September 26, 2023 • 17 mins
Jenna has been with her boyfriend for 8 months and have been happy. They met at a bar and he told her that he was 40 years old, but 8 months later she saw his ID and he's actually 50 years old. Is this a deal breaker?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Fred Show is on. It's stay or Go. Jenna
's here. Hello, Jenna, good morning, good morning, Hi, welcome
to the ball. Yes, so thank people. Hit us up
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(00:21):
got thirteen people listening to us, wide variety of different personalities.
So I figure we'll take it to the air when
people have something going on, and we'll talk about you
in front of you and behind your back too. So
what's going on, Jenna explaining your situation and then we'll
solve it for you right now.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Well, like, my relationship is really happy, and I'm I mean,
I'm guess I'm so in love. I guess I'm just
questioning everything, right.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I love.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I guess that's convincing. I'm super confident.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I mean, I met my boyfriend eight months ago and
he said he was forty. And then the other day
I saw i Likenise for the first time and it
turns out now he's actually fifty, and so I like,
I confronted him and he said he was fifty.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
He just was like yeah, and then I was like,
I asked him explain. He swore he wasn't trying to
keep up with the lie. He just completely forgot about
it because we had when we met. We met in
a bar and he said he was drunk and he
didn't remember why he lied.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
And no, he liked it because he was self conscious
about his age and he thought you wouldn't go for
him at fifty, so he said forty. So that's why
he did it.
Speaker 5 (01:36):
Oh, he said, that's what I was gonna ask, I
missed it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Yeah, I think she said that.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, he thinks that's what And then he said he
just didn't expect that we were going to date or
fall in love or anything. And he apologized and he
said it's the first time that he ever did that.
I don't know. It's just a lot for me to process,
I guess because I'm I'm thirty one, okay, so it's
(02:00):
it's a bigger age difference than I thought. I guess,
like ten years was a big gap for me, or
like nine or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Well, how many times did you lie about it? Just
the one time? It only came up once and then
and then you later were able to verify that he
was lying. Well, I was.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Trying to think about it. I think that's the only time,
like his age really has ever come. I was like thinking,
did I meet anyone from his high school?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
No?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But you know what I mean, like I haven't. There's
no nothing else that would have come up.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It was like, even if you did, it's not like
you're like, you know, show me your ID or what
I'm just trying to say, Like what I'm curious about
is did he did he perpetuate this lie up until
the point where she saw the ID or did he
say it the one time not to say it wasn't
a lie then, but I mean he said it, okay, fine,
and then it never came up again. I mean again,
it doesn't excuse to lie. But I guess there's a
(02:50):
difference between like a like a habitual lie. And then
at one time he said something that I guess maybe
he forgot that he said he knew what he was
doing at the time, but it's still a lie.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, I don't know, Like, yeah, I think it's just
that one time in the in the barn.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
I think he's really good though he's been lying for
like eight months though, right they begin to get yeah, yeah,
but to take off ten years off of your your
senior or your age.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
That's no, it's not good.
Speaker 6 (03:22):
Imagine like it's like us saying we're twenty one, Like
who would believe that?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't even feel like I act twenty one. Yeah,
you might look young, but I don't feel like twenty one.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
It's really interesting, nod. I understand that the ten years
is a significant difference in that in that you're talking
about maybe you know, getting married, having kids. And it's
not to say he can't do all of that, but
I mean, does he seem has he changed his position
on anything that he has told you along the way?
Like is he is he open to the same things
that you are? Is he opened a marriage if you
(03:50):
want that? Is he opens it? Kids? Is he opens
it you know all those things? Or is the fact
that he's fifty now coming out like oh and by
the way, I don't want kids. Oh and by the way,
I don't want this in that you know what I mean? Like?
Has his age? Is it playing a role in his
decision making? Do you think?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
I don't think so, Like we've kind of I mean
we haven't even been together a year yet, but we
have talked about those things, Like it seemed like he
wanted those things too. I just feel like, is this
a big deal? I don't know, Like his age is
a number.
