November 18, 2025 • 28 mins
Has a pickup line ever worked on you? Fred wants to know! Plus, we debate relationship drama with Amanda on an all new Stay Or Go!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So there's a billionaire who has a pickup line that
he wants everybody to know about, and.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
I want to know if this would work.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
What I really want to know is is what what
would work in twenty twenty five? As it retains to
I guess this could be online, but you know, I
suppose you could DM this to somebody, but you know,
maybe in person. But this guy's name is Bill Ackman.
He's a hedge fund guy. Now I don't know how
I get all the money. Maybe it was from hedge funds.
(00:29):
But his pickup line that he claims works is or
did work. I'm not sure if the guy's married. He's
a older guy.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
May I meet you? May?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
May I meet you?
Speaker 4 (00:44):
Well?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So he got mocked online after sharing dating advice for
a young man on social media. He's always fifty.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Nine, you know, yeah's giving.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I thought he was older, actually, but he's fifty nine.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And he suggested using the pickup line may I Meet
you before starting a conversation with women, saying that you
almost never got to know when he was younger.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
So this was a post on X I guess.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
It's been viewed twenty six million times and prompted thousands
of comments and mocking memes. People called him out of
touch and joked to trying the line and getting to
we'll get the police called on them.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
One person said that women only said.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yes to him because he's a billionaire financier, but he
replied that he didn't have money back when he was
using that line. May I meet you? Now?
Speaker 2 (01:26):
What is Shames mad about?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
James says, uh, I'm to stop throwing shade at you.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
I mean apparently, I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure
there was no shade. Yeah, I know, I know. I'm
just I'm confused anyway, So I was confused. Yeah, man,
what does stop? Right?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
She knows he can say, like throw some shade. I'll
throw some shade. Not not our James. This is a text.
Speaker 6 (01:51):
No, I know, this was not our boss, James.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Our boss James did not ask me. She actually like
he would like more shade and more drama if anything. James, Yeah, yeah,
may I meet you?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
May I meet you? Absolutely not only in the dark.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
I guess I think that sounds like one of those
like African prince princess. You know I'm talking about, like,
man I meet you.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Like said send you money, like that's what it's giving.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh he's talking about bellahemine, by the way, the cavities.
She has five cavities.
Speaker 7 (02:18):
She told us that, well she had six, but she
gets to take two out with her wisdom teeth.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I thought all of them had cavity. I thought you'd
have all of the all had cavit. I thought she
had ten total or something. Was it two of the
wisdom teeth where it's four and four and two wisdom?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So there were eight?
Speaker 8 (02:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Or six? Anyway? Man meet you? A man meet you? No, No,
you can I meet me. I don't like that at all.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And he'd meet anyone and I literally the bars on
the floor, and that would still freak me out.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I would feel like you're trying to, like, you know,
keep me in a trunk or something.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
If you said, if I got a thing a DM
that said may I meet you, I would think it
was like a scammer. That's because there's such an old
timey way to talk that I would think that it
was somebody who didn't maybe have a mastery of current
you know, sort of phraseology.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Or lived in a different country. That's what I would
truly think.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because that's just not the way people talk and it's
very polite and proper and whatever else.
Speaker 7 (03:11):
Someone asked if I was spoken for the other day
in my DMS, and I was like, wow, I haven't
heard that since the forties.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Not gonna like it.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
You spoken for?
Speaker 9 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 4 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Do you have a dowry? Yeah? Well do you? I'd
like to know what your dad's willing to pay you?
Speaker 10 (03:28):
Well?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah, trade me out to get you to get you
off the payroll.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
May I meet you? M Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
But what here's the better question though, eight five, five, five,
nine one o three five you can call and text
the same number.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
What what would work?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Like?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
What do you want to hear from men approaching you?
Is that because you have a boyfriend, because you just
don't want people that you don't want to talk from
men to talk to you at all? But like, here's
the thing, period, I know you're kidding, kind of you're not.
You have a boyfriend, so you're probably not kidding, But like,
all I should think, all, I just wear.
Speaker 7 (04:05):
A sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in the
top and bottom.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You know, well no, And I guess this person couldn't
read because I think I can see it every single
day I mean, I guess this person can take the
time to when you asked if you're spoken for him,
like haven't you seen her outfit today?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And every day?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
But I you know, you hear a lot, whether it's
social media or whatever. You hear people say that they
women saying that they want men to approach them in
the wild. The problem is out of you know, you
all you also hear a lot of people saying they
don't want to be approached in the wild, or they
make fun of the guys who approach them in the wild,
And so you can't have it both ways. Or you
(04:42):
get on some app and you make fun of guys,
or you trash guys that that.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
You know did there.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And I'm not talking about the guys who said like
disgusting things or very clever things like I'm going to
break every cheer in the room so that you don't
have any place to sit, like one guy said to you. Now,
that is well highly inappropriate. That is that is that
is creative.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Sometimes I take a step back and I go, you know,
I'm not even mad.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Like I got it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm I'm like, I'm not I'm not going to
enter a room and with it are no chairs.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
But like I also, okay, you know, yeah, every.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Now and again, I think you could you could say
something like that to the right person and they might think, like,
you know, if they have a little bit of an
off sense of humor like we do, they might they
might step back and be like, okay, But but nine
times out of ten that's not going to work. Nine
times out of ten you're gonna wind up getting made
fun of. But so that's my thing is do you
want to be approached and if you do, what's.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Actually going to work? Now?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Of course you want them to be respectful and and
not you know, be gross and and whatever, But like,
the key to this is you want to be approached.
If I'm guessing, you want to be approached by the
guys that you want to be approached by. And and
we as men don't know whether where the guy you
want to be approached by or not, so we don't
approach out.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Of fear of all these other things.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
So I guess if that's the case, if you want
to be approached by men or whatever, I think we
have to get to a place where we can kindly
brush people off as a standard and society and then.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
By the way.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Once you're kindly brushed off, you need to step off y,
you need to you need to leave. You need to
you need to leave so she doesn't want to meet you,
bro and then and then you need to leave.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
You need to not respond.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
If it's in a DM, you don't need to have
some smart comeback because you were rejected. You don't have
to project, you don't have to say something I don't
want you anyway, which is what everybody. There's so much
of this stuff. That's my favorite that people do. It's
any want to go out with me? No, Well, you
know you think you're hot stuff. Dude, you asked me
a question, I gave you an answer. Now you need
(06:33):
to walk away now. So so there's that. So this
isn't all on women. This is on men too, because
men have a tendency to act like idiots.
Speaker 7 (06:40):
I'm a fan of the like for both of both
parties involved. The like, don't make it feel like you're
hitting on me situations, so like, come up, talk about
something different, make a joke, point something out at the bar.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Then feel my energy.
