June 15, 2022 • 13 mins
Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been together for 5 years and married for 3 years. I have a son by my ex-husband and my husband has a son by an ex-girlfriend. Our blended family works perfectly because the boys are very close in age, so they’re best friends. My stepson’s mom is cool but I’ve made it a point to keep her at a distance because my mother-in-law told me she can be very messy at times.............................
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
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(00:22):
It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject They're
not really related, okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and
I have been together for five years and married for
three years. I have a son by my ex husband,
and my husband has a son by an ex girlfriend.
Our blended family works perfectly because the boys are very
(00:43):
close in age, so they're best friends. My stepson's mom
is cool, but I've made it a point to keep
her at a distance because my mother in law told
me she can be very messy at times. She also
warned me to keep an eye on my husband's cousin, Mallory,
because she's a bad influence on my husband and we'll
have him hanging out at all, hanging out all of
(01:06):
the time. When I met my husband he was out
with his cousin, Mallorie. They were inseparable, and she has
a son around our son's age, so they all play together.
She's a beautiful woman with her own business, so I
wondered why she's still single. After we got married, Mallory
stopped coming around as much, and my husband said she
(01:27):
was dating someone new and didn't want him to meet
the guy That was four years ago. Now, she stopped
coming over all together. My husband's ex girlfriend called me
one day to ask if Mallory and I had a
problem with each other. I told her no and asked why.
She said, there's a rumor that Mallory's three year old
(01:47):
son is my husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin,
but his ex said they're not related at all. I
called my mother in law to ask her, and she jokingly,
jokingly said they're kissing cousins and probably used to mess around.
It started to make sense because Mallory said she was
(02:07):
too sick to come to our wedding and she never
calls my phone. She always calls my husband and they
talk privately a lot. Boy, what's eye stupid? If this
is true, how do I find out all the truth
without fighting them. I don't know how you're going to
do it without fighting them, because it seems pretty clear
(02:28):
what this is. And so much for the perfect, blended
family that you thought you had, because this is a mess,
and you already know that if you ask him, he's
certainly gonna lie about it. He hasn't told you until
this point. If you listen to the show on a
regular basis, you know the lies will be flying out
of your husband's mouth before you can even get the
(02:50):
questions out. Okay, there's also the matter of exactly what
truth do you want to know? Do you want to
know if they're really cousins? Are they exist? And the
big question, of course, is your husband Malory's baby daddy.
You gotta look at the facts. When you met your husband,
he was with Mallory. They were inseparable. Those are your words.
Your mother in law told you to keep an eye
(03:10):
on her because she's a bad influence on your husband.
I don't really know what that means, but your mother
in law also said that Mallory and your husband probably
messed around and they're kissing cousins. Okay, that could produce
a child if they messed around. And then his ex
said they're not related at all. After you guys married,
(03:33):
miss Mallory stopped coming around and now only talks to
your husband in private. Something is off. Okay, you gotta
admit that something is off, and this sounds bad. It
should be fairly easy to get a DNA a test
to see who is the child's father. But what is
your gut telling you? That's what I got to ask you.
What is your gut telling you? Because my gut is
(03:55):
leaning toward Malory is not his cousin like they said,
and your husband is the father. That's what my gut
is telling me. Steve, Wow, I wasn't expecting this. I'm
going to admit I'm a big throwed off, you know,
a little bit of oh oh really? Oh Now, normally
(04:22):
I would prepare a lie for this guy, but this
maybe not the time for the lie. Instead of lying, no,
this is a time for reveal. See that has a difference.
You gotta know when to lie and you got to
know when to reveal. So let me walk you through
(04:42):
what I'm saying. You've been married for five years, three years,
knowing this guy for five you got a son by
your ex husband, and your husband has a son by
ex girlfriend. I blended family works together perfectly because the
boys are very close in age. Let's keep that in mind.
We're gonna need this information right here. Put a star
(05:03):
next to that. So they're best friends. My stepson's mom
is cool, but I made it a point to keep
her at a distance because my mother in law told
me she could be very messy at times. Okay, let's
keep that in mind because that's gonna come back. She
also wanted me to keep around with my husband's cousin, Mallory,
(05:24):
because she's a bad influence on my husband to have
him hanging out all the time I met my husband,
he was out with his cousin Mallory. They weren't separable.
He has a son around, She has a son around
our son's age, so they all play together. She's a
beautiful woman with her own business, so I wonder why
she was still single. After we got married, Mallory stopped
(05:47):
coming around as much, and my husband says she was
dating someone new and didn't want him to meet the guy. Okay,
that's an interesting comments. Know why you don't want you
to meet the new guy? You know, y'all friends and cousins.
You would think you'd want your cousins a pen. That
(06:10):
was four years ago. Now she just stopped coming over
all together. My husband's a girlfriend called me one day.
