August 7, 2025 • 30 mins
If it’s already yours… why do you feel like you're fighting for your life to keep it?
This episode is your wake-up call to stop striving for what’s already settled. We’ll unpack how emotional overload, scarcity thinking, and unfinished grief keep you hustling for things that should come in peace. What if your breakthrough isn’t waiting on more hustle, but on release?
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why holding on to what’s expired blocks what’s next
- How neuroscience and scripture both point to the power of release
- Why real growth feels hard but never chaotic
- The spiritual difference between punishment and pruning
- What it really means when something leaves your life
"What belongs to you won’t compete with your peace. You can’t level up if old versions of you are still leading."
This isn’t just another pep talk. It’s a shift in how you approach waiting, loss, and purpose.
Listen if you’re tired of chasing what you already know is meant for you but you're finally ready to receive it.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So I want to be super clear here. Just because
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something is meant for you doesn't mean that you don't
do the work required to keep it. And I'm be
losing that term very loosely meant for you. And we'll
explain that a lot more detail a little bit. But
the reality is that some things are meant to be
for you. They're meant to be in your life. They're
meant to be a part of your life. But they
won't exist, they won't be present outside of the work
you actually put in. They won't exist if you don't
create the space for them to actually live and thrive.
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We can't expect something that's meant for us to stay
in our lives if we don't actually create the space
for that thing to thrive. You are asking for these
huge things. You want these huge things in your life.
You want us the benefits of all these amazing things,
but refuse to do the little things that will make
you comfortable enough to keep that thing in there. There's
this character building that happens in the waiting and the
moments that you are creating the thing, creating the space,
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doing the work required to make this thing happen. There's
something powerful that happens in that moment. There's some character
building that we all need, and we can't expect these
amazing things to be in our lives, let alone flourish,
if we don't create the space for them to exist.
It's impossible to grow into what will serve you if
you're still holding onto what didn't like. What if this
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next season of your waiting is required in your release,
not on your hustle like, not on your perfection, not
on you having everything figured out, not on you doing
the most or being an extra, but simply the things
that you're willing to step into. This is made for
this mountain with Josh Rosa, or we're turning pain into purpose.
It is impossible to grow into what's for you and
we will actually serve you if you're holding onto what
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didn't like. What's next in this season isn't it's waiting
on your release, letting go of the things that you
didn't succeed, are the things that weren't tangibly good. But
this next season of your life is not going to
require more hustle, is going to require more release, because
sometimes we are trying to force things that clearly do
not work, clearly did not mean to work clearly or
not serving us. We're trying to force those things to exist,
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and for a lot of us, unfortunately, we create this
this terrible division between our actual life, our goodness, the
things that are going to be beneficial to us, and
the things that we're stuck in. Because we've made the
things that we think we need, we made those the
center point of everything else. And I need you to
understand that there is no point in your life where
you trying to force something that actively shows you that
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it does not belong into your life, is ever going
to be beneficial for you. Like, there's no point where
that thing is going to make sense. So our insight
here if neuroscience shows us that there's something called the
cognitive and emotional overwhelming and it limits our ability to
think clearly, to take risks, or to even spot new opportunities.
Until you release something, your brain literally has no capacity
to receive something new. Now, this is how big that is.
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That's neuroscience showing this is reality that until we let
go of the things that are taking up space, we
don't create a space for the things that belong to live.
You are holding on to something or someone or era
in your life that you think you still need, but
it's showing you that it doesn't belong. And until you
let that thing go, you do not create the adequate
space for the thing that's going to thrive and make
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you the most best version of you, the most beneficial,
most powerful, most movie, most inspirational of you to be
existed to exist in this world. And we keep holding
onto these things because we think that these things are
eventually going to pay off. I need you to weigh
that because the things that are beneficial for you are
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not things that are going to force you to feel
outside of your peace. I'm not saying thoseesn't require work.
That's the first thing I even said. These things will
require work. But there's a difference between work that is
fruitful and work that is purposeless. If you're trying to
force something into existence, you're not allowing yourself the space
to receive. To receive, you're not allowing yourself the space
to be, and what's good for you. Releasing isn't giving up.
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It's refocusing your energy. It's you allowing what serves you
to grow. It's allowing this freedom. You allow yourself, this
freedom to see and not to fear what you're unable
to finish. We stay in these ruts because we've created
this almost placeholder mentality for these things, thinking that if
we continue to envision them in certain places, even though
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they are not beneficial for us, even though they're not
serving us, though they haven't been to us, if we
think that at some point they're going to be good
to us. We think that at some point they're going
to realize how good this thing is or how great
this opportunity for us will be. I need you to
stop holding on to what you've imagined and start taking
accountability for what's real, what's in front of you, what's
a tangible thing? Is this thing actually purposeful and good?
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Is it bringing you peace? Or are you sitting here
trying to convince something to be what it's not. I
think we struggle with this so often because it's so
easy for us to fall back into that, it's so
easy for us to revert to the thing that used
to be the thought pattern that we add that we
don't allow ourselves this freedom to actually grow. This mountain
that we're talking about, this mountain of knowing what's meant
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for you, like it's meant for you you wouldn't have
to chase. And I don't mean I don't mean don't
do work. I don't mean don't show up. I mean
you won't have to chase things that are actively running
from you. The things that are for you will create
this this understanding that yes, again it requires work, Yes
it requires dedication, It requires you showing up, it requires
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you pursuing. But there's a difference between pursuit and chase.
Pursuit desires to exist, Chase desires to get away from
and the things that you have to consistently chase are
going to leave you tired. So we're going to dive
you deeper into these points and this reality and this
thought process. But whatever it is in your life, I
need you to understand that there are things that you
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attract and there are things that you're attached. When we
attract things, we allow ourselves to be in the thing
that is naturally for us. When we attach, is that
we're pulling onto something or holding on for dear life
to a thing that is actively trying to remove us.
And there is no peace in the things that you
have to attach to. Leeches, that's the other words leech,
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is that we're sitting here trying to attach to something
to get some morciple of blood, some morciple of energy,
of food that's left over when you are attaching, we
are not the best version of us. We're attaching because
we're begging something to pick us. We're begging something to
feed into us. We're begging this thing to see the
benefit of having us. But in reality is there is
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no benefits to something that's leaching. There is no benefit
to something that is attached because there's no mutual want
or for there's just you desiring this and this thing
actively running from you. And when we're able to sit
back and really analyze that, am I actually giving something
like this? Am I actually serving into it? Is actually growing?
Is it fruitful? Is it purposeful? Or am I just attached?
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And when we learn to attach, when we learn that
we're attached, this is when we start actively looking to detach.
We start actively creating this space to move away, because
it's so much easier for us to look at this
thing and blame ourselves instead of looking at it and saying, well,
this thing does not belong in my life and it's
not serving, it's not purposeful for me. And we'll talk
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a little bit more after this real quick commercial brain.