Speaker 7 (06:53):
If I'm engaging, or if I'm like, oh, my friend's
waving across the bar, then we can both leave the
situation either not embarrassed or you proceed hitting on me
like I don't make me feel like you're hitting on me.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Don't be like, hello, ma'am.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
You know I'd like to dance with you, you know,
just let's let's just talk talk about the bar.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Is it crowded?
Speaker 11 (07:09):
You know?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do I have a drink?
Speaker 3 (07:11):
YadA YadA?
Speaker 7 (07:12):
Okay, And so no one gets embarrassed either way, because
then you could feel if I'm like, I got to
go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
That's true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Take a hint, like, you know, is it conversation flowing
organically or are you forcing it?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
If you're forcing it, walk away, Yep, it's.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Over, and then you're not embarrassed, and neither are mine.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Kiki, how you know? Well?
Speaker 3 (07:30):
What why are you your eye?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You're technically single but engaged because you're not married, but
when you were actually actually single? Yes, how did you
want to see what I'm talking about? That's why I
rolled my eyes. I don't even know the rules anymore.
But how did you want to be approached?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
So I want you to approach me?
Speaker 12 (07:48):
And then just if I call the police on you,
den means I don't want you, and then if I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
That's a good sign. That's in my experience, that's been
a good sign.
Speaker 12 (07:56):
If I don't call the police, we good, you know,
like keep talking rash because I am one of those
women who I would hype me in up, like you
gotta approach women. Man, You gotta go out there in
a while, you gotta shoot your shot. Man, And then
the moment you shoot your shot at me, if you're
not the man I want, I'm like, please get him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
So this is kind of what I'm talking about, right
because like as a guy, like I don't know, I
don't know, Like you know, it's like I don't want
to wind it. If I walk up to the right
girl at the right time and I'm the guy she
wants to talk to, and then I talked to her,
then that's what she wanted and that goes well. But
if I'm not and then a lot of different things
(08:38):
could happen. And so yes, I guess I'm a little
insecure about it. But but then but then you say,
that's what you want, But are you you know, are
as a society are we receiving that as well as
we possibly could?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Like it's hard, it's hard being a man, because.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I don't think it's hard. I know, I don't think
this one regard. This is tricky.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Yeah, man, I wouldn't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
This is tricky. It is not hard to be a
man at all. But this is a little tricky because
it's like different age demographics are looking for different things.
And sometimes you can be really forward and sometimes you can't.
And then sometimes you're not forward enough. You know, if
you're may I meet you, then that you're gonna get
made fun of. But if you're like, you know, can
I can I you know, get up in the right right,
(09:28):
that's also that's that's usually not gonna go well, but
sometimes it does, depending on who you're talking to and.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
When and where.
Speaker 7 (09:34):
I think it's the millennial girls that are like ill
walk away from Like I don't see that. Like my
friends and I like, we all like we want to
meet new people, regardless of if people have husband whatever,
you know, we want to chat. I've heard from the
younger generation because I don't think they want to talk
at all. They want to look at screens, like they
don't want to talk to you. They're scared of they
won't call a reservation.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Or there's this Ashley, Hey, Ashley, Hi, So this is great.
A guy walked up and he said, what.
Speaker 11 (10:02):
So I was working and I was working at a
bar and.
Speaker 10 (10:06):
I saw someone order something that I liked and I
stopped next him. I was like, oh, you got our
It was a buffalo chicken salad, and he just looks
at me stopped. He goes, I want to wear your
skin on my face, and I just kind of stared
at him, and he stared at me, and the bartender
stared and it was almost like that Homer sympsonime where
you like back away slowly, yeah, and I just like
(10:27):
backed away into the kitchen and then the bartender kicked
him out and grabbed a bouncer and he was not
allowed back at that facility.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Well, that's why we're scared.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Actually, everybody knows the mistake that was made here was it?
It's may I wear your skin on my face?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's that's now.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
If only he had been more proper about it, that
that's that was the issue.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
So I understand.
Speaker 10 (10:48):
And it was like the consistent eye contact after and
I'm like, no, I don't know what to do right now.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
It was very scary.
Speaker 10 (10:57):
I'm kind of funny though, but it is my uh one.
Speaker 9 (11:00):
I hope no.
Speaker 10 (11:01):
One ever talks it.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Yeah, anyway, how long you guys been married?
Speaker 13 (11:08):
Him?
Speaker 12 (11:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (11:09):
Very married?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (11:10):
Didn't that work for me though?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, actually, thank you.
Speaker 11 (11:13):
Have a good day here too.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Uh, Stephanie, how you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
This is an example of a guy objectifying you and
it worked.
Speaker 9 (11:26):
Yeah, we're engaged now, oh do you?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
But what did he say?
Speaker 8 (11:33):
Well?
Speaker 9 (11:34):
I mean I just literally walked past him, told him
he had nice hand, smooth legs, and just left. And
then the next time that I saw him at the store,
I looked at him. I was like, so did you
go home and look at your legs? And she was like,
I mean kind of wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So you you objectified him?
Speaker 9 (11:54):
I shared it.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Does he shave?
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Why he's so smooth? Yeah? Huh, he has hairless legs.
Speaker 9 (12:02):
He used to be like an MMA fighter, so he
really didn't have okay, a kind of like the hair
on his legs from grampling and stuff. So but they
were really ten, they were really smooth, and I was like,
shoot a shot, let's go.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Okay now, Now, honestly, if he now this is a
guy that you're with. But like, if he had said
something about your legs, how would that have gone over?
Speaker 9 (12:25):
Well, it would have been really weird because I didn't
have any like shorts or anything on, so by I
had chance to his legs at that point in time.
I mean, how would you know?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Okay, but nine times out of ten, that's not gonna work, right, Like,
we accept that? Correct?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Okay, correct?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So this is a perfect example of it worked for you, guys,
but you got it. And if you're gonna if you're
gonna make that up, if you're going to say something
like that, then I think you have to know in
your mind nine times out of ten you're gonna get rejected.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
But maybe one time it will work. But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Like it worked for her, it did work for you,
I guess, yeah, you're good for you, Stephanie.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
All right, have a good day legs.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Hey Destiny, yeah, destiny. What happened? This is a pickup line?
First of all, did it work or did it did
not work?
Speaker 12 (13:07):
Oh?
Speaker 11 (13:08):
It worked enough for a first date?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Okay? What happened?
Speaker 8 (13:12):
I was dancing in the middle of a bar and
someone randomly comes up to me shows me a phone.
I don't know if you know the game Trivia Crack.
It's just a game that asked questions, and he's like, hey,
you look smart, can you answer this question for me?
So we ended up playing Trivia Crack in the middle
of the bar. It turns out he ends up getting
my number and then went on a first date and
(13:32):
he ended up telling me, He's like, just to let
you know I seen you, and like, I had no
other way of thinking about talking to you. So I
downloaded the app and I went up to you and
we ended up playing.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's cute, okay, but only one day.
