February 28, 2024 • 23 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
and The Black Effect. And just like that, we're back
with yet another carefully reckless episode with your Girl. Just hilarious.
Listen y'all what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess. Unfortunately,
(00:22):
my baby sits sterr is not here today, but she
will be here next week and she will be helping
me read stories. So y'all got to bed with me today.
Nobody sent the boys snow, so which is okay? I
need to practice reading anyway for breakfast club. Let y'all
tell it. A bitch can I read? But I can,
and don't play with me, so we're gonna jump straight in.
And I love that this message is from a guy
(00:43):
your so oh no, Damn's from a girl. Not that
I have any problem with girls sending me messages, but
I love women, I should say, but I love when
men can open up as well, because we know our
men do not like this howiday business, honey. They do
not like to expose stories about them else they don't
feel vulnerable enough in spaces where they can feel safe
(01:03):
enough to tell their business. So I love, always, love, love,
love when men send in their mess for me to
give advice on. But here we got another one of
my girls. So here we go. I can't call into
the show because of my work schedule, but if you
can help with this, Lord Jesus, this is what been
with me all all right? She said, I can't call
(01:25):
into the show because of my work schedule, but if
you can help with this, I'd appreciate it. Just don't
use my name, please, girl. When the last time you
heard me see somebody name, y'all are anonymous. Y'all will
remain anonymous. Even if y'all give me y'all names, some
people will be giving me their name, and I still
don't say it all the time. All right. My man
and I have been together for about four years. We
(01:47):
were forced to be with each other because we fell
on hard times after a month of knowing each other
and stuck it out. It's been crazy ever since. My
biggest dilemma is he is a security guard for celebrities.
He usually he does security for gay celebrities. Okay, and
there's a famous transgender celebrity he works with often. Now,
I saw he liked two of her posts on ig
(02:09):
of her in Lingerie. He said he didn't realize he
was just clicking and scrolling, then said it's just business
to keep her happy. Here's what things started getting weird.
He has the only fans Twitter page with him nude
and everything, and he follows her and her gay male
friend on this page. He follows both of them, but
only the boy follows back. Am I wrong for questioning
(02:32):
his sexuality and not being attracted to him anymore? Well,
if that's the way you're feeling, nobody can tell you
that you're wrong about the way you feel. Now. This
is your man, you know, as you put in quotes
and in all caps, this is your man. Okay, Like,
look at the screen, at look at the screen. This
is your man, your man. Okay. These are your feelings, honey,
(02:53):
and they're valid whatever they may be. You understand what
I'm saying now. I can't ignore what you said in
the beginning. You said that you were forced to be
together after a month. I don't know what that means.
Who forced? Y'all? Were y'all talking at first, and you
know you'll fell upon hard time, so you had to
move together? Like what I don't I don't understand what
you mean, y'all. This sounds like an arranged marriage. If
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you asked me, like, what are you talking about, you
were forced. Nobody is ever forced to be with somebody
unless it is like cultural usually usually that's a cultural thing.
Now I don't know your culture. I don't know. You
didn't provide that information. But either way, moving along, he
is a security guard for gay celebrities, like you said,
and he's main security for this transgender celebrity who he follows,
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and he liked to of her pictures one time, and
you must have said something about it because you said that.
He first said, oh, he just be liking the scroland.
Why are you following your talent first of all on
social media? I mean, I don't know if you if
you just work for this person, all right, cool, and
then most of the time, like you shouldn't have to
follow him because most of the time, if they're out,
then you're with them. I assume you know what I'm saying.
(04:00):
As security, I've had security. I know celebrities that have security,
and I know celebrities that have main security, and they
for the most part keep the same main security unless
someone aspire, unless they hire a company and they rotate
security guards. I don't understand why you will be following
her and then liking her explicit pictures on social media. Now,
you also said your man got an only fans page
(04:21):
okay on Twitter and only the gay male friend follows
back okay. So I can see why there is speculation
there why you're curious of what he likes and curious
of his references. Now, but did you sit down and
have a conversation with him about that any further than
you just bringing up him liking his clients' pictures on
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Instagram from the first time, Because I don't understand how
you go from liking to scroll into oh, I do
this and make her happy. You don't need to do
anything but secure her to make her happy and safe.
It's not even about you making her happy. It's about
you making her feel safe. That's the only thing that
you owe to her if you're her security guard, and
that is all make her feel safe, not make her
feel wanted. You shouldn't feel wanted by a damn bodyguard
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unless you are fucking with your bodyguard. Okay. I guess
y'all ain't watched the movie The Bodyguard, you know what
I'm saying. Unless it's a situation like that, all you
need to be doing is securing safely, securing the talent,
that is it. But I feel like you're well within
your right to question him, and I think you should
sit down and talk to him about it. If you
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feel this way strongly in your mind, then your decision
has already been made because you already said you're not
feeling him anymore, you're not attracted to him anymore, and
are you wrong about it? I'm telling you you're not wrong.
