March 15, 2019 • 14 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m tired of motherhood. Sorry, but I am no longer interested in being a mother. I am 28 years old and I have a 5 year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious and constant source of embarrassment in public. She is out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind does not help and I don’t know what else to do. I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology and time out don’t work on her. I can’t seem to get thru to her without yelling and arguing. Why am I arguing with a 5 year old?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is a Strawberry letter subject, I am so sick
of my daughter. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm tired of motherhood. Sorry,
but I am no longer interested in being a mother.
I'm a twenty I am twenty eight years old, and
I have a five year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious,
(00:20):
and a constant source of embarrassment in public. She is
out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind
does not help, and I don't know what else to do.
I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology
and time out don't work on her. I can't seem
to get through to her without yelling and arguing. Why
am I arguing with a five year old? I recently
(00:43):
got divorced and my daughter and I live with my parents.
My child never had a great relationship with her dad
because he can't control her either. My parents see that
I have no control over her, and they try to
stay out of it as much as possible, but it's
hard to overlook her behavior. We have been to counseling
and the doctor suggested that I put her on medication.
(01:05):
I don't want to take that route yet. She will
start school soon and I want her to get it
together before then. I don't want her labeled as a
problem child or be medicated daily. I do have faith
in God, and I am hopeful that God will fix
it for me. What should I do? Help me? There's
a lot going on in this letter with a five
(01:26):
year old that's disrespectful, of noxious, in a constant source
of embarrassment in public. You said you just got divorced.
That could be a lot of why she's acting out,
because you know she misses her home situation with her
dad being there and all of that. But I do
get what you're saying. A lot of parents, every parent
(01:46):
gets tired at some point. It is understandable. What I
don't understand is why after you, after your ex. You
said your ex husband and even your parents couldn't control her,
So why don't you listen to the doctor. You took
her to a therapist, you took her to counseling, and
they suggested medication. He's a professional. I'm not discounting the
(02:11):
fact you say in your letter that you do have
faith in God and you're hopeful that God will fix
it for me. Well, of course, there's nothing too hard
for God. God can do anything. Nothing is impossible. Yes, absolutely,
God can fix everything. But please please know that there
are people on this earth that are working in their
God appointed gifts, their purpose. That means lawyers, that means pastors, teachers, journalists,
(02:35):
and yes, doctors, okay, doctors. So what should you do
you ask at the end of your letter. I think
you should listen to your doctors in this instance. I mean,
you don't know what's going on with your daughter. She
may have some sort of chemical and balance you don't know,
but the doctor is a professional. If you don't like
what he said, get a second opinion, get a third opinion.
(02:56):
You do want your daughter to go to school and
have a productive life and have a great life, so
you know she's going to start school soon. Uh, don't
just leave this up to chance. Continue this quest to
get your get your daughter the help that she so
rightfully needs and deserves. Steve, I don't know, I don't
know I'm talking about this ladding like this. First of all,
(03:18):
let me say this, Shirley Strawberry. Yeah, I think that
everything you said was absolutely one spot on. I could
not have given almost dignified. Therefore, I'm not gonna try.
So I want to just say before I start talking
that everything Shirley Strawberry just said, I concur one thousand
(03:41):
percent that are professional people that can help with this.
You should go to therapy. You should get all them doctors.
God la la la la la la la la finish.
He is the key to this whole thing. She is
out of control on a daily basis. Beat team hubby
(04:03):
behind does not help, and I don't know what else
to do. Well, let me introduce you to something. See
that beaten hubby behind. I bet this five year old
has not had an I lost Vera Harvey asked, woman,
See I've had and I lost Vera Harvey asked, whipping
(04:26):
That cured all my eels. Every time I produce one
hardheadedness talking back, I rolled it. Hump, What all that
stuff got? That all that got cuted? I only said
(04:47):
hump one time. Guess what he lost? Very Harvey did
gave me an I lost Very Harvey and whipper. I
ain't saying hunted, my mama. Since what I'm I playing, Steve?
What I was playing basketball? I got caught up soon
(05:08):
as I said, and I tried to swallow that basketball.
