January 4, 2025 • 24 mins
Kelly gives us all the details of her first flirty phone call with Mr. Tennis and explains why she's sharing this possible love connection experience with the listeners in real-time.
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
It's I do a Part two with your celebrity mentor
Kelly Clin mets On. So I'm talking to one of
my producers, Feather today and we are talking about a
guy that they set me up with Amy Sugarman and
had their Monday set me up with this really great guy,
and I can't wait to tell you every thing.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I Kelly have there.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
So first of all, we have to dive in because
I believe you had a phone date with mister Tennis.
And if you don't know who mister Tennis is or
what we're talking about, you definitely need to go back
and listen to the last episode where we gave all
the intel on that. But okay, so first of all,
you had your phone date with mister Tennis. Tell me everything.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Okay, So miss stro Tennis, we were supposed to talk
last night. I was working until like eight thirty and
we were supposed to talk last night. He's in LA
and I'm in New York and he was like, no problem,
So hoop number one. I was like, you have a
certain amount of time to talk to me. No problem,
he called. I had my phone on silent because I
was doing a podcast, so my phone on silent, so
I didn't see his call, and I was like watching
(01:23):
like some TV show and I looked at my phone
and I was like, I'm just going to text him.
And it was literally like twelve forty five in the
morning here, and I'm just like, hi, sorry, I mister,
your phone call my you know my phone. I was like,
I just want to let him. I just wanted to
let him know that I was responding because he had
made the effort and I wanted him to know, like,
(01:43):
you know, I'm a I'm a I'm a lot of things,
but I'm not a jerk, and so like I'm going
to just respond and be like, hey, sorry, my phone
was literally on silent, but I'm up, so if you
want to talk. And then I was like talk question mark.
And then I'm like I just got to call him.
So I called him left to have a.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Message, so then he didn't answer.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
He didn't answer. But this is something I never ever ever.
First of all, I'm not a phone person. I'm a
texting person, so you know, this is like so out
of my wheelhouse. But I was just like it's fine.
And then I was like, let's talk tomorrow morning.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Wait wait, wait, go back did you leave him a
message when you called him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes, And I said, let's speak tomorrow morning because I
have to leave for to go skiing at eleven you
know New York times, And so he was like, okay,
I'll call you at seven thirty LA time. I was like, wow, okay,
Like it's the holiday week, it's a big week for people.
(02:44):
Most people are off, and I just thought it was
really great that he was just like hoop one, number one,
hoop number two, like didn't care, like it's just like
a problem.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I also really liked the pace of communication. Right, he's
not leaving you on red, he's not not returning you
know all those kind of tropes that people think that
you have to do in the dating scene. You have
to wait three days to call somebody back, or wait
two hours before you respond to a text. He's not
doing any of that, you know what I mean? Which
(03:15):
I love. I love this, So way to go, mister Tennis. Okay,
so tell me then what happens.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
So we start to talk, and he's very you can
tell immediately he's a very educated human just by the
way he talks, how he talks the subject matter.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
What did you think of his voice.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
When you heard his voice on the other end of
that call, Was it like deep and sexy? Was it like,
I don't know what did he sound like?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You can tell that he talks a lot on the phone.
He's got a great like game on the phone. Okay, charismatic,
very easy on the phone. Again, like I'm a Texter,
Like I can text you and till you're blue in
the face, but to talk to me on the phone,
I'm like, oh my god, Okay, I like it for
(04:08):
some reason, you know, because he was vetted by you
and Amy. I just feel like I just want to
be open with him too, and so this is something
I would never do. But he I was just like,
I need you to know who I am from my
mouth so that we can just like have fun. And
(04:31):
he was like, okay. It was like, shoot, tell me whatever.
And so I told him about you know, not getting
married and why and you know, not that I'm like,
you know, money hungry. I just was protecting my kids.
And so we had a really really nice conversation about
all of that, and we talked about his kids, and
(04:53):
we talked about his ex wife. We talked about where
he grew up, and you know, his parents have been
together for my parents were together, so we had a
lot of like common upbringing, which I think means a
lot to people. You know, He's like, I'm I like
to play tennis, I'm an athlete. I'm like, I have
athletic tendencies. But I wouldn't say I'm like an athlete.
(05:15):
I just am like, you know, I like to go
for a run. That doesn't mean I'm, like, you know,
an all star athlete. But he's just got a lot
of the similar we have, like a similar upbringing, which
really makes things like it was just very easy to
communicate with him. I thought I was talking to someone
I had known for a long time.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Okay, was there flirting happening on the phone.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
It was like I wouldn't say I was like a flirting,
but I was like doing things I wouldn't normally do,
Like I made a coffee and I was just talking
to him like I was. I wasn't sitting down. And
then I got my picked my dogs up, but I
took them to the walked them to the dog park.
