Waiting by the Phone: Plan B!

Christian is confused why his date won't call him back after a fun night together... Find out why he got ghosted!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Christian,
good morning, Welcome to the show.

Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hi, good morning, how are you very well?

Speaker 1 (00:09):
We call this waiting by the phone, of course, trying
to figure out if you got ghosted?

Speaker 3 (00:13):
What happened?

Speaker 1 (00:14):
Why don't you explain how you met Ellen and about
any dates that you've been on and what's happening right now?

Speaker 2 (00:21):
Yeah, of course. So I actually met Ellen on Bumble,
you know the dating app, and.

Speaker 1 (00:29):
Familiar with the Bumble. Yeah, it's been okay, cool time
or two? Yeah, okay, yeah, so you met her there?

Speaker 2 (00:34):
So so I met around there, asked her out to
grab drinks at one of the like this speakeasy nearby
my place, and I love that. It's got like a
good atmosphere. But they have these wild cocktails and you know,
you end up having too and you end up getting
pretty loaded. So we were defrunk by the end of
the night, and we walked back over to my place,
and you know, get instiments do what do? What adults do?

(00:57):
I don't know that's how explicit I can be with you,
but I think feel free to use your imagination, feel.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Pretty over all?

Speaker 1 (01:03):
Right, Yeah, I think everybody knows what you're talking about,
so so that that happened exactly.

Speaker 2 (01:07):
Yeah, so I just want to get that out better, right,
congrats on sex, and uh, you know, she starts close
to me. I thought we had a good night, you know,
and now stuck wondering if she only hooked up with
me because she was drunk. And I would really hate
for that to be the case, because I actually liked her.
I had a good time with her. Conversation was easy flow,
and she's very attractive, and you know, I kind of
felt that this romantic connection, a bit of chemistry, and

(01:30):
you know, if it wasn't she didn't feel the same way,
wasn't reciprocated. It's fine, I just you know, I want
I don't I want to know.

Speaker 3 (01:35):
I just don't want to get going.

Speaker 1 (01:36):
I mean, sometimes male female whatever, maybe I don't know
if it matters the gender. Sometimes when people drink too
much and then things happened, it's like, well, did I
Is this how I wanted things to start?

Speaker 3 (01:48):
Did I give off the right impression?

Speaker 1 (01:49):
Some people have anxiety where they're you know, they're hungover,
and like, ah, I can't believe I did that. I
know that's happened to me. So it's possible that she
just kind of thought maybe it was fun, but not
necessarily the way she wanted to start the relationship. But
I suppose that's a conversation you could have unless you
wanted to just disappear, which is maybe what she's doing.

Speaker 2 (02:08):
You're exactly right, I want to have that conversation. I
think at least let me know. You know, I'm man
enough to take that kind of rejection. But it's unusual
for me to not even get to follow up and
be like, hey, do you want to try this again?

Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (02:19):
Yeah, Or you could look at it as wow, we
really hit it off. The chemistry was great, Like, why
don't we keep going in this direction? So let me
call Ellen. You'll be on the phone. I want to
see if we can get her on the line and
ask some questions to figure out what's going on. At
some point, you're welcome to jump in on the call
and hopefully we can straighten this out and set you
guys up on another day that we pay for.

Speaker 2 (02:37):
Okay, So right, this is the part where I get
to be like sneaky and I don't say anything.

Speaker 1 (02:41):
Right right right, because you've obviously heard this before, so
just follow my lead on this and let's see what happens. Yeah,
I'm going to play one song. We'll come back and
do it. Okay, cool, let's see what happens next. In
part two of Waiting Metaphone after Sabrina Carpenter back in
two minutes, it's the Fred Show. It's the frend Show
on the radio on and the iHeart app Live and
anytime start to the Fred's Show on Jim and make
us a preset please, Hey, Christian, let's call Ellen. You

(03:04):
guys met on Bumble, you went out, you thought there
was a lot of chemistry, had a great date.

Speaker 3 (03:09):
I wanted poking up.

Speaker 1 (03:11):
Except you've reached out since that date, trying to set
up date number two, and she's not responding to you
at all.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
Exactly exactly.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
Yeah, we had a good time.

Speaker 3 (03:20):
We had a good time, and I'm looking forward to
a day two.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
You just at least you want to know, you know
why she's not calling or if something happen or whatever.
So let's call her now. Good luck, Christian Hiaus Ellen, Yeah, Ellen, Hey,

(03:43):
good morning friends and the Fred Show. The whole crew
is here. I have to tell you that we are
on the radio right now, and I would you, I
would thank you. Oh my god. I don't know if
that's a compliment. I don't know if that was an
oh my god, like I love the show and notice
I just say thank you right away, like that's what
that meant. I love the show genuinely. So okay, well
then you know the rest of the deal. So you're
on waiting by the phone right now. A guy him Christian,

(04:06):
reached out to us so that you guys met on
bumble and went out. Do you remember this guy?

Speaker 3 (04:11):
Yeah? You do?

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Okay, So he called us, and if you listen to
the show before, then you know why he called. He
wants to know why you aren't calling him back. He
described to us what he thought was a very successful date.
He did mention that you guys got intimate, and it's like,
why did all that happen if you weren't interested?

Speaker 3 (04:27):
So what's your side of the story.

Speaker 4 (04:30):
Well, I would bet that he didn't actually tell you
the whole story. Yeah, we went up for drinks and
then we like had to sleep over, right, and I
don't know whatever, Like I would have hooked up with
him even if we hadn't had drinks, just because like
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
The chemistry because he was worried about that. He was like, well,
maybe it was Maybe this whole thing is because everybody
had too much to drink and now people are regretting things.
But you're saying that's not the reason you're not calling him.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
Well, well, I mean, like I would of hooked up
with him either way, but because of the drinking, Uh,
we weren't like as space as probably should have been.