So what are your next steps? Because I don't want
you to sit there and let this roll off your
back and then a year later you're still trying to
be with this man because you don't want to hurt
his feelings and feel like you're exposing him. No, sit
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down to have a conversation with him, don't put him
on blast, don't do none of that. No, we ain't
got to do all of that. What you do, like
I said, you tell him you feel some type of
way because you feel like he has tendencies, and you
feel like I already feel some type of way about
you being a security guard for LGBTQ celebrities, you know,
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and then I caught you liking this, and then you
would and then you went from oh I was just
scroll and there was a simple mistake to you know,
I do this to make her happy? Well, what the
fuck you doing to make me happy? You ain't in
a relationship with her, you know what I'm saying to you,
Following the OnlyFans pages and all that type of shit
and the gay nigga following you back, and shit, No,
(06:31):
it's too much. It's too much, And I don't think
you're thinking too deep into it at all. Don't let
nobody tell you that that's how you feel before you
go to sleep at night and when you wake up
in the morning, that is what it is. Trust your
women's intuition, honey, and keep me updated. Get out of
that situation, Get rid of him and let him be
what he wants to be. Let him go over to
the side that he wants to go over on, or
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maybe he wants to be bisexual. Shit, he like playing
both sides. So I'm gonna call him by give him
what he wanted to walk away from it. Because while
some women are okay with that, some women or not,
and you seem like one that's not. So keep me updated.
I'm serious. I want to know what's going on. And
I want you to keep it a hundone with him
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and thank you for sharing. Honey, if you love me,
you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.
All right, here's someone else sending from my business profile
because my messages from my personal won't allow me to
write more, and waiting for the invites we'll be accepted.
I got to figure out how to take that shit
off of there. Okay, Hey, Jass, I've been a long
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time follower of Jess Hilarious and even went to a
show in Vegas once. But girl, I just started listening
to the podcast and I have been binging. Oh I
know that's right, girl. Thank you. Just almost dropped a
found dumbbell on my foot listening to you in the gym.
All right, Well, you guys to be care money. I
was cracking up because you said something stupid funny. Anyway,
here's my mess I've been with my husband for four years,
(07:56):
dated for two and a half, and married for one
and a half. Okay, while we were dating, we struggled
with communication issues both of us. However, the blame would
generally fall on me for being the one who was
really bad with communication. Okay, I took the blame willingly
and worked on it through therapy, my Christian faith and journaling. Okay,
(08:18):
that's it. Congratulations, What the fuck you want me to say? Girl? Shit,
I'm it's no advice. That's it now. I don't know
if you couldn't send another message because you said you
were writing me from your business profile, because when you
wrote me from your personal profile it wouldn't let you.
But you seem to have gotten through here. I mean,
did you just want to give me an update on
your life? Girl? All right? Well, whatever you wanted to do,
(08:41):
I appreciate you telling me that boom, but if you
can finish your message, all right, let's move on. Okay.
This person says, oh, this is a guy. You all
we got a man in a house, all right. I
like to remain anonymous, but hey, Jess, I have a situation.
I've tried calling the breakfast club to speak to you
directly or get it off my chest, but never can
get through. So here's what's going on. Okay, I'm sorry
(09:04):
about that. A lot of people are calling up that
early in the morning. You may not think so, but
there are millions of listeners across the country. Guys, So
more power to you if you actually get through, Lord,
And you see how excited people actually are when we
answer the phone, like they even forget what they were
trying to get off their chest, so they forget what
they even want to ask me because they're like, oh
(09:25):
my god, I finally got through. You know what I'm saying,
So okay, I'm gonna start. A year ago, I moved
from Waldorf, Maryland. Okay, Waldorf, Maryland so Atlanta with my
daughter and girlfriend of three years. I thought everything was
going fine. It was her idea to move to Atlanta.
Oh Lord, I went with it to make her happy.
But on Valentine's Day this year, while I was at
work and my daughter was at school, she cheated on me.
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And the only reason I found out is because her
and the guy she cheated with burned my house down
trying to be romantic with candles and shit. And turns
out she knew the guy for years. He was an
ext and that's why she wanted to move to Atlanta
so bad. Oh my god. And now me and my
daughter have been homeless, living in my car in rooms
(10:08):
when we can afford. She is only eight, and we
are trying to get back on our feet. My ex
stole money from our account and lives with her ex.
I don't know if there is anything to fix anymore.
What first of all you got damn right, ain't nothing
to fix anymore? Why the fuck are you even thinking
about fixing anything with her? You are now stuck with
the child. Now, if this is all true, and I'm
not saying I do not believe you, but what in
(10:31):
the fuck is going on? You moved down there, you
got a job. Did you lose your job? How did
you end up homeless? Like? What happened? Did you move
down there with no job? Did you not ever find
a job? She moved down there to be closer to
her ex. Okay, cool, forget her, but the fact that
she wouldn't take her child is crazy. Now, how did
that happen? How did you end up with your baby?
(10:52):
Not saying that you shouldn't have your baby because you
are her father? For sure? Now a child has two parents.
But if she knows that you are homeless, why not
take the child until you can get on your feet.
