October 3, 2023 • 15 mins
Zack has been happy with his girlfriend for a long time, and they've even talked about marriage. But his girlfriend is apart of a facebook group called Are We Dating The Same Guy? To find out if he was cheating on her, which made Zack uncomfortable, should he Stay or Go?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Fred Show is on. It's stay or go.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Zach.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
It's here, Hi Zach. How you doing Jack? Great talk?
I'm doing good? Yeah, okay, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Hi Zach. Yeah, welcome. Frendshi Radio dot com, French Shier
Radio on Instagram. You can always find us there. What's
going on with your girlfriend? Let's see if we can
get to the bottom and as solve all of your
life problems right now.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
So okay, like okay, I'm me and my girl.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
We've been together for a really long time and our
relationships been really happy and it's the healthiest one we've had.
I mean, she and I we've even been talking about marriage.
So it's going like you know, it's going that well.
But I really need you guys's opinion on something I
can't really tell if I'm if I'm if I'm acting crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
You know, we come to the right place because if
anyone would know if you're acting crazy, it's me.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
So let's hear it.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
So recently I found out that my girlfriend put me
on this page that's called something like are we.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Dating the same guy? Because there's one?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Yeah, So I guess you know, I was trying to
figure out what it is.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's like a it's a page where women will post.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Somebody if they think their man's cheating I guess, or
has like a family or something that they're not telling
them about.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
And the post that she posted me up.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
On there, which you know, I was kind of really
bothered by. I mean, the post that she had of
me up wasn't really bad. She didn't, like, you know,
she didn't say anything bad about me, and she did
put that we're like discussing getting married. She just wants
to know if anyone had any key on me.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, so she was so she has no reason to
suspect that you've done anything. You haven't done anything. But
she just decides, let me post this guy, I've been
with him for a long time, let me post his
picture on this message board that's intended for cheaters and
and you know, essentially people who mistreat people. That was
the that's the purpose. I've seen this thing before. That's
the purpose of it. It's become a little gossipy, but
(02:26):
the purpose of it was like, hey this guy stole
from me, or hey this guy's a criminal, or hey
this guy's married, or hey this guy you know has
another girlfriend or whatever. I think it's kind of become like,
here's a picture of a guy that I have never
met on bumble, what do we think of him? Which
is I think it's completely unfair. And that's how I
got up there, by the way, posted a picture of
(02:47):
me on that thing, and it was like, tell us
about this guy, and then it just became this whole
threat about people whose names I've never seen before, saying
like you know this and that. Yeah, so that's what
it's become is a little gossipy.
Speaker 5 (02:57):
Yeah, I'm in one of them. And this is kind
of common too, like I'm about to commit, I'm about
to make you know, we're about to be boyfriend girlfriend
or get married or get engaged. I just want to
check if anyone out there is either seeing him, dating
him or whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So that's that's fairly common.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
But here's the thing, though, short of him being a
felon or a serial cheater, what possibly could come from
that that's positive?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Well, I've seen some woman go I'm banging him too,
That's what I said, though, Like it's short of that,
short of being a cheater.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
Or people don't comment typically on things other than that.
You get taken down if you do that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
But any but what.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Anybody could say anything, you know what I mean, Like
somebody could go on there and say, oh, yeah, five
years ago this happened or whatever, and then that shakes
up the whole relation. I guess it's like, why are
we not letting sleeping dogs lot? Like I guess I
don't know what's positive from them.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
You have to come with receipts too, like people move
like to private messaging, and.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Then it's a whole thing. I just don't I don't
see the problem.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I don't see the purpose because he's not cheating, and
unless she doesn't trust you or has no reason, maybe
she does, she have any reason to leave, Like in
her mind, does she think that you're cheating? I just
think she's looking for something that she may find, but
that isn't relevant to this scenario. What if somebody What
if somebody says something from five years ago and they've
(04:12):
been together for four And I'm not talking about he's
a child molester or he's a cheater or he's a thief.
I mean like, oh, I went on a day with him,
and you know I didn't.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Like it would change your opinion. I don't know what
I mean, But.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
What do you do it on there, then you know,
I think you're looking for It's like when people go
through people's phones, like you're gonna if you're looking for something,
you'll find something.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
If he's banging someone else, I want to know what actively,
But like what do we do that?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I mean, like, do married people just go around constantly asking, hey,
evaluating publicly whether their husband's banging someone else? Or do
you just go by their behavior and trust them. What
I'm saying is, I think there's something else going on here,
there's some other level of insecurity, because I would be
I would be really upset Zach, Like, can you imagine
if you've been.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
With just thirteen years, almost sixteen years?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Can you imagine if she just one day, for no reason,
just said I'm just gonna check up on my boy.
