why our skin can even look like
a raisin or hydrated and plump exactly and juicy exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, if you're in southe of California, make sure
you're hydrating because it is hot.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So my biggest sick in the news when I'm watching
the news and They're like, make sure you're drinking your water,
and I'm like, I know.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
I can't help it though, Like both Haley and I
do this to each other. We're like one of us
won't be feeling well. It's like, have you drink water,
and we both do it to each other.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Different. That's different. Hot outside and the news man saying,
please bring your water jug.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
If I'm not feeling well, there's probably another reason other
than I haven't had enough water.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
You know. My new thing that's gonna that I'm gonna
make this this winter.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
Look.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
So I'm gonna take garlic clothes and I'm gonna put
them in a mason jar and I'm gonna fill it
up with honey. And a pair only has a lot
of medicinal benefits if you're feeling sick.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
To like she's an episode of the Tanya Show.
Speaker 4 (02:07):
She's in her witch cauldron era.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
That's right, That's how my friend gives me. Yeah, you
like take like a spoonful of it if you're feeling sick,
or you can like put it you you just use
it as a honey. But it has it's been like
soaking in the garlic. Since I'm going to do it now.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
Tanya said to me earlier. She says, you know, Robbie's
done a lot of stuff for me that you know,
he didn't really want to do necessarily. And I'm like
everything he does, the family meetings, the journals, the taping
your mouth shut that there's a hundred things.
Speaker 5 (02:36):
I had to remind her of this, so I you know,
I'm glad we're bringing this up because he likes those
things I was referencing, like a concert here or there
that he doesn't necessarily want to go to, but he
knows I want to that type of stuff.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I'm taping his mouth stud He is happy as a
clam taping.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
He never would have done that if not for you.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Thank God for me, because he never eyes. I don't
force him. I don't say here's my mouth tape, take.
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Yours in some of these things.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
I don't think so I think that he does. He
would have never done it without you, But I think
after doing it, he does enjoy it. Yeah, but I
do think he, Uh, Tanya, finds himself for you and
then he like likes it.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
He's thanking God every day on his knees.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
He walks in the house and you're and you know,
there's got it like I don't know, your fridge is empty,
there's piles of stuff everywhere, and he's just like, oh boy,
what is it this week? What are we getting into now?
I bet there's got to be a moment of him
be like, okay, I gotta gear up for this.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Man like making that stuff for forty eight hours. He
is me in male form.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I have has made me. I do feel there's been
a switch.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yeah, he's me in a man's body.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
No all the way.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Yeah, not all emotionally, not all the way now, I
would say one hundred percent, but he's like eighty percent there. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:04):
Yeah, y'all are a great match. Yeah. I was laughing
today because so Haley and I now that we're living together,
it's like okay, like who's doing what you know, and
the chores whatnot. And I was thinking about how she
goes it's okay, like today when she was like, it's okay,
it's okay, don't worry, We're gonna get into a routine,
and I was like, yeah, it's hard because not I
feel like typically there's a person in a relationship that's
(04:27):
like the clean, organized person and like that's like their thing.
But neither of us are that.
Speaker 6 (04:33):
Way, so it's like, oh, it's chaos, but we have
to be really intentional about it otherwise because like, and
I'm actually grateful because I think if there was one
person who was like more that way, there would be resentment.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
You know, we're both just like, oh, you're messy.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Yeah, whatever will you do that?
Speaker 2 (04:50):
It's like just out in the open. But I feel
like Alison, well, I feel like you're clean, but I
noticed Allison was very.
Speaker 4 (04:58):
Allison's much cleaner. Yeah, yeah, and thank god for that.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
I'm sorry, but I did. I wanted to make sure
you're alive.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Yeah, yeah, you have to vacate the room feels bad.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Mark was having a coffee Deack.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
And he's still not back yet.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
Yeah, he's not back. He took his water though.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
I think you guys should just divving up the chores.
I'm in charge of this, you're in charge of that, right.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So So what happened was we were leaving for something
over the weekend and I was like, oh my gosh,
hold I have to feed Phoebe because I'm always the
one that feeds Phoebe. And she goes babe, and I'm like,
did you think of Phoebe. Would Phoebe have eaten if
I didn't feed Phoebe? And she's like, okay, So from
now on, I'll do Phoebe's food in the morning. But
(05:48):
this morning it's such a habit for me that I
made Phoebe's food and then she made it again. She
was about to leave and she goes, wait, I gotta
feed Phoebe, and I go I already fed Phoebe and
she's like, that's my chour. It's gonna take some adjustment,
but I'm glad. Everyone's eager, you know, everyone's eager to participate.
That's all I needed.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
That's the best thing.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Mark's returned.
Speaker 3 (06:08):
I try to be so mindful and demure and just
step out for a moment.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Yea hacking and like it looks like.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
A little tickle.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Well, we couldn't start Dear Bonnie without because we're just
killing the chores, the chores, my chores with my girlfriend
living together. Yeah, it's not great, but I did want.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
The way we feed Sonny is like whoever, whoever during
the week when I obviously leave in the morning, so
Robbie does it when I'm not there, and then it's
just whoever wakes up first and goes downstairs feed Sonny.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Well, Phoebe's not an instant, like she doesn't.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Don't they take her time in the morning. Sonny is
like chomping at the bitch.
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Just let her like kind of when she walks over
to that area, I'm like, okay, I'll feed her. So
I never have like a specific time, so that's why
I've always just it. But now she Hailey's like, that's
my chore now. So I was like, okay, good luck Phoebe.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Hope you eat eat.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
So yeah, but today's episode is a dear bizybanya and uh,
we're so excited because we got some got some some
good stuff in here.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Some good stuff, good good stuff.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
I'm good advice emails people seeking advice.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
So mark without further redation, Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
This is from an anonymous mom to be help. I'm
looking for ideas to make my husband's fortieth birthday special.
