September 29, 2023 • 9 mins
Kristine and Ryder met in Cancun! They were both there for a friend's wedding and kept in touch online for a few months before they planned for Ryder to come from another state to stay at her place for the weekend. They had a great time and he was a total gentleman, but after he left she's no longer getting any responses. Listen to find out why Kristine got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Hey, Christine, welcome.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey, how's it going.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
You know we're doing okay waiting by the phone? Actually no, no,
we're doing fantastic right right everywhere? Yeah, yes, that's right.
So that's early whatever. What's going on with this guy rider?
Because of course we're trying to figure out why you
may have been ghosted, so we got to know kind
of the setup. How did you meet? Tell us about
any dates that you've been on all that.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, I was. I was in Kankun a friend got
married there, and so I met him while we were there
at the resort, and you know, after the wedding, like
we kept in touch, touching each other and you know,
all forty stuff. And then you know, we actually facetimed
a couple of times too because we live in different states.
(00:50):
And then finally, you know, I invited him to come
stay with me for the weekend.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Okay, and yeah, because you know, it was going good.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
So we had a really great time, Like, you know,
we went out, we you know, just when the dinner
when to die.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
You know, it was great.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
He was a total gentleman.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
But then like after the weekend.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Was over.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
He just kind of disappeared and I don't I don't
know what happened.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Huh. Okay, So this dude came to you, he stayed
with you. Uh yeah, wow, and the whole deal, the
whole weekend, and you really felt good about it. There
was no awkward moment or anything that you felt great.
And yet he's left and you haven't heard from him since.
That's not good.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Yeah, it's it's weird because like, I feel like everything
went really great and just nothing.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, Well, let's call this guy Ryder. We'll see if
we can get him on the phone, ask these questions
for you, and you'll be on the phone at the
same time, and hopefully we can straighten this out and
uh and get you guys connected again. I don't know
about airfare and all that, but we do have quite
an extensive budget for this because we'd never do it,
so I don't know. Maybe who knows send you to
the fantasy suite. I don't know what we're going to do,
but anyway, I'm on a Golden Bachelor kick. Even though
I haven't watched one second of it, I'm gonna watch it.
(02:05):
I think Maybe I don't know anyway. Yeah, well, let's
see if we can fix this relationship, and then we'll
move on to that one Hang on one second, Christine,
Let's see what happens next. We'll do part two of
waiting by the phone after Dochi. The Frend Show is
on back in two minutes, don't she It's the Frend Show,
almost an hour commercial free fread show. Right now. Hey, Christine, yep,
(02:25):
I'm here. Let's call this guy Ryder. You guys, Yeah,
you met in Kang Kun, of all places, and then
you kept in touch and he came to see you recently,
and you had a great weekend, you thought, But you
haven't heard from this guy. He's ghosted you since coming
to visit, and you want to know why. Yeah, all right,
let's call Ryder now? Good luck? Hi is this writer?
(02:54):
Hey rider, Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling
from the Fred Show, the Morning radio show, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now now, and I need your permission to continue
with the call. Can which have for a couple of
minutes your mind?
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Ah?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Sure? Well, thank you very much. I think I would
respond the same way. Actually no, I wouldn't hang out,
but anyway.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You know, I'm intrigued.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Well, I can understand why we're calling out behalf of
a woman named Christine, who I think you know pretty well.
You met her and visited her recently, do you remember,
hopefully Christine?
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Yeah? Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Okay, Well, she reached out to us. I guess she's
a listener and she's heard waiting by the phone before,
and she wanted to know why you haven't reached out
or responded to her since you went to see her.
What's that about?
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Oh yeah, no, I totally blocked her.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Oh oh, you blocked her. That's that's a whole different
that's in an additional step right there. I mean, it's
one thing not to call an answer, but it's a
whole other thing to go up in the contact in
the settings. And okay, so what happened? Why are we
blocking her? You know?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
If you if you want to know, the whole weekend
that we had was kind of a waste. You know,
I wasted a lot of time and money. I got
a flight to go there, paid for everything else for
that weekend, and you know, we hung out, we talked,
but nothing else happened. We didn't hook up, didn't we
didn't do anything, and we've been talking for months, But like,
(04:24):
why would I go out there just for that.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I have plenty of friends. I'm not looking for that.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Oh, I see, so you're upset that she didn't sleep
with you. Oikes.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Yeah, I mean that I came out because we had
made a connection and I thought we were going to
do more than you know, just talk. But I just
was you know, I didn't pay that much money to
go out to do that if if it wasn't if
it wasn't going to lead up to cooking up.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
At the end of the night.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
I want to be clear. So the whole thing is
a waste. It was a waste of time, and it
was a waste of money to visit this woman you've
been connecting with now for for however long. Because she
didn't sleep with that makes the entire thing of waste.