I want to know more about that situation, damn. And
then that eight year old baby, she's well aware enough
to see you know the conditions that her and dad
(11:14):
has to live in. Shit. You also didn't provide any
type of GoFundMe, any type of cash app either, brother, Like,
come on, I need to I need to know. And
then I feel like you did get through. I feel
like you got through because I feel like I talked
to you on Breakfast Club just Monday morning. I feel
like you did. Jesus Christ. Shit, I do not know
what to tell you about being out in Atlanta. I
(11:36):
know you need to be fucking careful because that's the
most dangerous place to be. Sleeping in your car with
your eight year old daughter. How do y'all shower? What
do y'all eat? Like what? She's a little girl, you know,
So I know you're more than scared out of your mind.
I mean, people break in cars, people steal cars down there,
people like just fuck with you, you know what I'm saying.
And this can happen anywhere, by the way, but it
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happens so much more frequently, and it's it's more expected
in Atlanta, you know what I'm saying. That's like one
of the most common crimes there carjacking and shit, Like
God damn, I want to know what type of fucking mother.
This little girl got ain't no goddamn way did you
see any signs? Like how the hell didn't you see
signs of this? Lord? She need to be a motherfucking
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jail for having her daughter. You know what, how did
you lose your job? Let's get off the mom. How
did you lose your fucking job? That's what I need
to know. Was it because when the house burned down,
you know, you had to take several days off? Or
like what the fuck was it? Was she remorseful to
say the least? Like was she remorseful at all? Was like,
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you don't have any family that you can bring your
ass back up to Waldorf from Maryland and stay with
and get on your feet for a while, Like I
know how it is moving a plane ride away, not
even only hours moving? Like, well, you got to catch
a plane too, And if you do have a car,
drive your ass back up to Maryland. That's only what
an eight hour drive? Gas that bitch up and drive
(13:06):
back up to Maryland. You are now you should not
be being homeless, Okay, not with your baby girl. It's
too much mistake, too much going on. I don't care
what you gotta do. Get your ass back up to
Waldorf and figure it out for your baby. Fuck that girl,
because that's what it just, that's what it's giving. If
she don't give a fuck about your daughter, Your daughter
only got you and that's it. You ain't got a
bad mouth tome mom. You ain't gotta you know, if
(13:28):
you haven't already, you ain't gotta do none of that.
You can just show her all right, my dad made
a fucking way. Drive your ass back up to Maryland.
That's better than being homeless day in and day out,
sleeping in your car and shit, you get what I'm saying.
That's better than that. Quit whatever fucking job that is done,
and take your ass home where you have stability, more
(13:48):
stability or whatever, like where's your family? Shit like that.
Somebody will help you, honey, and we'll be right back
after this. Jess, congratulations on everything. Thank you girl. You're
too doving of this happiness. I am messaging because I
hate having sex with my husband. Damn it's bad sex, girl,
And now he wants a girlfriend. What should I do?
(14:10):
Leave that? Nigga? What the fuck wrong with you? You
leave him? He already ain't fucking you right, and he
want a girlfriend. If you got bad dick for one bitch,
what the fuck make you think you gonna do with
two bitches? What the fuck is wrong with you? I
can't stand for a nigga like that. Now listen, if
you want to look a little further, what is going
on with you? Do you not get him hard? Or like?
(14:31):
How long y'all been married? Because this is a short
ass message. Beautiful fucking woman, I ain't gonna take nothing
from you. Now, you a bad mama jam. But that's
what the fuck I'm looking at right here. But I
can see that you are seasoned, you are older. You
ain't no young little whooper snap of what you don't
need to be. But it's he into younger women? Does
he want when he say he wants a girlfriend, does
he want somebody younger? Have you called him with somebody younger?
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Has he ever talked about younger women? Have y'all ever
had this conversation that prompted him to want a girlfriend?
Have you ever told him you get give them a threesome?
You know? Like, are you into women as well? I
need it for you to tell me some shit, all right,
because it sounds like you're hiding a lot from me.
And I don't like it, you know what I mean?
But I think you leave. You know what I'm saying.
If the sex is bad and he wants another girlfriend
and you're not open to that, yeah you leave? What
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the fuck? I don't how long y'all been married? You know?
Do I have kids together? What is? I need some
more meat on the bone booth. I'm telling you, don't
be giving me these little as stories and expecting for
me to fix y'all mess and y'all leaving shit out now,
But thank you for congratulating me. Keep me updated. She's
so pretty. She's really really pretty. Sometimes I wish y'all
could see some of these people that send me these messages. Man,
(15:38):
I'll be like, how the fuck did you end up
in this mess? Woman? You're too fucking gorgeous? What's going on?
Leave these niggas? Okay, it's the last story, y'all. Hey girl, Hey,
I love you and I love your show. Thank you girl,
Hey girl, Hey, I g be sketchy with DMS. So
that's probably why these stories be incomplete. They call it
an invite text, okay, so blah blah blah blah blah.
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I know it's stink ass behavior. Yes, I hate it.