The basketball, I tried to push it in my mouth,
that big I don't give a damn I tried to
swallow that damn basketball. Guess what happened to meet del
lost vera Harvey a whipping? Yeah yeah, uh, I ain't
(05:31):
say that. Another ass whooping? Be home when the street
light come on? Street light, come on. I'm still down
the street talking to nn Janet Hawkins. Another ill lost
vera Harvey ass whipping. I can't tell you how many times,
how many times I've had to take one. So this
(05:54):
fact that you have beat your child and it ain't help.
I disagree. I disagree all this counselor Shirley want to
send you to She's gone, and all this other stuff.
All that's good, but don't write me in talking about
a five you old. You can't control how you can't
(06:15):
control the five year olds? Don't you feed her? Why
she stayed? Who bought her clothes? Who do her hair?
H What if I control all that? I control you?
Timehouse don't work? How about you ain't eating today? What food?
(06:42):
Hard to fight when you're hungry? Five? I don't give
a damn it. She is five. She acts like she
fought it. She disrespectful. She ain't got no relationship with
this woman's father. She disrespecting him, disrespecting her. She don't
know what to do. She fit to send this fool
up to school. Now, you gotta teacher fit to deal
with this ignorant five year old. Ain't nobody fitting to
(07:05):
do all this with this five year old? Five? Take
this thirty year old ass whoop, and I bet you
will be five. You got a five year old that
the mama can't control. The daddy of the baby can't controller.
The parents see that the baby out of control. They're
trying to stay out of it. But the girl's behavior crazy.
(07:27):
The doctors want to put your baby on medication. You
don't want to go there. Well, what can we do
instead of medication? I have told you the lss VERA
Harvey ask whoop and academy has openings in it. I
can share with you the things my mama has done
(07:48):
to me that turned me into the man that I
am today. So what we have is, Junior is there's
a re enactment. Junior is the five year old. I
wonder why, why why do you ask? Okay, so Shirley, Yeah,
(08:14):
you're gonna be the mama. Okay, I'm the grandfather. Oh,
because he lived in my house. That's right, So I'm
the grandfather. Shirley. You the mama, junior, You the baby.
Shirley asked the baby to do so. All right, come
on in here, sweetie, breakfast is ready. Come on in
here so we can eat. I ain't hungry. Look, you
(08:34):
are hungry. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, Mama,
I'm not hungry. Hey, who are you raising your hand?
That little girl holding wait? Wait wait wait wait wait wait.
The boy said he ain't hungry. It's the girl. I'm
not junior for real. Yeah, the baby just like like, okay,
(08:59):
take two. All right, Keisha Keisha, coming in here and
eat breakfast. I ain't hungry, Keisha. Breakfast is the most important.
I ain't hungry. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on,
hold on. Yeah, let me talk to him. Oh with
(09:22):
the baby name Keisha Kisha. H you ain't hungry, I said,
I would. Okay, cool, I bet you be hungry to morrow.
Why why I'm gonna be hungry to morrow? Because you
ain't gonna get a damn thing today. You don't run
the food in here? What did you just say to me,
(09:43):
you old man, don't run the food in here. We
cooked for you. We bring your food. You need to
sit back. This ain't even your house, Kisha. Know you
stop that. You don't talk to your granddad. I talk
to him and you like that? Oh my god, God? What? What? What? Two? What?
(10:08):
It's a couple of things you don't know. Five. First
of all, I make all the money in this house.
And that's real. That's playing in this skit and in
real life you understand that him. Now what I'm trying
to tell you, little Keisha, if you want to continue
to grow any taller, you're gonna watch your mouth. Get
respectful of your mama. I don't bought everything in this house.
(10:30):
You ain't getting another damn bite to eat till tomorrow. Well,
I'll tell you what. It might not be that long
because you ain't gonna be here. What Keisha, don't talk
to your papa like that and take your hands off
your head. I ain't gotta do nothing. You tell me.
This is what I wants to do. Keisha, I am
your mother. Talk to me. That's under speculation. We ain't
show about that. I carried you for nine months. You
(10:57):
are mine. I ain't see it. What, Daddy, You're gonna
just stand there and let her talk to me like this? No,
I'm not let me madge something shilly, Yes, Daddy, No,
I'm just asking, Yes, Daddy, I need your p permission.
What is it? Daddy just asked me? Can I stomp debate?