Your husband's as girlfriend called you. Didn't your mother in
law tell you to watch her? Call she messy? She
sure did. She told you to watch his ex girlfriend
because she is messy. Here she go. She called you
(06:33):
and ask if Mallory and I had a problem with
each other four years. Hang on, hang on, we'll have
part two of your response coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter, subject they're not
really related? Okay, we'll get back into it right after this.
(06:53):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is if they're
not really related? Woman been married, been three years, been
knowing this guy five. She got a son from a
previous husband, He got a son from previous girlfriend. They
both the same age. They got a blended family. They
(07:15):
played together all the time. Fast forward, the mother gets
in and tells her be aware of his former girlfriend
because she can be messy. Then the mother in law
told her beware of Mallory because she can be getting
him into trouble and be a bad influence on him.
(07:35):
So every woman in his life has been a bad decision. Now,
they were inseparate, because when you met them, he was
with Mallorie. They were inseparate and everything, and she's beautiful,
got her own business, and you wonder why she was
(07:55):
still single. Well after we got married, Malory stopped coming
around as much, as my husband said. She was dating
someone new and didn't want him to meet the guy.
If when your cousins, you want your other cousin's opinion,
especially if y'all close red flag. That was four years ago.
Now she stopped coming over all together. My husband's as
girlfriend called me one day to ask Mallorie and I
(08:18):
had a problem to each other. Now, why this health
will call you. You want to tell you why she
called you, because your mom law told you she was
messing and here she come four years. Took her four
years to call you and asked you and Mallorie have
a problem to each other. I told him no. She said, well,
why you ain't got a problem with her? She said
(08:41):
that as a rumor that Malorie's three year old sons
your husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin. Well,
now let's deal with this right now. If you if
Mallory was his cousin, you don't have to worry about it.
If he lying, all you need to do is watch
(09:05):
that boy close. Now, three boys that's playing. Is your
little boy from your ex husband. Is your husband's little
boy from his ex girlfriend, and now is Mallory's little boy.
If Mallory is your husband's cousin, you would know that
(09:32):
by watching the boy. You know what, because this little
boy ain't gonna be quite right now. I'm just really
like the rest of the boy. He ain't gonna be
a climb on stuff. You know, he ain't gonna do
a little boy stuff. Now, if these cousins have gotten together,
(09:52):
I'm telling you right now, he thows your hollege to
the little boy right now, three three years old. He
ain't said nothing nothing he spoke, he spoke. He he's
still crawling. He said nothing. He still crawled at three three.
(10:19):
You can walk at one, can't say water before one?
That eat huh. I'm just telling you, if this was Mallary,
could just watch the boy. How big is his head?
(10:39):
Come on, come, on from this. No, this is how
you do these letters. Okay, now we'll get back to
the boy. But right now, but his ex said they're
not related at all. Once again, it would be in
the boy if they were related. Now, obviously this boy's normal.
(11:02):
He ain't doing nothing nothing that the inbred people do.
I'm from West Virginia. I've seen a couple of people
that stayed up the road. What can happen down there,
just thirteen years old, just walking down the street, just
peeing on himself. If you don't pull up on the
side of the road and just do your business on
(11:25):
the side, where are you walking and peeing on yourself? Herbert,
he got a helmet on. Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna tell
if he's fifteen and still got training with he just
ain't gonna get it. I'm just telling you, he just
(11:45):
ain't gonna get it. His equal librium and it's never
gonna kick you. Equal equal liberum is never gonna kick in.
He all he right, he's still he fifteen, He got
them training where he's still right to the side like that,
he's still ride to the side like this. Back to Mallorie,
be holling for no reason, Come over, your house, and
(12:13):
if he gets thirsty, if he take his helmet off
and put the water in the helmet to drink it.
We did. We're dealing with some issues now. I'm just
trying to tell you anyway. Called your mother in law
to ask cousin. She jokingly said they kissing cousins and
probably used to mess around. Started to make sense because
Mallory says she was too sick to come to our
wed and she never calls my phone. She always calls
(12:34):
my husband and they talked privately a lot. Boy was
our stupid if this is true? No, you're not. No,
you're not. Wasn't stupid at all. Nobody knew and there's
no way to new And obviously it's not in the
boy because the boy's normal. Thank God for that. So no,
they're not cousins. Now to find out all the truth
without fighting, Why you gotta fight them, Just gather them together.
(12:54):
I'll tell you what you can fix all this, just
asked the boy. Yeah. Please leave your comments on Today's
Strawberry Letter on Instagram. All answers is just blurts at
Steve Harvey FM, and please check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand of coming up next, it is a
junior and sports talk. Right after this, you're listening to
(13:18):
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if
you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more,
please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve RVFM dot com.
