December 1, 2025 • 10 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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apply all thanks to Live Nation. Do you guys when
it comes to holiday stuff and going to families homes
and a lot of you are locals, some of you
have to travel. I would have to go if I
were dating someone and this person wanted to come home
with me for Christmas, we'd have to go to Arizona, right,
(00:43):
and so there would be a sleeping arrangement question. And
I wonder how this works during the holidays because I
read this. I don't know if this is from Reddit
or what, but a husband says that he was told
by his in laws no, and I guess they're married.
So this is really strange to me. No sleeping in
the same bed as your wife when you visit us,
(01:05):
which is strange so then when the tables were turned
and the same couple came to stay with he and
his wife, he then enforced the same rule for his
in laws, and he said that they can't sleep in
the same bed. He explains that during his visits he
felt excluded and his bomb with his wife was restricted,
so this time he wanted them to get a taste
(01:26):
of their own boundary. His own parents were surprised, but
says that it's about fairness and reversing a rule that
always made him feel second class, which is a strange
thing to do. I don't think I would flex on
my in laws. I don't think I would if that's
their rule and their old school in some way, which
is strange because we're married. I guess I could see
(01:46):
it if you were dating, but being married, that's a
weird thing. I probably wouldn't turn it around on them
when they came to my house that I don't really
need the smoke. But I wonder did you guys have
rules or do you have rules as unwed people when
they come When when a man or a woman comes
and stays at your house for a holiday, did they
get to stay in your room? What are the sort
(02:07):
of the boundaries, like is there is there a threshold
like if you date for a year or if you
live together, then we look the other way. I mean,
how does it work well at Helena's house?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You know, I'm only I've only had two boyfriends, and
really the first one I don't count no more so
when two, you know, we'd come by. We could stay
in my room, but it was like, I don't know,
I feel like there's this unspoken rule of respect, like
no frisky business while we're there, so you know, it
was almost like you know, you sleep on your side
of the bit, I'll sleep in.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Mind, don't touch me, like even now, you're not no
freaky business, like if you go to your sister's house.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
No, And maybe it's because we live so close, like
if you if you really did freak you just go home?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Like why are you.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
No, no, not at not now, But.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
That's kind of funny you live down the street, Like
just go home. I have to come over here to
do it, right. I've often thought that, like can you
really not go? You know, so I'm in my in
law's house or whatever, Like can I really not go
two or three days over Christmas? Like with you know,
nieces and nephews running around and you know, some some
(03:20):
weird uncle dresses stand there or something. Did I really not?
I really can't not for three or four days, like
you know, destroy my wife. Like I got a like,
like you know what I mean so eloquently some people
like to some people like that. You know, yeah, I mean.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Your family's house is not a horny place, you know, No,
it's just not. I mean it has been out of
necessity if you're like a high schooler.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
But no, right, like when you lived there and you
didn't have a choice, you know, yeah, it's like scary,
but I know it was scary. Yeah it was scary.
But I don't know, like, wait, when you first started dating,
shame didn't you calin have to Like, wasn't there some
attempt to stay in separate rooms or he slept on
a couch or something.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Well I'm trying to think, because he's he's been to
both our cabin and our house. I think when we
stayed at our house, I mean, we already lived together,
so I think it was just kind of like they
set him up the same place they set Jason up,
which is in our basement that's finished. So they have
like their own area. But I think the last time
I ended up just sleeping down there on the couch
with him, but we didn't do anything. And then I
(04:27):
think at the cabin we had the same room too.
