November 18, 2025 • 16 mins
Fred asks the crew is there any pickup lines that will work on them!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
So there's a billionaire who has a pickup line that
he wants everybody to know about, and I want to
know if this would work. What I really want to
know is is what what would work in twenty twenty
five as it pertains to I guess this could be online,
but you know, I suppose you could DM this to somebody,
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but you know, maybe in person. But this guy's name
is Bill Ackman. He's a hedge fund guy. Now I
don't know how I get all the money. Maybe it
was from hedge funds. But his pickup line that he
claims works is or did work. I'm not sure if
the guy's married. He's a older guy. May I meet you?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
May may I meet you? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So he got mocked online after sharing dating advice for
a young man on social media.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
He's always fifty nine?
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Is you know? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's giving. I thought he was older actually, but he's
fifty nine.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And he suggested using the pickup line may I meet
you before starting a conversation with women. Say that you
almost never got to know when he was younger. So
this was a post on X I guess. It's been
twenty six million times and prompted thousands of comments and
mocking memes. People called him out of touch and joked
to trying the line and getting to we'll get the
police called on them. One person said that women only
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said yes to him because he's a billionaire financier, but
he replied that he didn't have money back when he
was using that line.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
May I meet you?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Now?
Speaker 2 (01:26):
What is James mad about?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
James says, uh, I'm supposed to stop throwing shade at you.
I mean apparently, I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure
there was no shade. Yeah, I know, I know, I'm
just I'm confused. Anyway, I was confused, man, what does stop? Right?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
You know she knows she can say.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Like throw some shade, I'll throw some shade. Not not
our James. This was a text. No, I know, this
was not our boss, James. Next our boss James did
not ask me. She actually like he would like more
shade and more drama if anything. James, Yeah, yeah, may
I meet you?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
May I meet you? Absolutely not only in the dark.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I guess I think that sounds like one of those
like African prince princess.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
You know I'm talking about, like may I meet you?
Like said send you money? Like that's what it's giving.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh he's talking about belahemine. By the way, that the cavities,
she has five cavities.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
She told us that, well she had six, but she
gets to take two out with her wisdom teams.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I thought all of them had cavity. I thought she'd
have all they all had cavit. I thought she had
ten total or something? Was it two of the wisdom
teeths worth it? It's four and four and two wisdom.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So there were eight?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Or six? Anyway? Man meet you? A man meet you? No, No,
can I meet me? I don't like that at all.
And he meet anyone?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
And I literally the bars on the floor, and that
would still freak me out.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I would feel like you're trying to, like, you know,
keep me in a trunk or something.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
If you said, if I got a thing a DM
that said may I meet you, I would think it
was like a scammer. That's because it's such an old
timey way to talk that I would think that it
was somebody who didn't maybe have a mastery of current
you know, sort of phraseology.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Or lived in a different country. That's what I would
truly think.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because that's just not the way people talk and it's
very polite and proper and whatever else.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Someone asked if I was spoken for the other day
in my DMS, and I was like, wow, I haven't
heard that since.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The forties, Like it, are you spoken spoken for?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Do you have a dowry? Yeah? Well do you? I'd
like to know what your dad's willing to pay you?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Well?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah, trade me out to get you to get you
off the payroll.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
May I meet you? M Yeah? But what here's the better?
The better question? Though?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Eight five, five, five, nine one one o three five
you can call and text the same number?
Speaker 2 (03:43):
What what would work? Like?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
What do you want to hear from men approaching you?
Is that because you have a boyfriend or because you
just don't want people that you don't want.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
To talking from men to talk to you at all?