One of the things I wish I knew earlier in
my life is that I didn't need to be extra
for what was for me, Like I simply just needed
to be me, Like I didn't need to over share
or show up more or overpoor, or do the most
or sit and be anything extra for anything that actually
belonged to me, anything that was a part of my
life that was gonna be fruitful in my life, that
was gonna be bringing peace, I was gonna be beneficial.
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I didn't need to be somebody I wasn't for those
things to be attached in my life for those things
to come and be a part of me, Because if
I have to pretend to be anything else outside of me,
I'm always gonna have to pretend like I'm always going
to be this extra thing that isn't just good, that
isn't just me, that isn't just a present person that
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I am, But it's the imitation of what I think
that they would love. And the reason that we struggle
so much with healthy relationships and friendships and family members
and all these things. We struggle with this so much
because we pretend to be something else so when we
get into these situations, it's not just that we're pretending
to be something else. Now I have to act differently
consistently all the way through just to be present to that.
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And we create this struggle in hus because and now
it's not enough for me to just be myself. I
need to be the person that you wanted me to be.
The greatest thing I've ever discovered is that me being
me will always keep the people that love me around,
and they'll push away the people that don't. The greatest
lesson that you'll ever learn is that is that you
are responsible for what you can do, and not the
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outcome of anything else that anyone else is around, not
what they hear and not what they receive, but simply
what you're able to do yourself. And the season of
growth and growing into it's different and allowing ourselves to
not need to chase the things that are for us.
We have to come to that understanding that if it
does not freely flow, it is forced. If the thing
is not natural, it's it's a peculiar opposite. It's unnatural,
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and you have to be anything less than yourself to
keep it. If you have to pretend, if you have
to active, you have to be different, and you're not
actually attracting the things that are for you. You're attached
to the things you think you need. You're attached to
that mindset, that that thought pattern that you've created, that desire,
that dream, and not the thing that is good for you.
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And I know it's so easy to say sometimes right,
because we have to actually go through this and grieve
these realities that we're not with the things that we want,
we're not in the places that we want, we're not
in the world or the lives of the career. And
I want to speak into that actually because before we
get into deeper, I need you to understand that again,
this ties to absolutely everything. And I know most people
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we run to like relationships and stuff like that. I
honestly think that should be the guess, it's a real problem,
but that should be the last thing that you're ever
really focusing on, because healthy relationships will fruit will be
fruit from this or they will grow from this particular thing.
But I think that for a lot of us, we've
created a life that we think that the next stage
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is the happy stage of our lives. The best part
is the next part, and it can be a good part,
but it doesn't have to be the best part. The
best part is the part you're in now. When you
start realizing at the moments that you're in, or the
moments you have to enjoy because they're so limited, everything
else changes. You don't feel forced to think, Okay, well
if I take this in this next career, and if
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I do this next thing, and if if I do
this extra work, then okay, then that's why I'm gonna
be happy. And I want to be clear. I'm not
saying don't like prepare. I'm not saying don't hope, don't dream.
I'm not saying don't set yourself up for the future.
What I am saying is though that you might not
have the future, like tomorrow is not guarantee, you like
next month isn't guaranteed. So now, what are you enjoying now?
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What are the fruits that you're in now? And I
get it, I'm a person. I'll be completely honest with
you if you're listening to this podcast. First of all,
I'm so grateful for you, and I'm only able to
help anyone by being fully vulnerable myself. And there was
a stage in my life where I was really struggling,
like there were stages in my life where my bank
account was constantly negative, if there were stages in my
life where I'm sitting here thinking none of this is working,
like none of the things that I want to do.
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Even now, even in this stage that I'm in right now,
I'm still looking at things like what if this doesn't work?
Like what if the success is for the season. I
remember I was praying with that. I had this word
for me, and I hope this helps you. As I'm
praying with this thing, I'm sitting there, I'm like, man,
but I have to enjoy this right because yeah, what
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if it doesn't work? Yeah, okay, what if it does
that great other other option, whatever it does. But what
doesn't matter is that what matters is right now is
a season that you're in and enjoying what you can enjoy. Yes,
the problems are not gonna go away. They're gonna exist regardless.
So the option is what do I give authority to
do I consistently choose to sit here and be anxious
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and be worried about everything else, or do I actually
give myself the grace and the space to actually enjoy
you where I'm at right now. There are stages in
my life. Like I said that I was terrible, that
I was terrible financially, that I was in all these
crappy situations. Right now, I mean the best I've ever
been and way more than I've ever could have anticipated.
And I've been gifted way more, and I've been loved
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and showed into way more. But it doesn't matter. It's
enjoying the moment because even your terrible, worst moment ever,
if you are looking only for the bad, I promise you,
I promise you, everything will be bad. If you're only
looking for that negative thing, everything in your life will
be negative. But if you actively sit here in search
and just try to find the good. And yes, I'm
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not diminishing it, not saying that it's leaving, not saying
that it's gonna go away, but when we actively look
for those things, we allow ourselves the ability to enjoy
and actually baskett in those things, actually be in what's
good and not the man that everything is bad. So
just the reality that yes, if it's yours, you don't
have to chase it. But also you have to enjoy
the stages that you're in, the places that you're in
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because none of this is going to grow without you.
And I firmly, firmly, firmly believe this that when our
vision on this changes, when our perspective changes on this,
everything around this changes. Because if I'm able to see
the good even in the bad, I will only focus
on the good so much so that I'll amplify it,
that I'll make it a part of me, that my
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response to everything is from this good place and not
this miserable place. And if this is you, this is
you that's struggling with the season right now, not being
able to find the good, I want you to take
a second and just think to yourself, what have you
been focusing on? Is the thing that you hyper focus
on the terrible thing that's happening, or is it the good?
Or is it the post the little things, the little
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little moments of joy, the little moments of spending time
with friends, the little moments of just doing the little things.
We're so focused on the big Again. I'm not saying
don't prepare, do what you have to do, plan accordingly,
work accordingly, but don't make those things the highlight of
your life, because you might not live it. You might
not get to those points. So as we continue on
with this reality of choosing the things that are yours,
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and if it's yours, you don't have to chase it. Right,
there's this mountain of being in things that are not
beneficial or good for us. We need to learn more
to love more what we endure it and not what
we were stuck with, not not obsessed over what left.
But reality is that it's a gift to have the
ability to be able to choose what's for you, choose
what's choosing you, and staying in those things and not
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staying in this thought process of what left, because in
that same breath, as we just mentioned right before that
a lot of us obsess over things that we have
no authority in. The obsessed over things that we have
no control over, and will continue to be in those things,
and they'll continue to kill us because it's our struggle
in this ability to let go of things. It's okay
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to let go of the things that were gonna kill you.
It's okay to outgrow the things that you thought were
meant to be a part of your life. It's okay
to look at these things that you gave so much
love and authority to and say, this thing doesn't serve
me anymore. So I'm not gonna continue to pour into it.
