September 7, 2018 • 14 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a testimony and I need some solid advice. In the past, my husband was a scam artist and I am an ex stripper and call girl. We both got caught up and ended up doing time and our family took care of our children. I got I got released from prison first and I started to rebuild our lives. When he got out I put him through school. After that I continued my education and now we make decent money and have a stable home life. My husband used to be a natural hustler but now he does not share my desire to work hard and earn more money. Besides that, he has gained 100 pounds and has turned into a couch potato. I am stuck being the dreamer, the planner, the motivator and the brain, but my problem gets deeper. The worst part is our sex life.........
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Coming up at forty one after the hour. Steve Harvey's
bad acting theaters back The Chapman's on tap. They're coming up.
You better say that Jay Anthony Brown, the writer of
The Chapman's. But right now it is time for today's
Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice on relationships, on dating,
(00:21):
on work, on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit
your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter, write Steve, yea yea, and not
with you time. We got it for you here It
(00:42):
is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nev. Subject my marriage
is stable but stale. Dear Stephen Shirley, I have a
testimony and I need some solid advice. In the past,
my husband was a scam artist and I am an
ex stripper and call girl. We both got caught up
and ended up doing time, and our family took care
of our children. I got I got released from prison first,
(01:05):
and I started to rebuild our lives. When he got out,
I put him through school. After that, I continued my
education and now we make decent money and have a
stable home life. My husband used to be a natural hustler,
but now he does not share my desire to work
hard and earn more money. Besides that, he has gained
one hundred pounds and has turned into a couch potato.
(01:29):
I am stuck being the dreamer, the planner, the motivator,
and the brains. But my problem gets deeper. The worst
part is our sex life. In the past, I was
used to getting gratification from multiple men, and now I'm
not getting my itch properly scratched. I could step out
and get great sex from other men, but I have
a conscience. I don't want to keep on being miserable
(01:52):
in this marriage with mediocre income and sex. I have
talked to my husband about the sex and he apologized
for not being able to satisfy me, and that was it.
So what am I supposed to do? Do I leave
and start over, taking the kids away from their stable
home with your father? Or should I go ahead and
cheat on my husband and stay in this stale marriage.
(02:16):
I know I can, I can tell your torn I
think you know. But oh good and and I can't
wait to hear yours. Thank you? Oh oh oh, it
sounds like you want to talk to her. Okay, here
we go. These are questions really, only you can answer.
(02:38):
I mean, seriously, you've been in this marriage for a while. Uh,
you guys have a sorted past scam artists, uh, stripper
call girl all that. But um, you know you did
you paid your dues, you did your time, and now,
like you say, you're rebuilding your lives, which is a
good thing. Everyone deserves a second chance. Now, you put
your husband through school, so he hasn't a ucation, there's
(03:00):
no excuse for him not working. Um, and then you
continue do yours. You make decent money. Now you have
a stable home life. But your your your husband sounds
like he's just not happy, this natural hustler in him. Uh,
he's not happy. So he gained a hundred pounds, he's
turned into a couch potato, and now the sex is horrible.
You're saying again, these are questions only you can answer.
(03:22):
Should you leave him? The question to you is what
do you want? I mean, really, what do you want?
You can have what you want, but you can't change
anyone but yourself in this situation. If you want to
stay there, you gotta deal with trying to get your
husband out of this funk or helping him get back
on the right track. If he's gained a hundred pounds,
you know, start meal planning, helping him do things like that,
(03:45):
work out things like that, find out what's going on
with him, go to the doctor why the weight gang
talk to him about it. When you did talk to
him about it, you said, he just answered you or
apologize and nothing happened. I say, that's if you want
to stay with him, if you love him and all that.
But if not, if you want to walk, you know,
that's what you're gonna have to do, because it doesn't
sound like he's interested in the marriage. Only you can
(04:07):
make this, make this change. If you feel like your
marriage is worth fighting for and you'll have something after
you fight, then you stay. If not, you're gonna have
to walk. Steve, I don't really want to answer this
now my whole answer. I want to take a whole
another approach. A matter of fact, let me just say,
(04:28):
Shirley gave you the best advice you can get. Now
let me just do what I want to do. Just
do it. You don't need permission. I have a testimony.
