October 14, 2020 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 39 year old black man, married to a beautiful black woman and we have a 10 year old son. We have been married for 11 years and over the years, I’ve fallen short of being a great husband. I struggled to stay faithful and I slipped a few times and started sexting and having phone sex with women I met online. It’s not my wife’s fault that I did what I did, but she has changed since we got married...................
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right. We're nineteen days away now from election day
on November third in most states. In most states they've
opened up early voting, and a lot of people have
already voted. A very own nephew, Tommy has voted. Isn't
it a great feeling when you can actually say you voted.
It's done. You got that off your plate. That's one
(00:21):
you know, off your one thing off your to do list,
right Tommy, yep. Check on your voting status at vote
dot org. And it is time now for the Strawberry Letter.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
(00:42):
dot com and just click submit Strawberry Letter. We could
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you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew.
Subject my wife needs performing and hand medication. Dear Stephen Shirley,
(01:03):
I'm a thirty nine year old black man married to
a beautiful black woman and we have a ten year
old son. We've been married for eleven years and over
the years, I've fallen short of being a great husband.
I struggled to stay faithful and I slipped a few
times and started sexting and having phone sex with women
I met online. It's not my wife's fault that I
(01:24):
did what I did, but she has changed since we
got married. We went for two years without sex, and
at the time we were still young, so I suggested
that we switched things up to make it interesting. I
tried different positions with her, and she complained or said
she was uncomfortable. She is in tiptop physical shape and
(01:46):
she works out several times a week, so it was odd.
Then we had a talk and she told me that
she is going to do a better job at pleasing me.
Her idea of doing a better job was to have wild,
nasty sex with me all over the bedroom after she'd
had some pills her doctor gave her. This was a
mood killer for me, so I was not mad at
(02:09):
all when she fell asleep while she was on top
of me. I decided to try again the next night,
so I sent her dirty text messages all day about
what I wanted to do to her. She said she
would be ready and would take her pills. I asked
what pills. She said, she was taking some pills to
increase her libido and they're all natural and safe. I
(02:31):
told her that they made her too wild and she
was really out of control. That night we did it
and it was the same thing. She was a wild
woman and it was a turn off. I can't believe
my wife has to take performance enhancing medication to have
sex with me. I don't want this sloppy sex. What's
a man to do? Wow? I mean, we got a
(02:56):
lot of strawberry letters about sex, not enough sex, not
good sex, cheating sex, threesome sex, etc. We get a
lot of them, But Steve, I don't think. I don't
think we've ever gotten a letter from a husband about
the sex being too wild. I think this might be
a first. And wait a minute, husband, weren't you the
one complaining about not having sex for two years? Weren't
(03:19):
you the one asking to and I quote switch things
up and make it interesting? Yeah, well, be careful what
you wish for a hum because she gave you what
she thought you wanted wild and I guess nasty sex.
And now you're saying she's too much. What is she
doing in there that turns you off so much. I mean,
(03:41):
all you told us was that you guys were all
over the bedroom and she was a wild woman. That's
all you said. As husband and wife, of course you
need to have a healthy sexual relationship, but you guys
are obviously on two different pages when it comes to
pleasing each other. But I also hear you say that
everything turns you off, especially her libido pills. So she
(04:05):
could try to get a lower dosage maybe, you know,
and see what happens after that, then maybe she won't
be so wild. You know. I'm struggling really to figure
out just why you're so turned off and what is
it that you wanted? I mean, isn't this what you wanted?
Isn't it the wild nasty? I don't know what did
(04:26):
you want? Is it the wild part or the nasty part,
which to some people would just be regular sex, I
might add, Or is it the fact that she needs
some pills to have sex with you? Now? I kind
of think that's what it is, and that's why you're
taking this so personally. I think a lower dosage and
more communication between you two would help you. Guys at
(04:48):
this point, Steve, that ain't it? He It is right? Here.
My wife needs performance enhanceme medication. Let's talk about this
for a minute. Thirty nine year old dude got this
beautiful black woman. You got ten year old boys been
married eleven years, and you said in the beginning, you
fail short or being a great husband. You struggle to
(05:11):
stay faithful, and I slipped a few times, started sex
into having phone sex with women I met on nine. Okay,
that's what you did. It's not my fault that I
did what I did. It's not my wife's fault that
I did what I did. But she has changed since
we got married. We went for two years without sex,
(05:36):
two wow. And during that time we was young. So
I suggested we switched things up to make it interested.
All right, This is the key this whole letter that
I'm about to expose to you. The key to this letter.