Trust me. I will find a way to fix it, y'all,
but bear with me until I do so. I really
don't have a mess per se, but I guess you
can let me know. I have my own businesses and
I make good money doing it. I have grown to
accept that I will not find a man that make
as much as me, or even more than me. I'm
(16:22):
literally okay with this, but I don't want to feel
like I'm settling for a bum ass nigga. I understand, girl,
Been there, done that, and I will never do it again.
I don't need a man for money, but they seem
to like the bitches that want the money hmm that
they don't have. Haha. I like that. Well, let me
read that one over. That's a word. I let me see.
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I don't need a man for money, but they seem
to like the bitches that want the money that they
don't have. Ha ha. I love it. It's weird as
fuck out here, girl. It is like, maybe I sound
goofy as fuck for it, but I accept it. If
I like a nigga, I'm a whole trick. I buy
gifts and do trips. I'm big dog laughing like shit,
but I feel like it intimidates these men having a
(17:05):
woman that don't need them like real live mo. I'll
be feeling wild as fuck for thinking like this. Amn.
First of all, I know you from DC. Don't ever
call me MO. All right, don't ever call me MO dummy.
I'm from Baltimore. We don't do that. Sagnaw. I'm fucking
with you, girl, that you living in your true DC
self though, I see that, So DMV in the house.
First of all, I love you girl, love you, girl,
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but you don't gotta feel wild as fuck for thinking
like that. I mean, that is obviously all that you
have been shown I mean, or most of what you
have seen in the dating pool obviously. And then I
know we tend to let social media play on our
minds when it comes to dating as well, and all
the validation that is needed from both men and women
these days, so let's not ignore that shit. But if
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you take away from all of that, listen, girl, there
are men out here that you can get that make
more than you, or make just as much as you,
that are ambitious and will not allow you to let
them use you. They will not allow you to woo them.
They will not like I'm telling you a man when
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you meet a motherfucker man. I'm talking about a man
that I got right now that I didn't think even
fucking existed. Okay, seriously, I'm telling you they are out there,
these men that own these companies that these men that
do that work them. I'm talking about a man man. Now.
Most of them ain't on social media. You ain't gonna
find them on social media. And if you do find
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that they got a page, it ain't nothing knowing that motherfucker. Okay.
They just get on that and be nosy when you
tell them about something, and they get on that when
they're bored. Literally, there are men like that. I'm sorry
your experience has been a little fucked up. You know.
I've had some fucked up ones myself. But first of all,
more power to you for having your own businesses, making
your good money and all of that. I ain't gonna
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keep letting you trick though you ain't ready tell me
like you a whole trick. If you like a nigga, No,
that's how you end up being taken advantage of. That
is how you end up falling victim to this shit
that you're telling me about. Yeah, and that little word
that you gave me. You don't need a man for money.
But they say the like bitches that want the money
that they don't have. That's because you out here warning niggas.
You giving niggas money to go give to other bitches.
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All right, it's intimidating. Now. These men like to be
tricked off on, but they ain't gonna stay with somebody
like you because you make them feel small. You know
what I'm saying. You know you're superior to them, So
they gonna always have a couple of little bitches on
the side because they want to feel superior to somebody.
If a woman is feeling superior over me, who the
fuck I'm a feel superior I'm a man. Who the
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fuck I'm gonna feel superior over? So let me take
this money from her, and I'm gonna treat my other bitches.
I had a nigga like that too, that I ain't
give no money to. But he was excited to be
fucking with me. But it was known that he would
use bitches for the money. So he would use all
the other older bitches that he was fucking with to
get money and do shit for me. I'm talking about
my tw was my twenty ninth for my thirtieth birthday.
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Man treated me so fucking good with so many other
bitches money, and then when the bitches got in touch
with me, she said, can you go get my money back? No,
the fucker I cannot. I love my little Gucci whilet
I love my Louis Vatane. I love my bird Berry,
her perfume. You better go ask that nigga for that
shit now. I left that nigga alone because I don't
like when no woman is used. You know what I'm saying,
and when it's brought to my attention, I stopped it.
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But baby, you're not getting none of this because once
you gave the money to him, it was his, and
once he bought me the shit, it's mine. So you
know that's just what that is. But boo, I'm sorry.
You gotta stop tricking, all right. You know, I don't
think nobody should be a damn trick. I don't think
a man should be a trick. I don't think a
woman should be a trick. I think you should do
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something out the conness of your heart, not to keep
a nigga around. It is not your job to spoil
a nig unless that nigga is one hundred percent yours,
and unless you're getting spoiled right the fuck back. You
understand me, okay, So keep me updated because girl, m
we don't need you too successful to be a trick,
all right, So I ain't gonna let you keep doing that.
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And it's like that we've come to get the end
of another carefully Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious.
So what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess y'all
up and down, left and right, inside and out. Make
sure you catch me on Breakfast Club fixing mess on Thursdays.
Call in. If you can't get through, send a voice
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Messy Vision page, not the doctor who page who I
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will be checking in and again if you do not
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with yet another carefully reckless episode with your Girl. Just hilarious.
Listen y'all what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess. Unfortunately,
(00:22):
my baby sits sterr is not here today, but she
will be here next week and she will be helping
me read stories. So y'all got to bed with me today.