All you have to do is click submit Strawberry Letter
and through that we'd love to hear from you, try
to help you if we can. All right, well, yeah,
bucking up and hold on tight. We got it for you. Here.
(00:22):
It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. Nephew's subject They're
not really related, okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. My husband and
I have been together for five years and married for
three years. I have a son by my ex husband,
and my husband has a son by an ex girlfriend.
Our blended family works perfectly because the boys are very
(00:43):
close in age, so they're best friends. My stepson's mom
is cool, but I've made it a point to keep
her at a distance because my mother in law told
me she can be very messy at times. She also
warned me to keep an eye on my husband's cousin, Mallory,
because she's a bad influence on my husband and we'll
have him hanging out at all, hanging out all of
(01:06):
the time. When I met my husband he was out
with his cousin, Mallorie. They were inseparable, and she has
a son around our son's age, so they all play together.
She's a beautiful woman with her own business, so I
wondered why she's still single. After we got married, Mallory
stopped coming around as much, and my husband said she
(01:27):
was dating someone new and didn't want him to meet
the guy That was four years ago. Now, she stopped
coming over all together. My husband's ex girlfriend called me
one day to ask if Mallory and I had a
problem with each other. I told her no and asked why.
She said, there's a rumor that Mallory's three year old
(01:47):
son is my husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin,
but his ex said they're not related at all. I
called my mother in law to ask her, and she jokingly,
jokingly said they're kissing cousins and probably used to mess around.
It started to make sense because Mallory said she was
(02:07):
too sick to come to our wedding and she never
calls my phone. She always calls my husband and they
talk privately a lot. Boy, what's eye stupid? If this
is true, how do I find out all the truth
without fighting them. I don't know how you're going to
do it without fighting them, because it seems pretty clear
(02:28):
what this is. And so much for the perfect, blended
family that you thought you had, because this is a mess,
and you already know that if you ask him, he's
certainly gonna lie about it. He hasn't told you until
this point. If you listen to the show on a
regular basis, you know the lies will be flying out
of your husband's mouth before you can even get the
(02:50):
questions out. Okay, there's also the matter of exactly what
truth do you want to know? Do you want to
know if they're really cousins? Are they exist? And the
big question, of course, is your husband Malory's baby daddy.
You gotta look at the facts. When you met your husband,
he was with Mallory. They were inseparable. Those are your words.
Your mother in law told you to keep an eye
(03:10):
on her because she's a bad influence on your husband.
I don't really know what that means, but your mother
in law also said that Mallory and your husband probably
messed around and they're kissing cousins. Okay, that could produce
a child if they messed around. And then his ex
said they're not related at all. After you guys married,
(03:33):
miss Mallory stopped coming around and now only talks to
your husband in private. Something is off. Okay, you gotta
admit that something is off, and this sounds bad. It
should be fairly easy to get a DNA a test
to see who is the child's father. But what is
your gut telling you? That's what I got to ask you.
What is your gut telling you? Because my gut is
(03:55):
leaning toward Malory is not his cousin like they said,
and your husband is the father. That's what my gut
is telling me. Steve, Wow, I wasn't expecting this. I'm
going to admit I'm a big throwed off, you know,
a little bit of oh oh really? Oh Now, normally
(04:22):
I would prepare a lie for this guy, but this
maybe not the time for the lie. Instead of lying, no,
this is a time for reveal. See that has a difference.
You gotta know when to lie and you got to
know when to reveal. So let me walk you through
(04:42):
what I'm saying. You've been married for five years, three years,
knowing this guy for five you got a son by
your ex husband, and your husband has a son by
ex girlfriend. I blended family works together perfectly because the
boys are very close in age. Let's keep that in mind.
We're gonna need this information right here. Put a star
(05:03):
next to that. So they're best friends. My stepson's mom
is cool, but I made it a point to keep
her at a distance because my mother in law told
me she could be very messy at times. Okay, let's
keep that in mind because that's gonna come back. She
also wanted me to keep around with my husband's cousin, Mallory,
(05:24):
because she's a bad influence on my husband to have
him hanging out all the time I met my husband,
he was out with his cousin Mallory. They weren't separable.
He has a son around, She has a son around
our son's age, so they all play together. She's a
beautiful woman with her own business, so I wonder why
she was still single. After we got married, Mallory stopped
(05:47):
coming around as much, and my husband says she was
dating someone new and didn't want him to meet the guy. Okay,
that's an interesting comments. Know why you don't want you
to meet the new guy? You know, y'all friends and cousins.
You would think you'd want your cousins a pen. That
(06:10):
was four years ago. Now she just stopped coming over
all together. My husband's a girlfriend called me one day.