I just want to be clear.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Yeah, I mean, I feel like my intentions were really
clear when I went out there, and I feel like
we had talked about, you know, about being together, and
nothing ever happened, and it just felt like a waste
to make.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, let's just throw the whole thing away. I mean, yeah,
it Christine you're not gonna believe it, Christine is it's amazing.
How if you use another phone and get right through
three way calling everybody? We love it, Christine. So you
(05:36):
just you heard the man writer Christine's here. I'm so forgetful.
I forgot that part. So he's upset because it was
a big waste because you didn't sleep with him. That's
what the problem was.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Wow, Okay, you know, I didn't think that I was
going to have to explain my sex life to everybody,
you know. I feel like that's.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Just just.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
God'ren't you the one that they aren't you? The one
that called the radio station?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Though? But here's the thing, I'm not saying that you
should have because you don't. You do whatever you want.
Everyone does whatever they're comfortable with. That's fine. Did you
guys talk about that like was was the expectation set
that was going to happen? And now someone's disappointed? I mean, Christine,
why do you think it didn't progress to the next level?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
I mean, partially is that I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I don't want to just hook up with somebody. That's
the that's the point.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't need anymore fires either, But I don't want
to just took up with somebody and like, so.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
What is it just a one time cross state booty college?
Speaker 4 (06:39):
But well, I don't want to just talk to a woman,
you know, I I want to make one. We had
talked about talk, we had talked, we had talked the
entire weekend.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I don't I don't need another person to talk to.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I have plenty of their I understand that you you
want well, yes you're wrong. I understand that you wanted
a romantic connection, But no one owes you sex. No,
and it doesn't tell you went into this with the
right attitude.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
I mean, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying I
spend the money and I wasted the time to get
there and to be, you know, there with you and
establish more of a connection.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Yeah, I guess I don't see more of a connection
than being intimate.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I don't see it as a waste to get to
know somebody play the long game. You know who knows
you obviously were willing to talk to her with no
immediate payoff. So I guess I don't know what what's
waiting a little bit longer? If in fact, you think she's.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Worth because she was nice and we and we hit
it off and.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
It was it was a good weekend that we shared
at that wedding, and I thought that it was more
of a romantic connection.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Whatever. It's good to know that you are sort of peated.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Anyway, and that you know, like I wasn't worse enough too.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I mean, this is basically our first gig for.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Real, Like, so I considered just hanging out of the
lane to be a first day.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I don't know about that.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I don't know. I mean, let me put this out there, rider,
what if she really wanted to and for some reason
couldn't for some reason, so you just threw the whole
thing away because.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Well, that's something that she would have told me.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
She should have told me about that.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No obligation to tell you that, nothing, no obligation. She
has no obligation to sleep with you. I agree with her.
This was the first time you guys ever had person.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I'm not saying that she has an obligation. I'm not
saying that it's an obligation.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I feel for you to waste time and money for
you whatever that you that you went out to invest
in a woman and she didn't give you exactly what
she wanted. So now we're blocking and we're calling it
a waste. I don't know how what do you think
is going to happen when you say stuff like that?
I guess you don't care. But hey, look, Christy, now
you know the story. Uh, And I'm sorry that it's
that way, but at least you know now.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Yeah, I know better better that I didn't waste.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Any more of my time and money on him either, So.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Glad, Yeah, you didn't deserve it. That is one that's
not going against a body count, right there. Yeah, and writer,
that's one you'll never see a lot.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Thanks, have a good life.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Oh wow, all right? Well rider by Christine mess of
luck to you.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Yeah, thank you
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Hey, Christine, welcome.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey, how's it going.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
You know we're doing okay waiting by the phone? Actually no, no,
we're doing fantastic right right everywhere? Yeah, yes, that's right.
