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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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Speaker 2 (00:22):
All right, it could be yours. Buckle up and hold
on tight. We got it for you. Here it is
Strawberry Letter.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
Thank you, nephew. Subjects. So what?

Speaker 1 (00:31):
I burned a few things? Oh, dear Stephen Shirley. I'm
twenty eight years old and I've been married for three years.
I've caught my husband cheating on me recently, and I
burned a few of his personal belongings and he can't
get over it. He was cheating in the car whatever
at a popular hookup spot where the younger kids go

(00:54):
to have sex.

Speaker 3 (00:55):
He and I used to go.

Speaker 1 (00:56):
There when we were younger, and we enjoyed sneaking around
having sex. I never imagined he would cheat on me
and then cheat in a spot that he could get caught.
The most embarrassing part is that my younger cousin saw
him and called me. He and the woman were on
the back seat and their clothes were on the front seat.
I stood and watched for a minute, watched him for

(01:18):
a minute, and then I opened the door and took
all of their clothes. I threw my coke on him,
and some of it got in her eyes, so she
didn't see me. I went home and I burned their
clothes they were wearing, and all of his underwear and socks.
I don't know why I burned his underwear and socks,
but I had seen be quiet. But I had seen

(01:42):
my mother burn my stepdad stuff, and it was in
a movie when I was younger, so I snapped. I
did it in a field by our apartment so I
wouldn't go to jail because I remembered my mom got
fined for doing it years ago. My husband drove up
wearing only a tea shirt, and he put out the fire.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
Mark the visual.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
I jumped on him, and all I remember after that
is my neighbor pulling me off of him. This mess
could have been avoided if he had.

Speaker 3 (02:14):
Not cheated on me.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
I was willing to try to get our marriage back
on track, but he says, I'm crazy, and he's afraid
of me. He knows I only reacted out of rage
and I wouldn't.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
Ever act like that normally.

Speaker 1 (02:28):
Why can't he see that he's the reason his clothes
got burned? Why is he trying to make this my fault?
It's not It is not your fault at all. Okay,
this is all on him, And don't you dare let
him try to flip this on you. He got caught cheating,
he got caught in his car neckid. He should be

(02:50):
thanking you that you didn't burn him and her right
after that.

Speaker 3 (02:54):
I need you to get focused.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
I need you to stop blaming yourself immediately for him
cheating on you.

Speaker 3 (03:00):
And he didn't even apologize. He's not even done. He
called you crazy.

Speaker 1 (03:04):
Wasn't he the one cheating in a hookup spot where
young people go now and where you guys used to
go now Taking a chance like that, that's crazy.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Okay, he's trying to.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
Make this your fault because that's all he has, that's
all he's got to work with. He wasn't just caught
with his pants down, they were off, they were in
the front seat.

Speaker 3 (03:25):
He had to drive home in just a T shirt.
So if he starts making.

Speaker 1 (03:29):
You feel wrong for what you did, the burning and all,
then that's what you'll focus on, not the wrong he did,
not the pain he caused you, not the hurt, not
the mistrust that he caused. That's what cheeters do when
they get caught. They try to flip it. Tell him, yes,
you are crazy for even considering taking him back after that,

(03:50):
and tell him if he keeps on, you'll show him
what crazy is for real, for real, and he better
be glad you didn't burn the whole house down and
set the car on fire and all that.

Speaker 3 (03:59):
All right, but I know you got to live in
the house.

Speaker 1 (04:01):
But anyway, Yeah, come on, Steve out of here.

Speaker 4 (04:06):
Fat Shirley's response is one spot on. Everything Shirley said
to you is true. This is just a simple case
of the best defense is a good offense.

Speaker 2 (04:20):
That's all this is.

Speaker 4 (04:22):
This is him taking this and making you the villain
for the act that you did.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
It's so many things in this letter that's crazy.