Your husband's as girlfriend called you. Didn't your mother in
law tell you to watch her? Call she messy? She
sure did. She told you to watch his ex girlfriend
because she is messy. Here she go. She called you
(06:33):
and ask if Mallory and I had a problem with
each other four years. Hang on, hang on, we'll have
part two of your response coming up at twenty three
minutes after the hour. Today's strawberry letter, subject they're not
really related? Okay, we'll get back into it right after this.
(06:53):
You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve,
let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is if they're
not really related? Woman been married, been three years, been
knowing this guy five. She got a son from a
previous husband, He got a son from previous girlfriend. They
both the same age. They got a blended family. They
(07:15):
played together all the time. Fast forward, the mother gets
in and tells her be aware of his former girlfriend
because she can be messy. Then the mother in law
told her beware of Mallory because she can be getting
him into trouble and be a bad influence on him.
(07:35):
So every woman in his life has been a bad decision. Now,
they were inseparate, because when you met them, he was
with Mallorie. They were inseparate and everything, and she's beautiful,
got her own business, and you wonder why she was
(07:55):
still single. Well after we got married, Malory stopped coming
around as much, as my husband said. She was dating
someone new and didn't want him to meet the guy.
If when your cousins, you want your other cousin's opinion,
especially if y'all close red flag. That was four years ago.
Now she stopped coming over all together. My husband's as
girlfriend called me one day to ask Mallorie and I
(08:18):
had a problem to each other. Now, why this health
will call you. You want to tell you why she
called you, because your mom law told you she was
messing and here she come four years. Took her four
years to call you and asked you and Mallorie have
a problem to each other. I told him no. She said, well,
why you ain't got a problem with her? She said
(08:41):
that as a rumor that Malorie's three year old sons
your husband's child. I thought Mallorie was his cousin. Well,
now let's deal with this right now. If you if
Mallory was his cousin, you don't have to worry about it.
If he lying, all you need to do is watch
(09:05):
that boy close. Now, three boys that's playing. Is your
little boy from your ex husband. Is your husband's little
boy from his ex girlfriend, and now is Mallory's little boy.
If Mallory is your husband's cousin, you would know that
(09:32):
by watching the boy. You know what, because this little
boy ain't gonna be quite right now. I'm just really
like the rest of the boy. He ain't gonna be
a climb on stuff. You know, he ain't gonna do
a little boy stuff. Now, if these cousins have gotten together,
(09:52):
I'm telling you right now, he thows your hollege to
the little boy right now, three three years old. He
ain't said nothing nothing he spoke, he spoke. He he's
still crawling. He said nothing. He still crawled at three three.
(10:19):
You can walk at one, can't say water before one?
That eat huh. I'm just telling you, if this was Mallary,
could just watch the boy. How big is his head?
(10:39):
Come on, come, on from this. No, this is how
you do these letters. Okay, now we'll get back to
the boy. But right now, but his ex said they're
not related at all. Once again, it would be in
the boy if they were related. Now, obviously this boy's normal.
(11:02):
He ain't doing nothing nothing that the inbred people do.
I'm from West Virginia. I've seen a couple of people
that stayed up the road. What can happen down there,
just thirteen years old, just walking down the street, just
peeing on himself. If you don't pull up on the
side of the road and just do your business on
(11:25):
the side, where are you walking and peeing on yourself? Herbert,
he got a helmet on. Yeah, yeah, I'm gonna tell
if he's fifteen and still got training with he just
ain't gonna get it. I'm just telling you, he just
(11:45):
ain't gonna get it. His equal librium and it's never
gonna kick you. Equal equal liberum is never gonna kick in.
He all he right, he's still he fifteen, He got
them training where he's still right to the side like that,
he's still ride to the side like this. Back to Mallorie,
be holling for no reason, Come over, your house, and
(12:13):
if he gets thirsty, if he take his helmet off
and put the water in the helmet to drink it.
We did. We're dealing with some issues now. I'm just
trying to tell you anyway. Called your mother in law
to ask cousin. She jokingly said they kissing cousins and
probably used to mess around. Started to make sense because
Mallory says she was too sick to come to our
wed and she never calls my phone. She always calls
(12:34):
my husband and they talked privately a lot. Boy was
our stupid if this is true? No, you're not. No,
you're not. Wasn't stupid at all. Nobody knew and there's
no way to new And obviously it's not in the
boy because the boy's normal. Thank God for that. So no,
they're not cousins. Now to find out all the truth
without fighting, Why you gotta fight them, Just gather them together.
(12:54):
I'll tell you what you can fix all this, just
asked the boy. Yeah. Please leave your comments on Today's
Strawberry Letter on Instagram. All answers is just blurts at
Steve Harvey FM, and please check out the Strawberry Letter
podcast on demand of coming up next, it is a
junior and sports talk. Right after this, you're listening to
(13:18):
the Steve Harvey Morning Show
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