Just he's not doing anything, he's not hurting anybody, he's
not hurting me. I have no reason to believe he's cheating.
But yeah, let me just let me just throw him
up there so the whole world can see that. I
need validation, right, and anybody could say anything at that point,
(05:22):
and then now all of a sudden I have to
defend it to my wife or my serious girlfriend, And
I mean, what if they did it to you? What
if what a big tim did that to you? And
then somebody from the past comes out and was like, oh,
well she did you know? His against your story And
now all of a sudden you're having an argument about
something that was completely irrelevant.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
Well, you know, fred, I call this just a simple
quality control check.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yes, and you.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
Gotta do it every every so often, just a quality
control check, just to make sure all the temperatures are
right in the relationship. Everything is going called pathetic. So
I don't think there's anything wrong with this. If Zach
didn't have anything to hide, then Zach should not.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Have air, y'all.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
That's it.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
It's giving this I got something going on, or had
something going on.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
That he doesn't want her to know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I could make the I just made the opposite argument, kick.
The opposite argument is that maybe he's doing nothing right.
Speaker 8 (06:08):
That's fine, and then nothing will be So what's the
point of the get alone to check if this man
is being faithful to his girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
He's not doing it.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
We don't know he's faithful, but he has the right
now to be pissed when he didn't before.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
You know what I mean? Like, like her putting that
up there for no reason.
Speaker 6 (06:24):
There's a reason.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
But is there always Okay, all.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Right, well maybe there is, but if there's not, and
he's saying there's not very publicly he's saying that there's not.
Right now, all of a sudden, he's pissed because he's like,
wait a minute, you don't act you don't trust me.
I didn't know that, and this is how we're gonna
find that out.
Speaker 6 (06:40):
It doesn't mean she doesn't trust him, It just is
they're getting ready to move to the next level of
the relationship. He said, they're talking about marriage, You're discussing
these things. So what she's doing is just a simple
background check on the internet, so to make sure that
he everything he has presented ads up and in today's
climbing Baby, you gotta do it.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
That's why you ask the person that you're with. You
ask your Man's like, hey.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
That's like me asking you did you still have my wallet?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
You sole out my wallet? So why would I ask you?
Why would I ask Jason? So what's the public going
to do? They're gonna know that I saw you, Walt.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Well, that's another thing is there's a difference between doing
a Google search and going and going on this thing,
which again I think is a little bit I think
it was intended to be a public service, but it's
become a little bit gossipy either way. His friends, her
friends stand to see this and then be like, trouble
in paradise. Maybe there's not, Zach, what did you want
(07:32):
to say?
Speaker 9 (07:34):
So the thing is like when she put the thing
up of me, no one had anything bad to say
because I haven't done anything, like I've been completely fateful
to her, and this isn't one.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Of those like I hope I don't get caught.
Speaker 9 (07:49):
It's like like we're talking, it's really the principle of it,
Like we've been together for a long time. I've done
nothing but be one hundred percent faithful to you and
act like it and respect you.
Speaker 10 (08:04):
And then and this is what I get that right,
Like I get I get I get you being sneaky,
like I get you still not trusting me and like
looking looking stuff up like behind my back, Like.
Speaker 9 (08:16):
If I can be I feel like this is really
gonna make people mad. I'm gonna really feel like it's
gonna make people mad. But if I can It's almost
like when when you find out that your girl's pregnant,
and then when she.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Has the baby, you want to do a DNA test.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Oh my god, for my reason, for no reason. What's
it like? I just I just want to be How
offended would you be? I would be so offensed? Super yes.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
And I know that's that's a drastic it is example,
but it's an it's an unnecessary check on your relationship
that's very public. And according to him, it doesn't come
from any place of necessity. It comes from an insecurity,
which means that she has a trust issue somebody. And
by the way, let me take some phone calls on
this sec and I appreciate you sharing the story. I
have a great day, stay cased. Okay, thanks Zach, great suck.