Speaker 8 (13:46):
It didn't get I mean, it didn't get any farther,
but it caught my attention, and I thought the confidence
was it was cute.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Okay, fair enough, all right, thank you, Deesiny, have a
good day.
Speaker 8 (13:57):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I think we also need to get past the thing
where we're we're I mentioned I alluded to this earlier.
I mentioned it, but like we're proud of rejecting people too,
like or we're proud of dating fails. Like again, if
a guy is gross or predatory or dangerous, or a
cheater or stealing from you, then let's expose those people, right,
(14:19):
like we always should have. But like the thing where
we go on a date and we both took risk
in going on the date and the date didn't go
the way we wanted it to, Like that's how that's dating.
And I think it's even more risky when you're on
dating apps because because again the days of the only
option that we had was to talk to each other
and then e gauge the vibe and the chemistry before
(14:41):
we went out.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
That's over.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
So now the first time I'm getting any vibe from
you whatsoever, really in person is when I first meet you,
and maybe it goes well and maybe it doesn't. But again,
I mean it's not just in this era where you
go on a date with someone and they may not
call you for a second date, you know what I mean,
Like this is nothing new. The only thing that's different
now that you can go blast those people publicly and
(15:03):
and get mad at them. But again, like it's since
the dawn of time, like men have been rejected, women
have not gotten second dates. Men have not gotten and
gotten second dates. Like it is what it is, right,
So so short of you being a terrible person who's
actually like a like because what happens then is like,
maybe that person wasn't for you, but they're for the
next person. But now the next person's I'm interested because
(15:25):
they heard about some perspective from an anonymous other, you
know what I mean. It's like, yeah, I think technology
all around is screwing this up, the dating apps, the
message boards, all the rest of the stuff, because it's like, look,
maybe maybe you maybe I could meet two people at
the same time on the same day and you're not
for me, but the other one is, and it is
what it is, and the same goes for you. Like
when I go on dates with people from dating apps,
I assume they're talking to five other people.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
That's the game.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
And so that if I don't get a second date,
I can be disappointed, but like or if they goes
to me, I can be disappointed.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I think it kind of comes with the territory,
right I think so too. Yeah, anyway, may go out
with you.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
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Speaker 2 (16:03):
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Speaker 1 (16:34):
Okay, Amanda, good morning, welcome to the program. How are you,
Amanda doing great? So this is a situation with your
boyfriend here of three years. So I want to hear
what's going on, and then I want everyone to call
and then we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
We're not really behind your back because you can listen
(16:55):
on the radio on the iHeart app, but like we're
gonna talk about you.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Behind your back. One three five.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
So you guys have been together for three years. You
just moved to Florida together about a year ago.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
So tell me more, tell me what's going on.
Speaker 11 (17:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
So I actually was diagnosed with type one diabetes almost
two years ago. It'll be my two year anniversary in April,
and I work as a dietitian. I was living in
Naperville at the time, born and raised in Chicago, and
when I was diagnosed with diabetes, I wasn't.
Speaker 11 (17:30):
Working as a dietitian in patient care, and.
Speaker 4 (17:34):
I wanted to become a certified diabetes educator and go
that way with my career so I could do something
good with my diagnosed case.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Oh wow, good for you.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Which part of Florida did you moved too?
Speaker 11 (17:50):
I'm in Fort Myers.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Okay, we needed people, and we needed people. A little
further south will help. We can get West b TV.
Would my moving there to be fine? Just look for
the south of It's great, okay, So no tell me more.
Speaker 11 (18:08):
I will say I listened every day on iHeartRadio app
every single morning. That's good.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
That's no, We're very happy.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
So all right, So you wanted you want to sort
of shift your career in a way that that that
sort of met the challenges that you've met, but help
other people because it's kind of in the same realm.
But you need more education to do it. So you
went and got this training.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
Yeah, so, actually you need to work in diabetes care
and get over one thousand hours continuing education. So and
I didn't have those hours because I wasn't working in
diabetes care and hadn't.
Speaker 11 (18:42):
Been in paiment care for a while.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
So I found a position that was a diabetes educator
position where they would help me get the certification and
sit for my exam and get those hours.
Speaker 11 (18:55):
And it just so happened to be in Florida.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Okay, all right, so there's actually training. It's a big deal.
It affects you. It's it's kind of immersed with your
life and all that. So this is this is good,
So you do the training.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
Yeah, So I sold my house in a couple of days,
moved down to Florida. In a month, my boyfriend came
with we've got dogs.
Speaker 11 (19:14):
We moved down.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
Here, and so he knew, you know, we moved our
whole life for me to get this certification and work.
Speaker 11 (19:20):
In this field. So I, you know, I've been working
and studying. We need to study. The exam is very intense.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
So I was studying for months, making sacrifices to do that,
and you know, exam day come. He happened to be
on a boy's trip during that time. It was on
a Friday, and I didn't hear from him.
Speaker 11 (19:42):
All day.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
I didn't get a hey, good luck today, or how'd
your exam go? He didn't even answer my phone call
when I called him after I passed my exam. So
that was very hard for me because he is, you know,
my partner and my biggest support, and.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
This isn't something where like he maybe didn't understand the
significance of it, right, Like, I don't know. Maybe I
could be with somebody who has something going on at
work and I don't realize exactly what a big deal
it is or how hard it is, or I mean,
I'm trying to think of of a devil's advocate position here.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Maybe you in one employee of the month and he
doesn't realize how competitive that is or something, And so
I don't know, he didn't make a big deal of
it because where he works is not a big deal.
I don't know, but this is something that is fundamental
to who you are because you're affected by it.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
As a diabetic.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
You moved both of your lives to a new state
in order for you to pursue this. Obviously, passing this
exam was a big deal to you because I assume
you can't do the job if you don't pass the exam, right, yeah, exact,
So then that would have been a big I mean,
if anything, I would think the guy selfishly would want
to know if you passed the exam because we just
(20:52):
moved for you to do this. If you don't pass
the examit and you can't do it, then what did
we do? So if nothing else, I would think for
his own personal interest, he would be asking you these questions.
But he should be asking because he cares about you.
He didn't ask you sod that ever come up? Were
you like in passing later like a few weeks later, like,
oh remember that thing we moved here for, like I
can do it?
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Jack asked?
Speaker 11 (21:13):
Right right? Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:15):
So actually he finally texted me later that day and
was like, hey, what's up. And I was like, did
you forget what today was? And he rent was due
that day, so he's like, I paid you rent earlier
and he literally totally forgot what day it was. And yeah,
(21:35):
when he came home Sunday, then we had to talk
about it.
Speaker 11 (21:37):
But he didn't even feel bad about it. So that's
it's all of that.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You know, this is not a minor thing like this isuance.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I you know, I forgot about the anniversary of the
anniversary of the anniversary or something. I mean this is
this was a major fundamental thing in your life, and
he just forgot about it. And then when when you
asked about it, when you told him, hey, that hurt
my feelings, he was kind of like, are you seeing
this kind of apathy in other ways?