It's in the two years y'all had no sex. Yeah,
(05:58):
and you suggested that she switched things up. Please remember
this block of information because you're gonna need it for
the rest of the letter. I tried different positions with her,
she complained, saying she was uncomfortable. She's in tiptop physical
shape and she works out several times a week. And
you thought it was odd. So then y'all had a talk,
(06:22):
and then she told you that she was going to
do a better job at pleasing you. Now, these are
the two pieces of information for when we come back
number one, two years without sex, Switch things up to
make it more interesting. All right, we'll have part two
(06:43):
of Steve's response in twenty three minutes after the hour
subject my wife needs performing enhancing medication. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter A sub jacked
my wife needs performing enhancing medication. Ladies and gentlemen, here
(07:06):
we go, thirty nine year old black dude man to
this fan woman in tiptop shape, and things changed for
a while. He wasn't the best husband, cheated on her
with a few women. Sexton Phone Sex said, though, that
it wasn't his wife's fault. It's just that things change
after they got mad. They have not had sex in
(07:29):
two damn years, for long time years. That's a long
long time. Seven hundred days, two months, two months, What
do you mean it's two months? Is two damn long?
Two years is extraordinary? I don't know what you quick
(07:50):
calling me your husband. But she has changed since we
got married, and it's been two years, and so you see,
two years without six. We was young, and I suggested
we switch things up to make it interested me. I
want you to keep in mind, switch things up to
make it interesting in two years without sex. Here we go.
(08:13):
I tried different positions and she complained. She in tiptop
physical shape, works out several times a week, so it
was it was odd. Now here we go. Then we
had a talk and she told me she was gonna
do a better job and pleasing me. Here we go.
Here we go, two years without six, Switch things up,
(08:34):
and I'm gonna do a better job of pleasing you.
Next line, her idea of doing a better job was
to have wild, nasty sex with me all over the
bed room to complain about it. After she had some pills,
her doctor gave up hard up dog. What is you
writing us? Fault God? You say, switch things up? Switch? Yeah,
(09:01):
over here more interesting? Yes, I'm over here, now switch.
I'm hanging on the headboard. Switch switch. That's just regular
for me. I got my boody hanging off the banks. Switch.
I got my foot up on the door knob switch
(09:26):
the bath phone. Man. Oh, there was some switching going on.
This was a mood killer for me. So I wasn't
mad at all when she fell asleep while she was
on top of me. I decided to try again the
next night. So I this is what you did. You
send her dirty text messages all date boy, what I
(09:48):
wanted to do. Also, you're gonna throw gas on the fire.
All damn day girl. I'm Fenna take you. I'm Fenna
being you. I'm Finn sprang you. I'm Finn the hold you.
I'm Finn tall yo. I'm finna get this thing. You
ain't gonna believe me when I get there. She was
sitting at the house, whole town all right. Then she
(10:12):
says she will be ready and would take her pills.
I asked what peel the peel boy? The pills she
took the other night. She says she was taking some
pills to increase a lobido and they all naturally safe.
I told her they made her two wild? Hold up,
what the hell you mean two wild? Y'all ain't had
sex in two years. This ain't wild? She make it up? Yeah,
(10:38):
you getting makeup? Love tied trim you getting woe off
tail you getting all love it? Boy? Boy, you're here
time about that night we did it and it was
the same thing. She was a wild woman. She came
in the house that you said, all this talking all
(10:59):
damn day. What you're gonna do? She said, Well, I
show you when you get home. You think you fit
to do something? We ain't had nothing in two years.
I'm fitting to where you're out. Now you ain't here
mad about these damn peals. Ask her for a pill?
(11:20):
You take one, and if they're doing all that, we
want to know where they at Do they make that
for me? Boy? You by you you don't know a gift.
You stand the gift horse in the mouth and you
act like you don't appreciate it. She was a while,
I want to turn off. I can't believe my wife
(11:40):
has to take performance enhandsome medication. Now sexual me? Shut up?
You tripping? He asked for this, though, then he come
tell me about I don't want this sloppy sex or
what you want? Some neat sex. But you want to
package it about slopping, Well, that's that slopper, slopper slop
(12:01):
slop slop slop shop slopping. But what does he want though, Steve,
I mean he don't he wanted his way. Yeah, they
ain't had sex in two years, this lady and took
this pill and hid go all over the bed. Rule
what they're doing on all right, all over hill. Hey, listen, baby,
(12:27):
I've been going put half of my butt on the
edge of the fire plate. Ready you take the other
half and do what you want to do with it. Okay,
listen to me. I'm gonna put my toe on the mattress,
and every time I mashed the mattress, you jump. You
(12:52):
can leave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and
Instagram and at Steve Harvey FM. And check out the
game of these peels dog Yeah damn Instagram and Facebook.
Don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
demand coming up in about ten minutes. We'll review headlines
and some trending topics. We'll be back right after this peels.