I'm not gonna continue to beg or plea for the
things that were meant for me, because if it's meant
for me, I will never have to be less of
me to receive it. I want you to take the
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season and enjoy and embrace the things that remained. And
if the things that remained were just strength, if the
things that remained were just growth in you, and that's
a gift, that's the reality of this. Sometimes we over
obsessed over the things that we thought were meant to
be in our life because we think that if we
let go of that thought, if we stop thinking about it,
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if we just if we get over, we healed, and
then we don't allow that thing to have its place
in our life. That's a lot you don't It's beautiful
to hold on to memories. It's beautiful to know that
this thing served a season and it was good in
that season. But it doesn't mean that this next season
of your life has to have it in it. And again,
I know I'm not saying that it's easy. I'm saying
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that it's real because one thing. It's it's to say, okay, well,
I can just heal from everything, because if you were
able to just heal from anything right away and not
not dwell on those things or not be able to
bring that pain in that memory, then it never actually mattered.
So it's okay to understand that there is a purpose
for that, but that season should remain as a season.
It should not remain as a thing that you are
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consistently living in because you'll never grow, never heal, and
never allow the space, like we mentioned before, for the
things that belong to belong, you'll struggle with this bad
and for a lot of us, we struggle with that
consistently because no one's ever mentioned it to us. We
never actually sat down and analyzed, why is it that
I'm still holding onto this thing that isn't choosing me?
Because it was meant for me. I wouldn't be chasing it.
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It was meant for me, I wouldn't be forcing it.
The realities is that as you grow, as you progress,
as you change, everything else around you changes, Like when
you become better at certain things, when you could become
more efficient, when you are better at your timing, where
you're better at your career, whatever that thing is. When
you become better at it, everything around those things becomes better.
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When that becomes the heart of it, the focus of it,
everything in that place improves. And sometimes, unfortunately, as we improve,
certain people don't improve with us. And there are certain
people for different reasons. That doesn't mean you don't love them,
you don't care about them, but they don't go into
the seasons that you're going into because they can't serve
the places that you're in. They are not meant to
be in those places. And I know we struggle a
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lot with growth because we think, well, if these people
were my friends, or if I was in relationships with
these people, whatever it is, we think that they're going
to be in every page of our book. There are
some that absolutely will, but there are many who benefit
from the worst version of you. There are many people that,
as you improve, can't go to that next stage because
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they're so used to the lower stage of you that
they can't relate to this person of you that desires
to be better. And the worst case scenario is that
those people bring you down. Now again, I'm not saying
that you change and you be fake, because a lot
of people look at this and say, well, that's being fake, right,
I'm not being fake to a person that I've known forever. No,
because you have to be able to distinguish. There's a
difference between people who are good for you and people
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who are good for the season. There's a difference between
people who are benefiting from the things that you were doing,
from the lack of lovely craft for yourself of the
person that you're pretending to be. There's so many people
that benefit from that, and we have to be able
to distinguish between those two things. Are these people that
are meant for life? Are these people that are still
in this season and that season doesn't benefit you, If
it doesn't help you, if it's not where you're going
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and align with the growth, then unfortunately those people have
to be removed. And as you get better, as you grow,
unfortunately those things are shown. So if these people are
meant to be in your life, if they're meant to
grow with you, then they will again follow those same
exact rules that for everything else. They produce fruit in
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your life. They're beneficial for you, they're good to you,
they bring you peace, I hopefully all those things. And
if they don't, if they're just bringing you back to
a person that you used to be that you don't
need if they're causing gossip or distinguish or hate. I think,
and again, I speak from these things mostly through experience,
either through studied word or reading or books or with
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their experience. But this is one of those things that
I absolutely speak from experience, because I think the most
peaceful moments in my life, the most peaceful era of
my life comes from not having a lot of people
around me, like not having access or people not having
access to me. And it's not that I think I'm
better than anyone or that I'm the greatest or none
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of that stuff. It's completely about me putting myself in
a place where I refuse to be a part of
things that are terrible for me. I refuse to be
around people who are constantly gossiping. I refuse to be
around people who have nothing good happening. I refuse to
be If you're a friend group, and this is an
important thing you need to understand. If the people that
you have around you only gossip about other people, the
people you have around you are only doing drugs or
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just drinking. The other people you have around you are
only doing these terrible things. And these are not beneficial
people for you, like for your soul, for your health,
for your life. They're not good for you because think
about it, only miserable people are so preoccupied with other people.
They're so concerned about this. So if every time you
are around these people all you do is bash other people,
I need you to understand that these people are not
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meant to be in the good seasons of your life.
They are gonna be there because you are there now.
But it's not people that step into this next thing.
As you grow, as you change, things around you change.
You can't do the same thing and expect a new outcome.
It won't be different because you'll revert back to these
places that you shouldn't be. You'll revert back into these
holes that you should change. You can't step into these
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new levels of life living in a version of you
that's old. So if these things are meant for you,
you wouldn't have to force them. And as we stay
on this mountain and we talk about that reality where
we're chasing the things that don't actually belong, we're trying
to force them to stay. You wouldn't chase it if
it was for you, and we'll talk a little bit
more after this quick commercial break. So the biggest point here,
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what I think is this. Probably we have a couple
more there, but I think this is the most important
one because I've mentioned it so many times already. What
belongs to you won't compete for your piece, like the
thing that is meant to be in your life. Won't
make you feel like you have to compete with it,
like what'll make you feel like it's going to go
against the natural flow of things and will make you
feel like you're miserable in it. It won't make you
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feel like there's no fruit in it. I'm not saying
again there's no work, because there is work, but it
won't make you feel like nothing is good. It won't
make you feel like you're terrible. The part of you
that is meant to be in this thing and this
is everything you can This is an easible, easily discerned word.
We can discern this very easily. We'll take an example
of a relationship because I know this is one of
these struggles that we often see. It's like low hanging
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through and I say it all the time. You're chasing
something and it's never reciprocal. There's no efforts, nothing giving
back to you. It's nothing that's given to you. This
thing is not serving your piece. It isn't. It's impossible
for it to serve a peace because it's going literally
against your piece. It's going against the thing that is
healthy and good for you. It's making you feel like
you're less than it's making you feel like you're not
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good if it's causing you chaos, And we do that often.
We trade off our piece for chaos and we call
it potential. We trade off the things that are good
for us, and we overwrite our intuition thinking, well, you
know what this person might change or they might offer
something different. We do this often because we want to
see the good. We want to see this thing happen.
But why are you chasing? Are you chasing the thing
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that's for you? Why are you willing to trade off
your peace and your joy for this thing to exist?
Like there's no reason, no logical or no tangible reason
for us to do this, But we keep falling into
this because we think that if we allow this to happen,
that love has to have pain, that there has to
be the struggles. Yes, there is pain there's growing pains
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and everything, but there's a difference between pain with purpose
and pain with how and we can't, like we mentioned
this podcast, we can't turn pain into purpose if we
continue to stay in the thing that is killing us completely,
you can't heal or grow and the thing that once
you're dead, there isn't no change there. So is this
thing actually bringing you peace or is it bringing you torment?