(11:18):
You're gonna end up going to jail. Well, i'll tell
you what that may be very well the case I
may go to jail, but I bet your ass gonna
be real respectful for our go dad. You know we've
tried whipping her behind, nothing worse. No, no, no, see,
I was listening to the radio show. Yes, Steve said
(11:40):
Daddy that we need to take him this little evil
health for Keisha to their lost Veria. Hardy ass whipping
a cat. I've never heard of that. What is that? Oh? Oh?
I know you ain't see that's why you're talking back
to everybody. Because your mama been putting you in time
out and sprank you. But you ain't never had what
you really needed because because Daddy, I didn't want to
(12:02):
raise her like you know we were raised. I just
wanted to try something new. Well you see what you got,
you don't you yes, I didn't want to beat her
and I got you. You doing once? Kisha? You stop
that right at five? Ain't got nothing to twork. I
(12:26):
can do what I wanted to be because I don't
believe in beating her. Miss Carlin, You're gonna have to
take mat Okay, don't beat the baby. Let me kis
you hi? Kish? You know what I'm gonna do? No
series of things? This is what you ain't heard? Rule
(12:48):
number one at the l Via Harvey as an academy.
Do you want to get slapped into next week? Well?
Booked me for thirsty. That's the same, ain't Tommy said?
And I'm glad you bought it up because your aunt's
gonna wake up to fry. You stopped that twerking. You
(13:09):
stopped that? Where'd you learn that from? You know you didn't.
I've learned from watching you. Okay, here we go, Shirley, Yes, daddy,
let me talk to a Keisha. Huh No. Item number
two at the Las Vir Harvey A whooping academy. You
ready for this? What is you're about to get? A
not snatched in you? M oh, I ain't never heard
(13:33):
of I know you ain't see all this is stuff
are not. It's when I jerk you so hard, you
standing there looking like a pressle. I like my mama
dipent me this time. I know you like your mama did.
But were you going to the l V Harvey A
whooping Academy? Now we snatch and not send people right here,
(13:53):
and we send the kids off in the next week.
Did they work at the La Vry Harvest? If you
want to, you're gonna get your ass bone broke. We
gotta get out of here. Listen, email us or instagram
us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey
FM or at My Girls Shirley. You're listening to the
(14:13):
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
Buckle up, hold on tight. We got it for you here.
It is a Strawberry letter subject, I am so sick
of my daughter. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm tired of motherhood. Sorry,
but I am no longer interested in being a mother.
I'm a twenty I am twenty eight years old, and
I have a five year old daughter that is disrespectful, obnoxious,
(00:20):
and a constant source of embarrassment in public. She is
out of control on a daily basis. Beating her behind
does not help, and I don't know what else to do.
I have tried many ways of disciplining her. Reverse psychology
and time out don't work on her. I can't seem
to get through to her without yelling and arguing. Why
am I arguing with a five year old? I recently
(00:43):
got divorced and my daughter and I live with my parents.
My child never had a great relationship with her dad
because he can't control her either. My parents see that
I have no control over her, and they try to
stay out of it as much as possible, but it's
hard to overlook her behavior. We have been to counseling
and the doctor suggested that I put her on medication.
(01:05):
I don't want to take that route yet. She will
start school soon and I want her to get it
together before then. I don't want her labeled as a
problem child or be medicated daily. I do have faith
in God, and I am hopeful that God will fix
it for me. What should I do? Help me? There's
a lot going on in this letter with a five
(01:26):
year old that's disrespectful, of noxious, in a constant source
of embarrassment in public. You said you just got divorced.
That could be a lot of why she's acting out,
because you know she misses her home situation with her
dad being there and all of that. But I do
get what you're saying. A lot of parents, every parent
(01:46):
gets tired at some point. It is understandable. What I
don't understand is why after you, after your ex. You
said your ex husband and even your parents couldn't control her,
So why don't you listen to the doctor. You took
her to a therapist, you took her to counseling, and
they suggested medication. He's a professional. I'm not discounting the
(02:11):
fact you say in your letter that you do have
faith in God and you're hopeful that God will fix
it for me. Well, of course, there's nothing too hard
for God. God can do anything. Nothing is impossible. Yes, absolutely,
God can fix everything. But please please know that there
are people on this earth that are working in their
God appointed gifts, their purpose. That means lawyers, that means pastors, teachers, journalists,
(02:35):
and yes, doctors, okay, doctors. So what should you do
you ask at the end of your letter. I think
you should listen to your doctors in this instance. I mean,
you don't know what's going on with your daughter. She
may have some sort of chemical and balance you don't know,
but the doctor is a professional. If you don't like
what he said, get a second opinion, get a third opinion.
