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November 18, 2025 12 mins

Amanda is conflicted after her boyfriend didn't acknowledge her for passing an exam to become a diabetes dietian, a passion near and dear to her heart since she was recently diagnoised with type one diabetes... Fred and the crew weigh in on what she should do!

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Speaker 2 (00:28):
Okay, Amanda, good morning, welcome to the program.

Speaker 1 (00:32):
How are you.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
Are you?

Speaker 2 (00:36):
Amanda doing great? So this is a situation with your
boyfriend here of three years. So I want to hear
what's going on, and then I want everyone to call
and then we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
We're not really behind your back because you can listen
to the radio on the iHeart app, but like we're
gonna talk about you behind your back. Eight five five
five nine one one three five. So you guys have

(00:56):
been together for three years. You just moved to Florida
together about a year ago. Uh so tell me more,
tell me what's going on.

Speaker 4 (01:07):
Yeah, So I actually was diagnosed with type one diabetes
almost two years ago. It'll be my two year anniversary
in April. And I work as a dietitian. I was
living in Naperville at the time, born and raised in Chicago,
and when I was diagnosed with diabetes, I wasn't working
as a dietitian in patient care, and I wanted to

(01:28):
become a certified diabetes educator and go that way with
my career so I could do something good with my
diagnosed date.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
Wow, good for you, Thank you much. Florida. Did you
move to.

Speaker 4 (01:44):
I'm in Fort Myers.

Speaker 2 (01:46):
Okay, we needed people, and we needed people a little
further south. We can get moving there to be fine,
just a little for the south. It it's great, okay,
So no tell me more.

Speaker 4 (02:02):
I will say I listen every day on iHeartRadio app
every single morning.

Speaker 5 (02:05):
That's good.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
That's good. No, we're very happy.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
So all right, So you wanted you want to sort
of shift your career in a way that that that
sort of met the challenges that you've met, but help
other people because it's kind of in the same realm.

Speaker 1 (02:20):
But you need more education to do it. So you
went and got this training. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (02:24):
So actually you need to work in diabetes care and
get over one thousand hours continuing education. So and I
didn't have those hours because I wasn't working in diabetes
care and hadn't been in paiment care for a while.
So I found a position that was a diabetes educator
position where they would help me get the certification and

(02:46):
sit for my exam and get those hours. And it
just so happened to be in Florida.

Speaker 2 (02:51):
Okay, all right, so there's actual training. It's a big deal.
It affects you. It's it's kind of immersed with your
life and all that. So this is this is good
the trainings.

Speaker 4 (03:02):
Yeah, So I sold my house in a couple of days,
moved down to Florida. In a month, my boyfriend came
with we've got dogs. We moved down here, and so
he knew, you know, we moved our whole life for
me to get this certification and work in this field.
So I, you know, I've been working and studying. We
need to study. The exam is very intense. So I

(03:23):
was studying for months, making sacrifices to do that, and
you know, exam day come. He happened to be on
a boy's trip during that time. He was on a Friday,
and I didn't hear from him all day. I didn't
get a hey, good luck today, or how'd your exam go.
He didn't even answer my phone call when I called

(03:43):
him after I passed my exam. So that was very
hard for me because he is, you know, my partner
and my biggest support.

Speaker 2 (03:53):
During now and this isn't something where like he maybe
didn't understand the significance of it, right, Like, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (03:59):
Maybe I could be.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
With some who has something going on at work and
I don't realize exactly what a big deal it is
or how hard it is, or I mean, I'm trying
to think of of a devil's advocate position here.

Speaker 1 (04:09):
But I don't know.

Speaker 2 (04:10):
Maybe you in one employee of the month and he
doesn't realize how competitive that is or something, and so
I don't know, he didn't make a big deal of
it because where he works is not a big deal.
I don't know, but this is something that is fundamental
to who you are because you're affected by it. As
a diabetic you moved both of your lives to a
new state in order for you to pursue this. Obviously

(04:32):
passing this exam was a big deal to you because
I assume you can't do the job if you don't
pass the exam.

Speaker 1 (04:37):
Right, yeah, exactly, So then that would have been.