Like are you in the middle of a storm trying
to make it happen or is it actually beneficial for you?
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Love doesn't have to hurt, Success doesn't have to drain you.
It doesn't have to feel like you are completely obliterated
for it to exist. And I know we see this
in culture, right we think that we well, okay, not
to dive to the but I think romantic movies have
ruined a lot of things for us, Like we think
that we have to go through hoops and fight people
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and fight things and do all these extra things just
for this to actually happen. We don't like, there's no
reason for this to happen. But we fall back into
these routs and these routines because we think again that
this is what it's supposed to feel like like we think, well,
sacrifice is supposed to make me feel miserable. No, yes,
said no, Because yes, sacrifice doesn't mean that it's easy.
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Doesn't mean that it feels comfortable, because again it's sacrifice,
literally sacrifice. But it doesn't mean that you feel like
nothing is happening and you feel purposeless in it. That's
not sacrifice. That's not good sacrifice. At least you should
still feel purposeful, you should still feel peace. But it
doesn't mean that you just continue to stay that thing
because you think that it's supposed to hurt, because you're
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supposed to feel that way, that sacrifice is supposed to
be painful. No, everything that's peaceful and purposeful, while can
be painful, will actually show it self to be useful,
will show the goodness in it. You will never feel
like it's a rut. You'll see the progress because again,
it takes us out of the reality. Are you chasing
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or you're pursuing. If you're chasing, you have to tire,
you have to do the most and have to be
extra and you'll never catch. If you're pursuing, then you're building, right,
You're building a bridge. We build out and up, we
build something with purpose. You're not being punished, You're being purified.
And I think that this is hard for us to
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understand because as we go to the things that are
meant for us and whatever that looks like for some
of us, we'll think that that is punishment. And sometimes
that good sacrifice, not necessarily the sacrifice that it's painful
and purposeless, but the sacrifice is painful and purposeful. That
sacrifice it feels painful because we think we're punished, but
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it's actually being purified. The things around you as you
grow and it's just change are gonna leave. And at
one of us don't realize is that pain is that
growth is painful because like again I use analogy often
like growing pains where your knees hurt, right, stuff like that.
Because this next stage that you were going into you've
never been in. You don't know what it feels like,
you don't know the struggles that are happening there. But
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if you were to rush this, if you were to
get to that next stage too quickly and the things
that are going to happen, is that you won't be
able to be the most purpose for you in that
stage because you didn't go through the growing pains that
it took. So you weren't ready to be in the
clothing and the shoes that are required to be in
the next stage. You aren't going to be hurt. And
it hurts more to have a chance to have something
and lose it because you were not prepared than it
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is to never have a thing at all. Like knowing
that you have the possibility in your hands but you
didn't do the word to prepare, or you weren't prepared
for it, and it falls through your hand, then that's
the most painful thing ever. If it's for you, you won't
have to chase, but you will have to prepare, and
you will have to be in a stage where you're
ready for when that thing exists. A lot of us
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want to be in the next stage of our lives,
but we're not doing the bare mine of the things now.
So what makes you think that you're gonna be able
to keep up with that? What makes you think that
you're thriving in that life if you haven't been here.
A lot of people say this often I agree with this.
If you can't manage ten thousand dollars, you're not going
to manage a million. Like it's just not gonna happen.
You're gonna think because you have more money, that you're
going to be able to do more. No, you will
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just lose more quicker if you can't manage the little things.
And the scripture tells us, right, if those you were
fruitful because you were faithful, and the little you'll be
trusted with more. Right, if you can't manage where you're
at now, that next stage in your life will kill you.
So being able to grow now, grow purpose and bear
fruit in this now will be beneficial later. But knowing
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that the thing that is for you, if you're doing
the work, it will be for you. You won't have
to change the things that are not for you because
the things are for you. Because the reality is that
if you have to chase again, you'll be tired and
to be out of your purpose. We're waiting in seasons
and this is I love that analogy often and again
this is if you don't follow faith. That's a very
common terminology in the Christian world where we say what
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we're rating in this next season of our lives. But
this next season of your life can be purposeful, but
it won't be outside of the effort that you're giving.
We repeat seasons, so again just that meaning of seasons.
It's like anything in the season fall, summer, spring, right,
we just categorize it that way because they look different.
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There are different things that are happening in that time.
And that's actually a great analogy because we get real deep.
We won't because we have a lot of time left
in this episode, but we can get real deep where
with different things grow in different seasons, and there are
different aspects of that season that go beneficial to the
timeframe we're in. Like, I can't want a season that
is beneficial and purposeful in the summer to exist in
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the winter. It won't be the same, it won't have
the same purpose. So the season that you're in now
has to be congruent and beneficial to the time frame
and the work that you're doing. It has to be
in that place that you are actively in. And I
find the last point here. Everything you lose is in
a loss, and some things are exits wrapped in mercy.
Sometimes that the biggest prayer that's ever answered. I think
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that that is one of the greatest prayer ever heard.
One of the answers to prayer that's God not answering
the things that I've asked for, because those things would
have killed me, because I wasn't prepared to manage the
season that I thought I needed to be in, because
I wanted to stay able to grow in that thing.
Sometimes you want something to happen so bad and that
thing doesn't happen, and you think that your life is over.
But I need to understand that is the biggest gift
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that you have ever received, because that thing would have
killed you, like that thing would have ruined you. That
thing would have made you the first version of you.
And you thought you wanted this thing, but you were
so grappling with it, you were so gripped to it
that you were you couldn't see anything outside of it.
You only saw that. So what happens is that as
you are so engulfed in this thing, and as you
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want it to happen and forcing it to happen, and
it doesn't happen, you think that the world is over.
Imagine how much more it would have hurt if you
were in it completely I said, and completely in it,
and that thing would have hurt you, It would have
left you. That season would have ended, the career you
would have been fired, the relationship would have ended. You
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would have lost all the money, we lost, the whatever
it is, that thing would have hurt so much more
to lose. And while you were deeply in it, then
while you were still an exterior and even if you
were close to being that deep, it saved you from
years and years and years of struggling more with it.
The things that are for you you don't have to chase.
And again how reiterated, it always doesn't mean there's no work.
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But if they're for you, then these things will feel purposeful.
You won't feel lag or tired or out of peace,
but you always feel in purpose. So thank you for
being a part of this episode. And if you're made
it this far, first of all, thank you for listening
to the whole thing. One big ask that I don't
often make, and I'm just gonna make it here and
it might be good in the beginning of the next one,
just to be consistent. Last two things from you, Apparently
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personally was a lot, it was good. Like for me,
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I mean. Well, of course, for me, obviously, I would
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these words with people because this is what changes for me.
It allows me to be able to continue to do this,
but also because it helps people who might have not
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thought of these things, that think of these things, and
our job is just to be conduits for other people
to find their piece. That's really all we can do.