Speaker 4 (04:31):
And now, first of all, you're twenty eight years old,
so I'm assuming that you all around to saying age.
You've been married for three years and you caught your
husband cheating on you recently, and I burned a few
of his personal items and he can't get over it.
He can't get over that. Well, you can't get over
yours either. See what you can't do is let him
out get not get over it. You know you're saying

(04:54):
he can't get over it. You can't let him out,
not get over it. You got to get further, not
get o over it than him, if you know what
I'm trying to tell you. You can't let him beat
you at this game. Women are the best at this.
There's nobody greater at not getting over something than women.

Speaker 2 (05:11):
They are the best at it. They know how to
make you.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
Gravel, crawl back, pay over and over and over, bring
it up years later on the same date at the
same time. You need to get in that mold right there.
He was cheating in this car, the popular hookup spot
where younger kids go to have six y'all used to
go there when y'all was younger.

Speaker 2 (05:31):
What and you like doing it?

Speaker 4 (05:33):
But you didn't never imagine that he would cheat on
you and cheat on the spot that he could get
caught Old Habits, that's where he been going. He been
going down there to that spot.

Speaker 1 (05:46):
Nah.

Speaker 4 (05:47):
The embarrassing part you say for you is your younger
cousin saw him.

Speaker 2 (05:50):
And called me. That's what this was? A girl?

Speaker 4 (05:55):
Hopefully he and the woman were on the back seat.
Clothes was on the front seat. Lord, have mess it.
Don't be away from your clothes.

Speaker 3 (06:08):
Yeah, one more time, come.

Speaker 4 (06:09):
On, whatever, go away from your clothes. I take your
clothes with you. That old that's where you're supposed to
put them. That's stupid. You put them clothes up in
the back window. You got to have put them clothes
on the floe. You got to have them closed by you.
You'll ever separate from your clothes.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
Lad, you're stupid. Yes, you're so damn stupid.

Speaker 3 (06:36):
Hold on, Steve, hold and keep it right there. All right.

Speaker 1 (06:39):
We'll have part two of your response coming up at
twenty three minutes after the hour. The subject of today's
strawberry letter is so what, I burned a few things.
We'll get back into it right after.

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Speaker 1 (07:25):
All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter
and get your response.

Speaker 3 (07:30):
What's going on?

Speaker 4 (07:30):
This is a letter that's ridiculous that should never get ridden.
Shirley gave the proper response to all of it. I
strongly suggest you follow all the Shirley's advice. But what
I was just telling you it doesn't make any sense.
This is a typical example of the best offense. The
best defense is a good offense, So get off defense
and get on offense. And that's what he's doing to you.

(07:52):
He's making it about what you did with his stupid ass.
Went down there to a place y'all used to cheat
at when y'all was younger eight he could still do that.
You never imagine he cheat on you had a spot
he could get caught. But then your younger cousin saw
him and called you. You and this woman on the
back seat, and they closed was on the front seat.

(08:12):
Why are you separate from your clothes?

Speaker 2 (08:15):
Listen to this.

Speaker 4 (08:16):
If you are not in your house or in your
hotel room, you have to have him close close by.
If you are visiting someone else's house, you must be
able to reach and touch your clothes at all. Number
the clothes out of reach. You don't know who she

(08:40):
know when he come in?

Speaker 2 (08:42):
All him?

Speaker 4 (08:43):
So now you go down there, he and the woman
who was on the back seat, and they close on
the front seat. I stood and watched for a minute.
What rule number two? When you in the car doing stuff,
you have to check periodically, look up over. You can't

(09:04):
commit a full two minutes to your business without looking. Man,
I'd have been in the car before you got to look.
It's hard place to go, but you got to look.
I stood and watched for a minute. Then I opened
the door and took all their clothes. See right there,
if your clothes was in reach, If no way, you're

(09:25):
gonna let your wife take your damn clothes. I threw
my coke on him, and some of it got in
her eyes, so she didn't see me.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
What who did she think it was?

Speaker 2 (09:37):
Girl? It was coke. It wasn't acid. Yeah, she saw you.