Speaker 7 (04:19):
But it's also like this is a lot.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Of years in between us, like I don't I don't
know what I'm supposed to do right now, Like it's
just it's I don't know, We're just are we really
at different places? And I didn't know it. I don't know,
I don't know. It seemed like we're on the same page,
But it's like such a shocker right now.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Do you make sense that he's been honest with you
about everything else? I mean, do you do you sense
that he's tried to manipulate or or I don't know,
present another front in any other way to make you,
to make himself seem more appealing.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Well, I thought I thought he'd been honest, you know.
Now I'm like questioning everything. I'm thinking about it, like
I'm like I am. You know, he talks about like
a lot of like extended members of the stamen, like
are they real? And they sound hilarious?
Speaker 8 (05:06):
Are the story?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Like what what's the you know?
Speaker 7 (05:10):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I just don't know any of this.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Suffuse people are texting age is just a number, and
I get that, but I'm not as caught up on
the age as I am the lie. Right, it's a lie.
Now again, can you say, like, oh, it was a
fleeting moment and he was drunk and he was being
an idiot and he didn't think you'd like him otherwise,
And then it didn't come up again and then he's like, oh, yeah,
that was stupid in me. I maybe, But I mean
he had to know at some point you were going
to find out how old he really is. Right, But
(05:35):
on the flip side, it doesn't seem to have affected
your relationship and the way you feel about him and
the fact that you're able to fall in love with
him and talk about the future. So yeah, age is
only a number, But my question is why did he lie?
And what else is he lying about? Also? Who does
his will talks? Because ten years, I mean, we want
to go to that doctor. Me too. I think with
men though between the forty to fifty, I don't.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
I mean, yeah, I think honestly handsomer damn it, I
think it works out and stuff. So it's not like,
you know, like I looked, I was like, how did
I miss this?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
That it doesn't that's good for fifty year old, right, Yeah. Well,
I mean and someone's like, he's going to be a
grandpa when he has kids with you. Okay, fine, but
I mean again, Okay, so let's say you had kids today,
so he'll be sixty eight at their graduation. He was
going to be fifty eight at their graduation if he
had been forty. My thing is, if he keeps up
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with himself and he's healthy and the rest, does that
really make any difference. That's fine, that's to each their own.
But the lie, I think is the sys why are
you lying? This is a very odd, weird lie. He
lied when he met her because he was self conscious
about his age and he didn't think that she'd go
for twenty years. He thought she'd go for ten. It's
a lie, but he managed to, I guess ingratiate himself
(06:50):
with you know what I mean, Like the relationship is fine,
it's just he you know, is it like fake it
so you make it? Is it like I lie to you?
Then I earn my keep otherwise? And then I mean
it's a lie. I really can't justify it. But at
the same time, the relationship is fine. You don't now
that you know that he's that age, Does it change
(07:10):
anything for you or you still like I still like him?
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, I still I still have feelings for him. I'm
just like, I'm just questioning everything, and I don't know,
Like ken, we may it is too big of an
age difference for us.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Yeah, that's fair, that's fair. Eight three five is the
number to call. You can text the same number. Two.
I'm gonna take some phone calls on this and we'll
see what people have to say. But what does your
gut tell you to do? Just forgive the lion, stick with.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It, well for I mean for now. But I'm like,
do we oh we headed for a breakup anyway? I
don't you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
That's wait till you tell him you're eighteen, he'll be shocked. Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah,
right right, Wait till Chris Chris Hansen walks in form
the NNBC and then it's gonna be a whole new
experience for him. Jeh. Let me take some good luck
to you, and thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Okay, all right, thank you day much.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Sh're right there. Hey's Stephanie. Good morning, Good morning, Stephanie.
All right, So this woman met a guy and she
thought that he was ten years younger. She thought he
was forty when they met. He's fifty. It turns out
he lied about it, and I guess you only lied
about it the one time, because apparently it hadn't come
up again until she saw his ID. So it wasn't
(08:24):
like he's been saying, you know, every day for a
year that he's a different daye. She said it once,
but he's been lying for eight months. He knows how
old he is, I know, but I don't know if
it matters though, Does it matter as much? It is
a lie. A lie is a lie. So what do
you think?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Yeah, so I would say that he knows he lies,
he knows what he started off with. And I had
a boyfriend that did this in the past and it
was I thought it was a six year difference, and
it was really a ten year difference and it was
just the start of the lies.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Just hip for the okay, Yeah, because I'm focused more
on the lie than I am the age difference, because
I don't I don't really know that that has to make.