But like, here's the thing, real period, I know you're kidding,
kind of you're not.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
You have a boyfriend, so you're probably not kidding, But
like all I should think, I just.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
Wear a sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in
the top and bottom you know, well no.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
And I guess this person couldn't read because I think
I could see it every single day. I mean, I
guess this person can take the time to when you
asked if you're spoken for him, like haven't you seen
her outfit today?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And every day?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
But I you know, you hear a lot, whether it's
social media or whatever. You hear people say that they
women saying that they want men to approach them in
the wild. The problem is out of you know, you
all you also hear a lot of people saying they
don't want to be approached in the wild, or they
make fun of the guys who approach them in the wild,
And so you can't have it both ways. Or you
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get on some app and you make fun of guys,
or you trash guys that that you know did there.
And I'm not talking about the guys who said like
disgusting things or very clever things like I'm going to
break every cheer in the room so that you don't
have any place to sit, like one guy said to you. Now,
that is well highly inappropriate. That is that is that
is creative.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Sometimes they take a step back and I go, you know,
I'm not even mad, like I got it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm I'm like, I'm not I'm not going to
enter a room and with it are no chairs.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
But like I also okay points, you know, yeah, every.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Now and again, I think you could you could say
something like that to the right person and they might think, like,
you know, if they have a little bit of an
off sense of humor like we do, they might they
might step back and be like, okay, But but nine
times out of ten that's not going to work. Nine
times out of ten you're gonna wind up getting made
fun of. But so that's my thing is do you
want to be approached and if you do, what's actually
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going to work?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Of course you want them to be respectful and and
not you know, be gross and and whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
But like the key to this is you want to
be approached.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
If I'm guessing you want to be approached by the
guys that you want to be approached by. And and
we as men don't know whether wh're the guy you
want to be approached by or not, so we don't
approach out of fear of all these other things. So
I guess if that's the case, if you want to
be approached by men or whatever, I think we have
to get to a place where we can kindly brush
people off as a standard in society. And then, by
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the way, once you're kindly brushed off, you need to
step off. Yeah, you need to you need to leave,
you need you need to leave. She doesn't want to
meet you, bro. And then and then you need to leave.
You need to not respond. If it's in a DM,
you don't need to have some smart comeback because you
were rejected. You don't have to project, you don't have
to say something I don't want you anyway, which is
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what everybody got.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
There's so much of this stuff. That's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
The people do it's any want to go out with me? No, well,
you know you think you're hot stuff. Dude, you asked
me a question, I gave you an answer. Now you
need to walk away now. So so there's that. So
this isn't all on women. This is on men too,
because men have a tendency to act like idiots.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I'm a fan of the like for both of both
parties involved. The like don't make it feel like you're
hitting on me situations, so like, come up, talk about
something different, make a joke, point something out at the bar.
Then feel my energy if I'm engaging or if I'm like, oh,
my friend's waving across the bar. Then we can both
leave the situation either not embarrassed, or you proceed hitting
on me like I don't make me feel like you're
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hitting on me.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Don't be like hello, ma'am. You know I'd like to
dance with you. You know, just let's let's just talk
talk about the bar. Is it crowded?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do I have a drink? YadA YadA?
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Okay, And so no one gets embarrassed either way, because
then you could feel if I'm like, I got to
go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
That's true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Take a hint, like you know, is it conversation flowing
organically or are you forcing it?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
If you're forcing it, walk away, it's over. Then you're
not embarrassed, and neither am I. Kiki? How you know? Well?
What why are your eyes?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You're technically single but engaged because you're not married, but
when you were actually actually single? Yes, how did you
want to see what I'm talking about? That's why I
rolled my eyes. I don't even know the rules anymore.
But how did you want to be approached?
Speaker 2 (07:47):
So I want you to approach me?