We're outside, and I was just like it was like
a real life conversation, which normally again like if I'm
(06:03):
if anyone is taking me on a date or trying
to talk to me, I'm usually really really buttoned up
because I'm like they have all these preconceived notions. They
think I'm crazy, they think I'm this They like, you know,
why isn't she be married after all this time? What's
wrong with her? So like I just like self sabotage myself,
(06:23):
like crazy, and so I just don't say anything, which
makes a lot of guys think that I'm like you know,
they're like they're get they get mixed messages because I'm friendly,
but then I'm super reserved. So they're like you are
like you have so many you know, barriers and boundaries.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Was he flirting with you?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I think he was just trying to like get a
sense of like who I am, what I what my
what my possibilities are, Like I mean, obviously he lives
in California. Obviously I live in New York, so like
what does that look like? I think he was just
like Okay, he was like, you're a real You're a
cool chick. He's like, and I don't mean that, Like
he's like, you're just like really cool, easy and fun,
(07:09):
and like I'm like, I'm just I'm just ready for
my next chapter, like really ready, and I know people
are like my second chapter is going to be like this.
I don't have any preconceived notions of like what that
looks like. I just know that I don't I want
to be in an environmenthere I can trust someone and
I can just like feel good about feeling good. Like
(07:30):
that's my whole twenty twenty five forward thinking.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
So tell me, like, did you guys make plans for
your first date in real life?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Yes, well, he says to me, very sweet. He was like,
you know, he was like, I know you're talking about me,
and I'm like, yeah, I'm talking about you because I
want the world to know. First of all, one reason
that I'm talking about this in real time is because
I want the world to know that there's nothing wrong
with being vulnerable, and there's nothing wrong with taking a risk,
(08:12):
and there's nothing wrong with doing something you might necessarily
think that's not the right thing for you because it
doesn't check all those boxes that everyone's checking. And so
I don't need to check a box. I just want
to enjoy my life. I've raised my kids on my own,
I've like gotten more degrees and licenses than I know
what to do with I. You know, I have this
(08:34):
like laundry list of like all of these accolades, but
I don't have trust. So what am I going to do? Like,
am I going to lay in my casket with like
my real estate licenses? Or am I going to be
smiling and happy?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I vote for smiling and happy, me too, thank you.
And also in.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Twenty twenty five, right, it's about, like you said, doing
things that you know, maybe you normally wouldn't do. Maybe
you normally wouldn't dat a guy that's on the other
side of the country, but maybe we just need to
switch it up a bit, you know, and try something new.
And it's not like he never comes to New York.
(09:15):
He has not only reason now, but he also works there.
So it kind of makes sense in you know, an
interesting way. I think that there's a lot here. So wait,
so go back, tell me about what's the plan for
the first date.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
So he's like, we're definitely doing something in the new year.
And he was like, you know, your offices are at
iHeart and my offices are right around the corner. And
he also works with someone in it. He works in
the entertainment space and so and one of my really
close friends when I went to college with does something similar.
So he understands like my life and he understands too,
(09:53):
you know when you're like when I tell people that
I started modeling when I was fifteen, they're like, oh wow.
I'm like no, no, no, no no no wow. Like no,
like teaching yourself Latin at fifteen, because you're like traveling
to Mauritius with you know, by yourself. Like that's not
(10:14):
a wow, that's a okay, Like that was your path.
That's like when you had like someone that was like
on television when they were younger, It's like that's part
of their narrative. It's not a wow, it's like a oh, well,
you had the opportunity and some people do things with
it and some people don't. And he really kind of
(10:35):
understood that it's been really challenging for me to continue
to pivot to provide for my kids. And he was
very like, very very very sweet and very understanding.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
What would you say was like your favorite part of
the conversation? Like what are you taking away from Like that?
Was there a moment?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Was there? Did he make you laugh?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Was there a story he told you about himself that
you were like, I think this is why I want
to talk or get to know mister Tennis a little
bit more.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
I want to go get to know mister Tennis a
little bit more because he spoke about when his kids
were young and he got divorced and instead of moving
into like, you know, an equally big house, he moved
into a smaller apartment and he was with his kids
in this environment that was a far away from you know,
(11:28):
where his ex wife was, because he wanted his children
to have their home. And to this day he's like
his two kids are like, oh my god, remember when
we lived there, and how much fun that was. And
I really appreciate the fact that he got divorced and
made a concerted effort to ensure like the genuine wellness
(11:53):
of his children by like having a small environment so
that everyone was together and it was like a big hug.