I think my mom's just not she's no dummy.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
You know.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
We live in the same home. So yeah, but our room,
like my room is right across from my sisters and
near my parents, and we don't have locks. So I
typically don't even stay upstairs, you know, if I have
a guy with me, because I don't want to set
that example for my sister, and it just it's a
respect thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Yeah. I was gonna say, she's still in college and
it has been with the guy for a while, but
I mean she's younger, so I assume you got live
together at least I assume then she can't necessarily bring
this guy home and do whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
He gets put down in the basement where we put
all the men. Yeah, and her bedroom is two floors up,
so yeah, but our floors creaked. It's built in the
nineteen twenty so, like you know, the creaky wood floors
we have those. There's not a lot of sneak in
in our house.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
But there is a set standard of like when she
brings her guy home, she's upstairs, he sleeps downstairs, that
you need to be upstairs.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Yeah, but I think neither of us would be like
can we please, like I don't know, it's yeah, but no,
they're not sitting in the same room.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
And that's my rule too, okay for the they need to.
It's kind of funny when there are rules that are
like like when I was in college and I would
come home and my mom was like, all right, well
see at midnight, like what I am? Like, you're trying
to you're proposing yet right, you're proposing a curfew, Like
I don't live here anymore, Like what are you gonna
(05:52):
do on Wednesday when I go home? And you have
no idea? And my mom's thaing was like, well, I
can see you now, so I I have to deal
with that. But when you're gone, I just I don't know, Jesus,
take the wheel. I don't know what you're doing. I
don't have to see it, so it doesn't matter. But
that she tried to hold that one up for a while,
and then finally I'm like, Mom, I have insurance, like
a I have a four oh, one, k okay, Like
(06:14):
I'm gonna go ahead and I'll see you when I
see you, you know. But it's it's a respect thing,
like even to this day, I mean as a single person,
like if I'm if I don't know, link up with
the divorce lady I went to high school with or whatever,
which is kind of what That's what things have come
to now is I was actually having this conversation with
someone last night that like, at my age, having never
been married, what's happening now is people that I've dated
(06:37):
have gotten married, had kids, gotten had a whole life,
gotten divorced, and now I run into them, you know,
at the Starbucks or whatever, and it's like, oh, hey,
I oh, I'm not married anymore. And then you go
back and do the same stuff that you were doing
fifteen twenty years ago. But even now, I would be
nervous to do that in my house, one because of
respect for my parents and two because I it would
just be so awkward if they walked in and you're,
(06:59):
you know, doing whatever you do. Yeah, like I don't.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Just knowing that they're there is like Sahara does it
for me? So oh, you know what I mean, Like
I put my Chestney bell On. Yeah, you know, I'm
locking this whole thing up.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
What does this text always have a problem with my
mom because she wants grandchildren. But whatever me and my
wife go and stay at her house is no hanky panky, no,
nothing like that. She doesn't make us stay in separate rooms,
but she's adamant that there should be nothing going on
in the room. I think that's funny because she complains
about no grandchildren. Well, I mean, dude, you could there
(07:37):
are other places, Like I don't know your right where
you live. I don't know, Pauline. I suppose at this
point Martin Martina probably spends more time at your house
than you do with hers.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Right, that is very true. Yeah, see we don't obviously
have the eight blocks away, so I'm not sleeping over
It's amazing. But I also feel like the average couple
has like sexy time, what maybe once a week if
that so? Like if you're right, friend, if at Christmas
time or Thanksgiving, like this urge at your mom's house
is just like it's.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
That to me is like hold on, like maybe we
should go to Theaye or something.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
And why like why now?
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Why are you turned on at my mom's house, you know,
with you, that's where I'm gonna make me say, let's
get a divorce, right, like, hello, I'm leaving you.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Like can you just do this like when we're.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Home in private? Right? Yeah. I didd a girl once
who we stayed at her house. This is in college,
and like she it did something for her, Like the
idea of getting caught did something for her, because oh
well she was because we were in separate rooms and
I was trying to be respectful and whatever, and then
here she is sneaking into the whole time, I'm going like, dude,
(08:44):
you need to go, and like I was probably the worst.