Speaker 6 (07:48):
And then just if I call the police on you,
that doesn't means I know I want you, and then
if I don't, it's.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
A good sign. In my experience, that's been a good sign.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
If I don't call the police, be good, you know,
like keep talking rast because I am one of those
women who I would hype me in up, like you
gotta approach women. Man, You gotta go out there in
a while. You got to shoot your shot. Man, and
then the moment you shoot your shot at me, if
you're not the man I want, I'm like, please get him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
This is kind of what I'm talking about, right because
like as a guy, like I.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Don't know, I don't know, Like you know, it's like
I don't want to wind it.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
If I walk up to the right girl at the
right time, and I'm the guys she wants to talk to,
and then I talked to her, then that's what she
wanted and that goes well. But if I'm not and
then a lot of different things could happen. And so yes,
I guess I'm a little insecure about it. But but
then but then you say, that's what you want, But
are you you know, are as a society are we
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receiving that as well as we possibly could?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You know what I mean? Like it's hard, it's hard
being a man, because I don't think it's hard. I know,
I don't think this one regard. This is tricky. Yeah,
the man I wouldn't know what to do. This is tricky.
It is not hard to be a man at all.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But this is a little tricky because it's like different
age demographics are looking for different things. And sometimes you
can be really forward and sometimes you can't. And then
sometimes you're not forward enough. You know, if you're may
I meet you, then that you're gonna get made fun of.
But if you're like, you know, can I can I
you know, get yeah right right, that's also that's that's
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usually not going to go well, but sometimes it does,
depending on who you're talking to and when and where.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
I think it's the millennial girls that are like ill
walk away from Like I don't see that. Like my
friends and I like, we all like we want to
meet new people, regardless of if people have husband whatever,
you know, we want to chat. I've heard from the
younger generation because I don't think they want to talk
at all.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
They want to look at screens, like they don't want
to talk to you. They're scared of they won't call
a reservation.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Or there's this Ashley, Hey, Ashley, Hi, So this is great.
A guy walked up to and he said, what.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
So I was working and I was working at a
bar and I saw someone order something that I liked
and I stopped next to him. I was like, oh,
you got our It was a buffalo chicken salad, and
he just looks at me stopped. He goes, I want
to wear your skin on my face, and I just
kind of stared at him, and he stared at me,
and the bartender staired and it was almost like that
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Homer sympsome where you like back away slowly.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Yeah, And I was.
Speaker 5 (10:27):
Like backed away into the kitchen and then the bartender
kicked him out and grabbed a bouncer and he was
not allowed back at that facility.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Well, that's why we're scared.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Actually, everybody knows the mistake that was made here was it?
It's may I wear you were skinning on my face?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's that's now.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
If only he had been more proper about it. That
that's that was the issue. So I understand.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
And it was like the consistent eye contact after and
I'm like, I don't know what to do right now.
It was very scary. I'm kind of funny though, but
it is my uh have one. I hope no one
ever talks it.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah, yeah, anyway, how long you guys been married?
Speaker 5 (11:08):
But yeah, very married.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
Didn't that work for me though?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, actually, thank you. Have a good day here too.
That's crazy. Uh, Stephanie, how are you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 5 (11:20):
Hi? Good morning.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
This is an example of a guy objectifying you and
it worked.
Speaker 5 (11:26):
Yeah, we're engaged down.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Do you?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
But what did he say?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
Well?
Speaker 5 (11:34):
I mean I just literally walked past him, told him
he had nice chances to the legs, and just left.
And then the next time that I saw him at
the store, I looked at him. I was like, so
did you go home and look at your legs? And
she was like, I mean kind of wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So you you objectified him?
Speaker 6 (11:54):
I shared it.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Does he shave? Why are so smooth? Yeah? He has
hairless legs. He used to be like an MMA fighter,
so he really didn't have okay, a kind of.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
Like the hair on his legs from grampling and stuff.
So but they were really ten, they were really smooth,
and I was like, shoot, you shot, let's.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Go okay now. Now, honestly, if he now this is
a guy that you're with. But like, if he had
said something about your legs, how would that have gone over?
