April 10, 2024 • 9 mins
Sometimes all we need is another perspective. ~ Delilah
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from Katrina, who says, ever since my dad passed away
(00:44):
eight years ago, my brother has felt the need to
be the father figure. Usually you would think that might
be good. However, with his new responsibility came the same
abuse he got from our dad when Dad was alive.
My sister was beaten last Thanksgiving badly by my brother,
(01:05):
to the point that we had to put a restraining
order on him. Just recently, my sister got really sick
and my brother got worried. We decided to get the
restraining order removed. Lately, there's been some fears making us nervous,
wondering if we made the right decision. Any advice from Katrina. Katrina,
(01:26):
I will have my advice, my words of love for you.
Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a young
woman whose brother is very overbearing and abusive, and it
makes sense because she said that her father was the
(01:49):
same way, and now her brother is following in his footsteps. Katrina,
please don't be foolish. If your brother has shown by
his behavior that he cannot be trusted, if he hit
your sister beat her, then you should not lift the
restraining order. Honey. You can forgive him, and you can
(02:09):
love him, and you can pray for him, but you
cannot be in relationship with him because to do so
could cost you or your sister your lives. He doesn't
make good choices, so you need to recognize that. Until
he addresses that, goes and gets help, deals with his abuse,
(02:32):
deals with his rage, deals with his thinking that that's
the way that you interact with people. Nothing has changed,
and he will do it again. So don't be foolish,
be wise, be loving, but be wise. I got this
(02:58):
note from a listener Terry that says, Delilah, can you
help me at least get a second date? Most of
my dates after one date, they say they're seeing someone else.
They say they're busy, they just aren't interested. I'm nice looking,
I'm clean, my clothes are clean, I have nice shoes.
(03:20):
I'm letting my hair grow that makes me look better.
And then I spend a lot of money on dates.
I never complain. I do as I'm told, yet I've
yet to be married or give my heart. Please help
me from Terry. Oh, Terry, this is an easy one.
This is an easy Delilah dilemma, and I will have
my response to you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(03:51):
is from Terry, who is a good looking guy, buys clothes,
nice shoes, grow in his hair, spends a lot of
money on dates, and never gets a second date. Terry,
here's the problem. You say, I never complain, and I
do as I'm told. A woman's not looking for a
dog that will be obedient and go lie down when
it's told. A woman who wants a partner in life
(04:14):
wants a partner in life with a backbone who will
be true to themselves. You don't even know who you are.
You're so busy trying to be what other people think
you should be. Stop. True love doesn't come along because
you're going to conform your personality or your spirit to
(04:35):
match what someone else thinks you should be. You will
find true love when you learn to truly love yourself.
And right now you don't even like yourself, Terry, So
you need to get to the core issue. Figure out
why you don't appreciate the wonderful person that God has created.
(05:00):
Can you look at yourself and see your character strengths
when a woman is looking for a life partner, how
your hair looks or what kind of shoes you're wearing
matters little compared to your character. Are you kind? Are
you honest? Are you determined? Do you have a plan
(05:22):
for your life? Are you capable? Are you consistent? Are
you trustworthy? Are you hard working? Are you dedicated? Devoted?
Are you a gentleman? Are you passionate about your dreams?
Somebody who says I do as I'm told isn't passionate
(05:43):
about their dreams. They're just looking for someone to fill
a void. So stop looking for someone to fill that
void and figure out who you are, what your dreams
and gifts and skills and talents are, and then go
that direction and trust that God is going to bring
(06:05):
someone into your life. Who will fill your life with
so much beauty and so much love. So stop stop
worrying about your shoes. Stop spending a lot of money
on dates. Go out for coffee for goodness sakes on
the first or second date. Get to know somebody, but
mostly terry, get to know yourself. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma comes
(06:36):
from Ben. He says, I met a girl over the
internet last fall. We exchanged phone numbers. Around January, we
started talking more and more, and eventually we fell in love.