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Or is it just with this? I mean, like, is
he is? Is he less thoughtful than he was?
Speaker 1 (22:06):
And look, I realize people when they first meet and
then years in, it's not the same level of intensity, sadly,
but like, is he vastly, wildly less less thoughtful than
he was three years ago?
Speaker 11 (22:19):
Yes? Yes, much less thoughtful? And this year has been
challenging with our move.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, is there any resentment? I feel like he's harboring
any Like is he unhappy? Again, not to not acknowledge
your accomplishment, but like, is he just is he unhappy
to be there? Because like, is he realizing he didn't
want to do this? Now?
Speaker 11 (22:42):
I don't think so.
Speaker 4 (22:42):
He actually I never wanted to move to Florida, So
he actually was someone who wanted to move somewhere warm.
So you know, we've have that talk and he seems
really happy here.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Yeah, he's got to go. He's got to go. We're
done with him.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
But I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I don't like it. I don't like it. You're telling
me this is a trend. He's becoming less and less awful.
And we're not talking about like he used to buy
me flowers once a month and now he doesn't. We're
talking you know, or he used to take me to
dinner more, or we're talking about you guys, move your
lives together. This is something that affects you. This is
something that you want to change in your life to
help other people. This is something you had to work towards.
(23:20):
This is something that was probably very difficult to achieve.
You achieved it, and he didn't acknowledge it. He forgot
about it, and then when you told him it hurt
your feelings, then he wasn't like, oh my god, I
was so wrapped up in my trip and I don't
know we were traveling, and like, I, you know, I
just can't believe I was in a different mode. I
cannot believe I forgot about this. I'm so sorry. Let's
(23:41):
let me make it up to you, like, because maybe
then you could say like, yeah, that sucks, but I
get it. I get how people get distracted and whatever.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
No, that's the thing for me is that when you
asked him about it, that he didn't he didn't.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Sort of like even then, he didn't lament, like even then,
he wasn't like for a fact, you know, Oh my god,
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
He's got to go. Sorry, man, he's got to go.
It's gonna be it's gonna be nice. So you're gonna
get your own place, and you got this, got this
big job and promotion, new city, a whole new crop
of man, you're gonna love it.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I mean, is there any other? Is there any other?
Take here?
Speaker 12 (24:18):
No, I'm big on celebrating accomplishments. You know, you work
hard for something, your partner should be there to support
you in those times. And he's you know, you brought
it to his attention and he still didn't try to
fix it.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
And that's showing you that he's just not the one.
Speaker 12 (24:32):
I am my opinion, because if you're not gonna celebrate
my wins a whill, if.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
It's a one time thing and he's and he's apologetic
and truly has remorse, then I think that that's that
can happen, but it sounds like it's becoming a theme
and there was no remorse eight five five three five.
I want to take some phone calls on this, Amanda.
We're gonna talk about you now behind your back. But
thanks for listening on the iHeartRadio app and and good
(24:56):
luck and let us know what you decide.
Speaker 11 (25:00):
Thank you right so much?
Speaker 3 (25:01):
Come visit and party.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Yeah, no kidding.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
What do you guys say, have a room in the
house now it sounds like right true, what's for us?
Speaker 2 (25:08):
What do you guys? I mean, I don't know if
it is there another side to this.
Speaker 6 (25:12):
No, so my husband, you guys know my husband, Hobby.
He does not show out of emotion for certain things
that may can tell him the biggest best news in
the world, and he's just like.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That's really cool.
Speaker 6 (25:21):
Like it's very like there's no celebration. There's no like
you know, popping bodels and like celebrating with Convetti. However,
if I went to him and was like, hey, like
that bothered me, Like you didn't really seem to acknowledge
this big accomplishment that I've worked so hard for even
before you came in the picture, and I've accomplished this
and you really didn't celebrate me. He would apologize, He
would take accountability. He would say, all right, I'll do better.
You know, I'm sorry about that, you know, because he
(25:42):
doesn't realize, for example, our industry what certain things mean, right,
or like what certain accomplishments mean to me even personally.
I don't blame him a fireman, right, like he's running
into fires. Like I wouldn't understand their accomplishments either. But
it's about accountability. It's about just being like, hey, you're
my girl, right like near my husband or my wife.
Like we're going to celebrate each other forever. Like Kiki said,
I'm big on that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Yeah, and maybe not everything, maybe he doesn't celebrate everything
you ever did, but like this is just so fundamental too.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
It is right.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
They move their entire lives for this, Like if she
hadn't succeeded in this, then that sort of changes, you know,
the entire direction of things.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
It's given he a secret hater, you know.
Speaker 12 (26:21):
Yeah, sometimes you can be in relationships and friendships with
people who secretly despise you. Were you know, secretly jealous
of the accomplishments that she's been able to do. So
if he's being weird like this this early, like, get
rid of him.
Speaker 13 (26:33):
Girl?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah is it Rana? Is that how you say your name?
Speaker 11 (26:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Hi, good morning. What do you think there?
Speaker 8 (26:39):
Go?
Speaker 13 (26:40):
I say, go, I'm a dietician and those exams are
hard and some places will even pay you more for
taking those exams, and you could get a higher salary
for it. I just she should be that should be
on his mind, Like my girlfriend's gonna get more money
now because she passed us exam. I mean, it's just
his heart and it could have someone go through all
(27:01):
of that and then not get anything. I get any
congratulations or a gift or anything.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (27:08):
When I took my exam, my husband waited outside for me.
Oh yeah, because I was either going to cry or
I was going to pass. Yeah, Like I need someone.
Speaker 11 (27:16):
There, and she needed someone there for her. I think
she needs to go.
Speaker 7 (27:20):
And it's tied to a diagnosis, like it's a health
issue for her, so it's even more important and deep.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
So I agree.
Speaker 11 (27:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Yeah, it's giving that he's about himself and maybe not
about her at all. So I don't like it. Thank
you so much, have a good day. Thank yeah, a
bunch of techs. She needs to leave. They aren't married.
He wasn't apologetic. Red Flag Freedom, Danitas in Freedom and
(27:47):
someone else said, yeah, if you feel bad about it later,
or even if you wanted to support her achievements, you
could have done something celebratory, like by her flowers, or
take her out to eat to celebrate or something. He
had no thoughts about celebrating her achievement. She should go. Yeah,
I think she should go, and I think we.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
All agree on that. I think, wow, we're all alive
for one Yes,
So there's a billionaire who has a pickup line that
he wants everybody to know about, and.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
I want to know if this would work.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
What I really want to know is is what what
would work in twenty twenty five? As it retains to
I guess this could be online, but you know, I
suppose you could DM this to somebody, but you know,
maybe in person. But this guy's name is Bill Ackman.
He's a hedge fund guy. Now I don't know how
I get all the money. Maybe it was from hedge funds.
