April 8, 2022 • 26 mins
Why are people so mean to men who are balding? Carla Marie claims she is a hungry hostage. One positive interaction can change your entire day!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So we're not doing like the Happy Anniversary Show today
because we haven't hit technically that anniversary date. We're going
to do that next week. I guess when we're not together.
Oh yeah, you'll be in New Jersey. I'll be in Washington.
But that's actually kind of cool because that will span
the places we've done My Day Friday the most. Well,
we really have only have we ever done Monday Friday
(00:22):
in New Jersey like maybe a few times. No, But
I mean, just like everyone, I kind of lump New
York and New Jersey together. By the way, Welcome to
the podcast. My name is Anthony, I'm Carla Marie, and
I'm here against my will. Well, I was gonna say,
it's also called the Moday Friday Podcast. Why are you
here against your will? I'll explain. Okay, so what would
you like me to do? Now? Are you a hostagey?
(00:57):
It's Pete went from Far Boy and you're listening to
my two favorite people, Carla Marie and Anthony's Friday. Hi,
I'm carry hi on me, I'm dressing hi am jays.
I will and you'll listen to Welcome. Welcome, Welcome to
(01:19):
the podcast that started it all for the Carla Marine
Anthony Show. This is what we did before we had
a Twitch show, what we did before we had the
morning show podcast, what we did before we had a
radio station or a YouTube channel. We were working for
the biggest radio show in the world. Yeah, but we
weren't a show on the radio yet. We were just
like you know, the Little Minions. This was the thing
(01:40):
that connected us together and now here we are. Yeah,
and this is how people saw us as you know,
a quote unquote brand, which I actually hate that term. No,
I like it because then what else are you gonna say,
A show, a book. I don't know. So because people
will always say things and I'm sure, I'm sure if
you have anyone who's worked in entertainment or in social
media before, or you've heard them like, well, that's just
(02:01):
my brand, it's my brand. But we don't say that.
We don't say that's just my brand. But people use that,
and I feel like they use it wrong because I
don't think. I don't think you can have a personal brand.
And I know there's people out there who are like, oh,
but my business, you know, and you're and you can
have a chance to rebuttal in a second, your personal
(02:22):
brand is just a new way of saying your reputation. Right,
a brand. When I think of a brand, I think
of something that multiple people can ruin. No, because when
I think of brand, I generally think of products. Right,
So Dorrito's is the first thing that comes to mind, Right,
I know the Dorrito's brand, Like, their reputation isn't ruined
(02:46):
even when I found out they were putting less chips
and bags. No, but what I'm saying is multiple people
are are accountable for that brand? Right when it's just you,
You're the one that's accountable for it's just your reputation.
It's like a trendy ay of saying reputation. Now. But okay,
to a celebrity, yes, But to a small business owner
(03:08):
or an influencer whose brand is I don't know, coaching
people and being a small business, right, that is their
personal brand, I wouldn't say it's a reputation. I don't know.
I think I think there's a great reputation is part
of your brand, But it's not only your brand. Um,
what do we Why did you say originally, Carlamury that
(03:28):
you were here against your will because Anthony, we were
getting ready to this podcast. No, we weren't. You said
to me, we have to do Monday Friday, and I said,
I just need to eat something, and you said, you
know what's gonna happen if you go cook, We're never
going to get this podcast on. Just do it. And
I said, fine, I'll eat a snack and I ate
a little energy ball that I made. I'm starving. My
(03:49):
brain doesn't even functioning, my eyeballs are broken. I'm hungry.
I know that we talked about food a lot last podcast,
because that was Carlamury went on her snack food rand,
which did you end up having? You didn't have any
snack food at the Monster truck Monster jam chicken fried
rice from Dn'tai Fung chicken fried rice. It's not a food.
(04:14):
That's food food, that's a snack, that's food zack. When
I'm taking backwards, see what happens when I'm hungry, I'm
calling snack foods. Carla Marie. Chicken fried rice in a
big gas plate. No, it's in a mini little box,
the same way you would get nachos, Carla Marie. That
plate is the size. That container is the size of
(04:37):
a medium to large to go container. If, by the way,
if you're in the Seattle area. If you're in the
Seattle area and you've gone to a Mariners game, they
also have Dn'tai Fung there. They also have restaurants and no, no,
But what I'm saying is you know the container size.
Even if you've never been to Monster Jam, if you've
been in the Seattle area, you know the container size.
(04:57):
That in no way, in apps lutely no way of
shape or form. You can have your opinion. Anthony, is
a snack? Did you say that to me? You can
have your opinion not in that. No, sometimes there are definitions.
In your opinion means nothing to a definition. No, that
is a food snack. It is not a a meal.
It is not a meal. Right, I didn't say it
(05:19):
was a meal. I said it was. I would say
chicken fingers are food snacks. I would agree with that
over chicken fried rice. It's multiple ingredients. That actually what
my mom says that if you sneeze when you're debating
something or unsure, it means it's true. What I'm saying,
food snacks are true. I don't know what I'm more
(05:40):
upset with at the moment. The fact that you think
chicken fried rice I'm gonna give you three things. I
don't know which of these three things that you can
tweet me at worst, Anthony, and you can tag Carl
the Marina as well the Carl the Marie. Which of
these three things are you more upset with? One the
fact that Carl the Marie believes an entire container of
(06:02):
chicken fried rice is a snack food snack different. Number
two the fact that Carla Marie and her mom somehow
believe if you sneeze while you say something, it's gotta
be true, which is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
(06:24):
Number three is the fact that Carla Marie has a
band aid on the studios stop from any blood. It's
not it was. It's a used no no, no, no.