(13:18):
You're listening to The Day Harvey Morning Show.
All right. We're nineteen days away now from election day
on November third in most states. In most states they've
opened up early voting, and a lot of people have
already voted. A very own nephew, Tommy has voted. Isn't
it a great feeling when you can actually say you voted.
It's done. You got that off your plate. That's one
(00:21):
you know, off your one thing off your to do list,
right Tommy, yep. Check on your voting status at vote
dot org. And it is time now for the Strawberry Letter.
If you need advice on relationships, on dating, work, sex, parenting,
and more, please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM
(00:42):
dot com and just click submit Strawberry Letter. We could
be reading your letter live on the air, just like
we're going to read this one right here, right now.
Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for
you here. It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew.
Subject my wife needs performing and hand medication. Dear Stephen Shirley,
(01:03):
I'm a thirty nine year old black man married to
a beautiful black woman and we have a ten year
old son. We've been married for eleven years and over
the years, I've fallen short of being a great husband.
I struggled to stay faithful and I slipped a few
times and started sexting and having phone sex with women
I met online. It's not my wife's fault that I
(01:24):
did what I did, but she has changed since we
got married. We went for two years without sex, and
at the time we were still young, so I suggested
that we switched things up to make it interesting. I
tried different positions with her, and she complained or said
she was uncomfortable. She is in tiptop physical shape and
(01:46):
she works out several times a week, so it was odd.
Then we had a talk and she told me that
she is going to do a better job at pleasing me.
Her idea of doing a better job was to have wild,
nasty sex with me all over the bedroom after she'd
had some pills her doctor gave her. This was a
mood killer for me, so I was not mad at
(02:09):
all when she fell asleep while she was on top
of me. I decided to try again the next night,
so I sent her dirty text messages all day about
what I wanted to do to her. She said she
would be ready and would take her pills. I asked
what pills. She said, she was taking some pills to
increase her libido and they're all natural and safe. I
(02:31):
told her that they made her too wild and she
was really out of control. That night we did it
and it was the same thing. She was a wild
woman and it was a turn off. I can't believe
my wife has to take performance enhancing medication to have
sex with me. I don't want this sloppy sex. What's
a man to do? Wow? I mean, we got a
(02:56):
lot of strawberry letters about sex, not enough sex, not
good sex, cheating sex, threesome sex, etc. We get a
lot of them, But Steve, I don't think. I don't
think we've ever gotten a letter from a husband about
the sex being too wild. I think this might be
a first. And wait a minute, husband, weren't you the
one complaining about not having sex for two years? Weren't
(03:19):
you the one asking to and I quote switch things
up and make it interesting? Yeah, well, be careful what
you wish for a hum because she gave you what
she thought you wanted wild and I guess nasty sex.
And now you're saying she's too much. What is she
doing in there that turns you off so much. I mean,
(03:41):
all you told us was that you guys were all
over the bedroom and she was a wild woman. That's
all you said. As husband and wife, of course you
need to have a healthy sexual relationship, but you guys
are obviously on two different pages when it comes to
pleasing each other. But I also hear you say that
everything turns you off, especially her libido pills. So she
(04:05):
could try to get a lower dosage maybe, you know,
and see what happens after that, then maybe she won't
be so wild. You know. I'm struggling really to figure
out just why you're so turned off and what is
it that you wanted? I mean, isn't this what you wanted?
Isn't it the wild nasty? I don't know what did
(04:26):
you want? Is it the wild part or the nasty part,
which to some people would just be regular sex, I
might add, Or is it the fact that she needs
some pills to have sex with you? Now? I kind
of think that's what it is, and that's why you're
taking this so personally. I think a lower dosage and
more communication between you two would help you. Guys at
(04:48):
this point, Steve, that ain't it? He It is right? Here.
My wife needs performance enhanceme medication. Let's talk about this
for a minute. Thirty nine year old dude got this
beautiful black woman. You got ten year old boys been
married eleven years, and you said in the beginning, you
fail short or being a great husband. You struggle to
(05:11):
stay faithful, and I slipped a few times, started sex
into having phone sex with women I met on nine. Okay,
that's what you did. It's not my fault that I
did what I did. It's not my wife's fault that
I did what I did. But she has changed since
we got married. We went for two years without sex,
(05:36):
two wow. And during that time we was young. So
I suggested we switched things up to make it interested.
All right, This is the key this whole letter that
I'm about to expose to you. The key to this letter.