It has to have a big play, a big factor
necessarily if you have the same goals. But at the
same time, again, why did he lie? What else is
he lying about it? What else is he going to say, Oh,
I forgot I lied about that?
Speaker 7 (09:19):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
If he's comfortable enough to lie about that straight off that,
what else is he comfortable.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
To lie about?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah? I think that's fair. What did you wind up doing?
Dumping a guy?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I dumped him once I found out that he had
yer old.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
A child, a child. That's another thing. That's what I'm saying, Stephanie,
thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 6 (09:43):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
There's a go, she says. Go Hey, Linda, Yes, Linda,
good morning, welcome. How are you?
Speaker 9 (09:52):
I'm good?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
What do we do here, Linda? What are we going
to do? We're solving the problem with this woman. We're
gonna just she gonna do whatever we say. So what
do we do?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I think she needs to decide what she wants to do.
Because my mom lied to my dad when she met him,
and they were married for forty years before he found
out her actual age yo, and he was really mad.
He didn't talk to her for a long time because
of it. I mean they went on and they ended
up being married forty eight years.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
How big was the lie? But the age difference he
was really mad about the But how much was it? Like,
what does she say she was and what was.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
She it was like five years?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I guess. I don't after forty years he finds out
she lied about five years. I mean, I mean it's
a lie. Again, we keep saying the same thing. But like,
you've been married for forty years, that's all good years.
I guess I suppose.
Speaker 10 (10:49):
A year.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Well that is true, happy forty I'm actually forty five.
You don't see nothing that's right.
Speaker 7 (10:57):
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It's a lie about the age. Next thing, you know,
you got a secret family on the side. You Wow,
we always do, thank you for calling, not a good morning.
We always appreciate you. Wow. Hey Katie, Hi, Hey, you
(11:19):
say go, I say go.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
I when I met my husband, I was twenty one
and he's fifteen years older than me, and he was
straight up with his age. I just think that if
he lied to her that big from the beginning, he
didn't really plan on being with her long term, because
how do you keep up a lie like that.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
No, I'm really like, I don't ever want to justify
a lie. But I also like, if everything's going really
really well and she has no reason to suspect anything else.
And he was just in a bar, drunk, trying to
pick up on her, not realizing that it would go
this far, and it never really came up again. Then yeah,
the guy live. I lied. I'm sorry, I just want
to do it. I just liked you and I wanted
to appeal to you, and that was messed up of me.
(12:05):
And I haven't lied about anything else, and she has
no reason to believe that he's lying about anything else.
Then I guess, I guess. I say go with what's working,
But I mean, yeah, but you gotta trust that that
was the only thing he lied about, which I don't know.
I don't know, Katie. Thank you have a good day.
Speaker 8 (12:24):
Sure that ten year age gap gets bigger and bigger,
you know what I'm saying, Like she's thirty, now he's fifty,
she's forty, he's sixty.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Like I just but you know, I'm saying, rufiel, I
would argue that it gets smaller, actually, because I would
argue the difference between men and women's age. It begins like, like, honestly,
is there that big of a difference between being a
healthy sixty year old and a healthy seventy year old,
if you're healthy. You know what I'm saying? Like, like
is it? I would argue that at a twenty year
(12:52):
old female and a forty year old male, that's a
pretty big difference. But I would say that a thirty
year old female and a fifty year old male is
not as big of a difference from a life standpoint,
from a maturity standpoint. In fact, I might argue that,
you know, men need to be significantly, not significantly, but
quite a bit older to date younger women because because
of the maturity differential. But like, say, what is your
(13:15):
like friend, what is your age limit? Like how high
would you go? I would go into the fifties, and
I've dated as low as early twenties.