And I know what that feels like because I'm in
that hug space right now with my little apartment. I
love being here. I mean, I just love it. And
so it was just really just felt good, just felt
(12:13):
good to hear that from men. And it wasn't like
I'm a single parent and I do everything my ex
one wife was not that. It was all about how
he could make his children feel safe.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
And what do you think about dating a guy long
distance that also has kids that are maybe not as
old as your kids, Like, what do you think about that?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So I always wanted like a farm of children. I
love love kids, And that's one of my biggest regrets
is that I didn't have more kids. And I know
my two girls would be like mom, but I really
I love children. I just really appreciate them, their minds
and just like I just love children so much, and
so I wish that I had had more. I just
(12:59):
wasn't with the right peaceeople that I was in an
environment where I could, you know, be what you know,
make have more children. So I really regret that. So
that's one thing. And to hear him talk about his
kids just really made me like very happy. And I
love that. I love that I'm a Almi bear. That's
like who I am, Like, yeah, that's my first, that's
(13:21):
my first. You know, people are like, I'm a multi
heights in it. I'm like, I guess i am, but
I'm not really, I'm I'm a bear.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I think that's great.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And I love that you guys are connecting on something
that is so foundational to both of you, right, which
is being a parent, being an active parent in your kids' lives.
I think that's really amazing. Tell me, so we're going
to have our first.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I R L date in the new year. I love that.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
But between now and then, what's the plan are you do?
You guys have another phone date set up? I know
you're about to leave on a ski trip. Like what
what are you thinking about doing or what's the next step?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Well, he was just very sweet too, and he was
like listen, He's like I want to talk to you.
He's like, you know, I know you're gonna be in
Vermont with your kids, but like I'm here and I'd
love to talk to you and call you and send
me pictures and you know, it's everything safe with me.
You can do you know, whatever you want to do,
you can't. I mean, obviously, just like not being weird,
but he was just like he loved the fact that
I sent him a little video with Tarzan and I
(14:23):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Can I make a suggestion for the fun Okay, let's
think about this. Maybe it's when you're in Vermont maybe
it's a little uh like opery ski, little wine face
time or something together. You know, maybe the kids are
off doing something and Kelly's back at the lodge by herself.
(14:47):
Or maybe it's like a little I don't know, a
fond due date FaceTime or a little cooking like maybe
you're cooking dinner and you have him on FaceTime and
like he's chatting with you about like your day on
the slopes or something like. I think it's I don't
think it's inappropriate now that there's been an initial great
(15:09):
phone call to then follow that up with like a
cute little FaceTime mini date prior to the IRL date.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
I love that. It was interesting too, is that he
was like I know that there's you're probably dating and
talking to a lot of people, which I was like okay,
and he was just like I just like hope that
(15:40):
you like wait for me and like so I can
meet you, Kelly.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
I am dead.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
That is so excuse me, mister Tennis. Mister Tennis. That
is such a gentleman line. That is I just asked
you if there was flirting. That is flirting. It's like
not like yes, that is like laying it down. That
is literally like, I understand that you are a high
(16:08):
value woman, because that is what he's saying by saying
that there are other men in your aura. Is I
acknowledge you are a high value woman, and I want
you to know that I am interested in you. So
I hope you don't forget about me like a girl.
I know this is calear communication. There is no gray
(16:30):
area with this man. Mister Tennis is interested.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I love this, Kelly. You sent the universe.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
You're like, this is what we've talked about, right, like
using this podcast to put out to the world what
you want. Right. So the first thing you did was
you wrote a letter to your dear future husband. And
now we're watching the ripple effects of that huge moment
where you put it all out. There is now coming
(17:03):
back to you.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
This is so exciting.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
When we started, I was very guarded. I was super insecure.
I was so embarrassed. I was I was embarrassed. I
was humiliated. I felt like I had, like, you know,
hurt someone else. I felt like I had harmed my children.
(17:27):
Like there was just so much It's not like negativity,
it's just like there was so much. There were so
many feelings that were so raw and real, and I
don't feel like that anymore. I don't feel like there's hurt.
I feel like my kids are happy and healthy and
excited about things. You know, just it just feels good
(17:47):
to be an environment that's like happy, and you know,
who knows, who knows if it's going to be mister Tennis,
But I do know that I'm on the right path
to meeting that special human.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
You definitely are.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
And what I love about this is that mister Tennis
is being extremely clear right Like a lot of the
time I think we hear in dating stories, especially early on,
it's about like playing games, or it's about like am I.
We talked about this in the last episode, about like
am I texting too much? Am I not texting enough?
(18:24):
And all of that, And he is just being clear
and concise with all of his communication. He is saying,
I understand you're busy. I still want to see you.