You know, She's trying to get it on, and I'm
like get out of here because I'm not I'm not
looking for that, Like I'm not looking. I'm not looking
for mister whomever to walk in and see me doing
stuff to his daughter that I didn't that I didn't initiate,
like and it was and then how do you do that? Like, well,
you know something's going on. He walks in and you're
like no, but she made me like no one's gonna
(09:04):
believe that, but I think I think it did something
for her. The idea that she might get caught. But like,
it's one thing to want to get caught, it's another
thing you want to get caught by your own parents. Like, yeah,
that's a different level. Yeah, I don't know, Jason, you
don't you don't drive out to Mantino and see what
you can do. Absolutely not. If my parents are even
(09:26):
in the vicinity, I don't think I could ever get
in the mood. Absolutely not. Right, right if they called,
they were on the highway, like in the same county,
You're like, all right, forget about it here. Yeah, I'm like,
I'm good, you're heading like here, we're in different counties. Yeah, exactly, Yeah,
you're right. I don't I don't get it, Pauline, it's yet.
(09:46):
I think we can wait. It's I'm gonna be here
for three days, like it's it's it'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
And then and then, like the other issue is even
if you don't get caught, like what if there's some evidence,
you know, and then you have to like you gotta
figure out you got to conceal that, you know, because
it's like you don't need your you don't need your
meme all going in there and cleaning up you know, whatever, yeah,
which is which is why I advocate for a hotel.
I always advocate for a hotel. But that offends people,
(10:14):
like sometimes if I if I came to town and
told my mom, like I'm staying in a hotel, I mean,
she wouldn't have it like she would be it'd be done.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
I think you could just wait and get them right.
We've come we've come to a quorum, we've come to
a conclusion that that's what to do.
This is the press show. Zaan is taking over Las
Vegas this January for his seven night presidency Adobe Live
at Park MGM, and we've got a trip for two
to the January twenty fifth show to night Hotel State
at Park MGM January twenty fourth through the twenty sixth
and round trip airfare. Text tattoo to three seven three
three seven now for a chance to win. A confirmation
(00:21):
text will be said. Standard message of data rates may
apply all thanks to Live Nation. Do you guys when
it comes to holiday stuff and going to families homes
and a lot of you are locals, some of you
have to travel. I would have to go if I
were dating someone and this person wanted to come home
with me for Christmas, we'd have to go to Arizona, right,
(00:43):
and so there would be a sleeping arrangement question. And
I wonder how this works during the holidays because I
read this. I don't know if this is from Reddit
or what, but a husband says that he was told
by his in laws no, and I guess they're married.
So this is really strange to me. No sleeping in
the same bed as your wife when you visit us,
(01:05):
which is strange so then when the tables were turned
and the same couple came to stay with he and
his wife, he then enforced the same rule for his
in laws, and he said that they can't sleep in
the same bed. He explains that during his visits he
felt excluded and his bomb with his wife was restricted,
so this time he wanted them to get a taste
(01:26):
of their own boundary. His own parents were surprised, but
says that it's about fairness and reversing a rule that
always made him feel second class, which is a strange
thing to do. I don't think I would flex on
my in laws. I don't think I would if that's
their rule and their old school in some way, which
is strange because we're married. I guess I could see
(01:46):
it if you were dating, but being married, that's a
weird thing. I probably wouldn't turn it around on them
when they came to my house that I don't really
need the smoke. But I wonder did you guys have
rules or do you have rules as unwed people when
they come When when a man or a woman comes
and stays at your house for a holiday, did they
get to stay in your room? What are the sort
(02:07):
of the boundaries, like is there is there a threshold
like if you date for a year or if you
live together, then we look the other way. I mean,
how does it work well at Helena's house?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
You know, I'm only I've only had two boyfriends, and
really the first one I don't count no more so
when two, you know, we'd come by. We could stay
in my room, but it was like, I don't know,
I feel like there's this unspoken rule of respect, like
no frisky business while we're there, so you know, it
was almost like you know, you sleep on your side
of the bit, I'll sleep in.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Mind, don't touch me, like even now, you're not no
freaky business, like if you go to your sister's house.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
No, And maybe it's because we live so close, like
if you if you really did freak you just go home?