Speaker 8 (13:23):
Okay, you say you're dating something that's fifty she turns
out to be sixty five?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Is that? You know what I'm saying? Honestly, I guess
if I didn't know, I'm again more worried about the
lie than the age, because I didn't because everything was fine,
I guess you know what I mean, Like the age
didn't bother me, whatever is happening here didn't bother me,
I'd be more bothered about the lie and i'd be
closer to getting her money. Well, yeah, you know what
(13:47):
I'm saying, like, oh wait, like wait, you're sixty five.
Speaker 6 (13:49):
You've been collecting Social Security and not telling me.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
What that means. You're ten years closer to paying me out.
Fantastic to myself every day. Oh Rebecca High, Hi, Hi
stair go what do you.
Speaker 9 (14:06):
Think I would stay?
Speaker 10 (14:08):
Just because I was in that same situation, just the
opposite way.
Speaker 9 (14:11):
It was me that lied.
Speaker 10 (14:12):
About my age to be with my now husband of
fifteen years, and he found out by not because he
is my space. He saw my friends wish me at
twenty first birthday when he thought I was twenty five.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Okay, so you lied by four years. Why did you
do it? Well?
Speaker 10 (14:32):
Because he was thirty five, and I just felt like
he wouldn't really be really interested in me if I was.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
So, you were seven twenty one when you met, No,
twenty one. I thought she said she was twenty years
Oh she said she said she was twenty five. She
was twenty one. Yeah, Oh my god. Okay. I was like,
oh my god, where's Chris No? Because he got it?
Oh no, got it?
Speaker 9 (14:55):
Yeah no, And he he was a little upset because
he was just like, why didn't you just count like
he would have accepted me regardless, but I would just
had that insecurity of thinking, you know, he's the way
older guy. He wouldn't be interested. I'm too young, too immature.
Speaker 10 (15:09):
But I mean I guess Yeah, Rebecca, thank you.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Have a good day.
Speaker 9 (15:15):
Yeah you too.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Text friend out here line about his agent. I'll be
honest with you. I I have no issue in my
age whatsoever. And I think I'm a better version of
myself now than I was ten years ago than I
was ten years before that. I actually think I'm better
looking too. That's relative, but I think my face grew
into my ears age and I don't really fight that
(15:36):
salt and pepper and the rest. It seems to be
very trendy right now. The only thing I'm trying to
lose is the dad bod, which has also gotten me
a long way. Don't do that well, but I am.
It's yeah, sorry, dude, no offense, but you're in a relationship.
I've been trying to get you to break up forever,
but you don't want to. Hey, you guys are the
same age too. Yeah, it doesn't seem to be a
(15:58):
problem with us. Hey, Jessica. Hey, hi, Jessica, stare go,
so just if you're just joining us on Stiago. This
woman found out that the guy she's been dating for
eight months lied about his age by ten years, said
he was forty when they were drunk at the bar
when they met, he's fifty. And she finds out by
looking at his ID and he's like, oh my god,
I forgot I told you that. My bad. I'm sorry.
(16:18):
She's happy, but she was lied to. What do you think?
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Right?
Speaker 7 (16:22):
So okay, in my opinion, if I were in her shoes,
I don't know if the age thing is a big
enough deal. But I'm also at the same time saying
don't let your guard down. So maybe it would be worse,
like you know, hanging out with family, hanging out with friends,
like if there are there things he's being dishonest about,
like it's probably going to be in those areas.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Yeah. It turns out, Jessica, he's not a Nigerian prince either,
which it was very disappointing. It turns out from he's
from Bolien, which is not you know, she very upsetting.
But Jessica, I have a good day, Thank you, thanks,
I said, what does it turn out to be fifty
to fifty, maybe more more go than I don't know.
What would you guys do. I'll go through the room
and then I got to move on. Paulina, go stair go.
Speaker 8 (17:04):
I would stay, Yeah, I would go, yeah, stay.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Oh.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
I would really really need a good explanation to stay.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
I would need to really have a long talk. Yeah,
but then I would stay.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
If you know I'm leaving, that's the real answer right there.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
But you're not married again, answer your single so you
could stay and then you know
The Fred Show is on. It's stay or Go. Jenna
's here. Hello, Jenna, good morning, good morning, Hi, welcome
to the ball. Yes, so thank people. Hit us up
fred Shire Radio on Instagram, Fredshiwradio dot com again. Also
find us on all of our individual socials and we
(00:21):
got thirteen people listening to us, wide variety of different personalities.