I understand that you have a lot going on. I'd
still like to talk to you. I understand that you
have maybe other suitors or men pursuing you. I'm interested
(18:44):
in you. Like he is laying it all out there,
which I think is really wonderful, and I think like
this is a really great start to something special. So
I think all of I speak for all of us
listeners as well, that we can't wait to hear about
what the next mister Tennis update is. But definitely keep us,
(19:06):
you know, informed as to what happens. And you know,
we would we can't wait to have you go on
your first IRL date, Like that's going to be really exciting.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
But don't you think it's strange? You know? He said
to me, Sorry, didn't interrupt you, but he said to
me too, he was like, normally I wouldn't do this.
I wouldn't try to make a plan with you. You're
you know, like to see you fly across the country
and see you for a certain for you know, for
an hour or you know. I wouldn't do those things
if I did, if it weren't if I weren't vetted
(19:38):
by a friend. And I was like when he said that,
I was like, that's so true, because he was like,
if I'd met you on RYE or something like that,
I wouldn't do that. And I know a lot of
people that do, like get on planes and do all
that stuff, and like that's amazing, And I love that
sense of adventure, but like, I'm not that kind of person,
Like I'm I'm not like I would never do I
(20:00):
would never get on a plane to meet somewhere.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
We're both doing something out of your comfort zone. But
I think it goes back to what we were talking
about in the last episode, right, which is like we
all need to get out of our comfort zone and
do things that are a little bit different if we
want to see different results. And on top of it,
we're also turning to the core people in our lives,
(20:22):
right for those kinds of great people. So I think
a lot of us are getting stuck in this white
mentality and then being frustrated by you know, those not
turning out well. But when we go to our actual
people in our lives who know us and also know
other great people, that's where really fantastic love connections can happen.
(20:45):
Or if it's not a love connection, maybe you're just
starting twenty twenty five off really nice and having your
faith and men reinstilled, because mister Tennis is being like
a real gentleman and you thus far haven't had a
lot of really great gentlemen in your life in recent years,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
In the dating scene.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
So it's nice that he's, if anything, he's reinforcing that
faith that there are good guys out there.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Yeah, and you know, I just want to be open
and follow lead with my heart, like I don't want
to be like And I told him this, and I said,
you know, I've been hiding behind all this work, and
even Cheryl and I talk about like we're so busy,
and we're so busy. I'm working, I'm providing la la
da da. Like the reason that we the reason that
(21:34):
I say that is because it protects me, because why
would I want to be open and trust my heart
with someone when I've had so many times before where
my heart has been broken.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
So when you were talking to mister Tennis, did your
connection to Cheryl ever come up in the conversation.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I was like, oh my gosh, I spoke to Cheryl
yesterday and she told me that you guys went on
a date. And what he said he was like, yeah,
he's like she's celibate. And I was like, okay, I'm like,
but that was, you know, that was a while ago.
She's you know, she's amazing, she's so great. And he
was like, yeah, she is so great and he was
(22:21):
said so many really really complimentary things about her.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
But he's like, I like you, I love that.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
That's amazing, thank you. She's beautiful and amazing. I love Cheryl.
But he just said that. I said, well, don't worry
about I said, I said, you know, she did comment
that you were having a hard time picking a meal.
I said, don't worry about. I'll hope you picked the meal.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
This is amazing. I'm so excited for you, Kelly.
Speaker 3 (22:46):
You have to definitely keep me and all the listeners
updated on your journeys tennis.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
This is amazing. Have so much fun. I can't wait
to hear more.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I'm excited to just again, like it just feels good
to feel good, and I want everyone just to feel good.
I just I just do. I mean, if I could
give the world a huge hug, I would, so, you know,
for twenty twenty five, I think we in the in
the spirit of love, we need to set each other
up with me, with people with friends and family, co workers, Facebook, friends, whatever.
(23:20):
It is, like, hey, you know I know someone he
just just got divorced, or someone you know might be
really good for you. You know, let people be the
matchmaker and you know, match with people that you know,
because because this world of just being out there, Yeah
it's interesting because you're gonna be someone that you wouldn't know.
But I think that that we're missing out on these
(23:40):
real strong connections because people are just afraid to match
make and you're not going to lose a friend. Your
friend's gonna like maybe she needs to work on herself
because you know, or he needs to work on hisself.
It has nothing to do with you. You're just like
matching and removing and whatever happens happens.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
I love it so much fun Kelly, this is great.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Thanks Heather. I can't wait to clue you guys into
everything that happens on my journey with mister Tennis, and
I will definitely keep you updated in real time. So
if you listeners want any kind of a dating advice,
call us, email us. All the information is in the
(24:20):
show notes and I'm just really excited to share all
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do Part two an iHeartRadio podcast, We're falling in Love
is the main objective.
