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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's a fresh show.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's Kiki's I saw you guys to the jury eight five, five,
five nine one one three five all rise. The honorable
Kikilik is here. Take it away, Judge Kiki.

Speaker 3 (00:09):
So let's step into the courtroom. The gabble has been hit,
all right, it says Heikei Kei. My name is Connie.
I'm currently no contact with my oldest son and it's
killing me. I've always been very close to him and
his wife. My daughter in law would always text and
call me when they would have fights, and I would
be the mediator and get them back to a happy place. Well,
about two months ago, everything hit the fan when my

(00:32):
daughter in law posted a Facebook status saying that she
was filing for divorce. All of our family and friends
saw her posts, including my son's co workers. It was
so embarrassing for our family. I couldn't believe she would
post something like that. I later learned that she caught
my son cheating, but I still feel like posting something like.

Speaker 4 (00:50):
That was just unforgivable.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
They've gone to counseling and decided to work on their marriage,
but I can't bring myself to forgive her for publicly
embarrassing our family. Our church family saw it, and we
were the talk of the town all because she decided
to run to Facebook over the holidays. I asked my
son not to bring her around and to only bring
my grandchildren. Well, he didn't listen and brought her anyway.

(01:13):
I asked her to leave on Christmas Eve, and I
haven't spoke to my son or my grandkids.

Speaker 4 (01:17):
Since.

Speaker 3 (01:18):
Should I reach out and apologize to my son because
I really miss my grandkids? Hummm wow, okay, wow, Connie, unpack, Connie.
I'm gonna hold your hand when I say this girl,
Your daughter in law's not the problem here.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Your son is the issue.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Okay, Okay, So he cheated, but then she exposed him
on Facebook. On Facebook, yes, and and then that makes
her look bad. It made the whole family apparently. So
she's upset because it's like, why did you why did
you have to air that all out? Why can't you
just say you know it didn't work out, or we're
not together anymore, or why not just not say anything exactly?

Speaker 3 (01:57):
But let's not skip past brought us here, which is
your son cheating. Okay, however I react to your son
cheating is just However, I react, and if we decide
to go to counseling and get over our marital issues,
that has nothing to do with you, ma'am.

Speaker 4 (02:13):
Like, I understand you're upset. The church saw it.

Speaker 3 (02:15):
People aren't asking, but it's Hey, I felt emotional in
the moment I put it on Facebook. He needs to
answer for its issues. You know what I'm saying, Like,
he brought us here. It's not the daughter in law's issue.
It's your son cheating on her. Let's address that first.
Did you correct your son at all?

Speaker 2 (02:33):
Well, internally I would say that, and look, no one
should be cheating on anybody else. But I guess I
still think that Facebook and social media is the death
of us all because there's just we do we have
to take it to that point? Do we have to
take it to the floor. Do we have to air
all of our dirty laundry? Look, she was wrong, I
get it, you should. I agree with you. He should

(02:54):
not be cheating on anybody.

Speaker 5 (02:56):
Yes, but she was emotional, and we do stupid things
were very emotional.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Okay, so we're.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Admitting then that posting yeah, this out out there is
is goofy.

Speaker 4 (03:06):
No, Yeah, it's not the best decision.

Speaker 3 (03:08):
But like this, Connie has completely disregarded all her son's
actions and just focusing on the daughter in law's reaction
to his actions.

Speaker 4 (03:17):
Yeah, what's Connie's worried about the wrong stuff?

Speaker 5 (03:19):
And also Connie needs to understand that they chose to
fix their marriage right, they went to counseling, they're working
on it. Also, Connie is the grandmother to these babies,
right to so Okay, to have access to the baby,
to have access to your grandkids, you need to treat
the mother with respect.

Speaker 4 (03:34):
You need to always understand that that is the mother.

Speaker 5 (03:36):
And you don't have to like her choice is what
she did with the whole Facebook thing and the whole
church scandal whatever, You'll get over that. This is your grandkids,
that's your daughter in law. You need to understand that.

Speaker 2 (03:47):
See. But I just I don't understand. And again I'm
not excusing the cheating whatsoever. Do not hear that as
my message. I just don't understand going to the floor
on social media because now it just makes it a
bigger issue now because you've now embarrassed the kids even
I mean, it's.

Speaker 1 (04:00):
Like it's not great, and I get it. You're mad.

Speaker 2 (04:02):
You have every right to be mad, but it's just
a bigger problem now now, I mean, as we don't
know what was going on inside that relationship. But again,
doesn't excuse the cheating, doesn't excuse the cheating. But I
never see the point in outing somebody one side of
the story and then wondering why it just blows up
everybody's life. Well, because because that was a private matter
and you made it not private.

Speaker 4 (04:23):
Yeah, it's not great. I don't Yeah, you're emotional. Sorry,
I'm gonna cut you off.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
I mean you can't.