Speaker 2 (04:40):
A big I mean, if anything, I would think the
guy selfishly would want to know if you passed the
exam because we just moved for you to do this.
If you don't pass the examit and you can't do it,
then what did we do? So if nothing else, I
would think for his own personal interest, he would be
asking you these questions. But he should be asking because
he cares about you. He didn't ask you sod that
ever come up where you like in passing later, like
a few weeks later, like, oh remember that thing we

(05:02):
moved here for, Like I can do it?

Speaker 1 (05:06):
Jack asked, right right.

Speaker 5 (05:08):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (05:09):
So actually he finally texted me later that day and
was like, hey, what's up? And I was like, did
you forget what today was? And he rent was due
that day, so he's like, I paid you rent earlier
and he literally totally forgot what day it was. And yeah,

(05:29):
when he came home Sunday, then we had to talk
about it.

Speaker 5 (05:31):
But he didn't even feel bad about it. So that's
it's all of that.

Speaker 2 (05:35):
You know, this is not a minor thing like this, isuance,
I you know, I forgot about the anniversary of the
anniversary of the anniversary or something. I mean, yeah, this
is this was a major fundamental thing in your life
and he just forgot about it. And then when when
you asked about it, when you told him, he that
hurt my feelings. He was kind of like, are you
seeing this kind of apathy in other ways? Or is

(05:55):
it just with this? I mean, like, is he is?
Is he less thoughtful.

Speaker 1 (05:58):
Than he was?

Speaker 2 (06:00):
And look, I realized people when they first meet and
then years in it's not the same level of intensity, sadly,
but like, is he vastly, wildly less less thoughtful than
he was three years ago?

Speaker 5 (06:13):
Yes? Yes, much less thoughtful?

Speaker 4 (06:15):
And this year has been challenging with our move.

Speaker 2 (06:19):
Yeah, is there any resentment? I feel like he's harboring
any Like is he unhappy? Again? Not to not acknowledge
your accomplishment, but like, is he just is he unhappy
to be there? Because like, is he realizing he didn't
want to do this?

Speaker 1 (06:32):
Now?

Speaker 5 (06:35):
I don't think so.

Speaker 4 (06:36):
He actually I never wanted to move to Florida, So
he actually was someone who wanted to move somewhere warm.
So you know, we've have that talk and he seems
really happy here.

Speaker 2 (06:46):
Yeah, he's got to go. He's got to go. We're
done with him. But I don't like it. I don't
like it. I don't like it. You're telling me this
is a trend. He's becoming less and less thoughtful. And
we're not talking about like he used to buy me
flowers once a month and now he doesn't. Right, we're
talking or he used to take me to dinner more,
or we're talking about you guys, move your lives together.

(07:06):
This is something that affects you. This is something that
you want to change in your life to help other people.
This is something you had to work towards. This is
something that was probably very difficult to achieve. You achieved it,
and he didn't acknowledge it. He forgot about it, and
then when you told him it hurt your feelings, then
he wasn't like, oh my god, I was so wrapped
up in my trip and I don't know. We were

(07:27):
traveling and like, I, you know, I just can't believe
I was in a different mode. I cannot believe I
forgot about this. I'm so sorry. Let's let me make
it up to you, like because maybe then you could say, like, yeah,
that sucks, but I get it. I get how people
get distracted and whatever.

Speaker 1 (07:43):
No, that's the That's the thing.

Speaker 2 (07:45):
For me is that when you asked him about it,
that he didn't he didn't sort of like even then,
he didn't lament, like even then, he wasn't like for
a fact, you know, oh my god, I'm so sorry.

Speaker 1 (07:56):
I don't like it.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
He's got to go. Sorry, man, he's got to go.
It's gonna be. It's gonna be. So you're gonna get
your own place. And you got this, got this big
job and promotion, new city, a whole new crop of man,
you're gonna love it.

Speaker 1 (08:07):
I mean, I mean, is there any other? Is there
any other? Take here?

Speaker 6 (08:12):
No, I'm big on celebrating accomplishments. You know, you work
hard for something, your partners should be there to support
you in those times. And he's you know, you brought
it to his attention and he still didn't try to
fix it. And that's showing you that he's just not
the one I in my opinion, because if you're not
gonna celebrate my wings.