It doesn't count as used. It doesn't count as used
to what you do with it. Okay, So go vote,
(06:46):
voter die. If you don't vote, you can't listen to
podcast anymore. No. Um, I it was super sunny yesterday,
so in Seattle hit seventy five degrees and I want
to be outside in the sun. So I saw a
scar on my leg from burning my skin off last year.
It's my curling iron. So I put this over the
scar because I know it gets darker in the sun.
(07:07):
And then I took it off and put on the
table and forgot it's not dirty. It's just like it's
the same thing as a scrunchy. It's not like it
wasn't open, it wasn't on open anything. Yeah. But here's
the thing. I don't know that, okay, but you do now, Okay,
So it's now for me, I'm not going to vote
for it as the thing I'm most upset with, but
someone else might. You know. What's so like one of
(07:28):
the top grossest things ever for me is no, no,
not thing I've done. What is when you see oh,
wet bandied in like a public pool or the ocean,
and then it like chases you like someone's hair, clump
of hair I hate, and I get it. It's not
the gym's fault, whether it's l a fitness and ballad
or any other big jim. There are a lot of
(07:51):
people using those showers, and there's only a certain amount
of times you can clean them throughout the day, so
at some points there's gonna be some grossness in those showers.
I hate because I you will usually do like a
quick scan right before you jump into a shower and
put in a public place. I hate when I've done
my quick skin or maybe I wasn't paying attention and
I get in and now mid shower, and I realized
(08:12):
there's like a band aid on the floor, or like
some gross hairs that are clumped up together. And I
get it. Listen, I'm a hairy person. Okay, I understand hair,
but there's something about someone else's hair when it's in
a shower and it's got soap on it, Well, it's
a scut like the conditioner, like that's on it. Please,
It's worse with women. Well, of course it is. Our
(08:35):
hair is just everywhere. I mean, you know, as a
former long haired person, I do. I actually just had someone,
a cousin of mine, asked me yesterday if I was
thinking about growing out my hair again, and I was like,
I just it's just too easy to have short hair.
I would like you to I don't know. I also listen,
I am in my mid thirties. My hairline has gone
(08:56):
back a little bit. I would say, you're in your
late I'm in the middle. I'm like as close, I'm
very very close to the middle. Anyway, um My hairline
obviously is a little further back than it was when
I grew out my hair at twenty one. But how
does that effect for growing it out? It just you
get to a point where like, I don't want to
be the older guy with long hair. No one wants
(09:19):
to be that guy because no one wants to be friends.
Like you know that guy. You've seen him, right, and
you're trying to know for thinking about the same person
I'm actually thinking about it. I'm not actually thinking about
a specific person right now. But everyone knows that guy,
and everyone has the same thought. Just like, hey man,
you got your Your hair is an unbalanced cecil right,
(09:42):
like all the weights in the back and nothing's in
the front. I think you could do like a puffy frow,
it like a depressing mullet. Like no party in the front,
all party in the back. I'm supposed to be business
in the front. Bald doesn't mean business. And again all
bald means business? B two B is that what be? Two?
(10:04):
Be means bald? Business? And listen, why do you shave it?
You had a nice shaped head? Uh? You know what
is that? When you had the n y in the side.
I had a mohawk went Okay, let's go back into
Anthony harstyles because for a while I was all over
the place. Um. One of my ex's families used to
call me Mr. Potato Head because I looked completely different
every time they saw me, not only because of my hair,
(10:28):
but like the hair in my head. I would change
pretty often, Like in the time they knew me, I
had long hair, I had mohawk, I had a buzzed head.
I had regular I guess quote unquote guy hair. Um.
But then I also like I changed the way I
dress often and are used to at least, and you
can grow beards, and my facial hair would change all
the time. So I was very much Mr Potato Head.
(10:49):
And you know, listen, that's what happens when you're a
fashion and style icon. I can't be boxed in with
one look. So what I was thinking about this recently,
I don't know why about my fashion about you like
you're when your head was buzzed, like would you do
it again? Buzzing it again? I don't know. I just
don't know what it'll look like now. I wish there
(11:12):
was a way to know. And this is something that
all guys deal with as they go once you hit
like one, as you get older, once you have like
that word, once you hit like twenty three or twenty four,
generally speaking, most men, we'll have their hair thin. I mean,
And you know what makes sense, because that's like when
our eggs starting Yeah, because for a long time, like
(11:32):
we didn't live past fifty. Literally the first time you
get your period, your eggs start disappearing. Well, isn't it.
You waste an egg every time, Not waste that's the
bad word to use there, but you lose an egg
and egg so that means I've been losing egg since
I was thirteen. I might have one left, okay. Um.
And it's funny because we we are talking about hair
(11:54):
right and obviously with the Will Smith Chris Brown slapped
the whole thing was about hair because of Jade's air
um an alopecia. Hair is such a weird thing because
so much emotion and religion. There's cultures, there's I mean,
like Native Americans, and I can't really speak to it.
I know we have a lot who listened to this
(12:14):
podcast and show, and they've been a part of the
journey with us. We've learned from them. Hair is so
important and uh Angela who listens from Spokane. I had
posted something about a high school graduate. He he was black,
and he they wouldn't let him walk a graduation because
of his hair. And I don't even I don't remember
what it was. It was like just like there was
nothing outrageous, like you could tell someone who had hot
(12:36):
pink hair, maybe they couldn't walk a graduation. Still not
acceptable to tell someone that, but it was just normal
to me. And I had posted that, and she was like,
this is what Native American men deal with all the time.