So I figure we'll take it to the air when
people have something going on, and we'll talk about you
in front of you and behind your back too. So
what's going on, Jenna explaining your situation and then we'll
solve it for you right now.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Well, like, my relationship is really happy, and I'm I mean,
I'm guess I'm so in love. I guess I'm just
questioning everything, right.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
I love.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
I guess that's convincing. I'm super confident.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
I mean, I met my boyfriend eight months ago and
he said he was forty. And then the other day
I saw i Likenise for the first time and it
turns out now he's actually fifty, and so I like,
I confronted him and he said he was fifty.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
He just was like yeah, and then I was like,
I asked him explain. He swore he wasn't trying to
keep up with the lie. He just completely forgot about
it because we had when we met. We met in
a bar and he said he was drunk and he
didn't remember why he lied.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
And no, he liked it because he was self conscious
about his age and he thought you wouldn't go for
him at fifty, so he said forty. So that's why
he did it.
Speaker 5 (01:36):
Oh, he said, that's what I was gonna ask, I
missed it.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Yeah, I think she said that.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, he thinks that's what And then he said he
just didn't expect that we were going to date or
fall in love or anything. And he apologized and he
said it's the first time that he ever did that.
I don't know. It's just a lot for me to process,
I guess because I'm I'm thirty one, okay, so it's
(02:00):
it's a bigger age difference than I thought. I guess,
like ten years was a big gap for me, or
like nine or whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
Well, how many times did you lie about it? Just
the one time? It only came up once and then
and then you later were able to verify that he
was lying. Well, I was.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Trying to think about it. I think that's the only time,
like his age really has ever come. I was like thinking,
did I meet anyone from his high school?
Speaker 4 (02:24):
No?
Speaker 2 (02:25):
But you know what I mean, like I haven't. There's
no nothing else that would have come up.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
It was like, even if you did, it's not like
you're like, you know, show me your ID or what
I'm just trying to say, Like what I'm curious about
is did he did he perpetuate this lie up until
the point where she saw the ID or did he
say it the one time not to say it wasn't
a lie then, but I mean he said it, okay, fine,
and then it never came up again. I mean again,
it doesn't excuse to lie. But I guess there's a
(02:50):
difference between like a like a habitual lie. And then
at one time he said something that I guess maybe
he forgot that he said he knew what he was
doing at the time, but it's still a lie.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
Yeah, I don't know, Like, yeah, I think it's just
that one time in the in the barn.
Speaker 6 (03:10):
I think he's really good though he's been lying for
like eight months though, right they begin to get yeah, yeah,
but to take off ten years off of your your
senior or your age.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
That's no, it's not good.
Speaker 6 (03:22):
Imagine like it's like us saying we're twenty one, Like
who would believe that?
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't even feel like I act twenty one. Yeah,
you might look young, but I don't feel like twenty one.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
It's really interesting, nod. I understand that the ten years
is a significant difference in that in that you're talking
about maybe you know, getting married, having kids. And it's
not to say he can't do all of that, but
I mean, does he seem has he changed his position
on anything that he has told you along the way?
Like is he is he open to the same things
that you are? Is he opened a marriage if you
(03:50):
want that? Is he opens it? Kids? Is he opens
it you know all those things? Or is the fact
that he's fifty now coming out like oh and by
the way, I don't want kids. Oh and by the way,
I don't want this in that you know what I mean? Like?
Has his age? Is it playing a role in his
decision making? Do you think?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
I don't think so, Like we've kind of I mean
we haven't even been together a year yet, but we
have talked about those things, Like it seemed like he
wanted those things too. I just feel like, is this
a big deal? I don't know, Like his age is
a number.
Speaker 7 (04:19):
But it's also like this is a lot.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Of years in between us, like I don't I don't
know what I'm supposed to do right now, Like it's
just it's I don't know, We're just are we really
at different places? And I didn't know it. I don't know,
I don't know. It seemed like we're on the same page,
But it's like such a shocker right now.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
Do you make sense that he's been honest with you
about everything else? I mean, do you do you sense
that he's tried to manipulate or or I don't know,
present another front in any other way to make you,
to make himself seem more appealing.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Well, I thought I thought he'd been honest, you know.