(09:04):
I need five three five. Somebody said Fredgie's maacause I
call that. On the side, I'm not mad because I'm
a single man. I've been single for twenty years. I'm
on dating apps. I'm also a public figure. People are
going to say what they're gonna say. And it wouldn't
matter if if I work somewhere else, nobody would say
anything because nobody would care. And the other thing is
(09:24):
just because you say it doesn't mean it's true. But
the problem is I'm a single guy, so I have
nothing to hide, you know what I mean. Like if
I were married and I show up on that site,
we got ourselves a little problem.
Speaker 10 (09:34):
Oh yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
If I'm in a relationship, I show up on that site,
we got ourselves a problem. But that's another thing, is
somebody can just post a picture of me today, maybe
I've been in a relationship for a year. Somebody can
bring something up from five years ago. Oh he went
on one day with me. Oh he asked me for
a nude. Oh he did this that everybody does. And
now all of a sudden, I'm fighting with my new
significant other about stuff that was on earth that had
(09:55):
nothing to do with that person.
Speaker 6 (09:57):
You shouldn't fight about something from five years ago. But
you got to think of it like TSA. You know
what I'm saying, Like we all go through TSA. It's
just it's just a check you get. You don't have
anything you walk through just fine. If you got some
you get in search. It's the difference, you know, Like
you just gotta go through checks in life. And I
don't think if there's anything that you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Be worried of it.
Speaker 10 (10:16):
So you'd be okay if he put her picture up
on whatever website, does she's cheating on him?
Speaker 6 (10:21):
Yes, I would be fine with that, and you'd be okay.
If Big Tim put your picture up, Yes, it would
literally be crickets.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Somebody put anything I but.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You're opening He's opening you up to exposure that is unnecessary.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Anybody can say anything that's true.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
People say nice stuff in the group all the time,
though I have to say, like he's great when on
one date I work with him, he's awesome.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
So it's not all bad stuff. Yeah, people said I
was good at radio, which is nice. I love that.
I didn't say anything bad.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
There wasn't anything. Somebody said I asked for a nude.
I don't know who that person was. Someone else did
I ask for a nude?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
I think a lot. It's nice to ask.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That was sent to me on solic I mean I
don't know to right, you know what I mean? Like,
I don't erase anything. I just thought it was like weird.
I was like, uh, I don't see where the nefarious
behavior is here. But thanks for the pr Yeah, I
really appreciate it. Though, Again, I hard a search for
the Friend Show. That is what I should have put
in there. Yeah, I mean we're growing ups here. So hey, Ryan, Ryan,
(11:23):
what do you think stare go by the way, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I think basically, I think like a background check is
for people that you don't know, and then you're trying
to figure out what type of responsibility to trust to
give them based on the background check. But if she
already knows them, that's kind of weird. But maybe he's.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
In the red flag and like figured out.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
If she has a tendency of snooking too much and
if that's a problem by asking people that know her,
as you said, to like getting it from strange random
strangers on the internet.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I agree with you, brother. I don't think it's so
much that she posted. I think it's her purpose for
doing it. I'm not as offended that she did it.
I want to know why, especially if he's telling the
truth and there's no reason to be suspicious and she's
never brought anything up. It makes me think she doesn't
trust him. Why doesn't she trust him and why aren't
they addressing that? Or is she looking for a way out?
(12:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Is she in some ways?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Is she subconsciously or even consciously hoping that somebody digs
up some dirt on this guy so she can get
out that way.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
It's it's the reason why she's doing it that bothers me,
not the fact that she did it. Thank you, Ryan,
have a good day. I am passionate about this. This
is passionate, Bianca. Hi, Bianca, Hi, Hey, what do you think?
Good morning?
Speaker 10 (12:44):
Good Monny.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
I think he should go.
Speaker 8 (12:47):
I think it's so weird, and I agree with you, Frett, like,
I don't think I don't think that's right.
Speaker 11 (12:52):
If there's nothing that she needs to worry about, why
checked they should.
Speaker 10 (12:56):
Be communicating and if she's in secure, she needs to
talk to him about that, Yeah, and not just put
it online.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Yeah, I think we're on the same page. Thank you, Bianca.
Have a great day.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Hi, Susan, Welcome, good morning, good morning. Hey. What do
you think I think that they should stay?
Speaker 8 (13:17):
I think his name is Zach.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I believe that.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
I think that Kiki said it right, you know, like
she's got to check her boxes and do what's right
by herself, even if she's totally secure within their relationship.