At home. We're expecting our first baby two weeks before
his birthday, so I'm not thinking I'll be in any
condition to go out. We'll have a surprise birthday dinner
with the family before the baby comes, but I want
to make sure he feels super special on the actual day.
He's a low key guy and he mostly geeks out
(07:52):
on movies and actors, astronomy and really good coffee. When
I started thinking about what to do for him, I
thought about, how this is right up Tanya's Ali. I'd
love a man's perspective of Mark and Easton too. Thank
you so much for making me, helping me make this
super special for him.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
You know what's so interesting. I was just talking to
a friend of mine. Her daughter was born, like I think,
maybe a few days before her birthday, and she's like,
my birthday is no longer existent. It's like all about
the kid, you know. And I was like, that's so.
I guess you don't really care when you're a parent.
It's just like whatever, everything is about the kid. But
I was like, oh, Like I like made a mental note.
(08:29):
I was like, I don't want you know, like, I
want your birthday to still be your birthday. So I
feel like you should make him feel special. The fact
that you said that he's a low key guy, I
feel like he'll like this idea because I've done I
feel like I've done this for Becca, I've done it
for Robbie, and it's always a hit. Where you get
the forty balloons and you write down something that you like,
(08:52):
one thing you love about that person on each balloon,
and you put him in a room so they like
look really cool and cute and they're like sentimental, so
it makes them feel good.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
That would make him feel special, no question.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Yeah, yeah, that's it. That's all.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
Oh I have an idea. She said, he loves astronomy.
That's stars, right, Yes, yeah, okay, I was thinking, what
if you got those glow in the dark stars and
you put them all over the ceiling and then you
did a movie night where you watch one of his
favorite movies and had like popcorn and cant like made
it like the stars. Yeah, under the stage.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Each star you could write down your favorite thing about him.
Speaker 3 (09:28):
Put their glow in the dark.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Oh, it's just Nick straight out, I love you, you know,
just spitballing here. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Well that could be the morning, like yeah, he comes
down and then.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
No, no, no, no, okay. The balloons have the glow up
stars on them with the writings on them, so he
reads them all in the morning and then she takes
all the stars, she puts them on the ceiling for
a movie night that night, or they just.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Hang in the air and they glow in the dark
on the blue.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
See, these are.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
All great ideas. I think they will all make him
feel very special and very very very thoughtful, very thought through.
I was just gonna say, I'm just I'm a simple guy,
and I don't need much. And a lot of times
my wife thinks, oh, he doesn't need any more Brewers
and Packers stuff because he has a million things. That's
all I need, that's all I want, that's all I
care about. I can't get too much of that stuff
(10:26):
because that's what I'm obsessed with. So just whatever his
obsessions are, you might think, oh, he doesn't need another
astronomy thing, get it. He'll love it absolutely. Yes, whatever
he's obsessed with, lean into it.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
Woh.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
I like, that's that's good to know.
Speaker 4 (10:39):
I went to Mark's fiftieth birthday party, and I've never
felt less stress about buying a gift.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
For someone so simple.
Speaker 4 (10:44):
I was like, this is easy, man.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
He got me baseball cards, like a book of cards.
Speaker 4 (10:50):
I got you the program for the Brewers game that
was the day you were born.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
I think I was not exactly it is nice that's
not exactly why. No, it was like it was like
a it was a bunch of It was a little
book on the players from the seventy one Brewers team. Yes, yes, yes,
that was very nice.
Speaker 4 (11:11):
They would have given it out on the game the
day he was born. Oh, it's the game that they
celebrated Mark's birth.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Wow, that's so thoughtful.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
It was very thoughtful.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Yes, it was very thought Yeah, that's a great idea
if you want to get him.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
Yeah, maybe you can find the DVD of the movie
that he were What if you bought him a store, Yes,
you can do that.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
You can't do that.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Forty so it's easy.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
It's throwing away your money. Like I don't I think
he has an astronomer would know that you don't actually
name you're not actually naming your.
Speaker 1 (11:47):
You get the coordinates and everything.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
You can name the drop in the ocean, you can
name a grain saying on the beach. It's the same thing.
It's just a certificate. It's just taking your money because.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
He's an astronomer. She said, he loves a.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
Strong Yeah, oh my gosh, if I have a star
in this sky that was named after me that I'm
not even astronomer.
Speaker 4 (12:06):
What about get him a snapshot of what the stars
looked like the night.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
He was bad or the day they all met.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Yes, and we're really pushing the astronomy. And and like
the fact that he likes good coffee.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
Get him a good cup of coffee.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh, my gosh, makes some homemade milk or or almond milk.
Speaker 3 (12:27):
Whatever.
Speaker 1 (12:27):
His milk.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
She's gonna be way too pregnant.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Milk real soon.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Different he can't have that.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
Can Actually is that breast milk like very healing?
Speaker 2 (12:41):
Yeah, it's like it's like that's why they encourage you
to if you are stuff. Oh, I don't know, I
think it is.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
I think that's like a lot of healing property.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
I thought about Robbie wrapping his burn and his own
skin way too many times. It's the podcast. I gotta
be honest.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
I had Blissfulee gotten that.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Thinking about a NonStop he had.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Okay, so he burned. He was making me soup and
he went to go pour it into the bowl and
he went all over his hands. So he got a
second degree burned on.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
His finger, like hot fingers. Se I was.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
Like, but it was a huge blister that like appeared
on his finger like so like on top right, like
a big giant one. So he uh, he got it drained,
the blister drained, and then you leave the skin. You
don't like peel the skin off. You see that skin
as its own band aid. That's what he did. It's
(13:40):
not as gross.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Okay, I thought you were. Actually he caught his skin
and then wrapped it around there. I loved it.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
He loved his skin on, and then it was starting
to peel up, and then he had to kind of
peel it back down.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And I don't need more details.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Skin. Skin makes the best band aid for your skin.