(00:29):
But his pickup line that he claims works is or
did work. I'm not sure if the guy's married. He's
a older guy.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
May I meet you? May?
Speaker 3 (00:42):
May I meet you?
Speaker 4 (00:44):
Well?
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Thank you?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So he got mocked online after sharing dating advice for
a young man on social media. He's always fifty.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Nine, you know, yeah's giving.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I thought he was older, actually, but he's fifty nine.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And he suggested using the pickup line may I Meet
you before starting a conversation with women, saying that you
almost never got to know when he was younger.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
So this was a post on X I guess.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
It's been viewed twenty six million times and prompted thousands
of comments and mocking memes. People called him out of
touch and joked to trying the line and getting to
we'll get the police called on them.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
One person said that women only said.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Yes to him because he's a billionaire financier, but he
replied that he didn't have money back when he was
using that line. May I meet you? Now?
Speaker 2 (01:26):
What is Shames mad about?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
James says, uh, I'm to stop throwing shade at you.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
I mean apparently, I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure
there was no shade. Yeah, I know, I know. I'm
just I'm confused anyway, So I was confused. Yeah, man,
what does stop? Right?
Speaker 1 (01:45):
She knows he can say, like throw some shade. I'll
throw some shade. Not not our James. This is a text.
Speaker 6 (01:51):
No, I know, this was not our boss, James.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Our boss James did not ask me. She actually like
he would like more shade and more drama if anything. James, Yeah, yeah,
may I meet you?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
May I meet you? Absolutely not only in the dark.
Speaker 6 (02:05):
I guess I think that sounds like one of those
like African prince princess. You know I'm talking about, like,
man I meet you.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Like said send you money, like that's what it's giving.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh he's talking about bellahemine, by the way, the cavities.
She has five cavities.
Speaker 7 (02:18):
She told us that, well she had six, but she
gets to take two out with her wisdom teeth.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I thought all of them had cavity. I thought you'd
have all of the all had cavit. I thought she
had ten total or something. Was it two of the
wisdom teeth where it's four and four and two wisdom?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So there were eight?
Speaker 8 (02:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Or six? Anyway? Man meet you? A man meet you? No, No,
you can I meet me. I don't like that at all.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
And he'd meet anyone and I literally the bars on
the floor, and that would still freak me out.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I would feel like you're trying to, like, you know,
keep me in a trunk or something.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
If you said, if I got a thing a DM
that said may I meet you, I would think it
was like a scammer. That's because there's such an old
timey way to talk that I would think that it
was somebody who didn't maybe have a mastery of current
you know, sort of phraseology.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Or lived in a different country. That's what I would
truly think.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because that's just not the way people talk and it's
very polite and proper and whatever else.
Speaker 7 (03:11):
Someone asked if I was spoken for the other day
in my DMS, and I was like, wow, I haven't
heard that since the forties.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
Not gonna like it.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
You spoken for?
Speaker 9 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 4 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Do you have a dowry? Yeah? Well do you? I'd
like to know what your dad's willing to pay you?
Speaker 10 (03:28):
Well?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah, trade me out to get you to get you
off the payroll.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
May I meet you? M Yeah?
Speaker 1 (03:36):
But what here's the better question though, eight five, five, five,
nine one o three five you can call and text
the same number.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
What what would work?
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Like?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
What do you want to hear from men approaching you?
Is that because you have a boyfriend, because you just
don't want people that you don't want to talk from
men to talk to you at all? But like, here's
the thing, period, I know you're kidding, kind of you're not.
You have a boyfriend, so you're probably not kidding, But like,
all I should think, all, I just wear.
Speaker 7 (04:05):
A sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in the
top and bottom.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
You know, well no, And I guess this person couldn't
read because I think I can see it every single
day I mean, I guess this person can take the
time to when you asked if you're spoken for him,
like haven't you seen her outfit today?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And every day?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
But I you know, you hear a lot, whether it's
social media or whatever. You hear people say that they
women saying that they want men to approach them in
the wild. The problem is out of you know, you
all you also hear a lot of people saying they
don't want to be approached in the wild, or they
make fun of the guys who approach them in the wild,
And so you can't have it both ways. Or you
(04:42):
get on some app and you make fun of guys,
or you trash guys that that.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
You know did there.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
And I'm not talking about the guys who said like
disgusting things or very clever things like I'm going to
break every cheer in the room so that you don't
have any place to sit, like one guy said to you. Now,
that is well highly inappropriate. That is that is that
is creative.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Sometimes I take a step back and I go, you know,
I'm not even mad.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
Like I got it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm I'm like, I'm not I'm not going to
enter a room and with it are no chairs.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
But like I also, okay, you know, yeah, every.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Now and again, I think you could you could say
something like that to the right person and they might think, like,
you know, if they have a little bit of an
off sense of humor like we do, they might they
might step back and be like, okay, But but nine
times out of ten that's not going to work. Nine
times out of ten you're gonna wind up getting made
fun of. But so that's my thing is do you
want to be approached and if you do, what's.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Actually going to work? Now?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Of course you want them to be respectful and and
not you know, be gross and and whatever, But like,
the key to this is you want to be approached.
If I'm guessing, you want to be approached by the
guys that you want to be approached by. And and
we as men don't know whether where the guy you
want to be approached by or not, so we don't
approach out.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Of fear of all these other things.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
So I guess if that's the case, if you want
to be approached by men or whatever, I think we
have to get to a place where we can kindly
brush people off as a standard and society and then.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
By the way.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
Once you're kindly brushed off, you need to step off y,
you need to you need to leave. You need to
you need to leave so she doesn't want to meet you,
bro and then and then you need to leave.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
You need to not respond.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
If it's in a DM, you don't need to have
some smart comeback because you were rejected. You don't have
to project, you don't have to say something I don't
want you anyway, which is what everybody. There's so much
of this stuff. That's my favorite that people do. It's
any want to go out with me? No, Well, you
know you think you're hot stuff. Dude, you asked me
a question, I gave you an answer. Now you need
(06:33):
to walk away now. So so there's that. So this
isn't all on women. This is on men too, because
men have a tendency to act like idiots.
Speaker 7 (06:40):
I'm a fan of the like for both of both
parties involved. The like, don't make it feel like you're
hitting on me situations, so like, come up, talk about
something different, make a joke, point something out at the bar.
Speaker 3 (06:51):
Then feel my energy.
Speaker 7 (06:53):
If I'm engaging, or if I'm like, oh, my friend's
waving across the bar, then we can both leave the
situation either not embarrassed or you proceed hitting on me
like I don't make me feel like you're hitting on me.
Speaker 3 (07:02):
Don't be like, hello, ma'am.
Speaker 7 (07:03):
You know I'd like to dance with you, you know,
just let's let's just talk talk about the bar.
Speaker 3 (07:08):
Is it crowded?
Speaker 11 (07:09):
You know?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do I have a drink?
