Radio Blogs: Paulina's Moms Rules and Fred's Epiphany

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better than they say.

Speaker 2 (00:02):
Tell me.

Speaker 1 (00:03):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. Okay,
like we're writing an hour diaries, except we say I'm aloud.
We call them blogs. Uh, Paulina, Yes you got one.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
Go, Thank you so much, dear blog.

Speaker 3 (00:14):
So today is Grandma Bopcha day at the old Casa.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
She is watching baby Gig.

Speaker 3 (00:22):
She does that about a couple times a week because
of my work schedule and then hobbies of firemen, so
his work schedule.

Speaker 2 (00:28):
She arrives very early. She has told me many of times.

Speaker 3 (00:30):
I don't know how you'll do it, because this is
very hard to wake up this early. She wanted to
throw up the other day. That's how early she was up.
Not a fan, right, but that's okrim. So she arrives
and once she enters the house though that is no
longer my home.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
That is Grandma's. It's her way or no way, right,
Everything gets done.

Speaker 1 (00:49):
Her way everything, and you don't bother pushing back. I don't.
For a couple of reasons. You're smart. Oh that's smart,
thank you.

Speaker 3 (00:56):
I like to think that it is just because to me,
I would rather I pick and choose my battles.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
Right.

Speaker 3 (01:01):
So if Grandma wants to do something like this is songs.
It's not like some crazy out there thing. I'm not
gonna challenge her, like do your thing. You're gonna put
socks on her, you want to put her in a
longer onesie, you want to do the goal ahead? Do
you want to feed her five ounces? Like? I'm not
gonna fight it. I also get free babysitting from grandma,
which I think is the best babysity you can get
in my opinion, because she gets to be with her
grandmother and I don't have to pay for it, which

(01:22):
is a win win in this economy.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
So I prefer that.

Speaker 3 (01:26):
But what she loves to do is I noticed is
that she gets there and I have two monitors right
one's on the crib and then one is kind of
like a floating one.

Speaker 2 (01:33):
I take it with me.

Speaker 3 (01:34):
If she's the baby's napping downstairs, monitor calms you know.
So I'm like moving around the house and the monitor
is in my bed because I leave her in my
bed when I leave with Hobby, and she got her
own little space. That's all safe. Trust me, I've looked
into it. And my mom goes upstairs and the first
thing she does. She takes the camera and she flips it.

Speaker 1 (01:51):
Because these monitors are not just audio, their.

Speaker 3 (01:53):
Video and video audio, I can hear and see everything.
She flips it at the wall the first thing she does.
Doesn't say anything to me because I'll look and I'm
looking at, you know, my dresser or something all of
a sudden, like the baby's gone. It's just I'm looking
at a wall, the dresser, and I want to say
something to be like my you could leave it on.

Speaker 1 (02:10):
You know.

Speaker 2 (02:10):
I'm not going to like stock you guys.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
I just like to see her sometimes when I'm at work,
But that's not gonna fly over. And I don't want
to fight about it today. But she loves to come
in and just do her own thing.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
You sound like my mom. Yeah, but you don't. My
sister fights it. Don't fight it, just let her do it.
The baby's not in any form of danger.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
Wait, she's fine.

Speaker 1 (02:29):
She's done this before twice. You were one of them.
I was, and she doesn't want to be watched. Well,
in your sister's defense, I do think she would agree
with this. There are things that I seemed very different,
like our parents used to do for us, that we
no longer do, and that it's many of things, so
I can see why maybe like if your mom or
my mom comes in right and they want to do
it their way, it might not be the safest or

(02:51):
it might not.

Speaker 2 (02:51):
Be the new way to do things.

Speaker 3 (02:55):
But I'm curious though, like, how does that go over
when your sister tells your mom, not well, the camera around,
don't do this, not well, do well?