Speaker 4 (04:27):
I mean you can't. There's no post without the cheating,
and I think that that's the case, you know.

Speaker 3 (04:32):
Yeah, And that's my issue with Ms Connie is that
she has completely disregarded her so she has no fault
for her son. It's just don't bring that girl to
my house. She embarrassed the whole family. But like, what
about what he did?

Speaker 6 (04:45):
You know?

Speaker 4 (04:45):
What about that? I don't know.

Speaker 3 (04:47):
I just feel like she's taking her son's side and
completely just blaming the daughter in law.

Speaker 4 (04:51):
And as your Facebook friend, please keep posting your drama. Yes,
as I need it. I need to follow up immediately.

Speaker 2 (04:56):
Hey Brittany, Yeah, Hi Brittany good morning, so Keikey's court.
So just recap it quickly gain yes, like like a
ten second recap.

Speaker 4 (05:04):
All right, Connie's son she did on his wife.

Speaker 3 (05:07):
His wife got on Facebook and told everybody that cheated
and she wants a divorce. Now Connie is mad at
her daughter in law.

Speaker 7 (05:13):
Yeah, well she has no right to be mad. I
was in the same situation. I'm married, my husband had
an affair with who was I thought my friend for
three years. I did the Facebook thing. I didn't necessarily
put what he did or whatever the case was. But
I think the mother in law or the mom is
in the wrong because that's their marriage, not her marriage.

(05:33):
So what goes on behind closed doors, even though that's
your son and he came from you, it doesn't matter.
That's not your marriage. Your marriage is with your husband,
not your son. So what goes on between them stays
between them. And I wholeheartedly believe the mother in law
is in the wrong because I said, that's their marriage,
and me and my husband are still together. It took
us a while to get back to where we are.

(05:55):
But guests, like I said, it's our marriage, nobody else is.
But nobody likes their business.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Brittany, if you had a if you had completely outed
your husband on social media, like and gone onto this
whole thing. I thought you said you didn't get into
the cheating though. I thought you said you didn't tell everything.

Speaker 7 (06:11):
Oh, I mean I just said that you know, he
had cheated. It just wasn't the whole like three year fair.
It wasn't with who it was it was.

Speaker 8 (06:17):
You know, I did out him, but at the end
of the day, me.

Speaker 7 (06:22):
And him worked on it, we got back together, And
what people say doesn't matter.

Speaker 2 (06:26):
Well, see that's what I meant because I think, like,
when you do that and again, you didn't do anything wrong,
You were the one who was You were the one
who was wrong. But when people just expose and they
really get into like the nitty gritty and the dirt
within their relationship, well then you have to undo all
of that too, because in this case, you chose to
stay with the man, and now you have to explain
to everybody, well, yeah, he did do all that. As

(06:47):
where if you just keep that private, doesn't it make
the reconciliation process easier, like it's our business, not everybody else's.

Speaker 7 (06:54):
Yes, yes, yes, yes it does, because I mean what
people say, honestly doesn't matter to me, but I did
take that into consideration. Put at the same time, that's
my marriage and I love my husband and I feel
like we should work on it and worked it out,
and we did. We have two children.

Speaker 1 (07:10):
So well for you, well then you.

Speaker 2 (07:12):
Know what you're You have a lot more uh forgiveness
in you than I do. And I'm glad it worked out.
And thank you for calling it for share. I appreciate you, Brittany.

Speaker 7 (07:20):
You know you guys, have a great day. Thank you
so much.

Speaker 1 (07:22):
Have a good day. Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 2 (07:23):
It's like when you it's like when you tell your
friends about trivial fights that you have. And this is
more than trivial. This is but even if it's cheating, Yeah,
you tell your friends about this, all my got you
cheated on me whatever. And then let's say you decided
to take them back, because it's your life where you
decide to take her back or whatever it is. Now
you got to undo all that damage with your friends
who will never forget that you were wrong in that way.
And I guess the question I would ask is, if

(07:44):
you have any intention of forgiving someone, then why make
it bigger than it has to be.

Speaker 4 (07:49):
But why did you cheat on me?

Speaker 7 (07:51):
Right?

Speaker 3 (07:51):
You know you put me here, You put me in
this situation to make this decision to air you out
like you gave me.

Speaker 1 (07:58):
I agree, I agree, here is you when he cheated?

Speaker 4 (08:01):
I agree?

Speaker 2 (08:02):
I just I would be I don't know that I
would make it bigger because I'd be embarrassed about it myself.

Speaker 7 (08:06):
You're not thinking rationally though it's emotional, but like people need.

Speaker 2 (08:10):
To be a little more rational when it comes to
social media, because it's done.

Speaker 1 (08:13):
The social media is undoing of many.