Speaker 3 (07:11):
YadA YadA?
Speaker 7 (07:12):
Okay, And so no one gets embarrassed either way, because
then you could feel if I'm like, I got to
go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
That's true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Take a hint, like, you know, is it conversation flowing
organically or are you forcing it?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
If you're forcing it, walk away, Yep, it's.
Speaker 3 (07:25):
Over, and then you're not embarrassed, and neither are mine.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Kiki, how you know? Well?
Speaker 3 (07:30):
What why are you your eye?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You're technically single but engaged because you're not married, but
when you were actually actually single? Yes, how did you
want to see what I'm talking about? That's why I
rolled my eyes. I don't even know the rules anymore.
But how did you want to be approached?
Speaker 3 (07:47):
So I want you to approach me?
Speaker 12 (07:48):
And then just if I call the police on you,
den means I don't want you, and then if I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
That's a good sign. That's in my experience, that's been
a good sign.
Speaker 12 (07:56):
If I don't call the police, we good, you know,
like keep talking rash because I am one of those
women who I would hype me in up, like you
gotta approach women. Man, You gotta go out there in
a while, you gotta shoot your shot. Man, And then
the moment you shoot your shot at me, if you're
not the man I want, I'm like, please get him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
So this is kind of what I'm talking about, right
because like as a guy, like I don't know, I
don't know, Like you know, it's like I don't want
to wind it. If I walk up to the right
girl at the right time and I'm the guy she
wants to talk to, and then I talked to her,
then that's what she wanted and that goes well. But
if I'm not and then a lot of different things
(08:38):
could happen. And so yes, I guess I'm a little
insecure about it. But but then but then you say,
that's what you want, But are you you know, are
as a society are we receiving that as well as
we possibly could?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 3 (08:52):
Like it's hard, it's hard being a man, because.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I don't think it's hard. I know, I don't think
this one regard. This is tricky.
Speaker 3 (09:03):
Yeah, man, I wouldn't know what to do.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
This is tricky. It is not hard to be a
man at all. But this is a little tricky because
it's like different age demographics are looking for different things.
And sometimes you can be really forward and sometimes you can't.
And then sometimes you're not forward enough. You know, if
you're may I meet you, then that you're gonna get
made fun of. But if you're like, you know, can
I can I you know, get up in the right right,
(09:28):
that's also that's that's usually not gonna go well, but
sometimes it does, depending on who you're talking to and.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
When and where.
Speaker 7 (09:34):
I think it's the millennial girls that are like ill
walk away from Like I don't see that. Like my
friends and I like, we all like we want to
meet new people, regardless of if people have husband whatever,
you know, we want to chat. I've heard from the
younger generation because I don't think they want to talk
at all. They want to look at screens, like they
don't want to talk to you. They're scared of they
won't call a reservation.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Or there's this Ashley, Hey, Ashley, Hi, So this is great.
A guy walked up and he said, what.
Speaker 11 (10:02):
So I was working and I was working at a
bar and.
Speaker 10 (10:06):
I saw someone order something that I liked and I
stopped next him. I was like, oh, you got our
It was a buffalo chicken salad, and he just looks
at me stopped. He goes, I want to wear your
skin on my face, and I just kind of stared
at him, and he stared at me, and the bartender
stared and it was almost like that Homer sympsonime where
you like back away slowly, yeah, and I just like
(10:27):
backed away into the kitchen and then the bartender kicked
him out and grabbed a bouncer and he was not
allowed back at that facility.
Speaker 3 (10:35):
Well, that's why we're scared.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Actually, everybody knows the mistake that was made here was it?
It's may I wear your skin on my face?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's that's now.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
If only he had been more proper about it, that
that's that was the issue.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
So I understand.
Speaker 10 (10:48):
And it was like the consistent eye contact after and
I'm like, no, I don't know what to do right now.
Speaker 3 (10:55):
It was very scary.
Speaker 10 (10:57):
I'm kind of funny though, but it is my uh one.
Speaker 9 (11:00):
I hope no.
Speaker 10 (11:01):
One ever talks it.
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:04):
Yeah, anyway, how long you guys been married?
Speaker 13 (11:08):
Him?
Speaker 12 (11:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 9 (11:09):
Very married?
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 11 (11:10):
Didn't that work for me though?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, actually, thank you.
Speaker 11 (11:13):
Have a good day here too.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
That's crazy.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Uh, Stephanie, how you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 9 (11:20):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
This is an example of a guy objectifying you and
it worked.
Speaker 9 (11:26):
Yeah, we're engaged now, oh do you?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
But what did he say?
Speaker 8 (11:33):
Well?
Speaker 9 (11:34):
I mean I just literally walked past him, told him
he had nice hand, smooth legs, and just left. And
then the next time that I saw him at the store,
I looked at him. I was like, so did you
go home and look at your legs? And she was like,
I mean kind of wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So you you objectified him?
Speaker 9 (11:54):
I shared it.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
Does he shave?
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Why he's so smooth? Yeah? Huh, he has hairless legs.
Speaker 9 (12:02):
He used to be like an MMA fighter, so he
really didn't have okay, a kind of like the hair
on his legs from grampling and stuff. So but they
were really ten, they were really smooth, and I was like,
shoot a shot, let's go.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Okay now, Now, honestly, if he now this is a
guy that you're with. But like, if he had said
something about your legs, how would that have gone over?
Speaker 9 (12:25):
Well, it would have been really weird because I didn't
have any like shorts or anything on, so by I
had chance to his legs at that point in time.
I mean, how would you know?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Okay, but nine times out of ten, that's not gonna work, right, Like,
we accept that? Correct?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Okay, correct?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So this is a perfect example of it worked for you, guys,
but you got it. And if you're gonna if you're
gonna make that up, if you're going to say something
like that, then I think you have to know in
your mind nine times out of ten you're gonna get rejected.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
But maybe one time it will work. But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Like it worked for her, it did work for you,
I guess, yeah, you're good for you, Stephanie.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
All right, have a good day legs.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
Hey Destiny, yeah, destiny. What happened? This is a pickup line?
First of all, did it work or did it did
not work?
Speaker 12 (13:07):
Oh?
Speaker 11 (13:08):
It worked enough for a first date?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Okay? What happened?
Speaker 8 (13:12):
I was dancing in the middle of a bar and
someone randomly comes up to me shows me a phone.
I don't know if you know the game Trivia Crack.
It's just a game that asked questions, and he's like, hey,
you look smart, can you answer this question for me?
So we ended up playing Trivia Crack in the middle
of the bar. It turns out he ends up getting
my number and then went on a first date and
(13:32):
he ended up telling me, He's like, just to let
you know I seen you, and like, I had no
other way of thinking about talking to you. So I
downloaded the app and I went up to you and
we ended up playing.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's cute, okay, but only one day.
Speaker 8 (13:46):
It didn't get I mean, it didn't get any farther,
but it caught my attention, and I thought the confidence
was it was cute.