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Well, that would have.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
Been really weird because I didn't have any like shorts
or anything on, so by I had chance to good
legs at that point in time. I mean, how would
you know?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Okay, but nine times out of ten, that's not gonna work, right, Like,
we accept that? Correct?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Okay, correct?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So this is a perfect example of it worked for you, guys,
but you got it. And if you're gonna if you're
gonna make that up, if you're going to say something
like that, then I think you have to know in
your mind nine times out of ten you're gonna get rejected.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
But maybe one time it will work. But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Like it worked for her, it did work for you,
I guess, yeah, you're good for you, Stephanie. All right,
have a good day, Nags. Hey, Destiny, Yeah, Destiny. What happened?
This is a pickup line? First of all, did it
work or it did not work? Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:08):
It worked enough for a first date?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Okay? What happened?
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I was dancing in the middle of a bar and
someone randomly comes up to me shows me his phone.
I don't know if you know the game Trivia Crack.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
A game that asked questions, and he's like, hey, you
look smart, can you answer this question for me? So
we ended up playing Trivia Crack in the middle of
the bar. It turns out he ends up getting my
number and then went on a first date and he
ended up telling me, He's like, just to let you
know I seen you, and like, I had no other
way of thinking about talking to you. So I downloaded
the app and I went up to you and we
ended up playing.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's cute, okay, but only one day.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
It didn't get I mean, it didn't get any farther,
but it caught my attention, and I thought the confidence
was it was cute.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Okay, fair enough, all right, thank you, Jessiny, have a
good day.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I think we also need to get past the thing
where we're we're I mentioned I alluded to this earlier.
I mentioned it, but like we're proud of rejecting people too,
like or more proud of dating fails. Like again, if
a guy is gross or predatory or dangerous, or a
cheater or stealing from you, then let's expose those people, right,
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like we always should have.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
But like the thing where we go on a.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Date and we both took risk in going on the
date and the date didn't go the way we wanted
it to, Like that's how that's dating. And I think
it's even more risky when you're on dating apps because
because again the days of the only option that we
had was to talk to each other and then gauge
the vibe and the chemistry before we went out.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
That's over.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
So now the first time I'm getting any vibe from
you whatsoever, really in person is when I first meet you,
and maybe it goes well and maybe it doesn't. But again,
I mean it's not just in this era where you
go on a date with someone and they may not
call you for a second date.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Yeah, you know what I mean, Like this is nothing new.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
The only thing that's different now is that you can
go blast those people publicly and and get mad at them.
But again, like it's since the dawn of time, like
men have been rejected, women have not gotten second dates.
Men have not gotten and gotten second dates. Like it
is what it is, right, So so short of you
being a terrible person who's actually like a like because
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what happens then is like maybe that person wasn't for you,
but they're for the next person. But now the next
person's I'm interested because they heard about some perspective from.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
An anonymous other, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
It's like, yeah, I think technology all around is screwing
this up, the dating apps, the message boards, all the
rest of the stuff, cause it's like, look, maybe maybe
you maybe I could meet two people at the same
time on the same day and you're not for me,
but the other one is, and it is what it is,
and the same goes for you. Like when I go
on dates with people from dating apps, I assume they're
talking to five other people.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
That's the game.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
And so that if I don't get a second date,
I can be disappointed, but like or if they goes
to me, I can be disappointed.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I think it kind of comes with the territory,
right I think so too.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Yeah, anyway, mag go out with you.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
You got a thousand dollars, Okay, so that's that's it.
I got a thousand dollars
So there's a billionaire who has a pickup line that
he wants everybody to know about, and I want to
know if this would work. What I really want to
know is is what what would work in twenty twenty
five as it pertains to I guess this could be online,
but you know, I suppose you could DM this to somebody,
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but you know, maybe in person. But this guy's name
is Bill Ackman. He's a hedge fund guy. Now I
don't know how I get all the money. Maybe it
was from hedge funds. But his pickup line that he
claims works is or did work. I'm not sure if
the guy's married. He's a older guy. May I meet you?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
May may I meet you? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (00:45):
So he got mocked online after sharing dating advice for
a young man on social media.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
He's always fifty nine?