It's I do a Part two with your celebrity mentor
Kelly Clin mets On. So I'm talking to one of
my producers, Feather today and we are talking about a
guy that they set me up with Amy Sugarman and
had their Monday set me up with this really great guy,
and I can't wait to tell you every thing.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I Kelly have there.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
So first of all, we have to dive in because
I believe you had a phone date with mister Tennis.
And if you don't know who mister Tennis is or
what we're talking about, you definitely need to go back
and listen to the last episode where we gave all
the intel on that. But okay, so first of all,
you had your phone date with mister Tennis. Tell me everything.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
Okay, So miss stro Tennis, we were supposed to talk
last night. I was working until like eight thirty and
we were supposed to talk last night. He's in LA
and I'm in New York and he was like, no problem,
So hoop number one. I was like, you have a
certain amount of time to talk to me. No problem,
he called. I had my phone on silent because I
was doing a podcast, so my phone on silent, so
I didn't see his call, and I was like watching
(01:23):
like some TV show and I looked at my phone
and I was like, I'm just going to text him.
And it was literally like twelve forty five in the
morning here, and I'm just like, hi, sorry, I mister,
your phone call my you know my phone. I was like,
I just want to let him. I just wanted to
let him know that I was responding because he had
made the effort and I wanted him to know, like,
(01:43):
you know, I'm a I'm a I'm a lot of things,
but I'm not a jerk, and so like I'm going
to just respond and be like, hey, sorry, my phone
was literally on silent, but I'm up, so if you
want to talk. And then I was like talk question mark.
And then I'm like I just got to call him.
So I called him left to have a.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Message, so then he didn't answer.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
He didn't answer. But this is something I never ever ever.
First of all, I'm not a phone person. I'm a
texting person, so you know, this is like so out
of my wheelhouse. But I was just like it's fine.
And then I was like, let's talk tomorrow morning.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Wait wait, wait, go back did you leave him a
message when you called him on the phone.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes, And I said, let's speak tomorrow morning because I
have to leave for to go skiing at eleven you
know New York times, And so he was like, okay,
I'll call you at seven thirty LA time. I was like, wow, okay,
Like it's the holiday week, it's a big week for people.
(02:44):
Most people are off, and I just thought it was
really great that he was just like hoop one, number one,
hoop number two, like didn't care, like it's just like
a problem.
Speaker 3 (02:55):
I also really liked the pace of communication. Right, he's
not leaving you on red, he's not not returning you
know all those kind of tropes that people think that
you have to do in the dating scene. You have
to wait three days to call somebody back, or wait
two hours before you respond to a text. He's not
doing any of that, you know what I mean? Which
(03:15):
I love. I love this, So way to go, mister Tennis. Okay,
so tell me then what happens.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
So we start to talk, and he's very you can
tell immediately he's a very educated human just by the
way he talks, how he talks the subject matter.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
What did you think of his voice.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
When you heard his voice on the other end of
that call, Was it like deep and sexy? Was it like,
I don't know what did he sound like?
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You can tell that he talks a lot on the phone.
He's got a great like game on the phone. Okay, charismatic,
very easy on the phone. Again, like I'm a Texter,
Like I can text you and till you're blue in
the face, but to talk to me on the phone,
I'm like, oh my god, Okay, I like it for
(04:08):
some reason, you know, because he was vetted by you
and Amy. I just feel like I just want to
be open with him too, and so this is something
I would never do. But he I was just like,
I need you to know who I am from my
mouth so that we can just like have fun. And
(04:31):
he was like, okay. It was like, shoot, tell me whatever.
And so I told him about you know, not getting
married and why and you know, not that I'm like,
you know, money hungry. I just was protecting my kids.
And so we had a really really nice conversation about
all of that, and we talked about his kids, and
(04:53):
we talked about his ex wife. We talked about where
he grew up, and you know, his parents have been
together for my parents were together, so we had a
lot of like common upbringing, which I think means a
lot to people. You know, He's like, I'm I like
to play tennis, I'm an athlete. I'm like, I have
athletic tendencies. But I wouldn't say I'm like an athlete.
(05:15):
I just am like, you know, I like to go
for a run. That doesn't mean I'm, like, you know,
an all star athlete. But he's just got a lot
of the similar we have, like a similar upbringing, which
really makes things like it was just very easy to
communicate with him. I thought I was talking to someone
I had known for a long time.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
Okay, was there flirting happening on the phone.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
It was like I wouldn't say I was like a flirting,
but I was like doing things I wouldn't normally do,
Like I made a coffee and I was just talking
to him like I was. I wasn't sitting down. And
then I got my picked my dogs up, but I
took them to the walked them to the dog park.