Testimonies are normally given in church. You bypassed the church
part because y'all probably don't know where the church at
(04:49):
that because of their past. Well in the past, my
husband was a scam artist. I'm an ex stripper and
a call girl. Um. We both got caught up and
he ended up doing time and our family took care
of our kids. I got released from prison, first started
(05:09):
to rebuild our lives. When he got out, I put
him through school. After that, I continue my education and
now we make decent money and have a stable home life.
That's good. People are allowed to make mistakes in recover. Congratulations.
My husband used to be a natural hustler, but now
he does not share my desire to work hard and
every more money. Besides that, he has gained one hundred
(05:32):
pounds and turned into a couch potato. All right, let's
start here. The reason he didn't gain this hunted pounds,
it is because he stopped scamming. That's all it is.
He was busy, his hands was getting around, he was
(05:54):
on his feet, and it's hard to gain weight when
you scared because you don't all as much food. When
he's scared, scam and asked, was on edge all day.
He was just like a little crackhead, just nervous man,
slim in shape, fast talking, went to prison. He don't
(06:17):
want to go back to prison. So now even stayed
his ass on that couch and picked up a hunted Now,
Shirley said, get on the meal plan. A hundred is
too five. He know what you know here, damn couch potato.
He's a potato couch. He's a sack of potatoes. He's
(06:39):
a whole bunch of potatoes. He's one fat ass breaked potato.
Because he done. He's sitting on that couch with that
dry ass life. He don't know what to do. Hell yeah,
I used to be married to a striple and a
call girl, and I was a stone cold hustle. You know.
(06:59):
Set a here took as stupid as to school, mess around,
got a damn education. How we think we're some damn
suburbing people. I don't want this. Where are my scams
at the weigh? More fun that we ain't here punching
clocks going to work? Man, I'm eating picked up a
(07:24):
hunted Oh. Man, Now, this lady says, she's stuck being
the dream of the plan of the motivator and the
brains you left out, you to cook and you the
personal shopping. All right, Hold it right there, Steve hold
it right there. Today's Strawberry letter, the subject my marriage
(07:44):
is stable but still yeah, still, because ain't nothing happening
no more? Because according to him, the way he acted,
he had a good life. He just messed up and
got caught. But that prison out this ass down a
little bit. He ain't trying to go back in there,
so the player is safe. Can't scam from this couch
(08:10):
as right here, come out of here, listening to the universe.
When I went to school, I should have been out scamming.
I'm in nice school trying to get it. Damn g
D the hell I need that for I want the
top scam artists in the country. Now I'm just sitting
up here with my fat qui. All I do is
(08:33):
eat baked potatoes. Now you wanna call me a couch
pretender pertained chips. No, I'm not really trying to help him, sure,
but my problem gets deeper. The worst part is our
sex life. In the past, I was used to getting
gratification from multiple men. Damn that sounds nasty, but okay though,
(09:00):
and now I'm not getting my itch properly. Scratch. Try
not to call it edge because you need multiple men
and you started itching that ain't necessarily start. I know
if I've ever been with a lot of women and
I started it, and I would go down to the
(09:21):
clinic because sometimes you ain't got to get your itch scratch.
You got to get your itch taken care of immediately.
As some damn pendicella. You know, I hope it's just
a itch because they got something. Now, I ain't know
pendicella fall. So now I'm doing you. I didn't want
(09:43):
to do this letter. The worst part is our sex life.
I couldn't step out and get some great sex from
other men. Well guess what you will be then though,
you're bout to be in the car girl and the
stru Boh, yeah, you don't want that, Lady, don't do that,
(10:05):
she said. But I have a conscious and that's good.
I don't want to keep on being miserable in this
marriage with mediocre income and sex. See, fat boy ain't
what he used to do. Let's just break it down.
It's fatter assing got up and he got that hunted
on it. But love making got to be stressful. His
(10:30):
big ass up here ain't making no money in some
side sex and the something got to have if you're
gonna have. Sorry, sex and leaders let her go shopping. Yeah,
at least let her go shop. What you can't do
is be sitting up in there complaining. And then when
she asked you about to sex, your response is I'm sorry,
(10:52):
I'm sill, sorry, but I ain't gonna do nothing about it.