(02:56):
You do want your daughter to go to school and
have a productive life and have a great life, so
you know she's going to start school soon. Uh, don't
just leave this up to chance. Continue this quest to
get your get your daughter the help that she so
rightfully needs and deserves. Steve, I don't know, I don't
know I'm talking about this ladding like this. First of all,
(03:18):
let me say this, Shirley Strawberry. Yeah, I think that
everything you said was absolutely one spot on. I could
not have given almost dignified. Therefore, I'm not gonna try.
So I want to just say before I start talking
that everything Shirley Strawberry just said, I concur one thousand
(03:41):
percent that are professional people that can help with this.
You should go to therapy. You should get all them doctors.
God la la la la la la la la finish.
He is the key to this whole thing. She is
out of control on a daily basis. Beat team hubby
(04:03):
behind does not help, and I don't know what else
to do. Well, let me introduce you to something. See
that beaten hubby behind. I bet this five year old
has not had an I lost Vera Harvey asked, woman,
See I've had and I lost Vera Harvey asked, whipping
(04:26):
That cured all my eels. Every time I produce one
hardheadedness talking back, I rolled it. Hump, What all that
stuff got? That all that got cuted? I only said
(04:47):
hump one time. Guess what he lost? Very Harvey did
gave me an I lost Very Harvey and whipper. I
ain't saying hunted, my mama. Since what I'm I playing, Steve?
What I was playing basketball? I got caught up soon
(05:08):
as I said, and I tried to swallow that basketball.
The basketball, I tried to push it in my mouth,
that big I don't give a damn I tried to
swallow that damn basketball. Guess what happened to meet del
lost vera Harvey a whipping? Yeah yeah, uh, I ain't
(05:31):
say that. Another ass whooping? Be home when the street
light come on? Street light, come on. I'm still down
the street talking to nn Janet Hawkins. Another ill lost
vera Harvey ass whipping. I can't tell you how many times,
how many times I've had to take one. So this
(05:54):
fact that you have beat your child and it ain't help.
I disagree. I disagree all this counselor Shirley want to
send you to She's gone, and all this other stuff.
All that's good, but don't write me in talking about
a five you old. You can't control how you can't
(06:15):
control the five year olds? Don't you feed her? Why
she stayed? Who bought her clothes? Who do her hair?
H What if I control all that? I control you?
Timehouse don't work? How about you ain't eating today? What food?
(06:42):
Hard to fight when you're hungry? Five? I don't give
a damn it. She is five. She acts like she
fought it. She disrespectful. She ain't got no relationship with
this woman's father. She disrespecting him, disrespecting her. She don't
know what to do. She fit to send this fool
up to school. Now, you gotta teacher fit to deal
with this ignorant five year old. Ain't nobody fitting to
(07:05):
do all this with this five year old? Five? Take
this thirty year old ass whoop, and I bet you
will be five. You got a five year old that
the mama can't control. The daddy of the baby can't controller.
The parents see that the baby out of control. They're
trying to stay out of it. But the girl's behavior crazy.
(07:27):
The doctors want to put your baby on medication. You
don't want to go there. Well, what can we do
instead of medication? I have told you the lss VERA
Harvey ask whoop and academy has openings in it. I
can share with you the things my mama has done
(07:48):
to me that turned me into the man that I
am today. So what we have is, Junior is there's
a re enactment. Junior is the five year old. I
wonder why, why why do you ask? Okay, so Shirley, Yeah,
(08:14):
you're gonna be the mama. Okay, I'm the grandfather. Oh,
because he lived in my house. That's right, So I'm
the grandfather. Shirley. You the mama, junior, You the baby.
Shirley asked the baby to do so. All right, come
on in here, sweetie, breakfast is ready. Come on in
here so we can eat. I ain't hungry. Look, you
(08:34):
are hungry. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, Mama,
I'm not hungry. Hey, who are you raising your hand?