You have to do what's right for you and you know,
not all men, right, but then there's that you know,
small percentage, so she has to just make sure as
best as she can.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, okay, fair enough, Thank you, Susan, thank you. I
just I just I'll say the same thing again. I
just contend that if I found out that somebody was
doing those kind of checks on me and I wasn't
doing anything and we'd never talked about it, and there
was no necessarily no reason for suspicion, then I just think, well,
wait a minute, what else, Like what else is going
on in your head?
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Like what else do you think? Think you know? I?
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I mean, like, would you do this? You're about to
get married Paulina in four days? Five days? Would you would?
I mean, can you see a reason just to just
one more double check? Let me just throw my man's
image up there and see what happens.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Make double check. I agree with it.
Speaker 11 (14:16):
I feel like it's just I don't if it's a
girl thing or we just want to make sure that
we're like in a good you know, a good space here.
But I don't want to get my feelings hurt, So
I don't do stuff like that. And like I don't
know the streets also a good one, So let's just
let's just keep it at that.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, okay, hey Veronica, Oh good morning guys. Hi Veronica,
So you're in one of these groups. I know there
is one main one and I think a bunch of others.
But what's your take?
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Oh? My take is that well with the groups that
I'm in, because I'm in probably about like twenty eight
of them. Point oh okay, yeah, okay, girl. So so
what we do is, like one of the young ladies
she had made a post about her ex and come
to find out what a lot of these gentlemen do.
They end up typically changing their names so something and
(15:00):
totally different. So when you try to like look them
up years down the road, it's a totally different name.
So now you got to go through the course and
try to figure out what they change it to. And
like a lot of them are like sexual offenders or
abusers or like cheers, so they don't want their information
getting out of there. So, like I tell the young ladies,
if you do find somebody, try to do like a
(15:20):
deeper background check off.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Mmmmmm okay, all right, well, thank you, Veronica, have a
good day.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, what it was John says.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Go uh, Daphne, a lot of stays, a lot of stays.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
But Paulleena, don't get any ideas. Okay, I'm already on
it right now. You see, we're going to know it's happening.
The Fred Show is on. It's stay or go.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Zach.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
It's here, Hi Zach. How you doing Jack? Great talk?
I'm doing good? Yeah, okay, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
Hi Zach. Yeah, welcome. Frendshi Radio dot com, French Shier
Radio on Instagram. You can always find us there. What's
going on with your girlfriend? Let's see if we can
get to the bottom and as solve all of your
life problems right now.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
So okay, like okay, I'm me and my girl.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
We've been together for a really long time and our
relationships been really happy and it's the healthiest one we've had.
I mean, she and I we've even been talking about marriage.
So it's going like you know, it's going that well.
But I really need you guys's opinion on something I
can't really tell if I'm if I'm if I'm acting crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
You know, we come to the right place because if
anyone would know if you're acting crazy, it's me.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
So let's hear it.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
So recently I found out that my girlfriend put me
on this page that's called something like are we.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Dating the same guy? Because there's one?
Speaker 4 (01:19):
Yeah, So I guess you know, I was trying to
figure out what it is.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
It's like a it's a page where women will post.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Somebody if they think their man's cheating I guess, or
has like a family or something that they're not telling
them about.
Speaker 3 (01:38):
And the post that she posted me up.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
On there, which you know, I was kind of really
bothered by. I mean, the post that she had of
me up wasn't really bad. She didn't, like, you know,
she didn't say anything bad about me, and she did
put that we're like discussing getting married. She just wants
to know if anyone had any key on me.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Okay, so she was so she has no reason to
suspect that you've done anything. You haven't done anything. But
she just decides, let me post this guy, I've been
with him for a long time, let me post his
picture on this message board that's intended for cheaters and
and you know, essentially people who mistreat people. That was
the that's the purpose. I've seen this thing before. That's
the purpose of it. It's become a little gossipy, but
(02:26):
the purpose of it was like, hey this guy stole
from me, or hey this guy's a criminal, or hey
this guy's married, or hey this guy you know has
another girlfriend or whatever. I think it's kind of become like,
here's a picture of a guy that I have never
met on bumble, what do we think of him? Which
is I think it's completely unfair. And that's how I
got up there, by the way, posted a picture of
(02:47):
me on that thing, and it was like, tell us
about this guy, and then it just became this whole
threat about people whose names I've never seen before, saying
like you know this and that. Yeah, so that's what
it's become is a little gossipy.