So thank you for being on this episode. Thank you
for listening or for watching if you're on YouTube, and
I hope to hear you. See you on the next one.
Take care,
So I want to be super clear here. Just because
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something is meant for you doesn't mean that you don't
do the work required to keep it. And I'm be
losing that term very loosely meant for you. And we'll
explain that a lot more detail a little bit. But
the reality is that some things are meant to be
for you. They're meant to be in your life. They're
meant to be a part of your life. But they
won't exist, they won't be present outside of the work
you actually put in. They won't exist if you don't
create the space for them to actually live and thrive.
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We can't expect something that's meant for us to stay
in our lives if we don't actually create the space
for that thing to thrive. You are asking for these
huge things. You want these huge things in your life.
You want us the benefits of all these amazing things,
but refuse to do the little things that will make
you comfortable enough to keep that thing in there. There's
this character building that happens in the waiting and the
moments that you are creating the thing, creating the space,
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doing the work required to make this thing happen. There's
something powerful that happens in that moment. There's some character
building that we all need, and we can't expect these
amazing things to be in our lives, let alone flourish,
if we don't create the space for them to exist.
It's impossible to grow into what will serve you if
you're still holding onto what didn't like. What if this
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next season of your waiting is required in your release,
not on your hustle like, not on your perfection, not
on you having everything figured out, not on you doing
the most or being an extra, but simply the things
that you're willing to step into. This is made for
this mountain with Josh Rosa, or we're turning pain into purpose.
It is impossible to grow into what's for you and
we will actually serve you if you're holding onto what
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didn't like. What's next in this season isn't it's waiting
on your release, letting go of the things that you
didn't succeed, are the things that weren't tangibly good. But
this next season of your life is not going to
require more hustle, is going to require more release, because
sometimes we are trying to force things that clearly do
not work, clearly did not mean to work clearly or
not serving us. We're trying to force those things to exist,
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and for a lot of us, unfortunately, we create this
this terrible division between our actual life, our goodness, the
things that are going to be beneficial to us, and
the things that we're stuck in. Because we've made the
things that we think we need, we made those the
center point of everything else. And I need you to
understand that there is no point in your life where
you trying to force something that actively shows you that
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it does not belong into your life, is ever going
to be beneficial for you. Like, there's no point where
that thing is going to make sense. So our insight
here if neuroscience shows us that there's something called the
cognitive and emotional overwhelming and it limits our ability to
think clearly, to take risks, or to even spot new opportunities.
Until you release something, your brain literally has no capacity
to receive something new. Now, this is how big that is.
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That's neuroscience showing this is reality that until we let
go of the things that are taking up space, we
don't create a space for the things that belong to live.
You are holding on to something or someone or era
in your life that you think you still need, but
it's showing you that it doesn't belong. And until you
let that thing go, you do not create the adequate
space for the thing that's going to thrive and make
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you the most best version of you, the most beneficial,
most powerful, most movie, most inspirational of you to be
existed to exist in this world. And we keep holding
onto these things because we think that these things are
eventually going to pay off. I need you to weigh
that because the things that are beneficial for you are
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not things that are going to force you to feel
outside of your peace. I'm not saying thoseesn't require work.
That's the first thing I even said. These things will
require work. But there's a difference between work that is
fruitful and work that is purposeless. If you're trying to
force something into existence, you're not allowing yourself the space
to receive. To receive, you're not allowing yourself the space
to be, and what's good for you. Releasing isn't giving up.
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It's refocusing your energy. It's you allowing what serves you
to grow. It's allowing this freedom. You allow yourself, this
freedom to see and not to fear what you're unable
to finish. We stay in these ruts because we've created
this almost placeholder mentality for these things, thinking that if
we continue to envision them in certain places, even though
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they are not beneficial for us, even though they're not
serving us, though they haven't been to us, if we
think that at some point they're going to be good
to us. We think that at some point they're going
to realize how good this thing is or how great
this opportunity for us will be. I need you to
stop holding on to what you've imagined and start taking
accountability for what's real, what's in front of you, what's
a tangible thing? Is this thing actually purposeful and good?
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Is it bringing you peace? Or are you sitting here
trying to convince something to be what it's not. I
think we struggle with this so often because it's so
easy for us to fall back into that, it's so
easy for us to revert to the thing that used
to be the thought pattern that we add that we
don't allow ourselves this freedom to actually grow. This mountain
that we're talking about, this mountain of knowing what's meant
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for you, like it's meant for you you wouldn't have
to chase. And I don't mean I don't mean don't
do work. I don't mean don't show up. I mean
you won't have to chase things that are actively running
from you. The things that are for you will create
this this understanding that yes, again it requires work, Yes
it requires dedication, It requires you showing up, it requires
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you pursuing. But there's a difference between pursuit and chase.
Pursuit desires to exist, Chase desires to get away from
and the things that you have to consistently chase are
going to leave you tired. So we're going to dive
you deeper into these points and this reality and this
thought process. But whatever it is in your life, I
need you to understand that there are things that you
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attract and there are things that you're attached. When we
attract things, we allow ourselves to be in the thing
that is naturally for us. When we attach, is that
we're pulling onto something or holding on for dear life
to a thing that is actively trying to remove us.
And there is no peace in the things that you
have to attach to. Leeches, that's the other words leech,
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is that we're sitting here trying to attach to something
to get some morciple of blood, some morciple of energy,
of food that's left over when you are attaching, we
are not the best version of us. We're attaching because
we're begging something to pick us. We're begging something to
feed into us. We're begging this thing to see the
benefit of having us. But in reality is there is
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no benefits to something that's leaching. There is no benefit
to something that is attached because there's no mutual want
or for there's just you desiring this and this thing
actively running from you. And when we're able to sit
back and really analyze that, am I actually giving something
like this? Am I actually serving into it? Is actually growing?
Is it fruitful? Is it purposeful? Or am I just attached?
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And when we learn to attach, when we learn that
we're attached, this is when we start actively looking to detach.
We start actively creating this space to move away, because
it's so much easier for us to look at this
thing and blame ourselves instead of looking at it and saying, well,
this thing does not belong in my life and it's
not serving, it's not purposeful for me. And we'll talk
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a little bit more after this real quick commercial brain.
One of the things I wish I knew earlier in
my life is that I didn't need to be extra
for what was for me, Like I simply just needed
to be me, Like I didn't need to over share
or show up more or overpoor, or do the most
or sit and be anything extra for anything that actually
belonged to me, anything that was a part of my
life that was gonna be fruitful in my life, that
was gonna be bringing peace, I was gonna be beneficial.