Nobody sent the boys snow, so which is okay? I
need to practice reading anyway for breakfast club. Let y'all
tell it. A bitch can I read? But I can,
and don't play with me, so we're gonna jump straight in.
And I love that this message is from a guy
(00:43):
your so oh no, Damn's from a girl. Not that
I have any problem with girls sending me messages, but
I love women, I should say, but I love when
men can open up as well, because we know our
men do not like this howiday business, honey. They do
not like to expose stories about them else they don't
feel vulnerable enough in spaces where they can feel safe
(01:03):
enough to tell their business. So I love, always, love, love,
love when men send in their mess for me to
give advice on. But here we got another one of
my girls. So here we go. I can't call into
the show because of my work schedule, but if you
can help with this, Lord Jesus, this is what been
with me all all right? She said, I can't call
(01:25):
into the show because of my work schedule, but if
you can help with this, I'd appreciate it. Just don't
use my name, please, girl. When the last time you
heard me see somebody name, y'all are anonymous. Y'all will
remain anonymous. Even if y'all give me y'all names, some
people will be giving me their name, and I still
don't say it all the time. All right. My man
and I have been together for about four years. We
(01:47):
were forced to be with each other because we fell
on hard times after a month of knowing each other
and stuck it out. It's been crazy ever since. My
biggest dilemma is he is a security guard for celebrities.
He usually he does security for gay celebrities. Okay, and
there's a famous transgender celebrity he works with often. Now,
I saw he liked two of her posts on ig
(02:09):
of her in Lingerie. He said he didn't realize he
was just clicking and scrolling, then said it's just business
to keep her happy. Here's what things started getting weird.
He has the only fans Twitter page with him nude
and everything, and he follows her and her gay male
friend on this page. He follows both of them, but
only the boy follows back. Am I wrong for questioning
(02:32):
his sexuality and not being attracted to him anymore? Well,
if that's the way you're feeling, nobody can tell you
that you're wrong about the way you feel. Now. This
is your man, you know, as you put in quotes
and in all caps, this is your man. Okay, Like,
look at the screen, at look at the screen. This
is your man, your man. Okay. These are your feelings, honey,
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and they're valid whatever they may be. You understand what
I'm saying now. I can't ignore what you said in
the beginning. You said that you were forced to be
together after a month. I don't know what that means.
Who forced? Y'all? Were y'all talking at first, and you
know you'll fell upon hard time, so you had to
move together? Like what I don't I don't understand what
you mean, y'all. This sounds like an arranged marriage. If
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you asked me, like, what are you talking about, you
were forced. Nobody is ever forced to be with somebody
unless it is like cultural usually usually that's a cultural thing.
Now I don't know your culture. I don't know. You
didn't provide that information. But either way, moving along, he
is a security guard for gay celebrities, like you said,
and he's main security for this transgender celebrity who he follows,
(03:39):
and he liked to of her pictures one time, and
you must have said something about it because you said that.
He first said, oh, he just be liking the scroland.
Why are you following your talent first of all on
social media? I mean, I don't know if you if
you just work for this person, all right, cool, and
then most of the time, like you shouldn't have to
follow him because most of the time, if they're out,
then you're with them. I assume you know what I'm saying.
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As security, I've had security. I know celebrities that have security,
and I know celebrities that have main security, and they
for the most part keep the same main security unless
someone aspire, unless they hire a company and they rotate
security guards. I don't understand why you will be following
her and then liking her explicit pictures on social media. Now,
you also said your man got an only fans page
(04:21):
okay on Twitter and only the gay male friend follows
back okay. So I can see why there is speculation
there why you're curious of what he likes and curious
of his references. Now, but did you sit down and
have a conversation with him about that any further than
you just bringing up him liking his clients' pictures on
(04:43):
Instagram from the first time, Because I don't understand how
you go from liking to scroll into oh, I do
this and make her happy. You don't need to do
anything but secure her to make her happy and safe.
It's not even about you making her happy. It's about
you making her feel safe. That's the only thing that
you owe to her if you're her security guard, and
that is all make her feel safe, not make her
feel wanted. You shouldn't feel wanted by a damn bodyguard
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unless you are fucking with your bodyguard. Okay. I guess
y'all ain't watched the movie The Bodyguard, you know what
I'm saying. Unless it's a situation like that, all you
need to be doing is securing safely, securing the talent,
that is it. But I feel like you're well within
your right to question him, and I think you should
sit down and talk to him about it. If you
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feel this way strongly in your mind, then your decision
has already been made because you already said you're not
feeling him anymore, you're not attracted to him anymore, and
are you wrong about it? I'm telling you you're not wrong.