Speaker 3 (05:11):
Okay, yep.

Speaker 4 (05:14):
And then in the morning he asked me if I
was on birth control and I was like no, So
we were like, okay, you know, we decided together we
should go get a plan B and I like, need
to go buy it, and he just keeps like blowing
up my phone demanding that I send him a video
of me opening the package and putting the tilt in

(05:36):
my mouth and swallowing it.

Speaker 3 (05:38):
To make sure you get it.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
I wasn't convinced exactly that you're going to buy it
meant that you were going to utilize the product, So
he needed proof that you were going.

Speaker 3 (05:48):
To do it.

Speaker 4 (05:48):
Oh, and he needed like the date somewhere shown in
the video, completely insulting.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
He didn't trust me, and he thinks that he's so.

Speaker 4 (05:56):
Great that I would like want to have his baby.
What is wrong?

Speaker 1 (06:00):
So you know the Christians here, Christian what's your side
of the story.

Speaker 3 (06:03):
I mean, I wasn't for.

Speaker 1 (06:05):
You guys just to make that decision and to let
you know, let her say what she said she was
going to do, or do what she said she was
going to do.

Speaker 2 (06:13):
Yeah, no, no, no, I just kind of what I
wanted to cut you off because you're really like putting
all of all of my business out there.

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Okay, So just like oh and.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
You when you called a radio station.

Speaker 3 (06:23):
Yeah, I mean what did you say? What?

Speaker 1 (06:25):
I mean, you knew you end the story, you're on
the radio now. Of course she's gonna put your business.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
But I didn't think that this.

Speaker 2 (06:30):
I didn't think that she would go on and we
were talking about the night before, not the morning after.

Speaker 4 (06:33):
I didn't think anything.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
That's not just asking you for a little whit at No,
it's after the day Ellen, And I just wanted to know.

Speaker 3 (06:44):
If, like you wanted to go out again.

Speaker 2 (06:46):
But here you are accusing me of like some sort
of like pe harassment. Like I just I don't know,
I just I wanted to call you to see if
you want to go out again, and the whole thing
that happened like after the again to the date. Okay,
well that's.

Speaker 3 (07:02):
Great, I guess.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Okay, so you guys don't know each other and this
all goes down, and I mean, you haven't developed any
form of trust. You don't probably even know each other's
last names or middle names or whatever.

Speaker 3 (07:13):
And that's okay.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Things happen, But it wasn't good enough Christian for you
and Ellen to just decide that you were going to
take this path to be extra safe.

Speaker 3 (07:23):
After the fact that.

Speaker 4 (07:25):
I also was like, hell, yeah, we need to get
something done about this.

Speaker 3 (07:29):
Yeah, but great, I also need to protect myself.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
So I'm just asking for a receipt.

Speaker 4 (07:34):
Listen to Ellen.

Speaker 2 (07:34):
All I'm saying is that I think my request is
well within my right. I told you that my family
has a lot of money and I have to go
to like extra link. I don't want to be taking
advantage of.

Speaker 1 (07:45):
How does that come up on the day I'm extremely rich.
I mean, once you do that, I can see why
you're paranoid now, because you're telling everybody how rich you are.

Speaker 4 (07:52):
I'm not telling everybody. I'm not trying to procreate with
a douche like you.

Speaker 1 (07:58):
Amen, you both made this decision, but you're out here willing,
really knowing that feeling as though you could be exposed
at any time, but you're not taking any precaution.

Speaker 2 (08:09):
Not that night, no, which is why I'm trying to
do the next morning again, not part of the day.
We're past the date, We're into the next phase of
whatever this was going to be.

Speaker 1 (08:17):
Okay, And so for you, Ellen, that's too much in
a word, yet because of that and because of a
lack of trust, and you just thought the whole thing
was not cool. So you're never going to talk to
him again. I mean, the video was a little much,
but I guess I can see I mean, can you
guys see the paranoia maybe that there was no follow up.
I mean, it's kind of the decision that you make

(08:39):
when you were a grown up and you put yourself
in that position that like you relinquished a little bit
of power by not being thoughtful.

Speaker 3 (08:45):
Yeah, he made that decision, though I don't think he
can demand that. Yeah, I don't know about the video
and the rest of it.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
If you're doing too much, you know, you made the
mistake and you're going to have to just trust.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
But so did she If you want to call it
in the control, I mean Devil's advocate. You know, there's
no basis for him to believe what she's saying. So
I mean, I'm not saying I agree with him.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
I think he really wants to be one hundred percent
sure that he doesn't have a baby, then he shouldn't
do that.

Speaker 3 (09:06):
Well, I agree with that. I agree with that.

Speaker 4 (09:08):
So it's not on him anymore, like it's not in
his control.

Speaker 3 (09:12):
Okay.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
So basically she didn't like the approach, thought it was insensitive,
thought it was uncool and Christian.

Speaker 3 (09:19):
There you go. That's why she's not calling and there's
not going to be a second date.

Speaker 2 (09:22):
Yeah, obviously I can't. I didn't think I was being
insensitive at all, just just trying to. I don't know,
I'll get some bases of trust going.

Speaker 3 (09:32):
I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 4 (09:33):
It's her lost.

Speaker 3 (09:34):
Okay, Well there you go, Ellen, it's your loss. You
hear that.

Speaker 4 (09:37):
Whatever.

Speaker 1 (09:38):
Okay, guys, thank you for your time, best elected both
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