That little girl holding wait? Wait wait wait wait wait wait.
The boy said he ain't hungry. It's the girl. I'm
not junior for real. Yeah, the baby just like like, okay,
(08:59):
take two. All right, Keisha Keisha, coming in here and
eat breakfast. I ain't hungry, Keisha. Breakfast is the most important.
I ain't hungry. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on,
hold on. Yeah, let me talk to him. Oh with
(09:22):
the baby name Keisha Kisha. H you ain't hungry, I said,
I would. Okay, cool, I bet you be hungry to morrow.
Why why I'm gonna be hungry to morrow? Because you
ain't gonna get a damn thing today. You don't run
the food in here? What did you just say to me,
(09:43):
you old man, don't run the food in here. We
cooked for you. We bring your food. You need to
sit back. This ain't even your house, Kisha. Know you
stop that. You don't talk to your granddad. I talk
to him and you like that? Oh my god, God? What? What? What? Two? What?
(10:08):
It's a couple of things you don't know. Five. First
of all, I make all the money in this house.
And that's real. That's playing in this skit and in
real life you understand that him. Now what I'm trying
to tell you, little Keisha, if you want to continue
to grow any taller, you're gonna watch your mouth. Get
respectful of your mama. I don't bought everything in this house.
(10:30):
You ain't getting another damn bite to eat till tomorrow. Well,
I'll tell you what. It might not be that long
because you ain't gonna be here. What Keisha, don't talk
to your papa like that and take your hands off
your head. I ain't gotta do nothing. You tell me.
This is what I wants to do. Keisha, I am
your mother. Talk to me. That's under speculation. We ain't
show about that. I carried you for nine months. You
(10:57):
are mine. I ain't see it. What, Daddy, You're gonna
just stand there and let her talk to me like this? No,
I'm not let me madge something shilly, Yes, Daddy, No,
I'm just asking, Yes, Daddy, I need your p permission.
What is it? Daddy just asked me? Can I stomp debate?
(11:18):
You're gonna end up going to jail. Well, i'll tell
you what that may be very well the case I
may go to jail, but I bet your ass gonna
be real respectful for our go dad. You know we've
tried whipping her behind, nothing worse. No, no, no, see,
I was listening to the radio show. Yes, Steve said
(11:40):
Daddy that we need to take him this little evil
health for Keisha to their lost Veria. Hardy ass whipping
a cat. I've never heard of that. What is that? Oh? Oh?
I know you ain't see that's why you're talking back
to everybody. Because your mama been putting you in time
out and sprank you. But you ain't never had what
you really needed because because Daddy, I didn't want to
(12:02):
raise her like you know we were raised. I just
wanted to try something new. Well you see what you got,
you don't you yes, I didn't want to beat her
and I got you. You doing once? Kisha? You stop
that right at five? Ain't got nothing to twork. I
(12:26):
can do what I wanted to be because I don't
believe in beating her. Miss Carlin, You're gonna have to
take mat Okay, don't beat the baby. Let me kis
you hi? Kish? You know what I'm gonna do? No
series of things? This is what you ain't heard? Rule
(12:48):
number one at the l Via Harvey as an academy.
Do you want to get slapped into next week? Well?
Booked me for thirsty. That's the same, ain't Tommy said?
And I'm glad you bought it up because your aunt's
gonna wake up to fry. You stopped that twerking. You
(13:09):
stopped that? Where'd you learn that from? You know you didn't.
I've learned from watching you. Okay, here we go, Shirley, Yes, daddy,
let me talk to a Keisha. Huh No. Item number
two at the Las Vir Harvey A whooping academy. You
ready for this? What is you're about to get? A
not snatched in you? M oh, I ain't never heard
(13:33):
of I know you ain't see all this is stuff
are not. It's when I jerk you so hard, you
standing there looking like a pressle. I like my mama
dipent me this time. I know you like your mama did.
But were you going to the l V Harvey A
whooping Academy? Now we snatch and not send people right here,
(13:53):
and we send the kids off in the next week.
Did they work at the La Vry Harvest? If you
want to, you're gonna get your ass bone broke. We
gotta get out of here. Listen, email us or instagram
us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter. At Steve Harvey
FM or at My Girls Shirley. You're listening to the
(14:13):
Steve Harvey Morning Show.
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