Speaker 4 (09:44):
I went home and burned their clothes they were wearing
and all of his underwearing socks. I don't know why
burned his underwearing socks. But I seen my mother burn
my stepdad's cause. And it was in a movie when
I was younger. That's that's thin line. Yeah, and waiting
for his hell or then O don't whatever movie you know,
I ain't see it anyway. I tried to do a

(10:06):
movie reference, but I didn't see it anyway. The movie
right there and they burned. I thought Marl Lawns had
his clothes burned.

Speaker 2 (10:13):
He was pretty rough.

Speaker 5 (10:14):
Now living with you, Yeah, but the movie she talking
about his waiting anyway.

Speaker 4 (10:19):
Yeah, anyway, that is a movie and it got very popular.
A lot of me and lost their clothes because of
this movie. I want to see that too, And they
called so and they cause, uh.

Speaker 2 (10:30):
So, I didn't go to that.

Speaker 4 (10:31):
My husband drove up wearing only a T shirt and
put out the fire going right here and got his
half niggaive hands. He's stomping on the fire, barefoot T
shirt on.

Speaker 2 (10:45):
This boy must have been proud of herself.

Speaker 4 (10:49):
Barefoot putting this fire out with just this damn T
shirt on, and you you started the fire down the
street in an empty lot.

Speaker 2 (10:57):
I wouldn't give a damn if that whole lot caught
on fire. I'm not going out there.

Speaker 1 (11:02):
You.

Speaker 4 (11:03):
It's too late to save your clothes. My husband drove
up wearing on a T shirt and he put out
the fire. I jumped on that, and all I remember
is that the neighbor pulling me off, or his half
naked ass. He got a T shirt on.

Speaker 2 (11:17):
I don't know you. It's hard to fight with no
draws on.

Speaker 4 (11:21):
I'm just it's very it's very, very difficult.

Speaker 2 (11:25):
Most don't.

Speaker 3 (11:28):
Is it hard to drive with no underwear on?

Speaker 2 (11:36):
What you don't want to do is stop pull up
next to a truck.

Speaker 4 (11:39):
You don't take to look down, because they down, they
see you. So if you pull up next to a truck,
you gotta stay behind the door. I've done all this
right here, like a long story, but I've done all
this right here. That seat is hot, quicker, so now
you got out you. I'm him, he half naked, got

(12:01):
a T shirt on, his stomping barefoot.

Speaker 2 (12:03):
He from Africa or.

Speaker 4 (12:05):
Some or either he Caribbean where he'd do fire walking.
I don't know who can jump out they car and
stumple fire out And why.

Speaker 2 (12:15):
Would he care?

Speaker 4 (12:16):
It's down the street anyway, all you remembers your neighbor
put off. This mess could have been avoided had he
not cheated on me.

Speaker 2 (12:25):
Oh yeah, that's true. I was willing to try to
get our marriage back on track.

Speaker 4 (12:30):
But he says I'm crazy, and he's afraid of me
as he should. As he should be, there's an element
of fear that should reside in his life from here
on after. Yes, you crazy and he should be afraid
of you. He knows that you reacted out of anger
and rage. That would I would never act like that normally.

(12:51):
Wait a minute, normally when do you normally find your
husband in the back seat naked, which somebody else would
clothes on the front seat.

Speaker 2 (13:02):
There's nothing normal about this. Why are you?

Speaker 4 (13:05):
How did you allow him to do this to you?
Why can't he see that he's the reason his clothes
got burned? No, no, no, I don't give a damn
if you can't get over it. As a matter of fact,
so you don't get over I'm finna burn two of your.

Speaker 2 (13:17):
Suits, flum letting me catch you cheap?

Speaker 4 (13:21):
You just stop letting him do you this way. It's
his fault. I burned your clothes because you cheated on me.
That's why I did it.

Speaker 3 (13:31):
Get over right, all right now, cull back.

Speaker 2 (13:34):
To me because I don't want you.

Speaker 1 (13:37):
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