Speaker 5 (02:57):
Yeah, I'm in one of them. And this is kind
of common too, like I'm about to commit, I'm about
to make you know, we're about to be boyfriend girlfriend
or get married or get engaged. I just want to
check if anyone out there is either seeing him, dating
him or whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
So that's that's fairly common.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
But here's the thing, though, short of him being a
felon or a serial cheater, what possibly could come from
that that's positive?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
Well, I've seen some woman go I'm banging him too,
That's what I said, though, Like it's short of that,
short of being a cheater.
Speaker 5 (03:25):
Or people don't comment typically on things other than that.
You get taken down if you do that.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
But any but what.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Anybody could say anything, you know what I mean, Like
somebody could go on there and say, oh, yeah, five
years ago this happened or whatever, and then that shakes
up the whole relation. I guess it's like, why are
we not letting sleeping dogs lot? Like I guess I
don't know what's positive from them.
Speaker 5 (03:45):
You have to come with receipts too, like people move
like to private messaging, and.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Then it's a whole thing. I just don't I don't
see the problem.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I don't see the purpose because he's not cheating, and
unless she doesn't trust you or has no reason, maybe
she does, she have any reason to leave, Like in
her mind, does she think that you're cheating? I just
think she's looking for something that she may find, but
that isn't relevant to this scenario. What if somebody What
if somebody says something from five years ago and they've
(04:12):
been together for four And I'm not talking about he's
a child molester or he's a cheater or he's a thief.
I mean like, oh, I went on a day with him,
and you know I didn't.
Speaker 1 (04:22):
Like it would change your opinion. I don't know what
I mean, But.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
What do you do it on there, then you know,
I think you're looking for It's like when people go
through people's phones, like you're gonna if you're looking for something,
you'll find something.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
If he's banging someone else, I want to know what actively,
But like what do we do that?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I mean, like, do married people just go around constantly asking, hey,
evaluating publicly whether their husband's banging someone else? Or do
you just go by their behavior and trust them. What
I'm saying is, I think there's something else going on here,
there's some other level of insecurity, because I would be
I would be really upset Zach, Like, can you imagine
if you've been.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
With just thirteen years, almost sixteen years?
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Can you imagine if she just one day, for no reason,
just said I'm just gonna check up on my boy.
Just he's not doing anything, he's not hurting anybody, he's
not hurting me. I have no reason to believe he's cheating.
But yeah, let me just let me just throw him
up there so the whole world can see that. I
need validation, right, and anybody could say anything at that point,
(05:22):
and then now all of a sudden I have to
defend it to my wife or my serious girlfriend, And
I mean, what if they did it to you? What
if what a big tim did that to you? And
then somebody from the past comes out and was like, oh,
well she did you know? His against your story And
now all of a sudden you're having an argument about
something that was completely irrelevant.
Speaker 6 (05:40):
Well, you know, fred, I call this just a simple
quality control check.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Yes, and you.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
Gotta do it every every so often, just a quality
control check, just to make sure all the temperatures are
right in the relationship. Everything is going called pathetic. So
I don't think there's anything wrong with this. If Zach
didn't have anything to hide, then Zach should not.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Have air, y'all.
Speaker 7 (05:58):
That's it.
Speaker 6 (05:58):
It's giving this I got something going on, or had
something going on.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
That he doesn't want her to know.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
I could make the I just made the opposite argument, kick.
The opposite argument is that maybe he's doing nothing right.
Speaker 8 (06:08):
That's fine, and then nothing will be So what's the
point of the get alone to check if this man
is being faithful to his girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
He's not doing it.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
We don't know he's faithful, but he has the right
now to be pissed when he didn't before.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
You know what I mean? Like, like her putting that
up there for no reason.
Speaker 6 (06:24):
There's a reason.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
But is there always Okay, all.
Speaker 2 (06:26):
Right, well maybe there is, but if there's not, and
he's saying there's not very publicly he's saying that there's not.
Right now, all of a sudden, he's pissed because he's like,
wait a minute, you don't act you don't trust me.
I didn't know that, and this is how we're gonna
find that out.
Speaker 6 (06:40):
It doesn't mean she doesn't trust him, It just is
they're getting ready to move to the next level of
the relationship. He said, they're talking about marriage, You're discussing
these things. So what she's doing is just a simple
background check on the internet, so to make sure that
he everything he has presented ads up and in today's
climbing Baby, you gotta do it.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
That's why you ask the person that you're with. You
ask your Man's like, hey.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
That's like me asking you did you still have my wallet?