Now I'm like questioning everything. I'm thinking about it, like
I'm like I am. You know, he talks about like
a lot of like extended members of the stamen, like
are they real? And they sound hilarious?
Speaker 8 (05:06):
Are the story?
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Like what what's the you know?
Speaker 7 (05:10):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
I just don't know any of this.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Suffuse people are texting age is just a number, and
I get that, but I'm not as caught up on
the age as I am the lie. Right, it's a lie.
Now again, can you say, like, oh, it was a
fleeting moment and he was drunk and he was being
an idiot and he didn't think you'd like him otherwise,
And then it didn't come up again and then he's like, oh, yeah,
that was stupid in me. I maybe, But I mean
he had to know at some point you were going
to find out how old he really is. Right, But
(05:35):
on the flip side, it doesn't seem to have affected
your relationship and the way you feel about him and
the fact that you're able to fall in love with
him and talk about the future. So yeah, age is
only a number, But my question is why did he lie?
And what else is he lying about? Also? Who does
his will talks? Because ten years, I mean, we want
to go to that doctor. Me too. I think with
men though between the forty to fifty, I don't.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
I mean, yeah, I think honestly handsomer damn it, I
think it works out and stuff. So it's not like,
you know, like I looked, I was like, how did
I miss this?
Speaker 1 (06:07):
That it doesn't that's good for fifty year old, right, Yeah. Well,
I mean and someone's like, he's going to be a
grandpa when he has kids with you. Okay, fine, but
I mean again, Okay, so let's say you had kids today,
so he'll be sixty eight at their graduation. He was
going to be fifty eight at their graduation if he
had been forty. My thing is, if he keeps up
(06:28):
with himself and he's healthy and the rest, does that
really make any difference. That's fine, that's to each their own.
But the lie, I think is the sys why are
you lying? This is a very odd, weird lie. He
lied when he met her because he was self conscious
about his age and he didn't think that she'd go
for twenty years. He thought she'd go for ten. It's
a lie, but he managed to, I guess ingratiate himself
(06:50):
with you know what I mean, Like the relationship is fine,
it's just he you know, is it like fake it
so you make it? Is it like I lie to you?
Then I earn my keep otherwise? And then I mean
it's a lie. I really can't justify it. But at
the same time, the relationship is fine. You don't now
that you know that he's that age, Does it change
(07:10):
anything for you or you still like I still like him?
Speaker 2 (07:14):
No, I still I still have feelings for him. I'm
just like, I'm just questioning everything, and I don't know,
Like ken, we may it is too big of an
age difference for us.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Yeah, that's fair, that's fair. Eight three five is the
number to call. You can text the same number. Two.
I'm gonna take some phone calls on this and we'll
see what people have to say. But what does your
gut tell you to do? Just forgive the lion, stick with.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
It, well for I mean for now. But I'm like,
do we oh we headed for a breakup anyway? I
don't you know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
That's wait till you tell him you're eighteen, he'll be shocked. Yeah, okay, yeah, yeah,
right right, Wait till Chris Chris Hansen walks in form
the NNBC and then it's gonna be a whole new
experience for him. Jeh. Let me take some good luck
to you, and thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Okay, all right, thank you day much.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Sh're right there. Hey's Stephanie. Good morning, Good morning, Stephanie.
All right, So this woman met a guy and she
thought that he was ten years younger. She thought he
was forty when they met. He's fifty. It turns out
he lied about it, and I guess you only lied
about it the one time, because apparently it hadn't come
up again until she saw his ID. So it wasn't
(08:24):
like he's been saying, you know, every day for a
year that he's a different daye. She said it once,
but he's been lying for eight months. He knows how
old he is, I know, but I don't know if
it matters though, Does it matter as much? It is
a lie. A lie is a lie. So what do
you think?