Speaker 2 (13:53):
Okay, fair enough, all right, thank you, Deesiny, have a
good day.
Speaker 8 (13:57):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I think we also need to get past the thing
where we're we're I mentioned I alluded to this earlier.
I mentioned it, but like we're proud of rejecting people too,
like or we're proud of dating fails. Like again, if
a guy is gross or predatory or dangerous, or a
cheater or stealing from you, then let's expose those people, right,
(14:19):
like we always should have. But like the thing where
we go on a date and we both took risk
in going on the date and the date didn't go
the way we wanted it to, Like that's how that's dating.
And I think it's even more risky when you're on
dating apps because because again the days of the only
option that we had was to talk to each other
and then e gauge the vibe and the chemistry before
(14:41):
we went out.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
That's over.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
So now the first time I'm getting any vibe from
you whatsoever, really in person is when I first meet you,
and maybe it goes well and maybe it doesn't. But again,
I mean it's not just in this era where you
go on a date with someone and they may not
call you for a second date, you know what I mean,
Like this is nothing new. The only thing that's different
now that you can go blast those people publicly and
(15:03):
and get mad at them. But again, like it's since
the dawn of time, like men have been rejected, women
have not gotten second dates. Men have not gotten and
gotten second dates. Like it is what it is, right,
So so short of you being a terrible person who's
actually like a like because what happens then is like,
maybe that person wasn't for you, but they're for the
next person. But now the next person's I'm interested because
(15:25):
they heard about some perspective from an anonymous other, you
know what I mean. It's like, yeah, I think technology
all around is screwing this up, the dating apps, the
message boards, all the rest of the stuff, because it's like, look,
maybe maybe you maybe I could meet two people at
the same time on the same day and you're not
for me, but the other one is, and it is
what it is, and the same goes for you. Like
when I go on dates with people from dating apps,
I assume they're talking to five other people.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
That's the game.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
And so that if I don't get a second date,
I can be disappointed, but like or if they goes
to me, I can be disappointed.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I think it kind of comes with the territory,
right I think so too. Yeah, anyway, may go out
with you.
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Okay, Amanda, good morning, welcome to the program. How are you,
Amanda doing great? So this is a situation with your
boyfriend here of three years. So I want to hear
what's going on, and then I want everyone to call
and then we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
We're not really behind your back because you can listen
(16:55):
on the radio on the iHeart app, but like we're
gonna talk about you.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Behind your back. One three five.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
So you guys have been together for three years. You
just moved to Florida together about a year ago.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
So tell me more, tell me what's going on.
Speaker 11 (17:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (17:13):
So I actually was diagnosed with type one diabetes almost
two years ago. It'll be my two year anniversary in April,
and I work as a dietitian. I was living in
Naperville at the time, born and raised in Chicago, and
when I was diagnosed with diabetes, I wasn't.
Speaker 11 (17:30):
Working as a dietitian in patient care, and.
Speaker 4 (17:34):
I wanted to become a certified diabetes educator and go
that way with my career so I could do something
good with my diagnosed case.
Speaker 2 (17:43):
Oh wow, good for you.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Which part of Florida did you moved too?
Speaker 11 (17:50):
I'm in Fort Myers.
Speaker 1 (17:52):
Okay, we needed people, and we needed people. A little
further south will help. We can get West b TV.
Would my moving there to be fine? Just look for
the south of It's great, okay, So no tell me more.
Speaker 11 (18:08):
I will say I listened every day on iHeartRadio app
every single morning. That's good.
Speaker 2 (18:12):
That's no, We're very happy.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
So all right, So you wanted you want to sort
of shift your career in a way that that that
sort of met the challenges that you've met, but help
other people because it's kind of in the same realm.
But you need more education to do it. So you
went and got this training.
Speaker 4 (18:30):
Yeah, so, actually you need to work in diabetes care
and get over one thousand hours continuing education. So and
I didn't have those hours because I wasn't working in
diabetes care and hadn't.
Speaker 11 (18:42):
Been in paiment care for a while.
Speaker 4 (18:44):
So I found a position that was a diabetes educator
position where they would help me get the certification and
sit for my exam and get those hours.
Speaker 11 (18:55):
And it just so happened to be in Florida.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Okay, all right, so there's actually training. It's a big deal.
It affects you. It's it's kind of immersed with your
life and all that. So this is this is good,
So you do the training.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
Yeah, So I sold my house in a couple of days,
moved down to Florida. In a month, my boyfriend came
with we've got dogs.
Speaker 11 (19:14):
We moved down.
Speaker 4 (19:15):
Here, and so he knew, you know, we moved our
whole life for me to get this certification and work.
Speaker 11 (19:20):
In this field. So I, you know, I've been working
and studying. We need to study. The exam is very intense.
Speaker 4 (19:29):
So I was studying for months, making sacrifices to do that,
and you know, exam day come. He happened to be
on a boy's trip during that time. It was on
a Friday, and I didn't hear from him.
Speaker 11 (19:42):
All day.
Speaker 4 (19:43):
I didn't get a hey, good luck today, or how'd
your exam go? He didn't even answer my phone call
when I called him after I passed my exam. So
that was very hard for me because he is, you know,
my partner and my biggest support, and.
Speaker 1 (20:00):
This isn't something where like he maybe didn't understand the
significance of it, right, Like, I don't know. Maybe I
could be with somebody who has something going on at
work and I don't realize exactly what a big deal
it is or how hard it is, or I mean,
I'm trying to think of of a devil's advocate position here.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
Maybe you in one employee of the month and he
doesn't realize how competitive that is or something, And so
I don't know, he didn't make a big deal of
it because where he works is not a big deal.
I don't know, but this is something that is fundamental
to who you are because you're affected by it.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
As a diabetic.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
You moved both of your lives to a new state
in order for you to pursue this. Obviously, passing this
exam was a big deal to you because I assume
you can't do the job if you don't pass the exam, right, yeah, exact,
So then that would have been a big I mean,
if anything, I would think the guy selfishly would want
to know if you passed the exam because we just
(20:52):
moved for you to do this. If you don't pass
the examit and you can't do it, then what did
we do? So if nothing else, I would think for
his own personal interest, he would be asking you these questions.
But he should be asking because he cares about you.
He didn't ask you sod that ever come up? Were
you like in passing later like a few weeks later, like,
oh remember that thing we moved here for, like I
can do it?
Speaker 2 (21:12):
Jack asked?
Speaker 11 (21:13):
Right right? Yeah.
Speaker 4 (21:15):
So actually he finally texted me later that day and
was like, hey, what's up. And I was like, did
you forget what today was? And he rent was due
that day, so he's like, I paid you rent earlier
and he literally totally forgot what day it was. And yeah,
(21:35):
when he came home Sunday, then we had to talk
about it.