Speaker 1 (07:03):
You sole out my wallet? So why would I ask you?
Why would I ask Jason? So what's the public going
to do? They're gonna know that I saw you, Walt.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
Well, that's another thing is there's a difference between doing
a Google search and going and going on this thing,
which again I think is a little bit I think
it was intended to be a public service, but it's
become a little bit gossipy either way. His friends, her
friends stand to see this and then be like, trouble
in paradise. Maybe there's not, Zach, what did you want
(07:32):
to say?
Speaker 9 (07:34):
So the thing is like when she put the thing
up of me, no one had anything bad to say
because I haven't done anything, like I've been completely fateful
to her, and this isn't one.
Speaker 1 (07:47):
Of those like I hope I don't get caught.
Speaker 9 (07:49):
It's like like we're talking, it's really the principle of it,
Like we've been together for a long time. I've done
nothing but be one hundred percent faithful to you and
act like it and respect you.
Speaker 10 (08:04):
And then and this is what I get that right,
Like I get I get I get you being sneaky,
like I get you still not trusting me and like
looking looking stuff up like behind my back, Like.
Speaker 9 (08:16):
If I can be I feel like this is really
gonna make people mad. I'm gonna really feel like it's
gonna make people mad. But if I can It's almost
like when when you find out that your girl's pregnant,
and then when she.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
Has the baby, you want to do a DNA test.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Oh my god, for my reason, for no reason. What's
it like? I just I just want to be How
offended would you be? I would be so offensed? Super yes.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
And I know that's that's a drastic it is example,
but it's an it's an unnecessary check on your relationship
that's very public. And according to him, it doesn't come
from any place of necessity. It comes from an insecurity,
which means that she has a trust issue somebody. And
by the way, let me take some phone calls on
this sec and I appreciate you sharing the story. I
have a great day, stay cased. Okay, thanks Zach, great suck.
(09:04):
I need five three five. Somebody said Fredgie's maacause I
call that. On the side, I'm not mad because I'm
a single man. I've been single for twenty years. I'm
on dating apps. I'm also a public figure. People are
going to say what they're gonna say. And it wouldn't
matter if if I work somewhere else, nobody would say
anything because nobody would care. And the other thing is
(09:24):
just because you say it doesn't mean it's true. But
the problem is I'm a single guy, so I have
nothing to hide, you know what I mean. Like if
I were married and I show up on that site,
we got ourselves a little problem.
Speaker 10 (09:34):
Oh yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
If I'm in a relationship, I show up on that site,
we got ourselves a problem. But that's another thing, is
somebody can just post a picture of me today, maybe
I've been in a relationship for a year. Somebody can
bring something up from five years ago. Oh he went
on one day with me. Oh he asked me for
a nude. Oh he did this that everybody does. And
now all of a sudden, I'm fighting with my new
significant other about stuff that was on earth that had
(09:55):
nothing to do with that person.
Speaker 6 (09:57):
You shouldn't fight about something from five years ago. But
you got to think of it like TSA. You know
what I'm saying, Like we all go through TSA. It's
just it's just a check you get. You don't have
anything you walk through just fine. If you got some
you get in search. It's the difference, you know, Like
you just gotta go through checks in life. And I
don't think if there's anything that you shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Be worried of it.
Speaker 10 (10:16):
So you'd be okay if he put her picture up
on whatever website, does she's cheating on him?
Speaker 6 (10:21):
Yes, I would be fine with that, and you'd be okay.
If Big Tim put your picture up, Yes, it would
literally be crickets.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
Somebody put anything I but.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
You're opening He's opening you up to exposure that is unnecessary.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
Anybody can say anything that's true.
Speaker 5 (10:38):
People say nice stuff in the group all the time,
though I have to say, like he's great when on
one date I work with him, he's awesome.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
So it's not all bad stuff. Yeah, people said I
was good at radio, which is nice. I love that.
I didn't say anything bad.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
There wasn't anything. Somebody said I asked for a nude.
I don't know who that person was. Someone else did
I ask for a nude?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
I think a lot. It's nice to ask.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That was sent to me on solic I mean I
don't know to right, you know what I mean? Like,
I don't erase anything. I just thought it was like weird.