Speaker 3 (02:53):
Like why are you.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
So yeah?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
No, no, not at not now, But.
Speaker 1 (03:00):
That's kind of funny you live down the street, Like
just go home. I have to come over here to
do it, right. I've often thought that, like can you
really not go? You know, so I'm in my in
law's house or whatever, Like can I really not go
two or three days over Christmas? Like with you know,
nieces and nephews running around and you know, some some
(03:20):
weird uncle dresses stand there or something. Did I really not?
I really can't not for three or four days, like
you know, destroy my wife. Like I got a like,
like you know what I mean so eloquently some people
like to some people like that. You know, yeah, I mean.
Speaker 4 (03:39):
Your family's house is not a horny place, you know, No,
it's just not. I mean it has been out of
necessity if you're like a high schooler.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
But no, right, like when you lived there and you
didn't have a choice, you know, yeah, it's like scary,
but I know it was scary. Yeah it was scary.
But I don't know, like, wait, when you first started dating,
shame didn't you calin have to Like, wasn't there some
attempt to stay in separate rooms or he slept on
a couch or something.
Speaker 4 (04:06):
Well I'm trying to think, because he's he's been to
both our cabin and our house. I think when we
stayed at our house, I mean, we already lived together,
so I think it was just kind of like they
set him up the same place they set Jason up,
which is in our basement that's finished. So they have
like their own area. But I think the last time
I ended up just sleeping down there on the couch
with him, but we didn't do anything. And then I
(04:27):
think at the cabin we had the same room too.
I think my mom's just not she's no dummy.
Speaker 3 (04:32):
You know.
Speaker 4 (04:33):
We live in the same home. So yeah, but our room,
like my room is right across from my sisters and
near my parents, and we don't have locks. So I
typically don't even stay upstairs, you know, if I have
a guy with me, because I don't want to set
that example for my sister, and it just it's a
respect thing, you know.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Yeah. I was gonna say, she's still in college and
it has been with the guy for a while, but
I mean she's younger, so I assume you got live
together at least I assume then she can't necessarily bring
this guy home and do whatever.
Speaker 4 (05:05):
He gets put down in the basement where we put
all the men. Yeah, and her bedroom is two floors up,
so yeah, but our floors creaked. It's built in the
nineteen twenty so, like you know, the creaky wood floors
we have those. There's not a lot of sneak in
in our house.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
But there is a set standard of like when she
brings her guy home, she's upstairs, he sleeps downstairs, that
you need to be upstairs.
Speaker 4 (05:26):
Yeah, but I think neither of us would be like
can we please, like I don't know, it's yeah, but no,
they're not sitting in the same room.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
And that's my rule too, okay for the they need to.
It's kind of funny when there are rules that are
like like when I was in college and I would
come home and my mom was like, all right, well
see at midnight, like what I am? Like, you're trying
to you're proposing yet right, you're proposing a curfew, Like
I don't live here anymore, Like what are you gonna
(05:52):
do on Wednesday when I go home? And you have
no idea? And my mom's thaing was like, well, I
can see you now, so I I have to deal
with that. But when you're gone, I just I don't know, Jesus,
take the wheel. I don't know what you're doing. I
don't have to see it, so it doesn't matter. But
that she tried to hold that one up for a while,
and then finally I'm like, Mom, I have insurance, like
a I have a four oh, one, k okay, Like
(06:14):
I'm gonna go ahead and I'll see you when I
see you, you know. But it's it's a respect thing,
like even to this day, I mean as a single person,
like if I'm if I don't know, link up with
the divorce lady I went to high school with or whatever,
which is kind of what That's what things have come
to now is I was actually having this conversation with
someone last night that like, at my age, having never
been married, what's happening now is people that I've dated
(06:37):
have gotten married, had kids, gotten had a whole life,
gotten divorced, and now I run into them, you know,
at the Starbucks or whatever, and it's like, oh, hey,
I oh, I'm not married anymore. And then you go
back and do the same stuff that you were doing
fifteen twenty years ago. But even now, I would be
nervous to do that in my house, one because of
respect for my parents and two because I it would
just be so awkward if they walked in and you're,
(06:59):
you know, doing whatever you do. Yeah, like I don't.