Speaker 4 (08:15):
Take my phone if I get cheated, I'm just.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Like my phone. That's what I want to.

Speaker 3 (08:20):
I can only imagine, probably right sadus is she? I
almost went just gun emojis.

Speaker 2 (08:26):
I think people paint themselves into a corner with social
media all the time. I think people they say stuff
and do stuff about their at work or about their
relationships or whatever, and then about their friends in the moment.

Speaker 1 (08:36):
That stuff lives forever. And again that's what pee.

Speaker 5 (08:39):
I got into a fight with my husband on Saturday
night with overnight care with the baby because you know,
baby wakes up.

Speaker 4 (08:45):
I'm frustrated, I'm tired. He's not getting up. I almost
almost and I didn't do a friend. I didn't do it.
I almost want on Instagram, not live on the story.

Speaker 5 (08:53):
I almost suposed to posted a story and I almost said,
you know, this is why I feel like women are
staying single and not having kids these days.

Speaker 2 (09:00):
Almost that would have caused a five times bigger fight.

Speaker 4 (09:05):
I gotta tell my son.

Speaker 1 (09:10):
It's cathartic. It's yes, he can't be undone.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
That's again, I am not excusing someone's behavior. But you
go out there and do that now, trying to make
it better, trying to fix it, if you ever plan
to do it, it's just one hundred times worse.

Speaker 4 (09:22):
He found.

Speaker 1 (09:22):
Jennifer.

Speaker 9 (09:24):
Yes, good morning.

Speaker 1 (09:25):
You guys just don't want their tee. That's what it is.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
Oh, it's cathartic, but actually make sure you tell me
when you do it. Jennifer, what did you want to say?

Speaker 9 (09:32):
Welcome, Hi, good morning, thank you. I agree with everyone
a little bit, except for the mother in law and
the son obviously for cheating. So like, I'm with Cheeky
on this, and I'm with you, and Facebook should be
like the highlight reel. You should not put your business
out there. Unfortunately, she had an emotional response. She did.

(09:53):
But if her son, it's the mother last son, it's
Knie's son is trying to fix his marriage and make
up for what he did, and his mother in law
put him in the position to choose between her and
his wife, which is exactly what she did, and they
and her from the family. Like she had to know
that he was going to take her side.

Speaker 6 (10:12):
He has to.

Speaker 9 (10:13):
He's trying to fix his marriage. So and for her
it is like think that the daughter in law is
at fault for embarrassing her and ruining the family, Like, yeah,
she put it out there, and I don't agree with
that either. But again, like Keke said, we're only here
because of what he did, but the only reason why
any of this is happening. So like, yeah, she can't
ride with her son on this one. She should have

(10:34):
if she cared about having the kids as a part
of her life, she should have had some accountability for
her son and wrote it out with the daughter in
law like hey, yeah, he messed up, and I'm with you,
I'm with you and the kids and hold her son accountable.
And she did it, and now she's on the outs
and she at this point, now she can only blame herself.

Speaker 2 (10:53):
And well, Jennifer, let me tell you this, and I'm
not saying that, you know, if I'm married with kids,
which I'm not, but if I were, I'm not saying
you should be calling my mom and saying what happened
with in our relationship. But just let my mom find
out that I cheated on my wife and kids. Just
let my mom find out and then you don't have
to go on social media because my mom will kill
me herself. Well you put on social media's r ip

(11:14):
because trust me, my mom gets win of it that
it'll be the worst, that'll be the worst thing it
could possibly happen to me, and I would deserve it
if I were a cheater. But you know how, you
can skip the social media post because mom will handle
this for you and and so, and then that way
line doesn't get embarrassed because her dumb ass son cheated.
But thank you, Jennifer, have a.

Speaker 9 (11:32):
Good day, Thanks you too.

Speaker 2 (11:35):
I just think the social media, man, it's just ah,
it does everybody in Hey, yeah, Gigi, Hi, Hi guys.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
Good morning.

Speaker 4 (11:42):
Hello.

Speaker 8 (11:43):
So yeah, he should be called out. I'm going through
the same situation, not as extreme, not cheating and that
she called.

Speaker 1 (11:51):
The radio show about to call this man out. Okay, good,
what happened? What happened? Girl?

Speaker 8 (11:54):
He puts secret Kramelins in the house, and I call
him and his but it's all what happened was it's
all through a secret, a secrets of events. He's insecure,
and he he thought I was cheating, even though he
says it's not. He doesn't think I should have put
him on blast. When I found the third camera, he
lied about it. He lied about the device. They were

(12:19):
little secret cameras, and he said he I found. He
told me about it because he knew I was gonna
end up finding out. And then the third one he
lied to me. I asked him, how many did you have?
He said three? I said, what happened to the third one?
He says, it didn't come? It came, and then I
put it on social media. And now he's like, oh, well,
now I can't get a good job. I have an
airport job. And they go based on your your what

(12:44):
do you call it, your your who you are, your character?
You know, they don't so doubt somebody will feel that
what you're doing is wrong. So and he said stupid
because I wasn't cheating.