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Is you know? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (00:51):
It's giving. I thought he was older actually, but he's
fifty nine.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
And he suggested using the pickup line may I meet
you before starting a conversation with women. Say that you
almost never got to know when he was younger. So
this was a post on X I guess. It's been
twenty six million times and prompted thousands of comments and
mocking memes. People called him out of touch and joked
to trying the line and getting to we'll get the
police called on them. One person said that women only
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said yes to him because he's a billionaire financier, but
he replied that he didn't have money back when he
was using that line.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
May I meet you?
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Now?
Speaker 2 (01:26):
What is James mad about?
Speaker 1 (01:27):
James says, uh, I'm supposed to stop throwing shade at you.
I mean apparently, I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure
there was no shade. Yeah, I know, I know, I'm
just I'm confused. Anyway, I was confused, man, what does stop? Right?
Speaker 2 (01:45):
You know she knows she can say.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Like throw some shade, I'll throw some shade. Not not
our James. This was a text. No, I know, this
was not our boss, James. Next our boss James did
not ask me. She actually like he would like more
shade and more drama if anything. James, Yeah, yeah, may
I meet you?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
May I meet you? Absolutely not only in the dark.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
I guess I think that sounds like one of those
like African prince princess.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
You know I'm talking about, like may I meet you?
Like said send you money? Like that's what it's giving.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Oh he's talking about belahemine. By the way, that the cavities,
she has five cavities.
Speaker 4 (02:18):
She told us that, well she had six, but she
gets to take two out with her wisdom teams.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
I thought all of them had cavity. I thought she'd
have all they all had cavit. I thought she had
ten total or something? Was it two of the wisdom
teeths worth it? It's four and four and two wisdom.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So there were eight?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Wow?
Speaker 2 (02:34):
Or six? Anyway? Man meet you? A man meet you? No, No,
can I meet me? I don't like that at all.
And he meet anyone?
Speaker 1 (02:43):
And I literally the bars on the floor, and that
would still freak me out.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
I would feel like you're trying to, like, you know,
keep me in a trunk or something.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
If you said, if I got a thing a DM
that said may I meet you, I would think it
was like a scammer. That's because it's such an old
timey way to talk that I would think that it
was somebody who didn't maybe have a mastery of current
you know, sort of phraseology.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Or lived in a different country. That's what I would
truly think.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Because that's just not the way people talk and it's
very polite and proper and whatever else.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
Someone asked if I was spoken for the other day
in my DMS, and I was like, wow, I haven't
heard that since.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
The forties, Like it, are you spoken spoken for?
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 5 (03:22):
Right?
Speaker 2 (03:23):
Do you have a dowry? Yeah? Well do you? I'd
like to know what your dad's willing to pay you?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Well?
Speaker 1 (03:28):
Yeah, trade me out to get you to get you
off the payroll.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
May I meet you? M Yeah? But what here's the better?
The better question? Though?
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Eight five, five, five, nine one one o three five
you can call and text the same number?
Speaker 2 (03:43):
What what would work? Like?
Speaker 1 (03:45):
What do you want to hear from men approaching you?
Is that because you have a boyfriend or because you
just don't want people that you don't want.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
To talking from men to talk to you at all?
But like, here's the thing, real period, I know you're kidding,
kind of you're not.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
You have a boyfriend, so you're probably not kidding, But
like all I should think, I just.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
Wear a sweatsuit that says I have a boyfriend in
the top and bottom you know, well no.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
And I guess this person couldn't read because I think
I could see it every single day. I mean, I
guess this person can take the time to when you
asked if you're spoken for him, like haven't you seen
her outfit today?
Speaker 2 (04:17):
And every day?
Speaker 1 (04:20):
But I you know, you hear a lot, whether it's
social media or whatever. You hear people say that they
women saying that they want men to approach them in
the wild. The problem is out of you know, you
all you also hear a lot of people saying they
don't want to be approached in the wild, or they
make fun of the guys who approach them in the wild,
And so you can't have it both ways. Or you
(04:42):
get on some app and you make fun of guys,
or you trash guys that that you know did there.