And I can go back in the messages she was
talking about just different things with the hair and whether
they want to wear um something from their culture they're
(12:56):
told they can't at graduation. And it's just but I
know that hair goes back a lot emotionally and spiritually
and all kinds of religion, tradition, all of that stuff.
But I also think hair is something that as a guy,
especially and listen, women have to worry about a lot
of things with physical appearance. I get it. I'm not
saying they're they're even um, but hair is something that
(13:19):
guys like panic about. The second you start losing your hair,
starts standing your hairline goes back. It is like the
world is crumbling around you. For a lot of men,
maybe not all, but for a lot of them, it's
something that like you're constantly thinking about. Well, my sister's
now husband and my niece's fiance both buzz their heads
because they started to lose their hair. I mean, one
(13:40):
of them is thirty three and the other one is
going to be thirty. But and here's the crazy part
about it. This is the crazy part, is that my
sister just made fun of him every day. And that
not even just her sister. I'm not I'm not isolating
your sister here, singling her out. We we make fun
of guys all the time. I mean we were kind
of doing it before with like the older dude with
(14:02):
the ponies, hil or the long hair. Right, so we're
we are a d guilty um. But imagine there's two
things that guys get made fun of. I know I'm
starting and stopping a lot of sentences, but there's two
things guys get made fun of a lot, which what
do you think about? It is so messed up? First
one his hair. The second someone starts losing their hair
(14:22):
or someone's bald or whatever. There are so many comments
about it, right, and let's use your sister for example,
making fun of her. Her husband's head was thinning. She
made a bunch of comments. He finally shaved it, and
I'm sure you have again. This is not to make
people feel bad. I want to be very clear. I'm
not trying to say anyone is terrible for their comments
(14:44):
or anything like that. But imagine this, Carlymory. Imagine instead
of a man losing his hair and being told what
to do about it, imagine on a daily basis, in
public and on public forums, people were like, hey, hey,
Carla Marie, you're getting a little bit, a little bit
of weight. Why don't you wear like bag your clothing
(15:06):
so you can hide that the chubby nous or your
boob right small? I want to get a boob job.
You decided to do that. But and I'm not, obviously
I'm not saying those things to you. And the other
thing that guys get made fun of for all the time.
And it's crazy because I used to see it on
dating apps. I know I was gonna say Penis eze no,
and I mean they do, but that's how harder like,
(15:28):
unless everyone knows what you're the size of your penis.
It's a hard thing to be made fun of the answer,
I guess height. Yeah, it's wild what we let people
get away with in making fun or talking about short men.
It's crazy, okay, And that goes to, right, what is
society expect of women? It truly is the same thing.
(15:51):
And we have these archaic ideas of like we need
a tall man who's got hair, I don't know, like
that's all a tall man and because he's the breadwinner
and he's the you know, supposed to be the protector
or whatever. And you need a woman who is a
child rearing age and has wide hips or whatever. But
(16:12):
it's also super skinny but has boobs, and like, it
doesn't make it. Like as much as we fight these stereotypes,
they're still there. Now. With that said, I have dated
men who are like the same height as me and
it's been fine. And you're not you're not terribly tall
because maybe they weren't say whether like three inches. Um.
But here's the craziest part about it, Right, I have
(16:33):
seen women and I know men are terrible, but I've
seen women on Instagram talk about hat fishing. Right, It's like, oh,
stop wearing hats in your in your Instagram or your
dating profile pictures because I need to know if you're
bald or not. I've literally seen women post that multiple
women app What if I was to go on a
(16:57):
dating app and say, hey, at least one of your
pictures I need to see your ugly ass regular face
without making or I would get ruined. You would get
dragged secondly, Or don't wear highways of jeans because they
make you look way better. M the other thing. Let's
go back to height now right, If there, I can't,
(17:18):
it gets me so mad. I can't tell you how
many times I have seen short men. Don't swipe right
on me if you're not five eight, don't swipe right
if you're not six, don't swipe right if you're a
short guy. These are why these women are single. But again,
to go back to, what if a guy did a
very similar thing. Imagine, imagine for if I even had
(17:43):
for a day on my dating profile, Hey, don't swipe
right if you're over a hundred and twenty pounds. But
but you can get you can do the sound And
I'm sure everyone had a visceral reaction as they were listening, right,
I'm sure you in your car or you and your headphones.
You're like, that's that would be so messed up. Yeah,
but here's the question, why is it different? Um, Because
(18:06):
weight is weight, I would say, I would say the
same for men, and I guess you can't even do
anything about your height exactly. And I've talked to a
lot of my shorter friends who have dealt with the dating,
the dating scene, especially online dating, where they literally have
women who will respond to them and say, you're too short. Stop,
(18:27):
stop stop it, show me them, show you who the
guys are. The girls don't want to see the conversation.
I don't have I don't have screenshots of all of this. Um,
But it's kind of wild when you think about the
things we let society get away with, just people in
society get away with. I don't know. And I will
always say women have a rough go, especially in the
(18:51):
world of social media. There are guys commenting on every
stupid thing. Not not for me anymore because I just
blocked all those dudes. And but but we see it, right,
we see guys being absolute pigs and whatnot. But it's
just it's just crazy. Both and I do like what
you said, that's why all those women complaining on dating
apps are still probably single. Like, well, yeah, maybe if
(19:12):
that's what your criteria. Also, if you're still single on
dating app, that doesn't mean you're mean, no, But if
you've got don't swipe right. If you have some of
these physical characteristics, good luck, because a piece of crap.