Speaker 3 (08:43):
Yeah, so I would say that he knows he lies,
he knows what he started off with. And I had
a boyfriend that did this in the past and it
was I thought it was a six year difference, and
it was really a ten year difference and it was
just the start of the lies.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Just hip for the okay, Yeah, because I'm focused more
on the lie than I am the age difference, because
I don't I don't really know that that has to make.
It has to have a big play, a big factor
necessarily if you have the same goals. But at the
same time, again, why did he lie? What else is
he lying about it? What else is he going to say, Oh,
I forgot I lied about that?
Speaker 7 (09:19):
Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
If he's comfortable enough to lie about that straight off that,
what else is he comfortable.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
To lie about?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah? I think that's fair. What did you wind up doing?
Dumping a guy?
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (09:30):
I dumped him once I found out that he had
yer old.
Speaker 1 (09:35):
A child, a child. That's another thing. That's what I'm saying, Stephanie,
thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 6 (09:43):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
There's a go, she says. Go Hey, Linda, Yes, Linda,
good morning, welcome. How are you?
Speaker 9 (09:52):
I'm good?
Speaker 1 (09:53):
What do we do here, Linda? What are we going
to do? We're solving the problem with this woman. We're
gonna just she gonna do whatever we say. So what
do we do?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I think she needs to decide what she wants to do.
Because my mom lied to my dad when she met him,
and they were married for forty years before he found
out her actual age yo, and he was really mad.
He didn't talk to her for a long time because
of it. I mean they went on and they ended
up being married forty eight years.
Speaker 1 (10:22):
How big was the lie? But the age difference he
was really mad about the But how much was it? Like,
what does she say she was and what was.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
She it was like five years?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
I guess. I don't after forty years he finds out
she lied about five years. I mean, I mean it's
a lie. Again, we keep saying the same thing. But like,
you've been married for forty years, that's all good years.
I guess I suppose.
Speaker 10 (10:49):
A year.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Well that is true, happy forty I'm actually forty five.
You don't see nothing that's right.
Speaker 7 (10:57):
I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (10:58):
It's a lie about the age. Next thing, you know,
you got a secret family on the side. You Wow,
we always do, thank you for calling, not a good morning.
We always appreciate you. Wow. Hey Katie, Hi, Hey, you
(11:19):
say go, I say go.
Speaker 5 (11:21):
I when I met my husband, I was twenty one
and he's fifteen years older than me, and he was
straight up with his age. I just think that if
he lied to her that big from the beginning, he
didn't really plan on being with her long term, because
how do you keep up a lie like that.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
No, I'm really like, I don't ever want to justify
a lie. But I also like, if everything's going really
really well and she has no reason to suspect anything else.
And he was just in a bar, drunk, trying to
pick up on her, not realizing that it would go
this far, and it never really came up again. Then yeah,
the guy live. I lied. I'm sorry, I just want
to do it. I just liked you and I wanted
to appeal to you, and that was messed up of me.
(12:05):
And I haven't lied about anything else, and she has
no reason to believe that he's lying about anything else.
Then I guess, I guess. I say go with what's working,
But I mean, yeah, but you gotta trust that that
was the only thing he lied about, which I don't know.
I don't know, Katie. Thank you have a good day.
Speaker 8 (12:24):
Sure that ten year age gap gets bigger and bigger,
you know what I'm saying, Like she's thirty, now he's fifty,
she's forty, he's sixty.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
Like I just but you know, I'm saying, rufiel, I
would argue that it gets smaller, actually, because I would
argue the difference between men and women's age. It begins like, like, honestly,
is there that big of a difference between being a
healthy sixty year old and a healthy seventy year old,
if you're healthy. You know what I'm saying? Like, like
is it? I would argue that at a twenty year
(12:52):
old female and a forty year old male, that's a
pretty big difference. But I would say that a thirty
year old female and a fifty year old male is
not as big of a difference from a life standpoint,
from a maturity standpoint. In fact, I might argue that,
you know, men need to be significantly, not significantly, but
quite a bit older to date younger women because because
of the maturity differential. But like, say, what is your
(13:15):
like friend, what is your age limit? Like how high
would you go? I would go into the fifties, and
I've dated as low as early twenties.
Speaker 8 (13:23):
Okay, you say you're dating something that's fifty she turns
out to be sixty five?