So that's early whatever. What's going on with this guy rider?
Because of course we're trying to figure out why you
may have been ghosted, so we got to know kind
of the setup. How did you meet? Tell us about
any dates that you've been on all that.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Yeah, I was. I was in Kankun a friend got
married there, and so I met him while we were there
at the resort, and you know, after the wedding, like
we kept in touch, touching each other and you know,
all forty stuff. And then you know, we actually facetimed
a couple of times too because we live in different states.
(00:50):
And then finally, you know, I invited him to come
stay with me for the weekend.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Okay, and yeah, because you know, it was going good.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
So we had a really great time, Like, you know,
we went out, we you know, just when the dinner
when to die.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
You know, it was great.
Speaker 4 (01:10):
He was a total gentleman.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
But then like after the weekend.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
Was over.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
He just kind of disappeared and I don't I don't
know what happened.
Speaker 1 (01:20):
Huh. Okay, So this dude came to you, he stayed
with you. Uh yeah, wow, and the whole deal, the
whole weekend, and you really felt good about it. There
was no awkward moment or anything that you felt great.
And yet he's left and you haven't heard from him since.
That's not good.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Yeah, it's it's weird because like, I feel like everything
went really great and just nothing.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Okay, Well, let's call this guy Ryder. We'll see if
we can get him on the phone, ask these questions
for you, and you'll be on the phone at the
same time, and hopefully we can straighten this out and
uh and get you guys connected again. I don't know
about airfare and all that, but we do have quite
an extensive budget for this because we'd never do it,
so I don't know. Maybe who knows send you to
the fantasy suite. I don't know what we're going to do,
but anyway, I'm on a Golden Bachelor kick. Even though
I haven't watched one second of it, I'm gonna watch it.
(02:05):
I think Maybe I don't know anyway. Yeah, well, let's
see if we can fix this relationship, and then we'll
move on to that one Hang on one second, Christine,
Let's see what happens next. We'll do part two of
waiting by the phone after Dochi. The Frend Show is
on back in two minutes, don't she It's the Frend Show,
almost an hour commercial free fread show. Right now. Hey, Christine, yep,
(02:25):
I'm here. Let's call this guy Ryder. You guys, Yeah,
you met in Kang Kun, of all places, and then
you kept in touch and he came to see you recently,
and you had a great weekend, you thought, But you
haven't heard from this guy. He's ghosted you since coming
to visit, and you want to know why. Yeah, all right,
let's call Ryder now? Good luck? Hi is this writer?
(02:54):
Hey rider, Good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling
from the Fred Show, the Morning radio show, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now now, and I need your permission to continue
with the call. Can which have for a couple of
minutes your mind?
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Ah?
Speaker 1 (03:07):
Sure? Well, thank you very much. I think I would
respond the same way. Actually no, I wouldn't hang out,
but anyway.
Speaker 4 (03:17):
You know, I'm intrigued.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Well, I can understand why we're calling out behalf of
a woman named Christine, who I think you know pretty well.
You met her and visited her recently, do you remember,
hopefully Christine?
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Yeah? Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Okay, Well, she reached out to us. I guess she's
a listener and she's heard waiting by the phone before,
and she wanted to know why you haven't reached out
or responded to her since you went to see her.
What's that about?
Speaker 4 (03:41):
Oh yeah, no, I totally blocked her.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Oh oh, you blocked her. That's that's a whole different
that's in an additional step right there. I mean, it's
one thing not to call an answer, but it's a
whole other thing to go up in the contact in
the settings. And okay, so what happened? Why are we
blocking her? You know?
Speaker 4 (04:00):
If you if you want to know, the whole weekend
that we had was kind of a waste. You know,
I wasted a lot of time and money. I got
a flight to go there, paid for everything else for
that weekend, and you know, we hung out, we talked,
but nothing else happened. We didn't hook up, didn't we
didn't do anything, and we've been talking for months, But like,
(04:24):
why would I go out there just for that.
Speaker 3 (04:25):
I have plenty of friends. I'm not looking for that.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Oh, I see, so you're upset that she didn't sleep
with you. Oikes.