I feel like now of all times, like people are
going out, just get out, people are going to be
not on dating apps as much. They're like, go outside.
(19:34):
Do we think that the dating app bubble has popped
it will? I think it's still for hookups. I think
people are still hooking up on dating apps. It's so crazy,
but it kind of blows my mind when I hear friends,
family members talking about like, oh, I can't stand the
dating scene blah blah blah, and I'm I'm on all
(19:55):
the apps and they feel like that's the that's the requirement, right,
But in reality we should probably just be speaking to
human beings and and but I encourage you to put
your personal life before your job sometimes. That was actually
one of my biggest pet peeves when it came to
(20:16):
the dating apps, was the difference in how people treated
you based on connecting with you on a dating app
or meeting you in person at like a bar or
a social event. Oh, it's never. I never really had
any mean or weird dudes on dating apps. I it wasn't.
I mean. I had a couple of mean ones. We
talked about one on the air, which was wild. Um.
(20:39):
But the thing that always got me was in profiles,
seeing things like I'm not here to waste my time.
It's like, no, I get that and want and at
a certain age, I understand that your your patience where thin.
Where is thin. However, if you met someone at a
(21:01):
bar right you thought they were attractive, you had a
funny moment together, your first comment after that initial moment,
after that initial connection, wouldn't be I'm not here to
waste my time, right, You would just get to know
the person. And I feel like we've lost that because
everything is so Amazon primed. Right, everything is at your
(21:23):
door when you want it to be there. We don't
live in a world where we wait for things anymore.
Like this podcast, you just whatever you want it. You
can listen to the podcast. You don't have to listen
at a certain time. And I think because of that,
we think that humans are supposed to act that way
as well, and respond quickly, whether it's dating, app or
email or whatever. Back off. I got things to do,
and you know, talking about going out like you said,
(21:44):
Carlin Marie, like put your personal life first, go out there.
I was listening to an audio book and I'm going
to pull up the name of it. It's pretty boring
in the beginning, so I don't know if I would
suggest the book. The last couple chapters are okay. It's
called Social Chemistry, Decoding the Patterns of Human Connection, and
it talks about how some people are conveners, some people
(22:07):
are there's whatever, different names. But the chapter I'm in
now is talking about like personal connections, and there's actual
research out there that says a fleeting, positive conversation with
a stranger triggers the same exact brain and emotional response
(22:27):
that a great conversation with your partner does. And I
love talking to strangers. And we've talked about this before too.
It's just even if I never see someone again, I
love meeting people. And one of the reasons they say
that is because, generally speaking, when you meet a stranger,
although people kind of forgot how to act generally speaking,
(22:48):
when you meet a stranger, you put your best foot forward,
which when you do that, you're already you're already putting
yourself in a more positive space. And oftentimes, unfortunately, with
our partners, with our family, with our friends, we oftentimes
forget that we should still put effort into those reactions,
into those interactions on a daily basis. And that's why
(23:09):
sometimes it might feel like it's uh dragging, It might
feel like boring taken for granted, because it starts from
within and if you put the effort and you feel
like it's a more positive interaction. It was just a
cool little thing to go towards getting out there and
meeting people in public. Yeah, do it, and they've done
research on um and go out and talk to a
(23:31):
stranger where you look great, sir? It when someone says
you look great, you can respond. Did I tell you
the most recent guy who said that to me at
the gym? So I was wearing it you look great shirt.
It was the Neon yellow one. And we can end
with this. I know carlmer is hungry. And by the way,
you look great. Store is open. You look great, dot
c O, go check it out. I'm gonna make me
a food snack, make yourself a food meal. I was
(23:52):
at the gym and a guy named Tyler came up
to me. We were near the same piece of equipment,
and because of the way it was positioned, he actually
helped me put some of the weights on and he
saw my shirt. He said, you look great, and I
took my headphones out. I was like what he said, Oh,
you look great? It was I saw the short. I
seen you here a bunch of times wearing similar shirts.
I was like, yeah, it's it's my company, so I
have a bunch of them that I wear here. I
(24:12):
started chatting those. You know, I actually thought, because you've
been coming here for a while. I said, yeah, about
five years. He said, uh, because I'm pretty sure I've
seen you on a plane wearing something similar going back
to New York. And I was like, yeah, it is
my brand, and we have hoodies and I do fly
back to New York, New Jersey pretty often because that's
where I'm from. And we got to we got to
talk and said goodbye later, and even though I have
(24:34):
not seen or talked to Tyler since, my day was
better because of that conversation. And it's like flight attendants specifically, Actually,
when I'm wear you look great and I'm boarding and
they're like right there, you're forced to have that conversation
because they're they're waiting. They're like, Oh, that's a cute sweater.
Are you the creator? I love your earrings? Like they
always compliment something on you or oh, how do you
like that bag? Or whatever? And just even if it's
(24:55):
not complimenting someone asking them a question about something that
where'd you get that? And that's all a compliment too,
I like that, where do you get that? Like people
like talking about their things. And another thing that this
book talks about is those brief interactions the oh nice shoes, right,
and then you walk away and you never see that
person again. Not only doesn't make that person feel better,
(25:16):
but each participant in that conversation, generally speaking, has a
better overall experience for their entire day get out of
town because of that experience. We're going to put this
in an ad on Instagram with our you look grade gere.
What this quote that you're saying, Oh, I've got to
go back and read it properly, listen to it properly. Well,
(25:38):
come on, come on, what we can use this? Hey,
people like when you interact with them by our shirts
and interact with for real. Thank you very much for
hanging out with us. You could have done anything with
the past six minutes of your life, but you chose,
for some odd reason to press a bunch of buttons
to open an app and end up here. So thank
(26:00):
you very very much for taking the time out to
do that. Carlon Brandy. Last words of food snack wisdom,
Um Anthony, just a warning, don't move your chair because
Caroline's under it. Cat's got a death wish.