Speaker 1 (03:03):
No no no. But I mean between those two, I
don't get involved. But at the same time, I'm convinced
that my mom that no one's in danger when my
mom is watching these kids, she just might have a
different approach. Well, my mom doesn't do and I'm not
being critical because I don't have kids. I don't know
what the hell I'm talking about. But what I will
say is what my mom doesn't do is if there's

(03:25):
a coup or a car or a noise or anything,
she doesn't go screaming across the room to attend to it.
Like she'll wait and see if it plays itself out.
And I will say, and I don't know if it's
just because it's easier or whatever. And again I'm not
a parent, I don't know, but my sister and my
brother in law are very quick to make the problem
go away immediately, you know what I mean, And as

(03:46):
opposed to like, maybe there'll be times when my mom
is like, you know, the baby's taking a nap in
the crib or whatever. It's like, let the baby cry
for a minute and see if she goes back to
sleep on her own. And again, I don't know that
my sister doesn't do this. I don't know how she.
I don't know, but I do know that, like when
I go to dinner with them and my mom's at
home watching the kid, they just sit there on their
phones at the table, just staring at the camera. And
if there's any disturbance of any kind and my mom

(04:09):
is not right there, man is on the phone, what
are you doing? The baby's crying, what are you doing?
My Mom's like, I'm outside the room. I'm just waiting
for it to stop, right. It's just I think it's
just a difference in style. You know, my sister wants
the problem to stop. My mom wants the problem to
fix itself. Because I think that's how it was when
we were young and she was a young mom. It

(04:30):
was like sometimes sometimes you let him cry it out
a little bit, you know, or that kind of thing,
which is not a safety thing. It's sort of more
of an approach one hundred percent.

Speaker 3 (04:39):
And I think to they say not to even immediately
run on the baby because they can still be in
active sleep, so you're not even supposed to technically do that.
It's a lot of rules to this whole parenting thing,
by the way, So you're not wrong, and Aman is
not wrong either.

Speaker 2 (04:50):
Is your mom right?

Speaker 4 (04:51):
No?

Speaker 1 (04:51):
And I don't think either one of them are wrong.
It's just a difference of opinions. Wake windows and this
and that, and you know what, the kids will My
mom is like, you'll eat what's in front of you,
and my sister's like, she won't eat that. And my
mom's like, well, she won't eat that because you don't
make her eat that, because you'll you'll go get her
whatever she wants, and so she's never gonna eat anything else.

Speaker 2 (05:10):
It's just it's just different, different parenting styles. It's hard.
I get it, and.

Speaker 3 (05:14):
When I get to that age, I might be saying
the same thing. I don't know, whatever's easier.

Speaker 1 (05:18):
I'm certain that when Gigi has kids and you're you're
the Bobska, Yeah, I have a feeling that you'll look
at how she does it and go, no, that's not
the that's.

Speaker 2 (05:28):
Not how you.

Speaker 3 (05:30):
So yeah, and then to learn have all sets of
rules and babies and space and all these things.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
Yeah, it's just a.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
Very different approach. And again those two go at it.
I don't want anything to do with it, but she did.
My mom does the same thing. She's like, turn the
camera around. I don't need to be watched, Like this
isn't in insane, it's kind of an insane asylum. But
that's the thing. My mom just she like takes away
the ability for them to do this, and then they
get mad about that, like why can't we gotta be
on stair at her? No, you don't, like I'm here,

(05:56):
You'll be fine. Go enjoy your dinner. You know. I
enjoy be present because that was the purpose of all this.

Speaker 2 (06:03):
I know, I know. But the anxiety, though, like right
now I.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
Have And that's the thing is, I can't. I don't
know what that's like. Yeah, to be a mom or
a dad and leave and have So I'm saying to
you that while I see my mom's side of things,
and I see that it differs from my sisters I
don't hell if I know the right way to do it.