So what are your next steps? Because I don't want
you to sit there and let this roll off your
back and then a year later you're still trying to
be with this man because you don't want to hurt
his feelings and feel like you're exposing him. No, sit
(05:50):
down to have a conversation with him, don't put him
on blast, don't do none of that. No, we ain't
got to do all of that. What you do, like
I said, you tell him you feel some type of
way because you feel like he has tendencies, and you
feel like I already feel some type of way about
you being a security guard for LGBTQ celebrities, you know,
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and then I caught you liking this, and then you
would and then you went from oh I was just
scroll and there was a simple mistake to you know,
I do this to make her happy? Well, what the
fuck you doing to make me happy? You ain't in
a relationship with her, you know what I'm saying to you,
Following the OnlyFans pages and all that type of shit
and the gay nigga following you back, and shit, No,
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it's too much. It's too much, And I don't think
you're thinking too deep into it at all. Don't let
nobody tell you that that's how you feel before you
go to sleep at night and when you wake up
in the morning, that is what it is. Trust your
women's intuition, honey, and keep me updated. Get out of
that situation, Get rid of him and let him be
what he wants to be. Let him go over to
the side that he wants to go over on, or
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maybe he wants to be bisexual. Shit, he like playing
both sides. So I'm gonna call him by give him
what he wanted to walk away from it. Because while
some women are okay with that, some women or not,
and you seem like one that's not. So keep me updated.
I'm serious. I want to know what's going on. And
I want you to keep it a hundone with him
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and thank you for sharing. Honey, if you love me,
you'll listen to this commercial and then we'll be right back.
All right, here's someone else sending from my business profile
because my messages from my personal won't allow me to
write more, and waiting for the invites we'll be accepted.
I got to figure out how to take that shit
off of there. Okay, Hey, Jass, I've been a long
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time follower of Jess Hilarious and even went to a
show in Vegas once. But girl, I just started listening
to the podcast and I have been binging. Oh I
know that's right, girl. Thank you. Just almost dropped a
found dumbbell on my foot listening to you in the gym.
All right, Well, you guys to be care money. I
was cracking up because you said something stupid funny. Anyway,
here's my mess I've been with my husband for four years,
(07:56):
dated for two and a half, and married for one
and a half. Okay, while we were dating, we struggled
with communication issues both of us. However, the blame would
generally fall on me for being the one who was
really bad with communication. Okay, I took the blame willingly
and worked on it through therapy, my Christian faith and journaling. Okay,
(08:18):
that's it. Congratulations, What the fuck you want me to say? Girl? Shit,
I'm it's no advice. That's it now. I don't know
if you couldn't send another message because you said you
were writing me from your business profile, because when you
wrote me from your personal profile it wouldn't let you.
But you seem to have gotten through here. I mean,
did you just want to give me an update on
your life? Girl? All right? Well, whatever you wanted to do,
(08:41):
I appreciate you telling me that boom, but if you
can finish your message, all right, let's move on. Okay.
This person says, oh, this is a guy. You all
we got a man in a house, all right. I
like to remain anonymous, but hey, Jess, I have a situation.
I've tried calling the breakfast club to speak to you
directly or get it off my chest, but never can
get through. So here's what's going on. Okay, I'm sorry
(09:04):
about that. A lot of people are calling up that
early in the morning. You may not think so, but
there are millions of listeners across the country. Guys, So
more power to you if you actually get through, Lord,
And you see how excited people actually are when we
answer the phone, like they even forget what they were
trying to get off their chest, so they forget what
they even want to ask me because they're like, oh
(09:25):
my god, I finally got through. You know what I'm saying,
So okay, I'm gonna start. A year ago, I moved
from Waldorf, Maryland. Okay, Waldorf, Maryland so Atlanta with my
daughter and girlfriend of three years. I thought everything was
going fine. It was her idea to move to Atlanta.
Oh Lord, I went with it to make her happy.
But on Valentine's Day this year, while I was at
work and my daughter was at school, she cheated on me.
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And the only reason I found out is because her
and the guy she cheated with burned my house down
trying to be romantic with candles and shit. And turns
out she knew the guy for years. He was an
ext and that's why she wanted to move to Atlanta
so bad. Oh my god. And now me and my
daughter have been homeless, living in my car in rooms
(10:08):
when we can afford. She is only eight, and we
are trying to get back on our feet. My ex
stole money from our account and lives with her ex.
I don't know if there is anything to fix anymore.
What first of all you got damn right, ain't nothing
to fix anymore? Why the fuck are you even thinking
about fixing anything with her? You are now stuck with
the child. Now, if this is all true, and I'm
not saying I do not believe you, but what in
(10:31):
the fuck is going on? You moved down there, you
got a job. Did you lose your job? How did
you end up homeless? Like? What happened? Did you move
down there with no job? Did you not ever find
a job? She moved down there to be closer to
her ex. Okay, cool, forget her, but the fact that
she wouldn't take her child is crazy. Now, how did
that happen? How did you end up with your baby?
(10:52):
Not saying that you shouldn't have your baby because you
are her father? For sure? Now a child has two parents.
But if she knows that you are homeless, why not
take the child until you can get on your feet.