So if you're ever out there and you're wondering what's
the best band they.
Speaker 3 (14:01):
Take off that skin. It's just super red and raw.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
Correct, so you can get a band aid, like you're saying,
right right, yeah, fair enough is the best band aid.
Speaker 3 (14:10):
Shall we move on to another one?
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Options? Yeah, maybe wake him up with his favorite couple
of jobby well that or his favorite and then his
favorite couple.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Something sexual is never not going to be.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
Two weeks before giving birth. I just can't imagine. Her
gag reflex is off the charts.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Your gag reflex is that bad and that pregnant.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I imagine everything is gaggy when you're that pregnant.
Speaker 4 (14:34):
Shall have had the kid for two weeks.
Speaker 2 (14:36):
Thoughts before, two weeks before, we're.
Speaker 4 (14:39):
Expecting two weeks before his birthday. Kid in one hand.
Speaker 2 (14:43):
This. We're gonna have to ask for some help for
some of these ideas we've given. Yeah, we need a
friend or a parent to come over. Yeah, there are
some good, good options in there. And congratulations, we're so
happy for you.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
We didn't take a break after. I'm not going to
have you do me like you did on Monday.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
So let's take a break scrubbing.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
Sorry, wrong button, Sorry, all.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
Right, we're back. Break one, done, done, Moving on to
anonymous number two.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
Here we go, Everyone's and no, I'm you know I
put these on there because everyone's anonymous nowadays.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Not true.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
We're going to get to Aaron at the end.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
Hi, Becca and Tanya parenthetically and Marcaniston. That's us, easty
were the parentheticals?
Speaker 4 (15:45):
All right, we made it.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
I've been a scrubber since day one. Thanks for bringing
sunshine to so many people's days and for showing up
every week to provide us with episodes. My husband and
I have these friends we'll call them Derek and Meredith.
A few years ago, they came to our friends giving
and hit it off with another couple we invited. A
week later, I saw on Instagram that they hung out
with that other couple without us, And then over the
(16:06):
next few months, Derek and Mereth seemed to steal every
friend we introduced them to and excluded us from events.
This pattern happened with three other couples we knew, and
it really started to upset us. A few months ago,
I talked to Meredith about it, and she apologized said
it wasn't their intention to hurt us. Despite this, the
pattern continues with excuses like it was a dog's birthday
(16:28):
party and you don't have a dog, or oh, I
thought you were out of town. Eventually, I decided to
pull myself out of these uncomfortable situations. Meredith noticed the
distance and said, what's wrong. I shared my feelings and
she ended up crying. I told her I'd be happy
to stay friends, but I no longer feel comfortable being
part of the larger friend group. My question is, am
I weird to feel this way? I'm not sure how
(16:49):
to move forward with his friendship. But it also puts
me in a weird spot with the other couples. Since
now it comes off as I'm causing drama, how would
you move forward with it? Any advice would be so appreciated.
Thank you all.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
So she's basically just saying she's fine to stay friends
with Meredith, but that doesn't need to be friends with
all the other people as a group.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Yeah, I'm confused on the question.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
She doesn't want to feel she said, The question.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Is am I weird to feel this way? The question is, no,
You're not weird because you feel that type of way,
so your feelings are always valid. However, I'm not really
sure how to get you out of this curm fluckle
because quite the curf fluckle, because at the end of
the day, you were just a kerfuffle.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
It's a curve fuckle.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
It's her. Is that the word is kerfluffle?
Speaker 2 (17:38):
Her?
Speaker 1 (17:39):
What is it?
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Isn't it kerfluffle?
Speaker 3 (17:42):
K is a very.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
It's it's an interesting one. And I think that at
the end of the day, you have to take people
as they are. And I feel like Derek and Meredith
this might just be maybe they wanted to hang out
with couples, you know. Two on two they like doing
the double day thing. They don't want to do bigger things.
(18:09):
Maybe they don't obviously they're not seeing that it's like
hurting your feelings. I just think you have to take
people as they are. I feel like it's going to
help you feel more settled in yourself and it's going
to help you feel more settled in this situation because
I think at the end of the day, like we
all try to control other people circumstances, situations, outcomes, and
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you just can't. You just can't.
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I also think sometimes especially when you're in a group
setting and you're married and there's like couples, people will
connect and have interest outside of what you connected with
them on, you know what I'm saying. So like, right,
they came to your friends giving and there was another
couple there that maybe they were like, oh my gosh,
like we are literally the same people and we have
the same interests and we should do something together. And
(18:53):
then it happens, and it like sucks because it sucks
to see people that you introduced hanging out without you
as the connector. But I also think it's okay for
people to want to do that, and I think you're
valid to like want to exclude yourself, and I don't
think you're having drama. I think you can just be like, yeah,
I just I do better one on one.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
And I don't like the big way I'm making It's
making me feel.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
The big group settings are just like not my thing.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
But I also think too when you said, like the
excuses it's a dog party and you don't have a dog,
like I would. I would never think to invite a
friend that didn't have a dog to my dog's party, right, So,
like I understand the Meredith and Derek's I know, I know,
but that was the one she chose, which to me
seems valid, like I just would never, like I just
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would never think to do that, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
But I think Meredith might be totally aloof because it
seems she noticed when you were more distant, like she
picked up on it. She would she didn't ignore your
distance and asked you about it and then listen to
you and she cried. So I mean, to me, I
feel like Meredith isn't like a villain or trying to
be malicious. I think it's just maybe just being a
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little like aloof about your feelings, right, And I think
that if you feel better not being a part of
the group settings or putting yourself in that situation. Again,
that's totally valid and you're fine. You're not dramatic for that. Yo.