And I'm not talking about the guys who said like
disgusting things or very clever things like I'm going to
break every cheer in the room so that you don't
have any place to sit, like one guy said to you. Now,
that is well highly inappropriate. That is that is that
is creative.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Sometimes they take a step back and I go, you know,
I'm not even mad, like I got it.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yeah, I'm I'm like, I'm not I'm not going to
enter a room and with it are no chairs.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
But like I also okay points, you know, yeah, every.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
Now and again, I think you could you could say
something like that to the right person and they might think, like,
you know, if they have a little bit of an
off sense of humor like we do, they might they
might step back and be like, okay, But but nine
times out of ten that's not going to work. Nine
times out of ten you're gonna wind up getting made
fun of. But so that's my thing is do you
want to be approached and if you do, what's actually
(05:32):
going to work?
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Of course you want them to be respectful and and
not you know, be gross and and whatever.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
But like the key to this is you want to
be approached.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
If I'm guessing you want to be approached by the
guys that you want to be approached by. And and
we as men don't know whether wh're the guy you
want to be approached by or not, so we don't
approach out of fear of all these other things. So
I guess if that's the case, if you want to
be approached by men or whatever, I think we have
to get to a place where we can kindly brush
people off as a standard in society. And then, by
(06:01):
the way, once you're kindly brushed off, you need to
step off. Yeah, you need to you need to leave,
you need you need to leave. She doesn't want to
meet you, bro. And then and then you need to leave.
You need to not respond. If it's in a DM,
you don't need to have some smart comeback because you
were rejected. You don't have to project, you don't have
to say something I don't want you anyway, which is
(06:21):
what everybody got.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
There's so much of this stuff. That's my favorite.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
The people do it's any want to go out with me? No, well,
you know you think you're hot stuff. Dude, you asked
me a question, I gave you an answer. Now you
need to walk away now. So so there's that. So
this isn't all on women. This is on men too,
because men have a tendency to act like idiots.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I'm a fan of the like for both of both
parties involved. The like don't make it feel like you're
hitting on me situations, so like, come up, talk about
something different, make a joke, point something out at the bar.
Then feel my energy if I'm engaging or if I'm like, oh,
my friend's waving across the bar. Then we can both
leave the situation either not embarrassed, or you proceed hitting
on me like I don't make me feel like you're
(07:01):
hitting on me.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Don't be like hello, ma'am. You know I'd like to
dance with you. You know, just let's let's just talk
talk about the bar. Is it crowded?
Speaker 1 (07:09):
You know?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Do I have a drink? YadA YadA?
Speaker 4 (07:12):
Okay, And so no one gets embarrassed either way, because
then you could feel if I'm like, I got to
go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
That's true, that's true.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Take a hint, like you know, is it conversation flowing
organically or are you forcing it?
Speaker 2 (07:23):
If you're forcing it, walk away, it's over. Then you're
not embarrassed, and neither am I. Kiki? How you know? Well?
What why are your eyes?
Speaker 1 (07:33):
You're technically single but engaged because you're not married, but
when you were actually actually single? Yes, how did you
want to see what I'm talking about? That's why I
rolled my eyes. I don't even know the rules anymore.
But how did you want to be approached?
Speaker 2 (07:47):
So I want you to approach me?
Speaker 6 (07:48):
And then just if I call the police on you,
that doesn't means I know I want you, and then
if I don't, it's.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
A good sign. In my experience, that's been a good sign.