I want to know more about that situation, damn. And
then that eight year old baby, she's well aware enough
to see you know the conditions that her and dad
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has to live in. Shit. You also didn't provide any
type of GoFundMe, any type of cash app either, brother, Like,
come on, I need to I need to know. And
then I feel like you did get through. I feel
like you got through because I feel like I talked
to you on Breakfast Club just Monday morning. I feel
like you did. Jesus Christ. Shit, I do not know
what to tell you about being out in Atlanta. I
(11:36):
know you need to be fucking careful because that's the
most dangerous place to be. Sleeping in your car with
your eight year old daughter. How do y'all shower? What
do y'all eat? Like what? She's a little girl, you know,
So I know you're more than scared out of your mind.
I mean, people break in cars, people steal cars down there,
people like just fuck with you, you know what I'm saying.
And this can happen anywhere, by the way, but it
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happens so much more frequently, and it's it's more expected
in Atlanta, you know what I'm saying. That's like one
of the most common crimes there carjacking and shit, Like
God damn, I want to know what type of fucking mother.
This little girl got ain't no goddamn way did you
see any signs? Like how the hell didn't you see
signs of this? Lord? She need to be a motherfucking
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jail for having her daughter. You know what, how did
you lose your job? Let's get off the mom. How
did you lose your fucking job? That's what I need
to know. Was it because when the house burned down,
you know, you had to take several days off? Or
like what the fuck was it? Was she remorseful to
say the least? Like was she remorseful at all? Was like,
(12:43):
you don't have any family that you can bring your
ass back up to Waldorf from Maryland and stay with
and get on your feet for a while, Like I
know how it is moving a plane ride away, not
even only hours moving? Like, well, you got to catch
a plane too, And if you do have a car,
drive your ass back up to Maryland. That's only what
an eight hour drive? Gas that bitch up and drive
(13:06):
back up to Maryland. You are now you should not
be being homeless, Okay, not with your baby girl. It's
too much mistake, too much going on. I don't care
what you gotta do. Get your ass back up to
Waldorf and figure it out for your baby. Fuck that girl,
because that's what it just, that's what it's giving. If
she don't give a fuck about your daughter, Your daughter
only got you and that's it. You ain't got a
bad mouth tome mom. You ain't gotta you know, if
(13:28):
you haven't already, you ain't gotta do none of that.
You can just show her all right, my dad made
a fucking way. Drive your ass back up to Maryland.
That's better than being homeless day in and day out,
sleeping in your car and shit, you get what I'm saying.
That's better than that. Quit whatever fucking job that is done,
and take your ass home where you have stability, more
(13:48):
stability or whatever, like where's your family? Shit like that.
Somebody will help you, honey, and we'll be right back
after this. Jess, congratulations on everything. Thank you girl. You're
too doving of this happiness. I am messaging because I
hate having sex with my husband. Damn it's bad sex, girl,
And now he wants a girlfriend. What should I do?
(14:10):
Leave that? Nigga? What the fuck wrong with you? You
leave him? He already ain't fucking you right, and he
want a girlfriend. If you got bad dick for one bitch,
what the fuck make you think you gonna do with
two bitches? What the fuck is wrong with you? I
can't stand for a nigga like that. Now listen, if
you want to look a little further, what is going
on with you? Do you not get him hard? Or like?
(14:31):
How long y'all been married? Because this is a short
ass message. Beautiful fucking woman, I ain't gonna take nothing
from you. Now, you a bad mama jam. But that's
what the fuck I'm looking at right here. But I
can see that you are seasoned, you are older. You
ain't no young little whooper snap of what you don't
need to be. But it's he into younger women? Does
he want when he say he wants a girlfriend, does
he want somebody younger? Have you called him with somebody younger?
(14:52):
Has he ever talked about younger women? Have y'all ever
had this conversation that prompted him to want a girlfriend?
Have you ever told him you get give them a threesome?
You know? Like, are you into women as well? I
need it for you to tell me some shit, all right,
because it sounds like you're hiding a lot from me.
And I don't like it, you know what I mean?
But I think you leave. You know what I'm saying.
If the sex is bad and he wants another girlfriend
and you're not open to that, yeah you leave? What
(15:16):
the fuck? I don't how long y'all been married? You know?
Do I have kids together? What is? I need some
more meat on the bone booth. I'm telling you, don't
be giving me these little as stories and expecting for
me to fix y'all mess and y'all leaving shit out now,
But thank you for congratulating me. Keep me updated. She's
so pretty. She's really really pretty. Sometimes I wish y'all
could see some of these people that send me these messages. Man,
(15:38):
I'll be like, how the fuck did you end up
in this mess? Woman? You're too fucking gorgeous? What's going on?
Leave these niggas? Okay, it's the last story, y'all. Hey girl, Hey,
I love you and I love your show. Thank you girl,
Hey girl, Hey, I g be sketchy with DMS. So
that's probably why these stories be incomplete. They call it
an invite text, okay, so blah blah blah blah blah.
(15:59):
I know it's stink ass behavior. Yes, I hate it.
Trust me. I will find a way to fix it, y'all,
but bear with me until I do so. I really
don't have a mess per se, but I guess you
can let me know. I have my own businesses and
I make good money doing it. I have grown to
accept that I will not find a man that make
as much as me, or even more than me. I'm
(16:22):
literally okay with this, but I don't want to feel
like I'm settling for a bum ass nigga. I understand, girl,
Been there, done that, and I will never do it again.