So we're not doing like the Happy Anniversary Show today
because we haven't hit technically that anniversary date. We're going
to do that next week. I guess when we're not together.
Oh yeah, you'll be in New Jersey. I'll be in Washington.
But that's actually kind of cool because that will span
the places we've done My Day Friday the most. Well,
we really have only have we ever done Monday Friday
(00:22):
in New Jersey like maybe a few times. No, But
I mean, just like everyone, I kind of lump New
York and New Jersey together. By the way, Welcome to
the podcast. My name is Anthony, I'm Carla Marie, and
I'm here against my will. Well, I was gonna say,
it's also called the Moday Friday Podcast. Why are you
here against your will? I'll explain. Okay, so what would
you like me to do? Now? Are you a hostagey?
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It's Pete went from Far Boy and you're listening to
my two favorite people, Carla Marie and Anthony's Friday. Hi,
I'm carry hi on me, I'm dressing hi am jays.
I will and you'll listen to Welcome. Welcome, Welcome to
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the podcast that started it all for the Carla Marine
Anthony Show. This is what we did before we had
a Twitch show, what we did before we had the
morning show podcast, what we did before we had a
radio station or a YouTube channel. We were working for
the biggest radio show in the world. Yeah, but we
weren't a show on the radio yet. We were just
like you know, the Little Minions. This was the thing
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that connected us together and now here we are. Yeah,
and this is how people saw us as you know,
a quote unquote brand, which I actually hate that term. No,
I like it because then what else are you gonna say,
A show, a book. I don't know. So because people
will always say things and I'm sure, I'm sure if
you have anyone who's worked in entertainment or in social
media before, or you've heard them like, well, that's just
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my brand, it's my brand. But we don't say that.
We don't say that's just my brand. But people use that,
and I feel like they use it wrong because I
don't think. I don't think you can have a personal brand.
And I know there's people out there who are like, oh,
but my business, you know, and you're and you can
have a chance to rebuttal in a second, your personal
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brand is just a new way of saying your reputation. Right,
a brand. When I think of a brand, I think
of something that multiple people can ruin. No, because when
I think of brand, I generally think of products. Right,
So Dorrito's is the first thing that comes to mind, Right,
I know the Dorrito's brand, Like, their reputation isn't ruined
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even when I found out they were putting less chips
and bags. No, but what I'm saying is multiple people
are are accountable for that brand? Right when it's just you,
You're the one that's accountable for it's just your reputation.
It's like a trendy ay of saying reputation. Now. But okay,
to a celebrity, yes, But to a small business owner
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or an influencer whose brand is I don't know, coaching
people and being a small business, right, that is their
personal brand, I wouldn't say it's a reputation. I don't know.
I think I think there's a great reputation is part
of your brand, But it's not only your brand. Um,
what do we Why did you say originally, Carlamury that
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you were here against your will because Anthony, we were
getting ready to this podcast. No, we weren't. You said
to me, we have to do Monday Friday, and I said,
I just need to eat something, and you said, you
know what's gonna happen if you go cook, We're never
going to get this podcast on. Just do it. And
I said, fine, I'll eat a snack and I ate
a little energy ball that I made. I'm starving. My
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brain doesn't even functioning, my eyeballs are broken. I'm hungry.
I know that we talked about food a lot last podcast,
because that was Carlamury went on her snack food rand,
which did you end up having? You didn't have any
snack food at the Monster truck Monster jam chicken fried
rice from Dn'tai Fung chicken fried rice. It's not a food.
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That's food food, that's a snack, that's food zack. When
I'm taking backwards, see what happens when I'm hungry, I'm
calling snack foods. Carla Marie. Chicken fried rice in a
big gas plate. No, it's in a mini little box,
the same way you would get nachos, Carla Marie. That
plate is the size. That container is the size of
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a medium to large to go container. If, by the way,
if you're in the Seattle area. If you're in the
Seattle area and you've gone to a Mariners game, they
also have Dn'tai Fung there. They also have restaurants and no, no,
But what I'm saying is you know the container size.
Even if you've never been to Monster Jam, if you've
been in the Seattle area, you know the container size.
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That in no way, in apps lutely no way of
shape or form. You can have your opinion. Anthony, is
a snack? Did you say that to me? You can
have your opinion not in that. No, sometimes there are definitions.
In your opinion means nothing to a definition. No, that
is a food snack. It is not a a meal.
It is not a meal. Right, I didn't say it
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was a meal. I said it was. I would say
chicken fingers are food snacks. I would agree with that
over chicken fried rice. It's multiple ingredients. That actually what
my mom says that if you sneeze when you're debating
something or unsure, it means it's true. What I'm saying,
food snacks are true. I don't know what I'm more
(05:40):
upset with at the moment. The fact that you think
chicken fried rice I'm gonna give you three things. I
don't know which of these three things that you can
tweet me at worst, Anthony, and you can tag Carl
the Marina as well the Carl the Marie. Which of
these three things are you more upset with? One the
fact that Carl the Marie believes an entire container of
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chicken fried rice is a snack food snack different. Number
two the fact that Carla Marie and her mom somehow
believe if you sneeze while you say something, it's gotta
be true, which is the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
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Number three is the fact that Carla Marie has a
band aid on the studios stop from any blood. It's
not it was. It's a used no no, no, no.