Y'all have like a couple of friends, right like people
that have have you introduced, people that have hung out
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without you or had that experience.
Speaker 1 (20:27):
I know, I was trying to put myself in this
situation and I can't.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
I've had like solo friends that I've that have met
through me and then they hang out together, and I
think that's neat. I think that's kind of Yeah. I
always like, oh, I'm the reason that those two are
together right now.
Speaker 4 (20:41):
And Spider Man teaming up.
Speaker 1 (20:42):
Yeah exactly, it's like Wolverine and Deadpool.
Speaker 4 (20:45):
Yes exactly. It's like, yeah, it's fun. I like that
soot Yeah, so impressed. I feel like I've been this
person before, like where like I've met someone through a
different friend that we end up hanging out with those
friends a lot and not the person and introduced us,
and uh, sometimes I feel bad, but also uh like like,
for example, we had some friends named Trish and Dylan.
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They introduced me to David. David rides bikes. He got
me and riding bikes. I ride back to him all
the time. We don't hang out with the other people
as much because they were my neighbors. Now they moved away.
No one's there. I don't know, like it's not weird.
No one's ever like said anything. I don't know. It's
just how it's just how things go sometimes. I guess.
Speaker 5 (21:25):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (21:26):
It's not really good advice. But but if.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
You feel like you're being excluded and that sucks, yeah, no.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Feelings are valid.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
What were you going to say speaking of Sunny's birthday
parties November?
Speaker 2 (21:36):
No, thank you.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
It's a long time from now.
Speaker 1 (21:40):
It's a Sunday.
Speaker 3 (21:42):
I mean just coming up, all right, next one. I
don't know if we answered that one or not, but
here we go from anonymous. I've been with my boyfriend
a little over four years. Wait, where are the softball one? Okay,
spoiler alert. We live together and have a dog together.
Every summer, he plays in a softball league to four
nights a week. These evenings include one to two games
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and then hanging out for hours after the game is
drinking beers with friends. About a month ago, everyone went
to the bar after one of the games, but I
didn't know about that until about a week later when
one of the wives told me they all went to
the bar.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Oh.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
So I was frustrated and said, I didn't know this
information and my boyfriend didn't tell me. I made it
clear that I want to know this information at the moment,
even if I already went to bed. Last night, same
thing happened. He went to the game, went to the bar,
didn't tell me until eleven PM when I asked him
where he could possibly be. It's not being at the
bar that bothers me. It's the not telling me what's
going on when he's out and about. He came home
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drunk and said that he gets nervous telling me things
because he knows I'm going to be mad regardless of
if he tells me or if he doesn't tells me.
Tell me. I tried to make it clear that I
wouldn't be mad if he just told me, but I
don't think he gets it. How do I set a
clear boundary and stick to it. I don't want to
be a naggy girlfriend, but I won't continue a relationship
like this.
Speaker 2 (22:56):
I this is so. This is a very difference to suation.
But Haley and I had this time in our relationship
where she would not tell me things that she didn't
find important out of fear that maybe I would have
a reaction to it, And so we would go in
the circle because I'd be like, why didn't you just
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tell me? Because now I'm more upset that you didn't
just tell me and I wouldn't have been upset, and
She's like, but I was scared that you would be upset.
So we had to like set this boundary of being safe,
a safe space for both of us because she had
to make me feel safe by being upfront and honest
with me and letting me know certain things, especially if
it was like a sensitive time, and then I had
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to give her the benefit of the doubt of not
being upset if she told me. So I think it's
setting the boundary of like, hey, I will work on
I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend, but that
is a boundary that's important to me. If you're gonna
go out and drink, I would just as your girlfriend
and someone who wants to know that you're safe, so
that I know what you're are where you are. I
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don't care if you go without me. I don't care
what you're doing. I just want to know. And I
think that's out of respect and being in a relationship.
Speaker 1 (24:10):
It is the approach to it because I will say, like,
I feel like, maybe, Anonymous, you aren't really telling us
how exactly you are reacting to the situation. And I
give you full credit to do so because I do
the same thing. I can sometimes my sentiment is is good,
and like my feelings and everything that I'm saying is valid.
(24:33):
My approach to it is can come off very naggy
or like annoying or it's it's always in the approach.
So and like I've learned this through my therapist because
she's like, the the sentiment and the things and your
ideas and what you want is very totally normal. It's
the way that you approach it that makes people that
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makes him feel like attacked. And so I would kind
of like, look at how you you are communicating these
things to him, because again, what you're saying is totally
valid and totally he should be respecting you. And if
all you want is to keep you in the loop,
like it's very easy to do. But there's he had
He's saying there's a reason why he's not doing that,
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So I would kind of maybe try and approach it
in a different in a different way, say it in
a different manner.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
You're so right. If it's coming across a tackie, he's
never gonna feel safe to tell you.
Speaker 3 (25:27):
He's probably right. And why aren't you going to the
softball games? Because I think it's the same group of
people at the games. Are then moving to the bar?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Right, And if she don't want to go to a
week I don't want to go either. I like buy
have fun, but I would like to know when you're
coming home or like, you know, just kind of update
me and then I'll text you, hey, I'm going to sleep.
And then by that came good.
Speaker 2 (25:47):
Night, Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:49):
Samuel kissy emoji, and we're all good funny.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I would give anything to be in bed with you,
caressing your face as you drift into a dreamland. This
is what Tanya would want to hear. I would give
anything to be there, but instead I'm at this gross
dingy bar.