Speaker 4 (04:32):
Yeah, I mean that I came out because we had
made a connection and I thought we were going to
do more than you know, just talk. But I just
was you know, I didn't pay that much money to
go out to do that if if it wasn't if
it wasn't going to lead up to cooking up.
Speaker 3 (04:49):
At the end of the night.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
I want to be clear. So the whole thing is
a waste. It was a waste of time, and it
was a waste of money to visit this woman you've
been connecting with now for for however long. Because she
didn't sleep with that makes the entire thing of waste.
I just want to be clear.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Yeah, I mean, I feel like my intentions were really
clear when I went out there, and I feel like
we had talked about, you know, about being together, and
nothing ever happened, and it just felt like a waste
to make.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, let's just throw the whole thing away. I mean, yeah,
it Christine you're not gonna believe it, Christine is it's amazing.
How if you use another phone and get right through
three way calling everybody? We love it, Christine. So you
(05:36):
just you heard the man writer Christine's here. I'm so forgetful.
I forgot that part. So he's upset because it was
a big waste because you didn't sleep with him. That's
what the problem was.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
Wow, Okay, you know, I didn't think that I was
going to have to explain my sex life to everybody,
you know. I feel like that's.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Just just.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
God'ren't you the one that they aren't you? The one
that called the radio station?
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Though? But here's the thing, I'm not saying that you
should have because you don't. You do whatever you want.
Everyone does whatever they're comfortable with. That's fine. Did you
guys talk about that like was was the expectation set
that was going to happen? And now someone's disappointed? I mean, Christine,
why do you think it didn't progress to the next level?
Speaker 4 (06:25):
I mean, partially is that I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I don't want to just hook up with somebody. That's
the that's the point.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
I don't need anymore fires either, But I don't want
to just took up with somebody and like, so.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
What is it just a one time cross state booty college?
Speaker 4 (06:39):
But well, I don't want to just talk to a woman,
you know, I I want to make one. We had
talked about talk, we had talked, we had talked the
entire weekend.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I don't I don't need another person to talk to.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
I have plenty of their I understand that you you
want well, yes you're wrong. I understand that you wanted
a romantic connection, But no one owes you sex. No,
and it doesn't tell you went into this with the
right attitude.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
I mean, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying I
spend the money and I wasted the time to get
there and to be, you know, there with you and
establish more of a connection.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
Yeah, I guess I don't see more of a connection
than being intimate.
Speaker 4 (07:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I don't see it as a waste to get to
know somebody play the long game. You know who knows
you obviously were willing to talk to her with no
immediate payoff. So I guess I don't know what what's
waiting a little bit longer? If in fact, you think she's.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Worth because she was nice and we and we hit
it off and.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
It was it was a good weekend that we shared
at that wedding, and I thought that it was more
of a romantic connection.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Whatever. It's good to know that you are sort of peated.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Anyway, and that you know, like I wasn't worse enough too.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I mean, this is basically our first gig for.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Real, Like, so I considered just hanging out of the
lane to be a first day.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
I don't know about that.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
I don't know. I mean, let me put this out there, rider,
what if she really wanted to and for some reason
couldn't for some reason, so you just threw the whole
thing away because.
Speaker 3 (08:09):
Well, that's something that she would have told me.
Speaker 4 (08:10):
She should have told me about that.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
No obligation to tell you that, nothing, no obligation. She
has no obligation to sleep with you. I agree with her.
This was the first time you guys ever had person.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I'm not saying that she has an obligation. I'm not
saying that it's an obligation.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
I feel for you to waste time and money for
you whatever that you that you went out to invest
in a woman and she didn't give you exactly what
she wanted. So now we're blocking and we're calling it
a waste. I don't know how what do you think
is going to happen when you say stuff like that?
I guess you don't care. But hey, look, Christy, now
you know the story. Uh, And I'm sorry that it's
that way, but at least you know now.
Speaker 3 (08:47):
Yeah, I know better better that I didn't waste.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
Any more of my time and money on him either, So.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Glad, Yeah, you didn't deserve it. That is one that's
not going against a body count, right there. Yeah, and writer,
that's one you'll never see a lot.
Speaker 3 (09:07):
Thanks, have a good life.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Oh wow, all right? Well rider by Christine mess of
luck to you.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
Yeah, thank you
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