We're outside, and I was just like it was like
a real life conversation, which normally again like if I'm
(06:03):
if anyone is taking me on a date or trying
to talk to me, I'm usually really really buttoned up
because I'm like they have all these preconceived notions. They
think I'm crazy, they think I'm this They like, you know,
why isn't she be married after all this time? What's
wrong with her? So like I just like self sabotage myself,
(06:23):
like crazy, and so I just don't say anything, which
makes a lot of guys think that I'm like you know,
they're like they're get they get mixed messages because I'm friendly,
but then I'm super reserved. So they're like you are
like you have so many you know, barriers and boundaries.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Was he flirting with you?
Speaker 1 (06:45):
I think he was just trying to like get a
sense of like who I am, what I what my
what my possibilities are, Like I mean, obviously he lives
in California. Obviously I live in New York, so like
what does that look like? I think he was just
like Okay, he was like, you're a real You're a
cool chick. He's like, and I don't mean that, Like
he's like, you're just like really cool, easy and fun,
(07:09):
and like I'm like, I'm just I'm just ready for
my next chapter, like really ready, and I know people
are like my second chapter is going to be like this.
I don't have any preconceived notions of like what that
looks like. I just know that I don't I want
to be in an environmenthere I can trust someone and
I can just like feel good about feeling good. Like
(07:30):
that's my whole twenty twenty five forward thinking.
Speaker 3 (07:44):
So tell me, like, did you guys make plans for
your first date in real life?
Speaker 1 (07:52):
Yes, well, he says to me, very sweet. He was like,
you know, he was like, I know you're talking about me,
and I'm like, yeah, I'm talking about you because I
want the world to know. First of all, one reason
that I'm talking about this in real time is because
I want the world to know that there's nothing wrong
with being vulnerable, and there's nothing wrong with taking a risk,
(08:12):
and there's nothing wrong with doing something you might necessarily
think that's not the right thing for you because it
doesn't check all those boxes that everyone's checking. And so
I don't need to check a box. I just want
to enjoy my life. I've raised my kids on my own,
I've like gotten more degrees and licenses than I know
what to do with I. You know, I have this
(08:34):
like laundry list of like all of these accolades, but
I don't have trust. So what am I going to do? Like,
am I going to lay in my casket with like
my real estate licenses? Or am I going to be
smiling and happy?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
I vote for smiling and happy, me too, thank you.
And also in.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Twenty twenty five, right, it's about, like you said, doing
things that you know, maybe you normally wouldn't do. Maybe
you normally wouldn't dat a guy that's on the other
side of the country, but maybe we just need to
switch it up a bit, you know, and try something new.
And it's not like he never comes to New York.
(09:15):
He has not only reason now, but he also works there.
So it kind of makes sense in you know, an
interesting way. I think that there's a lot here. So wait,
so go back, tell me about what's the plan for
the first date.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
So he's like, we're definitely doing something in the new year.
And he was like, you know, your offices are at
iHeart and my offices are right around the corner. And
he also works with someone in it. He works in
the entertainment space and so and one of my really
close friends when I went to college with does something similar.
So he understands like my life and he understands too,
(09:53):
you know when you're like when I tell people that
I started modeling when I was fifteen, they're like, oh wow.
I'm like no, no, no, no no no wow. Like no,
like teaching yourself Latin at fifteen, because you're like traveling
to Mauritius with you know, by yourself. Like that's not
(10:14):
a wow, that's a okay, Like that was your path.
That's like when you had like someone that was like
on television when they were younger, It's like that's part
of their narrative. It's not a wow, it's like a oh, well,
you had the opportunity and some people do things with
it and some people don't. And he really kind of
(10:35):
understood that it's been really challenging for me to continue
to pivot to provide for my kids. And he was
very like, very very very sweet and very understanding.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
What would you say was like your favorite part of
the conversation? Like what are you taking away from Like that?
Was there a moment?
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Was there? Did he make you laugh?
Speaker 3 (10:57):
Was there a story he told you about himself that
you were like, I think this is why I want
to talk or get to know mister Tennis a little
bit more.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
I want to go get to know mister Tennis a
little bit more because he spoke about when his kids
were young and he got divorced and instead of moving
into like, you know, an equally big house, he moved
into a smaller apartment and he was with his kids
in this environment that was a far away from you know,
(11:28):
where his ex wife was, because he wanted his children
to have their home. And to this day he's like
his two kids are like, oh my god, remember when
we lived there, and how much fun that was. And
I really appreciate the fact that he got divorced and
made a concerted effort to ensure like the genuine wellness
(11:53):
of his children by like having a small environment so
that everyone was together and it was like a big hug.