Speaker 1 (26:06):
This morning, he said, you're the air and my lugs
because he saw this like TikTok, and it was like,
what what I want? What my partner says to me,
and it's like, hey, babe, I'm gonna get my old
change be back in thirty or whatever. This is what
she wants me to say. Hey, babe, I really hate
to leave you, and I don't want to leave. You know.
(26:27):
If somebody could change my ol for me like I
would want, I would welcome it. But I have to go.
And since I have to go, I'm gonna be thinking
about you every minute of every second that I'm gone.
I cannot wait to come back and see you again.
I was like, yeah, there we.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
Go, Yeah, yeah, step it.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
Up, which is actually so dark because he's wonderful.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Yeah, no, I think that's just I was laughing. Hey,
I was laughing because I was like, this is so sick.
That's that is like.
Speaker 1 (26:56):
How And then and then just to top it off,
to to put some salt in the wound that night,
I'm going to sleep, right. It was like I was
in bed and she was facetiming Haley in the kitchen
and I hear Haley say like, Babe, you're my best
friend and I'm and I miss you so much, I know,
and I'm like, this is what I was for.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
I was trying. There's this trend on TikTok whets like
I'm going to say everything twice, like you repeat everything
twice that you say and see if your friend or
partner notices. So we were in bed and I was
doing it and you can just see my face, and
so I'm like starting, I'm like saying things twice and
she goes into this rant. She was like, Babe, I'm
just beaming with love for you. I love you so much.
(27:40):
You're my favorite person. It's the cutest thing ever. Because
I got her like I'm trying to do this brank
and I'm like dying a lot. She's not catching on
to everything I'm saying. And I was like, Tanya would
love this. This is literally the dream. I love it too.
It's shocking. I love it.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Yeah, it's just so, it's so it only from Haley
because when I'm texting you.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Yeah, it does have its limits. Yeah, well then.
Speaker 1 (28:10):
Shall we do erin?
Speaker 3 (28:11):
Not yet?
Speaker 2 (28:12):
Oh yeah, we need one more. We need one more
before aaron.
Speaker 3 (28:15):
Another break to Oh my god, here we go. That's
(28:36):
a cute. Anonymous Dear Banya high scrubbing in gang. First
of all, love all of you. Just came back from
a trip and bingaged the podcast on my thirteen hour flight,
and it made the flight easier to get through. Wow,
there's a lot of scrubbing in right there. Really simple
ask of a question for advice, How do I have
just a great makeout session? I sometimes just want a healthy,
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long make out session with my boyfriend, But five minutes in,
he always wants to do more, he says, as you
take that as a compliment that I turn him on.
But for me, I'm good with just the kissing sometimes.
Thanks for keeping me company on my plane ride.
Speaker 1 (29:16):
You know, one man's pie is another man's pleasure. Because
it's like someone out there might be saying, how can
I get my guy to boink me more? You know?
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Sure?
Speaker 1 (29:27):
Yeah, so it's so interesting, it's so interesting. Life is
so interesting, right.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
But what's what's your advice? Just to her?
Speaker 3 (29:36):
Why?
Speaker 1 (29:36):
I mean, to me, the more the merrier, So I'd
be like, welcome.
Speaker 3 (29:40):
You're like the escalation.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Yeah, like I'm I'm I am her boyfriend in this
Yeah you are, yeah, taking any time any place. But yeah,
I don't know. I don't know how to answer that.
Speaker 7 (29:53):
Well.
Speaker 2 (29:53):
I feel like maybe the guys can answer, because I
feel like I think that they're well. I was gonna
say different for guys, because like you know, if they
get turned on there, like.
Speaker 1 (30:04):
Right, their wand wands can't.
Speaker 2 (30:06):
Just collapse their mental wand.
Speaker 1 (30:08):
Magic wand Oh can't just collapse.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
I mean it can it will.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Isn't that painful?
Speaker 3 (30:14):
No, that's not it. That's a myth.
Speaker 1 (30:15):
Oh my god, I thought it was painful.
Speaker 3 (30:17):
No, it comes, it goes by the way. By the
way it comes, It goes randomly. It comes, it goes
for no particular reasons, such a fascinating thing with the
wand in the morning. It doesn't mean we were dreaming
about sex.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
That's that's what you Okay, Yeah, it does. I mean
something was going on that head.
Speaker 3 (30:37):
It means absolutely nothing.
Speaker 4 (30:39):
It's a it's a it's function that involves blood flow.
That's what.
Speaker 3 (30:43):
It's a circuity.
Speaker 1 (30:44):
I thought that it hurt if you if the magic
wand it's like, let's say the umbrella opened. I always
thought if it didn't, if the umbrella didn't.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Uh, I don't think you're gonna get it.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
If the umbrella didn't shelter you from the rain and
you just put it back down. That I thought it
was hurt.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
You know that the blue balls thing is a myth
that guys have used to guilt you with having sex
with them.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's so gross.
Speaker 4 (31:11):
Yeah, there was a post in the Facebook group about
blue balls and it made me so mad.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
Because he was comparing to period.
Speaker 3 (31:23):
Yeah, not only is it not comparable, that doesn't hurt,
there's no pain whatsoever.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
And they're so nice, girls are like, well you know
his feeling. Can we not for a day?
Speaker 1 (31:37):
You'd be crying like a baby in pain.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
Yeah, Like it makes me so sorry. That sets me up.
Speaker 2 (31:45):
I just feel like there should be like, I guess
what what wohen it hurts your feelings that that? Like
if Alice was like I just want to make out
nothing more, what could she say that didn't make you
feel rejected? I guess.