I got this extra hundred on me what you want
me to do? So I was not gonna be good
with this letter. I knew it when I read it. Uh,
miserable in this mediocre marriage with sex and income. I've
talked to my husband about to here apologize. So what
(11:13):
am I supposed to do? Do I leave and start over,
taking the kids away from the stable home and their father. No,
don't do that. Don't do that. Or should I go
ahead and cheat on my husband and stay in this
stale man. Well, here's a suggestion that might be able
to kill two birds with one stone. You could get
your husband back off the couch by getting him back
(11:35):
into the hustle game. Uh, that's when he went to
jail for now, But this time he hustling and scamming.
What do you do he working with you to scratch
your with Let him go out and get to me
and that you need to be satisfied and then let
(11:58):
him have a cut. Then he'll feel better like he
back hustle, you get all that scratch out the way,
you'll be back in business. But you have a conscience.
But if he gives you the permission to do what
you could do it. I don't like this. I'm good
(12:21):
with it. But they but the dude then gave up. Yes,
a hundred pounds a lot, that's a lot, farty, you
make a comeback a hunted. But where was she? Yeah
when he gained the first or bad or fifty or fifty? Yeah,
(12:43):
she was looking at him at fifty. Okay, don't you
get out of jail you'd be ripped. Yeah for Wow,
you ain't nothing to do in jail. Butt lift weights?
You ain't over eating it now and it's not healthy right, Oh,
they ain't got nothing healthy for you. Ain't no gluten free.
(13:08):
You may get top running in the sink. You can't
gain no weight over that man and not at home? Yeah,
I mean only these are questions only she can answer.
She wants to stay. She's you know, do I leave
and start over, taking the kids away from the stable
home with their father. I would say no to that.
Or should I go ahead and cheat on my husband
(13:30):
and see her options is if I stay with him,
Because I said stay with him and don't take the
kids with when they stay home. All her answer is,
if I stay with him, I'm gonna have to cheat
on him. Yeah, that's all that. That's her response. So
now I'm telling her include him in the cheating. All right,
we gotta got email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts
(13:54):
on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey f M and
at My Girls. Sureley, you're listening to the same Harday
Morning show.
Coming up at forty one after the hour. Steve Harvey's
bad acting theaters back The Chapman's on tap. They're coming up.
You better say that Jay Anthony Brown, the writer of
The Chapman's. But right now it is time for today's
Strawberry Letter, and if you need advice on relationships, on dating,
(00:21):
on work, on sex, on parenting, and more, please submit
your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and
click submit Strawberry Letter, write Steve, yea yea, and not
with you time. We got it for you here It
(00:42):
is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nev. Subject my marriage
is stable but stale. Dear Stephen Shirley, I have a
testimony and I need some solid advice. In the past,
my husband was a scam artist and I am an
ex stripper and call girl. We both got caught up
and ended up doing time, and our family took care
of our children. I got I got released from prison first,
(01:05):
and I started to rebuild our lives. When he got out,
I put him through school. After that, I continued my
education and now we make decent money and have a
stable home life. My husband used to be a natural hustler,
but now he does not share my desire to work
hard and earn more money. Besides that, he has gained
one hundred pounds and has turned into a couch potato.
(01:29):
I am stuck being the dreamer, the planner, the motivator,
and the brains. But my problem gets deeper. The worst
part is our sex life. In the past, I was
used to getting gratification from multiple men, and now I'm
not getting my itch properly scratched. I could step out
and get great sex from other men, but I have
a conscience. I don't want to keep on being miserable
(01:52):
in this marriage with mediocre income and sex. I have
talked to my husband about the sex and he apologized
for not being able to satisfy me, and that was it.
So what am I supposed to do? Do I leave
and start over, taking the kids away from their stable
home with your father? Or should I go ahead and
cheat on my husband and stay in this stale marriage.
(02:16):
I know I can, I can tell your torn I
think you know. But oh good and and I can't
wait to hear yours. Thank you? Oh oh oh, it
sounds like you want to talk to her. Okay, here
we go. These are questions really, only you can answer.