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I didn't need to be somebody I wasn't for those
things to be attached in my life for those things
to come and be a part of me, Because if
I have to pretend to be anything else outside of me,
I'm always gonna have to pretend like I'm always going
to be this extra thing that isn't just good, that
isn't just me, that isn't just a present person that
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I am, But it's the imitation of what I think
that they would love. And the reason that we struggle
so much with healthy relationships and friendships and family members
and all these things. We struggle with this so much
because we pretend to be something else so when we
get into these situations, it's not just that we're pretending
to be something else. Now I have to act differently
consistently all the way through just to be present to that.
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And we create this struggle in hus because and now
it's not enough for me to just be myself. I
need to be the person that you wanted me to be.
The greatest thing I've ever discovered is that me being
me will always keep the people that love me around,
and they'll push away the people that don't. The greatest
lesson that you'll ever learn is that is that you
are responsible for what you can do, and not the
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outcome of anything else that anyone else is around, not
what they hear and not what they receive, but simply
what you're able to do yourself. And the season of
growth and growing into it's different and allowing ourselves to
not need to chase the things that are for us.
We have to come to that understanding that if it
does not freely flow, it is forced. If the thing
is not natural, it's it's a peculiar opposite. It's unnatural,
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and you have to be anything less than yourself to
keep it. If you have to pretend, if you have
to active, you have to be different, and you're not
actually attracting the things that are for you. You're attached
to the things you think you need. You're attached to
that mindset, that that thought pattern that you've created, that desire,
that dream, and not the thing that is good for you.
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And I know it's so easy to say sometimes right,
because we have to actually go through this and grieve
these realities that we're not with the things that we want,
we're not in the places that we want, we're not
in the world or the lives of the career. And
I want to speak into that actually because before we
get into deeper, I need you to understand that again,
this ties to absolutely everything. And I know most people
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we run to like relationships and stuff like that. I
honestly think that should be the guess, it's a real problem,
but that should be the last thing that you're ever
really focusing on, because healthy relationships will fruit will be
fruit from this or they will grow from this particular thing.
But I think that for a lot of us, we've
created a life that we think that the next stage
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is the happy stage of our lives. The best part
is the next part, and it can be a good part,
but it doesn't have to be the best part. The
best part is the part you're in now. When you
start realizing at the moments that you're in, or the
moments you have to enjoy because they're so limited, everything
else changes. You don't feel forced to think, Okay, well
if I take this in this next career, and if
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I do this next thing, and if if I do
this extra work, then okay, then that's why I'm gonna
be happy. And I want to be clear. I'm not
saying don't like prepare. I'm not saying don't hope, don't dream.
I'm not saying don't set yourself up for the future.
What I am saying is though that you might not
have the future, like tomorrow is not guarantee, you like
next month isn't guaranteed. So now, what are you enjoying now?
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What are the fruits that you're in now? And I
get it, I'm a person. I'll be completely honest with
you if you're listening to this podcast. First of all,
I'm so grateful for you, and I'm only able to
help anyone by being fully vulnerable myself. And there was
a stage in my life where I was really struggling,
like there were stages in my life where my bank
account was constantly negative, if there were stages in my
life where I'm sitting here thinking none of this is working,
like none of the things that I want to do.
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Even now, even in this stage that I'm in right now,
I'm still looking at things like what if this doesn't work?
Like what if the success is for the season. I
remember I was praying with that. I had this word
for me, and I hope this helps you. As I'm
praying with this thing, I'm sitting there, I'm like, man,
but I have to enjoy this right because yeah, what
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if it doesn't work? Yeah, okay, what if it does
that great other other option, whatever it does. But what
doesn't matter is that what matters is right now is
a season that you're in and enjoying what you can enjoy. Yes,
the problems are not gonna go away. They're gonna exist regardless.
So the option is what do I give authority to
do I consistently choose to sit here and be anxious
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and be worried about everything else, or do I actually
give myself the grace and the space to actually enjoy
you where I'm at right now. There are stages in
my life. Like I said that I was terrible, that
I was terrible financially, that I was in all these
crappy situations. Right now, I mean the best I've ever
been and way more than I've ever could have anticipated.
And I've been gifted way more, and I've been loved
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and showed into way more. But it doesn't matter. It's
enjoying the moment because even your terrible, worst moment ever,
if you are looking only for the bad, I promise you,
I promise you, everything will be bad. If you're only
looking for that negative thing, everything in your life will
be negative. But if you actively sit here in search
and just try to find the good. And yes, I'm
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not diminishing it, not saying that it's leaving, not saying
that it's gonna go away, but when we actively look
for those things, we allow ourselves the ability to enjoy
and actually baskett in those things, actually be in what's
good and not the man that everything is bad. So
just the reality that yes, if it's yours, you don't
have to chase it. But also you have to enjoy
the stages that you're in, the places that you're in
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because none of this is going to grow without you.
And I firmly, firmly, firmly believe this that when our
vision on this changes, when our perspective changes on this,
everything around this changes. Because if I'm able to see
the good even in the bad, I will only focus
on the good so much so that I'll amplify it,
that I'll make it a part of me, that my
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response to everything is from this good place and not
this miserable place. And if this is you, this is
you that's struggling with the season right now, not being
able to find the good, I want you to take
a second and just think to yourself, what have you
been focusing on? Is the thing that you hyper focus
on the terrible thing that's happening, or is it the good?
Or is it the post the little things, the little
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little moments of joy, the little moments of spending time
with friends, the little moments of just doing the little things.
We're so focused on the big Again. I'm not saying
don't prepare, do what you have to do, plan accordingly,
work accordingly, but don't make those things the highlight of
your life, because you might not live it. You might
not get to those points. So as we continue on
with this reality of choosing the things that are yours,
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and if it's yours, you don't have to chase it. Right,
there's this mountain of being in things that are not
beneficial or good for us. We need to learn more
to love more what we endure it and not what
we were stuck with, not not obsessed over what left.
But reality is that it's a gift to have the
ability to be able to choose what's for you, choose
what's choosing you, and staying in those things and not
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staying in this thought process of what left, because in
that same breath, as we just mentioned right before that
a lot of us obsess over things that we have
no authority in. The obsessed over things that we have
no control over, and will continue to be in those things,
and they'll continue to kill us because it's our struggle
in this ability to let go of things. It's okay
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to let go of the things that were gonna kill you.
It's okay to outgrow the things that you thought were
meant to be a part of your life. It's okay
to look at these things that you gave so much
love and authority to and say, this thing doesn't serve
me anymore. So I'm not gonna continue to pour into it.
I'm not gonna continue to beg or plea for the
things that were meant for me, because if it's meant
for me, I will never have to be less of
me to receive it. I want you to take the
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season and enjoy and embrace the things that remained. And
if the things that remained were just strength, if the
things that remained were just growth in you, and that's
a gift, that's the reality of this. Sometimes we over
obsessed over the things that we thought were meant to
be in our life because we think that if we
let go of that thought, if we stop thinking about it,
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if we just if we get over, we healed, and
then we don't allow that thing to have its place
in our life. That's a lot you don't It's beautiful
to hold on to memories. It's beautiful to know that
this thing served a season and it was good in
that season. But it doesn't mean that this next season
of your life has to have it in it. And again,
I know I'm not saying that it's easy. I'm saying
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that it's real because one thing. It's it's to say, okay, well,
I can just heal from everything, because if you were
able to just heal from anything right away and not
not dwell on those things or not be able to
bring that pain in that memory, then it never actually mattered.