Speaker 4 (31:59):
I'm trying to think because I don't know. I do
TM I here, but uh, there was a period in
my life where I was like this dude, you know,
like it started making out and it's like, oh yeah,
you there's a goal here, right, But then something just
clicked and I like prefer making out to the other
stuff often like it's it's it's to me. They're very
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different experiences and I don't know, I don't know how
to make that like I don't know how to say
that too, you know, like like because.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (32:32):
If someone said to me, like I just want to
make out like I I like to think that I
would interpret it as like, oh, well, we just want
to You just want to enjoy this longer, you know,
like you just want to have that type of connection
on a different level. But like I think if I
was a younger man of bick, oh man, it's just
like me, you know, That's what I would think.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
Yeah, I don't think I feel rejected because the fact
that she wants to make out with me is a
compliment in itself, Like I would feel wanted by that,
so I feel rejected. I think my best advice for
her in this situation with this guy who clearly wants
descilate things is to find situations where you don't have
a choice, Like perhaps the first day of your period,
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and you have a rule that nothing happens on the
first day of your period, Maybe that's the day to
make out.
Speaker 1 (33:14):
One day a month, I mean, better than zero.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
Days having a conversation of like I love yeah, pretty
part of this relationship sometimes, Like I know, I take
it as a compliment that you always want to move
forward after we make out. But sometimes for me, I
just want it to be a makeout and then cuddle
or you know, and not be it. And it doesn't
mean that I don't want you. It's just it's just
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what I need. And I would hope.
Speaker 1 (33:41):
That's very valid. I think like a lot of times
too in relationships, somebody wants to have sex more than
the other person and you just meet in the middle.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
That's what I'm saying. I think it's just like how again,
it's the approach of like not making him feel because
he's going to be sensitive about it, and let him
know that you feel so wanted and it's flattering to
you that he wants it to go beyond. But sometimes
you just want a good old fashioned makeout and nothing more.
Speaker 3 (34:03):
It'll say great, I agree, that sounds great, and then
when it happens he's going to change his mind.
Speaker 1 (34:09):
Well we can cross that bridge.
Speaker 2 (34:10):
Well remember our talk.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
I mean, yeah, guys need to be trained.
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Yeah that's true, But you would hope that he would
get to a point where he would, you know, get
to a point where it's like he could feel comfortable,
they could feel comfortable being like, how are you feeling like?
Is this just a makeout night? Maybe there's a code wordies,
you know.
Speaker 4 (34:30):
Like a safe word.
Speaker 2 (34:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 3 (34:33):
All right, let's get to Aaron. These are good questions.
I'm not try to answer these questions, but they're very good. Okay,
maybe go work it out together. Hi, Banya and friends.
Random fun question idea for the pod and she does
all four of us, but we'll do them one at
a time. Becca markne easton, what's the most Tanya thing
You've done lately?
Speaker 2 (34:55):
Oh, the most Tanya thing I've done lately is Haley
and I have been getting up and going on walks
together in the morning as like our quality time to
start the day, and it feels very Tanya.
Speaker 3 (35:10):
M most Tanya thing I've done lately is I she
a pudding wo because she eats it regularly and I'm
always curious what it tastes like. So I got some
over the weekend and it was delicious, and all I
thought about all lading was Tanya's onto something here.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
Thank you. I wish you would feel that way about everything.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (35:32):
Okay, you'll get.
Speaker 3 (35:33):
There, we'll see Yes, thumbs up.
Speaker 4 (35:37):
My mine's also food related. We made a hard pivot
to see it.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
Chips nice nice, nice, nice nice.
Speaker 2 (35:43):
Wow, I do eat chips on the regular. That is
something I do.
Speaker 3 (35:48):
Thank you, Tanya Easton Mark. What's the most Becka thing
you've done lately?
Speaker 1 (35:54):
I binged five episodes of a show in one day.
Speaker 2 (35:58):
That feels more like you at this point. No, yeah,
I don't really binge a lot of.
Speaker 1 (36:04):
TV shows more so than me.
Speaker 2 (36:07):
I don't think you watched Survive like you'd binge a lot.
Speaker 1 (36:09):
Don't binge I watched one episode a day. There's a difference,
do you think I.
Speaker 2 (36:16):
Definitely think you watched way more TV than I do.
I don't really binge a lot of shows, but I
guess I did in my past.
Speaker 1 (36:24):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (36:26):
I think that's our image of you, whether you're sitting
on the couch a lot of TV time.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
That's so interesting. Yeah, No, I don't do a lot
of TV time.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
So what do you do? Because we've established this week.
Speaker 4 (36:37):
You don't so interesting?
Speaker 1 (36:38):
Because after hours, like way up to bedtime.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
I was literally thinking about that after the last episode,
I was like, what do I do all day?
Speaker 1 (36:50):
Because last I saw you were binging just Josie Doanes
in the sixth j Jones six, So I'm not that
far off.
Speaker 2 (36:59):
No, but that's it's very rare, like I very rarely
find a show that I love that much to binge,
but I did. I was obsessed with Daisy Jones.
Speaker 1 (37:07):
So I'm just saying my my Becca thing is not
off kilter. No, walk us through a day non podcast day.
Speaker 2 (37:15):
Oh god, I mean the podcast is like my busiest day.
I wake up, now we go on to walk together.
That's around eight eight thirty. I make breakfast, the healthy
oatmeal waffles, put those in, do the dishes. Then I'll
get ready for the day, make my bed, do my
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hair and makeup, pick out an outfit, and then typically
I have stuff to film for like word, like Instagram
stuff like stuff I have to film and I can
take that actually can take a long time if I'm
doing like reels and stuff, that can really take a
long time because I have to edit and everything. I
edit all my own stuff. So I do have some
stuff to do during the day if I'm busy.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
Even shooting those bad Boys.
Speaker 2 (37:58):
Yeah, it's a lot and one woman show. Yeah, I
literally don't know. I don't do things like I'm not
like I like to a shop. I go like, I
literally don't know what I do think about it?