Speaker 2 (08:28):
Who will if it's a one time thing and he's
and he's apologetic and truly has remorse, then I think
that that's that can happen. But it sounds like it's
becoming a theme and there was no remorse eight five
three five. I want to take some phone calls on this, Amanda.
We're gonna talk about you now behind your back. But
thanks for listening on the iHeartRadio app and and good

(08:50):
luck and let us know what you decide.

Speaker 4 (08:53):
Oh well, thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (08:54):
Have a good time, visit and party.

Speaker 2 (08:56):
Yeah, no kidding, what do you guys say you'll have
a room in the house now, it sounds like right true,
let's for us.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
What do you guys? I mean, I don't know if
it is there another side to this.

Speaker 3 (09:05):
No, so my husband, you guys know my husband, Hobby,
he does not show out of emotion for certain things.
And may can tell him the biggest best news in
the world and he's just like that's really cool. Like
it's very like there's no celebration. There's no like you know,
popping bodels and like celebrating with Convetti. However, if I
went to him and was like, hey, like that bothered me,
Like you didn't really seem to acknowledge this big accomplishment
that I've worked so hard for, even before you came

(09:27):
in the picture, and I've accomplished this, and you really
didn't celebrate me. He would apologize, He would take accountability.
He would say, all right, I'll do better. You know,
I'm sorry about that, you know, because he doesn't realize,
for example, our industry, what certain things mean, right, or
like what certain accomplishments mean to me. Even personally. I
don't blame Him's a fireman, right, like he's running into fires.
Like I wouldn't understand their accomplishments either. But it's about accountability.

(09:48):
It's about just being like, hey, you're my girl, right
like near my husband, my wife, Like we're going to
celebrate each other forever, Like Kiki said, I'm big on that.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
Yeah, and maybe not everything.

Speaker 2 (09:58):
Maybe he doesn't celebrate everything you ever did, but like
this is just so fundamental too.

Speaker 1 (10:02):
It is right. They move their entire lives for.

Speaker 2 (10:06):
This, Like if she hadn't succeeded in this, then that
sort of changes, you know, the entire direction of things.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
It's given he a secret hater, you know.

Speaker 6 (10:14):
Yeah, sometimes you can be in relationships and friendships with
people who secretly despise you, who were you know, secretly
jealous of the accomplishments that she's been able to do.
So if he's being weird like this this early, like,
get rid of him, girl?

Speaker 2 (10:27):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (10:27):
Is it? Rana? Is it how you say your name?

Speaker 5 (10:30):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (10:31):
Hi, good morning? What do you think there?

Speaker 2 (10:32):
Go? I say go.

Speaker 5 (10:35):
I'm a dietician, and those exams are hard, and some
places will even pay you more for taking those exams,
and you could get a higher salary for it. I
just she should be that should be on his mind,
Like my girlfriend's gonna get more money now because she
passed us exam. I mean, it's just so disheartened it
could have someone go through all of that and then

(10:56):
not get anything, not get any congratulations or I guess her.

Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah.

Speaker 5 (11:01):
When I took my exam, my husband waited outside for me.
Oh yeah, because I was either going to cry or
I was going to pass.

Speaker 1 (11:09):
Yeah, Like I need.

Speaker 4 (11:10):
Someone there, and she needed someone there for her.

Speaker 5 (11:12):
I think she needs to go.

Speaker 4 (11:13):
And it's tied to a diagnosis, like it's a health
issue for her, so it's even more important and deep.

Speaker 5 (11:18):
So I agree.

Speaker 2 (11:19):
Yeah, Yeah, it's giving that he's about himself and maybe
not about her at all. So I don't like it.
Thank you so much, have a good day. Yeah, a
bunch of techs. She needs to leave. They aren't married.
He wasn't apologetic red flag freedom. Danita said freedom, and

(11:41):
someone else said yeah, if you feel bad about it later,
or even if you wanted to support her achievements, you
could have done something celebratory, like by her flowers or
take her out to eat to celebrate or something. He
had no thoughts about celebrating her achievement. She should go, Yeah,
I think she should go, and I think we all
agree on that.

Speaker 1 (11:57):
I think, Wow, we're all alive for one m

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