So it's okay to understand that there is a purpose
for that, but that season should remain as a season.
It should not remain as a thing that you are
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consistently living in because you'll never grow, never heal, and
never allow the space, like we mentioned before, for the
things that belong to belong, you'll struggle with this bad
and for a lot of us, we struggle with that
consistently because no one's ever mentioned it to us. We
never actually sat down and analyzed, why is it that
I'm still holding onto this thing that isn't choosing me?
Because it was meant for me. I wouldn't be chasing it.
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It was meant for me, I wouldn't be forcing it.
The realities is that as you grow, as you progress,
as you change, everything else around you changes, Like when
you become better at certain things, when you could become
more efficient, when you are better at your timing, where
you're better at your career, whatever that thing is. When
you become better at it, everything around those things becomes better.
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When that becomes the heart of it, the focus of it,
everything in that place improves. And sometimes, unfortunately, as we improve,
certain people don't improve with us. And there are certain
people for different reasons. That doesn't mean you don't love them,
you don't care about them, but they don't go into
the seasons that you're going into because they can't serve
the places that you're in. They are not meant to
be in those places. And I know we struggle a
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lot with growth because we think, well, if these people
were my friends, or if I was in relationships with
these people, whatever it is, we think that they're going
to be in every page of our book. There are
some that absolutely will, but there are many who benefit
from the worst version of you. There are many people that,
as you improve, can't go to that next stage because
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they're so used to the lower stage of you that
they can't relate to this person of you that desires
to be better. And the worst case scenario is that
those people bring you down. Now again, I'm not saying
that you change and you be fake, because a lot
of people look at this and say, well, that's being fake, right,
I'm not being fake to a person that I've known forever. No,
because you have to be able to distinguish. There's a
difference between people who are good for you and people
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who are good for the season. There's a difference between
people who are benefiting from the things that you were doing,
from the lack of lovely craft for yourself of the
person that you're pretending to be. There's so many people
that benefit from that, and we have to be able
to distinguish between those two things. Are these people that
are meant for life? Are these people that are still
in this season and that season doesn't benefit you, If
it doesn't help you, if it's not where you're going
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and align with the growth, then unfortunately those people have
to be removed. And as you get better, as you grow,
unfortunately those things are shown. So if these people are
meant to be in your life, if they're meant to
grow with you, then they will again follow those same
exact rules that for everything else. They produce fruit in
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your life. They're beneficial for you, they're good to you,
they bring you peace, I hopefully all those things. And
if they don't, if they're just bringing you back to
a person that you used to be that you don't
need if they're causing gossip or distinguish or hate. I think,
and again, I speak from these things mostly through experience,
either through studied word or reading or books or with
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their experience. But this is one of those things that
I absolutely speak from experience, because I think the most
peaceful moments in my life, the most peaceful era of
my life comes from not having a lot of people
around me, like not having access or people not having
access to me. And it's not that I think I'm
better than anyone or that I'm the greatest or none
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of that stuff. It's completely about me putting myself in
a place where I refuse to be a part of
things that are terrible for me. I refuse to be
around people who are constantly gossiping. I refuse to be
around people who have nothing good happening. I refuse to
be If you're a friend group, and this is an
important thing you need to understand. If the people that
you have around you only gossip about other people, the
people you have around you are only doing drugs or
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just drinking. The other people you have around you are
only doing these terrible things. And these are not beneficial
people for you, like for your soul, for your health,
for your life. They're not good for you because think
about it, only miserable people are so preoccupied with other people.
They're so concerned about this. So if every time you
are around these people all you do is bash other people,
I need you to understand that these people are not
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meant to be in the good seasons of your life.
They are gonna be there because you are there now.
But it's not people that step into this next thing.
As you grow, as you change, things around you change.
You can't do the same thing and expect a new outcome.
It won't be different because you'll revert back to these
places that you shouldn't be. You'll revert back into these
holes that you should change. You can't step into these
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new levels of life living in a version of you
that's old. So if these things are meant for you,
you wouldn't have to force them. And as we stay
on this mountain and we talk about that reality where
we're chasing the things that don't actually belong, we're trying
to force them to stay. You wouldn't chase it if
it was for you, and we'll talk a little bit
more after this quick commercial break. So the biggest point here,
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what I think is this. Probably we have a couple
more there, but I think this is the most important
one because I've mentioned it so many times already. What
belongs to you won't compete for your piece, like the
thing that is meant to be in your life. Won't
make you feel like you have to compete with it,
like what'll make you feel like it's going to go
against the natural flow of things and will make you
feel like you're miserable in it. It won't make you
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feel like there's no fruit in it. I'm not saying
again there's no work, because there is work, but it
won't make you feel like nothing is good. It won't
make you feel like you're terrible. The part of you
that is meant to be in this thing and this
is everything you can This is an easible, easily discerned word.
We can discern this very easily. We'll take an example
of a relationship because I know this is one of
these struggles that we often see. It's like low hanging
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through and I say it all the time. You're chasing
something and it's never reciprocal. There's no efforts, nothing giving
back to you. It's nothing that's given to you. This
thing is not serving your piece. It isn't. It's impossible
for it to serve a peace because it's going literally
against your piece. It's going against the thing that is
healthy and good for you. It's making you feel like
you're less than it's making you feel like you're not
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good if it's causing you chaos, And we do that often.
We trade off our piece for chaos and we call
it potential. We trade off the things that are good
for us, and we overwrite our intuition thinking, well, you
know what this person might change or they might offer
something different. We do this often because we want to
see the good. We want to see this thing happen.
But why are you chasing? Are you chasing the thing
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that's for you? Why are you willing to trade off
your peace and your joy for this thing to exist?
Like there's no reason, no logical or no tangible reason
for us to do this, But we keep falling into
this because we think that if we allow this to happen,
that love has to have pain, that there has to
be the struggles. Yes, there is pain there's growing pains
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and everything, but there's a difference between pain with purpose
and pain with how and we can't, like we mentioned
this podcast, we can't turn pain into purpose if we
continue to stay in the thing that is killing us completely,
you can't heal or grow and the thing that once
you're dead, there isn't no change there. So is this
thing actually bringing you peace or is it bringing you torment?
Like are you in the middle of a storm trying
to make it happen or is it actually beneficial for you?
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Love doesn't have to hurt, Success doesn't have to drain you.
It doesn't have to feel like you are completely obliterated
for it to exist. And I know we see this
in culture, right we think that we well, okay, not
to dive to the but I think romantic movies have
ruined a lot of things for us, Like we think
that we have to go through hoops and fight people
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and fight things and do all these extra things just
for this to actually happen. We don't like, there's no
reason for this to happen. But we fall back into
these routs and these routines because we think again that
this is what it's supposed to feel like like we think, well,
sacrifice is supposed to make me feel miserable. No, yes,
said no, Because yes, sacrifice doesn't mean that it's easy.