Speaker 1 (38:14):
So like let's even say that that the shooting the
videos and editing them takes you four hours after breakfast.
That's like that takes you like one pm. What do
I do?
Speaker 2 (38:24):
I don't I do? Like lately, I've been trying to
go in like a like an afternoon walk again.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Okay, that's it now it's too hot now, isn't it.
Speaker 2 (38:33):
Just this past week down? And then Haley gets home
like five or six, and then we have dinner and
stuff together. So like there's a chunk of time where
I don't really know.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Right, there's like a two or three window.
Speaker 2 (38:45):
But it changes every day, Like I'm not doing the
same thing every day, Like I'm not in like a routine,
so it does like change up. But yeah, I was
thinking after the last episode of like what do I
spend my time doing for so many hours of the day.
You know?
Speaker 1 (38:57):
What's interesting what I found with myself is like the
days where I have a crazy jam pack schedule, I
will be more efficient and get more done when I
have so much going on in my day than I do.
Like on Labor Day, I was like this is my
day to this is my g get done day, Like
this was the day that we just We're gonna sit
and just get stuff done. And I had a list
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of like twenty things, and I'd say I got to
like seven of them, okay, and I had the whole day,
Like what did I do with this day? I only
did seven of my twenty things?
Speaker 2 (39:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (39:29):
Yeah, but I think it was because I had no
structure to.
Speaker 2 (39:32):
My day, right, it makes sense.
Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, So I can see where because I was like
it came six pm, and I was like, we gotta
watch our show and go to bed.
Speaker 2 (39:42):
Yeah what show?
Speaker 3 (39:43):
Americans?
Speaker 2 (39:45):
Yeah yeah, I'll I'll be more aware of what I'm
doing on those days so I can report back way tomorrow.
Speaker 1 (39:51):
This will be a fun game tomorrow. Why don't you
make all tomorrow of.
Speaker 2 (39:54):
A busy day? Tomorrow a busy day. Well, okay, so
I didn't talk about this, but I did something to
my back where like it hurts so bad to turn
my neck, like I have to turn like my body
like this or like setting pain. But I Haley goes
to acupuncture all the time, and she's like, will you
please go see my acupuncture? So I went this morning,
and she's like, come tomorrow and then Friday. So tomorrow
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I have acupuncture, I have the dentist, which is my nightmare,
and then Laura comes into town.
Speaker 1 (40:22):
Okay, so tomorrow is a bad, bad example.
Speaker 2 (40:24):
Tomorrow is gonna be busy. Yeah, actually the rest of
the week because Laura's in town. So I'm gonna be
hostess with the mistess.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
Okay, so maybe next week we revisit this.
Speaker 3 (40:32):
Yeah, well I have my answer. I'm the most Becca
thing I've inmationally. A Saturday night, I had a burger
and fries.
Speaker 2 (40:39):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (40:39):
It was an impossible burger, but still it felt very decadent.
Speaker 4 (40:42):
And where was it from?
Speaker 3 (40:45):
That's uh, we're up in OHI all right, Yeah it
was really good.
Speaker 2 (40:48):
Yeah, very and I Becca with the impossible burger burger
fries is as good as it's gonna get.
Speaker 3 (40:54):
I think. So I slept with a woman. Does that count?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (40:58):
Okay, great, there we go, there we go.
Speaker 2 (41:03):
Wow, that's the most thing.
Speaker 4 (41:07):
I'm sorry to make this about fast food again, but uh,
when I got home from d C, I landed late
at night and I was sexting Alison. I'm like, which
did you eat? Like, I'm good and I'm like, all right,
I'm starving. I went through the Taco Bell drive through.
I got a crunch trap with three cheese and stead
nota cha cheese, and I got cheeseygordy to crunch and
I got a large pepsi down. It was so good.
(41:31):
But I never I don't go to Taco Bell almost
ever anymore because Elison has never been to Taco Bell.
Allison has never had it, So it's not part of
our routine.
Speaker 2 (41:40):
Is that like a thing that she's anti?
Speaker 4 (41:42):
She just it's just never come up. It's never come
across her desk.
Speaker 2 (41:44):
I don't know how how do I make it come
across us.
Speaker 4 (41:48):
She would do it for you if you wanted to
go talk about with her, she would do that. Yeah,
but uh, I crave it a lot, and I feel
like I have like a mistress, like when Alison's like
out of town or something like myll.
Speaker 1 (41:59):
Is damn good, so good. So it is really good.
Speaker 4 (42:02):
Of all the major chains, I think they're the most
consistently good.
Speaker 2 (42:05):
Especially when it just hits hits no matter what, sober, drunk, high, whatever.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Yeah, it hits. Yeah, alright, that's very.
Speaker 3 (42:15):
Beck, Tanya, Beca and Mark what's the most Eastern thing
you've done lately. I haven't been a Chooesta factory in
a while, So I.
Speaker 1 (42:23):
Have two things. One of them's food related. I ordered
these like very decadent donuts that had all these different
designs on them. Yeah, and I ate one felt very Eastern.
And my crocs, the crocs that I wear often, they
that feels like Eastern to me.
Speaker 2 (42:43):
Yeah, I would say. I was gonna say my buying
crocs for my ziplining excursion was a very east like.
I thought about Eastern the whole time, and I was like,
for some reason, they don't. I never am like, wow,
those are so ugly when I see Eastern war them.
But when I put them.
Speaker 6 (42:59):
On, I was like, I've never felt worse about myself.
Speaker 2 (43:02):
I know.
Speaker 1 (43:04):
It's a weird thing because you feel so bad about
yourself and yet so comfortable at the same time. So
really is like this thing that tugs it.