(02:38):
I mean, seriously, you've been in this marriage for a while. Uh,
you guys have a sorted past scam artists, uh, stripper
call girl all that. But um, you know you did
you paid your dues, you did your time, and now,
like you say, you're rebuilding your lives, which is a
good thing. Everyone deserves a second chance. Now, you put
your husband through school, so he hasn't a ucation, there's
(03:00):
no excuse for him not working. Um, and then you
continue do yours. You make decent money. Now you have
a stable home life. But your your your husband sounds
like he's just not happy, this natural hustler in him. Uh,
he's not happy. So he gained a hundred pounds, he's
turned into a couch potato, and now the sex is horrible.
You're saying again, these are questions only you can answer.
(03:22):
Should you leave him? The question to you is what
do you want? I mean, really, what do you want?
You can have what you want, but you can't change
anyone but yourself in this situation. If you want to
stay there, you gotta deal with trying to get your
husband out of this funk or helping him get back
on the right track. If he's gained a hundred pounds,
you know, start meal planning, helping him do things like that,
(03:45):
work out things like that, find out what's going on
with him, go to the doctor why the weight gang
talk to him about it. When you did talk to
him about it, you said, he just answered you or
apologize and nothing happened. I say, that's if you want
to stay with him, if you love him and all that.
But if not, if you want to walk, you know,
that's what you're gonna have to do, because it doesn't
sound like he's interested in the marriage. Only you can
(04:07):
make this, make this change. If you feel like your
marriage is worth fighting for and you'll have something after
you fight, then you stay. If not, you're gonna have
to walk. Steve, I don't really want to answer this
now my whole answer. I want to take a whole
another approach. A matter of fact, let me just say,
(04:28):
Shirley gave you the best advice you can get. Now
let me just do what I want to do. Just
do it. You don't need permission. I have a testimony.
Testimonies are normally given in church. You bypassed the church
part because y'all probably don't know where the church at
(04:49):
that because of their past. Well in the past, my
husband was a scam artist. I'm an ex stripper and
a call girl. Um. We both got caught up and
he ended up doing time and our family took care
of our kids. I got released from prison, first started
(05:09):
to rebuild our lives. When he got out, I put
him through school. After that, I continue my education and
now we make decent money and have a stable home life.
That's good. People are allowed to make mistakes in recover. Congratulations.
My husband used to be a natural hustler, but now
he does not share my desire to work hard and
every more money. Besides that, he has gained one hundred
(05:32):
pounds and turned into a couch potato. All right, let's
start here. The reason he didn't gain this hunted pounds,
it is because he stopped scamming. That's all it is.
He was busy, his hands was getting around, he was
(05:54):
on his feet, and it's hard to gain weight when
you scared because you don't all as much food. When
he's scared, scam and asked, was on edge all day.
He was just like a little crackhead, just nervous man,
slim in shape, fast talking, went to prison. He don't
(06:17):
want to go back to prison. So now even stayed
his ass on that couch and picked up a hunted Now,
Shirley said, get on the meal plan. A hundred is
too five. He know what you know here, damn couch potato.
He's a potato couch. He's a sack of potatoes. He's
(06:39):
a whole bunch of potatoes. He's one fat ass breaked potato.
Because he done. He's sitting on that couch with that
dry ass life. He don't know what to do. Hell yeah,
I used to be married to a striple and a
call girl, and I was a stone cold hustle. You know.
(06:59):
Set a here took as stupid as to school, mess around,
got a damn education. How we think we're some damn
suburbing people. I don't want this. Where are my scams
at the weigh? More fun that we ain't here punching
clocks going to work? Man, I'm eating picked up a
(07:24):
hunted Oh. Man, Now, this lady says, she's stuck being
the dream of the plan of the motivator and the
brains you left out, you to cook and you the
personal shopping. All right, Hold it right there, Steve hold
it right there. Today's Strawberry letter, the subject my marriage
(07:44):
is stable but still yeah, still, because ain't nothing happening
no more? Because according to him, the way he acted,
he had a good life. He just messed up and
got caught. But that prison out this ass down a
little bit. He ain't trying to go back in there,
so the player is safe. Can't scam from this couch
(08:10):
as right here, come out of here, listening to the universe.