It doesn't count as used. It doesn't count as used
to what you do with it. Okay, So go vote,
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voter die. If you don't vote, you can't listen to
podcast anymore. No. Um, I it was super sunny yesterday,
so in Seattle hit seventy five degrees and I want
to be outside in the sun. So I saw a
scar on my leg from burning my skin off last year.
It's my curling iron. So I put this over the
scar because I know it gets darker in the sun.
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And then I took it off and put on the
table and forgot it's not dirty. It's just like it's
the same thing as a scrunchy. It's not like it
wasn't open, it wasn't on open anything. Yeah. But here's
the thing. I don't know that, okay, but you do now, Okay,
So it's now for me, I'm not going to vote
for it as the thing I'm most upset with, but
someone else might. You know. What's so like one of
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the top grossest things ever for me is no, no,
not thing I've done. What is when you see oh,
wet bandied in like a public pool or the ocean,
and then it like chases you like someone's hair, clump
of hair I hate, and I get it. It's not
the gym's fault, whether it's l a fitness and ballad
or any other big jim. There are a lot of
(07:51):
people using those showers, and there's only a certain amount
of times you can clean them throughout the day, so
at some points there's gonna be some grossness in those showers.
I hate because I you will usually do like a
quick scan right before you jump into a shower and
put in a public place. I hate when I've done
my quick skin or maybe I wasn't paying attention and
I get in and now mid shower, and I realized
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there's like a band aid on the floor, or like
some gross hairs that are clumped up together. And I
get it. Listen, I'm a hairy person. Okay, I understand hair,
but there's something about someone else's hair when it's in
a shower and it's got soap on it, Well, it's
a scut like the conditioner, like that's on it. Please,
It's worse with women. Well, of course it is. Our
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hair is just everywhere. I mean, you know, as a
former long haired person, I do. I actually just had someone,
a cousin of mine, asked me yesterday if I was
thinking about growing out my hair again, and I was like,
I just it's just too easy to have short hair.
I would like you to I don't know. I also listen,
I am in my mid thirties. My hairline has gone
(08:56):
back a little bit. I would say, you're in your
late I'm in the middle. I'm like as close, I'm
very very close to the middle. Anyway, um My hairline
obviously is a little further back than it was when
I grew out my hair at twenty one. But how
does that effect for growing it out? It just you
get to a point where like, I don't want to
be the older guy with long hair. No one wants
(09:19):
to be that guy because no one wants to be friends.
Like you know that guy. You've seen him, right, and
you're trying to know for thinking about the same person
I'm actually thinking about it. I'm not actually thinking about
a specific person right now. But everyone knows that guy,
and everyone has the same thought. Just like, hey man,
you got your Your hair is an unbalanced cecil right,
(09:42):
like all the weights in the back and nothing's in
the front. I think you could do like a puffy frow,
it like a depressing mullet. Like no party in the front,
all party in the back. I'm supposed to be business
in the front. Bald doesn't mean business. And again all
bald means business? B two B is that what be? Two?
(10:04):
Be means bald? Business? And listen, why do you shave it?
You had a nice shaped head? Uh? You know what
is that? When you had the n y in the side.
I had a mohawk went Okay, let's go back into
Anthony harstyles because for a while I was all over
the place. Um. One of my ex's families used to
call me Mr. Potato Head because I looked completely different
every time they saw me, not only because of my hair,
(10:28):
but like the hair in my head. I would change
pretty often, Like in the time they knew me, I
had long hair, I had mohawk, I had a buzzed head.
I had regular I guess quote unquote guy hair. Um.
But then I also like I changed the way I
dress often and are used to at least, and you
can grow beards, and my facial hair would change all
the time. So I was very much Mr Potato Head.
(10:49):
And you know, listen, that's what happens when you're a
fashion and style icon. I can't be boxed in with
one look. So what I was thinking about this recently,
I don't know why about my fashion about you like
you're when your head was buzzed, like would you do
it again? Buzzing it again? I don't know. I just
don't know what it'll look like now. I wish there
(11:12):
was a way to know. And this is something that
all guys deal with as they go once you hit
like one, as you get older, once you have like
that word, once you hit like twenty three or twenty four,
generally speaking, most men, we'll have their hair thin. I mean,
And you know what makes sense, because that's like when
our eggs starting Yeah, because for a long time, like
(11:32):
we didn't live past fifty. Literally the first time you
get your period, your eggs start disappearing. Well, isn't it.
You waste an egg every time, Not waste that's the
bad word to use there, but you lose an egg
and egg so that means I've been losing egg since
I was thirteen. I might have one left, okay. Um.
And it's funny because we we are talking about hair
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right and obviously with the Will Smith Chris Brown slapped
the whole thing was about hair because of Jade's air
um an alopecia. Hair is such a weird thing because
so much emotion and religion. There's cultures, there's I mean,
like Native Americans, and I can't really speak to it.
I know we have a lot who listened to this
(12:14):
podcast and show, and they've been a part of the
journey with us. We've learned from them. Hair is so
important and uh Angela who listens from Spokane. I had
posted something about a high school graduate. He he was black,
and he they wouldn't let him walk a graduation because
of his hair. And I don't even I don't remember
what it was. It was like just like there was
nothing outrageous, like you could tell someone who had hot
(12:36):
pink hair, maybe they couldn't walk a graduation. Still not
acceptable to tell someone that, but it was just normal
to me. And I had posted that, and she was like,
this is what Native American men deal with all the time.