It's in the two years y'all had no sex. Yeah,
(05:58):
and you suggested that she switched things up. Please remember
this block of information because you're gonna need it for
the rest of the letter. I tried different positions with her,
she complained, saying she was uncomfortable. She's in tiptop physical
shape and she works out several times a week. And
you thought it was odd. So then y'all had a talk,
(06:22):
and then she told you that she was going to
do a better job at pleasing you. Now, these are
the two pieces of information for when we come back
number one, two years without sex, Switch things up to
make it more interesting. All right, we'll have part two
(06:43):
of Steve's response in twenty three minutes after the hour
subject my wife needs performing enhancing medication. We'll get back
into it right after this. You're listening, all right, Steve.
Come on, let's recap today's strawberry letter A sub jacked
my wife needs performing enhancing medication. Ladies and gentlemen, here
(07:06):
we go, thirty nine year old black dude man to
this fan woman in tiptop shape, and things changed for
a while. He wasn't the best husband, cheated on her
with a few women. Sexton Phone Sex said, though, that
it wasn't his wife's fault. It's just that things change
after they got mad. They have not had sex in
(07:29):
two damn years, for long time years. That's a long
long time. Seven hundred days, two months, two months, What
do you mean it's two months? Is two damn long?
Two years is extraordinary? I don't know what you quick
(07:50):
calling me your husband. But she has changed since we
got married, and it's been two years, and so you see,
two years without six. We was young, and I suggested
we switch things up to make it interested me. I
want you to keep in mind, switch things up to
make it interesting in two years without sex. Here we go.
(08:13):
I tried different positions and she complained. She in tiptop
physical shape, works out several times a week, so it
was it was odd. Now here we go. Then we
had a talk and she told me she was gonna
do a better job and pleasing me. Here we go.
Here we go, two years without six, Switch things up,
(08:34):
and I'm gonna do a better job of pleasing you.
Next line, her idea of doing a better job was
to have wild, nasty sex with me all over the
bed room to complain about it. After she had some pills,
her doctor gave up hard up dog. What is you
writing us? Fault God? You say, switch things up? Switch? Yeah,
(09:01):
over here more interesting? Yes, I'm over here, now switch.
I'm hanging on the headboard. Switch switch. That's just regular
for me. I got my boody hanging off the banks. Switch.
I got my foot up on the door knob switch
(09:26):
the bath phone. Man. Oh, there was some switching going on.
This was a mood killer for me. So I wasn't
mad at all when she fell asleep while she was
on top of me. I decided to try again the
next night. So I this is what you did. You
send her dirty text messages all date boy, what I
(09:48):
wanted to do. Also, you're gonna throw gas on the fire.
All damn day girl. I'm Fenna take you. I'm Fenna
being you. I'm Finn sprang you. I'm Finn the hold you.
I'm Finn tall yo. I'm finna get this thing. You
ain't gonna believe me when I get there. She was
sitting at the house, whole town all right. Then she
(10:12):
says she will be ready and would take her pills.
I asked what peel the peel boy? The pills she
took the other night. She says she was taking some
pills to increase a lobido and they all naturally safe.
I told her they made her two wild? Hold up,
what the hell you mean two wild? Y'all ain't had
sex in two years. This ain't wild? She make it up? Yeah,
(10:38):
you getting makeup? Love tied trim you getting woe off
tail you getting all love it? Boy? Boy, you're here
time about that night we did it and it was
the same thing. She was a wild woman. She came
in the house that you said, all this talking all
(10:59):
damn day. What you're gonna do? She said, Well, I
show you when you get home. You think you fit
to do something? We ain't had nothing in two years.
I'm fitting to where you're out. Now you ain't here
mad about these damn peals. Ask her for a pill?
(11:20):
You take one, and if they're doing all that, we
want to know where they at Do they make that
for me? Boy? You by you you don't know a gift.
You stand the gift horse in the mouth and you
act like you don't appreciate it. She was a while,
I want to turn off. I can't believe my wife
(11:40):
has to take performance enhandsome medication. Now sexual me? Shut up?
You tripping? He asked for this, though, then he come
tell me about I don't want this sloppy sex or
what you want? Some neat sex. But you want to
package it about slopping, Well, that's that slopper, slopper slop
(12:01):
slop slop slop shop slopping. But what does he want though, Steve,
I mean he don't he wanted his way. Yeah, they
ain't had sex in two years, this lady and took
this pill and hid go all over the bed. Rule
what they're doing on all right, all over hill. Hey, listen, baby,
(12:27):
I've been going put half of my butt on the
edge of the fire plate. Ready you take the other
half and do what you want to do with it. Okay,
listen to me. I'm gonna put my toe on the mattress,
and every time I mashed the mattress, you jump. You
(12:52):
can leave us your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and
Instagram and at Steve Harvey FM. And check out the
game of these peels dog Yeah damn Instagram and Facebook.
Don't forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on
demand coming up in about ten minutes. We'll review headlines
and some trending topics. We'll be back right after this peels.
(13:18):
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