Speaker 2 (43:10):
It's like that there's something about Easton in them that
doesn't like I'm not like even Hailey was like.
Speaker 1 (43:17):
The gibbets, you need gibbets.
Speaker 2 (43:19):
Yeah, gibbet don't know. Hailey was like, I thought I
was gonna feel like people make them look so cool,
and they looked so ugly on me. But I did
get them.
Speaker 4 (43:31):
I'm sure you're comfortable.
Speaker 2 (43:33):
I did not, but they were so comfortable. So there
was I ate something too that I thought, Oh, I
did the trend where you line I don't know if
you would actually do this, but I feel like you'd
be interested in trying it, where you line the cup
with marshmallow fluff and then you you don't drink, Do
you drink? You drink?
Speaker 4 (43:52):
I drink.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
So I tried the Doctor Shepper and pickles. That was
the most easting thing I've ever done. Yeah, is Doctor
Pepper died Doctor Prepper with pickle bits and juice in it.
And I don't really anything with doctor Pepper good enough.
I love Doctor Pepper.
Speaker 1 (44:15):
I can't tell you the last time I had it.
Speaker 2 (44:17):
I can't When in Palm Springs, my sonic dirty Doctor Pepper,
Dirty Doctor Pepper, which is coconut cream, lime and doctor Pepper. Wow,
she kept reaching for it and I was like, don't
drink all that please?
Speaker 3 (44:29):
Yeah, yeah, that's what they say.
Speaker 1 (44:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
I don't have a good answer for this. I'm sorry.
I I My best answer is that I engineered my
own audio last week when Eastern was gone processing. Notice
this sound a little more low end.
Speaker 4 (44:47):
On the Listen to wind out Jane Kramer this week.
See how he did.
Speaker 3 (44:50):
You know what's funny?
Speaker 2 (44:51):
Though?
Speaker 4 (44:52):
What's it?
Speaker 3 (44:53):
One of our producers emailed like, this sounds different than usual.
I think we can do to fix them. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (45:01):
What you get.
Speaker 3 (45:02):
It sounds different because Eastern's going, but I don't know
what else to do. So I did it poorly, but
I did part of it.
Speaker 7 (45:08):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (45:09):
And finally telling you back in Easton, what's the most
mark thing you've done lately?
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Ah? I tried to. I have been trying to convince
Robbie that we should have dedicated days of the week
with our food.
Speaker 3 (45:24):
I think it makes life simpler.
Speaker 1 (45:25):
I think so too, That is what I'm trying to say.
I'm like, we'll go to the grocery store once a week.
We'll get us through, you know, Monday through Friday, and
then have a little fun on the weekends. Yes, but
every day has its meal.
Speaker 3 (45:37):
The other day you mentioned that with Ryan the other
day and Sis and he said, oh, I could never
do that. My life too hectic, And I was like, no,
that's the point makes it.
Speaker 1 (45:44):
Yeah, you don't have to choose what do I feel like?
Speaker 3 (45:47):
You don't that's so much?
Speaker 1 (45:48):
And what do I have in the fridge? It's just there?
Speaker 3 (45:51):
So that's the that's good.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
Yeah, I mean that.
Speaker 2 (45:54):
How do you beat that?
Speaker 4 (45:59):
I have any more time?
Speaker 1 (46:02):
Uh?
Speaker 4 (46:03):
The most? Oh okay, well well I'm going now, Yeah,
I have the floor. When we were we were in
Denver this weekend and we're driving around and I was like,
we got to go check out Course Field. We gotta go.
It was nighttime, there was a game going on actually
they were playing. It was a Friday night, and uh,
(46:23):
I was like, I'm not a big baseball guy, but
Mark is making me a baseball guy. And I'm like,
I just got to go see Course Field. So we
like went over there and checked it out. It's a
beautiful facility and it's a great we did.
Speaker 3 (46:34):
We were there for Ryan a few years ago. We
did the same thing for no reason. There was no game.
I think it wasn't even baseball season. We just went
up there and walked around that stadium because I love
baseball stadium. Thank you.
Speaker 4 (46:43):
They're playing the Orioles that night, and I.
Speaker 3 (46:44):
Saw a lot of oils. I got there there, but
they got beat.
Speaker 4 (46:48):
Yeah, so anyway, I thought of you.
Speaker 3 (46:52):
That's really good.
Speaker 2 (46:54):
I went on a hike on a trail like your dogs. Yes, yeah, okay,
you know, I expected to be more.
Speaker 3 (47:01):
Insulted by these responses that you guys should be doing
boring things and drinking water and stupid.
Speaker 2 (47:07):
I drink water with one of my meals. I literally
never drink like I always have some sort of like
fizzy drink with my meals, like oh my gosh, And
I almost said I drink water.
Speaker 1 (47:17):
Like fizzy drinks make me so unwell like physically yeah,
like not even like just soda like like sparkling water
your stomach acid. Yeah it does. I'm with you, Bubbly drinks,
no bueno for me, although give me an operol sprits and.
Speaker 2 (47:38):
Yeah, oh that was fun.
Speaker 3 (47:41):
That was a really fun one.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
Yeah, that's fun.
Speaker 7 (47:43):
One erin not anonymous, and thank you all of the people,
even the anonymous, thank you for submitting your ask Banya questions.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
But we have to go.
Speaker 1 (47:56):
It is time. They time.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
However, if you have something that you need advice on
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pod or email us at scrubbing in at iHeartMedia dot com.
Good job, Becca, thank you so much. Just a reminder
we're here for you always. We are here, We're here,
(48:20):
and uh that's all for now. So a week are.
Speaker 1 (48:24):
Here and we hear you, and we here are to go.
Speaker 2 (48:33):
Bye bye
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