Speaker 6 (07:56):
If I don't call the police, be good, you know,
like keep talking rast because I am one of those
women who I would hype me in up, like you
gotta approach women. Man, You gotta go out there in
a while. You got to shoot your shot. Man, and
then the moment you shoot your shot at me, if
you're not the man I want, I'm like, please get him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
This is kind of what I'm talking about, right because
like as a guy, like I.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Don't know, I don't know, Like you know, it's like
I don't want to wind it.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
If I walk up to the right girl at the
right time, and I'm the guys she wants to talk to,
and then I talked to her, then that's what she
wanted and that goes well. But if I'm not and
then a lot of different things could happen. And so yes,
I guess I'm a little insecure about it. But but
then but then you say, that's what you want, But
are you you know, are as a society are we
(08:48):
receiving that as well as we possibly could?
Speaker 2 (08:52):
You know what I mean? Like it's hard, it's hard
being a man, because I don't think it's hard. I know,
I don't think this one regard. This is tricky. Yeah,
the man I wouldn't know what to do. This is tricky.
It is not hard to be a man at all.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But this is a little tricky because it's like different
age demographics are looking for different things. And sometimes you
can be really forward and sometimes you can't. And then
sometimes you're not forward enough. You know, if you're may
I meet you, then that you're gonna get made fun of.
But if you're like, you know, can I can I
you know, get yeah right right, that's also that's that's
(09:29):
usually not going to go well, but sometimes it does,
depending on who you're talking to and when and where.
Speaker 4 (09:34):
I think it's the millennial girls that are like ill
walk away from Like I don't see that. Like my
friends and I like, we all like we want to
meet new people, regardless of if people have husband whatever,
you know, we want to chat. I've heard from the
younger generation because I don't think they want to talk
at all.
Speaker 2 (09:47):
They want to look at screens, like they don't want
to talk to you. They're scared of they won't call
a reservation.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
Or there's this Ashley, Hey, Ashley, Hi, So this is great.
A guy walked up to and he said, what.
Speaker 5 (10:02):
So I was working and I was working at a
bar and I saw someone order something that I liked
and I stopped next to him. I was like, oh,
you got our It was a buffalo chicken salad, and
he just looks at me stopped. He goes, I want
to wear your skin on my face, and I just
kind of stared at him, and he stared at me,
and the bartender staired and it was almost like that
(10:23):
Homer sympsome where you like back away slowly.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Yeah, And I was.
Speaker 5 (10:27):
Like backed away into the kitchen and then the bartender
kicked him out and grabbed a bouncer and he was
not allowed back at that facility.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Well, that's why we're scared.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Actually, everybody knows the mistake that was made here was it?
It's may I wear you were skinning on my face?
Speaker 2 (10:42):
That's that's now.
Speaker 1 (10:43):
If only he had been more proper about it. That
that's that was the issue. So I understand.
Speaker 5 (10:48):
And it was like the consistent eye contact after and
I'm like, I don't know what to do right now.
It was very scary. I'm kind of funny though, but
it is my uh have one. I hope no one
ever talks it.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah, yeah, anyway, how long you guys been married?
Speaker 5 (11:08):
But yeah, very married.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:10):
Didn't that work for me though?
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Okay, actually, thank you. Have a good day here too.
That's crazy. Uh, Stephanie, how are you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 5 (11:20):
Hi? Good morning.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
This is an example of a guy objectifying you and
it worked.
Speaker 5 (11:26):
Yeah, we're engaged down.
Speaker 3 (11:30):
Do you?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
But what did he say?
Speaker 3 (11:33):
Well?
Speaker 5 (11:34):
I mean I just literally walked past him, told him
he had nice chances to the legs, and just left.
And then the next time that I saw him at
the store, I looked at him. I was like, so
did you go home and look at your legs? And
she was like, I mean kind of wait a minute.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So you you objectified him?
Speaker 6 (11:54):
I shared it.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Does he shave? Why are so smooth? Yeah? He has
hairless legs. He used to be like an MMA fighter,
so he really didn't have okay, a kind of.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
Like the hair on his legs from grampling and stuff.