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Doesn't mean that it feels comfortable, because again it's sacrifice,
literally sacrifice. But it doesn't mean that you feel like
nothing is happening and you feel purposeless in it. That's
not sacrifice. That's not good sacrifice. At least you should
still feel purposeful, you should still feel peace. But it
doesn't mean that you just continue to stay that thing
because you think that it's supposed to hurt, because you're
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supposed to feel that way, that sacrifice is supposed to
be painful. No, everything that's peaceful and purposeful, while can
be painful, will actually show it self to be useful,
will show the goodness in it. You will never feel
like it's a rut. You'll see the progress because again,
it takes us out of the reality. Are you chasing
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or you're pursuing. If you're chasing, you have to tire,
you have to do the most and have to be
extra and you'll never catch. If you're pursuing, then you're building, right,
You're building a bridge. We build out and up, we
build something with purpose. You're not being punished, You're being purified.
And I think that this is hard for us to
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understand because as we go to the things that are
meant for us and whatever that looks like for some
of us, we'll think that that is punishment. And sometimes
that good sacrifice, not necessarily the sacrifice that it's painful
and purposeless, but the sacrifice is painful and purposeful. That
sacrifice it feels painful because we think we're punished, but
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it's actually being purified. The things around you as you
grow and it's just change are gonna leave. And at
one of us don't realize is that pain is that
growth is painful because like again I use analogy often
like growing pains where your knees hurt, right, stuff like that.
Because this next stage that you were going into you've
never been in. You don't know what it feels like,
you don't know the struggles that are happening there. But
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if you were to rush this, if you were to
get to that next stage too quickly and the things
that are going to happen, is that you won't be
able to be the most purpose for you in that
stage because you didn't go through the growing pains that
it took. So you weren't ready to be in the
clothing and the shoes that are required to be in
the next stage. You aren't going to be hurt. And
it hurts more to have a chance to have something
and lose it because you were not prepared than it
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is to never have a thing at all. Like knowing
that you have the possibility in your hands but you
didn't do the word to prepare, or you weren't prepared
for it, and it falls through your hand, then that's
the most painful thing ever. If it's for you, you won't
have to chase, but you will have to prepare, and
you will have to be in a stage where you're
ready for when that thing exists. A lot of us
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want to be in the next stage of our lives,
but we're not doing the bare mine of the things now.
So what makes you think that you're gonna be able
to keep up with that? What makes you think that
you're thriving in that life if you haven't been here.
A lot of people say this often I agree with this.
If you can't manage ten thousand dollars, you're not going
to manage a million. Like it's just not gonna happen.
You're gonna think because you have more money, that you're
going to be able to do more. No, you will
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just lose more quicker if you can't manage the little things.
And the scripture tells us, right, if those you were
fruitful because you were faithful, and the little you'll be
trusted with more. Right, if you can't manage where you're
at now, that next stage in your life will kill you.
So being able to grow now, grow purpose and bear
fruit in this now will be beneficial later. But knowing
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that the thing that is for you, if you're doing
the work, it will be for you. You won't have
to change the things that are not for you because
the things are for you. Because the reality is that
if you have to chase again, you'll be tired and
to be out of your purpose. We're waiting in seasons
and this is I love that analogy often and again
this is if you don't follow faith. That's a very
common terminology in the Christian world where we say what
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we're rating in this next season of our lives. But
this next season of your life can be purposeful, but
it won't be outside of the effort that you're giving.
We repeat seasons, so again just that meaning of seasons.
It's like anything in the season fall, summer, spring, right,
we just categorize it that way because they look different.
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There are different things that are happening in that time.
And that's actually a great analogy because we get real deep.
We won't because we have a lot of time left
in this episode, but we can get real deep where
with different things grow in different seasons, and there are
different aspects of that season that go beneficial to the
timeframe we're in. Like, I can't want a season that
is beneficial and purposeful in the summer to exist in
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the winter. It won't be the same, it won't have
the same purpose. So the season that you're in now
has to be congruent and beneficial to the time frame
and the work that you're doing. It has to be
in that place that you are actively in. And I
find the last point here. Everything you lose is in
a loss, and some things are exits wrapped in mercy.
Sometimes that the biggest prayer that's ever answered. I think
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that that is one of the greatest prayer ever heard.
One of the answers to prayer that's God not answering
the things that I've asked for, because those things would
have killed me, because I wasn't prepared to manage the
season that I thought I needed to be in, because
I wanted to stay able to grow in that thing.
Sometimes you want something to happen so bad and that
thing doesn't happen, and you think that your life is over.
But I need to understand that is the biggest gift
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that you have ever received, because that thing would have
killed you, like that thing would have ruined you. That
thing would have made you the first version of you.
And you thought you wanted this thing, but you were
so grappling with it, you were so gripped to it
that you were you couldn't see anything outside of it.
You only saw that. So what happens is that as
you are so engulfed in this thing, and as you
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want it to happen and forcing it to happen, and
it doesn't happen, you think that the world is over.
Imagine how much more it would have hurt if you
were in it completely I said, and completely in it,
and that thing would have hurt you, It would have
left you. That season would have ended, the career you
would have been fired, the relationship would have ended. You
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would have lost all the money, we lost, the whatever
it is, that thing would have hurt so much more
to lose. And while you were deeply in it, then
while you were still an exterior and even if you
were close to being that deep, it saved you from
years and years and years of struggling more with it.
The things that are for you you don't have to chase.
And again how reiterated, it always doesn't mean there's no work.
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But if they're for you, then these things will feel purposeful.
You won't feel lag or tired or out of peace,
but you always feel in purpose. So thank you for
being a part of this episode. And if you're made
it this far, first of all, thank you for listening
to the whole thing. One big ask that I don't
often make, and I'm just gonna make it here and
it might be good in the beginning of the next one,
just to be consistent. Last two things from you, Apparently
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I need people to go rate this episode, so our
episodes in general. So I would be awesome for me
if you could just give up whatever your honest opinion is,
that'd be great as five stars. But whatever, and share,
share this episode or somebody and it's weird. I was
actually listening to episode thirteen today and if for me
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personally was a lot, it was good. Like for me,
I needed to hear that. So I'm going to ask
that if you feel like there's anything benefits for someone
you know, share it, because I think that's the only way.
I mean. Well, of course, for me, obviously, I would
love this to happen so I can continue to share
these words with people because this is what changes for me.
It allows me to be able to continue to do this,
but also because it helps people who might have not
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thought of these things, that think of these things, and
our job is just to be conduits for other people
to find their piece. That's really all we can do.
So thank you for being on this episode. Thank you
for listening or for watching if you're on YouTube, and
I hope to hear you. See you on the next one.
Take care,
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