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Is that? You know what I'm saying? Honestly, I guess
if I didn't know, I'm again more worried about the
lie than the age, because I didn't because everything was fine,
I guess you know what I mean, Like the age
didn't bother me, whatever is happening here didn't bother me,
I'd be more bothered about the lie and i'd be
closer to getting her money. Well, yeah, you know what
(13:47):
I'm saying, like, oh wait, like wait, you're sixty five.
Speaker 6 (13:49):
You've been collecting Social Security and not telling me.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
What that means. You're ten years closer to paying me out.
Fantastic to myself every day. Oh Rebecca High, Hi, Hi
stair go what do you.
Speaker 9 (14:06):
Think I would stay?
Speaker 10 (14:08):
Just because I was in that same situation, just the
opposite way.
Speaker 9 (14:11):
It was me that lied.
Speaker 10 (14:12):
About my age to be with my now husband of
fifteen years, and he found out by not because he
is my space. He saw my friends wish me at
twenty first birthday when he thought I was twenty five.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
Okay, so you lied by four years. Why did you
do it? Well?
Speaker 10 (14:32):
Because he was thirty five, and I just felt like
he wouldn't really be really interested in me if I was.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
So, you were seven twenty one when you met, No,
twenty one. I thought she said she was twenty years
Oh she said she said she was twenty five. She
was twenty one. Yeah, Oh my god. Okay. I was like,
oh my god, where's Chris No? Because he got it?
Oh no, got it?
Speaker 9 (14:55):
Yeah no, And he he was a little upset because
he was just like, why didn't you just count like
he would have accepted me regardless, but I would just
had that insecurity of thinking, you know, he's the way
older guy. He wouldn't be interested. I'm too young, too immature.
Speaker 10 (15:09):
But I mean I guess Yeah, Rebecca, thank you.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
Have a good day.
Speaker 9 (15:15):
Yeah you too.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
Text friend out here line about his agent. I'll be
honest with you. I I have no issue in my
age whatsoever. And I think I'm a better version of
myself now than I was ten years ago than I
was ten years before that. I actually think I'm better
looking too. That's relative, but I think my face grew
into my ears age and I don't really fight that
(15:36):
salt and pepper and the rest. It seems to be
very trendy right now. The only thing I'm trying to
lose is the dad bod, which has also gotten me
a long way. Don't do that well, but I am.
It's yeah, sorry, dude, no offense, but you're in a relationship.
I've been trying to get you to break up forever,
but you don't want to. Hey, you guys are the
same age too. Yeah, it doesn't seem to be a
(15:58):
problem with us. Hey, Jessica. Hey, hi, Jessica, stare go,
so just if you're just joining us on Stiago. This
woman found out that the guy she's been dating for
eight months lied about his age by ten years, said
he was forty when they were drunk at the bar
when they met, he's fifty. And she finds out by
looking at his ID and he's like, oh my god,
I forgot I told you that. My bad. I'm sorry.
(16:18):
She's happy, but she was lied to. What do you think?
Speaker 2 (16:22):
Right?
Speaker 7 (16:22):
So okay, in my opinion, if I were in her shoes,
I don't know if the age thing is a big
enough deal. But I'm also at the same time saying
don't let your guard down. So maybe it would be worse,
like you know, hanging out with family, hanging out with friends,
like if there are there things he's being dishonest about,
like it's probably going to be in those areas.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
Yeah. It turns out, Jessica, he's not a Nigerian prince either,
which it was very disappointing. It turns out from he's
from Bolien, which is not you know, she very upsetting.
But Jessica, I have a good day, Thank you, thanks,
I said, what does it turn out to be fifty
to fifty, maybe more more go than I don't know.
What would you guys do. I'll go through the room
and then I got to move on. Paulina, go stair go.
Speaker 8 (17:04):
I would stay, Yeah, I would go, yeah, stay.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
Oh.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
I would really really need a good explanation to stay.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
I would need to really have a long talk. Yeah,
but then I would stay.
Speaker 6 (17:17):
If you know I'm leaving, that's the real answer right there.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
But you're not married again, answer your single so you
could stay and then you know
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