And I can go back in the messages she was
talking about just different things with the hair and whether
they want to wear um something from their culture they're
(12:56):
told they can't at graduation. And it's just but I
know that hair goes back a lot emotionally and spiritually
and all kinds of religion, tradition, all of that stuff.
But I also think hair is something that as a guy,
especially and listen, women have to worry about a lot
of things with physical appearance. I get it. I'm not
saying they're they're even um, but hair is something that
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guys like panic about. The second you start losing your hair,
starts standing your hairline goes back. It is like the
world is crumbling around you. For a lot of men,
maybe not all, but for a lot of them, it's
something that like you're constantly thinking about. Well, my sister's
now husband and my niece's fiance both buzz their heads
because they started to lose their hair. I mean, one
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of them is thirty three and the other one is
going to be thirty. But and here's the crazy part
about it. This is the crazy part, is that my
sister just made fun of him every day. And that
not even just her sister. I'm not I'm not isolating
your sister here, singling her out. We we make fun
of guys all the time. I mean we were kind
of doing it before with like the older dude with
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the ponies, hil or the long hair. Right, so we're
we are a d guilty um. But imagine there's two
things that guys get made fun of. I know I'm
starting and stopping a lot of sentences, but there's two
things guys get made fun of a lot, which what
do you think about? It is so messed up? First
one his hair. The second someone starts losing their hair
(14:22):
or someone's bald or whatever. There are so many comments
about it, right, and let's use your sister for example,
making fun of her. Her husband's head was thinning. She
made a bunch of comments. He finally shaved it, and
I'm sure you have again. This is not to make
people feel bad. I want to be very clear. I'm
not trying to say anyone is terrible for their comments
(14:44):
or anything like that. But imagine this, Carlymory. Imagine instead
of a man losing his hair and being told what
to do about it, imagine on a daily basis, in
public and on public forums, people were like, hey, hey,
Carla Marie, you're getting a little bit, a little bit
of weight. Why don't you wear like bag your clothing
(15:06):
so you can hide that the chubby nous or your
boob right small? I want to get a boob job.
You decided to do that. But and I'm not, obviously
I'm not saying those things to you. And the other
thing that guys get made fun of for all the time.
And it's crazy because I used to see it on
dating apps. I know I was gonna say Penis eze no,
and I mean they do, but that's how harder like,
(15:28):
unless everyone knows what you're the size of your penis.
It's a hard thing to be made fun of the answer,
I guess height. Yeah, it's wild what we let people
get away with in making fun or talking about short men.
It's crazy, okay, And that goes to, right, what is
society expect of women? It truly is the same thing.
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And we have these archaic ideas of like we need
a tall man who's got hair, I don't know, like
that's all a tall man and because he's the breadwinner
and he's the you know, supposed to be the protector
or whatever. And you need a woman who is a
child rearing age and has wide hips or whatever. But
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it's also super skinny but has boobs, and like, it
doesn't make it. Like as much as we fight these stereotypes,
they're still there. Now. With that said, I have dated
men who are like the same height as me and
it's been fine. And you're not you're not terribly tall
because maybe they weren't say whether like three inches. Um.
But here's the craziest part about it, Right, I have
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seen women and I know men are terrible, but I've
seen women on Instagram talk about hat fishing. Right, It's like, oh,
stop wearing hats in your in your Instagram or your
dating profile pictures because I need to know if you're
bald or not. I've literally seen women post that multiple
women app What if I was to go on a
(16:57):
dating app and say, hey, at least one of your
pictures I need to see your ugly ass regular face
without making or I would get ruined. You would get
dragged secondly, Or don't wear highways of jeans because they
make you look way better. M the other thing. Let's
go back to height now right, If there, I can't,
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it gets me so mad. I can't tell you how
many times I have seen short men. Don't swipe right
on me if you're not five eight, don't swipe right
if you're not six, don't swipe right if you're a
short guy. These are why these women are single. But again,
to go back to, what if a guy did a
very similar thing. Imagine, imagine for if I even had
(17:43):
for a day on my dating profile, Hey, don't swipe
right if you're over a hundred and twenty pounds. But
but you can get you can do the sound And
I'm sure everyone had a visceral reaction as they were listening, right,
I'm sure you in your car or you and your headphones.
You're like, that's that would be so messed up. Yeah,
but here's the question, why is it different? Um, Because
(18:06):
weight is weight, I would say, I would say the
same for men, and I guess you can't even do
anything about your height exactly. And I've talked to a
lot of my shorter friends who have dealt with the dating,
the dating scene, especially online dating, where they literally have
women who will respond to them and say, you're too short. Stop,
(18:27):
stop stop it, show me them, show you who the
guys are. The girls don't want to see the conversation.
I don't have I don't have screenshots of all of this. Um,
But it's kind of wild when you think about the
things we let society get away with, just people in
society get away with. I don't know. And I will
always say women have a rough go, especially in the
(18:51):
world of social media. There are guys commenting on every
stupid thing. Not not for me anymore because I just
blocked all those dudes. And but but we see it, right,
we see guys being absolute pigs and whatnot. But it's
just it's just crazy. Both and I do like what
you said, that's why all those women complaining on dating
apps are still probably single. Like, well, yeah, maybe if
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that's what your criteria. Also, if you're still single on
dating app, that doesn't mean you're mean, no, But if
you've got don't swipe right. If you have some of
these physical characteristics, good luck, because a piece of crap.
I feel like now of all times, like people are
going out, just get out, people are going to be
not on dating apps as much. They're like, go outside.