And I know what that feels like because I'm in
that hug space right now with my little apartment. I
love being here. I mean, I just love it. And
so it was just really just felt good, just felt
(12:13):
good to hear that from men. And it wasn't like
I'm a single parent and I do everything my ex
one wife was not that. It was all about how
he could make his children feel safe.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
And what do you think about dating a guy long
distance that also has kids that are maybe not as
old as your kids, Like, what do you think about that?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So I always wanted like a farm of children. I
love love kids, And that's one of my biggest regrets
is that I didn't have more kids. And I know
my two girls would be like mom, but I really
I love children. I just really appreciate them, their minds
and just like I just love children so much, and
so I wish that I had had more. I just
(12:59):
wasn't with the right peaceeople that I was in an
environment where I could, you know, be what you know,
make have more children. So I really regret that. So
that's one thing. And to hear him talk about his
kids just really made me like very happy. And I
love that. I love that I'm a Almi bear. That's
like who I am, Like, yeah, that's my first, that's
(13:21):
my first. You know, people are like, I'm a multi
heights in it. I'm like, I guess i am, but
I'm not really, I'm I'm a bear.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
I think that's great.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And I love that you guys are connecting on something
that is so foundational to both of you, right, which
is being a parent, being an active parent in your kids' lives.
I think that's really amazing. Tell me, so we're going
to have our first.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I R L date in the new year. I love that.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
But between now and then, what's the plan are you do?
You guys have another phone date set up? I know
you're about to leave on a ski trip. Like what
what are you thinking about doing or what's the next step?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Well, he was just very sweet too, and he was
like listen, He's like I want to talk to you.
He's like, you know, I know you're gonna be in
Vermont with your kids, but like I'm here and I'd
love to talk to you and call you and send
me pictures and you know, it's everything safe with me.
You can do you know, whatever you want to do,
you can't. I mean, obviously, just like not being weird,
but he was just like he loved the fact that
I sent him a little video with Tarzan and I
(14:23):
I love it.
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Can I make a suggestion for the fun Okay, let's
think about this. Maybe it's when you're in Vermont maybe
it's a little uh like opery ski, little wine face
time or something together. You know, maybe the kids are
off doing something and Kelly's back at the lodge by herself.
(14:47):
Or maybe it's like a little I don't know, a
fond due date FaceTime or a little cooking like maybe
you're cooking dinner and you have him on FaceTime and
like he's chatting with you about like your day on
the slopes or something like. I think it's I don't
think it's inappropriate now that there's been an initial great
(15:09):
phone call to then follow that up with like a
cute little FaceTime mini date prior to the IRL date.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
I love that. It was interesting too, is that he
was like I know that there's you're probably dating and
talking to a lot of people, which I was like okay,
and he was just like I just like hope that
(15:40):
you like wait for me and like so I can
meet you, Kelly.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
I am dead.
Speaker 3 (15:44):
That is so excuse me, mister Tennis. Mister Tennis. That
is such a gentleman line. That is I just asked
you if there was flirting. That is flirting. It's like
not like yes, that is like laying it down. That
is literally like, I understand that you are a high
(16:08):
value woman, because that is what he's saying by saying
that there are other men in your aura. Is I
acknowledge you are a high value woman, and I want
you to know that I am interested in you. So
I hope you don't forget about me like a girl.
I know this is calear communication. There is no gray
(16:30):
area with this man. Mister Tennis is interested.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I love this, Kelly. You sent the universe.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
You're like, this is what we've talked about, right, like
using this podcast to put out to the world what
you want. Right. So the first thing you did was
you wrote a letter to your dear future husband. And
now we're watching the ripple effects of that huge moment
where you put it all out. There is now coming
(17:03):
back to you.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
This is so exciting.
Speaker 1 (17:06):
When we started, I was very guarded. I was super insecure.
I was so embarrassed. I was I was embarrassed. I
was humiliated. I felt like I had, like, you know,
hurt someone else. I felt like I had harmed my children.
(17:27):
Like there was just so much It's not like negativity,
it's just like there was so much. There were so
many feelings that were so raw and real, and I
don't feel like that anymore. I don't feel like there's hurt.
I feel like my kids are happy and healthy and
excited about things. You know, just it just feels good
(17:47):
to be an environment that's like happy, and you know,
who knows, who knows if it's going to be mister Tennis,
But I do know that I'm on the right path
to meeting that special human.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
You definitely are.
Speaker 3 (18:01):
And what I love about this is that mister Tennis
is being extremely clear right Like a lot of the
time I think we hear in dating stories, especially early on,
it's about like playing games, or it's about like am I.
We talked about this in the last episode, about like
am I texting too much? Am I not texting enough?
(18:24):
And all of that, And he is just being clear
and concise with all of his communication. He is saying,
I understand you're busy. I still want to see you.