So but they were really ten, they were really smooth,
and I was like, shoot, you shot, let's.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Go okay now. Now, honestly, if he now this is
a guy that you're with. But like, if he had
said something about your legs, how would that have gone over?
Speaker 4 (12:25):
Well, that would have.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
Been really weird because I didn't have any like shorts
or anything on, so by I had chance to good
legs at that point in time. I mean, how would
you know?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
Okay, but nine times out of ten, that's not gonna work, right, Like,
we accept that? Correct?
Speaker 2 (12:36):
Okay, correct?
Speaker 1 (12:37):
So this is a perfect example of it worked for you, guys,
but you got it. And if you're gonna if you're
gonna make that up, if you're going to say something
like that, then I think you have to know in
your mind nine times out of ten you're gonna get rejected.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
But maybe one time it will work. But I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Like it worked for her, it did work for you,
I guess, yeah, you're good for you, Stephanie. All right,
have a good day, Nags. Hey, Destiny, Yeah, Destiny. What happened?
This is a pickup line? First of all, did it
work or it did not work? Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:08):
It worked enough for a first date?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Okay? What happened?
Speaker 3 (13:12):
I was dancing in the middle of a bar and
someone randomly comes up to me shows me his phone.
I don't know if you know the game Trivia Crack.
Speaker 2 (13:19):
It's just.
Speaker 3 (13:21):
A game that asked questions, and he's like, hey, you
look smart, can you answer this question for me? So
we ended up playing Trivia Crack in the middle of
the bar. It turns out he ends up getting my
number and then went on a first date and he
ended up telling me, He's like, just to let you
know I seen you, and like, I had no other
way of thinking about talking to you. So I downloaded
the app and I went up to you and we
ended up playing.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
That's cute, okay, but only one day.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
It didn't get I mean, it didn't get any farther,
but it caught my attention, and I thought the confidence
was it was cute.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Okay, fair enough, all right, thank you, Jessiny, have a
good day.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
You're welcome you too.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I think we also need to get past the thing
where we're we're I mentioned I alluded to this earlier.
I mentioned it, but like we're proud of rejecting people too,
like or more proud of dating fails. Like again, if
a guy is gross or predatory or dangerous, or a
cheater or stealing from you, then let's expose those people, right,
(14:18):
like we always should have.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
But like the thing where we go on a.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
Date and we both took risk in going on the
date and the date didn't go the way we wanted
it to, Like that's how that's dating. And I think
it's even more risky when you're on dating apps because
because again the days of the only option that we
had was to talk to each other and then gauge
the vibe and the chemistry before we went out.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
That's over.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
So now the first time I'm getting any vibe from
you whatsoever, really in person is when I first meet you,
and maybe it goes well and maybe it doesn't. But again,
I mean it's not just in this era where you
go on a date with someone and they may not
call you for a second date.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Yeah, you know what I mean, Like this is nothing new.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
The only thing that's different now is that you can
go blast those people publicly and and get mad at them.
But again, like it's since the dawn of time, like
men have been rejected, women have not gotten second dates.
Men have not gotten and gotten second dates. Like it
is what it is, right, So so short of you
being a terrible person who's actually like a like because
(15:19):
what happens then is like maybe that person wasn't for you,
but they're for the next person. But now the next
person's I'm interested because they heard about some perspective from.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
An anonymous other, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
It's like, yeah, I think technology all around is screwing
this up, the dating apps, the message boards, all the
rest of the stuff, cause it's like, look, maybe maybe
you maybe I could meet two people at the same
time on the same day and you're not for me,
but the other one is, and it is what it is,
and the same goes for you. Like when I go
on dates with people from dating apps, I assume they're
talking to five other people.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
That's the game.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
And so that if I don't get a second date,
I can be disappointed, but like or if they goes
to me, I can be disappointed.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
But I think it kind of comes with the territory,
right I think so too.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Yeah, anyway, mag go out with you.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
You got a thousand dollars, Okay, so that's that's it.
I got a thousand dollars
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