Speaker 4 (07:02):
Just knowing that they're there is like Sahara does it
for me? So oh, you know what I mean, Like
I put my Chestney bell On. Yeah, you know, I'm
locking this whole thing up.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
What does this text always have a problem with my
mom because she wants grandchildren. But whatever me and my
wife go and stay at her house is no hanky panky, no,
nothing like that. She doesn't make us stay in separate rooms,
but she's adamant that there should be nothing going on
in the room. I think that's funny because she complains
about no grandchildren. Well, I mean, dude, you could there
(07:37):
are other places, Like I don't know your right where
you live. I don't know, Pauline. I suppose at this
point Martin Martina probably spends more time at your house
than you do with hers.
Speaker 3 (07:51):
Right, that is very true. Yeah, see we don't obviously
have the eight blocks away, so I'm not sleeping over
It's amazing. But I also feel like the average couple
has like sexy time, what maybe once a week if
that so? Like if you're right, friend, if at Christmas
time or Thanksgiving, like this urge at your mom's house
is just like it's.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
That to me is like hold on, like maybe we
should go to Theaye or something.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
And why like why now?
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Why are you turned on at my mom's house, you know,
with you, that's where I'm gonna make me say, let's
get a divorce, right, like, hello, I'm leaving you.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
Like can you just do this like when we're.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Home in private? Right? Yeah. I didd a girl once
who we stayed at her house. This is in college,
and like she it did something for her, Like the
idea of getting caught did something for her, because oh
well she was because we were in separate rooms and
I was trying to be respectful and whatever, and then
here she is sneaking into the whole time, I'm going like, dude,
(08:44):
you need to go, and like I was probably the worst.
You know, She's trying to get it on, and I'm
like get out of here because I'm not I'm not
looking for that, Like I'm not looking. I'm not looking
for mister whomever to walk in and see me doing
stuff to his daughter that I didn't that I didn't initiate,
like and it was and then how do you do that? Like, well,
you know something's going on. He walks in and you're
like no, but she made me like no one's gonna
(09:04):
believe that, but I think I think it did something
for her. The idea that she might get caught. But like,
it's one thing to want to get caught, it's another
thing you want to get caught by your own parents. Like, yeah,
that's a different level. Yeah, I don't know, Jason, you
don't you don't drive out to Mantino and see what
you can do. Absolutely not. If my parents are even
(09:26):
in the vicinity, I don't think I could ever get
in the mood. Absolutely not. Right, right if they called,
they were on the highway, like in the same county,
You're like, all right, forget about it here. Yeah, I'm like,
I'm good, you're heading like here, we're in different counties. Yeah, exactly, Yeah,
you're right. I don't I don't get it, Pauline, it's yet.
(09:46):
I think we can wait. It's I'm gonna be here
for three days, like it's it's it'll be fine.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
And then and then, like the other issue is even
if you don't get caught, like what if there's some evidence,
you know, and then you have to like you gotta
figure out you got to conceal that, you know, because
it's like you don't need your you don't need your
meme all going in there and cleaning up you know, whatever, yeah,
which is which is why I advocate for a hotel.
I always advocate for a hotel. But that offends people,
(10:14):
like sometimes if I if I came to town and
told my mom, like I'm staying in a hotel, I mean,
she wouldn't have it like she would be it'd be done.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
I think you could just wait and get them right.
We've come we've come to a quorum, we've come to
a conclusion that that's what to do.
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