She's a year younger than me, and I'm going to
graduate this year. Here is my dilemma. I've always wanted
to have a career in law enforcement. The only thing
that would keep me from going away to school is
(06:56):
the idea of not being with her. I love her,
so I would do anything to be with her. I'm
afraid that once I leave for school, she will move on,
she will find someone else. I don't want to risk that.
There's a part of me saying, don't screw up your future.
But there's a bigger part of me that's saying, she's
the most amazing girl in the world. Don't let her
(07:17):
slip away. Delilah, what should I do. Sincerely, a love
struck boy named Ben, Mister love struck, I will have
my response to you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
came from Ben, Ben who wants to wear a badge.
(07:40):
Ben who wants to be in law enforcement and wants
to go away to school to pursue that dream. But
he thinks if he goes away and leaves his girlfriend behind,
she will forget him and move on. Ben. If her
love is that shallow, she does not deserve you. If
her love cannot stay strong and true while you are
(08:00):
pursuing your career, then she's not the one for you,
and she's not the most amazing girl in the world.
You say she's the most amazing girl in the world,
don't let her slip away. If she slips away because
you're at school starting a career in law enforcement, then
she's truly not amazing, and she's not the most wonderful
girl in the world. Real love waits, Real love is patient.
(08:26):
Real love says, I want what is best for you,
I want what is best for us, not I want
what I want. Do you understand that what is best
for you been and what is best for you too
as a couple. Is for you to pursue your dream,
to start your career so that in the future you
(08:48):
can be a couple and that you will have the
financial resources to be with this young woman. So go
to school. That's why God and in cell phones and
text messages, that's why you have Delilah on the radio
for goodness sakes, to place happy love songs to keep
you close. Now go to school, pursue your dreams, reach
(09:13):
for the stars. I so hope you have enjoyed these
radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Do
Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have
put together some of my favorite radio moments here to
share with you on our daily podcast. Hey it's Delilah.
Come on in and make yourself at home as we
(00:22):
share some of the most interesting dilemmas. Delilah's dilemmas when
people get themselves into a bind, into a mess and
need a little wisdom to find their way out. Stay
tuned for that coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is
from Katrina, who says, ever since my dad passed away
(00:44):
eight years ago, my brother has felt the need to
be the father figure. Usually you would think that might
be good. However, with his new responsibility came the same
abuse he got from our dad when Dad was alive.
My sister was beaten last Thanksgiving badly by my brother,
(01:05):
to the point that we had to put a restraining
order on him. Just recently, my sister got really sick
and my brother got worried. We decided to get the
restraining order removed. Lately, there's been some fears making us nervous,
wondering if we made the right decision. Any advice from Katrina. Katrina,
(01:26):
I will have my advice, my words of love for you.
Coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a young
woman whose brother is very overbearing and abusive, and it
makes sense because she said that her father was the
(01:49):
same way, and now her brother is following in his footsteps. Katrina,
please don't be foolish. If your brother has shown by
his behavior that he cannot be trusted, if he hit
your sister beat her, then you should not lift the
restraining order. Honey. You can forgive him, and you can
(02:09):
love him, and you can pray for him, but you
cannot be in relationship with him because to do so
could cost you or your sister your lives. He doesn't
make good choices, so you need to recognize that. Until
he addresses that, goes and gets help, deals with his abuse,
(02:32):
deals with his rage, deals with his thinking that that's
the way that you interact with people. Nothing has changed,
and he will do it again. So don't be foolish,
be wise, be loving, but be wise. I got this
(02:58):
note from a listener Terry that says, Delilah, can you
help me at least get a second date? Most of
my dates after one date, they say they're seeing someone else.
They say they're busy, they just aren't interested. I'm nice looking,
I'm clean, my clothes are clean, I have nice shoes.
(03:20):
I'm letting my hair grow that makes me look better.
And then I spend a lot of money on dates.