Speaker 11 (21:37):
But he didn't even feel bad about it. So that's
it's all of that.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
You know, this is not a minor thing like this isuance.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I you know, I forgot about the anniversary of the
anniversary of the anniversary or something. I mean this is
this was a major fundamental thing in your life, and
he just forgot about it. And then when when you
asked about it, when you told him, hey, that hurt
my feelings, he was kind of like, are you seeing
this kind of apathy in other ways?
Speaker 2 (22:01):
Or is it just with this? I mean, like, is
he is? Is he less thoughtful than he was?
Speaker 1 (22:06):
And look, I realize people when they first meet and
then years in, it's not the same level of intensity, sadly,
but like, is he vastly, wildly less less thoughtful than
he was three years ago?
Speaker 11 (22:19):
Yes? Yes, much less thoughtful? And this year has been
challenging with our move.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yeah, is there any resentment? I feel like he's harboring
any Like is he unhappy? Again, not to not acknowledge
your accomplishment, but like, is he just is he unhappy
to be there? Because like, is he realizing he didn't
want to do this? Now?
Speaker 11 (22:42):
I don't think so.
Speaker 4 (22:42):
He actually I never wanted to move to Florida, So
he actually was someone who wanted to move somewhere warm.
So you know, we've have that talk and he seems
really happy here.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Yeah, he's got to go. He's got to go. We're
done with him.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
But I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
I don't like it. I don't like it. You're telling
me this is a trend. He's becoming less and less awful.
And we're not talking about like he used to buy
me flowers once a month and now he doesn't. We're
talking you know, or he used to take me to
dinner more, or we're talking about you guys, move your
lives together. This is something that affects you. This is
something that you want to change in your life to
help other people. This is something you had to work towards.
(23:20):
This is something that was probably very difficult to achieve.
You achieved it, and he didn't acknowledge it. He forgot
about it, and then when you told him it hurt
your feelings, then he wasn't like, oh my god, I
was so wrapped up in my trip and I don't
know we were traveling, and like, I, you know, I
just can't believe I was in a different mode. I
cannot believe I forgot about this. I'm so sorry. Let's
(23:41):
let me make it up to you, like, because maybe
then you could say like, yeah, that sucks, but I
get it. I get how people get distracted and whatever.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
No, that's the thing for me is that when you
asked him about it, that he didn't he didn't.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
Sort of like even then, he didn't lament, like even then,
he wasn't like for a fact, you know, Oh my god,
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
He's got to go. Sorry, man, he's got to go.
It's gonna be it's gonna be nice. So you're gonna
get your own place, and you got this, got this
big job and promotion, new city, a whole new crop
of man, you're gonna love it.
Speaker 2 (24:15):
I mean, is there any other? Is there any other?
Take here?
Speaker 12 (24:18):
No, I'm big on celebrating accomplishments. You know, you work
hard for something, your partner should be there to support
you in those times. And he's you know, you brought
it to his attention and he still didn't try to
fix it.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
And that's showing you that he's just not the one.
Speaker 12 (24:32):
I am my opinion, because if you're not gonna celebrate
my wins a whill, if.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
It's a one time thing and he's and he's apologetic
and truly has remorse, then I think that that's that
can happen, but it sounds like it's becoming a theme
and there was no remorse eight five five three five.
I want to take some phone calls on this, Amanda.
We're gonna talk about you now behind your back. But
thanks for listening on the iHeartRadio app and and good
(24:56):
luck and let us know what you decide.
Speaker 11 (25:00):
Thank you right so much?
Speaker 3 (25:01):
Come visit and party.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
Yeah, no kidding.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
What do you guys say, have a room in the
house now it sounds like right true, what's for us?
Speaker 2 (25:08):
What do you guys? I mean, I don't know if
it is there another side to this.
Speaker 6 (25:12):
No, so my husband, you guys know my husband, Hobby.
He does not show out of emotion for certain things
that may can tell him the biggest best news in
the world, and he's just like.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That's really cool.
Speaker 6 (25:21):
Like it's very like there's no celebration. There's no like
you know, popping bodels and like celebrating with Convetti. However,
if I went to him and was like, hey, like
that bothered me, Like you didn't really seem to acknowledge
this big accomplishment that I've worked so hard for even
before you came in the picture, and I've accomplished this
and you really didn't celebrate me. He would apologize, He
would take accountability. He would say, all right, I'll do better.
You know, I'm sorry about that, you know, because he
(25:42):
doesn't realize, for example, our industry what certain things mean, right,
or like what certain accomplishments mean to me even personally.
I don't blame him a fireman, right, like he's running
into fires. Like I wouldn't understand their accomplishments either. But
it's about accountability. It's about just being like, hey, you're
my girl, right like near my husband or my wife.
Like we're going to celebrate each other forever. Like Kiki said,
I'm big on that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
Yeah, and maybe not everything, maybe he doesn't celebrate everything
you ever did, but like this is just so fundamental too.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
It is right.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
They move their entire lives for this, Like if she
hadn't succeeded in this, then that sort of changes, you know,
the entire direction of things.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
It's given he a secret hater, you know.
Speaker 12 (26:21):
Yeah, sometimes you can be in relationships and friendships with
people who secretly despise you. Were you know, secretly jealous
of the accomplishments that she's been able to do. So
if he's being weird like this this early, like, get
rid of him.
Speaker 13 (26:33):
Girl?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Yeah is it Rana? Is that how you say your name?
Speaker 11 (26:36):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (26:37):
Hi, good morning. What do you think there?
Speaker 8 (26:39):
Go?
Speaker 13 (26:40):
I say, go, I'm a dietician and those exams are
hard and some places will even pay you more for
taking those exams, and you could get a higher salary
for it. I just she should be that should be
on his mind, Like my girlfriend's gonna get more money
now because she passed us exam. I mean, it's just
his heart and it could have someone go through all
(27:01):
of that and then not get anything. I get any
congratulations or a gift or anything.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 13 (27:08):
When I took my exam, my husband waited outside for me.
Oh yeah, because I was either going to cry or
I was going to pass. Yeah, Like I need someone.
Speaker 11 (27:16):
There, and she needed someone there for her. I think
she needs to go.
Speaker 7 (27:20):
And it's tied to a diagnosis, like it's a health
issue for her, so it's even more important and deep.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
So I agree.
Speaker 11 (27:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Yeah, it's giving that he's about himself and maybe not
about her at all. So I don't like it. Thank
you so much, have a good day. Thank yeah, a
bunch of techs. She needs to leave. They aren't married.
He wasn't apologetic. Red Flag Freedom, Danitas in Freedom and
(27:47):
someone else said, yeah, if you feel bad about it later,
or even if you wanted to support her achievements, you
could have done something celebratory, like by her flowers, or
take her out to eat to celebrate or something. He
had no thoughts about celebrating her achievement. She should go. Yeah,
I think she should go, and I think we.
Speaker 2 (28:02):
All agree on that. I think, wow, we're all alive
for one Yes,
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