I don't need a man for money, but they seem
to like the bitches that want the money hmm that
they don't have. Haha. I like that. Well, let me
read that one over. That's a word. I let me see.
(16:43):
I don't need a man for money, but they seem
to like the bitches that want the money that they
don't have. Ha ha. I love it. It's weird as
fuck out here, girl. It is like, maybe I sound
goofy as fuck for it, but I accept it. If
I like a nigga, I'm a whole trick. I buy
gifts and do trips. I'm big dog laughing like shit,
but I feel like it intimidates these men having a
(17:05):
woman that don't need them like real live mo. I'll
be feeling wild as fuck for thinking like this. Amn.
First of all, I know you from DC. Don't ever
call me MO. All right, don't ever call me MO dummy.
I'm from Baltimore. We don't do that. Sagnaw. I'm fucking
with you, girl, that you living in your true DC
self though, I see that, So DMV in the house.
First of all, I love you girl, love you, girl,
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but you don't gotta feel wild as fuck for thinking
like that. I mean, that is obviously all that you
have been shown I mean, or most of what you
have seen in the dating pool obviously. And then I
know we tend to let social media play on our
minds when it comes to dating as well, and all
the validation that is needed from both men and women
these days, so let's not ignore that shit. But if
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you take away from all of that, listen, girl, there
are men out here that you can get that make
more than you, or make just as much as you,
that are ambitious and will not allow you to let
them use you. They will not allow you to woo them.
They will not like I'm telling you a man when
(18:08):
you meet a motherfucker man. I'm talking about a man
that I got right now that I didn't think even
fucking existed. Okay, seriously, I'm telling you they are out there,
these men that own these companies that these men that
do that work them. I'm talking about a man man. Now.
Most of them ain't on social media. You ain't gonna
find them on social media. And if you do find
(18:31):
that they got a page, it ain't nothing knowing that motherfucker. Okay.
They just get on that and be nosy when you
tell them about something, and they get on that when
they're bored. Literally, there are men like that. I'm sorry
your experience has been a little fucked up. You know.
I've had some fucked up ones myself. But first of all,
more power to you for having your own businesses, making
your good money and all of that. I ain't gonna
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keep letting you trick though you ain't ready tell me
like you a whole trick. If you like a nigga, No,
that's how you end up being taken advantage of. That
is how you end up falling victim to this shit
that you're telling me about. Yeah, and that little word
that you gave me. You don't need a man for money.
But they say the like bitches that want the money
that they don't have. That's because you out here warning niggas.
You giving niggas money to go give to other bitches.
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All right, it's intimidating. Now. These men like to be
tricked off on, but they ain't gonna stay with somebody
like you because you make them feel small. You know
what I'm saying. You know you're superior to them, So
they gonna always have a couple of little bitches on
the side because they want to feel superior to somebody.
If a woman is feeling superior over me, who the
fuck I'm a feel superior I'm a man. Who the
(19:35):
fuck I'm gonna feel superior over? So let me take
this money from her, and I'm gonna treat my other bitches.
I had a nigga like that too, that I ain't
give no money to. But he was excited to be
fucking with me. But it was known that he would
use bitches for the money. So he would use all
the other older bitches that he was fucking with to
get money and do shit for me. I'm talking about
my tw was my twenty ninth for my thirtieth birthday.
(19:57):
Man treated me so fucking good with so many other
bitches money, and then when the bitches got in touch
with me, she said, can you go get my money back? No,
the fucker I cannot. I love my little Gucci whilet
I love my Louis Vatane. I love my bird Berry,
her perfume. You better go ask that nigga for that
shit now. I left that nigga alone because I don't
like when no woman is used. You know what I'm saying,
and when it's brought to my attention, I stopped it.
(20:18):
But baby, you're not getting none of this because once
you gave the money to him, it was his, and
once he bought me the shit, it's mine. So you
know that's just what that is. But boo, I'm sorry.
You gotta stop tricking, all right. You know, I don't
think nobody should be a damn trick. I don't think
a man should be a trick. I don't think a
woman should be a trick. I think you should do
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something out the conness of your heart, not to keep
a nigga around. It is not your job to spoil
a nig unless that nigga is one hundred percent yours,
and unless you're getting spoiled right the fuck back. You
understand me, okay, So keep me updated because girl, m
we don't need you too successful to be a trick,
all right, So I ain't gonna let you keep doing that.
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And it's like that we've come to get the end
of another carefully Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious.
So what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess y'all
up and down, left and right, inside and out. Make
sure you catch me on Breakfast Club fixing mess on Thursdays.
Call in. If you can't get through, send a voice
note to the Carefully Reckless podcast page, not the co
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Messy Vision page, not the doctor who page who I
got a lot of businesses, I know what that's right,
but send it to the Carefully Reckless podcast page. I
will be checking in and again if you do not
want your voice to be known, I do understand, but
just proof read and I will try my best to
fix this invite request shit going on, love y'all. And
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