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Do we think that the dating app bubble has popped
it will? I think it's still for hookups. I think
people are still hooking up on dating apps. It's so crazy,
but it kind of blows my mind when I hear friends,
family members talking about like, oh, I can't stand the
dating scene blah blah blah, and I'm I'm on all
(19:55):
the apps and they feel like that's the that's the requirement, right,
But in reality we should probably just be speaking to
human beings and and but I encourage you to put
your personal life before your job sometimes. That was actually
one of my biggest pet peeves when it came to
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the dating apps, was the difference in how people treated
you based on connecting with you on a dating app
or meeting you in person at like a bar or
a social event. Oh, it's never. I never really had
any mean or weird dudes on dating apps. I it wasn't.
I mean. I had a couple of mean ones. We
talked about one on the air, which was wild. Um.
(20:39):
But the thing that always got me was in profiles,
seeing things like I'm not here to waste my time.
It's like, no, I get that and want and at
a certain age, I understand that your your patience where thin.
Where is thin. However, if you met someone at a
(21:01):
bar right you thought they were attractive, you had a
funny moment together, your first comment after that initial moment,
after that initial connection, wouldn't be I'm not here to
waste my time, right, You would just get to know
the person. And I feel like we've lost that because
everything is so Amazon primed. Right, everything is at your
(21:23):
door when you want it to be there. We don't
live in a world where we wait for things anymore.
Like this podcast, you just whatever you want it. You
can listen to the podcast. You don't have to listen
at a certain time. And I think because of that,
we think that humans are supposed to act that way
as well, and respond quickly, whether it's dating, app or
email or whatever. Back off. I got things to do,
and you know, talking about going out like you said,
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Carlin Marie, like put your personal life first, go out there.
I was listening to an audio book and I'm going
to pull up the name of it. It's pretty boring
in the beginning, so I don't know if I would
suggest the book. The last couple chapters are okay. It's
called Social Chemistry, Decoding the Patterns of Human Connection, and
it talks about how some people are conveners, some people
(22:07):
are there's whatever, different names. But the chapter I'm in
now is talking about like personal connections, and there's actual
research out there that says a fleeting, positive conversation with
a stranger triggers the same exact brain and emotional response
(22:27):
that a great conversation with your partner does. And I
love talking to strangers. And we've talked about this before too.
It's just even if I never see someone again, I
love meeting people. And one of the reasons they say
that is because, generally speaking, when you meet a stranger,
although people kind of forgot how to act generally speaking,
(22:48):
when you meet a stranger, you put your best foot forward,
which when you do that, you're already you're already putting
yourself in a more positive space. And oftentimes, unfortunately, with
our partners, with our family, with our friends, we oftentimes
forget that we should still put effort into those reactions,
into those interactions on a daily basis. And that's why
(23:09):
sometimes it might feel like it's uh dragging, It might
feel like boring taken for granted, because it starts from
within and if you put the effort and you feel
like it's a more positive interaction. It was just a
cool little thing to go towards getting out there and
meeting people in public. Yeah, do it, and they've done
research on um and go out and talk to a
(23:31):
stranger where you look great, sir? It when someone says
you look great, you can respond. Did I tell you
the most recent guy who said that to me at
the gym? So I was wearing it you look great shirt.
It was the Neon yellow one. And we can end
with this. I know carlmer is hungry. And by the way,
you look great. Store is open. You look great, dot
c O, go check it out. I'm gonna make me
a food snack, make yourself a food meal. I was
(23:52):
at the gym and a guy named Tyler came up
to me. We were near the same piece of equipment,
and because of the way it was positioned, he actually
helped me put some of the weights on and he
saw my shirt. He said, you look great, and I
took my headphones out. I was like what he said, Oh,
you look great? It was I saw the short. I
seen you here a bunch of times wearing similar shirts.
I was like, yeah, it's it's my company, so I
have a bunch of them that I wear here. I
(24:12):
started chatting those. You know, I actually thought, because you've
been coming here for a while. I said, yeah, about
five years. He said, uh, because I'm pretty sure I've
seen you on a plane wearing something similar going back
to New York. And I was like, yeah, it is
my brand, and we have hoodies and I do fly
back to New York, New Jersey pretty often because that's
where I'm from. And we got to we got to
talk and said goodbye later, and even though I have
(24:34):
not seen or talked to Tyler since, my day was
better because of that conversation. And it's like flight attendants specifically, Actually,
when I'm wear you look great and I'm boarding and
they're like right there, you're forced to have that conversation
because they're they're waiting. They're like, Oh, that's a cute sweater.
Are you the creator? I love your earrings? Like they
always compliment something on you or oh, how do you
like that bag? Or whatever? And just even if it's
(24:55):
not complimenting someone asking them a question about something that
where'd you get that? And that's all a compliment too,
I like that, where do you get that? Like people
like talking about their things. And another thing that this
book talks about is those brief interactions the oh nice shoes, right,
and then you walk away and you never see that
person again. Not only doesn't make that person feel better,
(25:16):
but each participant in that conversation, generally speaking, has a
better overall experience for their entire day get out of
town because of that experience. We're going to put this
in an ad on Instagram with our you look grade gere.
What this quote that you're saying, Oh, I've got to
go back and read it properly, listen to it properly. Well,
(25:38):
come on, come on, what we can use this? Hey,
people like when you interact with them by our shirts
and interact with for real. Thank you very much for
hanging out with us. You could have done anything with
the past six minutes of your life, but you chose,
for some odd reason to press a bunch of buttons
to open an app and end up here. So thank
(26:00):
you very very much for taking the time out to
do that. Carlon Brandy. Last words of food snack wisdom,
Um Anthony, just a warning, don't move your chair because
Caroline's under it. Cat's got a death wish.
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