Speaker 1 (12:59):
Me, Texas, Are you staying with him?

Speaker 8 (13:02):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (13:02):
Well see okay, which no judgment, but like now the
dude can't get a job, and so that affects you.

Speaker 8 (13:07):
No, he can't get a job. He can't get a job.

Speaker 1 (13:09):
He can't get a good one because nobody.

Speaker 8 (13:11):
Trusted you can't. But it's it's not he has a job.
He's just saying that. That's an excuse on why you
can't just reputation because I made him look at No,
you made you look I agree with that. You might
be my piece on my home away from you.

Speaker 1 (13:27):
I agree.

Speaker 8 (13:28):
And his excuse was he just wanted to see me
do something inappropriate because I don't do things to myself
in appropriate.

Speaker 2 (13:34):
Okay, And I'm just like, no nobody because he thought right,
nobody should be invading people's privacy like that.

Speaker 1 (13:40):
Thank you, you have.

Speaker 8 (13:40):
A good days.

Speaker 1 (13:42):
Love you. I just mean like I love you to.

Speaker 2 (13:43):
I just want to see like these celebrities who like
make a huge big deal out of the bad thing
that their famous husband or wife did. Okay, all right,
maybe you are entitled to that, but then when that
person's career falters, you also aren't getting paid. You know
what I mean, like, you have no income now and
again that is a problem for them, but it's now

(14:04):
it becomes a problem for you, and it also is
because you expose them. Again, I'm not saying it's your fault.
I just mean, what kind of damage are you doing?
It will have an effect on you negatively to add
insult to injury.

Speaker 4 (14:15):
You already heard me, so I'm already damaged.

Speaker 2 (14:19):
Yeah, Adriana, Yes, Hey, good morn How are you.

Speaker 1 (14:23):
The Kinky's court? What does you want to say? Welcome? Fine?

Speaker 8 (14:27):
First of all, that last story was wild.

Speaker 6 (14:30):
Yes, everyone's everyone's at fault. I think won him for cheating,
her for posting, and for the mother in law for
getting involved. But I do think that there should have
been no post to begin with, especially if you're going
to work your marriage out, just because it's it's embarrassing,
regardless of whether you want someone else to stick their

(14:50):
nose in your business or to make comments.

Speaker 8 (14:53):
The fact that it's out.

Speaker 6 (14:54):
There, everyone's going to make comments. Now you're staying with
this man, you look stupid. At the end of the day,
if you're going to work things, it should be it
should be done quietly. It shouldn't be done in public.

Speaker 2 (15:04):
Right, like, mitigate the damage by not making it bigger
than it already has to be, because now you know,
Mema knows about it, and you know uncle, yeah, Johnny
and all the crazy people posting.

Speaker 4 (15:16):
You know this my foreign family across the right.

Speaker 2 (15:20):
Person, and then maybe they should, maybe they should. But
but in the case of like a Gigi where yeah,
this dude, I don't. I mean, that's a that's quite
the betrayal to go back to. But then again, yeah,
nobody knows about the betrayal. But now you're back with him,
so now everyone's like, oh, how can you do that?
And it just makes it worse.

Speaker 4 (15:35):
Yes, because you.

Speaker 6 (15:38):
Want to embarrass him, But at the end of the day,
if you're staying with him, you're embarrassing yourself and you're
embarrassing your kid.

Speaker 1 (15:43):
So protect yourself.

Speaker 6 (15:45):
Yeah, I think at this point, if like you're in
that situation. I was in that situation. My ex husband
cheated on me and actually had.

Speaker 8 (15:51):
A baby with his mistress.

Speaker 6 (15:53):
Oh I didn't, I didn't go and post it on
media and was like, I thought about my son and
I thought about at the time, I was thinking maybe
we were really young when we got married. But now
I'm in my forties and that happened in my twenties,
and I was like, maybe I should stay with him.

Speaker 8 (16:09):
I have a baby with him.

Speaker 6 (16:11):
I think I would have looked even more stupid if
I had posted all this stuff about him, about how
awful he was to me, how awful he was to
my son, and then ended up staying. I don't know
if that makes any sense, Like, I think I look
more stupid than he would.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
You have every right to do it, but it just
makes things more complicated.

Speaker 1 (16:27):
But thank you.

Speaker 6 (16:29):
Have a good day, you too, have a great one.

Speaker 1 (16:32):
You don't be cheating. Don't be cheating, Nope. But if
you're getting cheated on, I recommend put the phone down.
That's I'm just I do that too. We could do
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