When I went to school, I should have been out scamming.
I'm in nice school trying to get it. Damn g
D the hell I need that for I want the
top scam artists in the country. Now I'm just sitting
up here with my fat qui. All I do is
(08:33):
eat baked potatoes. Now you wanna call me a couch
pretender pertained chips. No, I'm not really trying to help him, sure,
but my problem gets deeper. The worst part is our
sex life. In the past, I was used to getting
gratification from multiple men. Damn that sounds nasty, but okay though,
(09:00):
and now I'm not getting my itch properly. Scratch. Try
not to call it edge because you need multiple men
and you started itching that ain't necessarily start. I know
if I've ever been with a lot of women and
I started it, and I would go down to the
(09:21):
clinic because sometimes you ain't got to get your itch scratch.
You got to get your itch taken care of immediately.
As some damn pendicella. You know, I hope it's just
a itch because they got something. Now, I ain't know
pendicella fall. So now I'm doing you. I didn't want
(09:43):
to do this letter. The worst part is our sex life.
I couldn't step out and get some great sex from
other men. Well guess what you will be then though,
you're bout to be in the car girl and the
stru Boh, yeah, you don't want that, Lady, don't do that,
(10:05):
she said. But I have a conscious and that's good.
I don't want to keep on being miserable in this
marriage with mediocre income and sex. See, fat boy ain't
what he used to do. Let's just break it down.
It's fatter assing got up and he got that hunted
on it. But love making got to be stressful. His
(10:30):
big ass up here ain't making no money in some
side sex and the something got to have if you're
gonna have. Sorry, sex and leaders let her go shopping. Yeah,
at least let her go shop. What you can't do
is be sitting up in there complaining. And then when
she asked you about to sex, your response is I'm sorry,
(10:52):
I'm sill, sorry, but I ain't gonna do nothing about it.
I got this extra hundred on me what you want
me to do? So I was not gonna be good
with this letter. I knew it when I read it. Uh,
miserable in this mediocre marriage with sex and income. I've
talked to my husband about to here apologize. So what
(11:13):
am I supposed to do? Do I leave and start over,
taking the kids away from the stable home and their father. No,
don't do that. Don't do that. Or should I go
ahead and cheat on my husband and stay in this
stale man. Well, here's a suggestion that might be able
to kill two birds with one stone. You could get
your husband back off the couch by getting him back
(11:35):
into the hustle game. Uh, that's when he went to
jail for now, But this time he hustling and scamming.
What do you do he working with you to scratch
your with Let him go out and get to me
and that you need to be satisfied and then let
(11:58):
him have a cut. Then he'll feel better like he
back hustle, you get all that scratch out the way,
you'll be back in business. But you have a conscience.
But if he gives you the permission to do what
you could do it. I don't like this. I'm good
(12:21):
with it. But they but the dude then gave up. Yes,
a hundred pounds a lot, that's a lot, farty, you
make a comeback a hunted. But where was she? Yeah
when he gained the first or bad or fifty or fifty? Yeah,
(12:43):
she was looking at him at fifty. Okay, don't you
get out of jail you'd be ripped. Yeah for Wow,
you ain't nothing to do in jail. Butt lift weights?
You ain't over eating it now and it's not healthy right, Oh,
they ain't got nothing healthy for you. Ain't no gluten free.
(13:08):
You may get top running in the sink. You can't
gain no weight over that man and not at home? Yeah,
I mean only these are questions only she can answer.
She wants to stay. She's you know, do I leave
and start over, taking the kids away from the stable
home with their father. I would say no to that.
Or should I go ahead and cheat on my husband
(13:30):
and see her options is if I stay with him,
Because I said stay with him and don't take the
kids with when they stay home. All her answer is,
if I stay with him, I'm gonna have to cheat
on him. Yeah, that's all that. That's her response. So
now I'm telling her include him in the cheating. All right,
we gotta got email us or Instagram. That's your thoughts
(13:54):
on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey f M and
at My Girls. Sureley, you're listening to the same Harday
Morning show.
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