I was like, uh, I don't see where the nefarious
behavior is here. But thanks for the pr Yeah, I
really appreciate it. Though, Again, I hard a search for
the Friend Show. That is what I should have put
in there. Yeah, I mean we're growing ups here. So hey, Ryan, Ryan,
(11:23):
what do you think stare go by the way, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I think basically, I think like a background check is
for people that you don't know, and then you're trying
to figure out what type of responsibility to trust to
give them based on the background check. But if she
already knows them, that's kind of weird. But maybe he's.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
In the red flag and like figured out.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
If she has a tendency of snooking too much and
if that's a problem by asking people that know her,
as you said, to like getting it from strange random
strangers on the internet.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
I agree with you, brother. I don't think it's so
much that she posted. I think it's her purpose for
doing it. I'm not as offended that she did it.
I want to know why, especially if he's telling the
truth and there's no reason to be suspicious and she's
never brought anything up. It makes me think she doesn't
trust him. Why doesn't she trust him and why aren't
they addressing that? Or is she looking for a way out?
(12:21):
You know?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Is she in some ways?
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Is she subconsciously or even consciously hoping that somebody digs
up some dirt on this guy so she can get
out that way.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
It's it's the reason why she's doing it that bothers me,
not the fact that she did it. Thank you, Ryan,
have a good day. I am passionate about this. This
is passionate, Bianca. Hi, Bianca, Hi, Hey, what do you think?
Good morning?
Speaker 10 (12:44):
Good Monny.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
I think he should go.
Speaker 8 (12:47):
I think it's so weird, and I agree with you, Frett, like,
I don't think I don't think that's right.
Speaker 11 (12:52):
If there's nothing that she needs to worry about, why
checked they should.
Speaker 10 (12:56):
Be communicating and if she's in secure, she needs to
talk to him about that, Yeah, and not just put
it online.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Yeah, I think we're on the same page. Thank you, Bianca.
Have a great day.
Speaker 4 (13:06):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
Hi, Susan, Welcome, good morning, good morning. Hey. What do
you think I think that they should stay?
Speaker 8 (13:17):
I think his name is Zach.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
I believe that.
Speaker 8 (13:20):
I think that Kiki said it right, you know, like
she's got to check her boxes and do what's right
by herself, even if she's totally secure within their relationship.
You have to do what's right for you and you know,
not all men, right, but then there's that you know,
small percentage, so she has to just make sure as
best as she can.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, okay, fair enough, Thank you, Susan, thank you. I
just I just I'll say the same thing again. I
just contend that if I found out that somebody was
doing those kind of checks on me and I wasn't
doing anything and we'd never talked about it, and there
was no necessarily no reason for suspicion, then I just think, well,
wait a minute, what else, Like what else is going
on in your head?
Speaker 1 (13:59):
Like what else do you think? Think you know? I?
Speaker 2 (14:02):
I mean, like, would you do this? You're about to
get married Paulina in four days? Five days? Would you would?
I mean, can you see a reason just to just
one more double check? Let me just throw my man's
image up there and see what happens.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Make double check. I agree with it.
Speaker 11 (14:16):
I feel like it's just I don't if it's a
girl thing or we just want to make sure that
we're like in a good you know, a good space here.
But I don't want to get my feelings hurt, So
I don't do stuff like that. And like I don't
know the streets also a good one, So let's just
let's just keep it at that.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
Yeah, okay, hey Veronica, Oh good morning guys. Hi Veronica,
So you're in one of these groups. I know there
is one main one and I think a bunch of others.
But what's your take?
Speaker 7 (14:39):
Oh? My take is that well with the groups that
I'm in, because I'm in probably about like twenty eight
of them. Point oh okay, yeah, okay, girl. So so
what we do is, like one of the young ladies
she had made a post about her ex and come
to find out what a lot of these gentlemen do.
They end up typically changing their names so something and
(15:00):
totally different. So when you try to like look them
up years down the road, it's a totally different name.
So now you got to go through the course and
try to figure out what they change it to. And
like a lot of them are like sexual offenders or
abusers or like cheers, so they don't want their information
getting out of there. So, like I tell the young ladies,
if you do find somebody, try to do like a
(15:20):
deeper background check off.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Mmmmmm okay, all right, well, thank you, Veronica, have a
good day.
Speaker 3 (15:26):
You're welcome.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Yeah, what it was John says.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
Go uh, Daphne, a lot of stays, a lot of stays.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
But Paulleena, don't get any ideas. Okay, I'm already on
it right now. You see, we're going to know it's happening.
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