Speaker 3 (06:20):
Same just doing the best we can.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Yeah, O, dear blog. We had a hey, a bit
of an epiphany, you know. We went on our trip
vacation a couple of weeks ago, a little I don't
know if it was a vacation or if it was
more of a outing team building. I don't know. We
can call it whatever you want, summit, whatever it was

(06:45):
to Madi on Incarnable Dal beautiful place. We stayed in
a very nice hotel Casino. I did not book the room,
and so when I arrived to the room, I noticed
there were two beds and not one bet And that's
normally a major sticking point for me. I'm six foot five,
I have them two hundred and forty pounds, and I
have a king sized bed at home, and if I'm
staying in a hotel, I want a king size bed too.

(07:06):
I don't want to I don't want a queen bed.
Normally it's like two queens, right, sometimes even smaller than that.
In this case, it was two queens. And so I
look at it and I'm like, am I gonna go complain?
Or am I just gonna live with this? Because I'm
not gonna be in the room that much, and I
decided to live with him.

Speaker 2 (07:20):
Don't you only sleep on a corner of your bed?

Speaker 1 (07:22):
I do? I do, but I want? I mean, who
wants a smaller bed when you're I'm alone, right, it's
just me? Or if you're in a couple, Like if
I had been in it, if somebody had been with me,
then I'm down there getting a king sized bed. Really,
two people are not sleeping in my size or you know, no,
I take up the entire queen size bed and my
feet go off the end. So there's really no way

(07:45):
two people are getting in that thing. But just for me,
I'm like, you know, I'm not going to complain about this,
And then I realize something. It's kind of nice to
have an other bed. Yes, you can put stuff on it.
You can eat like I eat in bed in a hotel.

Speaker 2 (07:59):
But no, not at home.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
But like if I had a little snackies or something,
then I have an eating bed, and then I have
a sleeping bed and there's no cross contamination. If I
had been with someone else, we could have had a
sex bed and a sleeping bed. I could have slept
in a different bed each night. I had a fresh
bed each night because they didn't come in and they
didn't they didn't have like major or whatever coming and
cleaning every night. So like one bed was pristine, I

(08:23):
slept in the other one. I could have slept in
one and had the messy one. You know, you could
lay your outfits out. There was a lot. There was
a lot to like about the two bed situation. And
I'm I'm I'm not saying I'm gonna ask for it,
to request it, but in the future, if it happens,
I can live with it. I think it's nice.

Speaker 4 (08:42):
I wasn't mad at it. You had it too, Oh yeah,
I had it too. And what I did was like
some nights we would get a little turnt. So I
fell asleep in all my clothes one night, like everything.

Speaker 2 (08:52):
Weeks still long, makeup on. Were you that turned it?
Don't say much for me.

Speaker 1 (08:56):
It's funny because I was gonna say like it was
a little tough. I didn't really, Oh my god, I
couldn't really challenge.

Speaker 4 (09:02):
And then I walking around casino like, ladies.

Speaker 1 (09:05):
You I can can and I can tell, but I don't.
I don't remember thinking maybe I just didn't see you
in that state, but like it came later.

Speaker 3 (09:10):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (09:11):
Yeah, So I just slept in all my clothes and
then I woke up at like three in the morning
confused about where I was, and then I was like, oh, okay,
let me get in the shower, and then I got
in the new bed.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
So it was because you got like the clean bed,
the showered bed, and then you got like the posts
bent out, the you know, casino bed or whatever.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:29):
So anyway, not a bad idea. I'm not saying if
you're by yourself, and I would, I might if you
walk into a room and it's too bad, you're like,
I don't want this, I might just take a second
and think of the positives because there are a lot
there and I have a new outlook on it.

Speaker 2 (09:43):
Yeah it's good, yeah, good, okay.

Speaker 1 (09:46):
Good sleeping, bed eating, bad sex bed sleeping. I mean,
come on, I'm here to help. That's a PSA right now.
If I've been with somebody else, then we're putting those
beds together because I need a little more room for business,
you know what I'm saying.