I never complain. I do as I'm told, yet I've
yet to be married or give my heart. Please help
me from Terry. Oh, Terry, this is an easy one.
This is an easy Delilah dilemma, and I will have
my response to you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma
(03:51):
is from Terry, who is a good looking guy, buys clothes,
nice shoes, grow in his hair, spends a lot of
money on dates, and never gets a second date. Terry,
here's the problem. You say, I never complain, and I
do as I'm told. A woman's not looking for a
dog that will be obedient and go lie down when
it's told. A woman who wants a partner in life
(04:14):
wants a partner in life with a backbone who will
be true to themselves. You don't even know who you are.
You're so busy trying to be what other people think
you should be. Stop. True love doesn't come along because
you're going to conform your personality or your spirit to
(04:35):
match what someone else thinks you should be. You will
find true love when you learn to truly love yourself.
And right now you don't even like yourself, Terry, So
you need to get to the core issue. Figure out
why you don't appreciate the wonderful person that God has created.
(05:00):
Can you look at yourself and see your character strengths
when a woman is looking for a life partner, how
your hair looks or what kind of shoes you're wearing
matters little compared to your character. Are you kind? Are
you honest? Are you determined? Do you have a plan
(05:22):
for your life? Are you capable? Are you consistent? Are
you trustworthy? Are you hard working? Are you dedicated? Devoted?
Are you a gentleman? Are you passionate about your dreams?
Somebody who says I do as I'm told isn't passionate
(05:43):
about their dreams. They're just looking for someone to fill
a void. So stop looking for someone to fill that
void and figure out who you are, what your dreams
and gifts and skills and talents are, and then go
that direction and trust that God is going to bring
(06:05):
someone into your life. Who will fill your life with
so much beauty and so much love. So stop stop
worrying about your shoes. Stop spending a lot of money
on dates. Go out for coffee for goodness sakes on
the first or second date. Get to know somebody, but
mostly terry, get to know yourself. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma comes
(06:36):
from Ben. He says, I met a girl over the
internet last fall. We exchanged phone numbers. Around January, we
started talking more and more, and eventually we fell in love.
She's a year younger than me, and I'm going to
graduate this year. Here is my dilemma. I've always wanted
to have a career in law enforcement. The only thing
that would keep me from going away to school is
(06:56):
the idea of not being with her. I love her,
so I would do anything to be with her. I'm
afraid that once I leave for school, she will move on,
she will find someone else. I don't want to risk that.
There's a part of me saying, don't screw up your future.
But there's a bigger part of me that's saying, she's
the most amazing girl in the world. Don't let her
(07:17):
slip away. Delilah, what should I do. Sincerely, a love
struck boy named Ben, Mister love struck, I will have
my response to you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma
came from Ben, Ben who wants to wear a badge.
(07:40):
Ben who wants to be in law enforcement and wants
to go away to school to pursue that dream. But
he thinks if he goes away and leaves his girlfriend behind,
she will forget him and move on. Ben. If her
love is that shallow, she does not deserve you. If
her love cannot stay strong and true while you are
(08:00):
pursuing your career, then she's not the one for you,
and she's not the most amazing girl in the world.
You say she's the most amazing girl in the world,
don't let her slip away. If she slips away because
you're at school starting a career in law enforcement, then
she's truly not amazing, and she's not the most wonderful
girl in the world. Real love waits, Real love is patient.
(08:26):
Real love says, I want what is best for you,
I want what is best for us, not I want
what I want. Do you understand that what is best
for you been and what is best for you too
as a couple. Is for you to pursue your dream,
to start your career so that in the future you
(08:48):
can be a couple and that you will have the
financial resources to be with this young woman. So go
to school. That's why God and in cell phones and
text messages, that's why you have Delilah on the radio
for goodness sakes, to place happy love songs to keep
you close. Now go to school, pursue your dreams, reach
(09:13):
for the stars. I so hope you have enjoyed these
radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you.
I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.
Do
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