I understand that you have a lot going on. I'd
still like to talk to you. I understand that you
have maybe other suitors or men pursuing you. I'm interested
(18:44):
in you. Like he is laying it all out there,
which I think is really wonderful, and I think like
this is a really great start to something special. So
I think all of I speak for all of us
listeners as well, that we can't wait to hear about
what the next mister Tennis update is. But definitely keep us,
(19:06):
you know, informed as to what happens. And you know,
we would we can't wait to have you go on
your first IRL date, Like that's going to be really exciting.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
But don't you think it's strange? You know? He said
to me, Sorry, didn't interrupt you, but he said to
me too, he was like, normally I wouldn't do this.
I wouldn't try to make a plan with you. You're
you know, like to see you fly across the country
and see you for a certain for you know, for
an hour or you know. I wouldn't do those things
if I did, if it weren't if I weren't vetted
(19:38):
by a friend. And I was like when he said that,
I was like, that's so true, because he was like,
if I'd met you on RYE or something like that,
I wouldn't do that. And I know a lot of
people that do, like get on planes and do all
that stuff, and like that's amazing, And I love that
sense of adventure, but like, I'm not that kind of person,
Like I'm I'm not like I would never do I
(20:00):
would never get on a plane to meet somewhere.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
We're both doing something out of your comfort zone. But
I think it goes back to what we were talking
about in the last episode, right, which is like we
all need to get out of our comfort zone and
do things that are a little bit different if we
want to see different results. And on top of it,
we're also turning to the core people in our lives,
(20:22):
right for those kinds of great people. So I think
a lot of us are getting stuck in this white
mentality and then being frustrated by you know, those not
turning out well. But when we go to our actual
people in our lives who know us and also know
other great people, that's where really fantastic love connections can happen.
(20:45):
Or if it's not a love connection, maybe you're just
starting twenty twenty five off really nice and having your
faith and men reinstilled, because mister Tennis is being like
a real gentleman and you thus far haven't had a
lot of really great gentlemen in your life in recent years,
you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (21:04):
In the dating scene.
Speaker 3 (21:05):
So it's nice that he's, if anything, he's reinforcing that
faith that there are good guys out there.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
Yeah, and you know, I just want to be open
and follow lead with my heart, like I don't want
to be like And I told him this, and I said,
you know, I've been hiding behind all this work, and
even Cheryl and I talk about like we're so busy,
and we're so busy. I'm working, I'm providing la la
da da. Like the reason that we the reason that
(21:34):
I say that is because it protects me, because why
would I want to be open and trust my heart
with someone when I've had so many times before where
my heart has been broken.
Speaker 3 (21:49):
So when you were talking to mister Tennis, did your
connection to Cheryl ever come up in the conversation.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (22:00):
I was like, oh my gosh, I spoke to Cheryl
yesterday and she told me that you guys went on
a date. And what he said he was like, yeah,
he's like she's celibate. And I was like, okay, I'm like,
but that was, you know, that was a while ago.
She's you know, she's amazing, she's so great. And he
was like, yeah, she is so great and he was
(22:21):
said so many really really complimentary things about her.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
But he's like, I like you, I love that.
Speaker 1 (22:27):
That's amazing, thank you. She's beautiful and amazing. I love Cheryl.
But he just said that. I said, well, don't worry
about I said, I said, you know, she did comment
that you were having a hard time picking a meal.
I said, don't worry about. I'll hope you picked the meal.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
This is amazing. I'm so excited for you, Kelly.
Speaker 3 (22:46):
You have to definitely keep me and all the listeners
updated on your journeys tennis.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
This is amazing. Have so much fun. I can't wait
to hear more.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I'm excited to just again, like it just feels good
to feel good, and I want everyone just to feel good.
I just I just do. I mean, if I could
give the world a huge hug, I would, so, you know,
for twenty twenty five, I think we in the in
the spirit of love, we need to set each other
up with me, with people with friends and family, co workers, Facebook, friends, whatever.
(23:20):
It is, like, hey, you know I know someone he
just just got divorced, or someone you know might be
really good for you. You know, let people be the
matchmaker and you know, match with people that you know,
because because this world of just being out there, Yeah
it's interesting because you're gonna be someone that you wouldn't know.
But I think that that we're missing out on these
(23:40):
real strong connections because people are just afraid to match
make and you're not going to lose a friend. Your
friend's gonna like maybe she needs to work on herself
because you know, or he needs to work on hisself.
It has nothing to do with you. You're just like
matching and removing and whatever happens happens.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
I love it so much fun Kelly, this is great.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
Thanks Heather. I can't wait to clue you guys into
everything that happens on my journey with mister Tennis, and
I will definitely keep you updated in real time. So
if you listeners want any kind of a dating advice,
call us, email us. All the information is in the
(24:20):
show notes and I'm just really excited to share all
of the new information that I've learned. So where I
do Part two an iHeartRadio podcast, We're falling in Love
is the main objective.
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